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Hello everybody, I hope you are all well during this crazy time that is upon us all.  Not only are we dealing with this pandemic, but we have a presidential election and of course we are coming up on holiday season.  I have a lot to tell you, and I am pretty excited about it.  Now before I get into it all, I do have to talk about the subject I dread the most, site funding.  Its always a source of embarrassment for me personally, and its something I would much rather avoid.  That said, I have learned the hard way, the longer I put it off, the worse the situation becomes. Previously I have simply pulled out the begging bowl and I do not want to do that anymore, so I am going to try something different.  I have created a new membership group called “Community Supporter”.  Everyone can choose to upgrade to this group by making a one-time payment of a minimum of $25, and that will last for as long as the site does.  You will get a small icon on your profile page together with the text ‘Community Supporter’, this is done automatically. Somethings I want to point out: You can upgrade by clicking on the upgrade button on the menu bar. When you upgrade, the charge will show as Arizoy LLC – the site will not be mentioned on your statement.  This is of course to protect your privacy. I am working on different payment gateways but for now Pay-Pal is the only option.  You do not need a Pay-Pal account though and can simply checkout as guest. If you have made a donation ever to the site of $25 or more, you will be upgraded.  I will do this manually, but it will take a bit of time.  Once I have finished, I will post as such and anyone I missed can then get in touch with me and I will fix it for them. You can choose the minimum of $25, or more, but there is no difference or additional benefits, if you choose to go higher.  I am keeping it simple.  When you think about $25 for life is pretty good value, when some sites charge around that or higher for just one month. It is a onetime payment, there is no reoccurring charge and the options will no longer appear under the upgrade button. I am hoping, this will allow the site to become self-sufficient, as we would only need a percentage of future members to upgrade their memberships in order to do so.  If we need to encourage further, we do have options such as restricting the videos, either by number or minutes to non-supporting members.  This would really be a last resort though, as I seriously want to keep the site free for everybody. With Black Friday and Cyber Monday, coming in the next few months, I would love to see enough upgrades so we can take advantage of the deals, possibly even snagging a server for a year, that would be awesome! Okay, I am so glad that’s over with …. now onto the good stuff! (dang I sounded boring in all of that)! Right you are, we are going for a major upgrade, which is currently in the testing phase on our backup server.  I will be inviting some of you to trial it for me and help identify any bugs etc.  I am funding the upgrade out of my own pocket, but this will be the last time I can do so.  This is by order of hubby whom wields the hairbrush. So here are some highlights: Its going to be faster. It will have a progressive web app, for those using tablets, cell phones etc. Again, with those using mobile devices, you will be able to download a generic app for both Android and Apple, though the respective stores. We will be using HTML 5 for videos. Chat system will be new and improved. Groups are getting a huge overall. You will be able to have password resets by email, but this will be constrained to only password resets. Photos and Albums are being revamped and will be much easier to navigate. You will have a favorite system, where you can mark any items you choose as a ‘favorite’ and then access the all from a new tab page. A few other surprises

I have wondered why corner time is so common in the U.K. and parts of Europe. Spankers: Why do you chose to have your spankee stand facing a wall or corner for varying times and forbid rubbing their bottoms? Corner time is rarely used in the United States, although it was used in the 1940s and 1950s. Also, how much corner time is enough and how much is too long?

What do all you spankees think about during a spanking? Do you think about anything? Do you think about the pain and wonder when it will be over? Are you so overwhelmed by the pain that you can't think about anything? Do you get lost in the pain? Are you thinking about anything else to escape the pain? Personally, I wonder when the spanking will end in the beginning. But as my spanking gets more intense, I just get lost in the continual pain and just float on the waves of pain. Eventually, I feel calm as my endorphins kick in. Please give me honest, candid answers! I'm curious whether others feel the same things that I do.

Hi, in this new blog I send here a tipicals pics of schoolboys in Spain, a old dress used,and punishment

Folks, So I am just going to come out and say this, we are an all-inclusive site, period. Do we have Gay members, YES, do we have straight members YES, do we have transgender members YES and do we have Female members YES. If you do not like a photo or a video or a comment, then you can personally choose not to watch it or view it and can block content from members you do not wish to see.   It really is that simple. If you want to be an banned word .. then leave .. just go, because you are not wanted here. What possible pleasure can you get from disrespectful and abusive behavior huh?   Get a life .. and so you know there is zero tolerance for this, and why?  Because I said so and as I own the site, that is the way it is, period.  If you don't like my explanation, well too bad for you. I do not often get angry but tonight I am pissed, just think about tolerance, think about inclusion and think very, very, hard on what being a 'bigot' means.  Those with such short-sighted minds, well God help you. Enough Said James AND Denis

Well guys, as much as I hate doing it and I try very hard not to, it is time for a fundraiser for the site. Now please, only donate if you can afford to do so, I mean that.  Right now, with the pandemic everyone is in a difference place, financially, Healthwise and Career Wise.  It is important to concentrate on what matters the most and this site should not be a top priority. If you want to donate, please click on the donate button, or if you have not sone so already consider updating your membership.   Hugs and many thanks   James

So an update on what has been going on. I did a server rebuild and moved us over to a better web server, Litespeed as opposed to Apache.  This had to be done for several reasons, speed being an obvious one but also because the server had some faults, including its networking.  It takes a long time to do this, because I have to move the data from the server to a backup VPS and then back again.  When we do the copy back to the server, given the large amount of data, it is a six-hour process.  That said, this will be the last build for the next 18 months, unless the hardware fails. On the networking, it proved to be extremely frustrating and I am pissed about it.  We used Enom as our domain host, because the interface is easy to use and because propagation is virtually instant.  Enom sold out to Hover and I have never seen a more useless control panel in my life.  I was unable to edit name servers or glue records with it constantly giving me ‘auth’ errors.  I did create a ticket and I am still waiting and that was over 24 hours ago.  Part of the networking issue was that guys could not get to the site from some locations, there was a problem with DNS. Given that Hover screwed me right up the middle, I signed up for a month’s trial with a DNS hosting provider, which seems to be going well.  At the very least it gives me a month to move to another domain registrar, because hover can go f*** themselves.  Do let me know if you are experiencing problems, but I will have our own private nameservers back up again soon. I had hoped to run upgrades and fix some other issues, but again I struck out of luck as the script installer and upgrade routine constantly failed.  To that end, I have duplicated the site on the same server and will work on refreshing the database from scratch.  What that means in practice, is I install the script fresh with no data.  I then using a copy of our database strip all the extra modules out and all the core components and export to a file.  On the fresh database, I simply drop all the tables that are populated on our live database, and then merge the two together.  It is time consuming, but I will get it done. So you guys now we are still moving away from the scrip to social engine, I just need to figure a lot of bits and pieces on that.  It’s a totally different can of worms, but again I will get it done.  As I have said before once we get over onto social engine, everything will run smoother and nicer, including progressive web apps. So that’s it from me, and I am considering having a large southern comfort.   Hugs   James

