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Today I send a old pics, this pics I maker in 2009, is a initial in my hobbie, uniforms, and discipline, in this year I have a little dress, not have a expensive, today I have a great collection of elements uniforms, shirts, shorts, socks, ties and shoes, for my hobbie, I send, in this site a old pics, in my sessions, look please and comment.

Some years ago one of my early and formative spanking experiences was when I went to a spanking party. I had been chatting online to this “daddy” and role playing his naughty little boy, but he lived 60 miles away and we had not met in person. He invited me to a spanking party his friend was hosting, so I decided to make the drive. I was the last to arrive at the house, but nothing had started yet. All the men were sitting in a big circle, all still fully dressed. They asked for a spankee to go first and I volunteered. My daddy sat on a chair in the middle of the circle and stood me in front of him. He made me strip to my tighty whitie underpants in front of everyone, and told me what a naughty boy I was, and that he was going to have to give me a good spanking for being so naughty. Then pulled me over his lap and spanked me on my underpants, as I wriggled and kicked my legs and fussed. He held me in a tight grip! After a few minutes he stood me back up and said “now you are going to get it on your bare bottom young man" he pulled my undies down to my knees in front of the whole room, revealing my bare butt and my fully erect penis! Then he pulled me back over his lap and spanked me on my bare bottom hard. He stopped periodically to caress my bottom gently and check that I was OK, then it was back to hard slaps on my ass cheeks, stinging badly and causing me to Yelp with pain. I soon lost my erection and my penis shank embarrassingly. After that I was passed round the room naked and several guys spanked me over their laps and in other positions. Finally some of the other guys started to get spankings too, I got to watch other guys get spanked and I got spanked side by side with a couple of them. At the end my daddy cuddled me and told me I was a good boy and rubbed my sore red bottom. I got hard once again when he did that so then he sat me on his lap on the sofa and caressed me and I shot a huge load of banned word all over myself! Then I got dressed and went home with a very red and very sore bottom and a very sticky crotch and belly! It was a extremely humiliating and hot experience.

FL BULLY, who seems surprisingly shy about some things, wants me to ask about some of the features of the site such as:How is Match supposed to work?What does it means for someone to be Verified?What establishes someone's Rating?James, Athro: Can you provide explanations/descriptions for these. I think some other members might like to know as well.

So here is an interesting topic and I am fascinated to see what you guys think about it.   The question is really aimed at Dads/Uncles and Tops but of course a boy’s perspective is always welcomed.   You have been communicating with a boy for some time, and have agreed that either you will visit him for a few days or he will visit you.    During your online communications you have become friends and have a number of interests in common, and will enjoy some planned activities together, for example hiking, movies etc.   How would you handle your first face to face interaction?  Would you set down the law in no uncertain terms of expectations and consequence’s and remain in complete charge the entire time or would you turn it on and off, as an example you might be the disciplinarian only for certain times during the day and perhaps use a keyword when you are in Dad mode such as calling him ‘boy’ as opposed to by his first name?   Would you give him an introduction spanking with or without corner time?   Or what else would you think is appropriate?

Well, everyone, I figured it is about time that I posted an update on our recent down-time, and our progress in getting things back to normal. The first thing I need to emphasize is, this was NOT an upgrade, even though you may see things showing a little differently, or new features, I can promise you, these are not intentional and more related to getting the site back online. Our main server basically failed, and it was pretty much OS related.  In order to get things back again, the normal restore process I used also failed.  This left us in a pretty bad situation.  After trying various methods, including using the latest release of the script, I was able eventually to get the site back. However, as you will have noticed not everything is displaying properly or working correctly, such as on mobile devices, for example chat and feed.  Sometimes the login box does not work correctly either and a number of other bugs are present. In order to get everything back to normal, will mean further down-time and that is going to be unavoidable.  I am planning to do this, sometime next week, BUT I will be posting at least 24 hours in advance and providing a status page you can all access to see when the site is back online and its progress. Once we get this completed, the site will be back too normal and it will have some additional features, but they will all actually work this time.  Again, please note this will not be a major upgrade. Our main planned upgrade will mean all mobile devices will have 95% access to ALL site features.  This is a work in progress and I am using a test site to facilitate this transition.  I expect this to be implemented at the end of May, and again I will keep you all in the loop on this one. Thanks for everyone’s patience!   James and our Amazing Admin team.

