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  The groove spanking is a very effective spanking method.   It's a spanking right in a naughty boy's butt crack - his groove!   The area between the cheeks is very tender indeed.   The inner cheeks that form the sides of the butt crack, the area between a guy's balls and hole and the bullseye!   The butt hole itself.  While extreme caution has to be used not to do any damage in this area, a light spanking here can be horribly painful.    The best way to position a boy for a groove spanking is in the diaper position, laying on his back with his legs pulled back over his head and spread wide.  It's best to tie the legs in this position so the spanker doesn't have to hold them, or even more embarrassing letting others who are there to witness the spanking hold them for you.   As an alternative, making the boy participate in his own punishment, you can make him spread and hold his own butt cheeks wide apart for the spanking.   It will take quite a bit of self control to keep the cheeks spread wide apart during the groove spanking!   As I mentioned in previous posts, the diaper position is very humiliating because eye contact can be made between the person being spanked and the spanker and audience.   It's also very embarrassing because his butt hole is a guy's most private and vulnerable area and to have it exposed for punishment is downright humiliating!    One of my first experiences with a groove spanking was when I was in my mid 50's and a young 23 year old college student named Freddie spanked me.  What made this spanking especially embarrassing is that Freddie spanked me in his campus apartment.  The building was full of college students that had to hear me getting paddled and belted!   They probably knew from personal experience exactly what that sound was.   Freddie just loved to spread my butt cheeks wide apart and hand spank, paddle and belt me right in my groove!  The paddle is harder to use in this area, but a narrow belt is a perfect implement for a groove spanking.    I swear Freddie was aiming the tip of his belt right for the bullseye - my butt hole!  A spanking right on the hole stings something horrible!   Especially the lash of a thin belt!    Freddie exposing and checking out the target!   It was truly embarrassing feeling his hands grasp my butt cheeks, pulling them wide apart, exposing my most private place, knowing he was going to spank it!  ​ Freddie using one hand to spread my crack open as he uses the edge of a paddle to spank the outer edges of my groove.  The groove spanking is humiliating because you know how exposed you are. You know the spanker is looking right at your butt hole and it's painful too because this area is very tender. Freddie checking things out and finding my groove is starting to turn red. The next day there were some bruises where the tip of Freddie's belt landed in the center of my wide spread groove!   Some other Groove Spankings I got:        There's no doubt about it.   A groove spanking makes for a very embarrassing and very memorable spanking.   It's best to have the miscreant buck ass naked for a groove spanking.  Ideally the groove spanking should be given in front of an audience.   Embarrassment and humiliation are  key elements of any spanking.  They are as important a part of a spanking as the spanking itself!  A groove spanking accomplishes all of this!   Link to my last blog post about Mouthsoaping: https://southspanking.com/groups/adblog/853/mouthsoaping-just-turns-me-on/   Link to all my blog posts: https://southspanking.com/groups/need2botk/adblog/

  Although I never got a spanking until I was 47 years old, I did get to witness many spankings and I always had an ear to ear smirk on my face whenever I watched someone get one.   I often wondered what it would be like to be in their place, getting spanked myself with them enjoying the show and me being the one enduring the humiliation!   They all knew I had never been spanked before, and often told me that the one thing they really wanted to see was me get a spanking. They even tried arranging it a few times but somehow I always escaped getting the spankings they thought I deserved!   For all the times I enjoyed watching my friends getting spanked, I think it would be "just punishment" for someone I know to see me get a humiliating spanking and enjoy my humiliation the way I used to enjoy seeing their spankings!   Whether it be watching an online video of me getting spanked or even better yet, seeing it in person!  It would be especially humiliating to me if it were people watching that I didn't realize were into the same kinks.While I've had many guys into spanking see me get spanked, I've never been spanked in front of an "ordinary friend"!   I really wonder how many people have had someone they know, recognize a spanking photo or video of them online? It's the humiliation aspect of spanking that turns me on the most, so I have to admit I do get very turned on thinking about the humiliation of someone I know in ordinary life, finding out I get stripped naked and spanked like a naughty boy at my age!   I'm pretty sure that most of those friends I saw getting spanked years ago, would still enjoy seeing me get a spanking, even today! I have a spanking friend named Jordan.  Jordan and I have never met in person yet, but I think of him as a devious little brother! . He got the most humiliating spankings from his own dad well into college, so he has first hand experience about the effectiveness of spanking humiliation.  Jordan is about 30 years younger than me and has tried to get me to post face pictures on some of my spanking profiles.  I used to own a business where having those pictures discovered, could have been detrimental to the business, so I was always very cautious to block out my face from the photos I posted online.   About 5 years ago I sold that business and retired.   I told Jordan a few months before the sale, that I would post a couple face pics on my profile when the business was sold.   As soon as the sale was complete, Jordan kept bugging me to post the pictures, saying I have nothing to lose now except my pride and dignity.  He also said that some real humiliation is just what I need. I am pretty sure Jordan was hoping someone I know from "vanilla" life would see the photos and recognize me and realize I get spankings now!  And honestly I think I'm secretly hoping to endure that humiliation too!  So I told him okay I'll post a face pic.  I showed him one to get his approval and he says, "Oh no, not that kind of face pic, you have to post a buck ass naked face pic!   Not one with clothes on! Naked head to toe with your face showing "   Now when I agreed to post a face pic, I never even thought about one fully naked!  It was bad enough posting a face picture of myself with all my clothes on, knowing there were other naked pictures out there along with it!    But as I'll mention in many of my blog posts, Jordan has this amazing ability to get me to do some very risky things related to naked exposure and spanking!    I had a lot of photos on my profiles with my face blocked out, so he told me to go back and find the original pictures and update one of those, reposting it unedited!   It was scary, but I have to admit it made my dick hard!  It was also thrilling and exciting knowing I was going to be naked and fully exposed online with my face showing!   Then after I found one, I couldn't help myself, I had to look for another one.  So I went back and found one of those photos that I thought would be particularly embarrassing.  One of me naked with a bar of soap in my mouth!   I've always had a fascination with mouthsoapings.  That picture will be shown a little futher below.  While I didn't get spanked growing up, I did get my mouth washed out with soap as punishment.  I truly hated mouthsoapings back then, and still do, but for some reason the thought of having my mouth soaped along with getting my bottom spanked, just excites me now.  My interest really peaked after a 19 year old "kid" from work told me about the awful mouthsoapings and bare bottom belt spankings he got from his dad.  The kid told me how his dad put the soap in his mouth and set a kitchen timer for 30 minutes.  He didn't tell me specifics about the soaping but he did make sure to tell me he got the belt bare ass!  In fact he made sure to tell me several times that he got the belt bare,  so I'm assuming his pants were still down or off when the bar of soap went into his mouth!   He told me how really awful it was, standing there (I'm assuming with his bare belt spanked butt on display), listening to the tick-tock of the timer,  waiting for it to ding!   He said he stood there drooling soap suds saying how awful it was and described how sometimes he'd try to hold the soap with his teeth to get it off his tongue, but said that just made things worse.  He said soap would be all soft and gooey by then and he said it would just get caked in his teeth and made it that much harder to rinse out after the timer rang!  I definitely got a boner as he told me about his spankings and mouthsoapings and pictured that sweet little heinie of his whipped red with a belt and him standing there with his mouth drooling soap suds!   From the way he was talking it sounded like this happened very recently!  That's a real photo of him above.   I definitely got turned on at work looking at that firm little butt of his and thinking about how he got spanked with a belt!    In fact there were a few times I would have enjoyed spanking him myself.   I'll tell in another blog story, he had the same thoughts about spanking me, his boss!   We had a few conversations at work about the topic of spanking, and he made some comments about how he wanted to turn the tables and take his belt to my ass!   If he only knew it gave me a boner thinking about him whipping my ass with his belt.  Or maybe he did know! Maybe the thought of it gave him a boner too! After "the kid" told me about his mouthsoapings and belt spankings, I had to try soaping my own mouth again.  I soaked the bar of soap in a bowl of hot water for an hour to make it all soft and gooey like he described and set a timer for 30 minutes.    I didn't make it to 30 minutes like he had to during his punishments, but the photo below show the mouthful of gooey soap I had trying to replicate his mouth soapings.   Below are some pictures of me from about 25 years ago of me around age 40, doing a self soaping that someone ordered me to do online.  This was about 5 years before I got that first real spanking I posted about earlier. It's one of a a series of pictures I took that same day carrying out the instructions I was given by my online spanker.  I belonged to a Yahoo Group called "Self Spanking" and people would make up spanking "assignments" for each other to do/  These are the photos I took to show proof that I completed the tasks.  (Unfortunately I deleted a lot of the original older photos of myself that I cropped my face out of.) These are photos from the Self Soaping/Self Spanking assignment I did in 2000 . I just can't help it,  standing there buck ass naked, and seeing the bar of soap being soaked to wash out my mouth and seeing the paddle sitting there waiting to spank my bottom with just gives me an incredible boner! ​ Getting the soap out of the sink remembering how awful this was as a boy. A bar of Ivory soap is an awful thing for someone about to get a mouthsoaping to see and smell!    I really can't believe I posted the photo below as one of my debut face pics on an adult "social media" site!   Yes,  I'm secretly hoping that someone who knows me WILL recognize me, and confront me demanding that I strip naked and bend over their knees for the humiliating spanking I deserve!  The first mouthsoaping I had since I was a boy being disciplined by my parents.   The mouthsoapings I got growing up were never combined with a spanking!  It's even more humiliating to get a mouthsoaping and spanking at this age!     Laying on the couch thinking about the spanking I still have coming.  I have quite the boner thinking about the spanking I have to give myself.    And finally spanked.  And yes, even at this age you can see the tighty whities that I wore laying on the floor!  Up until 10 years ago those were the only underwear I owned!   I wear color briefs today, but I still have plain white briefs that I wear whenever I get a spanking!  I guess wearing tighty-whities puts me in the mindset that I'm just a boy that needs his bare bottom spanked! ​ Some recent mouthsoaping photos of me that weren't included in my original blog post.   :Having to do corner time in front of a window with it dark outside and all the lights on in the room makes for some very humiliating corner time.   Above the view from outside. Above the view from inside.  ha Below is one final mouthsoaping picture of me.   This is from a future blog post that was dedicated to a fantasy I had about that young man from work that got the belt spankings and mouthsoapings at home, making good on his comments about wanting to spank me, his boss.   It would have been so humiliating if he spanked me in front of all his co-workers.  I wouldn't doubt that he would wash the boss's mouth out with soap while he was spanking me too!   Right in front of everyone!   I've discussed mouthsoaping with many spankers and most of them just aren't into it.  I can't belive how difficult it is to get someone to give me a mouthsoaping during a spaanking. So many spankers don't realize how effective a little humiliation can be during a spanking.   Hopefully some day I'll find a spanker that's into mouthsoaping and will not only wash my mouth out with soap, but will spank me and have me do naked cornertime with the soap still in my mouth.  Right in front of an audience of smirking observers .  Mouthsoaping like cornertime is best served in front of an audience!   So in this blog post, there's old pics for those who may have known me in years gone by and new pics for those who might know me now!   If someone does recognize me don't hesitate to tell me it's time for my spanking and that I'd better start stripping because spankings are given buck ass naked!  And if I get sassy or disrepectful during the spanking don't hesitate to wash my mouth out with a bar of soap ! See my other blog entries here: https://southspanking.com/groups/need2botk/adblog/    

