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So I have not worked out all the details yet to make this real fun, but here are the basics:   You get a group of dads and a group of boys.   Each boy picks a color coded card, for example white, grey, red and blue.   The boys then change into briefs of the corosponding color they picked from the card, but out of sight of the dads.   The dads then choose a single card each with the same colors as the briefs the boys are now wearing.   So we could just have each boy gets spanked by the dad with the same color as the briefs they are wearing , but we want more fun than that, right?   Maybe a certain color is an ACE card, or trump card?   What else could we do to make it more interesting? come on thinking caps on!   Hmmm different color of cushions on the spanking chairs .... think think think!        
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  Impact play in BDSM can offer participants a range of benefits, both physical and psychological. Physically, it can stimulate the release of endorphins, providing a natural high and reducing stress. The sensation of impact can also enhance sensory experiences, heightening arousal and pleasure. Psychologically, impact play allows for the exploration of power dynamics and the establishment of trust and intimacy between partners. Through clear communication and negotiation of boundaries, participants can delve into their desires, pushing personal limits and fostering personal growth. Additionally, impact play provides a space for self-expression and exploration, allowing individuals to embrace and celebrate their sexuality in a safe and consensual environment. Overall, impact play can enhance connection, satisfaction, and personal empowerment within BDSM relationships. It was fascinating for me the first time when I read about the hormones that the brain and body produce during and after impact play to reduce the sudden pain quickly. I started to discover how the brain injects your whole body with certain hormones that you get into something like a sugar rush but it turns into something else. It’s well known as the subspace and the Domspace. Subspace and Domspace Subspace and domspace are psychological states that individuals may experience during BDSM activities: Subspace: Subspace is a psychological state often experienced by submissives during BDSM play. It typically involves a deep sense of relaxation, euphoria, and altered consciousness. Submissives may enter subspace in response to intense sensations, such as pain or pleasure, or as a result of psychological surrender and submission to a dominant partner. In this state, submissives may feel detached from reality, experience time distortion, and have reduced awareness of their surroundings. Subspace can enhance feelings of trust, connection, and vulnerability between partners and can contribute to a deeply fulfilling BDSM experience. Domspace: Domspace is a psychological state experienced by dominants during BDSM play. It involves a heightened sense of control, confidence, and focus. Dominants may enter domspace as they take on their role of power and authority, directing and guiding the submissive partner's experience. In this state, dominants may feel a sense of empowerment, mastery, and satisfaction in fulfilling their partner's desires and pushing boundaries. Domspace allows dominants to immerse themselves fully in the BDSM dynamic, leading with confidence and assertiveness while prioritizing the safety and well-being of their submissive partner. Both subspace and domspace are deeply personal and can vary in intensity and duration from person to person. They require clear communication, trust, and mutual understanding between partners to ensure a safe and fulfilling BDSM experience. It's essential for participants to be aware of the potential psychological effects of subspace and domspace and to establish aftercare routines to support each other's emotional well-being after BDSM activities. Hormones that are released during and after impact play During an impact scene in a dominant-submissive dynamic or even a Top and a bottom who have a good level of trust and mutual understanding, various chemicals can be released in the brain and body due to the physical and emotional sensations experienced. Some of these chemicals may include: 1. Endorphins: These are natural painkillers that the body produces in response to pain or stress. Endorphins can create feelings of euphoria and pleasure, helping to mitigate the sensation of pain during impact play. Some new researchers said that it improves immunity as well. 2. Adrenaline: Also known as epinephrine, adrenaline is released in response to stress or excitement. It increases heart rate, blood pressure, and energy levels, preparing the body for action. You should be careful with bottoms or subs who have high blood pressure problems. 3. Dopamine: This neurotransmitter is associated with pleasure and reward. It can be released during enjoyable activities, including BDSM play, contributing to feelings of pleasure and Dopamine plays several important roles in the brain and body: Reward and pleasure: Dopamine is often referred to as the "feel-good" neurotransmitter because it is involved in the brain's reward system. It plays a central role in reinforcing behaviors that are pleasurable or rewarding, such as eating delicious food, engaging in enjoyable activities, or experiencing social interactions. When dopamine is released in response to these activities, it creates feelings of pleasure and satisfaction, motivating individuals to seek out those experiences again in the future. This is why it’s not advised to use fear or aggressive real humiliation during impact play. These can turn off the desired good effects. Motivation and goal-directed behavior: Dopamine is also involved in motivation and goal-directed behavior. It helps to drive individuals to pursue goals, take action, and exert effort to achieve rewards. Dopamine levels tend to increase when individuals anticipate or receive rewards, leading to increased motivation and engagement in goal-oriented activities. At first, I was surprised that some of my partners asked me for impact play after good accomplishments they achieved. I didn’t know about the link before. Motor control: In addition to its role in reward and motivation, dopamine is involved in motor control and coordination. It helps to regulate movement and muscle function, playing a critical role in fine motor skills, coordination, and balance. Mood regulation: Dopamine is implicated in mood regulation and emotional processing. Imbalances in dopamine levels have been associated with various mood disorders, such as depression and bipolar disorder. Optimal dopamine functioning is important for maintaining stable mood and emotional well-being. Impact play can mitigate depression yet it’s not recommended with anxiety, in my opinion. Cognitive function: Dopamine also plays a role in cognitive function, including learning, memory, attention, and decision-making. It helps to facilitate information processing in the brain, allowing individuals to focus on relevant stimuli, learn from experience, and make adaptive decisions. 4. Serotonin: Serotonin plays a role in regulating mood, emotions, and social behavior. It can be released during pleasurable activities, contributing to feelings of well-being and contentment. It also affects appetite and digestion in a good way. This is why we feel hungry after a scene and the food tastes more delicious than usual. It has an amazing effects on social behaviour and bonding. This is why I always recommended aftercare for everyone after hard scenes. 5. Oxytocin: Oxytocin is often referred to as the "love hormone" or "bonding hormone" because of its role in facilitating social bonding, trust, and attachment between individuals. Some of the key functions of oxytocin include: Bonding and attachment: Oxytocin plays a central role in promoting bonding and attachment between individuals. It is released in response to various social cues, such as physical touch, eye contact, and positive social interactions. Oxytocin enhances feelings of trust, empathy, and connection, fostering close relationships between partners who are in a relationship or a dynamic. Stress reduction: Oxytocin has been shown to have stress-reducing effects, helping to counteract the physiological and psychological effects of stress. It can promote feelings of relaxation, calmness, and well-being, buffering against the negative impact of stress on the body and mind. Social behavior: Oxytocin influences various aspects of social behavior, including empathy, generosity, and cooperation. It promotes prosocial behaviors and facilitates social bonding and cooperation within groups. Oxytocin has been linked to increased trust and cooperation in social exchanges and may play a role in fostering social cohesion and harmony. Sexual arousal and intimacy: Oxytocin is involved in sexual arousal and intimacy, enhancing feelings of pleasure and bonding during sexual activity. It is released during physical intimacy and orgasm, contributing to feelings of connection and satisfaction between partners. These chemicals can contribute to the intense emotional and physical experiences often reported by individuals engaging in BDSM activities, including impact scenes in dominant-submissive dynamics. However, it's essential to prioritize safety, communication, and consent to ensure a positive and fulfilling experience for all parties involved. Safety In my opinion, do not involve someone who has one of the following conditions into any hard impact play: Top psychological and physiological disorders that may prevent a submissive from engaging in impact play: Post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD): Trauma survivors may experience triggers or flashbacks during impact play, making it emotionally distressing or retraumatizing. Be extremely careful and communicate more. Use the traffic light all the time. Anxiety disorders: Individuals with generalized anxiety disorder, social anxiety disorder, or other anxiety disorders may find that impact play exacerbates their symptoms, leading to heightened anxiety or panic. Panic disorder: People with panic disorder may experience sudden and intense episodes of fear or panic during impact play, making it unsafe or unpleasant for them to participate. Deep Depression: Individuals with depression may lack the energy or motivation to engage in BDSM activities, including impact play, due to symptoms such as fatigue, low mood, and loss of interest in pleasurable activities. Do not ever push anyone or you will handle ethical and legal consequences. Chronic pain conditions: Conditions such as fibromyalgia, arthritis, or chronic back pain may make impact play uncomfortable or painful for individuals, limiting their ability to participate safely. Joint disorders: Individuals with joint disorders such as arthritis or hypermobility syndrome may be at increased risk of injury during impact play, particularly if they have reduced flexibility or stability in their joints. Sensory processing disorder: People with sensory processing disorder may have heightened sensitivity to physical sensations, making impact play overwhelming or distressing for them. Physical disabilities: Certain physical disabilities or mobility limitations may impact an individual's ability to engage in impact play safely or comfortably. Communication disorders: Individuals with communication disorders such as autism spectrum disorder or social communication disorder may find it challenging to navigate the verbal and nonverbal communication required for consensual BDSM play. Substance use disorders: Substance abuse or dependence can impair judgment, coordination, and emotional regulation, increasing the risk of injury or harm during impact play. It's important for individuals to consider safety as a top priority. Forcing someone is to be considered unethical and illegal. Know your partner very well before engaging yourself with people you do not know. Thank you for reading. I hope you learned something new. WisDom ————————- References Health Line: https://www.healthline.com/health/happy-hormone#:~:text=Serotonin%3A%20This%20hormone%20and%20neurotransmitter,and%20strong%20parent%2Dchild% https://www.healthline.com/health/happy-hormone Harvard Health: https://www.health.harvard.edu/mind-and-mood/feel-good-hormones-how-they-affect-your-mind-mood-and-body Modern Age: https://modern-age.com/blog/how-do-hormones-affect-intimacy ————————- I strongly recommend that you read about subdrop and domdrop after a scene/session https://fetlife.com/users/11296680/posts/10522245
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Well guys, I have been spanked, it was a long session that brought a few tears with it.  I deserved it though and I am grateful to my Dad Denis, for taking his time to administer the spanking I know was both needed and deserved.    I know all boys have different pain thresholds when they get spanked, and while its true I do get my fair share of spankings, you may besurprised to learn that I get a good ‘warming’ by hand before the actual punishment begins.  Once I am over and in just the right position, hestarts with gentle swats, he uses his hand to slap both cheeks at the same time, over and over.  The slaps get harder as the minutes pass, untilI am yelping a bit and squirming, the reason for the ‘warming’ is to prepare my bare bottom for the punishment he has in mind.   After the ‘warming’ the slaps are much harder, his hand is always straight, never cupped and he always rests his hand after each spank on whatever part of my bottom his hand lands on, for a couple of seconds.  Then the next punishment spank is delivered and the process continues until I am begging him to stop and as all boys do making my promises to be good.   Today though I also got the brush, so after the punishment hand spanking was completed, I was sent to the corner to reflect on my behavior,for five minutes.  As I feared when he released me from corner time he had the little wooden brush in his hand, I felt like a condemned manwalking over to his lap.  It hurts guys, the brush really does sting, I mean even with a hand warming, dang did I feel well punished when hestopped.  And it wasn’t over, dad always begins my spankings by hand and always finishes them by hand, and when he had finally decided Ihad enough I was given post spanking corner time.   I am still being punished, while I completed the pre spanking and post spanking corner time, I am in the  wooden naughty chair for a fewhours.  Its probably not what you think, the chair is used in lieu of lengthy corner time, essentially, I am confined to a tee and socks only andmust take the chair with me, wherever I go.  If I want to watch TV, I have to sit on it, not the comfy sofa, if I want to sit in the backyard, again Ihave to take it with me, and even now at my computer I am sitting on it with a very red and sore bottom.   I am going to post my thoughts as a series, I think it will be interesting to hear views and opinions which I believe may differ greatly and honestly that is just fine, that is as it should be.   Spankings for some, are a learning experience and a defined punishment and for others they simply want to feel the heat and pain.  Whatever the reason for a boys spanking be it punishment, fun or possibly a couple of guys playing and switching roles, I say great!  Nothing wrong withany of it.   Another point gentlemen, is to be careful for what you wish for, and I am serious.  I often hear other guys comment how lucky I am to be in a 24/7 discipline relationship, well trust me its not as simple as you think and not as much fun either.  It is safe to say that couples that do use discipline and spanking in their relationships are not all equal, different standards and reasons for punishment exist. Most importantly while it is a foundation block of their relationships, their entire lives do not revolve around punishment.   That said it is a wonderful relationship and has many advantages and they key is dependability and reliability.  There is very little point in a boy deciding when or when he does not deserve or need a spanking, choosing to either accept or reject his discipline as it suits him, will simply not work.  Once rules have been agreed upon, expectations, goals and acceptable behavior decided upon, its his dad that decides when, why and how punishment happens.  It must be dependable.  Trust me there are way way many times when I have tried to talk my way out of being spanked, and really would rather have been anywhere else in the world, than with my pants and briefs down being scolded by dad.   It never matters, once my bottom has been bared, I know I am going over his knees, no exceptions and regardless of my promises or pleading for leniency.  As far as Dad is concerned, I have been naughty and its time for my punishment, a good spanking over his knees.   Our rules have changed over the years, but essentially, they revolve around well being and health, obedience and manners as well as more defined ones such as chores etc.  In a dad/son relationship obedience is really important, because as a boy you need to be mindful, respectful and accept your dad’s authority.   I also believe the relationship does depend a lot on a boy’s acceptance of being a boy, his nature and personality.  I am good natured, love a joke and fun but I also accept the fact that in someways at least I am immature and submissive to a dad’s authority.  There are many dad’s on this site and quite a few tops that I respect and without mentioning names, if one of them told me to come stand between their legs, I would do so and submissively put my hands on my head.  I wouldn’t just anyone spank me, it’s a sort of radar or ‘boydar’ if you will.  Although Denis my Dad is the one that tends to my discipline on a regular basis, I have been spanked by other dads from time to time with Denis’s full knowledge and approval.   So share your thoughts?
