Blogs

Hello everyone, I hope you are all safe, during these uncertain and unprecedented times.  Next week, probably on Wednesday afternoon, the site is moving to a new server.  Nothing is changing, it will still be southspanking.com The new server is less expensive, the estimated savings are around $500 per year.  It is also faster, more secure and utilizes more modern technology. I have over the course of the last few weeks been testing and configuring and I am now satisfied we can go ahead.  The majority of the data will be copied over before Wednesday, and I will of course give a couple of hours warning ahead of the move. The site will be off-line for only a short period of time, probably less than 1 hour. If after an hour, you are still not getting access, please remember to press F5 on your keyboard to refresh your browser. I want to thank those of you that have made a donation to the site, it really helps, and it allowed me to make this cost saving reduction, especially at this stressful time. We do need donations going forward, but rather than getting out the begging drum, I have also listed a number of items on e-bay from my collection.  So, if you want to help the site, and get yourself a DVD, book or magazine at the same time, have a look at what we are selling.  Unfortunately, eBay restricts adult goods to within the US only, so I can only sell to those within the US. Our eBay store can be found at:  https://www.ebay.com/str/arizoy Thank you everyone, and again please stay safe and well. Hugs James

Guys, I know we are still having problems, oh believe me I know!  As much as it is frustrating for you, trust me when I tell you it is more so for myself, but I do have an action plan and it is being implemented.   Also I have not been on the site a lot posting, I simply really do not have the time, I will try here and there, but I really must crack on with this.   The problems can be broken down a bit to server and script, The server we have is actually a very good machine, with a great specification and more than capable of handing three times as many users and the same in content. The largest headache has been Cyberpanel + Litespeed and I love the setup, however it breaks and more often than not, I simply have no idea as to why that is.  At the moment I cannot access several important components, which I really do need.   The script has been a pill as well, the authors updated it so that our old chat bar ceased to function, and you know that is not all right and really pisses me off.  It also screwed up groups and messed up the video playing screen. So enough I say!  It’s time to get us back up and running without all the crap and BS ... no more headaches!   Okay so on the test server (backup server), I have spent days, replicating problems and being able to pinpoint as to where they are coming from, i.e., server or script.  It was tedious but necessary.   I am very confident that I can now move forward and get everything fixed.   This will begin with a fresh copy of the script and a brand-new database; I will then import all the user data into this database.  Next, I will copy in all the videos and images.  This will all be done on the backup server, so no downtime at this point.   Once completed and fully tested on a stable control panel we used in the past, I will reinstall our main server, and copy everything over to it fr om our backup server.   Then we will optimize databases, php and cache system   And oaky poky, pig in a poky - we should be all set.   I just wanted to give you an update, in case you were thinking I was sitting on my butt doing nothing!  So please do excuse me, if I am not on the site posting right now, you know why.   James

Okay, so for the remainder od this month, lets have a video competion.   The rules are simple, it has to be home made, so no commercial or defunct studio clips.   The last day of May is the end date for submissions.   The top 6 videos, with the most likes go to a poll vote.   The 4 video clips that get the most votes win a prize.   Prizes are awarded by picks, no the winnrer with the most votes gets to pick first, second place chooses next and so on.   The prizes are:   4 VHS redboard spanking tapes, which will include digital copies for you (DVD or MP4).   3 DVD's - 3 Bad Boys, Fallen Angels and Spank me man.   2 Magazines, a Spankography from Control T and a MHF Red Tails.   1 Very rare book, entitiled 'The guide to the correction of young gentlemen' - this is an AKS book, and basically F/M but it is very interesting.