After I got my first punishment spanking I knew that was the kind of spanking I needed from that day on.  Hard and fast right from the start without a warmup.   Like the spankings I enjoyed seeing my friends get growing up.   This spanking was also courtesy of Bill's Basement in Hammond, Indiana.  It started out like the first punishment spanking.  I was stripped BUCK ASS NAKED and bent over Bill's knees and spanked like a naughty boy! Only this time Bill arranged for a couple other guys to be there to watch and help spank me.   As that brush did it's work, I was yelping and gasping for breath in no time, not only looking like a naughty boy over Bill's knees, but sounding and feeling like one too!  The two guys watching were enjoying the sights and sounds as the spanking progressed.   Bill had me stand up, stick my butt out and put my hands on my knees.   He handed them the hairbrush and a belt and told them they could spank me themselves!  The guy in the leather vest seemed new at giving spankings.   He wasn't sure how hard to hit me.  But the other guy had spanked me before and spanked much harder.    The diaper position has got to be the most humiliating position to be spanked in - especially for someone my age!    I mean, not only does it give the spanker the opportunity to make eye contact with me and see my facial expressions as I'm being spanked, but it lets me see just how much he's enjoying giving me the spanking!   Yeah, I can see the smirk of satisfaction on his face as he turns my ass bright red and makes me howl!  And with the two guys grabbing and holding my legs back and wide apart, everything is in view.   My face, my dick, my balls, and even my butt hole!  How humiliating!  Below, you can see how I even get spanked right on my heinie hole!   The most sensitive place on a bottom to get spanked!  And the guys are definitely enjoying exposing my hole and spanking me right on the bullseye!     For this next part of the spanking I'm tied down to a spanking bench and completely immobilized for a hand spanking, strapping and paddling. While the hand spanking isn't that painful, it is certainly humiliating, having another guy slap, squeeze  and fondle your bare backside, knowing you're helpless to do anything to avoid it!  It also gives him the opportunity to spread apart my butt cheeks and expose my heinie hole adding even more to the shame of my punishment!  I didn't realize it at the time but these pictures show my exposed boy hole!  They also show just how turned on I became being bound and helpless as I got the spanking I deserved.   My dick was leaking precum from knowing my dick and balls were pulled back between my legs and exposed to everyone's view as my bottom got spanked red hot!   I'm not sure why, but being tied down to the spanking bench like that, always makes my dick leak like that!   I guess it just shows how much I deserve to be spanked!    While I was on the spanking bench the other two guys got in a little spanking play of their own, but when they were done, one of them wanted me over his knees for another hand spanking.  He pulled my dick and balls back and let them rub against his bare thigh as he spanked my bottom red again.   It's definitely embarrassing for a grown man to be naked and bent over another man's knees getting spanked like a naughty little boy!        Then Bill gave both of us one final spanking.   You can see my bottom ended up much redder than his. It's also more embarrassing being the only one buck ass naked! Watch two videos of me getting that spanking: 2nd Punishment Spanking Part 1 OTK and Belt 2nd Punishment Spanking Part 2 Diaper Position and Spanking Bench   See my previous blog entries here: https://southspanking.com/groups/need2botk/adblog/      

A spanking is much more effective if the person being spanked is embarrassed and humiliated during the spanking.   My spanking friend Jordan once told me that the pain of a spanking is temporary but the shame of a spanking lasts forever.   Jordan's dad knew this and so did the teachers where I went to high school.   The embarrassment and humiliation of a spanking lasts long after the sting of the spanking fades away.   That's why Jordan's dad spanked him naked in the living room in front of his younger brothers and even his own friends, and that's why the teachers in school paddled a guy in front of the entire class.   In fact the gym teachers often waited to paddle a guy until he was buck ass naked in the showers.   Jordan told me how embarrassed he was when he got a boner before his spanking and it ended up pulled back between his legs for his brothers or friends to see as he bucked and squirmed over his dad's knees.   As he kicked and squirmed, even his butt hole was on display.   Likewise when a guy in school had to bend over, grab his ankles, and spread his legs wide apart for a paddling in the locker room, his dick, balls and his hole were in full view of the entire class.   Those teachers always made a show out of paddling a guy's ass.     The photo above from the web shows the way a guy had to "assume the position" for a paddling in the high school locker room if he got paddled in the showers!    There were four classes of 25 students taking gym and showering at the same time, everyone naked, all watching the show the teacher was putting on spanking the guy!   You could see his dick and balls dangling down between his legs, his face looking back and even his butt hole exposed!   Everyone watching was excited.  The paddled guy's humiliation was a major part of his punishment!   Then he had to go back and finish his shower with his red paddled ass on display for everyone to tease him about!   Yes it was all about public humiliation!     The spanking chair helps expose a "boy" being spanked, making a show out of his spanking, adding to his shame and humiliation. That in turn makes him remember the spanking long after the pain of the spanking goes away.   The shame of the spanking will be remembered every time he sees his friends or siblings knowing they saw him spanked in such a humiliating way.  Every time they see him, a smirk will spead across their faces and they will think about his red spanked bottom, and how exposed he was.   That image of him will be burned into their minds forever, and they'll always remember how he was stripped naked and spanked.  He'll remember just how humiliating it was and they'll remember just how hilarious it was!     A guy can be spanked in the spanking chair, or it can be used to completely expose him during corner time.        Here I am kneeling on the spanking chair prior to a spanking.  I'm totally aware my bottom is sticking out just begging to be spanked.      ​   Another humiliating use of the Spanking Chair is to have me spread my cheeks  for a "groove spanking"!   A wooden spoon or a thin lightweight belt would be an effective implement for a spanking in this most tender area!   Any audience will be highly entertained listening to me howl and watching me squirm as I'm warned not to let go and keep my cheeks spread wide apart. Making me participate in my own punishment and humiliation makes the spanking that much more effective for me and makes it that much more amusing for anyone watching!   If I fail to keep myself fully exposed, the "groove spanking" will start over again!  You can also make me stand on the Spanking Chair calling even more attention to my humiliating predicament.  This puts my exposure right at an audience's eye level.   If my friend's were there they would never let me forget the view they had of my dangling balls and my butt hole!   ​  ​​ Kneeling on the spanking chair with a red bottom knowing the spanking is far from over. What I really deserve is to be buck ass naked on the Spanking Chair in front of several of my own friends who are grinning from ear to ear and  enjoying the show.   From that day on they'll know exactly how I GET SPANKED!  I haven't spent time on the "Spanking Chair" in front of a grinning and smirking audience yet, but perhaps someday I will.   For all the times in my youth, I enjoyed watching my friends get spanked  knowing my own bottom was relatively safe from a spanking, It would be poetic justice to find out exactly what that humiliation feels like!   I certainly deserve to spend some quality time, kneeling and standing on the Spanking Chair!   Buck ass naked and totally exposed for everyone to see! Check out my other blog entries here: https://southspanking.com/groups/need2botk/adblog/

