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Hello everybody, I hope you are all well during this crazy time that is upon us all.  Not only are we dealing with this pandemic, but we have a presidential election and of course we are coming up on holiday season.  I have a lot to tell you, and I am pretty excited about it.  Now before I get into it all, I do have to talk about the subject I dread the most, site funding.  Its always a source of embarrassment for me personally, and its something I would much rather avoid.  That said, I have learned the hard way, the longer I put it off, the worse the situation becomes. Previously I have simply pulled out the begging bowl and I do not want to do that anymore, so I am going to try something different.  I have created a new membership group called “Community Supporter”.  Everyone can choose to upgrade to this group by making a one-time payment of a minimum of $25, and that will last for as long as the site does.  You will get a small icon on your profile page together with the text ‘Community Supporter’, this is done automatically. Somethings I want to point out: You can upgrade by clicking on the upgrade button on the menu bar. When you upgrade, the charge will show as Arizoy LLC – the site will not be mentioned on your statement.  This is of course to protect your privacy. I am working on different payment gateways but for now Pay-Pal is the only option.  You do not need a Pay-Pal account though and can simply checkout as guest. If you have made a donation ever to the site of $25 or more, you will be upgraded.  I will do this manually, but it will take a bit of time.  Once I have finished, I will post as such and anyone I missed can then get in touch with me and I will fix it for them. You can choose the minimum of $25, or more, but there is no difference or additional benefits, if you choose to go higher.  I am keeping it simple.  When you think about $25 for life is pretty good value, when some sites charge around that or higher for just one month. It is a onetime payment, there is no reoccurring charge and the options will no longer appear under the upgrade button. I am hoping, this will allow the site to become self-sufficient, as we would only need a percentage of future members to upgrade their memberships in order to do so.  If we need to encourage further, we do have options such as restricting the videos, either by number or minutes to non-supporting members.  This would really be a last resort though, as I seriously want to keep the site free for everybody. With Black Friday and Cyber Monday, coming in the next few months, I would love to see enough upgrades so we can take advantage of the deals, possibly even snagging a server for a year, that would be awesome! Okay, I am so glad that’s over with …. now onto the good stuff! (dang I sounded boring in all of that)! Right you are, we are going for a major upgrade, which is currently in the testing phase on our backup server.  I will be inviting some of you to trial it for me and help identify any bugs etc.  I am funding the upgrade out of my own pocket, but this will be the last time I can do so.  This is by order of hubby whom wields the hairbrush. So here are some highlights: Its going to be faster. It will have a progressive web app, for those using tablets, cell phones etc. Again, with those using mobile devices, you will be able to download a generic app for both Android and Apple, though the respective stores. We will be using HTML 5 for videos. Chat system will be new and improved. Groups are getting a huge overall. You will be able to have password resets by email, but this will be constrained to only password resets. Photos and Albums are being revamped and will be much easier to navigate. You will have a favorite system, where you can mark any items you choose as a ‘favorite’ and then access the all from a new tab page. A few other surprises

I have wondered why corner time is so common in the U.K. and parts of Europe. Spankers: Why do you chose to have your spankee stand facing a wall or corner for varying times and forbid rubbing their bottoms? Corner time is rarely used in the United States, although it was used in the 1940s and 1950s. Also, how much corner time is enough and how much is too long?

What do all you spankees think about during a spanking? Do you think about anything? Do you think about the pain and wonder when it will be over? Are you so overwhelmed by the pain that you can't think about anything? Do you get lost in the pain? Are you thinking about anything else to escape the pain? Personally, I wonder when the spanking will end in the beginning. But as my spanking gets more intense, I just get lost in the continual pain and just float on the waves of pain. Eventually, I feel calm as my endorphins kick in. Please give me honest, candid answers! I'm curious whether others feel the same things that I do.