©2023 Need2botk It was a very memorable day, the day I got my ass spanked for the very first time and I have to admit it, that spanking was more than 30 years overdue.  Although I was threatened with spankings all the time growing up, I never actually got one!  However, I was fascinated with spanking as long as I can remember.  I loved watching my buddies get spanked when I was a teen.   In fact I've been jerking off to the thought of getting spanked, or thinking about the spankings I’ve witnessed since I was 11 years old.  The one thing that has really turned me on is is thinking about the added shame of a much younger guy spanking me! Then one day I got an online message that said "I'm young and I spank!"  It was from a 23 year old guy that we'll call Matthew and he was offering to give me the real spanking I'd been fantasizing about for so many years!   He was really excited about the prospect of stripping a 47 year old man buck ass naked and putting him just where he belonged, ass up over his knees, for a good sound bare bottom spanking.  He said he likes spanking older men, with nice meaty butts, and from the pictures I sent him, he said I had the “perfect target“.   We missed several attempts at meeting but finally connected that Thursday afternoon.  I was extremely nervous about being spanked,  but Matthew tried to make me feel comfortable.  At least as comfortable as possible for my first time, but to be blunt, I was scared shitless!  This was the first time someone was going to strip me!  Yep, I was going to get spanked naked!  I had no idea what to expect.  I had spanked my own ass many times before, just to see what a spanking might feel like, but this was different.  This was the real thing. I wasn't in control this time.  I was worried he was going to whack my ass a few times and I would change my mind. I didn't want to look like a wimp and was hoping I'd be able to take a hard enough spanking to satisfy this young man.   I figured I had to do this, and since I told him previously that this might be a good day to meet, I just got in my truck and headed toward Matthew's house, figuring I'd call him in route.  I got to his house and was still unable to contact him by phone.  I couldn't believe this!  I had actually worked up the courage to meet up with a guy to give me my first real spanking and he wasn’t home!   I had chatted with a lot of guys that wanted to spank me but I never followed through and actually scheduled a time to meet before.   I wanted to get spanked so bad!  I needed a spanking!  I deserved to have my ass spanked red hot!  After a couple more attempts to call him,  I headed to a store, about 15 minutes from his house to waste some time.  My dick was semi hard the entire time I was in the store and my balls ached just thinking about the spanking I might be in for.  I aimlessly roamed around the store for an hour, the excitement in my crotch and balls, building as I waited.  I tried calling again, my stomach churning and my dick throbbing at the prospect of him answering the phone.  Still no answer!     I wanted to be stripped naked and bent over his knees and spanked so bad!  I had left the store and was headed back toward his house when he finally answered the phone.  I told him I was nearby and asked if he still wanted to to this.  It was like music to my ears when I heard him say "definitely!"  He had previously sent me some photos of himself, but I figured they were pictures of someone else because he looked like a model.  He looked so hot I figured he couldn't possibly be interested in spanking an older guy like me, but when I saw him standing in the driveway waiting for me I realized the pictures he sent were real!  I couldn’t believe my eyes.  I found out later he actually was a model and had done some spanking porn before!  I grabbed the bag out of the truck with my paddles, a video camera and the butt plug he told me to bring with. As soon as we got inside, he got right down to the task at hand and said lets go upstairs.  He just came home from work and was dressed in black dress pants and a white long sleeve shirt.  He took off his shoes and rolled up his shirtsleeves as I set up the video camera to record my first ass spanking. Unlike me - he was so calm and knew exactly what he was doing.  He had me stand in front of him as he pulled my shirt out of my jeans shorts and then up over my head, setting it down on the dresser.  Then I felt his fingertips starting to unfasten my belt buckle, unbutton my shorts and lower the zipper.  Before I knew it, I was stepping out of my jeans shorts, and they were put on the dresser with my shirt.   I was starting to get hard, just like I hoped I would.  Matthew sat down on the bed and me pulled over one knee.  He rubbed my brief clad butt and started to hand spank me.  They were easy smacks, but I think he spent more time feeling the shape and curves of my butt cheeks through my tighty whities.  I wanted to just start humping his leg, but modesty got the best of me and I restrained myself and just laid there submissively.  My legs were shaking uncontrollably and I remember him telling me to relax that I was in good hands. How could I possibly relax?  I just let a guy I never met before strip me down to my briefs,  and I was bent over his knees getting a spanking.  I had never let anyone strip me before and I had never been spanked before.  