My First Punishment Type Spanking I had been getting spankings for about 8 years, but I always felt something was missing. Those spankings started out with a hand spanking warmup and then progressed to leather implements and then sometimes to wooden paddles. They lacked the serious intent like the spankings I watched my friends get growing up. My friend's spankings never had a warmup and they never started over clothes.  They got their pants and underwear pulled down and they got spanked hard and fast, on a bare ass, right from the start.  This was one of my first few spankings at Bill's Basement.  Bill usually gave a much less intense spanking, but I told Bill that I wanted this spanking to be a real punishment type spanking. I told him I needed to be spanked the way a strict dad of the 1950's would punish his teenage son. I said I wanted to be spanked hard and fast right from the start. I also mentioned that I heard a hairbrush was a horrible implement to be spanked with, so I said I wanted my spanking with a brush! Yes I couldn't believe I was actually asking for a hairbrush spanking after all I heard about one.  I asked Bill to strip me naked, bend me over his knees and spank me hard and fast with that brush like a naughty boy!   That's exactly what he did. I had previously always been very stoic during a spanking, hardly uttering a sound. Those hand spanking warmups always got the endorphins flowing and "numbed up" my butt before any serious spanking started. This spanking was entirely different. I never felt my bottom burn so much! I was yelping and gasping for breath in no time. In fact I thought I was going to hyperventilate. I stayed in position for the most part, but to give you an idea of how much my bottom stung, I pushed the bench that Bill was sitting on right out of the view of his camera with just my toes pushing against the floor! Luckily I had my own video camera running too with a wider angle of view that captured the spanking.  My change in reaction must have worried Bill because he stopped the spanking a bit too soon, but I got my first taste of what I'd call a real spanking!              Here's a link to a video of the spanking: https://drive.google.com/file/d/0B0svmfWrnjyPQ0FMQnFkQWY4amc/view?usp=share_link&resourcekey=0-Mujj-c0csbOE9jaSYDiRVA  