Hi, in this new blog I send here a tipicals pics of schoolboys in Spain, a old dress used,and punishment

Folks, So I am just going to come out and say this, we are an all-inclusive site, period. Do we have Gay members, YES, do we have straight members YES, do we have transgender members YES and do we have Female members YES. If you do not like a photo or a video or a comment, then you can personally choose not to watch it or view it and can block content from members you do not wish to see.   It really is that simple. If you want to be an banned word .. then leave .. just go, because you are not wanted here. What possible pleasure can you get from disrespectful and abusive behavior huh?   Get a life .. and so you know there is zero tolerance for this, and why?  Because I said so and as I own the site, that is the way it is, period.  If you don't like my explanation, well too bad for you. I do not often get angry but tonight I am pissed, just think about tolerance, think about inclusion and think very, very, hard on what being a 'bigot' means.  Those with such short-sighted minds, well God help you. Enough Said James AND Denis

Well guys, as much as I hate doing it and I try very hard not to, it is time for a fundraiser for the site. Now please, only donate if you can afford to do so, I mean that.  Right now, with the pandemic everyone is in a difference place, financially, Healthwise and Career Wise.  It is important to concentrate on what matters the most and this site should not be a top priority. If you want to donate, please click on the donate button, or if you have not sone so already consider updating your membership.   Hugs and many thanks   James

So an update on what has been going on. I did a server rebuild and moved us over to a better web server, Litespeed as opposed to Apache.  This had to be done for several reasons, speed being an obvious one but also because the server had some faults, including its networking.  It takes a long time to do this, because I have to move the data from the server to a backup VPS and then back again.  When we do the copy back to the server, given the large amount of data, it is a six-hour process.  That said, this will be the last build for the next 18 months, unless the hardware fails. On the networking, it proved to be extremely frustrating and I am pissed about it.  We used Enom as our domain host, because the interface is easy to use and because propagation is virtually instant.  Enom sold out to Hover and I have never seen a more useless control panel in my life.  I was unable to edit name servers or glue records with it constantly giving me ‘auth’ errors.  I did create a ticket and I am still waiting and that was over 24 hours ago.  Part of the networking issue was that guys could not get to the site from some locations, there was a problem with DNS. Given that Hover screwed me right up the middle, I signed up for a month’s trial with a DNS hosting provider, which seems to be going well.  At the very least it gives me a month to move to another domain registrar, because hover can go f*** themselves.  Do let me know if you are experiencing problems, but I will have our own private nameservers back up again soon. I had hoped to run upgrades and fix some other issues, but again I struck out of luck as the script installer and upgrade routine constantly failed.  To that end, I have duplicated the site on the same server and will work on refreshing the database from scratch.  What that means in practice, is I install the script fresh with no data.  I then using a copy of our database strip all the extra modules out and all the core components and export to a file.  On the fresh database, I simply drop all the tables that are populated on our live database, and then merge the two together.  It is time consuming, but I will get it done. So you guys now we are still moving away from the scrip to social engine, I just need to figure a lot of bits and pieces on that.  It’s a totally different can of worms, but again I will get it done.  As I have said before once we get over onto social engine, everything will run smoother and nicer, including progressive web apps. So that’s it from me, and I am considering having a large southern comfort.   Hugs   James

I thought I would share about this aspect of my life, but obviously it is not for everyone, we are all different and have our own ideas on what we want, need or expereince in all relationships. The first think I want to talk about here is Boundaries, these are not rules. I think there is a lot of speculation or supposition that those in Domestic Discipline relationships are controlled completely and this is not true, well not form my point of view anyway. The cotrol element from my partner is focused on discipline, punishment and obviously my bare bottom and I can promise you all my spankings are very real. Anyway back to boundaries, I created my own, these are to help me focus, deal with habits and progress my career. My partner and I are more like Dad/Son, he is older than me and he insisted that I made my own boundaries complete with a proposal for punishment which is now always enforced. In a way, I have only myself to blame when I end up punished for breaking them. We do have some rules, and number one is obedience and listening (these are not boundaries), but shouldnt be mistaken for total control, obedience is similar to him asking me to be home at a certain time, or pick up the dry cleaning. It is possible for me to be both disobidenet and break one of my own boundaries. Anyway this is just a quick post on this blog and I will update it once a week with more thoughts, views and expereinces. PS - If you are interested in my boundaries and the punishments you can see them right here: www.southspanking.com/boundaries James

Today I send a old pics, this pics I maker in 2009, is a initial in my hobbie, uniforms, and discipline, in this year I have a little dress, not have a expensive, today I have a great collection of elements uniforms, shirts, shorts, socks, ties and shoes, for my hobbie, I send, in this site a old pics, in my sessions, look please and comment.

