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Hello everybody, I hope you are all well during this crazy time that is upon us all.  Not only are we dealing with this pandemic, but we have a presidential election and of course we are coming up on holiday season.  I have a lot to tell you, and I am pretty excited about it.  Now before I get into it all, I do have to talk about the subject I dread the most, site funding.  Its always a source of embarrassment for me personally, and its something I would much rather avoid.  That said, I have learned the hard way, the longer I put it off, the worse the situation becomes. Previously I have simply pulled out the begging bowl and I do not want to do that anymore, so I am going to try something different.  I have created a new membership group called “Community Supporter”.  Everyone can choose to upgrade to this group by making a one-time payment of a minimum of $25, and that will last for as long as the site does.  You will get a small icon on your profile page together with the text ‘Community Supporter’, this is done automatically. Somethings I want to point out: You can upgrade by clicking on the upgrade button on the menu bar. When you upgrade, the charge will show as Arizoy LLC – the site will not be mentioned on your statement.  This is of course to protect your privacy. I am working on different payment gateways but for now Pay-Pal is the only option.  You do not need a Pay-Pal account though and can simply checkout as guest. If you have made a donation ever to the site of $25 or more, you will be upgraded.  I will do this manually, but it will take a bit of time.  Once I have finished, I will post as such and anyone I missed can then get in touch with me and I will fix it for them. You can choose the minimum of $25, or more, but there is no difference or additional benefits, if you choose to go higher.  I am keeping it simple.  When you think about $25 for life is pretty good value, when some sites charge around that or higher for just one month. It is a onetime payment, there is no reoccurring charge and the options will no longer appear under the upgrade button. I am hoping, this will allow the site to become self-sufficient, as we would only need a percentage of future members to upgrade their memberships in order to do so.  If we need to encourage further, we do have options such as restricting the videos, either by number or minutes to non-supporting members.  This would really be a last resort though, as I seriously want to keep the site free for everybody. With Black Friday and Cyber Monday, coming in the next few months, I would love to see enough upgrades so we can take advantage of the deals, possibly even snagging a server for a year, that would be awesome! Okay, I am so glad that’s over with …. now onto the good stuff! (dang I sounded boring in all of that)! Right you are, we are going for a major upgrade, which is currently in the testing phase on our backup server.  I will be inviting some of you to trial it for me and help identify any bugs etc.  I am funding the upgrade out of my own pocket, but this will be the last time I can do so.  This is by order of hubby whom wields the hairbrush. So here are some highlights: Its going to be faster. It will have a progressive web app, for those using tablets, cell phones etc. Again, with those using mobile devices, you will be able to download a generic app for both Android and Apple, though the respective stores. We will be using HTML 5 for videos. Chat system will be new and improved. Groups are getting a huge overall. You will be able to have password resets by email, but this will be constrained to only password resets. Photos and Albums are being revamped and will be much easier to navigate. You will have a favorite system, where you can mark any items you choose as a ‘favorite’ and then access the all from a new tab page. A few other surprises
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by on October 2, 2012
I thought I would share about this aspect of my life, but obviously it is not for everyone, we are all different and have our own ideas on what we want, need or expereince in all relationships. The first think I want to talk about here is Boundaries, these are not rules. I think there is a lot of speculation or supposition that those in Domestic Discipline relationships are controlled completely and this is not true, well not form my point of view anyway. The cotrol element from my partner is focused on discipline, punishment and obviously my bare bottom and I can promise you all my spankings are very real. Anyway back to boundaries, I created my own, these are to help me focus, deal with habits and progress my career. My partner and I are more like Dad/Son, he is older than me and he insisted that I made my own boundaries complete with a proposal for punishment which is now always enforced. In a way, I have only myself to blame when I end up punished for breaking them. We do have some rules, and number one is obedience and listening (these are not boundaries), but shouldnt be mistaken for total control, obedience is similar to him asking me to be home at a certain time, or pick up the dry cleaning. It is possible for me to be both disobidenet and break one of my own boundaries. Anyway this is just a quick post on this blog and I will update it once a week with more thoughts, views and expereinces. PS - If you are interested in my boundaries and the punishments you can see them right here: www.southspanking.com/boundaries James
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It is of my opinion that a spanking should be strictly discipline. I do understand that people do enjoy the more erotic side of it however I am very much into role play and it would take away from the 'scene' if there was an erotic element. I do believe though that the chastising of a boy or son should not entirely be restricted to just straight spanking. Here are just a few things i also enjoy about a spanking session, i hope you agree and share other humiliation / embarassment / punishment techniques you enjoy!! SCOLDING For me this is an extremely important part of any spanking. It should be made before, during and after a spanking. A father or dom should send a clear message to his boy that he is no longer in control and that he has been naughty for a particular reason. A father should remain in control when scolding his boy and should never shout. He should speak with authority and make his boy understand that he is wrong, and will do as he is told from then on in. RULE SETTING A particular favourite of mine is during a spanking a father setting down rules to his boy that he will be expected to abide by. For example 1. you are grounded for the next 2 weeks 2. your bed time is now 10pm every night. 