©2023 Need2botk It was a very memorable day, the day I got my ass spanked for the very first time and I have to admit it, that spanking was more than 30 years overdue.  Although I was threatened with spankings all the time growing up, I never actually got one!  However, I was fascinated with spanking as long as I can remember.  I loved watching my buddies get spanked when I was a teen.   In fact I've been jerking off to the thought of getting spanked, or thinking about the spankings I’ve witnessed since I was 11 years old.  The one thing that has really turned me on is is thinking about the added shame of a much younger guy spanking me! Then one day I got an online message that said "I'm young and I spank!"  It was from a 23 year old guy that we'll call Matthew and he was offering to give me the real spanking I'd been fantasizing about for so many years!   He was really excited about the prospect of stripping a 47 year old man buck ass naked and putting him just where he belonged, ass up over his knees, for a good sound bare bottom spanking.  He said he likes spanking older men, with nice meaty butts, and from the pictures I sent him, he said I had the “perfect target“.   We missed several attempts at meeting but finally connected that Thursday afternoon.  I was extremely nervous about being spanked,  but Matthew tried to make me feel comfortable.  At least as comfortable as possible for my first time, but to be blunt, I was scared shitless!  This was the first time someone was going to strip me!  Yep, I was going to get spanked naked!  I had no idea what to expect.  I had spanked my own ass many times before, just to see what a spanking might feel like, but this was different.  This was the real thing. I wasn't in control this time.  I was worried he was going to whack my ass a few times and I would change my mind. I didn't want to look like a wimp and was hoping I'd be able to take a hard enough spanking to satisfy this young man.   I figured I had to do this, and since I told him previously that this might be a good day to meet, I just got in my truck and headed toward Matthew's house, figuring I'd call him in route.  I got to his house and was still unable to contact him by phone.  I couldn't believe this!  I had actually worked up the courage to meet up with a guy to give me my first real spanking and he wasn’t home!   I had chatted with a lot of guys that wanted to spank me but I never followed through and actually scheduled a time to meet before.   I wanted to get spanked so bad!  I needed a spanking!  I deserved to have my ass spanked red hot!  After a couple more attempts to call him,  I headed to a store, about 15 minutes from his house to waste some time.  My dick was semi hard the entire time I was in the store and my balls ached just thinking about the spanking I might be in for.  I aimlessly roamed around the store for an hour, the excitement in my crotch and balls, building as I waited.  I tried calling again, my stomach churning and my dick throbbing at the prospect of him answering the phone.  Still no answer!     I wanted to be stripped naked and bent over his knees and spanked so bad!  I had left the store and was headed back toward his house when he finally answered the phone.  I told him I was nearby and asked if he still wanted to to this.  It was like music to my ears when I heard him say "definitely!"  He had previously sent me some photos of himself, but I figured they were pictures of someone else because he looked like a model.  He looked so hot I figured he couldn't possibly be interested in spanking an older guy like me, but when I saw him standing in the driveway waiting for me I realized the pictures he sent were real!  I couldn’t believe my eyes.  I found out later he actually was a model and had done some spanking porn before!  I grabbed the bag out of the truck with my paddles, a video camera and the butt plug he told me to bring with. As soon as we got inside, he got right down to the task at hand and said lets go upstairs.  He just came home from work and was dressed in black dress pants and a white long sleeve shirt.  He took off his shoes and rolled up his shirtsleeves as I set up the video camera to record my first ass spanking. Unlike me - he was so calm and knew exactly what he was doing.  He had me stand in front of him as he pulled my shirt out of my jeans shorts and then up over my head, setting it down on the dresser.  Then I felt his fingertips starting to unfasten my belt buckle, unbutton my shorts and lower the zipper.  Before I knew it, I was stepping out of my jeans shorts, and they were put on the dresser with my shirt.   I was starting to get hard, just like I hoped I would.  Matthew sat down on the bed and me pulled over one knee.  He rubbed my brief clad butt and started to hand spank me.  They were easy smacks, but I think he spent more time feeling the shape and curves of my butt cheeks through my tighty whities.  I wanted to just start humping his leg, but modesty got the best of me and I restrained myself and just laid there submissively.  My legs were shaking uncontrollably and I remember him telling me to relax that I was in good hands. How could I possibly relax?  I just let a guy I never met before strip me down to my briefs,  and I was bent over his knees getting a spanking.  I had never let anyone strip me before and I had never been spanked before.  There was no way I could relax!   The slow soft hand spanks turned into harder faster spanks.  I can remember how nervous I was but at the same time it felt so good laying over this young man's knees, letting him give me that spanking I only dreamed about before. After about 50 hand spanks on my tighty whities, he told me to get up again.  As I obediently stood before him,  I felt his fingertips slip under the elastic waistband of my briefs.  It felt so weird as I sensed his fingertips slide down my flanks as he lowered my briefs and told me to step out of them.   Except for the socks which I forgot about, I was buck ass naked!  Totally bare!   Completely exposed!  There was no being modest anymore, I was naked and under the control of a guy half my age. And I was getting spanked!   He didn’t bother to turn me around to look at how red my ass was.  Nope.  Matthew just pulled me back over his knee, buck ass naked for another spanking.   As humiliating as it was, I wanted to be right where Matthew had me, my naked butt sticking up just begging to be spanked.   I had dreamed of this day so many times, I couldn‘t believe it was actually happening!   The whole thing was so surreal. He hand smacked my bare butt about another 50 times and then I felt him reach underneath me to fondle my dick and balls.  No one had ever touched my dick or balls before!   Usually I am rock hard when it comes to spanking but I was so nervous meeting someone in person to give me my very first real spanking my dick had gone limp with fear.  Between my thoughts of how great this feels,  I wondered if he’d be some sort of nut case.  I wondered if I was going to be safe.   I wondered a lot of things, but most of all I kept wondering if I'd be able to take the kind of spanking I deserved.  A spanking that would leave my butt sore for days.  A real spanking.  He picked up my first paddle, a small pine board drilled with smaller holes.  It was one of the first paddles I made.  I thought back to the time I was in my wood shop, as stood naked, cutting, shaping and sanding that paddle, testing it out on my own backside as it progressed.  I was thinking about how hard my dick was as I carefully drilled each and every hole in that pine board hoping they would help that paddle sizzle my ass. Matthew gave me a couple swats with that pine paddle and rubbed my ball sac again with his hand.  He did what I often do when spanking myself and he rubbed the edge of the paddle through my butt crack.  I must have shuddered and my legs were shaking cause he told me again,  to "just relax"  and pulled both my legs up onto his lap.  I was now laying over both knees with my feet and head on the bed.   God, the feeling was incredible, here I was at last, just like I fantasized about, bare ass naked, over a young mans knees, my naughty butt sticking up in the air just begging him to spank me harder.  Begging him to spank me more, armed with a wooden paddle I personally made for someone like him to blister my ass with.  I kept thinking back to how he told me his own dad used to paddle his ass when he was a kid, and here I was, buck naked, over his knees with my ass just begging for a spanking.  I wondered how he felt having my ass over his lap, turning red, turning hot.  I wondered how he felt having me under his complete control, having a guy old enough to be his own dad laying submissively over his knees so that he could spank me like a naughty little boy.   I gently humped his leg sticking my ass up offering it to him to discipline.  I needed to be spanked, I deserved to be spanked,  I wanted to be spanked.  I hope he got some additional satisfaction knowing he was giving me what I craved. Knowing he was the first one to ever spank my ass! Fifty-four bare ass paddle swats later he switched to another one of my homemade paddles. I made several paddles hoping that a guy like him would put them to use spanking my butt.   A narrow maple paddle without holes.  Some of the paddle companies call it a ruler paddle.  This paddle tends to bruise my butt since it's relatively heavy and it concentrates the sting in a narrow band.  Matthew was using it on my butt, practically  right from the start.  I knew I was going to be sore.  After the first few swats I said how much that paddle stung.  Watching the video afterwards, I noticed he started to set the paddle down, but I knew I needed it, and said "that’s okay - keep going".  He eagerly picked the paddle back up and re-applied it to my heinie.  Some rapid fire, hard swats ensued as he clenched his arm firmly around my waist and held on tight.  He gave me 56 swats with that narrow maple paddle.  God did he ever know how to spank!   I was ordered to stand up again and lean against the bed bent at the waist.  He grabbed my legs and spread them, making my cock and balls visible as he proceeded to give me forty three good hard swats with a cherry frat style paddle drilled with holes.   He was swinging that paddle so hard and fast, I could hear the air whistling through it as the swats approached that target - my naked butt. Each swat set my butt cheeks jiggling making him want to spank me even more.  I can only imagine the incredible view he had as the paddle flattened my cheeks on impact,  and made them bounce back into shape for another swat.  I can only imagine how good he felt knowing he was burning my butt, making it redder and hotter with each swat of the paddle.  Giving me the spanking I needed.  Giving me the spanking I deserved.  I'm sure that seeing my butt bounce like that, knowing it had never been spanked before, seeing my it turn red like that, and hearing my grunts and groans made him want to paddle me even more, paddle me harder, paddle me faster.  He continued to rub my bottom with his hand, feeling the heat, feeling the burn.  Once again I felt the edge of that paddle slide between my red hot butt cheeks, right through my crack.  I stuck my butt out to open up my crack for him, making myself feel so vulnerable as he slid that paddle over my boy hole, but I needed to feel the humiliation of being so exposed.  He must have known from personal experience just what that felt like. The feelings were so incredible, as he alternated between rubbing my butt cheeks with his hand, rubbing my crack with the edge of the paddle, fondling my dangling balls and still limp dick and of course spanking me.  This was the first time I was ever touched there by another guy.  The physical contact forced me to think about just how exposed I was and what a sight I must have been standing there bent over, naked with my butt thrust out, just begging for that spanking! Matthew stopped spanking me for a moment.  Just long enough to unbutton his own shirt and slip it off.   I had to get a look since the sight of another guy's abs and pecs turns me on almost as much as looking at his butt.   He went back to hand spanking me in that same position, bent over the bed.   He stopped spanking me again and walked in front of me so I could see him pulling his belt out of the belt loops on his pants.   I got butterflies in my stomach thinking he was going to give me an old fashioned belt licking, just like my dad often threatened to give me when I was a kid, but he put the belt down as he had other ideas in mind.  He slipped down those black dress pants to reveal a pair of light blue bikini briefs.    The briefs fit him nicely, clinging to his own backside, accentuating the firmness of his own youthful posterior.  The thin material stretched deep into his crack, and the pouch in front was filled out nicely.  It was exciting watching him.  I was buck ass naked getting spanked and my spanker was stripping down too.  He walked back over to where I was leaning against the bed and told me to lay on the bed on my back.  I noticed a darker wet spot on the front of his briefs. The boy was leaking precum!   Paddling my ass was really turning him on!  I was worried he wasn't having a good time since I was just laying there not saying much.  I wanted to squirm and howl, but I didn't want to fake it.  I wanted my responses to be real, and I knew that soon enough he'd be spanking me faster and harder and real reactions would come out.  He looked so hot standing there in his briefs, wet with precum.   He stood there for about a minute letting me size him up, before he slipped down those briefs and took them off, leaving himself bare too.   His backside was small and firm, just the way I like,  and his cock bigger than mine, hanging down with a hefty set of balls beneath it.  I was intrigued, to say the least, as I looked at that perfect specimen of a backside, and thought about his descriptions of how his dad paddled his bare bottom when he misbehaved.     I had never been bare with another guy where I was able to openly stare at his nakedness.  The only time I’d been naked with another guy was in a locker room situation where a quick glance was all that was acceptable.  I was really enjoying the view in front of me.  I would have liked to see it spanked red, but it wasn’t his bottom that was getting spanked.  It was mine.  I didn't get to stare too long as he got up on the bed next to me, facing my feet and swung one leg over my torso.  This was awesome! I was staring right at that sweet butt of his!   I had told him in my emails, that one time when I was in college, a friend of mine who still got spanked by his dad, was changing to go swimming with me.  This guy had the most spankable little butt I ever saw, and when he bent over to slip on his swimsuit, his butt crack must have spread open and I caught a whiff of his ripe little heinie!  When I got home that night, I took a kleenex and wiped my own butt crack with it so I could sniff it while I jerked off imagining that sweet butt of his getting spanked.  I thought about how the aroma of his crack might fill the air as he was over his dad's knees, with his legs spread wide and a paddle fanning his musky little butt hole.  Ever since that day, I would sniff my own dirty briefs or something I wiped through my own butt crack as I jerked off thinking about spankings I've witnessed.  God how I loved the smell of butt crack!  That sweet aroma always made me think of naked butts, and naked butts always made me think about spanking.  A few times when I was camping with this guy, I'd wait until he left the tent to shower, and I'd find his dirty briefs or boxers.  They always smelled so incredible, so ripe and musky.  I'd jerk off humping my pillows imagining him coming back into the tent, catching me naked, playing with myself, sniffing his dirty undies and then punish me with a good hard spanking.  He knew I never got spanked before, and often made comments about how he’d like to whip my ass. He'd say things like "Keep it up mister, and you're gonna get it", or "Just wait until we get home", or "Don't make me beat your ass in front of all these people". He really wanted to spank me so bad!    These must have been things his own dad had said to him before.  I'd think about him saying this stuff to me as I laid naked in the tent, masturbating with the scent of his butt crack filling my senses. I told Matthew how I fantasized about being punished for rummaging through my friend’s dirty laundry and sniffing their ripe briefs and boxers. I told him an appropriate punishment would be to have him straddle my torso, pull my legs up into the diaper position and have him rub his bare naked butt crack up and down my nose, telling me that since I like the smell of butt crack so much, he's going to make me sniff his while he spanks me.   I couldn’t believe he was actually acting out this fantasy.   I felt like I was in heaven!  I got a glimpse of his cock and balls hanging down before I felt them on my stomach and chest as he slid that awesome backside of his closer to my face.  I was loving every second of this.  I noticed his ball sac again as he got closer to me but most of all I noticed his ass crack was spread wide open and I had a clear view of his sweet pucker!  His butt was relatively smooth but he had a light coating of man hair in his crack.  I saw the wrinkles of his rosebud as he pressed it up against my nose and he ground it into my face!   God, that boy's ass smelled good! My first real sniff of another guy's butt crack and it was just like I always imagined it would be.  Not a dirty shitty smell but just the ripe, sweaty,  musky smell of pure athletic male backside.  It's hard to describe, but anyone else turned on by that aroma would know exactly what I'm talking about, and his butt crack was a prime specimen!  He picked up my legs and hooked them under his arms just like I described in my email, so my own crack and hole were completely exposed too!  He picked up the small oak paddle drilled with 5/8" holes and started to paddle my ass as he ground his ripe juicy crack up and down my face, rubbing his butt juice all over me, marking me with the scent of his ass!  As he swatted my bad boy ass, he rubbed the paddle around my cheeks and ran his hand up and down my crack over my hole.  I felt my own dick start to harden as Matthew’s musky hole was grinding up and down my nose and I was eagerly sniffing it, savoring the sweet aroma.  I couldn’t help but think about the view he had of my butt, upended, spanked bright red and offered to him, to touch and spank however he wanted.       Then he said it would be a good time to take out that butt plug that I brought with!  I had never had another guy insert a butt plug or anything else up my ass but I wanted to experience as much humiliation as possible.   Hell, another guy had never even seen my butt hole before!  He kept rubbing my crack and hole with his hand as his own pelvis rocked back and forth over my face.  He hand spanked me as he humped my face with his boy hole.  He slapped my ass and said it was time for my hole to get plugged up.  When he got off of me his own dick was rock hard and sticking straight out!  He loved sticking his ass in my face as much as I loved having it there!  He returned to the bed with my butt plug and a tube of KY jelly. I submissively pulled my legs overhead to offer my most private place, my hole, for him to plug.  He lubed up my hole and then the plug, and it didn't take long for my sphincter to suck the plug up and clamp down tight on it. He straddled my chest again with his sweet bare ass in my face so I could savor more of his ass scent as he spanked me some more with that short oak paddle.   He then got off of me and stood along side of me pulling my legs back closer to my face. putting me in the traditional diaper changing position,  upending my butt even more so he could paddle me another 20 times even harder. Before long I was back over Matthew's knees for 85 more swats with my homemade oak frat paddle drilled with holes.   This time he was naked too!   My limp dick tried to get hard a couple of times, barely long enough for him to notice it, but it didn't stay that way for long with the pain from the paddling.  My dick was pressing right up against his bare leg, and he teased me for a while wiggling and twisting the butt plug and fondling my cock and balls.  Then he grabbed the walnut frat paddle drilled with large holes and he paddled my butt some more, and fondled me as he wished.  I let go of my inhibitions and slowly humped his lap sticking my backside up, offering it to him to spank even more, my crack opening up as I stuck my butt up in the air for him to paddle. I knew I needed a good hard spanking and I wanted him to spank me with that paddle.   He grabbed me tight around the waist again and paddled my ass with hard rapid fire swats until I was gasping for air.  It was really hot watching the video afterwards, hearing the paddle echo off my bare bottom with a resounding smack, and watching my butt cheeks giggle as the paddle impacted. He grabbed me tight one more time, squeezing my backside so it stuck up even more and gave me a fast and furious volley of swats with the frat paddle.   I could feel his hard cock throbbing against my stomach letting me know he thoroughly enjoyed paddling my naked boy butt!  Every time he lit into my bare ass with a hard fast volley of paddle swats, his own dick was sticking straight out hard as a rock.  I was really glad that taking the paddle to my ass excited him so much. Still over his knees he picked up the Jokari paddle, a real butt burner,  and gave me another 75 swats.   Some were slow steady swats and others were fast and furious swats.  I  asked him how my butt was and he eagerly replied "nice and hot!"   Then I was ordered to kneel on the bed with my naked butt in the air, my knees spread wide and my face down on the blanket for another 20 swats with a real fraternity souvenir paddle followed by more hand spanks. He enjoyed twisting and wiggling my butt plug and stroking my limp dick trying to make it hard.   I guess I got a little hard, but not nearly as hard as I would have liked to have been. I was definitely enjoying my spanking, even though my ass was red hot and really sore.  I don't know why my dick stayed limp cause whenever I spank myself it's throbbing hard.  I guess it was just the fact that this was a first time experience and I didn't know what to expect.  No, it was because I was still scared shitless!  I still kept wondering if I would be able to take the spanking Matthew wanted to give me! Plus I was still on edge meeting someone for a spanking for the first time, but I couldn't ask for a better spanker!  He was patient and understanding and I think he really liked having me naked and at his mercy! Still kneeling on the bed, I got another 42 hard fast swats with the holey walnut frat paddle.  He stroked his own hard cock as he spanked me and rubbed my hanging ball sack with the paddle.    These swats were so hard, I could hear the air whistle through the holes in the paddle each time he swung it.  Each hard swat flattened my butt cheeks and made them giggle again as they bounced back into shape.  I was gasping and grunting out in pain as he increased the speed and intensity of the paddling. Once again those rapid fire swats that made me grunt and groan, made my disciplinarian's own dick stand at attention again.  He stroked his own boner as he rubbed my butt cheeks feeling the fire he burned into my boy bottom. Next I was ordered to assume the position with my legs spread wide and my hands on my knees while a paddleball paddle I recently found was used to spank my butt.  The butt plug was still up my ass and he sometimes paddled me right on the plug. He reached around my waist and pulled me up tight to himself, grabbing my cock from the front, and I could feel the firm tone of his own naked body up against me.  I was still bent over with my hands on my knees and I wasn't going anywhere!  He leaned into me whacking my deserving red hot butt with the hardest and fastest set of paddle swats yet.  I was grunting out "oh's and aw's" as he whacked my ass ruthlessly with the big paddle an additional 45 times He noticed some abrasions on my butt that were starting to draw blood so he stopped the spanking.  It wasn't anything serious just abrasions from the hole drilled paddles giving my deserving ass the punishment it needed.  I wanted to be spanked more, but knew it was better if I waited until another time. That spanking occurred on a Thursday and my butt was burning Sunday afternoon. Every time I sat down or leaned my butt against something I was reminded what happens to naughty boys.  They get their butts spanked and spanked hard.  I thought for sure, that I would have black and blue marks all over my butt but Matthew was an expert paddler, and knew exactly how to spank a boy's butt.  I was just really sore for 4 days, but there was no bruising or serious damage. After the spanking we both jerked off.  That was the first time I jerked off in front of anyone and also the first time I saw someone else jerk off in person..  Ever since grade school, I jerked off by humping pillows while envisioning the paddlings I'd witnessed that day in school and thinking about someone spanking me like that. So here I was about to jerk off like that in front of the younger guy that just gave me my first real ass paddling.  It was so embarrassing, but I shamelessly grabbed my clothes, wadded them up into a ball and humped them for all I was worth. He stood over me stroking his own hard cock, while he watched my cherry red butt, that he just spanked that way,  hump up and down.  It was so humiliating having him watch my red ass thrust up and down in a feverish rhythm with that plug still up my hole.  I only wish his sweet boy crack was right there in front of my face so I could sniff it some more as I masturbated.  I did scrunch the area between my lip and nostrils up so I could smell the butt juice he marked my face with while he was paddling me earlier. I'm sure he enjoyed making me sniff his ass as he was definitely boned while he ground his ripe stinky butt hole up and down my nose! This spanking was filled with many first time experiences for me.  It was the first time my butt was spanked for real. It was also the first time anyone put a butt plug up my ass.  The first time I was stripped by someone else and the first time I laid over another man's knees for a spanking. This was the first time someone else saw or touched my butt hole, or ran his fingers through my ass crack.  It was the first time anyone grabbed my cock and stroked it or grabbed my ball sack and it was the first time I got to sniff another guy’s butt crack.   Yes like I said, this was a very memorable day indeed! 