Some years ago one of my early and formative spanking experiences was when I went to a spanking party. I had been chatting online to this “daddy” and role playing his naughty little boy, but he lived 60 miles away and we had not met in person. He invited me to a spanking party his friend was hosting, so I decided to make the drive. I was the last to arrive at the house, but nothing had started yet. All the men were sitting in a big circle, all still fully dressed. They asked for a spankee to go first and I volunteered. My daddy sat on a chair in the middle of the circle and stood me in front of him. He made me strip to my tighty whitie underpants in front of everyone, and told me what a naughty boy I was, and that he was going to have to give me a good spanking for being so naughty. Then pulled me over his lap and spanked me on my underpants, as I wriggled and kicked my legs and fussed. He held me in a tight grip! After a few minutes he stood me back up and said “now you are going to get it on your bare bottom young man" he pulled my undies down to my knees in front of the whole room, revealing my bare butt and my fully erect penis! Then he pulled me back over his lap and spanked me on my bare bottom hard. He stopped periodically to caress my bottom gently and check that I was OK, then it was back to hard slaps on my ass cheeks, stinging badly and causing me to Yelp with pain. I soon lost my erection and my penis shank embarrassingly. After that I was passed round the room naked and several guys spanked me over their laps and in other positions. Finally some of the other guys started to get spankings too, I got to watch other guys get spanked and I got spanked side by side with a couple of them. At the end my daddy cuddled me and told me I was a good boy and rubbed my sore red bottom. I got hard once again when he did that so then he sat me on his lap on the sofa and caressed me and I shot a huge load of banned word all over myself! Then I got dressed and went home with a very red and very sore bottom and a very sticky crotch and belly! It was a extremely humiliating and hot experience.

FL BULLY, who seems surprisingly shy about some things, wants me to ask about some of the features of the site such as:How is Match supposed to work?What does it means for someone to be Verified?What establishes someone's Rating?James, Athro: Can you provide explanations/descriptions for these. I think some other members might like to know as well.

The Naughty Boy (For Blackneo, who inspired me to write this story) Generally, Dominic was a good teenage boy. He studied hard and got good grades and wasn’t any trouble at all. But every now and then, Dominic would run around with other boys who were not as good as him. Dominic was easily influenced by them. As his father, I warned him against hanging around with these boys. But he liked them, had lots of fun running around with them and so he ignored my warnings. One day, the boys got mischievous and stole two dozen eggs from a supermarket. Then they went out by the highway and starting throwing the raw eggs at passing cars. Some eggs missed their target, but most of them splattered on the sides or hoods of passing cars. Sometimes, the driver would pull over and the boys scattered into hiding places. The driver would see there was no real damage and drive away. Then, the boys would come out of hiding and throw more eggs until they were all gone. The boys ran off laughing, thinking they had gotten away with something. What they didn’t know is that there were spotted by a neighbor who called the local police. The police said they had gotten complaints and asked if the neighbor could identify any of the boys. The neighbor told them more than that – he recognized two of the boys. One of them was Dominic. When I came home from work, a patrol car pulled up and an officer told me that Dominic had been identified as having thrown eggs. Six drivers left complaints, saying the egg had corroded the paint and the cars would need to be repainted. I told the officer that I would pay for all the damage using my homeowner’s insurance and was told to expect claims. I was calm when the officer was there, but furious after he left. Dominic was nowhere around but I knew that I would punish him good and proper when he came home. Dominic strolled into the house about an hour later as if nothing was wrong. He went to the bathroom to take a shower before dinner. I waited patiently until I could tell the shower was no longer running. Then I went to his room. Dominic was going to be punished severely! I had to control my anger so I didn’t really hurt my boy. But I was determined to teach him a lesson that he would not forget for a long time. As soon as he came out of the shower, I called him to his room. He could tell from the tone of my voice that he was in trouble. He came in still wet but with a towel wrapped around his waist. I immediately confronted him and told him that he would be punished. He knew that meant a spanking and tried to talk his way out of it. He looked really scared. But I told him to throw off the towel and get ready for a very hard spanking. He begged for forgiveness, but I told him that it was too late for that. Seeing he was trapped, he removed the towel so he as completely naked before me. I sat on the bed and called him over. Once he was close enough, I yanked him over my lap. “Oh, no! Please no, Daddy!” he begged. I ignored his pleas and began spanking his bare bum with my hand. I didn’t start easy. I spanked him so hard that my own hand burned. “Oww! Please stop!” he cried as he tried to wiggle away. But I held him on place with my other arm and continued. “This is what you get for being naughty!” I told him sternly. “Oww! Oww! Please, no more!” he cried. “We’re just getting started,” I replied and spanked him even harder. I spanked Dominic until his bum turned reddish-purple and felt very warm to my touch. He was yelling and screaming at every blow. But I wasn’t finished yet. I took off my belt and wrapped it so I could spank him at close range. Then I started again. “You have been a very naughty boy and this is what happens to naughty boys!” I roared. Dominic was really squirming and screaming now, trying desperately to get away for the pain. But I was stronger than he was and held him in place. Finally, he gave up fighting me and just let me whup him. His bum turned a dark purplish color. A few minutes later, he started crying, then just sobbing. “I’m sorry, Daddy! I won’t ever do it again!” he murmured between yells. I hated to punish Dominic this severely because I loved my son. But I thought he really needed to be taught a lesson. I did not want him to grow up to be a hoodlum. By the time I was finished, his bum was covered with angry-looking welts. I stood up while he lay on the bed on his side, sobbing. I let him feel the pain of his punishment and hoped that it had the effect I wanted. Then I told him to stand up and face me. I put my hands on his shoulders. “Son, I’m sorry that I had to do that,” I told him. “But it was for your own good. Do you understand?” He wiped the tears from his face and softly said, “Yes, Daddy. I understand.” I hugged him and left his room. I didn’t hear a peep from him. I went to the kitchen and prepared dinner and we ate in silence. I noticed him wince when he sat at the dinner table. I knew he would feel the pain for a couple of days. Dominic stayed out of trouble for a very long time, so I knew that my spanking had sunk into my naughty boy.