3. you will do all your house chores before school/work etc. SHAVING It is a good way of a dad to tell his boy if he is going to act like a young boy he is going to be treated like one. It's extremely humiliating for any boy to be shaved front and back by his dad. DIAPER POSITION Being spanked is embarassing enough. Being spanked in the diaper position is pretty humiliating! CORNER TIME Corner time should always be utilized by a dad. It can be used before, during(if it's a particularly long session) and after. Nothing better than when a dad drags his son by the ear to the corner and makes him spread his legs. The duration should be dependent on how naughty the boy was. As a variant the dom could place a wooden stool for the boy to sit on in the corner as well. As an additional extra the dom might wish to add something like a coin that the boy must hold with his nose against the wall, hands on head and legs spread. WRITING LINES / APOLOGY LETTERS Writing lines or apology letters reinforces to the boy that he has been naughty and will ensure he regrets whatever he has done. MOUTH SOAPING Swearing during a spanking? Not whilst daddys around you don't!! Drag the boy to the bathroom and soap his mouth out good and hard whilst spanking him or make him kneel infront of you and rinse him out. BATH TIME Having a dad wash me before or after a spanking(before being sent to bed) is extremely embarassing. BEING PUT TO BED EARLY Tucked in like the naughty young boy and told to be good whilst dad ruffles your hair. Need i say more? GINGER Never tried this before but I have heard a lot of people say this is a great way to discipline a boy as it stings like hell. ---- Don't know if i've missed anything. If you have anything else you would like to add please comment below. ps. sorry about grammar wrote this quite quickly! xxx
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by on November 11, 2019
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by on February 5, 2013
Anyone remember this video from the old GuySpank site? Guess that's long gone now. Always looked like an interesting one.
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I wrote this and posted it on MMSA in September 2017,  but the experience happened in 2004.   This story starts BEFORE the spanking. Not a swat in this. But you might enjoy how it came to be that I spanked a neighbor of mine, a cop with a big hard butt, for almost three years. What I like to share about it the most is how it started, because it was purely organic. Not on a website or app. I had no idea what he liked until I discovered his needs and went for it, making him my boy down the street. It started the day he moved into a house across the street and five doors down from mine. I saw the moving van at his house and then noticed him. It was hard not to notice him; a muscular guy working in a t-shirt and jeans. He looked good from what I could see. He was unpacking the truck alone with no one to help him. So I walked down to see if I could lend a hand. I met him in his garage. Good looking but not handsome; muscular and jockish, but not a body builder; a thick ass that that was right between a bubble butt and well-muscled globes. I got over myself and stopped checking him out long enough to introduce myself and offer help. He was glad to accept. He had planned on his ex-wife’s brother helping out, but the divorce was still new and everything was awkward. The guy didn’t show so Chad was alone trying to get into his new rental house. When I had offered help he said, thank you sir. I wasn’t much older than him, but I appreciated his manners. Being called Sir always gives me a little chubby too. He didn’t have much stuff for the house. Just some boxes, luggage, and a sofa. It didn’t take long to get it all inside. However he had an entire gym of equipment that we set up in his garage. As we set it up we both took turns doing different reps and exercises. It was fun. And a few more times, he called me Sir which was interesting. We were enjoying the workout and each other’s company and we were getting sweaty. His ass was sweaty too. The jeans were clinging to those round butt cheeks and pressing into his crack. I was getting hard and needed to get my head out of it before it became awkward so I invited to my house for a cold drink and to meet my wife. He came over and we passed some time. I stepped out of the room to pee, when I came back to the kitchen I heard my wife say, It makes me feel safe knowing a policeman lives across the street. Did you know Chad’s a cop honey? HOW HOT IS THIS?! A PHAT ASS COP MOVED INTO MY NEIGHBORHOOD! When he headed back to his place he asked if I wanted to work out again the next day, and if maybe I would go to RC Willey with him. He needed some furniture and a TV. Of course I wanted to; it would be a great way to spend a Saturday. "Great Sir, see you tomorrow."  He started up with "sir" again, he used my name when with my wife never called me Sir. At RC Willey he bought a lot of stuff. He had to fill his house and try to make it comfortable when he had custody every other weekend. As he shopped we talked and he was occasionally calling me Sir again. He arranged for same day delivery and everything was being loaded on a truck for delivery in three to six hours. So we headed back to his place to work out and wait for the stuff to arrive. We parked in the drive and went in through the front door. The house didn’t look different at all. He hadn’t unpacked a thing. Then we headed out to the garage. He had done some work out there. He had gone to home depot and bought a work bench and a big swamp cooler and a small fridge. He had unpacked his tools and set up his new work bench. The place looked great. Right above the work bench hanging on the wall with tools was a frat style paddle with the letters ROTC on it. It was hung as the center piece to the wall, nothing discrete about it. It was supposed to be noticed, even commented on. I complimented him on the new garage. Thank you Sir, my garage has always been my man cave, my place to get away. So I got it set up first So, you were in ROTC? Yes Sir, at Florida State. But I never served in the military; I went to the police academy after I graduated. He flicked on the swamp cooler and the garage filled with a whirr of the fan and the stifling hot air started to cool. That paddle, looks like it’s important to you. Yes Sir. It has been for a long time. I have always been able to count on that paddle to show me the right way to act as a man, Sir. That is, when I have had a man around willing to swing it. But it has been a while since I’ve felt it, Sir. Well, perhaps we should change that young man Perhaps we should Sir I stood for just a moment, but it felt like forever. The air was thick with our exchange of energy. I looked him in the eyes. He didn’t blink or move a muscle and I could see a yearning in his stare. Fetch me that paddle boy Yes sir He walked to the bench, reached up and carefully took the paddle off the wall by the blade. He carried it to me and offered me the handle. I took it from him and slapped it into my palm a few times This is a bitch of a paddle boy Yes Sir. Could I suggest we start with a set of twelve on the seat of my jeans Sir? I haven’t taken licks in a long time and need to build back up to long sets. But don’t be afraid to hit me hard. My ass is built for it. Assume the position young man And he did – perfectly. He bent all the way over grabbing his ankles. His head was up looking forward. Legs apart, knees slightly bent his thick, strong ass rounded back forming the perfect target. I touched the wood to his rump and took aim......and that’s how it all began.