There was no way I could relax!   The slow soft hand spanks turned into harder faster spanks.  I can remember how nervous I was but at the same time it felt so good laying over this young man's knees, letting him give me that spanking I only dreamed about before. After about 50 hand spanks on my tighty whities, he told me to get up again.  As I obediently stood before him,  I felt his fingertips slip under the elastic waistband of my briefs.  It felt so weird as I sensed his fingertips slide down my flanks as he lowered my briefs and told me to step out of them.   Except for the socks which I forgot about, I was buck ass naked!  Totally bare!   Completely exposed!  There was no being modest anymore, I was naked and under the control of a guy half my age. And I was getting spanked!   He didn’t bother to turn me around to look at how red my ass was.  Nope.  Matthew just pulled me back over his knee, buck ass naked for another spanking.   As humiliating as it was, I wanted to be right where Matthew had me, my naked butt sticking up just begging to be spanked.   I had dreamed of this day so many times, I couldn‘t believe it was actually happening!   The whole thing was so surreal. He hand smacked my bare butt about another 50 times and then I felt him reach underneath me to fondle my dick and balls.  No one had ever touched my dick or balls before!   Usually I am rock hard when it comes to spanking but I was so nervous meeting someone in person to give me my very first real spanking my dick had gone limp with fear.  Between my thoughts of how great this feels,  I wondered if he’d be some sort of nut case.  I wondered if I was going to be safe.   I wondered a lot of things, but most of all I kept wondering if I'd be able to take the kind of spanking I deserved.  A spanking that would leave my butt sore for days.  A real spanking.  He picked up my first paddle, a small pine board drilled with smaller holes.  It was one of the first paddles I made.  I thought back to the time I was in my wood shop, as stood naked, cutting, shaping and sanding that paddle, testing it out on my own backside as it progressed.  I was thinking about how hard my dick was as I carefully drilled each and every hole in that pine board hoping they would help that paddle sizzle my ass. Matthew gave me a couple swats with that pine paddle and rubbed my ball sac again with his hand.  He did what I often do when spanking myself and he rubbed the edge of the paddle through my butt crack.  I must have shuddered and my legs were shaking cause he told me again,  to "just relax"  and pulled both my legs up onto his lap.  I was now laying over both knees with my feet and head on the bed.   God, the feeling was incredible, here I was at last, just like I fantasized about, bare ass naked, over a young mans knees, my naughty butt sticking up in the air just begging him to spank me harder.  Begging him to spank me more, armed with a wooden paddle I personally made for someone like him to blister my ass with.  I kept thinking back to how he told me his own dad used to paddle his ass when he was a kid, and here I was, buck naked, over his knees with my ass just begging for a spanking.  I wondered how he felt having my ass over his lap, turning red, turning hot.  I wondered how he felt having me under his complete control, having a guy old enough to be his own dad laying submissively over his knees so that he could spank me like a naughty little boy.   I gently humped his leg sticking my ass up offering it to him to discipline.  I needed to be spanked, I deserved to be spanked,  I wanted to be spanked.  I hope he got some additional satisfaction knowing he was giving me what I craved. Knowing he was the first one to ever spank my ass! Fifty-four bare ass paddle swats later he switched to another one of my homemade paddles. I made several paddles hoping that a guy like him would put them to use spanking my butt.   A narrow maple paddle without holes.  Some of the paddle companies call it a ruler paddle.  This paddle tends to bruise my butt since it's relatively heavy and it concentrates the sting in a narrow band.  Matthew was using it on my butt, practically  right from the start.  I knew I was going to be sore.  After the first few swats I said how much that paddle stung.  Watching the video afterwards, I noticed he started to set the paddle down, but I knew I needed it, and said "that’s okay - keep going".  He eagerly picked the paddle back up and re-applied it to my heinie.  Some rapid fire, hard swats ensued as he clenched his arm firmly around my waist and held on tight.  He gave me 56 swats with that narrow maple paddle.  God did he ever know how to spank!   I was ordered to stand up again and lean against the bed bent at the waist.  He grabbed my legs and spread them, making my cock and balls visible as he proceeded to give me forty three good hard swats with a cherry frat style paddle drilled with holes.   He was swinging that paddle so hard and fast, I could hear the air whistling through it as the swats approached that target - my naked butt. Each swat set my butt cheeks jiggling making him want to spank me even more.  I can only imagine the incredible view he had as the paddle flattened my cheeks on impact,  and made them bounce back into shape for another swat.  I can only imagine how good he felt knowing he was burning my butt, making it redder and hotter with each swat of the paddle.  