So here is an interesting topic and I am fascinated to see what you guys think about it.   The question is really aimed at Dads/Uncles and Tops but of course a boy’s perspective is always welcomed.   You have been communicating with a boy for some time, and have agreed that either you will visit him for a few days or he will visit you.    During your online communications you have become friends and have a number of interests in common, and will enjoy some planned activities together, for example hiking, movies etc.   How would you handle your first face to face interaction?  Would you set down the law in no uncertain terms of expectations and consequence’s and remain in complete charge the entire time or would you turn it on and off, as an example you might be the disciplinarian only for certain times during the day and perhaps use a keyword when you are in Dad mode such as calling him ‘boy’ as opposed to by his first name?   Would you give him an introduction spanking with or without corner time?   Or what else would you think is appropriate?

I am amazed to find us already in 2020 - the beginning of a new decade! I wish everyone a very prosperous new year, and remember when things don’t go your way, it just means it’s a bad day – not a bad life 😊 I want to share the funniest thing I have heard so far this year – if Twitter, Face-book and YouTube became one company you would have ‘You Twit Face’ – Priceless! I don’t and never have really considered myself to be the ‘site owner’ – I think of myself as an administrator, because without you, the members there is no site.  So please accept my thanks and hugs to all of you for being part of this site and community. There are so many of you I want to thank personally, but the list would be never ending!  That said there are a few of you I do want to say a special thanks to (not in any order). Isma – Your work is amazing and we all truly appreciate your efforts, you make us smile, and not just as an artist, you have an awesome personality. Tinj – You share some fantastic videos and again we all appreciate you for doing so, thank you so much! Mr Olly – A true gentleman, the pictures you share with us and your comments are wonderful, we really appreciate you. NorCal – Thank you for your insights and observations, I am truly grateful.  Also, you have a great sense of humor! OnkelChen – For being warm hearted, a good listener, not believing in review sessions and only spanking when there is a full moon. AC – I mean what amazing images to wake up to, I love my good mooning pictures – and for being such a fan of the site. Max Hause – Well for being just you Max, a wee scamp that needs a lot of spankings! Amsterdad – A true top and Dad, one of the very few that quickly put me in my place, but one with a lot of emotional intelligence. Baltic – Your wit and genuine opinions shine. There are so very many more - Sussex Peter, FL Bully, Wailer, Toronto Dad, Charles ,Adam, Fletcher Bengel … and I apologize if you are not listed, I could never finish if I tried to! And also, Studio’s - Thank you for sharing your preview clips and for supporting this site, a special thanks goes to John from CP4men. I will be updating everyone on what’s happening and new with the site throughout the year. Hugs – spanks – and more spanks James