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I was thinking a good deal about my first Foster Dad today A man I called Dad from 20 to almost 28.. I have written about Frank before, and The very close but odd sorta relationship we had. Frank was straight and had no interest in Sex he was a divorced man who had 2 foster sons that he had spanked and came to fact that he enjoyed having the young men around for chores watching the game and ah, yesh spanking them when needed. Frank and his wife had divorced in 1978 and she moved away from Michigan and took the boys with her off course. Frank began an Add the next year in a local newpaper (one of the alternative ones with all sorts of personals) prior to me, he had spanked 3 guys but they were passing through, he said he felt it was a long shot he find a 'son" but radom lad to spank here and there was better than nothing. My relationship with Frank (who I just called dad) was better than the one with my real dad. it would take a good while to explain why it's just the fact. Frank could be alot of fun we both loved old car shows, basketball and football but Frank had strict house rules for me and when they were broken I paid with a nononense no mercy dose of coproal punishment. One thing that was different from my own dad, since my own dad and I didn't really have a fun relatonship it crushed me more when I did get a good spanking from Frank. It was almost like a different man presented himself..but then again.that's what I signed up for right?? A year into my moving Frank wanted me to go to colledge....he paid and well I paid with my bottom when I didn't deliver the grades. For almost 8 years it was like being a boy still....Frank knew my "sweet spots" that formal disicpline  made my head spin (and my dick hard) but when the discipline got under way my fun was over and my dick went straight down to it's little 4" inch status.....oh well....my dick was not here for lovemaking more for the visual delight of the spanker to see my small  dick. Frank also knew I had a connection to my underpants being embarreassed to be seen in them, but also was a hot spot. When I was really in for a good spanking. he always started in my briefs and made a big thing that I was either going to stand and remove or he was going to lower them. As a spanker Frank never spared the rod he tanned my hide till he knew I had learned a lesson NOT that all spankings were serve he always made sure it fit the crime....normally the day after a good spanking I would masterbate at least 3 times thinking about any other guy I knew getting what I got.....I guess it was my delight in it........I know the spanking itself wasn't! After all most 8 years Frank was close to 70 and wanted out of Michigan. he had family in Flordia and we did consider me going with him, but .....I was late 20's he was 70 he said you know no one knows us, they will think we are lovers....and while his family knew he had a young man living with him, me moving with him would hafe raised questions also...I knew it was time for the chaper of the book to close. Frank and I stayed in touch till he died although I never saw him again. He was on Guyspank for a bit but he was in his late 70's by then and I was after all his only true "Son" LOL
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by on May 6, 2018
I found Brad on a hookup app.  His profile said that he was looking for a fun summer.  So was I. He was 32. I was 47. He liked the age difference and so did I.   While chatting he referred to me as “daddy’ and “sir” multiple times - which I really liked. We were in the same part of town according to the app, so we decided to meet. Maybe we would hit it off. We picked an IHOP.  I got there first and sat at a table, watching for him to come in. I sipped coffee, a little pensive about this meeting...but then, there he was.   He was a cute little guy; about 5’8 with a tight body.  He ass and calves were round and gave a great finish to his profile.  He had a fresh haircut and a trimmed beard. He wore soccer shorts and a t-shirt. I was excited just looking at him. He glanced around to find me and I gave him a small wave and a smile.  He returned the smile, walked over and had a seat.   Conversation came easily for both of us.  There was an instant familiarity. It was an obvious good match from the start.  With in the first five minutes he said, “I really want to call you daddy”.   “If you do, you will likely get spanked”, was my reply.   He smiled.  He was a naughty boy, I could tell already.  By the time the waitress arrived with his coffee all she found was a few bills on the table.  We were already gone.   I kept my word and Brad got spanked.  It was all spanking in fun. Mostly I spanked him while we did other things that men do together.  He really liked to feel my palm slap his cute butt cheeks and sometimes I gave him really good hard swats which were always met with enthusiastic grunts and yelps.  He really liked it when I would just slap his ass in the “atta boy” way that a coach would do. We began working out together the day after we met and he loved it when I’d give him a smack after a good set.  He’d smile proudly and say “Thank you sir”.   After three or four days of working out, hanging out, and playing around together I noticed that his ass was showing some wear and tear from all the attention.  