I thought I would share about this aspect of my life, but obviously it is not for everyone, we are all different and have our own ideas on what we want, need or expereince in all relationships. The first think I want to talk about here is Boundaries, these are not rules. I think there is a lot of speculation or supposition that those in Domestic Discipline relationships are controlled completely and this is not true, well not form my point of view anyway. The cotrol element from my partner is focused on discipline, punishment and obviously my bare bottom and I can promise you all my spankings are very real. Anyway back to boundaries, I created my own, these are to help me focus, deal with habits and progress my career. My partner and I are more like Dad/Son, he is older than me and he insisted that I made my own boundaries complete with a proposal for punishment which is now always enforced. In a way, I have only myself to blame when I end up punished for breaking them. We do have some rules, and number one is obedience and listening (these are not boundaries), but shouldnt be mistaken for total control, obedience is similar to him asking me to be home at a certain time, or pick up the dry cleaning. It is possible for me to be both disobidenet and break one of my own boundaries. Anyway this is just a quick post on this blog and I will update it once a week with more thoughts, views and expereinces. PS - If you are interested in my boundaries and the punishments you can see them right here: www.southspanking.com/boundaries James

Today I send a old pics, this pics I maker in 2009, is a initial in my hobbie, uniforms, and discipline, in this year I have a little dress, not have a expensive, today I have a great collection of elements uniforms, shirts, shorts, socks, ties and shoes, for my hobbie, I send, in this site a old pics, in my sessions, look please and comment.

Some years ago one of my early and formative spanking experiences was when I went to a spanking party. I had been chatting online to this “daddy” and role playing his naughty little boy, but he lived 60 miles away and we had not met in person. He invited me to a spanking party his friend was hosting, so I decided to make the drive. I was the last to arrive at the house, but nothing had started yet. All the men were sitting in a big circle, all still fully dressed. They asked for a spankee to go first and I volunteered. My daddy sat on a chair in the middle of the circle and stood me in front of him. He made me strip to my tighty whitie underpants in front of everyone, and told me what a naughty boy I was, and that he was going to have to give me a good spanking for being so naughty. Then pulled me over his lap and spanked me on my underpants, as I wriggled and kicked my legs and fussed. He held me in a tight grip! After a few minutes he stood me back up and said “now you are going to get it on your bare bottom young man" he pulled my undies down to my knees in front of the whole room, revealing my bare butt and my fully erect penis! Then he pulled me back over his lap and spanked me on my bare bottom hard. He stopped periodically to caress my bottom gently and check that I was OK, then it was back to hard slaps on my ass cheeks, stinging badly and causing me to Yelp with pain. I soon lost my erection and my penis shank embarrassingly. After that I was passed round the room naked and several guys spanked me over their laps and in other positions. Finally some of the other guys started to get spankings too, I got to watch other guys get spanked and I got spanked side by side with a couple of them. At the end my daddy cuddled me and told me I was a good boy and rubbed my sore red bottom. I got hard once again when he did that so then he sat me on his lap on the sofa and caressed me and I shot a huge load of banned word all over myself! Then I got dressed and went home with a very red and very sore bottom and a very sticky crotch and belly! It was a extremely humiliating and hot experience.

FL BULLY, who seems surprisingly shy about some things, wants me to ask about some of the features of the site such as:How is Match supposed to work?What does it means for someone to be Verified?What establishes someone's Rating?James, Athro: Can you provide explanations/descriptions for these. I think some other members might like to know as well.

The Naughty Boy (For Blackneo, who inspired me to write this story) Generally, Dominic was a good teenage boy. He studied hard and got good grades and wasn’t any trouble at all. But every now and then, Dominic would run around with other boys who were not as good as him. Dominic was easily influenced by them. As his father, I warned him against hanging around with these boys. But he liked them, had lots of fun running around with them and so he ignored my warnings. One day, the boys got mischievous and stole two dozen eggs from a supermarket. Then they went out by the highway and starting throwing the raw eggs at passing cars. Some eggs missed their target, but most of them splattered on the sides or hoods of passing cars. Sometimes, the driver would pull over and the boys scattered into hiding places. The driver would see there was no real damage and drive away. Then, the boys would come out of hiding and throw more eggs until they were all gone. The boys ran off laughing, thinking they had gotten away with something. What they didn’t know is that there were spotted by a neighbor who called the local police. The police said they had gotten complaints and asked if the neighbor could identify any of the boys. The neighbor told them more than that – he recognized two of the boys. One of them was Dominic. When I came home from work, a patrol car pulled up and an officer told me that Dominic had been identified as having thrown eggs. Six drivers left complaints, saying the egg had corroded the paint and the cars would need to be repainted. I told the officer that I would pay for all the damage using my homeowner’s insurance and was told to expect claims. I was calm when the officer was there, but furious after he left. Dominic was nowhere around but I knew that I would punish him good and proper when he came home. Dominic strolled into the house about an hour later as if nothing was wrong. He went to the bathroom to take a shower before dinner. I waited patiently until I could tell the shower was no longer running. Then I went to his room. Dominic was going to be punished severely! I had to control my anger so I didn’t really hurt my boy. But I was determined to teach him a lesson that he would not forget for a long time. As soon as he came out of the shower, I called him to his room. He could tell from the tone of my voice that he was in trouble. He came in still wet but with a towel wrapped around his waist. I immediately confronted him and told him that he would be punished. He knew that meant a spanking and tried to talk his way out of it. He looked really scared. But I told him to throw off the towel and get ready for a very hard spanking. He begged for forgiveness, but I told him that it was too late for that. Seeing he was trapped, he removed the towel so he as completely naked before me. I sat on the bed and called him over. Once he was close enough, I yanked him over my lap. “Oh, no! Please no, Daddy!” he begged. I ignored his pleas and began spanking his bare bum with my hand. I didn’t start easy. I spanked him so hard that my own hand burned. “Oww! Please stop!” he cried as he tried to wiggle away. But I held him on place with my other arm and continued. “This is what you get for being naughty!” I told him sternly. “Oww! Oww! Please, no more!” he cried. “We’re just getting started,” I replied and spanked him even harder. I spanked Dominic until his bum turned reddish-purple and felt very warm to my touch. He was yelling and screaming at every blow. But I wasn’t finished yet. I took off my belt and wrapped it so I could spank him at close range. Then I started again. “You have been a very naughty boy and this is what happens to naughty boys!” I roared. Dominic was really squirming and screaming now, trying desperately to get away for the pain. But I was stronger than he was and held him in place. Finally, he gave up fighting me and just let me whup him. His bum turned a dark purplish color. A few minutes later, he started crying, then just sobbing. “I’m sorry, Daddy! I won’t ever do it again!” he murmured between yells. I hated to punish Dominic this severely because I loved my son. But I thought he really needed to be taught a lesson. I did not want him to grow up to be a hoodlum. By the time I was finished, his bum was covered with angry-looking welts. I stood up while he lay on the bed on his side, sobbing. I let him feel the pain of his punishment and hoped that it had the effect I wanted. Then I told him to stand up and face me. I put my hands on his shoulders. “Son, I’m sorry that I had to do that,” I told him. “But it was for your own good. Do you understand?” He wiped the tears from his face and softly said, “Yes, Daddy. I understand.” I hugged him and left his room. I didn’t hear a peep from him. I went to the kitchen and prepared dinner and we ate in silence. I noticed him wince when he sat at the dinner table. I knew he would feel the pain for a couple of days. Dominic stayed out of trouble for a very long time, so I knew that my spanking had sunk into my naughty boy.