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As most of you know, I am married, but seeking a Daddy to blister my ass at times that I misbehave. My wife and I found one, however she has not used him yet. I sent her this email: “I have given this some thought, and I don't think that you should put up with me being an ass when you need me to take care of you. Next time I do it contact Daddy and encourage him to blister my ass. After all, I brought it on myself. Don't get me wrong, I absolutely despise the pain, but I live for the discipline. Unless you are totally against me having a Daddy, call him the next time, no matter how much I might try to backtrack...................I need this in my life. Although, when it is happening, I will hate every second of it. Don't let me get away with it one more time! I feel bad when I do it and now, I need to pay the price.” This is her first response: “Sounds like a plan!!!” This is one she sent shortly after: “As I think further on this, I am wondering how this will lead to helping you develop self-control. If you can control your impulses to be an ass out of fear, I am wondering why you can't control those same impulses out of just wanting to be a decent human being? To be kind and loving to the people you love? Do you really need the threat of physical harm to not be a dick? Help me understand this.” My thoughts are these: she might as well have asked me the final digit of PI, or the meaning of life. Hell, I don’t know. I only know that the thought of being spanked consumes me; the thought of being over Daddies, or Mommies knee, gives me joy. Everything before and after the spanking is awesome, the spanking itself sucks. When I make it to the other side of the spanking it is bliss. The desire to feel like a well spanked boy is the greatest joy in my life. Eventually, I would like to have tears flow down my face like rain as the blistering goes on and on.   As for her questions about my behavior, I want you to know that I am not behaving like a total jerk. My wife just had her second knee replaced and so everything is up to me, so sometimes the stress leaves me a little crabby. She asks me to do something, and I huff about, mumbling under my breath, and acting put out. I feel that my behavior needs to be adjusted much like a little boy; reset with a good spanking. Of course, I don’t act out on purpose, it’s just that I am a child sometimes. I haven’t sent her back a response as I’m not sure there is one. I don’t know. As an aside, those of us in the know have been informed that the meaning of life is 42. We just know that it is information better kept to ourselves.  
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When you look at this picture, what do you see? Not just some innocent piece of furniture!   As a boy, I shore can tell you I know what I see: a platform for a Spanking. Stick with me a minute here. These chairs will be the death of me! When I see these chairs in a house, I always find a way to get the heck away from them.  Do you realise just how easy it is for a Daddy to pull you across his lap and Spank your bottom?  Well, I do. And take it from me, these chairs are the proximate cause. But it's Valentine's Day week, and I wanted to share with you a big heart story. Last year, I became a yente hitching together two people who I felt really needed to meet each other. See, I had a friend who was really struggling finding the right Daddy. I mean for a long time. He kept getting involved with the wrong kind of guys. And after I introduced my friend, someone I knew pretty darned well, everything changed for him, for them! He's now in the midst of a new relationship with this Daddy.  When I asked him how it was going, he said:    "On my last visit to his house, I noticed I could barely find a single chair in the house that had arms on it. None of the chairs seem to have arms on them!"  I mean, what the heck!?  This particular boy's Daddy has been seeking out the right boy for years. So truth be told, I am so pleased to be the one who hooked them up. They are working through each element of what it's like to be a Daddy/boy team right now, and by the time you read this, I'm hoping they'll be way down the field on that. But in the meantime: that poor boy! At any point, anywhere in their house, my friend could easily get a Spanking! This is like the worst thing ever. But I mean, this result is a side-effect of being in a Daddy/boy relationship. A lot of boys send us messages here at Cornertime Confidential asking about Daddy/boy relationships and how to begin one. And I'm quick to say they are by far and away the very best form of a relationship. (I've had other types of relationships, and for my money, Daddy/boy is the best). However, I also try to mention, it's not all trips to amusement parks, free ice cream cones, and gobs of candy. Sometimes it's about managing your behaviour after the sugar rush!  For help with the latter, my friend's Daddy has a list of Rules he's having to follow and learn. He's not allowed to do a whole bunch of things. But last we talked, he was struggling less with the Rules, and more with the dynamics of how it all works. He says he likes Daddy a lot, he understands and appreciates the Rules, he likes to break the Rules when it's no big deal, and he enjoys being his Daddy's boy.  But I'm pretty sure...every time he sees the chair in the other room, he thinks... Have a very happy Valentine's Day in a couple of days as you seek our your perfect Daddy or boy. If I can play yente for you, I would too! :-) Maybe the blog will help give you the ideas you need to find your ideal Daddy or boy. Let me know how I can help, just email me for advice, questions, or links to helpful material here at Cornertime Confidential. Please comment below or email us with your ideas aok4otk@aol.com or cornertimeconf@gmail.com ______________________________________ Follow Cornertime Confidential Wherever You Are: Tumblr  ∙  SouthSpanking ∙  Twitter  ∙  WordPress
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MAL 2024 recap: This was my third time coming to MAL and my first time coming solo (not sharing a room). I always have fun here and this time was no different. Of the large leather/fetish events (MAL, IML, CLAW, Leather Getaway), this is my favorite one. If both my guys show up tomorrow my final count will be 38 spankings given. 16 of those were at the Green Lantern party. People always say that party is too crowded to play but I don’t have any issues. Always spank around 16-17 guys at that one. I’ll have filmed nine new spanking videos by the time I leave tomorrow. All of them were with people I have never filmed with before except one. Thats always fun. I got to spend a lot of time with bottomman1 which was a treat because I only normally see him at Bad Ass Weekend. I also met (and spanked) a bear from New York I have had a crush on for years and he’s absolutely gorgeous in person and a total sweetheart.    I got to have my yearly strapping and brunch with Uncle Larry who I absolutely adore and have a bond with because of our fondness for Randy/Redbearspanker. I had a weird emotional moment where I had to go into the bathroom at the Green Lantern and cry because when I got done spanking a bear up on the stage he leaned over and said “You spank just like Daddy Randy” and it hit me right in the heart. Also got to see a lot of the regular BAW crew who are always super nice and welcoming. If you’re a spanko and have ever wanted to go to a leather decent like this, I can’t recommend MAL more. I’m sure there’s more but it all goes so fast that it’s kind of a blur. Going home from this one isn’t as hard as Bad Ass or Hot Seat but it’s definitely not easy either.
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The events I plan to attend this year are MAL in January in DC. Hot Seat in Palm Springs in March. Bad Ass Weekend in Georgia in October and Leather Getaway in LA in November. If you’d like a spanking at any of these events, message me here or on Whappz.   If you come to Seattle this year let me know and maybe I can spank ya here. All depends on timing.