There was some color and subtle marks. I asked him how he felt about it and his enthusiasm was uncontained. He got up and looked at his butt in the mirror and told me how much he liked the marks. “I remember the swat where I can still see your fingerprints on this side, and the bruise in the middle of this cheek is from that swat at the gym”.  His excitement made him even more adorable.   “Is it sore?”  I asked.   “Not really.  Just a little bit here and there.  I like the soreness and the marks. It makes me feel bonded to you.  It makes me feel like I’m your boy. I could use more marks. I think it would be hot if it was noticeable when I shower and change in the locker room.  Also I like the warmth and the soreness.”   He paused and came back to bed.  “I’d like more of it daddy. More, and harder too”.   I am not one to disappoint. That very moment I pulled him over my lap and gave him a good long session.  It was still not what I would call a real spanking but it left his ass very red all over. It also got him jacked up on endorphins which added to the fun we had the rest of that afternoon. It was still spanking in fun. It was rough, but it was playful.     Two days later he got his first ass whippin from me.   I live very close to the gym and I walked over for the workout.  I had been busy the day before and didn’t get a chance to see Brad.  My schedule was still pretty full but I made time to work out with my boy.  He got to the gym late. He had a lousy attitude too. I had not seen this side of him before.  He was whiny and grumpy. He gave half ass efforts on the work out and half ass responses when I tried to talk with him.  When I gave his ass a nice pop he would turn away and shrug me off. I got sick of it and instead of an encouraging swat, he got a hard, full swing, uppercut slap to his right butt cheek.  The sound rocked through the gym, but only one guy looked over. Everyone else was lost in his or her own earbuds.   Brad spun around and both hands went to his ass, cupping his cheek where I had just spanked him.     “What the hell is wrong with you today boy?” I demanded.   “I’m sorry daddy.  I just want to play and I didn't get to see you yesterday, and all I get today is a workout.  The summer will be gone soon. I just like the time we spend together and I will have to go back to work in a just a few weeks”   The thing is that Brad worked for a contractor overseas.  He would work for six weeks then travell and recover for a week, and finally  have 5 weeks off. I work as a teacher and coach. By the time he finished his next rotation school would be back in session and I would have very rare availability.  He was right, our time together was limited and precious. He stood there rubbing his round butt with a sad look on his face. He was so adorable. “Sir, can’t we please play today?”   “I’ll make a phone call and cancel the stuff I was going to do today.”     His face lit up.  “Thank you daddy!”   “But I didn’t drive here.   I’ll need to ride with you and you’ll have to drop me off again later.”   We finished our workout, showered and changed.  Brad had fun showing off the faded redness from the spanking he got a couple days ago. Then we got into Brads jeep and headed off to his place which was just about 5 minute drive away.  It was a horrid ride. He pulled out in front of traffic, squealed his tires, took turns recklessly, and about every other ridiculous adolescent thing he could think of doing. He pulled into his garage and stopped the jeep.  He looked over at me with a stupid smile on his face. He thought I enjoyed it. His smile faded quickly when he realized I was not happy, I was pissed off. “What the hell was that? You drive like a 16 year old redneck!”   “Daddy, I was just having fun, I thought you’d have fun too.”   I chewed him out.  I went on and on about how he offended every driver on the road, that he could have caused an accident, even killed us and others.  He just sat there like he didn’t understand. Then he said, “Sir, it’s no big deal, I drive like that all the time and nothing ever happens.  It’s really okay.”   That’s when I knew it was time.  I was about to change our relationship.  This playful, rough and tumble daddy was about to become his disciplinarian.  He needed an ass whuppin and he needed it right at that moment.   “Get out of the jeep boy.  Right now. Get out of the jeep and come over here to my side.”   He hesitated.  He had a look of trepidation on his face.  But Brad loved to follow orders. Obedience was in his nature.  So he unbuckled the seatbelt, stepped out of the jeep and walked around to my side of the vehicle.  I opened the jeep door and he stood there, waiting for his next order. I grabbed the remote and closed the garage door.   “Drop your shorts Brad.”   He looked at me while he unfastened the button opened his fly.  His shorts fell to his ankles. He stood there in his tighty whities.  In an instant I grabbed the back of his neck and pulled him over my lap, his head and shoulders were in the driver’s seat, his legs dangling over the side of the jeep.  His shorts fell further off his ankles and on the the floor. His plump ass cheeks were round under the white cotton of his briefs.   