So here is an interesting topic and I am fascinated to see what you guys think about it.   The question is really aimed at Dads/Uncles and Tops but of course a boy’s perspective is always welcomed.   You have been communicating with a boy for some time, and have agreed that either you will visit him for a few days or he will visit you.    During your online communications you have become friends and have a number of interests in common, and will enjoy some planned activities together, for example hiking, movies etc.   How would you handle your first face to face interaction?  Would you set down the law in no uncertain terms of expectations and consequence’s and remain in complete charge the entire time or would you turn it on and off, as an example you might be the disciplinarian only for certain times during the day and perhaps use a keyword when you are in Dad mode such as calling him ‘boy’ as opposed to by his first name?   Would you give him an introduction spanking with or without corner time?   Or what else would you think is appropriate?

I am amazed to find us already in 2020 - the beginning of a new decade! I wish everyone a very prosperous new year, and remember when things don’t go your way, it just means it’s a bad day – not a bad life 😊 I want to share the funniest thing I have heard so far this year – if Twitter, Face-book and YouTube became one company you would have ‘You Twit Face’ – Priceless! I don’t and never have really considered myself to be the ‘site owner’ – I think of myself as an administrator, because without you, the members there is no site.  So please accept my thanks and hugs to all of you for being part of this site and community. There are so many of you I want to thank personally, but the list would be never ending!  That said there are a few of you I do want to say a special thanks to (not in any order). Isma – Your work is amazing and we all truly appreciate your efforts, you make us smile, and not just as an artist, you have an awesome personality. Tinj – You share some fantastic videos and again we all appreciate you for doing so, thank you so much! Mr Olly – A true gentleman, the pictures you share with us and your comments are wonderful, we really appreciate you. NorCal – Thank you for your insights and observations, I am truly grateful.  Also, you have a great sense of humor! OnkelChen – For being warm hearted, a good listener, not believing in review sessions and only spanking when there is a full moon. AC – I mean what amazing images to wake up to, I love my good mooning pictures – and for being such a fan of the site. Max Hause – Well for being just you Max, a wee scamp that needs a lot of spankings! Amsterdad – A true top and Dad, one of the very few that quickly put me in my place, but one with a lot of emotional intelligence. Baltic – Your wit and genuine opinions shine. There are so very many more - Sussex Peter, FL Bully, Wailer, Toronto Dad, Charles ,Adam, Fletcher Bengel … and I apologize if you are not listed, I could never finish if I tried to! And also, Studio’s - Thank you for sharing your preview clips and for supporting this site, a special thanks goes to John from CP4men. I will be updating everyone on what’s happening and new with the site throughout the year. Hugs – spanks – and more spanks James

Some thoughts on spanking technique. As a switch, obviously, I approach spanking from both sides. And of course everyone is different; has different preferences for positions and implements, different fantasies, different levels of pain tolerance. To have a successful spanking encounter, that will likely be repeated, it’s important for the spanker to get and act on some basic information from the boy, because if he gets what he both wants and dreads in his heart of hearts, he’ll be satisfied and want to do it again and again. Assuming he really is “into this” ...there are guys out there who have it in their head they want to get spanked but in reality they have no stomach, or rather, butt, for it. There are some common elements, though, that usually help make it work. For shorthand, written from the top’s perspective. Know what fantasy elements you’re going to do. Most guys like at least a little bit of a context of punishment; it can go all the way from just an attitude to a full on role play scenario. And it’s not always age play, like father/son or teacher pupil. Some guys like to be dominated by a peer or master. You need to find this out. I believe that the best tops are very versatile; it’s the bottoms that have particular needs. Of course, again, everyone’s different, so there are exceptions even to that. Warm up. Start skin to skin, bare hand to bare bottom, hard but not too hard, and spank for a few minutes, then take a break. This gets endorphins flowing. This can be OTK, but it doesn’t have to be. If he prefers standing, bend him over a stool or back of a couch and spank him in that position, but with your hand first. Don’t pitty pat… spank pretty hard; hard enough to get a red bloom on his butt. (Very dark skin doesn’t redden, but the color deepens). Give him a break, to let this sink in, even though you’ve just started. Two or three minutes is enough. Corner time or standing against a wall if it feels right. Then switch to what gets him cranking. Whether it’s a paddle, strap, belt, cane, whip, or whatever, introduce the implements and use them in sessions, not switching back and forth too often. Maintain a steady rhythm when spanking. Rhythm is extremely important, and one of the areas where a lot of spankers fall down on the job. Bursts and interruptions for butt rubbing may be appreciated by some guys, but mostly, in my experience, not. Find a groove. Where there’s enough pain that you’re getting vocal feedback, even a little squirming, but where you can spank and keep on spanking. Only make him count if you know that works for him. Some guys really don’t like it; it’s a distraction. The spanker can count, silently, if it helps. Implements relate to velocity. You can spank fast with hand, paddle, brush, even belt and strap. Slower, more like swats, if standing, with a paddle, cane, switch, birch, flogger, cat or other whip, etc. If you’re spanking OTK, it really helps to spank steadily and not too slow. It doesn’t have to be as hard as you can, because even a fairly moderate level of intensity will build to a rip roaring red ass after 200 or 300 smacks… and that’s not too many. If you don’t do it this way, try it. Even 500 or 600 is quite doable with most guys if they’re real spankos. Rotate to other implements in increasing order of intensity; you might give little or even longer breaks in between, depending on how long and intense a spanking it is. This is really basic, but it’s important: avoid anywhere near the coccyx, distribute your smacks, licks or swats so both cheeks are equally covered (remember that the cheek farther away gets more leverage, so you need to adjust to make sure you aren’t focusing too much on it and not enough on the other one). Spank the sit spot, but not only the sit spot. Spank the upper thighs, but only if you know that works for him; some guys really just don’t like it, and sure, your job is to punish his butt, but in the end we all do this because we want it, and if somebody consistently does something we hate, it’s not conducive to a good spanking relationship. Generally, build. Sometimes ease off a little then pour it on; don’t want to be too predictable, but most times the logical progression is towards a climax, where the ending is very intense, right up to the edge of what he can take, and stay at that edge as long as you can. This may only be a few swats, or it may be half the spanking. It just depends. I always feel that an adult male spanking that doesn’t last a good ten minutes isn’t quite successful. Some can last much, much longer. And last but not least, don't forget Aftercare. A quick hug, some more extended holding or massaging, or even helping him get release... it depends on you (and him), but a little sign that you care about him and his experience is part of it. 