Firstly thank you and hugs to everyone whom has made a donation, I know its a difficult time financially for everyone.   As I said in my last video message, I have listed a number of items on eBay, all money raised will go straight to funding our software delveopment on the the site, I am determined this is the year, we bring it all together.   There are no spanking items for sale, though I will be listing some later on that does not violate eBay's TOS regarding adult content.   My Alienware R7 Gaming Desktop is up for grabs, I have listed it at an over the top price.  The reason for this is to see if anyone here wants to buy it, of course at a deeply discounted price.  I will also throw in Office 2021 and a rather large collection of spanking videos on the hard drive.   I can for obvious reasons only ship within the US, my apologies about that, but its just too expensive to ship abroad.   Our eBay store can be fouind here:    https://www.ebay.com/sch/i.html?item=334759773027&rt=nc&_trksid=p2047675.m3561.l2562&_ssn=usjame-slaqiw        

Someone commented that they had struggled to understand what was going on in my profile picture and then responded "Haa-ha-ha" when they realised it was me ripping my pants and showing a bare backside. Well, there's a bit more to it than that and something that makes it very appropriate for this site. Here goes... I was around 20-years-old at the time, and that's more than 50 years ago, long before cell phones with cameras. So the picture is a fake! I have used photo editing to recreate a true event but I can confirm that the cheeky butt is all mine. Some of you will have worked in an all-male environment and know things can get a bit wild on Friday afternoon when the working week is winding down. Many a lad has found himself stripped naked and delivered red-faced to the lads in the factory down the road. In my case a short split in the back seam of my pants led to me being grabbed and the seam being ripped open, belt to bollocks naked as we say. "Might as well be properly ripped" was  the general concensus. That was bad enough but I found my hands bound together with cable ties before being hauled over a work bench for a spanking. All my work mates joined in slapping my bare cheeks until they were sore and throbbing. Everyone in the factory shed was howing with laughter as I was led round the factory to show off my well-spanked bare arse. Happy days.  