I started spanking, very hard from the first swat, and fast too.  Right away he knew this was not play and he shouted out. No words, nothing sensible, just some yelps and muffled cries.  I was tanning his ass hard and he started kicking his feet. He wanted to cover his butt with his hands, however the position of the steering wheel kept him from reaching back at all.  His ass was in perfect position and there was nothing he could do but take his ass whippin. I kept it up. My thick hand cupping his roundness as I slapped him. I thought to pull down his underwear and spank his bare cheeks, but I didn’t.  Brad loved the bare ass spanking I gave him during our sex play. To me it seemed that spanking him in his underwear added the humiliation of the punishment. A small boy might be spanked this way. Instead of pulling down his underwear I pulled them up between his ass cheeks, baring his buns wedgie style.  He protested. “No daddy it hurts too much! I won’t drive like that again Sir!”   I stopped for a minute.  He thought his spanking was over and tried to get up.  I pushed him down and said “You stay right there. Don’t move.  You have much more coming and if you move then I’ll just make it harder on you.”   I pulled out my phone and took some pics of his ass turning red. I already had pics of Brad’s ass on my phone.  He had posted several of the pics I had taken on his profile. I was not going to miss this opportunity even if it embarrassed him.  “Sir, are you taking pics of this?”   “Yes I am.  You’re always going to remember this young man  AND you will post your punished butt on your profile too!”   As I took the pics, his ass was up high and round, his red cheeks framed by the white wedgie. His knees were bent  and his feet up high. So I grabbed one of his flip-flops from his foot and turned it into a paddle. The first implement Brad would feel me use on him, was his own foot wear.  I took it to him hard. He yelped out with each swat. I spanked more slowly now, with very deliberate smacks, alternating on his bare cheeks. I held him in place by the waistband of his underpants which intensified the wedgie.  He was starting to learn. He grunted as I paddled him with the thong and he started to apologize too. He promised to be a better driver over and over again. His body was losing its fight and he was submitting totally to the spanking.     I stopped spanking him and pulled him by his t-shirt collar back onto his feet.  His eyes were wet and his face showed his complete vulnerability. As he stood there I told him how disappointed I was in his driving, that I never thought he would be that irresponsible and that I was going to be sure he remembered this forever so he'd never do it again.  Brad stood there, rubbing his ass, “Daddy I promise I will remember this for the rest of my life”.   “Yes you will boy.  I’m going to make sure of it.”   I stepped out of the jeep and told him to bend down and put his elbows on the seat I had just vacated. He obeyed.  Then I took off my belt. It was at that moment that I realized I was wearing a riveted belt - unlucky for Brad. I doubled it  and started laying licks onto his butt. He shouted out with each one. I didn’t count them, I really don’t know how many I gave him.  I watched him between each lash and waited for the pain to leave his body. When he would settle back onto his elbows I would take aim and give him another.  I stopped on occasion to get a pic of him assuming the position. This boy would never forget this lesson. Ever.   Brad began to shed real tears and I knew he was close to really learning this lesson.  After I heard the tears I landed five or six more licks to his bubble butt. Then I told him to stand up.  He moved slow and looked at me with shame and remorse in his face. “Now get your ass inside, go to your bedroom”.   He walked awkwardly due to the pain and  that he was wearing just one flip flop. I followed him and had him stand in a corner of his bedroom for a long enough time to collect himself.  While he stood there I made the calls I needed to clear my afternoon. Then I called him over to me. He sat on my lap. One thing led to the next and that day we had crazy, wild sex.  I pounded his butt so hard his bones rattled. We fukced to exhaustion. Then we headed back to the gym.. He drove like a perfect gentleman. We swam some laps to cool off and then Brad enjoyed a cold shower, showing off his freshly damaged butt.     Everything from that moment forward changed between us.  It was now more intense. There was more meaning in the time we spent together that summer . It  wasn’t his only ass whupping that summer - just the first one. I’ll share more in a later story.   EPILOGUE - For fans of Men At Play videos, Brad could be a doppelganger for Ben Brown, a british boy who models for them.  I can’t possibly convery how cute and handsome he is. I had a great summer with him. I saw him only once more after his next rotation. He changed his US location to Florida to be closer to family.     I have some really great pics of that day, but unfortunately they are on a hard drive that has crashed. The pics I still have are posted on my profile at STHU and SOUTHSPANKING.  If anyone has ideas about how to access my pics, please share. I’d love to show you all the pics of Brad being spanked.