Hello everyone, Before I begin, I will respond to messages and IM's shortly.  As some of you are aware, I have been suffering some health issues, so my absence from the site will take place from time to time.  I appreciate all communication, well wishes and hope every single one of you take good care of yourselves. These last weeks and those going forward, possibly for months are going to be challanging, from a health and economic perspective. We watch the news, social media and we can see just how bad the current pandemic is becoming. I am no health professional, but what I can say is take care of yourselves and others when you can.  You are the best person to know if you are ill, or are becoming ill and ultimately the majority of decisions regarding your health are down to you and no one else.  I am erring on the side of caution and that is my choice. If you have relatives or loved ones afftected by this virus, remember and give them a call, or message them or text them.  A simple greeting and asking how they are doing can make a big difference.  Those that need to isolate themselves, are not only going to suffer the physical symptoms, there can be mental health issues, so a little communication can help a great deal. I guess no one really knows how bad this will ultimately become, still I will personally say a prayer each night for everyone.  This is a strong community of amazing people, talented, loving and caring.  Finally if you have underlying health issues or/and are a senior please be especially careful. I really cannot thing of anything else to say. So have a hug and again stay safe. James  

I am amazed to find us already in 2020 - the beginning of a new decade! I wish everyone a very prosperous new year, and remember when things don’t go your way, it just means it’s a bad day – not a bad life 😊 I want to share the funniest thing I have heard so far this year – if Twitter, Face-book and YouTube became one company you would have ‘You Twit Face’ – Priceless! I don’t and never have really considered myself to be the ‘site owner’ – I think of myself as an administrator, because without you, the members there is no site.  So please accept my thanks and hugs to all of you for being part of this site and community. There are so many of you I want to thank personally, but the list would be never ending!  That said there are a few of you I do want to say a special thanks to (not in any order). Isma – Your work is amazing and we all truly appreciate your efforts, you make us smile, and not just as an artist, you have an awesome personality. Tinj – You share some fantastic videos and again we all appreciate you for doing so, thank you so much! Mr Olly – A true gentleman, the pictures you share with us and your comments are wonderful, we really appreciate you. NorCal – Thank you for your insights and observations, I am truly grateful.  Also, you have a great sense of humor! OnkelChen – For being warm hearted, a good listener, not believing in review sessions and only spanking when there is a full moon. AC – I mean what amazing images to wake up to, I love my good mooning pictures – and for being such a fan of the site. Max Hause – Well for being just you Max, a wee scamp that needs a lot of spankings! Amsterdad – A true top and Dad, one of the very few that quickly put me in my place, but one with a lot of emotional intelligence. Baltic – Your wit and genuine opinions shine. There are so very many more - Sussex Peter, FL Bully, Wailer, Toronto Dad, Charles ,Adam, Fletcher Bengel … and I apologize if you are not listed, I could never finish if I tried to! And also, Studio’s - Thank you for sharing your preview clips and for supporting this site, a special thanks goes to John from CP4men. I will be updating everyone on what’s happening and new with the site throughout the year. Hugs – spanks – and more spanks James