Giving me the spanking I needed.  Giving me the spanking I deserved.  I'm sure that seeing my butt bounce like that, knowing it had never been spanked before, seeing my it turn red like that, and hearing my grunts and groans made him want to paddle me even more, paddle me harder, paddle me faster.  He continued to rub my bottom with his hand, feeling the heat, feeling the burn.  Once again I felt the edge of that paddle slide between my red hot butt cheeks, right through my crack.  I stuck my butt out to open up my crack for him, making myself feel so vulnerable as he slid that paddle over my boy hole, but I needed to feel the humiliation of being so exposed.  He must have known from personal experience just what that felt like. The feelings were so incredible, as he alternated between rubbing my butt cheeks with his hand, rubbing my crack with the edge of the paddle, fondling my dangling balls and still limp dick and of course spanking me.  This was the first time I was ever touched there by another guy.  The physical contact forced me to think about just how exposed I was and what a sight I must have been standing there bent over, naked with my butt thrust out, just begging for that spanking! Matthew stopped spanking me for a moment.  Just long enough to unbutton his own shirt and slip it off.   I had to get a look since the sight of another guy's abs and pecs turns me on almost as much as looking at his butt.   He went back to hand spanking me in that same position, bent over the bed.   He stopped spanking me again and walked in front of me so I could see him pulling his belt out of the belt loops on his pants.   I got butterflies in my stomach thinking he was going to give me an old fashioned belt licking, just like my dad often threatened to give me when I was a kid, but he put the belt down as he had other ideas in mind.  He slipped down those black dress pants to reveal a pair of light blue bikini briefs.    The briefs fit him nicely, clinging to his own backside, accentuating the firmness of his own youthful posterior.  The thin material stretched deep into his crack, and the pouch in front was filled out nicely.  It was exciting watching him.  I was buck ass naked getting spanked and my spanker was stripping down too.  He walked back over to where I was leaning against the bed and told me to lay on the bed on my back.  I noticed a darker wet spot on the front of his briefs. The boy was leaking precum!   Paddling my ass was really turning him on!  I was worried he wasn't having a good time since I was just laying there not saying much.  I wanted to squirm and howl, but I didn't want to fake it.  I wanted my responses to be real, and I knew that soon enough he'd be spanking me faster and harder and real reactions would come out.  He looked so hot standing there in his briefs, wet with precum.   He stood there for about a minute letting me size him up, before he slipped down those briefs and took them off, leaving himself bare too.   His backside was small and firm, just the way I like,  and his cock bigger than mine, hanging down with a hefty set of balls beneath it.  I was intrigued, to say the least, as I looked at that perfect specimen of a backside, and thought about his descriptions of how his dad paddled his bare bottom when he misbehaved.     I had never been bare with another guy where I was able to openly stare at his nakedness.  The only time I’d been naked with another guy was in a locker room situation where a quick glance was all that was acceptable.  I was really enjoying the view in front of me.  I would have liked to see it spanked red, but it wasn’t his bottom that was getting spanked.  It was mine.  I didn't get to stare too long as he got up on the bed next to me, facing my feet and swung one leg over my torso.  This was awesome! I was staring right at that sweet butt of his!   I had told him in my emails, that one time when I was in college, a friend of mine who still got spanked by his dad, was changing to go swimming with me.  This guy had the most spankable little butt I ever saw, and when he bent over to slip on his swimsuit, his butt crack must have spread open and I caught a whiff of his ripe little heinie!  When I got home that night, I took a kleenex and wiped my own butt crack with it so I could sniff it while I jerked off imagining that sweet butt of his getting spanked.  I thought about how the aroma of his crack might fill the air as he was over his dad's knees, with his legs spread wide and a paddle fanning his musky little butt hole.  Ever since that day, I would sniff my own dirty briefs or something I wiped through my own butt crack as I jerked off thinking about spankings I've witnessed.  God how I loved the smell of butt crack!  That sweet aroma always made me think of naked butts, and naked butts always made me think about spanking.  A few times when I was camping with this guy, I'd wait until he left the tent to shower, and I'd find his dirty briefs or boxers.  They always smelled so incredible, so ripe and musky.  I'd jerk off humping my pillows imagining him coming back into the tent, catching me naked, playing with myself, sniffing his dirty undies and then punish me with a good hard spanking.  He knew I never got spanked before, and often made comments about how he’d like to whip my ass. He'd say things like "Keep it up mister, and you're gonna get it", or "Just wait until we get home", or "Don't make me beat your ass in front of all these people". He really wanted to spank me so bad!    