Some thoughts on spanking technique. As a switch, obviously, I approach spanking from both sides. And of course everyone is different; has different preferences for positions and implements, different fantasies, different levels of pain tolerance. To have a successful spanking encounter, that will likely be repeated, it’s important for the spanker to get and act on some basic information from the boy, because if he gets what he both wants and dreads in his heart of hearts, he’ll be satisfied and want to do it again and again. Assuming he really is “into this” ...there are guys out there who have it in their head they want to get spanked but in reality they have no stomach, or rather, butt, for it. There are some common elements, though, that usually help make it work. For shorthand, written from the top’s perspective. Know what fantasy elements you’re going to do. Most guys like at least a little bit of a context of punishment; it can go all the way from just an attitude to a full on role play scenario. And it’s not always age play, like father/son or teacher pupil. Some guys like to be dominated by a peer or master. You need to find this out. I believe that the best tops are very versatile; it’s the bottoms that have particular needs. Of course, again, everyone’s different, so there are exceptions even to that. Warm up. Start skin to skin, bare hand to bare bottom, hard but not too hard, and spank for a few minutes, then take a break. This gets endorphins flowing. This can be OTK, but it doesn’t have to be. If he prefers standing, bend him over a stool or back of a couch and spank him in that position, but with your hand first. Don’t pitty pat… spank pretty hard; hard enough to get a red bloom on his butt. (Very dark skin doesn’t redden, but the color deepens). Give him a break, to let this sink in, even though you’ve just started. Two or three minutes is enough. Corner time or standing against a wall if it feels right. Then switch to what gets him cranking. Whether it’s a paddle, strap, belt, cane, whip, or whatever, introduce the implements and use them in sessions, not switching back and forth too often. Maintain a steady rhythm when spanking. Rhythm is extremely important, and one of the areas where a lot of spankers fall down on the job. Bursts and interruptions for butt rubbing may be appreciated by some guys, but mostly, in my experience, not. Find a groove. Where there’s enough pain that you’re getting vocal feedback, even a little squirming, but where you can spank and keep on spanking. Only make him count if you know that works for him. Some guys really don’t like it; it’s a distraction. The spanker can count, silently, if it helps. Implements relate to velocity. You can spank fast with hand, paddle, brush, even belt and strap. Slower, more like swats, if standing, with a paddle, cane, switch, birch, flogger, cat or other whip, etc. If you’re spanking OTK, it really helps to spank steadily and not too slow. It doesn’t have to be as hard as you can, because even a fairly moderate level of intensity will build to a rip roaring red ass after 200 or 300 smacks… and that’s not too many. If you don’t do it this way, try it. Even 500 or 600 is quite doable with most guys if they’re real spankos. Rotate to other implements in increasing order of intensity; you might give little or even longer breaks in between, depending on how long and intense a spanking it is. This is really basic, but it’s important: avoid anywhere near the coccyx, distribute your smacks, licks or swats so both cheeks are equally covered (remember that the cheek farther away gets more leverage, so you need to adjust to make sure you aren’t focusing too much on it and not enough on the other one). Spank the sit spot, but not only the sit spot. Spank the upper thighs, but only if you know that works for him; some guys really just don’t like it, and sure, your job is to punish his butt, but in the end we all do this because we want it, and if somebody consistently does something we hate, it’s not conducive to a good spanking relationship. Generally, build. Sometimes ease off a little then pour it on; don’t want to be too predictable, but most times the logical progression is towards a climax, where the ending is very intense, right up to the edge of what he can take, and stay at that edge as long as you can. This may only be a few swats, or it may be half the spanking. It just depends. I always feel that an adult male spanking that doesn’t last a good ten minutes isn’t quite successful. Some can last much, much longer. And last but not least, don't forget Aftercare. A quick hug, some more extended holding or massaging, or even helping him get release... it depends on you (and him), but a little sign that you care about him and his experience is part of it. 