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I hope everyone had a nice Xmas and that the new year finds you all in good health.   I will be in Europe in 2024, visiting and sampling the spanking chairs of some wonderful members of this site.  I guess if I behave, I might not get too much spanking, but where is the fun in that?  A boy has to be naughty sometimes, right?   I am also hoping to meet some of our American members either by visiting them or inviting them here to our home in Arizona.   We have a vibrant and wonderful community, with men from all ages and walks of lives.  I never judge anyone by their looks or their age, for me its all about personality and friendship.  I have been over the knees of guys more than twice my age, some that are younger than me, some that are thin and some that are large.   Before anyone shoots me down, there's large, there's thin, there's medium, there's stocky, there's lanky, there’s a million possible things that make up a man’s body type. I have learned over the years that there is no telling who you are going to be attracted to for spanking until you learn that for yourself.  It should be immensely satisfying being spanked by another person, just be happy and stop trying to rationalize every feeling you have. All humans have the innate right to feel attracted to whomsoever and whatsoever they wish, none of it needs any excuses or any justification - we want what we want.   There is always going to be the judgmental crowd and to them I say – take your superiority complex and your omniscience knowledge of other human being’s hearts, souls and sexuality, pick a corner and stand in it, stay there and do all a favor.  We don’t need you telling us about God, science or the genome pool, or how our DNA is corrupt, just chill!    Hugs   James
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I want to share some thoughts on a consensual loving Dad/son spanking relationship.  These are just my thoughts.  I just feel like I need to get them out with people who may or may not understand.  Please tell me your thoughts in the comments.   I feel that a Dad/son relationship ideally is not a relationship of equality.  There is a hierarchy, and the DAD is in charge.  It is not a relationship with equality of power.  The DAD has the power, and he has the authority to enforce his authority, whether that be by spanking the son or disciplining him in any way he chooses.  However, it IS a relationship with equality in terms of love and respect.  There is no greater turn off to me if you're dating a dominant man and he calls me his bitch or slut or any other demeaning term.  A true DAD in my opinion would never treat his son like that.  His son is the apple of his eye, his prince, the object of his affection and love.  The Dad is crazy in love with his son.  While the DAD may expect the son to show him an inordinate amount of respect, maybe even in exaggerated ways, the DAD may never show his son that same sort of respect since DAD is the authority figure, not the son, but the DAD will never show his son disrespect.   What are some ways that the DAD might expect his son to show him respect? 1.  At a meal, the son must always wait for the DAD to take the first bite.  Then and only then, may the son start eating.  If the son forgets to wait for his DAD to take the first bite, the son's plate will be taken away, the meal will be put on hold, and the DAD will pull his boy over his lap, yank down his pants, and smack his bottom hard several times to remind the boy to follow this simple protocol of respect. 2.  The son is to ask his DAD's permission to leave the dinner table.  In fact, there may be a long list of things that DAD expects his son to ask his permission before doing.  Another example is the DAD may require that the son ask his permission before drinking alcohol or eating sweets.  This does not just pertain when they are together.  If the son is with friends or family without DAD, he must call or text his DAD to ask permission.  Any time the son fails to ask his permission, it will result in a spanking. 3. Since it is the role of the son to submit to his DAD's leadership, there will be times when the son will have to obey his DAD in ways that he does not want to.  If the son always wants to do everything his DAD directs him to do, then the DAD is not truly in charge. 4. The son is to address his Dad in the manner that the Dad has dictated.  An example may be that the son is to call his Dad Sir when in private, Dad out in public when others aren't listening, and by his name ONLY when others are listening.  And as the son, I WANT to address my Dad as Sir or Dad.  It comes naturally to me.  Nevertheless, Dad will spank me if I accidentally call him by his name in private, not as punishment per se, but more to help me to be true to myself. I could go on and on with ways to show respect to a Dad, but I'll stop here.  I hope that you will comment with others ways that I left off, not just to state what I may have forgotten, but also to help give me ideas on how I can please a future Dad.  I truly want a Dad that I date to be taken back with how impressed he is with how well I know my place and respect him. What does the DAD give the son? Passion, adoration, protection, consistency, guidance, structure, discipline, leadership   What does the son give the DAD? Obedience, submission, devotion, his body, vulnerability, trust   DAD is the authority figure in the relationship.  DAD values and seeks his son's opinion, but DAD always makes the final decision.  I think what I desire is very old-fashioned because I very profoundly desire that even though we are both indeed men, the Dad is the man of the house.  He loves being the man of the house, and the son respects that, respects him, and wouldn't have it any other way. If you want a relationship of equality, I completely understand that and I want you to be able to have that.  It's just not what I'm seeking.  I honestly do not understand why I don't want that for myself, but it is a deep desire within me.  
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I thought I might ask you guys whether you think the following punishment scenarios that I have experienced are FAIR, UNFAIR, TOO MUCH or TOO LITTLE.   Before I list them though let me explain a little about my relationship with Denis, he is my husband but also my dad and takes my discipline quite seriously.   I gave him my consent and accept discipline with the understanding that he has the ultimate authority, decides on punishments and is the final decision maker, he doesn’t expect perfection, but I can and am held to high standards.   All my punishments start with a lecture, dad ensures I am listening and that I understand why I am being punished. He always listens to my thoughts and opinions, and that is important to me because I need to be heard.  It’s also very difficult for me to admit I have been naughty and apologize for it, and take my punishment, but I do anyway.   Scenario one:  I am on the computer, kind of playing around when I hear him call ‘James come here a minute please’ to which I reply ‘in a minute’, well fifteen minutes or so go by (I was busy right?) and my ear is suddenly seized as I am marched into the lounge, where the spanking chair has been pulled out and punished with spanking with the hairbrush for being disobedient.   Scenario two: I was told not too mess around with the pool. Specifically, the chemicals but had a go anyway, it just didn’t look clean enough to me.  I sort of made it bubble and foam, okay quite a lot really. I got three hard spankings, with corner time, one for disobedience, one for messing up the pool and another because its dangerous to mix pool chemicals together.   Scenario three:  Caught speeding and given a ticket, dang traffic school sucks!  I was going a little fast at over 80mph.  I got grounded every weekend for a month, got the strap and brush and evening bedtime spankings, every night for the entire month.   Scenario four:  Took a tantrum because I didn’t want to visit his aunt, okay I did accidently knock over one of those little Xmas ornaments, at least I think it was an accident.  I was Spanked and then made to go anyway and when we got back later that night, I got another spanking and sent to bed early .. I did not like that!
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Guys,   I am humbled and excited to learn this has been happening to me, I never thought I would be worth bad mouthing, what an honor!   I am so elated that I am going to get the 'giant mumbo jumbo and fairy tale book' that way, I can make some comments from it regulary to fuel the fire of those that love to mouth off, I mean I couldnt possibly deny them such a pleasure after bestowing such an honor upon me, now could I?  Your traps after all need to be fed!   I will also bestow upon to each bad mouther a magical toy, its called 'the rampant bunny master delux' - now when one of you bad mouthers use the bunny master do not set it on full speed - or your teeth will chatter, oh, naughty me, that may turn you on!   Seriously though, I am actually very amused and I am certainly not joining any of those sites, to defend myself, frankly its really not worth my time and energy.  I can either be mad at these people or I can pity them, I choose pity.   Have a wonderful rest of your Sunday!   James            
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I feel so young, though I am really old, ancient in fact. I enjoy caressing the bare buttocks of a young man, for generations I have lived on this planet, and I am going nowhere soon.   My master cares for me daily, ensuring I get the exercise I need, with the snap of his wrist I land on naughty boy behind, time and time again.  The yells, the pleading and the whimpering are like music to my ears.   I'm old-fashioned and have seen some things, I remember giving one boy two spankings in one day. He got one after breakfast for being disrespectful, and later that very day his daddy took him back over his knees for another when he found the boy out in a lie. I was exhausted when we finished that spanking it was so long and so hard, and the poor boys butt was practically apple red.   Yes, scarcely a week goes by when I am not being used on bad boys’ behinds, and those boys learn respect not just for me but for themselves. I wish I could spank all naughty boys, but I have to be content with what I have.  I travel a lot you see, in the glovebox of my master’s car and I often rest contentedly on the night stand waiting to be used.   I am feeling young and frisky as I look forward to meeting some new boys, young master Jonny P from England, Joseph Lamb from the US and a certain boy called Baltic from Germany. I will smack those naughty bottoms with relish, I eagerly await their appointments with my master’s lap. I hope they appreciate my enthusiasm, and will enjoy the feel of my polished wooden back as I snap quickly and bitingly across their posteriors.   Jonny P is very naughty, he is the one I want to spank the most! But I'm only a hairbrush; what can I do? I must be patient and wait.   It will be wonderful watching him walk slowly towards the awaiting lap, he will look at me with a mixture of hate, fascination, and respect. I've seen that look many times. But when daddy takes down his pants and briefs, lifting him over his knees that’s when the fun begins!   All you other dads, need a brush like me in your hands, teaching the pert, upturned bottoms of your boys with my flat wooden back, they will learn quickly, you will see.  I will make them stand up straight and tall and be respectful of their dads and all!   I love spanking boys, my wooden body to wraps around their cheeks and thighs, with loud heaty smacks accompanied by howls.  They can fidget and bawl all they want, but on and on I shall go!
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Dear naughty boys and even naughtier dads and tops,   I think we should have a discussion about chairs and there role in spankings and other discipline.   I will repost a picture of the chairs most commonly used as a platform when my dad turns me over his knees to start us off.  So share yourideas and experiences.  I think for me, a chair that leaves my bottom well centered, head and legs not touching the floor are the most effectiveones.   Some Dads and Tops have custom chairs, even made by themselves such as Nor Cal, (don't tell him but I would quite like a tour of his chair while over his knees but shhhhhhh).   They are also used by some really bad and naughty dads to put poor boys in the corner .. and that sucks!   But come on share your chair ideas, what makes your chair so special huh?  