These must have been things his own dad had said to him before.  I'd think about him saying this stuff to me as I laid naked in the tent, masturbating with the scent of his butt crack filling my senses. I told Matthew how I fantasized about being punished for rummaging through my friend’s dirty laundry and sniffing their ripe briefs and boxers. I told him an appropriate punishment would be to have him straddle my torso, pull my legs up into the diaper position and have him rub his bare naked butt crack up and down my nose, telling me that since I like the smell of butt crack so much, he's going to make me sniff his while he spanks me.   I couldn’t believe he was actually acting out this fantasy.   I felt like I was in heaven!  I got a glimpse of his cock and balls hanging down before I felt them on my stomach and chest as he slid that awesome backside of his closer to my face.  I was loving every second of this.  I noticed his ball sac again as he got closer to me but most of all I noticed his ass crack was spread wide open and I had a clear view of his sweet pucker!  His butt was relatively smooth but he had a light coating of man hair in his crack.  I saw the wrinkles of his rosebud as he pressed it up against my nose and he ground it into my face!   God, that boy's ass smelled good! My first real sniff of another guy's butt crack and it was just like I always imagined it would be.  Not a dirty shitty smell but just the ripe, sweaty,  musky smell of pure athletic male backside.  It's hard to describe, but anyone else turned on by that aroma would know exactly what I'm talking about, and his butt crack was a prime specimen!  He picked up my legs and hooked them under his arms just like I described in my email, so my own crack and hole were completely exposed too!  He picked up the small oak paddle drilled with 5/8" holes and started to paddle my ass as he ground his ripe juicy crack up and down my face, rubbing his butt juice all over me, marking me with the scent of his ass!  As he swatted my bad boy ass, he rubbed the paddle around my cheeks and ran his hand up and down my crack over my hole.  I felt my own dick start to harden as Matthew’s musky hole was grinding up and down my nose and I was eagerly sniffing it, savoring the sweet aroma.  I couldn’t help but think about the view he had of my butt, upended, spanked bright red and offered to him, to touch and spank however he wanted.       Then he said it would be a good time to take out that butt plug that I brought with!  I had never had another guy insert a butt plug or anything else up my ass but I wanted to experience as much humiliation as possible.   Hell, another guy had never even seen my butt hole before!  He kept rubbing my crack and hole with his hand as his own pelvis rocked back and forth over my face.  He hand spanked me as he humped my face with his boy hole.  He slapped my ass and said it was time for my hole to get plugged up.  When he got off of me his own dick was rock hard and sticking straight out!  He loved sticking his ass in my face as much as I loved having it there!  He returned to the bed with my butt plug and a tube of KY jelly. I submissively pulled my legs overhead to offer my most private place, my hole, for him to plug.  He lubed up my hole and then the plug, and it didn't take long for my sphincter to suck the plug up and clamp down tight on it. He straddled my chest again with his sweet bare ass in my face so I could savor more of his ass scent as he spanked me some more with that short oak paddle.   He then got off of me and stood along side of me pulling my legs back closer to my face. putting me in the traditional diaper changing position,  upending my butt even more so he could paddle me another 20 times even harder. Before long I was back over Matthew's knees for 85 more swats with my homemade oak frat paddle drilled with holes.   This time he was naked too!   My limp dick tried to get hard a couple of times, barely long enough for him to notice it, but it didn't stay that way for long with the pain from the paddling.  My dick was pressing right up against his bare leg, and he teased me for a while wiggling and twisting the butt plug and fondling my cock and balls.  Then he grabbed the walnut frat paddle drilled with large holes and he paddled my butt some more, and fondled me as he wished.  I let go of my inhibitions and slowly humped his lap sticking my backside up, offering it to him to spank even more, my crack opening up as I stuck my butt up in the air for him to paddle. I knew I needed a good hard spanking and I wanted him to spank me with that paddle.   He grabbed me tight around the waist again and paddled my ass with hard rapid fire swats until I was gasping for air.  It was really hot watching the video afterwards, hearing the paddle echo off my bare bottom with a resounding smack, and watching my butt cheeks giggle as the paddle impacted. He grabbed me tight one more time, squeezing my backside so it stuck up even more and gave me a fast and furious volley of swats with the frat paddle.   I could feel his hard cock throbbing against my stomach letting me know he thoroughly enjoyed paddling my naked boy butt!  Every time he lit into my bare ass with a hard fast volley of paddle swats, his own dick was sticking straight out hard as a rock.  