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by on July 21, 2020
Cornertime Confidential received a follow up email from joey b, a rural boy living in an area where it's hard to meet and connect with Daddys who work out. You can read more about what my friends here on SouthSpanking.com recommended joey b do by reading this blogpost here. Thanks in part to your efforts to help rural joey b, he did meet a Man Who Paddles and warmed up joey b's bottom good. But now...he's got a question for you...   ...Now What Do I Do? by joey b Dear Cornertime Confidential, Thanks again for your readers' help in finding a Man Who Spanks out here in my rural end of the country. It looks like getting a Spanking from the guy I met might be a regular thing, and we will get together when our schedules allow. I sure hope he gets to Spank me many times in the future. It was nice to get a hug afterwards too. He was a very nice guy, but he put me through my paces too. Honestly, though, I'm not sure how to proceed from here.  I am the type of person that always feels like I am bothering someone if I contact them. I'm a little better when it comes to texting or email, but I still worry I will be a nuisance. I'm not sure how long I should take to text him again and when I should ask for another Spanking. I am a glutton for punishment, so I could do this every week, LOL.  I've always wanted to meet someone who I could be in a relationship with romantically who would give me daily short Maintenance Spankings as well as more intense Spankings when I am "naughty." I'm not for sure if this guy would even want a regular friendship let alone something more. For now, I'd be happy with just getting at least somewhat regular Spankings.  When I texted him after I got home from the Spanking and thanked him again, he did say, "We'll definitely do it again," so that sounds promising. We had talked about how hard it is to find Spanking partners in this area. I would enjoy becoming actual friends with him, but I don't know if he is the type that would just want a purely Spanking relationship. I know he said that for him, he keeps Spankings and sex separate, so I wonder what else he keeps separate from Spanking partners. Sorry if I am just laying this all out and it's TMI, but I really don't have anyone to talk about this with. Any and all advice is appreciated.  Love,  joey b ________________________________________ So you just went to on a date for a Spanking with a new boy or new Man Who Spanks? What's the best next steps if it went well or even just good?  How much post-Spanking communication is too much with a new Daddy?  What kind of communication is just right? Not enough?  You don't want to appear to be like a stalker, what's the sweet spot here?  And how do you know, based on the fact that every boy and every Man Who Spanks is different? Together, maybe the Cornertime Confidential readers can help establish a few movable goal posts—or perhaps instead hard-and-fast rules or gold standards—of post-Spanking communication to make it easier for everyone. Let's together see if we can all behind a few effective lines in the sand, so we know what the limits are every time.  And no adult adult boy wants to latch onto the wrong Daddy right off the bat.  So let's open this up now to you guys. How would you advise joey b?  
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by on August 17, 2020
  "After his Spanking"   or Spanking Tools and the Benefits of Enhanced Cornertime by Cornertime Confidential and the readers of SouthSpanking.com Many of you wrote in to ask us when Part 3 would be added to the Guide to the Correction of adult boys. We encourage you to read that blogpost first, of course. In our effort to make Part 3 work, even if you haven't read Parts 1 and 2, today, we will discuss "after his Spanking," or a short reflection on Spanking Tools a discussion on the benefits of enhanced Cornertime. Today, in Part 3, let's discuss "after his Spanking":   Spanking Tools and the Best Use of Them As we all know, the very best use for a Spanking Tool is only as a simple warning positioned out on the counter in the kitchen, hanging from a hook, on the bathroom sink, or in the bedroom where the boy can be made to fetch The Stick or The Belt when needed. But sometimes, the second best use of Spanking Tools can be when applied right across a naughty boy's bottom—and sometimes repeatedly so..  In this section, we'll speak primarily of Spanking Tools but in many cases this can mean a variety of things you may or may not have considered, for example:  Daddy's hand Any Rod of Correction or  The Belt that best keeps Daddy's trousers up, his boy in line, and the relationship on track.  Also, we'll speak of a "relationship," but we only really mean the relationship between two people or more in a CP "meet up," not necessarily a Domestic Discipline relationship, a Daddy/boy relationship, or even  long-term relationship at all. Ideally, Daddys will know their boys well enough ahead of time and can utilize the most effective Spanking Tool whenever the call for. However, sometimes you just won't know until a new boy arrives. Most Daddys will be glad that they've spent time learning to hand-Spank well and effectively. And they'll also be better off if they have an organized Spanking Tool bag or shelf or drawer, so the boy can be sent there to pick out the Spanking Tool that'll be used across his backside. In most instances, the alarm opening a drawer of various sticks for Spanking will subside if the Daddy sets the tone and the emotional stage ahead of time, so the boy isn't alarmed and just runs out the door. Instead, the Daddy who best connects ahead of time will find compliant boys who are grateful that there's not just a gigantic frat paddle or a big thick belt and that's the only choice.   Tips for Tops! Once you have a mini-trove from which to choose from, have new boys go select the Spanking Tool with which they will be Spanked. Cornertime Confidential recommends having a few simple items: a thin light paddle, a thicker Spanking Stick like a Jocari or mini-frat paddle, a good Old-Fashioned Hairbrush, and a firm sturdy ruler or yardstick. For belts, you'll want a 2.5"-3" thick black buckled belt and possibly a razor strop or other effective leather strap for Spanking.  Remember, as we learned in parts 2 and 3, a good beating is not delivered by The Spanking Tool. It's created by the Daddy or the Top who administers it. So as you've seen in the other sections of the Guide to the Spanking of adult boys, we have extensive insights for you on that which you should read carefully. However, the Spanking Tools you use will can make a world of difference if they are high quality and applied correctly. Some boys even become attached to certain ones. So do some Daddys!  