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Hello,   I have been absent for a very long time and I apologize.   As some of you may know Denis visits the UK every summer, this particular time he contracted COVID and it was pretty bad.  It was so serious that I had to go over there, and spent several months while he thankfully recovered and was able to travel back to the US.   During my time there, I too got infected, but that’s okay, it was bad, but not too serious.   We are both having some side effects, Denis is having a harder time than I am recovering but we are both getting there.   I really had my hands full and other issues like my authenticator app failed for email access and phone access was restricted due to a change in carrier.   Right now, I have started a new job which I was offered before this all happened, thankfully the company I am now working for were very understanding and let me join the training group I am presently enrolled in.   I will be in contact with my dear friends by email and phone over this holiday weekend.   If you are in the US, please have a wonderful holiday and whatever you do, be safe.  If you have a wee drink or two or three, use Uber or any other transport but PLEASE do not drink and drive.   Everyone, else, please have a fantastic weekend, whether you are just chilling, being spanked, or giving a spanking and stay safe.  We have a fantastic community, and it means so much to me and is very dear to my heart.   Botoms upppppp and Hugssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssss   James
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There's been a lot of discussion about the cane lately.  Here in the States the implement of choice has been the belt or paddle.  I guess one always fears what is unfamiliar or unknown. For me, that was the cane!   Growing up I was never spanked and my only experiences with spanking until I was 47 years old, was self spanking.   I couldn't spank myself very effectively with a belt, whip or cane so those implements were greatly feared.   I always feared whips and canes most thinking they would cut my bottom to shreds!  I did finally experience getting spanked with various leather and even some rubber straps and they actually became some of my favorite spanking implements because of their great sting and less likelihood to do any major damage to me because of their flexibility compared to wooden paddles.    I still haven't received what I'd call a solid belt whipping yet.  I've had a couple good tastes of a good belt spanking,  but haven't felt the full wrath of a strict man with a solid leather belt in his hand, but it's on my list of things to experience.    I have only been spanked once with a cane.   It was during the punishment spanking I got for real misbehavior when a spanker found out about something I did in high school and got away without any punishment.  He spanked me for it 40 years later.  I've mentioned that spanking before as I was stripped, lectured, shaved, jerked off and then spanked.  And all this happened in front of several other men.   He also spanked me with a cane that day after he blistered my bottom with a lexan paddle!   I didn't think my bottom could hurt any more after the paddling, but oh how wrong I was!   I was wrong on two accounts.  First I thought my bottom would numb up after a while with the lexan paddle, but it kept stinging like I sat on on nest of hornets!   The last paddle swat stung just as much as the first!   And then that cane felt like the spanking started all over again!   I would never let anyone spank me with a cane before, but this spanker insisted that I be caned that day and since it was the first time I was getting a real spanking for real misbehavior, I figured I deserved it and agreed to the caning!   I set some clear boundries, that there was to be no broken skin and I trusted the spanker to to stay within those limits.  He told me he would give me six "strokes" with the cane. With some hesistation I agreed.   When the caning started I began to count to myself hoping I could get through it!  One, two, three, four, five, six!   I made it, but he didn't stop.  The stokes of the cane kept coming!  Seven, nine, twelve, fifteen, twenty, twenty-five!    As the cane strokes continued I told him that I thought he was only supposed to give me six!    He just laughed and replied, "You didn't really only want six, did you?"   And then he said, "And I can give you as many as I want to!"   They kept coming!   Watching the video we took, I could see myself lifting up on my toes from the sting, as I tried to remain in place.  From the front adding to my humiliation, my bald shaved dicklete is fully exposed as I desperately try to keep my hands out of the way of the cane.  From the rear my bright red bottom is in view as the cane whistles through the air making me lift up onto to toes as it strikes time and time again. Thirty, thirty-five, forty, forty-five and finally after about fifty he stopped!   Some were slow and hard.  Some were quick and whippy.   When he finally stopped with the cane he gave me a final paddling and then told me to go stand in the corner.   I stayed there with my naked shaved bottom on display for about 15 minutes.  After he called me out from the corner, I had to stay naked with my bald dick and red bottom on display for all those other men to look at, for over an hour before he let me get dressed. I was completely bare and exposed while the other men that had been spanked were allowed to get dressed!  The humiliation of being kept naked, with my shaved crotch and red bottom on display in front of all those other men was part of my punishment. When I looked at my bottom in the mirror there were no cuts or broken skin.  He kept his word.  But I could clearly see some angry purple cane lines across the top of my bottom.  They did fade away about 5 hours later though.   The other men, all spankos themselves, commented about how that was the reddest butt they ever saw.   I had never been spanked with either a cane or a lexan paddle before that day.   I looked up about the lexan paddle online before I went there and what I read didn't make me feel any better.   And yes, all the stories I read about how much that paddle stung were true!   So were my fears of how much the cane hurt.   The fears I had built up about both the cane and the lexan paddle made them both very effective implements to be spanked with.  Once he was standing behind me, I couldn't see the cane but I could hear the swish it made before it bit my bottom!   That along with the humiliation of having my pubic hair removed, being masturbated before the spanking and being left on display as part of the punishment, in front of all those other men, all contributed to a very effective spanking. I am open to being caned again, providing the spanker doesn't get carried away.  Closely related to a cane in my mind is something much more common here in the States - the switch.  Some say it's even worse to be spanked with a tree switch than a cane!  The "Switch" is something else I've never experienced, but something friends have told me is whippier and more painful than a cane.  My own dad threatened me with a switching as a boy one time and the memory of that threat is still fresh in my mind over fifty years later!  I definietly want to be on the recieiving end of a switching someday along with enduring the shame of the ritual of being sent naked into the yard to cut and prepare the switches that will be used on me!   As long as the person weilding the switch uses care like my spanker did using the cane.  As I've always said, the rituals around the spanking are as important as the spanking itself and are best served in front of an audience!   When I see branches outdoors that would make a suitable switch, I can't help but think about being sent out there naked to cut and prepare the switch and then think about being bent over right there for a good switching!   A switching outdoors is especially embarrassing where you don't know who might be watching the spectacle!   And just because it's being given outdoors doesn't mean the switching shouldn't be given naked!   Above is a photo of me naked in a public wooded area.  The disciplinarian that spanked me with the cane, ordered me to get naked at work and go into a wooded area and masturbate for him on video!   Of course, as you can see from the photo below,  I couldn't resist obeying him!   Just imagine if you caught me and insisted that I go cut some switches so you could give me that naked switching I've been craving right there where anyone could watch!   It would be exactly what I deserved! That's one convenient thing about switches.  They are always readily available.  There's no need to be carrying a cane around!  And it's much more fun to send a naked boy to go fetch a switch!
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The Quiz "Strip to your jockstrap." "Yes sir". The athlete did so, pulled his T-shirt over his head, and then pulled his gym shorts off.   Coach contemplated the young man standing before him. He was 19 and in two college sports, track and karate. He was 6 feet even, 185 lbs, with a good natural build. He had blond hair on his head, slightly long, medium brown flared sideburns and a mustache. He may have had a six-pack but the coach couldn't  tell for the brown stripe of hair that rose up out of his jock, spread part ways over his abdomen, rose to his sternum and fanned out over his chest in the classic Tree of Life pattern.   The coach said "I'm going to question you about a few things. If you don't want to talk, or I think you're lying, I'm gonna use the yardstick on you until you feel like cooperating. You understand?" The jock said "Yes sir" very quietly, but looked the coach in the eye. "Alright."    "First off, when did you grow hair on your dick?"   "When I was twelve".   "Twelve what?" "Twelve sir"   "That's better."   "How long have you been masturbating?"   "Coach, sir, do I have to tell you?"   Coach picked up the wooden yardstick and moved to the jock's side. He let the yardstick rest on the student's left butt check, framed by the jock. "Yes, you do"   "Sir I don't want to answer that".   The coach pulled the yardstick back and smacked it on the young man's left butt cheek. The crack echoed in the small equipment room. The jock winced, but he held on. "Well?" said the coach. The jock didn't answer. The coach hit his ass again. And again, on both sides about twenty times. Finally, the young man gasped, out "Been jackin' off since I got hair on my dick, sir!"   Next question. "When did you start shaving?"   "I'm not gonna tell you, sir!" said the jock firmly. "Oh, really?" said the coach. He stood to the side of the younger man and cracked the yardstick across his broad tanned shoulders. The jock tried not even to wince. He'd endured worse pain than this on the mat. The coach knew he'd need more persuading. He hit his back again, just under the shoulder blades. Again, diagonally, and several more times. As the jock took this he wondered if his coach was going to break the yardstick over him. He knew his interrogator had at least a couple more in reserve. "OK, sir, it was 15!" he admitted.   "Good!" enunciated the coach. "Now we're getting somewhere. He moved around in front of his subject.   He raised the yardstick and gently ran it down the student's chest, right between the pecs, slowly down the happy trail to the top of his jock. "You're pretty hairy for your age. When did you grow hair on your chest?"   "No sir, I'm not telling".   "The coach tilted his head back. "OK, have it your way". He moved off to the side and brought the yardstick to rest flat on the athlete's furry flat abdomen. He drew back and smacked hard, very hard, on the taut muscles. The student expected it and kept his mouth open, letting the air out so it wouldn't hurt as bad. Marching the yardstick up and down, he delivered several hard smacks from the top of the pecs to the top of the jock. Finally, the athlete admitted that his chest started getting hairy at 16.   "Pull your jock strap down, and put your hands on top of your head". The athlete slowly did so, sliding the waistband down over his sore buttocks. The coach moved behind him and inspected his handiwork. The athlete had several distinct rectangular marks along the edges of his buttocks; they melded into the general redness in the middle. Across his upper back there were several well-defined stripes from the yardstick. Moving around to the front, the coach saw that the athlete's belly was pink, where the hair allowed the strokes to show through.   The athlete's genitals hung out on display. His pubic hair was plush and an uncircumcised penis hung out of the growth, over a full-looking and symmetrical hairy scrotum.   "For not cooperating, you know what you're in for. Stand still and keep your hands on your head".   The coach moved to the side and lifted the yardstick. He put the yardstick under the athlete's penis and lifted it up against his hairy belly, then let it drop. He repeated this about five times until the penis began to stir with an erection. He stroked the underside of the shaft with the edge of the yardstick. Now the member was fully horizontal and getting curved as it tilted up. Sweat was making tracks in the jock's body hair. Coach put the yardstick on the top of the penis and pushed down, let it spring back up. He did this also about five times, making the jock gasp.   "Ready to take a man's punishment?" "Yes sir!" the jock replied firmly.     Coach brought the yardstick down on the shaft, not too hard at first, more like a firm tap. Then another, harder, and another, harder, further up the shaft. The cockhead was now almost fully emerged from the foreskin and it got a firm flick that made the athlete hiss though clenched teeth. His cock was pink and getting redder. The coach gave the underside a few gentle strokes with yardstick edge, and then brought the flat of yardstick up under the shaft quickly. The penis bounced up and almost hit the belly hair. The athlete was squirming from side to side, trying not to leave the position. Another quick vertical stroke and the cock rebounded, grazing the hair over the jock's navel. A third and then fourth harder stroke made the penis strain up almost vertically. The coach hit the underside of head so hard it sounded like a rifle shot. "AAAAGH!" shrieked the athlete and semen flew out in a white comet across the desk, followed by several lesser, ropey jets.         