I was really glad that taking the paddle to my ass excited him so much. Still over his knees he picked up the Jokari paddle, a real butt burner,  and gave me another 75 swats.   Some were slow steady swats and others were fast and furious swats.  I  asked him how my butt was and he eagerly replied "nice and hot!"   Then I was ordered to kneel on the bed with my naked butt in the air, my knees spread wide and my face down on the blanket for another 20 swats with a real fraternity souvenir paddle followed by more hand spanks. He enjoyed twisting and wiggling my butt plug and stroking my limp dick trying to make it hard.   I guess I got a little hard, but not nearly as hard as I would have liked to have been. I was definitely enjoying my spanking, even though my ass was red hot and really sore.  I don't know why my dick stayed limp cause whenever I spank myself it's throbbing hard.  I guess it was just the fact that this was a first time experience and I didn't know what to expect.  No, it was because I was still scared shitless!  I still kept wondering if I would be able to take the spanking Matthew wanted to give me! Plus I was still on edge meeting someone for a spanking for the first time, but I couldn't ask for a better spanker!  He was patient and understanding and I think he really liked having me naked and at his mercy! Still kneeling on the bed, I got another 42 hard fast swats with the holey walnut frat paddle.  He stroked his own hard cock as he spanked me and rubbed my hanging ball sack with the paddle.    These swats were so hard, I could hear the air whistle through the holes in the paddle each time he swung it.  Each hard swat flattened my butt cheeks and made them giggle again as they bounced back into shape.  I was gasping and grunting out in pain as he increased the speed and intensity of the paddling. Once again those rapid fire swats that made me grunt and groan, made my disciplinarian's own dick stand at attention again.  He stroked his own boner as he rubbed my butt cheeks feeling the fire he burned into my boy bottom. Next I was ordered to assume the position with my legs spread wide and my hands on my knees while a paddleball paddle I recently found was used to spank my butt.  The butt plug was still up my ass and he sometimes paddled me right on the plug. He reached around my waist and pulled me up tight to himself, grabbing my cock from the front, and I could feel the firm tone of his own naked body up against me.  I was still bent over with my hands on my knees and I wasn't going anywhere!  He leaned into me whacking my deserving red hot butt with the hardest and fastest set of paddle swats yet.  I was grunting out "oh's and aw's" as he whacked my ass ruthlessly with the big paddle an additional 45 times He noticed some abrasions on my butt that were starting to draw blood so he stopped the spanking.  It wasn't anything serious just abrasions from the hole drilled paddles giving my deserving ass the punishment it needed.  I wanted to be spanked more, but knew it was better if I waited until another time. That spanking occurred on a Thursday and my butt was burning Sunday afternoon. Every time I sat down or leaned my butt against something I was reminded what happens to naughty boys.  They get their butts spanked and spanked hard.  I thought for sure, that I would have black and blue marks all over my butt but Matthew was an expert paddler, and knew exactly how to spank a boy's butt.  I was just really sore for 4 days, but there was no bruising or serious damage. After the spanking we both jerked off.  That was the first time I jerked off in front of anyone and also the first time I saw someone else jerk off in person..  Ever since grade school, I jerked off by humping pillows while envisioning the paddlings I'd witnessed that day in school and thinking about someone spanking me like that. So here I was about to jerk off like that in front of the younger guy that just gave me my first real ass paddling.  It was so embarrassing, but I shamelessly grabbed my clothes, wadded them up into a ball and humped them for all I was worth. He stood over me stroking his own hard cock, while he watched my cherry red butt, that he just spanked that way,  hump up and down.  It was so humiliating having him watch my red ass thrust up and down in a feverish rhythm with that plug still up my hole.  I only wish his sweet boy crack was right there in front of my face so I could sniff it some more as I masturbated.  I did scrunch the area between my lip and nostrils up so I could smell the butt juice he marked my face with while he was paddling me earlier. I'm sure he enjoyed making me sniff his ass as he was definitely boned while he ground his ripe stinky butt hole up and down my nose! This spanking was filled with many first time experiences for me.  It was the first time my butt was spanked for real. It was also the first time anyone put a butt plug up my ass.  The first time I was stripped by someone else and the first time I laid over another man's knees for a spanking. This was the first time someone else saw or touched my butt hole, or ran his fingers through my ass crack.  It was the first time anyone grabbed my cock and stroked it or grabbed my ball sack and it was the first time I got to sniff another guy’s butt crack.   Yes like I said, this was a very memorable day indeed! 