Some thoughts on spanking technique. As a switch, obviously, I approach spanking from both sides. And of course everyone is different; has different preferences for positions and implements, different fantasies, different levels of pain tolerance. To have a successful spanking encounter, that will likely be repeated, it’s important for the spanker to get and act on some basic information from the boy, because if he gets what he both wants and dreads in his heart of hearts, he’ll be satisfied and want to do it again and again. Assuming he really is “into this” ...there are guys out there who have it in their head they want to get spanked but in reality they have no stomach, or rather, butt, for it. There are some common elements, though, that usually help make it work. For shorthand, written from the top’s perspective. Know what fantasy elements you’re going to do. Most guys like at least a little bit of a context of punishment; it can go all the way from just an attitude to a full on role play scenario. And it’s not always age play, like father/son or teacher pupil. Some guys like to be dominated by a peer or master. You need to find this out. I believe that the best tops are very versatile; it’s the bottoms that have particular needs. Of course, again, everyone’s different, so there are exceptions even to that. Warm up. Start skin to skin, bare hand to bare bottom, hard but not too hard, and spank for a few minutes, then take a break. This gets endorphins flowing. This can be OTK, but it doesn’t have to be. If he prefers standing, bend him over a stool or back of a couch and spank him in that position, but with your hand first. Don’t pitty pat… spank pretty hard; hard enough to get a red bloom on his butt. (Very dark skin doesn’t redden, but the color deepens). Give him a break, to let this sink in, even though you’ve just started. Two or three minutes is enough. Corner time or standing against a wall if it feels right. Then switch to what gets him cranking. Whether it’s a paddle, strap, belt, cane, whip, or whatever, introduce the implements and use them in sessions, not switching back and forth too often. Maintain a steady rhythm when spanking. Rhythm is extremely important, and one of the areas where a lot of spankers fall down on the job. Bursts and interruptions for butt rubbing may be appreciated by some guys, but mostly, in my experience, not. Find a groove. Where there’s enough pain that you’re getting vocal feedback, even a little squirming, but where you can spank and keep on spanking. Only make him count if you know that works for him. Some guys really don’t like it; it’s a distraction. The spanker can count, silently, if it helps. Implements relate to velocity. You can spank fast with hand, paddle, brush, even belt and strap. Slower, more like swats, if standing, with a paddle, cane, switch, birch, flogger, cat or other whip, etc. If you’re spanking OTK, it really helps to spank steadily and not too slow. It doesn’t have to be as hard as you can, because even a fairly moderate level of intensity will build to a rip roaring red ass after 200 or 300 smacks… and that’s not too many. If you don’t do it this way, try it. Even 500 or 600 is quite doable with most guys if they’re real spankos. Rotate to other implements in increasing order of intensity; you might give little or even longer breaks in between, depending on how long and intense a spanking it is. This is really basic, but it’s important: avoid anywhere near the coccyx, distribute your smacks, licks or swats so both cheeks are equally covered (remember that the cheek farther away gets more leverage, so you need to adjust to make sure you aren’t focusing too much on it and not enough on the other one). Spank the sit spot, but not only the sit spot. Spank the upper thighs, but only if you know that works for him; some guys really just don’t like it, and sure, your job is to punish his butt, but in the end we all do this because we want it, and if somebody consistently does something we hate, it’s not conducive to a good spanking relationship. Generally, build. Sometimes ease off a little then pour it on; don’t want to be too predictable, but most times the logical progression is towards a climax, where the ending is very intense, right up to the edge of what he can take, and stay at that edge as long as you can. This may only be a few swats, or it may be half the spanking. It just depends. I always feel that an adult male spanking that doesn’t last a good ten minutes isn’t quite successful. Some can last much, much longer. And last but not least, don't forget Aftercare. A quick hug, some more extended holding or massaging, or even helping him get release... it depends on you (and him), but a little sign that you care about him and his experience is part of it. 

Hi Everyone, A quick update, I am currently abroad so not been on site much, still managed to get myself spanked though - bet you are suprised lol? There was a mistake made on the site with regards to a members account being deleted, and I want to apologize for that. Everyone regardless of gender is welcome here without exception. I would like to ask for your understanding on this matter and not turn it into an argument or point fingers, we all make mistakes. Ultimately this is my site, so I take full responsobility and this has never happened before, so please do accept it for what it was - a mistake. I appreciate your understanding and support and again I apologize.   huggsss   James    