I want to know why you naughty minxy dad's and Tops do the following!   (1).  Our ears are not handles, so why do you insist on marching us boys to the spanking chair or corner by our ears, what the heck is that all about?   (2).  What is the point of corner time, either standing their with our poor red behind on display, or sitting in the corner, what the heck is that all about?   (3).  You do know us boys can take our own jeans and briefs down, we don't need you guys to do it for us, so what the heck is that all about?   (4).  We never lie or fib, we simply mis-remember so why do we get punished for it?  and what the heck is that all about?   (5).  Why do we get spanked for breaking rules or boundaries, because no boy actually ever understands them, so what the heck is that all about?   (6).  Your hand is not soothing when it is applied to our bottoms at high speed, so what the heck is that all about?   (7).  Why do you have to put us over your knees, I mean its really childish, so what the heck is that all about?   (8).  Why can't we spank you when you are naughty, and what the heck is that all about?   (9).  WHY do I have to wear white briefs all the time, and what the heck is that all about?   (10).  Which of you invented the wooden backed hairbrush, and why do you all cherish it so much, AND what the HECK is that all about?   YOU ALL NEED SPANKED!   James

Daddy has had to set out new house rules for me because I got a really bad report card this week. Interested to know your thoughts please. Should any new rules / themes be added? Should any be rephrased?  Let me know by commenting beneath.   Theme: Behaviour & The 3 Ds 1. From this point forward, you will refer to me only as DADDY or SIR.  2. Perfect attendance at school is non negotiable.  3. Bad grades and poor performance in extra curricular activity will not be tolerated. You will recieve a minimum grade of B+ in all future exams. 4. No Disrespect. Always remember that daddy is in charge and you live under his care. You will be polite, respectful and properly behaved at all times. 5. No Disobedience. When daddy gives you a direct instruction you will do it. 6. No Dishonesty. Never lie, you should always be truthful, and forthcoming.  Theme: Chores 7. You are to make your bed, and keep your room visibly tidy, neat and in order at all time.  8. Additional chores will be posted on the fridge showing you your daily routine, which will consist of: chores, projects, homework, and studying. The list will be complete daily. Theme: Dress Code 9. Outside the home you will ensure that you are properly and smartly dressed in school uniform. You are not permitted to wear "casual" clothes at any time. Uniform includes school blazer, white shirt, grey shorts, belt, school tie, long grey socks, black leather shoes and white briefs. 10. At home and on weekends you will only be permitted to wear the following; white briefs, white cotton socks and white vest. 11. At bedtime you will wear standard blue pyjama top and bottoms only. Theme: Bedtime 12. You will report to me every night at 8pm to review the day. You will stand in the corner facing the wall, hands on head, until called. 13. You will be given a bath to ensure cleanliness is maintained. On occasion it may be necessary to wash your insides too by washing your mouth out with soap or given an enema. 14. You will be shaved smooth as a helpful reminder to who is in charge and to ensure good hygeine. 15. Bedtime and lights out is at 9pm sharp.  Theme: Privacy 16. Privacy is privilege, you will leave doors open at all times, even if you are using the toilet. 17. Until grades meet expected standard all electronics including phone, laptop and PlayStation are to be confiscated.  18. You are grounded until further notice. 

There was a blog post that listed  instruments used by different types of Dads and Doms. I assume the post got lost in the crash so just speak from your experience.

Despite the retaking of Twitter by Elon, Twitter has developed into a lively community of adult boys and Daddys who are sharing ideas, swapping stories, conducting polls, providing Daddys advice on how to handle adult boys, and more. In today's post we wanted to share a few of the folks doing yeoman's work revitalising the community there and making it a leading space for the M/m Corporal Punishment Community on the internet.  Before we dive in, we do wanna emphasize the invaluable benefit SouthSpanking.com provides and not take away anything from their great work, and at the same time just provide y'all more resources so you have the 411, the intel to engage with folks with like minds. First, let us introduce @OurFamilyRules which is a Twitter handle dedicated to providing advice to Daddys and celebrating adult boys both red-rumped and otherwise. This @handle features Ace Daddy who covers a variety of key thrills that a wide array of boys and Daddys might find appealing. He covers the idea of withholding a boy's boxershorts and regressing him back into briefs if they misbehave. Basically, his message is, if a boy is going to act like a boy, then you as the Daddy should make him live as a boy. He likes to Spank boys in groups of two (or more). He does a great job with video, showing how this can be done. He scolds at length. For those Daddys out there who could use some tips and tricks on how to do this effectively, be sure to listen to Ace Daddy on the videos he tweets out.  Second, let's look at the words of Daddy-hood from @AmtrakDaddy. He posts random tweets of kindness, affection, warnings to boys, and advice on how to avoid getting into trouble. He tucks littles in with some of his words, he warms other boys' bottoms with other words of wisdom, and he always leaves the adult boys who read his @handle with a sense that there really are Daddys out there who will care for you, even when you do naughty things. Great advice.   Third, there's 'zander. Now we've covered @AlexanderZeeGreat in posts previously, but his @handle has been on fire this fall. 🔥🚒🧯Once Cornertime Confidential got booted from Twitter last summer, it was 'zander's posts that helped us reconnect. His drumbeat about being an adult boy fully embodies our boy ethos. He has been sharing more about his life as a boy who also gets Spankings too. So he's broadened what he covers and will appeal to Daddys worldwide.    There's a ton of other great tweeters out there, so begin your search for those you most connect with! Just wanted to provide you a peek at some of the most active tweeters and those with the deepest content in our space. Even if it's just online for now, connect with your CP Community    Please comment below or email us with your ideas aok4otk@aol.com or cornertimeconf@gmail.com ______________________________________ Follow Cornertime Confidential Wherever You Are:   Tumblr  ∙  SouthSpanking ∙  Twitter  ∙  WordPress

When it comes to spanking sessions, we all have some great memories, some not so great, and sometimes horrible ones. In this blog, I will discuss what to do as a spankee after a spanking session that did not really go as you expected. We will review several possible issues ranging from lack of communication, casting errors, improvised session, unexperienced spanker, flat of nightmare, to down right abuse and rape. There is a gradation in the ways a spanking session could unfold in a way that you didn’t like. Sometimes simple communication with your spanker will solve the problem and your next spankings will be better and better : Like with sex, the first time with a new partner is rarely the best and it takes some time to adjust. Other cases are going to be a bit more complicated : you may have incompatible expectations, he may not be very experienced, or perhaps you did not discuss enough before the meeting. In this case, you may be able to find some common ground if your communication is good, but you may also consider that he isn’t and will never be your type of spanker. And finally, the last case: red flags such as abuse, breach of consent, disrespect for your limits, etc. In this case, flee this spanker and you should consider at least discussing your misadventure with other community members to avoid other going through the same situation, and even sometimes taking your case in front of a court of law. Below is a list of things in the 3 categories mentioned and that are in no particular order of gradation. Things that should be easy to fix if you discuss with your spanker before your next meeting The punishment did not include scenaristic elements or implements that you enjoy The spanking was too light/fast/short The spanking was a bit too hard, but there were no unwanted bruises. He went for an unrealistic roleplay that was not to your liking He did not talk much/enough, and you prefer a verbal spanker He used certain positions, side punishments or instruments that you don’t particularly enjoy He has bad breath and keeps talking very close to your face. He was too nosy about your private life. He faced slapped you without discussing it before Things that may or may not be fixed : He went off course with the scenario you agreed upon. He was insisting on having more than a spanking with you, despite you having clearly said no. You like sex with your spanking, he does not. He clearly did not know what he was doing / he had no experience: implements used too high and/or with weird intensities. The punishment made no sense at all. He kept you butt naked (or naked) way too long before/after/during your punishment and you were very uncomfortable with it. (e.g.: butt naked tea in the middle of your spanking, or a 2h break while talking about the current state of the world). It is not a fit when it comes to body stature. Him or his place were quite dirty and it grossed you out You had way more bruises than what you discussed Other people were here and he did not tell you before hand He lied on his age and/or physical shape. Things that you shouldn’t accept : don’t go back, and report him at least to other community members He filmed you without your consent or with a hidden camera (see my blog on taking pictures for other things that you shouldn’t accept). He got naked and it was clearly not part of what you agreed on. He touched you in ways you explicitly told him that you didn’t want. He ignored the safe word you agreed on, or when you did not consent. The spanking was bloody and it was not at all what you agreed on (and we are not talking about a scratched/ruptured pimple … this can happen) He was clearly drunk or under use when you came to his place He forced you to drink or to use any kind of drug before/during your session : if this happened and any of the other points in this category came up too, then you should consider legal action. He raped you : you must consider legal action. While this blog seems to focus on what the spanker can do wrong, please remember that communicating his desires anf limits is something that only the spankee can do. It would be unfair to blame a spanker for doing something wrong in points from categories 1 and 2 if you failed to communicate properly. With MM spanking falling in the grey area of "consented violence" between adults, communication before and after a meeting is extremely important to reduce de risk of misunderstanding and low quality to bad experience : You need to be two to have a conversation and communicate.