I know boys feared the old fashioned razor strop growing up but but after getting spanked with one for the first time as an adult, it wasn't as brutal as I always thought.  Sure it stung and did it's job, but it wasn't as heavy as other straps I'd been spanked with. I guess I'd describe it as effective but not brutal.  I do have to admit though, that it did make my dick hard whenever I went to the barber shop and saw them hanging there on the barber's chairs. Both as a kid and as an adult seeing that leather strap hanging from the chair just made me think about the barber giving me a spanking right there in front of all the other customers!   I'd envision what it must have been like growing up in the days of old where the razor strop prominently hung in every home. They were probably used as much for disciplinary purposes as they were for sharpening a razor.   Here's some photos from my first taste of the razor strop.  It had a canvas strap attached to the leather one, which added to the crack sound as it connected with my bare bottom.      Growing up my cousins would get spanked with a short length of rubber hose.  The hose was always hanging by the back door to remind us kids to behave when we went out to play.   I returned to visit my aunt and uncle in my mid thirties and the first thing I did when entering the house was look and see if the rubber hose was still there.   It was gone!   But there was a razor strop hanging there instead!  Now the only reason for there to be a razor strop hanging by the back door was for spanking!   Either the new razor strop was for the grandkids or my aunt and uncle were spankos and they spanked each other with it!    When I was shopping for a house out here in Tennessee about 5 years ago I was looking at larger properties with barns on them.   In the back of my mind I was thinking "The South" and "Southern Discipline".  I got a major boner when I was walking through one of the barns and found an old razor strop hanging on the bars of a window in a horse stall!   Now I can't think of any reason for a razor strop to be hanging in a horse barn except for whoopin' ass!   The red circle showing the razor strop hanging from the bars of the window!   Most likely some young man was brought out to that barn to get his ass whooped!   And it was most likely done on a regular basis since that razor strop was kept out there!   I can only imagine what he told his friends when they asked what it was for, or perhaps they all knew exactly what it was for, from personal experience!   I'd love for a spanker to make me take a naked walk of shame out to the barn on my property and take a strap or belt to my ass some day!   I get a boner every time I think about it. I imagine being stripped naked in the house and being marched bare across the pasture out to the barn with strap or belt in hand!   Perhaps the spanker would march me grabbing me by the ear to make sure I don't walk too fast prolonging my shame and humiliation!   Or perhaps he'd hold the strap or belt lashing my bare bottom along the way!    I'd certainly be wondering if any of the neighbors were watching!   The barn on my property.   I'd love to be made to take a naked walk of shame to the barn for a spanking!  The inside of my barn.   Lots of places to secure me for a good hard ass strapping! Here's a link to a short video clip of this razor strapping. https://southspanking.com/groups/video/play/12571/strapped-on-the-bed-with-a-razor-strop/

I thought I might ask you guys whether you think the following punishment scenarios that I have experienced are FAIR, UNFAIR, TOO MUCH or TOO LITTLE.   Before I list them though let me explain a little about my relationship with Denis, he is my husband but also my dad and takes my discipline quite seriously.   I gave him my consent and accept discipline with the understanding that he has the ultimate authority, decides on punishments and is the final decision maker, he doesn’t expect perfection, but I can and am held to high standards.   All my punishments start with a lecture, dad ensures I am listening and that I understand why I am being punished. He always listens to my thoughts and opinions, and that is important to me because I need to be heard.  It’s also very difficult for me to admit I have been naughty and apologize for it, and take my punishment, but I do anyway.   Scenario one:  I am on the computer, kind of playing around when I hear him call ‘James come here a minute please’ to which I reply ‘in a minute’, well fifteen minutes or so go by (I was busy right?) and my ear is suddenly seized as I am marched into the lounge, where the spanking chair has been pulled out and punished with spanking with the hairbrush for being disobedient.   Scenario two: I was told not too mess around with the pool. Specifically, the chemicals but had a go anyway, it just didn’t look clean enough to me.  I sort of made it bubble and foam, okay quite a lot really. I got three hard spankings, with corner time, one for disobedience, one for messing up the pool and another because its dangerous to mix pool chemicals together.   Scenario three:  Caught speeding and given a ticket, dang traffic school sucks!  I was going a little fast at over 80mph.  I got grounded every weekend for a month, got the strap and brush and evening bedtime spankings, every night for the entire month.   Scenario four:  Took a tantrum because I didn’t want to visit his aunt, okay I did accidently knock over one of those little Xmas ornaments, at least I think it was an accident.  I was Spanked and then made to go anyway and when we got back later that night, I got another spanking and sent to bed early .. I did not like that!