You don't need to go anywhere other than the local Marshalls, Ross for Less, T.J. Maxx, or Target/Walmart for what you'll need. This may surprise, but the most simple, affordable black belt that does the job is a standard product from H&M stores. It's less than $20. And while Cornertime Confidential encourage all community members to support the communities that support us, including Nasty Pig, Albert Prendergast,the many talented paddlemeisters out there, we don't want anyone to feel that a life in the CP community is a matter of having the latest styles and fashions. Tips for Tops! They call it an "Old Fashioned" Hairbrush Spanking for a reason. A new-fangled hairbrush won't really achieve your goals.  If there's a need, let Cornertime Confidential know, and we can provide a buyers guide of where to get the Spanking Tools you'll want around your home. Once you have them, be sure to keep them in eyeshot of any boy you have over.  If you have a partner who is regularly disciplined, work together to find the very best way to heighten anticipation with everyday objects vanilla friends and family will not realize are used for CP in your home. A small wooden cutting board in the kitchen can regularly double as a hand-sized paddle for boy. An Italian fly swatter (they're made with a leather face) can hang in the kitchen or on the patio, and be used for swattting away bad behaviour as well! The Belt hanging from the closet door can be there as a constant Behinder Reminder to be good and get to bed on time or wake up early! And a good Old Fashioned Hairbrush that isn't really used (in our home Daddy and I are both fairly bald, so no one knows quite why we have The Hairbrush sitting out in the bathroom) can be a Behaviour Modifier every single time your boy goes to the bathroom—and remind him that he's the boy and you're the Daddy/Top.         A Discussion on the Benefits of Enhanced Cornertime Enhanced Cornertime can be, when administered well, in and of itself its own punishment. As you develop your Corporal Punishment-based relationship, sometimes it may help to set the tone using this tool in your toolbox. Cornertime or a Time Out can be used without resorting to Spanking. But many find it boring. So, make it a busy time for your boy: writing lines, washing his mouth out with soap and having him hold the bar in his mouth while he's in The Corner, lecturing him while he stands there. For some boys in some relationships Cornertime will not work. A sound beating on the behind is all they want or need. But for many, that's just too short and abrupt. That's one of the reasons many Daddys opt for the use and effective implementation of Enhanced Cornertime.  We posed the need for some feedback on these areas of importance to the large, well-experience SouthSpanking.com group. Here's what they suggested:   oldskoolotk Cornertime should last for at least 10 minutes in my opinion, just like the Spanking, a boy should wish it was over long before it actually is, and it should be a lesson in endurance. A boy should never feel that Cornertime means he is in the clear, more Spanking should always be a threat, if a boy hasn’t accepted his punishment fully and doesn’t have a proper attitude upon review.    Hands should always be placed somewhere that leaves him exposed front and back, and he should be corrected appropriately if they wander. Adding holding a coin to the wall with his nose can be extra punishment if he has trouble staying in position. Talking should be prohibited unless the boy is spoken to, Some boys need to be sat on the lap, as well, and that can be added at the very end when the boys punishment is over. Other boys may need their bottoms lotioned with something to help heal them, and that can also be done at the end. It's best done OTK with some encouraging words.    The pants and underpants coming up or being put on is the final part of the process, and signifies that the punishment is over. However, in certain situations clothing restrictions can be appropriate and can add to a boys consequences. A boy may be restricted to briefs or even a bare bottom for a certain amount of time and gradually earn back his clothing privileges, or perhaps even be required to sleep nude.    James AZ Very Very Very well-written Oldskool —punishment must be effective and Cornertime is definitely a time to think, a time to reflect, and a time to heal ... it's emotional and a lot more...creativity is so easy, and Daddys or Tops can be encouraged to get very creative. Max Writing lines can be salutary. So can sitting bare-bottomed on a hard wooden chair with a Spanking Tool within eyeshot. We find it instructive how inventive members of this robust website are both with ideas and actions.The Correction of adult boys isn't just about Spanking. There's a lot of psychological value in integrating the Spanking Tools, making Cornertime or Times Out a part of the process, or having your punished boy write lines to correspond with the need for his Spanking. For example, if he's being Spanked for open defiance, you can have him write, "I promise to not be openly defiant to Daddy." or "Daddy is in charge. I am not." 100 times with a pencil on a big sheet of paper.  Tips for Tops! Invest in paper and pencils ahead of time before suddenly being unable to administer the punishment because you don't have enough paper around the house! NonSpanking punishments—broadly speaking, "enhanced Cornertime"—can extend the time necessary for a full and complete Corporal Punishment experience. Enhanced Cornertime can be a stand-alone punishment as well, adding a sense that the boy is not in charge. It's particularly effective when used domestically in the course of a regular night of eating dinner, watching T.V., playing video or board games, etc. If you are in the midst of regular domestic live, when an appropriate time comes based on snark, tone, attitude, laziness, lack of cooperation, send your boy to The Corner, a place you have set aside in Punishment Spanking times as The Corner where naughty boys in the house go.  Sometimes this will mean sending him to his room.Sometimes it'll be just a place in the living room where you can see him standing with his 'pants lowered or not—and his bottom facing into the room. When punished in this way, the Correction of adult boys goes far beyond the thrills and spills associated with Spanking alone. You can turn off the T.V. (and now that Daddys mostly all have DVR, they can stop a program midstream, and attend to discipline, and then when the boy is sufiiciently punished, return to the program with or without the errant boy). Why do this? Because Enhanced Cornertime can bring vitality back to a relationship that can be stuck in a tidewater of repetition, dullness, or worse. Relationships need variety, and one way to do that is to use The Stick or The Belt, but another it to use your mind.    