A reader asked an interesting question recently, and we thought it might be a good time to revisit Punishment Spankings. Over the years, we have covered this topic by bringing in the voices of others living in  DD relationships.  Today we hear again from shilo on how it works in her relaionship. There's so much instructive advice here, we felt you just gotta read it. If you'd like tips on how to be a Top who administers a Punishment Spanking, here's a few blogposts that might be able to help: Punishment Spankings and How to Administer Them Here's an example of how my Daddy administered a Punishment Spanking for a real reason. Here's an idea about what to do AFTER the Punishment Spanking Here's a video of one way to deliver a Punishment Spanking What do you consider a Punishment Spanking to be?   Today’s guest blog post brings Cornertime Confidential readers one person’s viewpoint on how a Punishment Spanking should be administered. I’m not actually in agreement here with all the specifics that our guest blogger, shilo, spells out here. However, what this blogpost brings is a fresh perspective.  While that blog is about married couples implementing Domestic Discipline, I think there are still useful learnings here worth sharing. See what you think. And as always, Cornertime Confidential values your feedback, just click on the “comment” button at the bottom of the post to have your voice heard.   [The following is freely adapted to adult boys and the Men Who Spank them. This is not shilo's original post—nor could it be, given this blog is devoted to M/m Corporal Punishment—and you'll note a particular alteration in the use of pronouns. As a point of further clarification, I have made clarifying remarks throughout and added in a bit where thoughts were not completely fleshed out. In the final section, I have adjusted the content for adult boys entirely.]   __________________________ Punishment Spankings and How to Administer Them by shilo wace* I wanted to talk a bit about giving a Spanking. Not as a person who gives them myself, but one who receives them. Of course, I know there are many ways to administer physical punishment so as I speak about how a solid no-nonsense Spanking should be given, it’s of course through my personal experiences and beliefs on how it should be. In the end, it’s my duty to accept however the Punishment is given, but that does not stop me from having an opinion about it. Let’s start by discussing The Punishment Spanking (as opposed to a Maintenance Spanking or playful Spanking). Punishment Spankings are meant to be unpleasant.   Punishment Spankings are meant to be unpleasant. As the Disciplinarian, you will be punishing a behavior or action. To do that effectively, you’ll want to consider several key elements that will create a memorable experience your boy will not forget.   Selecting the Right Spanking Tool First, a tool should be selected, the disciplinarian needs to know exactly what implement he will be using to administer the Spanking. A Punishment Spanking requires the use of a Spanking Tool, not just your hand. HandSpankings should be reserved for lighter less serious offenses. HandSpankings are also more personal and even considered more loving, this too is not in accordance with a Punishment Spanking.   Select the Right Spanking Tool The disciplinarian should select which implement he will be using and then commit to that implement not deciding to change it just before a Spanking is given. Don't use multiple Spanking Tools. Having the Spanking stop so he can switch to a spoon, or strap, just to stop again switching to a different tool a few minutes later turns the act of correction into some type of game. Personally, I feel this switching up makes the disciplinarian look somewhat unprofessional and unprepared. Like a child in a candy store jumping from one treat to the next.   [Note From Cornertime Confidential: we completely disagree with shilo here. We think if Daddy is in the middle of paddling, and his hand is tired of using The Hairbrush, we don’t see why he can’t just have his boy get off his lap, and send the boy to go get The Spanking Stick or The Wooden Spoon or The Paddle. It gives Daddy a break (and the boy a break!) and helps extend the length of time required to finish punishing.]   "Spankings" require a rigid, hard item which can deliver a stinging blow   When choosing an implement you first must decide what type of physical correction is going to be administered: A Spanking means you’re going to choose a tool such as a wooden paddle, hairbrush, wooden spoon or some type of rigid, hard item which can deliver a stinging blow. A Whipping means you are going to choose something such as a switch, cane, strap, cord or some type of flexible lightweight rod which will deliver a sharp concentrated lash. Once you have chosen a tool you can decide if you will have it ready in the area where you plan to administer the Spanking, or if he will have to retrieve the implement and bring it to you. Either way can be very effective.  Being sent off to get whatever is going to be used on you can be very humbling Being sent off to get whatever is going to be used on you can be very humbling, and on the other hand coming into a room and seeing the tool that will be used can immediately send butterflies into a boy’s tummy and upper throat. Certain tools such as a switch is always better if he is sent out to cut and prepare it himself. This is part of a ritual and is more effective than if it is already trimmed and cleaned.   Now that you have the Spanking Tool selected, and you know how it’s going to be presented, next you need to know how and where you will be administering the Spanking.   The Spanking Ritual I am a big believer in rituals, so having a special location you consistently use I feel is always best. So when you say “okay young man, go to the Punishment Room and wait for me” or “it’s time we take a trip to The Woodhed” he knows exactly what is going to happen without you just blurting out “I’m going to beat your behind.”   “it’s time we take a trip to The Woodshed” [Note: having a set Punishment Spanking ritual should not be a rote memorized experience. You can always vary it based on the circumstances. However, having a central ritual helps establish the tone and helps your boy get in the right headspace.]   The room you choose should already be prepared beforehand with whatever Spanking Chairs or Tools you need—unless you intend for your boy to retrieve that Spanking Tool as mentioned above. The room/area should be clean and free of clutter and not full of toys or stuff more professional than playful. I completely understand that you cannot be prepared for all situations and ready to go.  There will be times that certain behaviors may require immediate correction and other times you may be traveling far from the Domestic Discipline environment you have set up.      However you should be prepared for both these events and have a plan if such actions are necessary. [note: you should have a plan between you for what is acceptable resolution for bad behavior while travelling or in public: administering hotel spankings, pulling over on the side of the road, having a signal for a time out when in a group setting that requires he stop and meet you outside for a talkin’-to, etc.]   Go To Your Room   When in the Domestic Discipline home, preparing a room beforehand is still the best policy, and postponing punishment until everything is in place is worth the time. You can certainly have him stand in The Corner or take a bath as you prepare. Having him prepare for a Spanking is part of a good punishment ritual is well. Having a special punishment outfit, boyish underpants, athletic shorts, pajamas, etc., he would have to put on before going to the designated room, or the knowledge that once in the room he has to remove all of his clothing and put them away neatly and out of sight will certainly get him ready both physically and mentally.   Now that you’re both in the room, and he is standing before you in his embarrassing punishment dress or as naked as a newborn, this is the time you need to have a serious and controlled discussion with him about the behavior for which he is being corrected. He needs to be told that this is not for play or his pleasure, but this is a serious punishment to take him down a peg or two.   Scolding Do not go easy on him. Scold him: Identify the Misbehavior. Explain in detail how his behavior has earned him this punishment. Identify what’s required of him to fix things. Explain what is expected out of him in the future what to do to avoid further punishment.  This is very important, disciplinarians that do not scold properly or just assume he knows exactly why he’s being punished are making a communications mistake.   Avoid Making a making a Communications Mistake.   A good scolding should have your boy remorseful or even in tears before the first swat ever lands. If you are unsure how to scold properly, take the time to do some research.   [Note From Cornertime Confidential: we find scolding technique is particularly well done by Magic Spanking Factory’s Daddy and SpankingCentral.com’s Clifton Meador. These are good places to start looking for tone, attitude, and delivery of the talkin’-to].   You can certainly have him stand in The Corner or take a bath as you prepare.   Scolding is not yelling, and not belittling. It is explaining exactly how he disappointed you. And for most adult boy’s disappointing someone they care about can be more punishment than any Spanking. Do not rush the scolding, take your time, and let each word sink in. This is not the time for him to argue with you or give his side of the story. He is only to listen and to answer any of your questions with yes or no or what many Daddys require, “Yes, Sir” or “No, Sir.” The time for his side of the story past as soon as he was ordered to get ready for punishment. As a disciplinarian if you allow him to continue to argue with you, backtalk you, or give you attitude and you have lost control of the situation.  You need to regain it quickly. It is not a game to punish adult boys, and he should not disrespect you. Managing Misbehaviour During The Spanking  Once everything that needed to be said had been said then it’s time to move to the penalty phase of the punishment, which in this case is to administer the Spanking or the Whipping. You should have him move into position quickly such as over your knee, across your lap, bending over a chair, touching his toes, etc. Telling him to touch his toes does not mean putting his hands on his knees or grabbing his ankles, it means putting his fingertips to his toes, or placing his fingers underneath his toes. If he is not physically capable of actually bending forward to touch his toes, then the directions should be something along the lines of “Place your hands on your knees.”  "...trying to block his bottom with his hands is not only disrespectful and shows lack of obedience, but also it can be dangerous." It is a form of disrespect if he only bends far enough to put his hands on his knees when you instructed him to touch his toes. Don’t let him get by with that. Once you have him in the proper position you can give him any further instructions necessary, even if he’s heard them before, such as “Keep still! No kicking! No rubbing  your bottom!” Reminding him that his only job is to stay in place and not to try to prevent his Spanking in any way helps to establish who is actually in charge here. Excessive moving, or trying to block his bottom with his hands is not only disrespectful and shows lack of obedience, but also it can be dangerous. His cooperation is for his own good, so say so clearly and distinctly. Yelping, crying, and screaming should be expected, but there is no reason for him to talk or ask or beg for anything. He should not say any words at all. Begging or pleading is an attempt to reduce his punishment and should be treated the same way as if he was trying to block your access to his bottom with his hands or move out of the way. Excessive noise should also be addressed as you see fit. Excessive noise should also be addressed as you see fit.   The first swat should come quickly and hard. It should sting quite a bit and make him yelp out in both shock and pain. He is being punished and there is no such thing as a warm up Spanking for adult boys who are being punished. The only reason you might want to use a warm up Spanking is to lower his sensitivity and make the Spanking last longer. That again should be up to you, and you should consider this in the larger scope of what you are trying to achieve here. If it’s behavior improvement, then you might want to apply just a short sharp shock. If, however, you want something out of this too, you will want to find ways of prolonging this severe discipline by varying the intensity, so you aren’t wasting your time.   The Spanking should continue had a hard steady pace and go for quite some time. A disciplinarian needs to remember that he has chosen to participate in this relationship, and he should not be timid about delivering a sound Spanking. Spank him with enough force to ensure a very sore, fairly bruised bottom. He is not made out of glass. You’re not punishing him to break him, but you are disciplining him to keep him in line. That cannot be achieved with an adult boy by a gentle warning.   There is no need to set the amount of strokes or a set time, either. This is your free time to discipline as you see fit, so naturally, you certainly can do this if you wish. It’s best to remember that your boy is being punished, and it may be better to continue the punishment until the disciplinarian feels that he has reached the level of remorse he is looking for. This could vary on any given day, so there’s no reason that the spontaneity you have in your regular Domestic Discipline relationship cannot be secured during different Punishment Spankings.   "...it’s the bond you create with your words and your deeds during these high-impact emotional and physical moments."    Aftercare and Reinforcement of the Message Even though this is a Punishment Spanking, it’s always okay to be tender and forgiving. He has taken his punishment, and  whatever his misdeed, it has been paid for. You can hold him as he cries or whimpers or stamps his feet, and/or let him know that it’s over. It will not be discussed again, so long as his behavior aligns with your expectations that you set down during the scolding and now after the Punishment Spanking. It helps to reinforce the message behind the Spanking, for example, “I don’t want to see you do that again. Look me in the eye, and tell me you heard what I just said.”  If he was good and remained still for his Spanking, you might consider praising him for his obedience. Adult boys are the most submissive right after a Punishment Spanking. Showing him tenderness and love is what he needs most at this point and will ensure his continued obedience to you. Yes, he’ll screw up again, and yes, you’ll have to administer future Punishment Spankings. But ultimately, it’s the bond you create with your words and your deeds during these high-impact emotional and physical moments that will bond you most effectively to one another as Daddy and boy.   __________________________ *From August 2015 Please comment below or email us with your ideas aok4otk@aol.com or cornertimeconf@gmail.com ______________________________________ Follow Cornertime Confidential Wherever You Are: Tumblr  ∙  SouthSpanking ∙   WordPress  ∙  Twitter  