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Fetiching the Belt is one of the rituals of spanking that turn me on.  It's a simple thing that can be added to a spanking that makes it much more humiliating and therefore increases the embarrassment and shame of the spanking and as a result, the effectiveness of the spanking!  After all, it's the shame of the spanking that's remembered long after the sting has faded away!   (I decided to continue my Fetching the Belt photo story that I started in photo post format in my Blog instead. These photos were from an actual spanking I got.  I added captions to the photo to portray a fantasy I have of getting a belting in front of a group of my friends and being made to fetch the belt while they watch.   In this case I imagine the spanker to be a much younger spanker too making it even more embarrassing for me to be naked in front of him and obey him.  To sumarize the previous parts posted in photo format, I was spanked with a paddle then sent to the garage naked to hang the paddle back on the garage wall. I imagined this happening in front of a group of my own friends making this spanking even more humiliating than it was!  It's something I've observed others endure many times as a boy but never experienced the shame of myself and have always fantasized about it happening to me!   Perhaps someday that fantasy will become a reality - and at my age it will be even more humiliating!  If any of my friends see these naked pictures of me, I hope they'll strip me naked and give me that humiliating public spanking just like I describe, making this fantasy become a reality!   Stripped naked. face, dick, balls and red paddled bottom all exposed for everyone to see, I'm sent to hang the paddle back on the garage wall and "fetch the belt!".  It adds to my embarrassment to be made to participate in my punishment by making me bring back the next implement that's going to be used to spank me, especially with a group of my friends watching and smirking, anticipaitng the show they are about to see.   As a teen I was always eager to see my friends get spanked.  I was turned on seeing them humiliated.  So it's only fair others get to enjoy seeing me get an embarrassing spanking now!  The paddles and belt are kept hangling on the garage wall where everyone can see them. Especially my friends when we go in and out.   I'm warned that I better tell them exactly what they're for, if they ask.  That they there to spank my bare bottom!    If I don't tell the truth, I'm told I'll be stripped naked and they'll get a live deomonstration so they can see for themselves!  When I pick the belt up off it's hook I can't help feel the it and snap the leather a few times.   The belt turns me on so much.   Leather belts make me so honry they make my little nub start to get hard!     When I open the door to come back inside, I can hear you yell that I better hurry up and better not be playing with that belt.  I say I'm coming as fast as I can.  You warn me that if I'm lying I'm going to get a mouthsoaping along with the belting, but you know I'm lying!  When the belt is involved, it just turns me on so much, I can't help feeling and snapping the leather.  As I bring the belt back I can't help playing with it some more.  It just turns me on so much feeling the thick leather thinking about how it's going to feel when it cracks down on my bare heinie!   You catch me red handed and now my ass is going to pay for it!   And so is my mouth with that bar of soap!   And my friends are all eager to see me get my mouth washed out with soap!  And get spanked with a bar of soap in my mouth!   Especially at my age!    But first you tell me to show everyone my red paddled bottom and since I like feeling the leather of the belt so much to let it dangle over my back let the tip of it rub on my bottom.   I do that and wiggle my bottom around letting the tip of the belt carress my cheeks.   Everyone is laughing.  Then you tell me to fold it in half and lay it on my back and bend over and stick my bottom out to give everyone a good view of my red paddled bottom and balls.   I feel so vulnerable and exposed and feel that wide leather belt on my back knowing everyone's eyes are right on me!    Finally I had to face my friends in shame and admit out loud that I was going to get spanked with the belt with a bar of soap in my mouth because I lied!    I determined my fate with my behavior and now my friends were going to see what happens to me when I misbehave!   I get my bare naked bottom spanked and I get my mouth washed out with soap no matter how old I am!  And if I was worried about them watching it happen I should have thought about that beforehand!   There are several other photos posted, all with captions like the one above.   The last photos end with posts made 10/11/2023.  If you want to see the detailed photos posted previously you can find them in my personal feed here: https://southspanking.com/groups/need2botk  Now the story of my spanking and my naked exposure continues in Part D   The Ritual of Fetching the Belt Continues (D1)    Having to participate in my own punishment is all part of the punishment.   Getting the belt that's going to spank my own ass.   And  getting the bar of soap that's going to used to wash out my mouth!  It doesn't help any that a group of my friends are sitting there grinning and smirking eager to watch me be punished, but I have to admit, I sure enjoyed watching my friends get punished like that when I was a teenager.   So I guess it's payback time for me now.   Only it's a lot more humiliating at my age!    Not to mention the fact that I'm buck ass naked!  No, my friends are never going to let me forget that they got to watch me get spanked and get a mouth soaping!   They are going to love every minute of watching my big butt turn redder and redder!     I definitely deserve to be spanked by them too.   Guys I know and have to face on a regular basis.   So that every time we see each other the smirk on their face will tell me they are thinking about how they had me buck ass naked and bent over their knees like a naughty little boy for the ass spanking I deserved!   And we will both know they can strip me and spank me again whenever they want to!   The Ritual of Fetching the Belt Continues (D2)    Bringing back the bar of soap that is going to wash out my mouth.   I got mouthsoapings as a kid but I never got a spanking growing up.   I hated getting my mouth washed out with soap.   I should have had my bottom spanked with the soap in my mouth and then perhaps I wouldn't have needed a mouth soaping so often!   But instead I just got locked in my room!   I can still remember the awful taste of the soap in my mouth as a boy and the threat of my parents using the dreaded bar of lava soap with the pumice in it that was sure to scour the filth out of a foul mouthed boy!  I never really had an interest in it as an adult   That was until 2017 when I had a spanking conversation with a 19 year old kid at work and he told me about his belt spankings and mouth soapings.  That's when my interest mouthsoapings as an adult started!    I'm sure he would love to soap my mouth and give his boss a good hard belt whipping!   And actually, I wouldn't mind having him do it to me!     The Ritual of Fetching the Belt Continues (D3)    Mouth soaping. I can't explain why but just taking the bar of soap out of the box and thinking about it going in my mouth and going over a guy's knees for a spanking is giving me a boner!   I'm sure my friends would be laughing their asses off if they were there watching!   Hell I'd be laughing my ass off if I was watching it happen to a buddy!   I never did get to witness a friend get his mouth washed out with soap but I sure would have enjoyed seeing it.  Any guy would!  A guy is never too old for a spanking and he's never too old to get his mouth washed out with soap either!   It would be so humiliating to be standing there buck ass naked with an already spanked bottom, taking the bar of soap out of the box and hand it to you knowing you're going to soap my mouth with it right in front of my grinning and smirking friends.  Them all eager to see the awful punishment unfold before their eyes, knowing from personal experience what I'm about to endure!  And all eager to see me spanked with the bar of soap in my mouth!    The Ritual of Fetching the Belt Continues (D4)    Humiliation is an essential element of a spanking or any punishment for that matter.   Standing buck ass naked in front of a group of my own friends with the bar of soap in my hand and having to explain to them that I'm about to get a mouthsoaping will make my punishment much more humiliating for me.    Seeing the smirks spread across their faces as I tell them how the bar of soap is going to wash out my mouth and how I'm going to be spanked with the soap in my mouth will be horrible for me!     I'll see how much they'll be enjoying my shame,  and my face will burn bright red, but not as much as it will as it happens. And not as red as my bottom will be once the spanking starts!    Their comments about how sweet this is going to be only makes it worse!     The Ritual of Fetching the Belt Continues (D5)    Asking for the spanking or having to beg for it really drives the point home especially in front of an audience.   I only had to ask for a spanking once and it was really embarrassing.   And there was a group of  other men there watching me get spanked.    It should be a part of every spanking.   It shows my acceptance of my punishment and my submission to the spanker's authority and dominance over me.   What was once a boner has shrunken to a little boy like nub again.  I'm not so excited to be spanked anymore.    The Ritual of Fetching the Belt Continues (D6)    The anticipation builds waiting to feel the sting of the belt.   But that's not the position I was expected to be in.  He wants my face touching the table so my ass is sticking up in the air, exposed even more!     The Ritual of Fetching the Belt Continues (D7)    That's better positioning.  Everything fully exposed.  Ass offered for the belt. Even my hole exposed to my friend's view for their amusement! When that leather snaps across my ass it's definitely going to sting!   There's no hiding anything when you're being spanked like this!   The story continues in Part E  
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Communication in M/m Discipline-Centered Relationships "Don't Make Me Use My Daddy Voice"   As an excitable boy, I have a tendency to over-talk, over-communicate. This is a vice, not a virte, and I own that fully. However, in a relationship, it can be a buzzkill, a deal breaker, a repeated annoyance. My Daddy is pretty darned great about it, but he does tune it out most of the time. When it comes to the physical connection, however, overtalking is a disaster for us. Last fall, I was asked to provide perspective on the DD relationship. I covered 5 critical areas:    The Goal of a Discipline-centered Relationship: Love. Start there first. Daddy's Toolkit: Develop a Discipline Approach That Works for Both of You Communication: Silence Can Be Golden. Managing Challenges as They Arise Becoming Stronger Together   But the part that really struck me was how being in an unequal relationship, that talking things out and having knock-down-drag-out verbal fights like vanilla couples is just not helpful. For me, I attribute this to being a male.  In my writeup, I began to think more deeply about what we've been told our whole lives to do: always communicate with your partner. And from my perspective, the DD relationship takes a more constructive form of communication. In the few paragraphs below, let's see if I can better explain.  ______________________________________ Now your Mom always told you: "Communication is the key to a successful relationship. So be sure you communicate!"  Silence can be golden sometimes and talk can be imperative sometimes.   And well, we're men, and let's be honest, over-communicating is not helpful. One surefire way to ruin a good thing in a Domestic Discipline relationship is to over-communicate.  Find the value for both of you by trying the following:   Use text for shorter issues Email for longer issues Talk by phone instead of talking face to face.  Alternatively, talking face to face instead of email or text (like you do when a certain flavor of problem arises at work and an email would just be the wrong approach).  Sometimes you will want a sit-down discussion, know why you want one before going there. The Joy of Texting One of the things that I love is getting a text from Daddy about what my friend 'zander calls "soft domming." I love getting a text when I'm out with friends that reads: "Be sure to behave yourself!" "Daddy's keeping an eye on you. Just checking in. Give me an update." or "Have fun. Remember what we talked about."   Also "If you are drinking, I want to know. I'll come get you." Just reading that will make me watch my drinking, so I don't get a Spanking when I get home for making Daddy come get me.   When to Email Some topics are just hard to talk about and you might want an email. A boy for instance might want to write an email to Daddy explaining why a Spanking that happened didn't work right. What went wrong. Or if he inadvertently used triggering language (e.g., Daddy cursed or yelled in a way that hit you in a deeply uncomfortable place) or action (e.g. a faceslapping for some boys is too much). It's often far easier for the boy to express via an email. And just as importantly, it's easier for Daddy to "hear" it through email than through a different form of communication.  