Tips for Tops! The mind is a very effective Tool for Corporal and non-Corporal Punishment. Use that tool to put a nail in bad behaviour, defiance, Rulebreaking, and the like.  What can you do with these following household items? Castor OIl  Capsaicin Cream  A switch from a recent hike  Stinging nettles from a local forest  A rough plastic door mat  Enforced writing of lines  (For some boys) being put into diapers  (For others) being made to wear white briefs... ...the options can be seemingly endless...if you put your mind to it! So don't put your back into it. Spend less time fretting about whether you deliver a good Spanking. Think more about how you can be the perfect Daddy for the boys you have.  Each boy is unique as is each Daddy, and a unique approach driven by you and his own personal experience will make the Spanking of adult boys in your life better, more effective, and ultimately much for satisfying for both involved.          After a Trip to the Woodshed, What Next?   Please comment below or email me with your ideas.   ________________________________________ Follow Cornertime Confidential Wherever You Are: Tumblr  ∙  Twitter  ∙  Blogger ∙  WordPress  
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Well guys, as much as I hate doing it and I try very hard not to, it is time for a fundraiser for the site.  At the moment thanks to some recent donations, we are funded for at least the next two months, but I am conscious of the fact, I do not want to leave it to the last minute.  In addition, I would love to generate enough revenue to hire a professional to help fix the server side and get our performance issues fixed. I am able to do most of the server configuration myself, but I am not a jack of all trades, and in this case, I need expert help.  The good thing is this will be a one-off cost as all the tweaks etc. will be documented.  It will solve our frustrations. Now please, only donate if you can afford to do so, I mean that.  Right now, with the pandemic everyone is in a difference place, financially, Healthwise and Career Wise.  It is important to concentrate on what matters the most and this site should not be a top priority. If you want to donate, please click on the donate button, or if you have not sone so already consider updating your membership.   Hugs and many thanks   James
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The Friday after thanksgiving always rings a special chord for me as it was the last time I was spanked by my real dad. it was my first semster of Community colledge I was 19 ( 2 weeks from 20)now for a bit of backround my last spanking was in feb of the year, but I was still in high school then mind you.And what I had I done to get a spanking? well....Here goesMind you I came from a small catholic All boys School there were 23 boys in my 12th grade class. There was NO picking classes you the classes taught-So off course off to the Community colledge (I didn't have the grades to even consider going away to school in case you wonder) and yet off course you do get to pick what you take. My dad went with me and he told me (well, he says he did..lol) that I had to be a FULL Time Student and that was 5 classes. Well, I didn't even know (or really care) i just went through the motions and he signed me to 5 different classes.One of those was a Science and that was Geology. Well by the 2nd class I was falling asleep and a buddy suggested I "drop" it! "Drop it"? coming from where you couldn't drop anything the concept was odd, but after the 3rd class of falling asleep I followed the advice and did just that! Now I had planned to tell my folks what I had done, but well they didn't ask...and for whatever known reason I didnt' tell. (I think I feared he make me take another class, and the 4 I had was Plently for me!)So...fast foward to October...all was going ok, and the refund check for my dropped class came! and my father and I are JR and SR...so I got the mail..and it was a few hundered dollars and I thought, well why tell now! So Yep..I cashed it (Now when report cards came out in Jan..what was I going to say happened to that class?? well to be honest I didn't think about that)Anyway..we never get there....it happens to be thanksgiving. My cousins are up from Texas and we are getting ready for dinner and my dad says "Oh, Alan when you get back to school monday you have to get something straight....THE INSURANCE COMPANY has dropped out off my policy as they do not have you as a FULL Time Student".........GULPa what? a full time what? well...the reality of it all "hit" me if you will.... banned word ! I off course just said Ok as I began to plot what could I do..could I break into the school and destroy some records? could I bribe someone? Well..many noticed I didn't eat much at dinner (Are you feeling ok Alan?) I was still trying to figure out a way out of this....but as the sun rose on Friday I knew I had one choice ..and that was to fess up to dad what I had done.I waited till mom had left for shopping and I sat across the kitchen table and told dad what had happened. The first thing he said was "Well, alan don not get sick till jan, cause I won't take you to the Doctor". we both laughed and dad went on to explain again WHY I had to be a FULL time student....and did I NOW understand??? yes dad, yes dad, yes dad. It seemed to be going very Man to Man and I was almost feeling ok when dad said "well, young man I say get any plans you had canceled and then make you way to the office".....well "The office" was where only one thing happened....I was spanked.....I without thinking said "theeeeeeeee offfffffice daddddddy"....to which I quickly heard "Oh alan, if you don't think you have earned the HIDING of your life, we got a lot to cover young man. First you didn't listen to me, then you dropped the class and didn't tell me and you stold my money for the class by cashing that check and your only telling me the truth now because oyu know there is no option...oh alan, you be luckly if you can sit in a week when were done today"...I turned red as a beet and knew there wasn't anything left to say....true to his word, it was the worse spanking I had ever gotten from my dad. I asked him a week after HOW much longer I would be spanked and he told me "alan if you don't want to be spanked again it's simple...ACT LIKE A MAN. if oyu act LIKE a man you will be treated like one, act like a child and I will continue to punish you as one.with that I choose to leave home and quit school (before my grades came out.....gulp)
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