Hi Everyone, A quick update, I am currently abroad so not been on site much, still managed to get myself spanked though - bet you are suprised lol? There was a mistake made on the site with regards to a members account being deleted, and I want to apologize for that. Everyone regardless of gender is welcome here without exception. I would like to ask for your understanding on this matter and not turn it into an argument or point fingers, we all make mistakes. Ultimately this is my site, so I take full responsobility and this has never happened before, so please do accept it for what it was - a mistake. I appreciate your understanding and support and again I apologize.   huggsss   James    

It is of my opinion that a spanking should be strictly discipline. I do understand that people do enjoy the more erotic side of it however I am very much into role play and it would take away from the 'scene' if there was an erotic element. I do believe though that the chastising of a boy or son should not entirely be restricted to just straight spanking. Here are just a few things i also enjoy about a spanking session, i hope you agree and share other humiliation / embarassment / punishment techniques you enjoy!! SCOLDING For me this is an extremely important part of any spanking. It should be made before, during and after a spanking. A father or dom should send a clear message to his boy that he is no longer in control and that he has been naughty for a particular reason. A father should remain in control when scolding his boy and should never shout. He should speak with authority and make his boy understand that he is wrong, and will do as he is told from then on in. RULE SETTING A particular favourite of mine is during a spanking a father setting down rules to his boy that he will be expected to abide by. For example 1. you are grounded for the next 2 weeks 2. your bed time is now 10pm every night. 3. you will do all your house chores before school/work etc. SHAVING It is a good way of a dad to tell his boy if he is going to act like a young boy he is going to be treated like one. It's extremely humiliating for any boy to be shaved front and back by his dad. DIAPER POSITION Being spanked is embarassing enough. Being spanked in the diaper position is pretty humiliating! CORNER TIME Corner time should always be utilized by a dad. It can be used before, during(if it's a particularly long session) and after. Nothing better than when a dad drags his son by the ear to the corner and makes him spread his legs. The duration should be dependent on how naughty the boy was. As a variant the dom could place a wooden stool for the boy to sit on in the corner as well. As an additional extra the dom might wish to add something like a coin that the boy must hold with his nose against the wall, hands on head and legs spread. WRITING LINES / APOLOGY LETTERS Writing lines or apology letters reinforces to the boy that he has been naughty and will ensure he regrets whatever he has done. MOUTH SOAPING Swearing during a spanking? Not whilst daddys around you don't!! Drag the boy to the bathroom and soap his mouth out good and hard whilst spanking him or make him kneel infront of you and rinse him out. BATH TIME Having a dad wash me before or after a spanking(before being sent to bed) is extremely embarassing. BEING PUT TO BED EARLY Tucked in like the naughty young boy and told to be good whilst dad ruffles your hair. Need i say more? GINGER Never tried this before but I have heard a lot of people say this is a great way to discipline a boy as it stings like hell. ---- Don't know if i've missed anything. If you have anything else you would like to add please comment below. ps. sorry about grammar wrote this quite quickly! xxx

Well, everyone, I figured it is about time that I posted an update on our recent down-time, and our progress in getting things back to normal. The first thing I need to emphasize is, this was NOT an upgrade, even though you may see things showing a little differently, or new features, I can promise you, these are not intentional and more related to getting the site back online. Our main server basically failed, and it was pretty much OS related.  In order to get things back again, the normal restore process I used also failed.  This left us in a pretty bad situation.  After trying various methods, including using the latest release of the script, I was able eventually to get the site back. However, as you will have noticed not everything is displaying properly or working correctly, such as on mobile devices, for example chat and feed.  Sometimes the login box does not work correctly either and a number of other bugs are present. In order to get everything back to normal, will mean further down-time and that is going to be unavoidable.  I am planning to do this, sometime next week, BUT I will be posting at least 24 hours in advance and providing a status page you can all access to see when the site is back online and its progress. Once we get this completed, the site will be back too normal and it will have some additional features, but they will all actually work this time.  Again, please note this will not be a major upgrade. Our main planned upgrade will mean all mobile devices will have 95% access to ALL site features.  This is a work in progress and I am using a test site to facilitate this transition.  I expect this to be implemented at the end of May, and again I will keep you all in the loop on this one. Thanks for everyone’s patience!   James and our Amazing Admin team.