When to Try a Phone Call Not all DD relationship involve living together, and sometimes an issue is emotional or more than just a friendly warning. A phone call can clear up potential problems faster than an endless text thread about something you are disagreeing on. Sometimes you want to hear your boy's voice. One example we've had is what you want to hear that your boy is not drunk. If he is, you want to feel that out more clearly, and a phone call will be indispensable.  When to Sit Down and Discuss Some issues require a sit-down discussion. This most often comes about when something has bubbled up multiple times, a Daddy or boy has tried to express themselves on the matter, but it just is coming up again. Many partners will have a Behaviour Review weekly but sometimes these should be limited to Spanking solutions.  Sometimes you just need to see each other face-to-face and know that you can do so in a judgement-free safe space. Ultimately, however, it's always time to know when it's time to not talk at all. That's often when it's time to confront, punish, and correct.    Addressing destructive behaviors in a DD relationship is important, of course. One of the ways to do that is dipping into Daddy's toolbox and finding a Spanking solution. Sometimes a simple beating on the behind will do the trick. Sometimes its more of a behavioral solution you'll be looking for—like writing lines or washing out your boy's mouth with soap.  And sometimes it's just best to have a Daddy-boy conversation not as equals, but fully immersed in your DD relationship roles.     But know the difference when it's time to talk things through, and when it's not.  Silence can be golden sometimes and talk can be imperative sometimes. But the freedom that Domestic Discipline brings partners in knowing when to do which is so much simpler than leaping into a 3-week long grudge match. Communication is key. And sometimes communication comes in the form of Daddy's paddle.   Communication is Key, and Sometimes communication comes in the form of Daddy's paddle.       Please comment below or email us with your ideas   aok4otk@aol.com or cornertimeconf@gmail.com ______________________________________ Follow Cornertime Confidential Wherever You Are:   Tumblr  ∙  SouthSpanking ∙  Twitter  ∙  WordPress
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You Should Give Me The Belt.  Crack it down on my bare naked ass! Link for Part 5C- Wash My Mouth Out With Soap  After giving me a mouthsoaping, bend me over the end of a couch or bed and take your belt to my bare naked bottom.   Give me a good hard belt whipping just like I watched my friends get growing up!  I haven't really experienced a good belt whipping yet.   I've had a few tastes of one but the belt still remains an illusive implement to me. Let me feel the leather on my bare naked ass!   Show me what it's like!    I get so turned on seeing a belt around a strict man's waist. Or even when I catch a whiff of the scent of a new leather belt!    Oh, yeah!  My boy dick gets hard just hearing a leather belt snap or even looking at one!  And I get a raging boner when I see or hear a belt crack down on another guy's naked ass!   Seeing the belt flex, hearing the crack of the leather against naked skin, it sounds so wicked and turns me on so much, my dick can't help but pulse and throb!   I definitely deserve to find out what the true wrath of the belt is like!   The photos below are me getting a taste of the belt.   In the two photos above TNMike stripped me naked, bent me over the end of the bed and took his belt to my bare naked ass.  Later in the spanking he pointed out he left the window blinds open to humiliate me.  When I looked outside, there were a couple older teens next door working in the yard that might have seen this grown man getting his naked ass whipped with a belt that day.  They may have found out that you're never too old for a spanking!    It really hurts when your ass crack is spread wide open and the tip of the belt cracks down right on your exposed hole!   Yeow!  My dick and balls are pulled back to add to my humiliation too!   Getting the belt standing up is totally humiliating if there's an audience watching because as you jump around from the sting of the belt, if you have a boner like I do in the photo above, it bounces around making a comical spectacle out of you!  Yeah you dick bobs up and down for everyone's amusement!  They all know that even though your ass on fire, you're still turned on getting spanked naked with "the belt"!  Someone like me that gets turned on getting spanked deserves to be spanked even harder and longer, and in a more humiliating way!    I've been spanked a lot with various straps - razor strops, prison straps, rubber straps, but the belt just turns me on in an incredible way.    It's a very personal implement to be spanked with.   If it's the spanker's belt, I'll be thinking about the spanking I got with it every time I see it around the spanker's waist.   Or if it's my own belt that's used to blister my bottom, I'll be thinking about the spanking I got with it as I see it hanging in a closet or coiled up on a dresser.  Or every time I put it through my belt loops to put it on or take it off.   There will be constant reminders of the whippings I got with that belt!   It can easily be left laying around and no one will think twice about it. No one but me, the spanker, and those who witnessed my spanking will know it's there to spank my naked ass with!   It's not like a paddle drilled with holes that is only used for one thing.  The belt can be left laying around to embarrass me and amuse those who know I get spanked, without raising unwanted suspicion! I had a couple cousins who had a short piece of rubber hose that they got spanked with hanging by their garage door as a reminder to behave so they would see it every time they left the house! All of us kids knew exactly what that rubber hose was for!   We definitely feared it being put to use!   When I was house shopping I saw a belt hanging on a hook in the laundry room next to the garage door.   While most people didn't think anything of it, a guy like me whose into spanking, couldn't help but notice that belt hanging there.  I mean people don't take their belt off and hang it up when they come in from the garage!    There was a college age boy that lived in that house and he was probably marched out to the garage to get his bare ass whipped with that belt.  That belt was probably kept there so it was handy when he needed his ass whipped and to remind him to behave when he went out of the house like the rubber hose reminded my cousins and the rest of us to behave when we left the house!    I definitely got hard thinking about his firm little ass getting spanked bright red!   I'm sure his sister would make it a point to do some laundry, so she could catch the show through the window of the garage door, whenever he was brought out there to get "the belt"!     It makes me weak in the knees when someone snaps the leather or holds the belt and says "Get naked, you're getting your ass beat!"  Not pictures of me, but below are pictures of guys with belts that turn me on.  Pictures like these make my dick hard and make my balls ache!   Even just seeing a shirtless guy with a wide leather belt around his waist like the photo above, turns me on.  It makes me think about him using that belt to give my bare naked ass a long hard spanking!  Plus I get the feeling that this guy has had some personal experience being on the receiving end of that belt and really knows how to use it!   I just bought a new belt for someone to spank me with.   It's a heavy duty work belt made by Carhartt.   It's made of bridle leather and twice as thick as my old work belt.   It's solid leather and makes a wicked snapping sound.  I'm sure it will sound the same way when it connects with my bare naked bottom and will make me dance and squirm!  I was so turned on in the store buying it.   However I got a little embarrassed when a couple of younger guys walked up to the belt rack and started shopping for belts themselves.  I felt as if they knew I was buying it for someone to spank me with! I need someone to try out my new belt and give me a good hard belt spanking with it so I know how effective it is!  Teach me a new respect for "The Belt"!   And I should be buck ass naked when you do it!   A couple more posts about "The Belt" to follow!
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Another in our Learning by Doing Series Tips for (New) Tops!* Another in our "Learning by Doing" Series by BigDaddyVegas and RedSpkScott Tip #1 Follow Your Commitment Make Sure You're Compatible Before You Meet If you take the time to talk with somebody and establish a wonderful scene you're going to commit to. If you are hosting, have your place ready to go, when your spankee arrives. spankees, when you come for a Spanking, arrive on time. Do not be super late. spankees, do your best to not let fear slow you down and prevent you from getting the Spankings that you need. Tip #2 Make Sure You're Compatible. Weed out the flakes—a lot of guys only reach out when they're horny—weed out the flakes. Tip #3 Arrive Prepared With Your Bag of Your Spanking Implements You wouldn't show up to a construction site without a toolbox. Baseball types of bags work well, because you can put canes and longer thinner items in there. They're easy and mobile. Tip #4 Test Your Spanking Implements Before You Use Them It's important Tops have a feel for how bad or what a Spanking Tool feels like. Some Spanking Tools can leave you black and blue if you are not paying attention. Learn that first. So, know how to use your implements before you apply them across the seat of a guy you are Spanking. Tip #5 Build and Use Your Spanking Implement Repertoire Practice With The Belt Before You Use The Belt Straps you can usually tell by the weight and the length. Belts and straps can wrap around the hip and ruin a scene. Practice for accuracy. I'm still not perfect, and I use them all the time. First, buy yourself a high quality belt and practice with it. Do not think you can pull a guy's pants down and think you'll be good with a belt right away. It's not going to happen. It's not the way Daddy did it when you were 12 years old and stole a bicycle. Know how to use The Belt before you use it. Paddles can vary greatly. Thicker versus thinner paddles will matter depending on who you are Spanking. For example, a small, thick paddle can be far too much for a new guy.    I recommend using the Jokari paddle in your paddle kit, and now you at least have the Spanking Industry Standard. And folks will know the sound of the Jokari paddle. It's versatile, you can go light with it, and you can break in a new bottom. Or you can really go to town on an experienced guy, but you have just the one paddle. Tip #6 Identify Spankings Locations You don't have to meet at your home. Meet at a public area first—a pub, a Starbucks, etc. It's a good safety precaution. If you don't have a home to go to, try the public Spanking parties or a hotel room. Don't Inadvertently Get SWATted. If you are using paddles in a hotel room, be aware of the noise. If you use a Jokari paddle at full force, it can sound like a .22 gun going off, so be careful, so Aunt Mary next door doesn't call the police saying, "I think I heard shots fired." Avoid being SWATted by an actual SWAT team! Tip #7 Manage Noise  I have a bottom who I have bringing a switch. Those are pretty quiet. Small carpet beaters are really good, because they also do not make a lot of noise. Paddles and bathbrushes will work over jeans, but not bare. You can always turn on the TV, the radio, or turn on the water in the bathroom. If you have to Spank in a hotel room, between 2 to 4 p.m., the hotel is least occupied, so it's primetime to get a Spanking. If you talk to the guys at the registration desk at the hotel, tell them you'll be having a party in your room, and tell them if they could put you away from other guests, that'd be great.    Tell them up front. Tip #8 Develop Good Communication Communicate Well, Then Spank. When you communicate and you are both in sync, then you will always have a better time. So, if you are both into Teacher/student scene, then it'll be great. But if the Top is really into Daddy/son or no roleplaying at all, then it really doesn't work well. Tops need to know, assume that just because you're the Top, your fantasy will be sufficient for the bottom. That's not the case. If you accommodate the bottom, the more in sync the bottom is with you, the more the bottom will relinquish control and be able to play more the way the Top wants to. Do not get super intense—including grabbing, choking, faceslapping, or other "liberties"—without clear, usually verbal permission from the bottom.    [Not doing so] can result in a complete scene killer. Tip #9 Ensure a Great Warm-up Great Spankers will Spank less to begin with, so you can get your boy to have the endorphin rush. That will help extend the scene much longer. Prepare the bottom first. I may use a belt over his jeans first, to warm him up to get the anticipation flowing of what he thinks he'll get. Once you get to know a guy and establish trust, these Rules obviously develop as you progress and familiarize with one another. Tip #10 Use Humiliation Effectively Humiliation Can Work Find Out How! I really encourage humliating guys in public. One way to do this is to use effective Cornertime technique. You can take a bottle cap, credit card, and have your bottom put the object against a wall or The Corner and then put their head [nose] against it [to keep it off the ground and against the wall]. Talk to them as sternly as you want to. You do not have to touch the boy just be complete in his presence. They know you are there. If you want to engage them, Spank them with your hand. That is never the wrong move.    Make the boy keep the bottle cap or credit card against the wall or The Corner with his head/nose—you can even have them put their hands on their head while you stand there. Spank your boy, if he loses his focus or attention with your hand. That'll snap him back into your reality, and you can keep the scene completely in motion even though the Spanking isn't going on in that moment. * Compiled from the December 2017 "DudesSpankingDudes" podcast. "Big Daddy Vegas and Red Spank Scott provided a bunch of "Tips for Tops" about the kinds of things tops, especially less experienced Tops, should plan for when playing with a new dude."       Please comment below or email us with your ideas   aok4otk@aol.com or cornertimeconf@gmail.com ______________________________________ Follow Cornertime Confidential Wherever You Are:   Tumblr  ∙  SouthSpanking ∙  Twitter  ∙  WordPress