It is of my opinion that a spanking should be strictly discipline. I do understand that people do enjoy the more erotic side of it however I am very much into role play and it would take away from the 'scene' if there was an erotic element. I do believe though that the chastising of a boy or son should not entirely be restricted to just straight spanking. Here are just a few things i also enjoy about a spanking session, i hope you agree and share other humiliation / embarassment / punishment techniques you enjoy!! SCOLDING For me this is an extremely important part of any spanking. It should be made before, during and after a spanking. A father or dom should send a clear message to his boy that he is no longer in control and that he has been naughty for a particular reason. A father should remain in control when scolding his boy and should never shout. He should speak with authority and make his boy understand that he is wrong, and will do as he is told from then on in. RULE SETTING A particular favourite of mine is during a spanking a father setting down rules to his boy that he will be expected to abide by. For example 1. you are grounded for the next 2 weeks 2. your bed time is now 10pm every night. 3. you will do all your house chores before school/work etc. SHAVING It is a good way of a dad to tell his boy if he is going to act like a young boy he is going to be treated like one. It's extremely humiliating for any boy to be shaved front and back by his dad. DIAPER POSITION Being spanked is embarassing enough. Being spanked in the diaper position is pretty humiliating! CORNER TIME Corner time should always be utilized by a dad. It can be used before, during(if it's a particularly long session) and after. Nothing better than when a dad drags his son by the ear to the corner and makes him spread his legs. The duration should be dependent on how naughty the boy was. As a variant the dom could place a wooden stool for the boy to sit on in the corner as well. As an additional extra the dom might wish to add something like a coin that the boy must hold with his nose against the wall, hands on head and legs spread. WRITING LINES / APOLOGY LETTERS Writing lines or apology letters reinforces to the boy that he has been naughty and will ensure he regrets whatever he has done. MOUTH SOAPING Swearing during a spanking? Not whilst daddys around you don't!! Drag the boy to the bathroom and soap his mouth out good and hard whilst spanking him or make him kneel infront of you and rinse him out. BATH TIME Having a dad wash me before or after a spanking(before being sent to bed) is extremely embarassing. BEING PUT TO BED EARLY Tucked in like the naughty young boy and told to be good whilst dad ruffles your hair. Need i say more? GINGER Never tried this before but I have heard a lot of people say this is a great way to discipline a boy as it stings like hell. ---- Don't know if i've missed anything. If you have anything else you would like to add please comment below. ps. sorry about grammar wrote this quite quickly! xxx

James, at the bottom of guys individual comments there is REPORT and LIKE. How hard would it be to put a REPLY there? Then you could reply to that specific comment instead of replying to the whole thread in general.

Well guys, as you know the upgrade caused us downtime of several days, something I wanted to avoid.  I could have restored from our backup and got us back on-line much sooner, however we would not have achieved our goal.    This upgrade was 100% necessary and I am happy to say will be the very last one using this script.   Do you notice anything different?   I hope not!  You are not supposed to!   The purpose of the upgrade was simply to get the database and file structure updated while identifying blocks and modules that were no longer compatible and of course removing them.   We did this because we want to move away from this script PHPFOX to SOCIAL ENGINE.  Having everything updated makes it easier for support requests with the new script and the database importer.   The script we use at present was developed and created by an amazing guy called Raymond Benc, he had an awesome team of developers and support personnel.  The script was in high demand and new Apps and modules were being heavily developed by 3rd party vendors.   Raymond was forced to sell the script to a company called Younet a number of years ago.  Now they have their fingers in many pies and their business model is to raise as much money as they can from existing script owners.  They have done this by introducing a new product tier and if you want the updated Apps such as mobile, you need to pay a premium of 300% of your original purchase price to get your product updated.  Not only that you then have to pay on-going annual fees.   Okay, this may have been sustainable and of course had to be considered.  Even if I had gone this route, no one is really developing anything new for PHPFOX, basically it’s really only YOUNET themselves.  In contrast Social Engine has a healthy and vibrant 3rd party community   They just screwed me again, by removing support for our chat bar, so I am forced to use one we bought some time ago, its slower but will do the trick meantime.  They did this because, they have developed their own system, with a price tag of almost 1K – now aren’t they just clever?   Now that this upgrade has been achieved, we can start work on a move to SOCIAL ENGINE.  The best part about this is, that it will be developed alongside our existing script.  This means no downtime until we are ready to go live and even then, it will be minimum.   When we achieve this move, which I will begin working on today, we will have an awesome site that is quick, full of the features we want and fully compatible with mobile devices.  That is where we need to be.   I will be posting more on this later, and if you have any questions, please go ahead and reach out.   James