Hello everyone, Before I begin, I will respond to messages and IM's shortly.  As some of you are aware, I have been suffering some health issues, so my absence from the site will take place from time to time.  I appreciate all communication, well wishes and hope every single one of you take good care of yourselves. These last weeks and those going forward, possibly for months are going to be challanging, from a health and economic perspective. We watch the news, social media and we can see just how bad the current pandemic is becoming. I am no health professional, but what I can say is take care of yourselves and others when you can.  You are the best person to know if you are ill, or are becoming ill and ultimately the majority of decisions regarding your health are down to you and no one else.  I am erring on the side of caution and that is my choice. If you have relatives or loved ones afftected by this virus, remember and give them a call, or message them or text them.  A simple greeting and asking how they are doing can make a big difference.  Those that need to isolate themselves, are not only going to suffer the physical symptoms, there can be mental health issues, so a little communication can help a great deal. I guess no one really knows how bad this will ultimately become, still I will personally say a prayer each night for everyone.  This is a strong community of amazing people, talented, loving and caring.  Finally if you have underlying health issues or/and are a senior please be especially careful. I really cannot thing of anything else to say. So have a hug and again stay safe. James  

Well guys, as you know the upgrade caused us downtime of several days, something I wanted to avoid.  I could have restored from our backup and got us back on-line much sooner, however we would not have achieved our goal.    This upgrade was 100% necessary and I am happy to say will be the very last one using this script.   Do you notice anything different?   I hope not!  You are not supposed to!   The purpose of the upgrade was simply to get the database and file structure updated while identifying blocks and modules that were no longer compatible and of course removing them.   We did this because we want to move away from this script PHPFOX to SOCIAL ENGINE.  Having everything updated makes it easier for support requests with the new script and the database importer.   The script we use at present was developed and created by an amazing guy called Raymond Benc, he had an awesome team of developers and support personnel.  The script was in high demand and new Apps and modules were being heavily developed by 3rd party vendors.   Raymond was forced to sell the script to a company called Younet a number of years ago.  Now they have their fingers in many pies and their business model is to raise as much money as they can from existing script owners.  They have done this by introducing a new product tier and if you want the updated Apps such as mobile, you need to pay a premium of 300% of your original purchase price to get your product updated.  Not only that you then have to pay on-going annual fees.   Okay, this may have been sustainable and of course had to be considered.  Even if I had gone this route, no one is really developing anything new for PHPFOX, basically it’s really only YOUNET themselves.  In contrast Social Engine has a healthy and vibrant 3rd party community   They just screwed me again, by removing support for our chat bar, so I am forced to use one we bought some time ago, its slower but will do the trick meantime.  They did this because, they have developed their own system, with a price tag of almost 1K – now aren’t they just clever?   Now that this upgrade has been achieved, we can start work on a move to SOCIAL ENGINE.  The best part about this is, that it will be developed alongside our existing script.  This means no downtime until we are ready to go live and even then, it will be minimum.   When we achieve this move, which I will begin working on today, we will have an awesome site that is quick, full of the features we want and fully compatible with mobile devices.  That is where we need to be.   I will be posting more on this later, and if you have any questions, please go ahead and reach out.   James

Daddy has had to set out new house rules for me because I got a really bad report card this week. Interested to know your thoughts please. Should any new rules / themes be added? Should any be rephrased?  Let me know by commenting beneath.   Theme: Behaviour & The 3 Ds 1. From this point forward, you will refer to me only as DADDY or SIR.  2. Perfect attendance at school is non negotiable.  3. Bad grades and poor performance in extra curricular activity will not be tolerated. You will recieve a minimum grade of B+ in all future exams. 4. No Disrespect. Always remember that daddy is in charge and you live under his care. You will be polite, respectful and properly behaved at all times. 5. No Disobedience. When daddy gives you a direct instruction you will do it. 6. No Dishonesty. Never lie, you should always be truthful, and forthcoming.  Theme: Chores 7. You are to make your bed, and keep your room visibly tidy, neat and in order at all time.  8. Additional chores will be posted on the fridge showing you your daily routine, which will consist of: chores, projects, homework, and studying. The list will be complete daily. Theme: Dress Code 9. Outside the home you will ensure that you are properly and smartly dressed in school uniform. You are not permitted to wear "casual" clothes at any time. Uniform includes school blazer, white shirt, grey shorts, belt, school tie, long grey socks, black leather shoes and white briefs. 10. At home and on weekends you will only be permitted to wear the following; white briefs, white cotton socks and white vest. 11. At bedtime you will wear standard blue pyjama top and bottoms only. Theme: Bedtime 12. You will report to me every night at 8pm to review the day. You will stand in the corner facing the wall, hands on head, until called. 13. You will be given a bath to ensure cleanliness is maintained. On occasion it may be necessary to wash your insides too by washing your mouth out with soap or given an enema. 14. You will be shaved smooth as a helpful reminder to who is in charge and to ensure good hygeine. 15. Bedtime and lights out is at 9pm sharp.  Theme: Privacy 16. Privacy is privilege, you will leave doors open at all times, even if you are using the toilet. 17. Until grades meet expected standard all electronics including phone, laptop and PlayStation are to be confiscated.  18. You are grounded until further notice. 