Hi Everyone, A quick update, I am currently abroad so not been on site much, still managed to get myself spanked though - bet you are suprised lol? There was a mistake made on the site with regards to a members account being deleted, and I want to apologize for that. Everyone regardless of gender is welcome here without exception. I would like to ask for your understanding on this matter and not turn it into an argument or point fingers, we all make mistakes. Ultimately this is my site, so I take full responsobility and this has never happened before, so please do accept it for what it was - a mistake. I appreciate your understanding and support and again I apologize.   huggsss   James    

It is of my opinion that a spanking should be strictly discipline. I do understand that people do enjoy the more erotic side of it however I am very much into role play and it would take away from the 'scene' if there was an erotic element. I do believe though that the chastising of a boy or son should not entirely be restricted to just straight spanking. Here are just a few things i also enjoy about a spanking session, i hope you agree and share other humiliation / embarassment / punishment techniques you enjoy!! SCOLDING For me this is an extremely important part of any spanking. It should be made before, during and after a spanking. A father or dom should send a clear message to his boy that he is no longer in control and that he has been naughty for a particular reason. A father should remain in control when scolding his boy and should never shout. He should speak with authority and make his boy understand that he is wrong, and will do as he is told from then on in. RULE SETTING A particular favourite of mine is during a spanking a father setting down rules to his boy that he will be expected to abide by. For example 1. you are grounded for the next 2 weeks 2. your bed time is now 10pm every night. 3. you will do all your house chores before school/work etc. SHAVING It is a good way of a dad to tell his boy if he is going to act like a young boy he is going to be treated like one. It's extremely humiliating for any boy to be shaved front and back by his dad. DIAPER POSITION Being spanked is embarassing enough. Being spanked in the diaper position is pretty humiliating! CORNER TIME Corner time should always be utilized by a dad. It can be used before, during(if it's a particularly long session) and after. Nothing better than when a dad drags his son by the ear to the corner and makes him spread his legs. The duration should be dependent on how naughty the boy was. As a variant the dom could place a wooden stool for the boy to sit on in the corner as well. As an additional extra the dom might wish to add something like a coin that the boy must hold with his nose against the wall, hands on head and legs spread. WRITING LINES / APOLOGY LETTERS Writing lines or apology letters reinforces to the boy that he has been naughty and will ensure he regrets whatever he has done. MOUTH SOAPING Swearing during a spanking? Not whilst daddys around you don't!! Drag the boy to the bathroom and soap his mouth out good and hard whilst spanking him or make him kneel infront of you and rinse him out. BATH TIME Having a dad wash me before or after a spanking(before being sent to bed) is extremely embarassing. BEING PUT TO BED EARLY Tucked in like the naughty young boy and told to be good whilst dad ruffles your hair. Need i say more? GINGER Never tried this before but I have heard a lot of people say this is a great way to discipline a boy as it stings like hell. ---- Don't know if i've missed anything. If you have anything else you would like to add please comment below. ps. sorry about grammar wrote this quite quickly! xxx

Well, everyone, I figured it is about time that I posted an update on our recent down-time, and our progress in getting things back to normal. The first thing I need to emphasize is, this was NOT an upgrade, even though you may see things showing a little differently, or new features, I can promise you, these are not intentional and more related to getting the site back online. Our main server basically failed, and it was pretty much OS related.  In order to get things back again, the normal restore process I used also failed.  This left us in a pretty bad situation.  After trying various methods, including using the latest release of the script, I was able eventually to get the site back. However, as you will have noticed not everything is displaying properly or working correctly, such as on mobile devices, for example chat and feed.  Sometimes the login box does not work correctly either and a number of other bugs are present. In order to get everything back to normal, will mean further down-time and that is going to be unavoidable.  I am planning to do this, sometime next week, BUT I will be posting at least 24 hours in advance and providing a status page you can all access to see when the site is back online and its progress. Once we get this completed, the site will be back too normal and it will have some additional features, but they will all actually work this time.  Again, please note this will not be a major upgrade. Our main planned upgrade will mean all mobile devices will have 95% access to ALL site features.  This is a work in progress and I am using a test site to facilitate this transition.  I expect this to be implemented at the end of May, and again I will keep you all in the loop on this one. Thanks for everyone’s patience!   James and our Amazing Admin team.

Hello everyone, Before I begin, I will respond to messages and IM's shortly.  As some of you are aware, I have been suffering some health issues, so my absence from the site will take place from time to time.  I appreciate all communication, well wishes and hope every single one of you take good care of yourselves. These last weeks and those going forward, possibly for months are going to be challanging, from a health and economic perspective. We watch the news, social media and we can see just how bad the current pandemic is becoming. I am no health professional, but what I can say is take care of yourselves and others when you can.  You are the best person to know if you are ill, or are becoming ill and ultimately the majority of decisions regarding your health are down to you and no one else.  I am erring on the side of caution and that is my choice. If you have relatives or loved ones afftected by this virus, remember and give them a call, or message them or text them.  A simple greeting and asking how they are doing can make a big difference.  Those that need to isolate themselves, are not only going to suffer the physical symptoms, there can be mental health issues, so a little communication can help a great deal. I guess no one really knows how bad this will ultimately become, still I will personally say a prayer each night for everyone.  This is a strong community of amazing people, talented, loving and caring.  Finally if you have underlying health issues or/and are a senior please be especially careful. I really cannot thing of anything else to say. So have a hug and again stay safe. James  