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Wash my Mouth Out With Soap and Spank Me  ! Link for Part 5B Again . . .  If you recognize me in my photos, make sure I finally get the mouthsoaping and naked spanking I've always deserved! Don't be shy.  Be assertive!  Take charge!   Tell me you won't tolerate the way I lied to Payton and the guys at work about being spanked by my dad.   Tell me I should have just confessed that I get spanked as an adult, like I'm doing now!    Tell me that if my own dad had washed my mouth out with soap and given me a good hard spanking when I lied, perhaps I wouldn't be telling fibs as an adult!   Make me admit to you out loud that a mouthsoaping and good hard bare naked spanking are exactly what I need and deserve!   Then take charge and make sure I get them!   Below are some current pictures of me spanked with soap in my mouth. The ideal situation would be to wash my mouth out with soap in front of a bathroom mirror.     That way I can see myself standing there naked with a sudsy mouth and when you spank me I can see just how ridiculous a grown man looks with a bar of soap in my mouth, drooling soapsuds and getting a spanking!   And I can see the expressions of satisfaction on your face knowing you're putting me in my place!   Then after spanking me for a while in front of the mirror, grab me by the ear to make me really feel like a little kid and drag me back to the other room. Bend me over your knees with the soap still in my mouth and spank me again, warning me not to let that bar of soap fall out of my mouth!  I might have to bite down hard on the soap, getting it caked in my teeth to keep it from slipping out as I yell as the paddle does it's work! One thing for sure . . . I'll be a blubbering, drooling mess and it will be a spanking that I'll remember for a long, long time.      Then grab me by the ear and drag me over to a window and have me stand in front of it buck ass naked for some corner time. And if it's dark outside just leave the lights on in the room so everyone outside can see me standing there in the window. Warn me not to drop the soap out of my mouth or I'll get another spanking right in front of the window so everyone can see what happens to boys that don't listen!  I won't be able to see if anyone is outside but they will surely see me!   Inside observers can see the soap in my mouth, my reflection in the glass, and the stool calls more attention to the fact that I'm naked and on display.  Yes I'm naked and on display for every else's amusement with my bare red spanked bottom sticking out!  I'm sure I'll be here for quite some time, but I'm just hoping it will be over before someone else drops by!  Oh, No!   The doorbell just rang!       The photo below is the view everyone had of an older naughty foul mouthed boy getting his mouth washed out with soap doing cornertime from the outside of the house that night! Cornertime is meant to embarrass and humiliate the person being punished.   Making the person serve cornertime in front of a window or door makes it even worse because they are visible from outdoors!    And even worse at night like with the lights on inside because it's like there's a spotlight on them!   Then if you drag a chair over and pull them over your knees and spank them in front of the window or door their face will just burn with shame!   It's bad enough for a teenager but even worse for someone my age to endure a punishment like this.  Humiliation definitely adds to the effectiveness of a spanking and I can't say there much more humiliating to be standing in front of a window or door, naked and spanked with a bar of soap in my mouth for anyone to see and enjoy my shame!   Both those inside the house and those outside can see that I've been a naughty boy and I get disciplined like one too with a spanking and a mouthsoaping!  I've always been intrigued with the details the college "boys" from work told me about getting "the belt" at home, so after corner time is over, pull me out of the corner and have me lay over a stack of pillows on a table or bed to raise my bare bottom high in the air and belt whip me, perhaps even with the bar of soap still in my mouth.   Or do the same with me standing over the kitchen sink!  Show me what it's like to get "the belt" good and hard.   Whoop my ass raw!     My long time online friend Jordan has been talking about coming to visit me to give the the spanking and mouthsoaping I've missed out on all those years growing up, complete with ear pulling and some naked outdoor switch cutting.   I wonder how many neighbors will see and hear me getting spanked naked? One thing I know for sure, if he comes to visit I'm going to be spanked buck ass naked, indoors and outdoors and I will experience that true spanking humiliation, I've always craved!   Look for some more recent photos of me getting a spanking and a mouthsoaping and then:  Part 6 - If Anyone Recognizes Me - Give Me The Belt
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Last month we revived an older post from The Dirty Daddy blog. We are big advocates of the advice, guidance, and strength of character he provides to new boys and Daddys.  This week we wanted to elevate his 4 steps on how to be a Good boy. Below you'll find his advice for boys living in Daddy/boy relationships. Again, this post was explicitly about sexual relations with Daddy, and this link provides you direct assess to that post of his. We hope you find they help you start your Daddy/boy relationship or they help you rekindle the fire in your existing relationships that may have become a bit too vanilla.   "Daddy, what can I do to be a not just a good boy but the very best boy for you?"     4 Key Steps to Becoming a Good boy (A/K/A "Pleasing Daddy" or "Being Not Just a Good boy, but Becoming Daddy's Best boy". This post mostly includes content from The Dirty Daddy himself with comments by jake, author, of Cornertime Confidential, providing his personal experience to round out the advice provided.)   This post provides basic pointers for a person who wants to be a Good boy when dealing with Daddy.   Step 1: Seek Out Daddy's Approval, Don't Need it. The first and most important thing for a Good boy is to want—not need—Daddy’s approval. And an important part of that want is to want Daddy's pleasure and for the boy to find ways to show that he wants Daddy's pleasure does. As the boy, your desire to please and pleasure your Daddy is a key tool in achieving that very goal. His touch is one way he can show his pleasure, and approval, to you and it’s a prefect opportunity to respond in kind. Gently holding the side of your face, the back of your neck, putting his hand in the small of your back, or anywhere he wants to touch.    These moments are your chance to respond with or without words.    Smile, press your face into the hand, nuzzle the hand that’s touching you, show genuine appreciation for your Daddy at times like that especially. He is reaching out to touch you for a reason. Accept and enjoy that fact. Your pleasure in what you are doing can become a very powerful tool to make him even happier. Some Daddys respond very strongly to sounds, like whimpers, moans, groans, and sighs. Even things like giggling and laughter can bring pleasure to your Daddy. Ultimately, only you will get to know your Daddy, and that takes time.    [CC: Some Daddys like mine do not like his boy to make a ton of noises. He finds them artificial. Check in with your Daddy to ensure this pleases him. Only make authentic noises that you feel in your boy heart, and then share with your Daddy, so he appreciates them. It takes time as The DIrty Daddy says here, so build up to a full mutual sharing in this area].   Step 2: Develop and Maintain Good boy Behaviors   A Good boy has many responsibilities including being on his best behavior at all times.  (1) When Daddy asks a question or decides to instruct, reply ‘Yes, Daddy’ and do your best to do as he has instructed.  (2) If you are having trouble doing something Daddy has instructed, be honest with Daddy—especially when he asks you why you haven't done something expressly asked for by Daddy.    [a note from CC: it's hard for anyone to always be on their best behaviour at all times, but being authentic and open are essential. If you find that doing so is a turn off, then you need to tell Daddy. Most Daddys will assume your headspace is in being a good boy. If that is just not your thing, then say so. You can still have a good Daddy/boy relationship, but you'll adjust it for the reality you feel inside.]   “Thank you Daddy”  Thanking Daddy is a Good boy behaviour to remember as appreciation, respect, and consideration are important features of a Good boy. When he gives a direct instruction, follow as promptly and accurately as possible. It may not always be easy, but that could also be his effort to see how dedicated you are to what you are doing.  [a note from CC: When you do not feel this way towards your Daddy it could be for a real reason—like you feel he doesn't deserve your thanks for the things he does. It's important to run with that feeling. If he's a bad match, identify that early and exit the relationship]    Ask for Help From Daddy Try hard to do as Daddy asks. When you need to, ask him for help. That simple "Good behaviour" can take the form of his hands guiding your head, holding your hips or hands, or anything else so he needs to do to teach you exactly how to do that which he asks you to do.    Check in With Daddy Ask if you are doing correctly what Daddy's asked for. Doing a Good job on the tasks that Daddy's asked you to do helps define who is the boy in the relationship. I recommend fairly regular check-ins where you ask respectfully and with all your heart, "Am I being a Good boy, Daddy?" Your ability to earnestly seek his approval is a key element that will ensure a better Daddy/boy relationship. Your honest, authentic approach is the difference. [a note from CC:  I have been a boy to my Daddy since 2016 and living together since 2019 and I want to concur strongly with DIrty Daddy here. When we check in with one another with all our heart, we are a better partner—Daddy to me and me to Daddy.]   Step 3: Familiarize Yourself With Basic Intimacy Skills   Seek to possess a strong knowledge of Daddy's anatomy, his sexual response, and your pleasure thresholds, and methods of responding to those factors. By reading this post, you are already on your way to gaining these key intimacy skills.  How does Daddy want to give you pleasure? And do you enjoy that? Do you to respond authentically and enthusiastically to how he wants to give you pleasure? How do you give the pleasure that Daddy seeks? And do you enjoy that?   In the end analysis, don't force it. If you don't feel authentically attracted to Daddy, then find a Daddy to whom you truly are attracted. Some boys just love the "idea" of Daddy, not the reality of Daddy.    Addressing Long Term Daddy/boy Relationship Doldrums In relationships that have been going on for a long time, many M/m couples become bored with one another. (This is so very true for M/f relationships too, of course), but Using a Daddy-centric approach and rekindling the fire that originally drove you to be attracted to Daddy can be helpful. For Daddys, do your best to seek out the answers to why you got involved with your boy. What did you enjoy about him originally, and lean into that. If it feels forced, don't do it. But if you can recall with joy in your heart, tap into that.       For the boys, start by asking yourself three Basic Intimacy Skills signals:    Sexual Reponsiveness An erection is only one way to tell if your Daddy is enjoying what you are doing. You both will need more than that to sustain an interest as a Daddy/boy team. The difference between a random cocksucker and truly being Daddy's boy is that you belong where you are, where he has placed you, and shown he trusts you to be that boy for him.   Obedience It’s not simply a matter of obedience, as previous discussed, it is that you choose and want to be there. It makes you truly happy that he enjoys what you do, and that he loves and trusts you enough to let you do it. [a note from CC: Obedience sounds like an old-fashioned, false notion. But as we discussed in this blogpost, it can be crucial to an effective and satisfying Daddy/boy relationship. And better obedience can help sustain a relationship, particularly between a Daddy and his boy, a boy and his Daddy.]   