Hey all Men Who Spank and boys with sore bottoms, I've been writing my new blog up called "Cornertime Confidential," and I hope you'll come visit, comment on the site and generally help advise me on content and images and video you want to see on the blog. Today's blogpost: "...And I suppose if I'd just done as I'd been told a thousand times before, this wouldn't have happened either. I was sent to bed immediately after this spanking, nursing my red fanny and thinking...well, at least now I know why they make boys briefs with a double seat. They're great protection for spankings too!" Read more: http://cornertimeconfidential.blogspot.com/ (# . #) bad boy jake

                       Discipline:  Foundation of the Father-Son Relationship                       [By: Strapman02]         [Disclaimer:  I wrote this essay [below, in 1991] , when I was just starting graduate school.  I [was] in my late 20's [when I added to, and edited, this together for this posting], do not now have children, nor have I ever had children.  I am just exercising my First Amendment rights here -- so do not try to draw the wrong conclusions by reading into this what you want to read into it, rather than what I wrote in it.  I welcome all responses to the essay, both here and in private email.]        Over the years, much has been said about the nature of the father-son  relationship, and of the proper role of the father in the rearing of his son.  The father wears many hats in his relationship with his son:  he is authoritative (and authoritarian) on certain matters; he provides his son with a role model-- himself--on how to act as a man; he is an advisor on certain issues, such as those of a sexual nature vis a vis the opposite (or, in more and more cases,  the same) sex; he is also the disciplinarian of the son.         The Bible offers its own advice for the father-son relationship:       "He who heeds discipline shows the way to life, but whoever ignores  correction leads others astray."--Proverbs 10:17.       "Whoever loves discipline loves knowledge, but he who hates correction is stupid."--Proverbs 12:1       "He who ignores discipline comes to poverty and shame, but whoever heeds correction is honored."--Proverbs 13:18       "He who spares the rod hates his son, but he who loves him is careful to discipline him."--Proverbs 13:24       "He who ignores discipline despises himself, but whoever heeds correction gains understanding."--Proverbs 15:32   `     It is this that which we will be discussing in this treatise.          The father has the legal authority and obligation to discipline his son.  To accomplish this goal, different fathers use different means, such as reasoning,  withholding of privileges (e.g. grounding, no car this week, etc.), cutting  allowances, and last, and in my view, most importantly--for blatant and  significant violations of house rules that could endanger himself or others  in the family or society--corporal methods.        The father is the one that takes the son into a private room, such as a  bedroom, bathroom, or other room; tells the son that he has been bad because  he has engaged in some objectionable behavior; tells the son that he is going  to be paddled, spanked, strapped, or whipped, or whatever verb you prefer; orders his son to, and if need be, he himself proceeds to, pull down the son's  pants and underpants; bends him over the back of a chair, across his lap, face down lengthwise on the bed, or on the side of a bed; and administers a paddle, a strap, or other device,  such as a razor strop, across his son's bare buttocks in a meticulous, repetitive, and severe fashion, until the son understands, under no uncertain terms, that what he did was WRONG, and, should this particular activity be repeated at any time in the future, similar, though even more  severe, consequences will befall his son.        Friends, I never had my father around to perform this most important,  necessary function.  I only wonder how I might be different than the way I am today had my father been around to spank me soundly when I deserved it.   Would that have made me a stronger person?  Perhaps.  Would that have instilled violent tendencies in my own personal behavior toward other people?  Perhaps, though unlikely in my view. Would I have a more clearly defined sense of right and wrong?  Most definitely.