Well guys, as you know the upgrade caused us downtime of several days, something I wanted to avoid.  I could have restored from our backup and got us back on-line much sooner, however we would not have achieved our goal.    This upgrade was 100% necessary and I am happy to say will be the very last one using this script.   Do you notice anything different?   I hope not!  You are not supposed to!   The purpose of the upgrade was simply to get the database and file structure updated while identifying blocks and modules that were no longer compatible and of course removing them.   We did this because we want to move away from this script PHPFOX to SOCIAL ENGINE.  Having everything updated makes it easier for support requests with the new script and the database importer.   The script we use at present was developed and created by an amazing guy called Raymond Benc, he had an awesome team of developers and support personnel.  The script was in high demand and new Apps and modules were being heavily developed by 3rd party vendors.   Raymond was forced to sell the script to a company called Younet a number of years ago.  Now they have their fingers in many pies and their business model is to raise as much money as they can from existing script owners.  They have done this by introducing a new product tier and if you want the updated Apps such as mobile, you need to pay a premium of 300% of your original purchase price to get your product updated.  Not only that you then have to pay on-going annual fees.   Okay, this may have been sustainable and of course had to be considered.  Even if I had gone this route, no one is really developing anything new for PHPFOX, basically it’s really only YOUNET themselves.  In contrast Social Engine has a healthy and vibrant 3rd party community   They just screwed me again, by removing support for our chat bar, so I am forced to use one we bought some time ago, its slower but will do the trick meantime.  They did this because, they have developed their own system, with a price tag of almost 1K – now aren’t they just clever?   Now that this upgrade has been achieved, we can start work on a move to SOCIAL ENGINE.  The best part about this is, that it will be developed alongside our existing script.  This means no downtime until we are ready to go live and even then, it will be minimum.   When we achieve this move, which I will begin working on today, we will have an awesome site that is quick, full of the features we want and fully compatible with mobile devices.  That is where we need to be.   I will be posting more on this later, and if you have any questions, please go ahead and reach out.   James

Daddy has had to set out new house rules for me because I got a really bad report card this week. Interested to know your thoughts please. Should any new rules / themes be added? Should any be rephrased?  Let me know by commenting beneath.   Theme: Behaviour & The 3 Ds 1. From this point forward, you will refer to me only as DADDY or SIR.  2. Perfect attendance at school is non negotiable.  3. Bad grades and poor performance in extra curricular activity will not be tolerated. You will recieve a minimum grade of B+ in all future exams. 4. No Disrespect. Always remember that daddy is in charge and you live under his care. You will be polite, respectful and properly behaved at all times. 5. No Disobedience. When daddy gives you a direct instruction you will do it. 6. No Dishonesty. Never lie, you should always be truthful, and forthcoming.  Theme: Chores 7. You are to make your bed, and keep your room visibly tidy, neat and in order at all time.  8. Additional chores will be posted on the fridge showing you your daily routine, which will consist of: chores, projects, homework, and studying. The list will be complete daily. Theme: Dress Code 9. Outside the home you will ensure that you are properly and smartly dressed in school uniform. You are not permitted to wear "casual" clothes at any time. Uniform includes school blazer, white shirt, grey shorts, belt, school tie, long grey socks, black leather shoes and white briefs. 10. At home and on weekends you will only be permitted to wear the following; white briefs, white cotton socks and white vest. 11. At bedtime you will wear standard blue pyjama top and bottoms only. Theme: Bedtime 12. You will report to me every night at 8pm to review the day. You will stand in the corner facing the wall, hands on head, until called. 13. You will be given a bath to ensure cleanliness is maintained. On occasion it may be necessary to wash your insides too by washing your mouth out with soap or given an enema. 14. You will be shaved smooth as a helpful reminder to who is in charge and to ensure good hygeine. 15. Bedtime and lights out is at 9pm sharp.  Theme: Privacy 16. Privacy is privilege, you will leave doors open at all times, even if you are using the toilet. 17. Until grades meet expected standard all electronics including phone, laptop and PlayStation are to be confiscated.  18. You are grounded until further notice. 

Hey all Men Who Spank and boys with sore bottoms, I've been writing my new blog up called "Cornertime Confidential," and I hope you'll come visit, comment on the site and generally help advise me on content and images and video you want to see on the blog. Today's blogpost: "...And I suppose if I'd just done as I'd been told a thousand times before, this wouldn't have happened either. I was sent to bed immediately after this spanking, nursing my red fanny and thinking...well, at least now I know why they make boys briefs with a double seat. They're great protection for spankings too!" Read more: http://cornertimeconfidential.blogspot.com/ (# . #) bad boy jake

                       Discipline:  Foundation of the Father-Son Relationship                       [By: Strapman02]         [Disclaimer:  I wrote this essay [below, in 1991] , when I was just starting graduate school.  I [was] in my late 20's [when I added to, and edited, this together for this posting], do not now have children, nor have I ever had children.  I am just exercising my First Amendment rights here -- so do not try to draw the wrong conclusions by reading into this what you want to read into it, rather than what I wrote in it.  I welcome all responses to the essay, both here and in private email.]        Over the years, much has been said about the nature of the father-son  relationship, and of the proper role of the father in the rearing of his son.  The father wears many hats in his relationship with his son:  he is authoritative (and authoritarian) on certain matters; he provides his son with a role model-- himself--on how to act as a man; he is an advisor on certain issues, such as those of a sexual nature vis a vis the opposite (or, in more and more cases,  the same) sex; he is also the disciplinarian of the son.         The Bible offers its own advice for the father-son relationship:       "He who heeds discipline shows the way to life, but whoever ignores  correction leads others astray."--Proverbs 10:17.       "Whoever loves discipline loves knowledge, but he who hates correction is stupid."--Proverbs 12:1       "He who ignores discipline comes to poverty and shame, but whoever heeds correction is honored."--Proverbs 13:18       "He who spares the rod hates his son, but he who loves him is careful to discipline him."--Proverbs 13:24       "He who ignores discipline despises himself, but whoever heeds correction gains understanding."--Proverbs 15:32   `     It is this that which we will be discussing in this treatise.          The father has the legal authority and obligation to discipline his son.  To accomplish this goal, different fathers use different means, such as reasoning,  withholding of privileges (e.g. grounding, no car this week, etc.), cutting  allowances, and last, and in my view, most importantly--for blatant and  significant violations of house rules that could endanger himself or others  in the family or society--corporal methods.        The father is the one that takes the son into a private room, such as a  bedroom, bathroom, or other room; tells the son that he has been bad because  he has engaged in some objectionable behavior; tells the son that he is going  to be paddled, spanked, strapped, or whipped, or whatever verb you prefer; orders his son to, and if need be, he himself proceeds to, pull down the son's  pants and underpants; bends him over the back of a chair, across his lap, face down lengthwise on the bed, or on the side of a bed; and administers a paddle, a strap, or other device,  such as a razor strop, across his son's bare buttocks in a meticulous, repetitive, and severe fashion, until the son understands, under no uncertain terms, that what he did was WRONG, and, should this particular activity be repeated at any time in the future, similar, though even more  severe, consequences will befall his son.        Friends, I never had my father around to perform this most important,  necessary function.  I only wonder how I might be different than the way I am today had my father been around to spank me soundly when I deserved it.   Would that have made me a stronger person?  Perhaps.  Would that have instilled violent tendencies in my own personal behavior toward other people?  Perhaps, though unlikely in my view. Would I have a more clearly defined sense of right and wrong?  Most definitely.