Following Instructions The Dirty Daddy blog provides detailed instructions on how to not only make your Daddy desire you, but also how to show him pleasure he may never have experienced with anyone before. Following these instructions can help move you from a "good boy" to Daddy's “Best Boy,” a coveted place for a boy. Getting to this place will require that you know what Daddy can make you feel, and your desire to bring that out of him too. Lean in to your determination to reach for that goal.     After you think about these 3 signals, consider sharing your responses to them with Daddy. If you find it difficult to face the truth behind the questions, then you may need to reconsider your relationship.    If, however, you or Daddy has just become lazy over time in addressing Basic Intimacy Skills, consider these three signals as a way to kickstart things.    Step 4: Develop Self Control.  While this is a basic skill and a behavior set it deserves its own Step for all Good boys. Self-control for a boy is reflected in to key abilities:    1. the boy's ability to hold off the desire to pleasure himself (This is why some people use chastity devices to deny that urge entirely.) and  2. a boy's ability to take instructions from Daddy.    Depending on the age and experience of your Daddy, he may have had many more years at this and more hours than you, so his guidance and instruction should be followed so long as it is informed by real life experience.  Be sure to ask questions at the right times.     There are some positions that are not easy to master for a boy, because they can cause extreme stimulation. When a boy is given instructions that are counter to his immediate gratification he should obey them. There are good reasons for them. And having to stop and explain everything to a boy can ruin a mood.    Be sure to ask questions, yes. But only at the right time.    Being able to control yourself, your desire, and your curiosity for a time are crucial skills. If you ask questions constantly, you may do more than just ruin a mood. Worse, you might miss swallowing that load you worked so hard for. Keep your mind on your task and your eyes on the prize.    The 4 Key Steps here can be a great starting point for any Daddy and boy to integrate as they begin or try to restart a relationship.    [a note from CC: I re-read the Dirty Daddy blog every now and again so that I can remember my role and get my head into my boy heart and boy place.    Work and life and friends can easily take you away from your preferred role in your Daddy/boy relationship making it a roommates with benefits experience. But is that really what you signed up for? Is that what you really wanted when you began your Daddy/boy relationship?]   What you want can come to you, especially if you are a Good boy, follow Daddy's lead, and develop in sync with one another. Daddy still decides how and when. But that’s his job because its what you want him to do. You need him to want to give you pleasure, and these 4 basic steps bring you one step closer to that goal.     Please comment below or email us with your ideas   aok4otk@aol.com or cornertimeconf@gmail.com ______________________________________ Follow Cornertime Confidential Wherever You Are: Tumblr  ∙  SouthSpanking ∙  Twitter  ∙  WordPress 
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Wash my Mouth Out With Soap and Spank Me! Link for Part 5A - Mouthsoaping Begins The next few pictures are older pictures of me with a bar of soap in my mouth, thinking about getting a spanking and a mouthsoaping.  When I first discovered the internet around age 40, I joined a self spanking Yahoo Group.   We would give each other spanking assignments and had to post photos of us completing the tasks.   One guy gave me a mouthsoaping task to do along with the self spanking and these are pictures from that assignment.    Some of the original old face pictures of myself that I didn't destroy.  Again . . .  If you recognize me in my photos, make sure I get both the mouthsoaping and naked spanking I've always deserved! Lathering up the soap and putting it in the water is getting me excited!   I don't know why, but seeing a spanking paddle laying  on the vanity countertop and the bar of soap soaking in the sink, just gives me a boner!      This is the first time I had a bar of soap in my mouth since I was a boy and it's bringing back unpleasant memories!   No I'm not likeing this at all, but a punishment is a punishment!   I didn't have too many old face pictures of myself.  Most of them I destroyed the original photos after I edited out my face but I found a few of the original pictures.     My face is saying I don't like the soap in my mouth one bit, but my dick is telling a different story! Soap can be used in a naughty boy's other end too!   My naughty bottom was shaved hairless to humiliate me along with my crotch.  Then a "soap stick" was carved from a bar of soap and inserted in my "boy hole"!      I was then made to fully expose myself in the diaper position and then shove the soap stick all the way in my hole.   It was truly humiliating in my shaved condition to be on display like this.    After a while I was told to sit on the toilet and expel the soap stick.  My hairless crotch fully exposed in contrast to the rest of my hairy body, only adding to my shame!   My interest in mouthsoaping began around age 40 as the photos above show, but it wasn't  a major theme in my spanking play.   I never really ran into a disciplinarian that had an interest in it either, so that interest never developed.   Not until young Payton from work told me the tantalizing story about his bare ass belt whippings and mouthsoapings he got from his dad!   Combine that with his outward desire to spank me and my interest in mouthsoaping was born.   It's still rare to find a spanker that has an interest in soaping your mouth during a spanking.  But for me, it brings back a childhood punishment that I did receive and ties it into one that I always fantasized about getting growing up.  My mouthsoaping interests went back a long way but they didn't really materialize until I heard about the discipline rituals Payton endured.    Link for Part 5C
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by on September 19, 2023
 Wash my Mouth Out With Soap and Spank Me! If I cuss or sass you, drag me over to the sink and put a big wet bar of soap in my mouth and then spank me again!  Just like a spanking, a boy of any age is never too old for an old fashioned mouth soaping!  Just like a spanking, a mouthsoaping should be given naked too, to add to the humiliation of the punishment.  Besides a mouthsoaping can get messy and there's no reason to mess up someone's clothes.   And a spanking should be given during a mouthsoaping so it's convenient if the boy is already bare for the spanking.  If a boy really deserves a mouthsoaping for repeated using his mouth in an inappropriate way, you can add to to the effectiveness of the punishment by soaking the bar of soap in a bowl of hot water to make it extra soft and gooey before putting it in his mouth!   You might make him do some naked corner time in front of the bathroom mirror standing there staring at himself and that bar of soap soaking in the hot water so he can think about what it's going to taste like when it goes in his mouth and a belt or paddle lights his bottom on fire!  The bar of soap was soaked in a bowl of hot water for over an hour to make sure it was a soft gooey mess before it went into my mouth!   Yes, soft chunks of soap came off the bar along with a gooey soap slime that drooled out of my mouth and down my chest!    It certainly tasted awful, just like the kid at work described!   After Payton, the 19 year old kid from work told me about the belt spankings and mouthsoapings he got from his dad, I was so turned on by mouthsoapings I just had to try one out on myself. The kind of mouthsoaping he said he got!  These are actually pictures of me soaping my own mouth trying to find out what Payton's mouthsoapings might have been like!   I did get my mouth washed out with soap growing up but they were much milder punishments than the ones Payton got!   They were brief, plus I never got a spanking along with them. Perhaps if I'd been spanked during those mouth soapings I wouldn't have needed to get my mouth washed out with soap as often as I did. I hated mouthsoapings when I got them.   There was nothing exciting at all about them.   Spankings excited me and I was very curious about them since I never got one,  but mouth soapings were something I truly hated, and had no interest in them before that conversation with Payton.  I don't know why, but for some reason I craved a mouthsoaping just like Payton told me he got from his dad!  Including the spankings he got along with them!   I even fantasized about Payton giving me those spankings and mouthsoapings himself!  Perhaps it was because Payton was one of those young guys from work that did want to "turn the tables" and give me a spanking!  He could probably sense that I could benefit from both the pain and humiliation of a good bare ass belt spanking like he got or perhaps he thought about bending me over his knees and trying out one of those paddles on my ass that he was so curious about!  I couldn't believe he wanted to give his boss a spanking but from the comments he made, he certainly did and I'm sure he would had some major satisfaction doing it!   Plus a young man like him spanking me, fit right into my own role reversal spanking fantasies!   Honestly, I would have enjoyed having him strip me and spank me as much as I think he would have enjoyed doing it!  And the humiliation of having him spank me naked, right in front of his coworkers would have been exquisite!  They all would have enjoyed seeing their boss get stripped and spanked! Link for Previous Portion: Part 4 -The Story About Payton - His Mouthsoapings and Belt Spankings Ever since Payton told me about his mouthsoapings I got turned on whenever I thought about getting a spanking and getting my mouth washed out with soap!   I don't know why, but I didn't even want to endure the horrible punishment alone like I did as a boy.  I wanted to endure the public humiliation of having it happen to me in front of other people!  Maybe because I imagined Payton's brothers watching his humiliation, my boner just throbbed as I throught about enduring a mouthsoaping punishment like he did, in front of other people!   It would be so humiliating to be standing in the corner with a bright red, well spanked bottom and a bar of soap in my mouth and have the doorbell ring and other people I know get let in to witness my punishment!   I wouldn't dare move or try to cover myself, or the spanking would continue and then I'd end up back in the corner while my friends laughed, just like I did when my friends got spanked in front of me when I was younger!  It doesn't matter that I'm a grown adult, someone like me is never too old for a spanking or any other childish punishment like cornertime or mouthsoaping.    My teeth marks deep in the soft gooey bar of soap.   Just like Payton said, holding it with your teeth, trying to get it off your tongue did little good.   All it did was get the soap caked in your teeth making it harder to rinse out when the mouth soaping was over!     Payton was right. It was certainly not fun to get caked up soap out of my teeth!  It would also be pretty embarrassing to have my guests see this bar of soap sitting on the bathroom countertop! They would all know exactly what that bar of soap with the toothmarks is used for! Likewise, it would be very humiliating for me to have to explain to them if they asked, and confess that I get my bare bottom spanked with that bar of soap in my mouth!  Who knows they might even get a personal demonstration if I don't answer their questions to their satisfaction!  Humiliation is an essential part of any effective punishment.  So don't be afraid to make things embarrassing for a boy by having him explain his punishments to others in great detail and make sure he tells them a bare bottom spanking is part of that punishment.  If he doesn't want to tell them, perhaps a demonstration would be in order.   I'm sure the guests would enjoy a practical demonstration as embarrassing as it might be for someone like me! Below is a totally humiliating picture of me during that self soaping while fantasizing about getting a spanking with a bar of soap in my mouth.   Just look at the expression on my face as the disgusting taste of the soap fills my senses and chunks of soap and soapy drool, drip from my mouth!  It's just the sight a disciplinarian likes to see as he's soaping a naughty boy's mouth.   If we see each other in person, give me what I've been fantasizing about.  Repeat it over and over again until I don't think it's fun anymore! Give my mouth a good lathering, and give my ass a good leathering with your belt!   A boy like me that masturbates while thinking about getting spanked with a bar of soap in my mouth deserves to be punished that way!  Maybe I won't get so excited about it after I've experienced a good dose of both!  You can see just how turned on I got thinking about Payton getting spanked with a bar of soap in his mouth!   I'm sure you'll agree that I deserve a good mouthsoaping along with a well blistered bottom! Perhaps it would be fitting for Payton to be the one to give me that punishment! Look for the next part with more mouthsoaping photos of me.
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