Hello everyone,   I have been wading through our logs, figuring out the recent crash and I have other inportant information to update you with.  Firstly there was no security breech, it was a database crash.   Secondly our backup routine had failed, resulting in the loss of a few months of videos.   Also very importantly, our two year commitment contract with our hosting provider will expire on 28th October.Normally about this time, I look at finding a better spec server for a similar or lower price, however its not going to happen this time around.  Our prices will increase, but if I do another two year commitment before our contract expires, its only going up  by $20 a month, but that is still $240 per year.   I analyzed our traffic logs, we actually do not have to upgrade the server at all, we are consistantly below 350 Mpbs, actually usually way below that, given that our port speed can handle 500 Mpbs (incoming and out going), I see no need to upgrade  To put that into perspective the server can process 62.5 Megabytes of data every second.  That is more than enough for our site, and very likely will last us at least the next two years and probably longer.    Instead of looking at server upgrades, I am looking into upgrading our caching service, at the moment we use an open and free version of the software which has some restrictions and does impede performance.  I am looking at a license that will eliminate those restrictions, but as always there is a cost, which is currently $17 per month or $204 annually.  If we do that, our annual costs (including the server price increase) will increase by a total of $444 (an unusual number for sure).   It is substantial.   I do need to take this all into consideration when making my final decision on the best way forward.  The initial server work I am planning will involve the following:   Refresh the server. Refresh the database. Install the most recent version of the software script. Install a reliable opensource backup software with a GUI. Complete a security audit. Configure email server and reverse dns. Setup email registration. Allow password resets by email.   I will provide updates as I go along, and let you know my decisons.   James                

Hello everyone, I know there are still some issues, since the crash.  I will be free in a couple of days from now, to begin work, getting things back functioning correctly. Part of that work will be refreshing the server, updating the OS and setting up email verification and email password resets. There will be some downtime, but I think we can all agree it will be worth it. My thanks to everyone for their pateince, especially our admins, helping out at a very difficult time for me. I will update you when there will be downtime in advance and setup a seperate status page. Also do remember naughty boys get spanked .. especailly Jonny!   hugs   James  

Got this lovely email in my inbox and wanted to share with y'all. It's emails like this that really make us feel like the pandemic is really really  finally over. The Spanking Community is back and with the availability of the monkeypox vax, we're rarin' to go. Get out there and meet the boy of your dreams....or switch, or Daddy, or.... ________________________________________ "We want to let you know the dates for Camp Red Tails 2023 so you can put them on your personal calendars. Camp Red Tails will be Thursday, July 20 to Tuesday July 25, 2023, most campers arrive on the first day, Thursday.   "Camp Registration is NOT open yet!  However, we will surely send you another email as soon as Registration opens, sometime in November or December at the latest.   We hope you had a great summer, and we look forward to seeing you at our next Camp Red Tails!   John, John & Dan   Website:  www.campredtails.com         Please comment below or email us with your ideas.   ________________________________________ Follow Cornertime Confidential Wherever You Are:   Tumblr  ∙  Twitter  ∙  Blogger  ∙  WordPress    

Dear users, I am pleased to inform you that we have found a possible source for the problem that has been affecting our website since yesterday. If you are interested in technical details : - The video module apparently crashed during a video upload yesterday around 7:40pm EST. It has since been updated, rebooted and fixed. - The database had errors in at least one table that handle the feed. These errors which might have been caused by the video module (our best guess is that an index went out of bound after being crashed by a failed video upload), and have now been fixed.   What you should read if you are not interested in the technicalities : Videos upload are now authorized. However, since we are still not sure about what caused the crash, we kindly ask you not to upload more than 1 video per account and per day. Video upload is a heavy process for the website, and the last thing we want is another crash because you all decided to put your videos back online at the same time. It appears that we will not be able to recover the feed at the moment. However, your albums, pictures, blogs and groups are still here and can be found in your profile ! If you want your albums back on your wall feed, your best option is to re-upload 1 picture in each of them. However, like for the videos, we invite you to take things slow. Please do not flood the main feed and the server by all updating your albums at the same time ! I will keep you posted if there is anything new. But I doubt that much more will happen before James returns.   Cheers ! -- LordZasz

Dear users, as you might have seen, we are currently experiencing issues with the feeds (main and individuals) as well as with the videos. We do not know yet what caused the problem nor if it can easily be fixed. With James being unavailable due to personnal circumstances, I am the Administrator with the highest level of access. However, I don't have as much access as James does, nor his in depth knowledge of the website. I will try my best to figure out what is going on with the other administrators, and hopefully fix the problem. However, you should know that there is a risk that we may not be able to fix things, and that the videos might be lost.   Here is what we know so far : - All feeds other than feeds that include direct references to other users seems to have disappeared - Only 22 videos seem to have survived the crash : the ones that were posted in groups. - pictures and photos albums are still here, they can be seen on profiles, but have disappeared from the feeds. - Blogs are still here - Groups are still here - We don't seem to have any back-up to restore lost content, and even if the videos are still here somewhere, manually relinking them is not an option. - The problem might come from the video uploading module which is currently not responding, but it is not clear how or why it may have crashed all feeds.   What can you do :  - You may keep posting blogs, pictures, albums, and refurnishing the feed. What you can't/shouldn't do :  - Don't try to post any new videos. [we have blocked it]  - Do not repost all your pictures just to make new links in your feed.   I will keep you posted if we make any progress.

A Letter From a Reader In a recent letter, bobby asked Cornertime Confidential a few questions and posed a few concerns we thought we'd cover today. There's a lot of variables for you to know about before you embark on a Domestic Discipline (DD) relationship. I write about this a lot and every 2nd week of December in my blog is the "Domestic Discipline Celebrations Week" which has a week's worth of different posts about various elements of how to make it manifest in your relationships I am intrigued by Domestic Discipline. How do you feel about it? I think for me it's a preferred relationship style. I do not currently have a DD relationship as we did before the pandemic, so I'm talking about what it was like up until March 2020. But many of the things that Domestic Discipline taught us as a couple is to be better partners to one another. It seems intriguing but I don’t know how I would feel about giving up control on a long term basis.  I only give up control on a short term basis. We have to spend most of our lives living as equals or else our friends and family and neighbors would freak out. How do you make sure it doesn’t become abuse?  I think that's the same for any impact play or other non-vanilla play. Boundaries, limits, communication. Checking in all the time as the Dom. Knowing that you have times set aside to approach Daddy appropriately to discuss if a Punishment was too intense or unfair or out of bounds. Some of the stuff on your site talks about Spanking in front of others, which doesn’t seem great unless that was totally agreed to beforehand.  I agree completely. If you do not discuss beforehand and the boy isn't aware of what those boundaries are and isn't a part of establishing what is acceptable and what is not, then it's not truly a DD relationship. It's just an unfair one. I argue for boys to be empowered, fight back, don't just passively get punished. Make DD vibrant and alive, but be prepared for the consequences when you do. That means if you're in public (and you and Daddy have established these as acceptable) a public Spanking may get doled out. Most 99.99%) of Daddys are as conscious of public Spanking as you are. They do not want to caught Spanking an adult male in public because it could reflect badly on them too! But if a boy does act out in public, there's NOTHING to prevent Daddy saying, "We'll address this when we get home." Sometimes the anticipation of a Spanking is worse than the actual Spanking itself. Please comment below or email us with your ideas. ________________________________________ Follow Cornertime Confidential Wherever You Are: Tumblr  ∙  Twitter  ∙  Blogger  ∙  WordPress