The longest, most intense spanking I've ever had was in 1996 by the renown Daddy Howard. He contacted me early one Saturday and told me to come to his apartment. Once there, he had me strip naked except for my white socks. Then he put a leather collar on me. He put me face down on the bed and knelt alongside me so he could easily spank me. He tied my wrists together in front of me with a thick white rope. As usual, he started with a hand spanking to warm me up. After about five minutes, he spanked with a thick brown belt which he called "Daddy's belt." Now it was starting to hurt. After about 10-15 minutes, my ass was burning. But Howard was just getting started. Next, he spanked me with a black leather strap. I was yelling and squirming around but he held me in place by putting his left hand on the small of my back. He spanked me with strap for about 15 minutes. Then he switched to a tawse which really stung. Again, he spanked me with the tawse for about 15 minutes. Next, he used a leather paddle with holes in it. It was one of his favorite implements and knew I could handle it very well. This time, he used the paddle for about 30 minutes. Tears were running down my face by the time he finished. Then he went back to the belt, the strap and tawse followed by the leather paddle. I was losing all sense of time. After that, he used a wooden paddle which hurt a lot. That was followed by a yardstick that had been cut in half so it was easier to use. I couldn't believe how much that stung. Finally, Howard used his canes which had been soaking in a pail of water. I hate canes because it feels like I've been burned. But Howard used about six canes of varying thicknesses. All of them truly hurt but the thin canes hurt the most, like they were cutting into my skin. (Later, I saw that the canes left reddish-purple welts on my ass. When he was done, he said he was hungry so we were going out for lunch. I got dressed and realized it was just after 12 noon. Howard had spanked me non-stop for four hours. We went to a nearby cafe and I found that even sitting on cushioned seats hurt my bottom. After lunch, we returned to his apartment and he told me to strip naked again. I didn't think I could take anymore, but I obeyed him. In minutes, I was back on the bed with my wrist tied. He started again with a hand spanking, but quickly moved on to the belt, strap and tawse. Then came the leather paddle which he applied full-force. I was crying again. The spanking continued for a very long time. Then he checked my butt and said I had enough. If he went on, he said, I would be bleeding a lot. He told me that I had already bled from the caning welts. So I got dressed. I saw that he had spanked me for another two hours. So I was spanked for SIX hours! My butt hurt and I saw the welts that had bled. I never had such a long, intense spanking. A week later, I was back for another spanking! LOL!

Yea, sometimes I really get frustrated at some the discipline or punishments my Pop comes up with, so here are some of mine.  Feel free to add to the list!   Being made to fetch the spanking impliment, especially the hairbrush. Cornertime (goes without saying). Being sent for a nap for being grouchy. A bedtime spanking - who the heck came up with that one?  I don't want to be spanked before I climb into bed! Being sent to bed early .. come on seriously! Being denied pants and briefs for a period of time, really sucks if it ends up being all day.  My bare bottom does not have to be on display thank you very much! Being ummm shaved - yea you know where, I hate it, hate it, hate it! Being bathed ... am not gonna comment much on this, though it usually goes hand in hand with shaving. Having to say 'I have been a very naughty boy, Dad and I need to be spanked' or something similar. Writing an esaay on 'What I learned from my punishment' or some other nutty topic! Having to wear a drop seat suit to bed, or silly little Pajama Sets.   Dang it, just stop it will ya!      

GAME RULES. You will need: the game board two dice (different colors) (choose one of them as a marker of number of spanks) and the tools that appear in the game or similars. The game is to move around the board from box 1 to the finish (63). Assuming the consequences of each box. throw the two dice, the number indicated advances BOX / s no spanking zone: box unpunished, as the name suggests. question mark (?):is the letter of fate and destiny is in your hands . You decide to do, spanks, additional punishment, truth or dare question chosen by the other player. It is a free box. Tools: receiving spanks with the instrument (number indicating the punishment given) Stars: Go to the next box star. Box of ass: Indicating as you should be (with pants, in undies or bare ass) Special boxes: - Caught by Dad: from 6 to 12 or vice versa. - Classroom (box 19): Receive the sum of the two dice in spanks and write 10 lines "I'll be a good boy" - The passage of the Pyramid: Go to box 28 to 53 or vice versa. - Box 31: CORNER TIME: stay in the corner the minutes that the two dice add up. - Box 42: Caught by the ear, go to the corner 31 time box. - Jail: box 52: Throw the two dice and receive the spanks indicating the tool and select another player to "pay" a penalty choose another player. - Death: box 58, returns to box 1. The player who first reaches the box 63 (target) with exact number of dice number, if not exact, get to 63 and keep counting backwards. - You can adapt the rules to players convenience or playing conditions the winner will throw the dice and the spanks to indicate to other players, and so in order of arrival: 1st to 2nd, 3rd, 4th ... 2nd to 3º.4º ... 3rd to 4th ... etc fun

What a turbulent 2019! I want to thank everyone for staying with the site, it has not been easy this year but I believe we have made quite some headway in terms of problem solving. I really want to send a huge thanks and hugs to our moderators, for doing such a great job, without them, I could simply not run this site. The site is much more responsive as a lot of bugs have been ironed out.  I am aware there are a few others I need to take care of (such as viewing album photos) and they too will be resolved, just as soon as possible! I have also just updated the comments box, so it’s a little slicker In 2020 there will be a number of improvements, including the ability to conference other members into private chats, so you might have a 3 way or 4-way chat going on, or whatever! Our main template will be updated, meaning less load time, and a few nice wee tweaks to boot! And a few surprises along the way … you will need to wait and see, We have a new donations page setup, it still uses Pay-Pal but you do not need a Pay-Pal account to make a donation, you can do so as a guest.  Thank you to everyone whom has made a donation the last few weeks, it helps a lot and I know around holiday times money is tight for us all, so again thank you and hugs! I hope early in the new year to have an alternative to Pay-Pal, it is something I am working on. Have a very merry Xmas everyone! Hugs James

Okay everyone, I would appreciate all your thoughts on this .. I have an idea .. but lets see what you guys think. We have owned a more advaned module for videos for some time, however I have not implimented it because it means manually importing all our existing videos, which would take some time to do. How would you feel if we kept the existing video module, with all its videos but disabled new uploads and renamed it to 'Legacy Videos' We then activate the more advanced video module BUT restrict its access to verified members or some other means of trust as it were, and this is where all new videos are uploaded to .. members can even choose or not to remove their videos from the legacy player and upload to the new one. That would mean granting access to new users once they are established and have proven to be trustworthy - how do we do that? I would need to speak with the other amdins and moderators, but we could potentially setup a usergroup for managing / policing videos, changing access rights etc ... and that gents would mean volunteers willing to do so .. at least two of you ... thoughts? I am open to all suggestions and ideas .. this is your community so please lets get our thinking heads on and come up with a plan!  or I will just have to have Onkel spank each and everyone of you .. so there! :) -- and that includes you -- you know how you are!      

A warning about pants and briefs at ankles!   Well fellow boys, I have to confess that my dad and hubby always takes down my pants and undies himself, baring my bottom for punishment.  I do actually prefer it that way, and in a crazy sort of way, it makes me feel a little ‘pampered’.  I suppose as he really is my ‘authority’ figure I allow myself to be prepared for the consequences as he sees fit.   So last night, there he was bending down into the bed room closet, and of course instinct took over, there in front mf my very eyes were his bottom stretched nice and tightly and my hand got itchy.  I swung it as hard as I could and it landed with a very satisfying slap.   As my hand landed and I heard that wonderful slap, I knew right away I was in big trouble, but of course there is no going back, the deed had been done.  Normally I am taken to the spanking chair, bottom bared and then over the knee I go but he decided to take down my pants and undies right there and then.  As he took me by my ear to lead me to the chair, I tripped on the pants and undies that were tangled around my ankles and fell pretty hard.   After a lot of fussing, and about ½ hour later when he was satisfied that no damage had been done, I got my bottom tanned and sat in the corner for a while.  Afterwards he told me that from now on, my pants and underwear would be completely removed for all future spankings, and that he would still be stripping me down himself.    It is something to think about, I could have for example tripped and fallen on to the corner of the table hitting my head.  So, beware and be careful if you find yourself in a similar situation.   And to those Dad’s and Tops that are about to say something like ‘Well if you had behaved it would never have happened’ – well for sure you are correct, but I stick my tongue out to you and blow a raspberry!   Hugssssssssssssssssssssssssssssss   James

Today the UK government has passed a law that spanking porn(amongst others) are banned. The Guardian has said : "While the measures won't stop people from watching whatever genre of porn they desire, as video shot abroad can still be viewed, they do impose severe restrictions on content created in the UK, and appear to make no distinction between consensual and non-consensual practices between adults." I wonder what this means for sites like straight lads spanked, and wonder how far this law will actually go? Is it now illegal for me to own spanking porn? Is it now illegal for me to watch spanking videos?

A number of you have asked me about so called 'corner' time, so here are my thoughts on it! When we talk about corner time, it is really a method of time out.  True corner time involves a naughty boy, standing at the inside joining of where two walls connect, usually with his nose either touching or almost touching said wall.  Now its not necessary to use walls, equally effective can be bent over the back of a sofa, standing in front of a wall, or even sitting on a stool and if Dad wants to be really creative how about laying over the seat of the spanking chair?  There are for sure many possibilities. The purpose though is actually surprisingly powerful, they boy is supposed to think about why he just got punished or why he is about to be punished or even understand he is getting close to a punishment.  There are many variations and yet with these variations comes the certainty that over time the consistency of corner time as punishment will definitely make him consider his behavior and what got him stood in the corner.  The first few times he may very refuse to think about his behavior, either because he chooses to day dream or perhaps has decided to be rebellious, it matters not, inevitably he will succumb to reflection, it simply takes time and that is something he has plenty of while in the corner. Now we will look at five of the variations: As a warning he is getting close to a spanking You may be surprised but a boy that is pushing the envelope when sent to the corner will come to realize he is coming very close to a spanking.  It works, and if it does not, then he only has himself to blame when he finds his jeans and briefs coming down, before dad arranges him over his lap for a good long spanking session.  After his spanking and much to his horror, he will then find himself right back where he started – in the corner. Pre Spanking A naughty boy, sent to the corner before his spanking conjures up apprehension, excitement and humility.  Dad’s that are skilled in this, can certainly ensure variety and uncertainty in order to peak their boy’s emotional senses.  Consider having him in the corner in just his briefs or holding a hairbrush or belt while he waits.  You can have him dressed, semi dressed or even nude, some dads even have special shorts or pants for pre spanking corner time.  If he is bent over the spanking chair, place the brush or slipper or paddle etc. on his back while he waits .. and ultimately thinks!  If he is over the back of the sofa, have him lay there with his pants and underwear down, bare bottom up!  Or how about sitting on a ‘naughty stool’ – bare bottom?  Just in briefs?  Will he be holding the hairbrush or strap?  As you can see there are limitless possibilities! Post Spanking This is always completed with the boys red and just spanked bare bottom on display.  After punishment comes reflection!  In this stage the boy must either be in a true corner or made to sit on a stool facing the wall or simply standing facing the wall.  He is forbidden to rub his just spanked buns.  If he does try and rub, then a few hard spanks with the hairbrush will get him compliant, a good idea is to have him place his hands on his head.  After this phase bring him back to the fold with some hugs and nice pats.  Some Dads though will view this as phase 1 of post spanking corner time.  Phase 2 is usually used if the young man has been very naughty, it still involves his bottom being bare, and he must now sit and write an essay ‘one what I learned from my punishment’ I can assure you it is very effective. Have him sit his spanked buns on a nice hard chair, preferably at a table and facing away from any distractions such as the television.  Give him a set amount of words, for example 500 or 1000.  Once he is finished have a discussion, and ensure he knows what’s in store for him if the punishment has to be repeated!  At this point most Dads will deny him his briefs for a few hours, and confine him to just his tee shirt. Break Time Alright Dad, so your boy is over your knees having his bare bottom tanned, but you want to take a break and turn up the heat as it were?  You can do that, let him up, tell him to have some water or soda, go to the bathroom if he needs to.  Once he comes back, send him to fetch the hairbrush or paddle or strap, then have him stand in the corner.  Take your time, relax a bit, have a drink or some chips, and then when you are good and ready and only then, take your boy back to the spanking chair, my dad usually does this by taking me by my ear.  You have no idea how much tension this brings to the proceedings! Review and Punishment Sessions I personally have a love hate relationship with review and punishment sessions.  These are conducted at a set time and day every week and they include both pre and post spanking corner time.  I will basically describe my own sessions, as an example.  On the set date and time after showering, I change into my ‘review’ clothes, nothing elaborate, sports shorts, white briefs, socks and tee and report to the assigned corner.  I just stand there thinking of my behavior over the week and wait, sometimes its only a few minutes but I have known it to last 30 minutes or longer.  When my Dad is ready, he takes me by the arm (or ear) over to his spanking chair, my shorts and briefs are lowered and we then talk about my behavior.  I am expected to confess everything that warrants punishment, even if I never got found out.  The gamble is omitting something he actually does know about will result in a much longer and harder spanking, so I tend to be honest.  After my spanking, its back to the corner, again it might be a few minutes or longer, it depends on how my Dad feels.  The only time this changes is if I have omitted something he knows about, in that case I will be spending a lot of time in the corner, and denied my shorts and briefs for the rest of the day.  Its like being grounded essentially, and the only way of getting my shorts and briefs back is to apologize for the omission and ask for a second spanking! --- yup sucks to be me on those days!

Hello everyone, As you can see the site is back online, however there are some outstanding issues I will be working to resolve. The two major issues are the chatbar is missing and videos will not upload.  I expect to have both of these problems resolved at some  point today. There will be some teething issues, and minor bugs, and I will fix these as we go along. I will update later my evening time with progress. You should find a good  increase in speed. It was a lot of work, and I have suggested to my dad that as a reward I should be given a one week pass from spankings and corner time! hugs James

Guys, I know we are still having problems, oh believe me I know!  As much as it is frustrating for you, trust me when I tell you it is more so for myself, but I do have an action plan and it is being implemented.   Also I have not been on the site a lot posting, I simply really do not have the time, I will try here and there, but I really must crack on with this.   The problems can be broken down a bit to server and script, The server we have is actually a very good machine, with a great specification and more than capable of handing three times as many users and the same in content. The largest headache has been Cyberpanel + Litespeed and I love the setup, however it breaks and more often than not, I simply have no idea as to why that is.  At the moment I cannot access several important components, which I really do need.   The script has been a pill as well, the authors updated it so that our old chat bar ceased to function, and you know that is not all right and really pisses me off.  It also screwed up groups and messed up the video playing screen. So enough I say!  It’s time to get us back up and running without all the crap and BS ... no more headaches!   Okay so on the test server (backup server), I have spent days, replicating problems and being able to pinpoint as to where they are coming from, i.e., server or script.  It was tedious but necessary.   I am very confident that I can now move forward and get everything fixed.   This will begin with a fresh copy of the script and a brand-new database; I will then import all the user data into this database.  Next, I will copy in all the videos and images.  This will all be done on the backup server, so no downtime at this point.   Once completed and fully tested on a stable control panel we used in the past, I will reinstall our main server, and copy everything over to it fr om our backup server.   Then we will optimize databases, php and cache system   And oaky poky, pig in a poky - we should be all set.   I just wanted to give you an update, in case you were thinking I was sitting on my butt doing nothing!  So please do excuse me, if I am not on the site posting right now, you know why.   James

Just some wee thoughts!   I think I can be honest when I state that I do much better with consistent discipline, rules and boundaries.  They keep me focused, attentive and have helped me immensely in both my personal and professional life.   It is also true that I respond well to corporal punishment.   I can also say with my heart, there are many times I have tried to avoid punishment, or tried to talk my way out of punishment and yet if I was being honest with myself, I know I need punishment.  I think that if my dad gave into my pleas and promises about being ‘good’ or ‘promising not to it again’, there would be a loss of dependability and reliability, which would result in confusion.   I suppose I prefer having crystal clear boundaries, rules and consequences.   When I think about discipline, it encompasses three main areas attitude (such as respect and obedience), House rules (completing chores, cleaning up after myself) and boundaries (not procrastinating, no traffic violations etc.).   The area where punishment is more intense is a boundary infraction, since they I created myself.   There is one other rule which is as a boy, I am expected to extended every courtesy and be respectful to other Dads.  If a dad is visiting here and I misbehave or show him disrespect, he will be invited to administer punishment.  If I am visiting another dad, them I must obey his rules, and accept punishment when I need it.  Now just so you know any dad that either visits here or I visit, I will have gotten to know very well and there will already be a trust relationship in place.  I am not talking about random strangers I know nothing about tanning my butt.   That is how discipline works in our house, and obviously any breeches have consequences and that means punishment.   Punishments are not limited to spanking, though 90% of the time I do end up staring at the carpet with my bare bottom up in the air.  Other punishments included time out (corner time), grounding, early bed times and denial of pants and/or briefs.   I am not going into these punishments in any great detail but what I can say is that if you have a dad as creative as mine all these punishments, while juvenile in nature can easily be extended to an adult boy.  As an example, being grounded for a week, simply means that as soon as I get home from work, back from shopping or whatever else, my pants and briefs come down for the rest of the day / evening.  That is effectively me being grounded, since I can hardly go anywhere in just my tee and socks!   If I am getting close to a spanking, I may be put in timeout, to give me a chance to reflect on my behavior before it escalates and a spanking becomes necessary.    Being sent to bed early is pretty much self-explanatory but it also means computer powered down and my cell phone in the charger in the lounge.  It also means a good dozen swats to my bare bottom, and while not quite a punishment spanking, I end up in bed with a glowing hot bottom.   As you can imagine none of these punishments are exclusive and can include more than one of them, or a combination, depending on how ‘naughty’ I have been.

Well, this is a difficult topic, and whatever I say I am going to displease some guys, and that is unavoidable.   If you have a problem with another member or individual, then deal with it.    I am not going to get involved period, unless it breaks this sites rules or is abusive behavior.    I don’t care what has been said on other sites, groups or social media, and I am most certainly not going to waste my time by joining other sites just to see your point of view.    It is a ridiculous expectation, and one I am not prepared to meet, and in any case its none of my business and I don’t want to get involved.   I am the site owner, and I spend a lot of time on its upkeep, I actually like to post and interact with others.   It really is disheartening when I login to these messages, so please do me a favor and let me enjoy the site I created, deal with your own disagreements and grievances as the adults you are supposed to be.     James