Well guys, I have been spanked, it was a long session that brought a few tears with it.  I deserved it though and I am grateful to my Dad Denis, for taking his time to administer the spanking I know was both needed and deserved.    I know all boys have different pain thresholds when they get spanked, and while its true I do get my fair share of spankings, you may besurprised to learn that I get a good ‘warming’ by hand before the actual punishment begins.  Once I am over and in just the right position, hestarts with gentle swats, he uses his hand to slap both cheeks at the same time, over and over.  The slaps get harder as the minutes pass, untilI am yelping a bit and squirming, the reason for the ‘warming’ is to prepare my bare bottom for the punishment he has in mind.   After the ‘warming’ the slaps are much harder, his hand is always straight, never cupped and he always rests his hand after each spank on whatever part of my bottom his hand lands on, for a couple of seconds.  Then the next punishment spank is delivered and the process continues until I am begging him to stop and as all boys do making my promises to be good.   Today though I also got the brush, so after the punishment hand spanking was completed, I was sent to the corner to reflect on my behavior,for five minutes.  As I feared when he released me from corner time he had the little wooden brush in his hand, I felt like a condemned manwalking over to his lap.  It hurts guys, the brush really does sting, I mean even with a hand warming, dang did I feel well punished when hestopped.  And it wasn’t over, dad always begins my spankings by hand and always finishes them by hand, and when he had finally decided Ihad enough I was given post spanking corner time.   I am still being punished, while I completed the pre spanking and post spanking corner time, I am in the  wooden naughty chair for a fewhours.  Its probably not what you think, the chair is used in lieu of lengthy corner time, essentially, I am confined to a tee and socks only andmust take the chair with me, wherever I go.  If I want to watch TV, I have to sit on it, not the comfy sofa, if I want to sit in the backyard, again Ihave to take it with me, and even now at my computer I am sitting on it with a very red and sore bottom.   I am going to post my thoughts as a series, I think it will be interesting to hear views and opinions which I believe may differ greatly and honestly that is just fine, that is as it should be.   Spankings for some, are a learning experience and a defined punishment and for others they simply want to feel the heat and pain.  Whatever the reason for a boys spanking be it punishment, fun or possibly a couple of guys playing and switching roles, I say great!  Nothing wrong withany of it.   Another point gentlemen, is to be careful for what you wish for, and I am serious.  I often hear other guys comment how lucky I am to be in a 24/7 discipline relationship, well trust me its not as simple as you think and not as much fun either.  It is safe to say that couples that do use discipline and spanking in their relationships are not all equal, different standards and reasons for punishment exist. Most importantly while it is a foundation block of their relationships, their entire lives do not revolve around punishment.   That said it is a wonderful relationship and has many advantages and they key is dependability and reliability.  There is very little point in a boy deciding when or when he does not deserve or need a spanking, choosing to either accept or reject his discipline as it suits him, will simply not work.  Once rules have been agreed upon, expectations, goals and acceptable behavior decided upon, its his dad that decides when, why and how punishment happens.  It must be dependable.  Trust me there are way way many times when I have tried to talk my way out of being spanked, and really would rather have been anywhere else in the world, than with my pants and briefs down being scolded by dad.   It never matters, once my bottom has been bared, I know I am going over his knees, no exceptions and regardless of my promises or pleading for leniency.  As far as Dad is concerned, I have been naughty and its time for my punishment, a good spanking over his knees.   Our rules have changed over the years, but essentially, they revolve around well being and health, obedience and manners as well as more defined ones such as chores etc.  In a dad/son relationship obedience is really important, because as a boy you need to be mindful, respectful and accept your dad’s authority.   I also believe the relationship does depend a lot on a boy’s acceptance of being a boy, his nature and personality.  I am good natured, love a joke and fun but I also accept the fact that in someways at least I am immature and submissive to a dad’s authority.  There are many dad’s on this site and quite a few tops that I respect and without mentioning names, if one of them told me to come stand between their legs, I would do so and submissively put my hands on my head.  I wouldn’t just anyone spank me, it’s a sort of radar or ‘boydar’ if you will.  Although Denis my Dad is the one that tends to my discipline on a regular basis, I have been spanked by other dads from time to time with Denis’s full knowledge and approval.   So share your thoughts?

Okay you naughty boys and ever so strict dads n tops!  So I have just managed to disable the freaking touchpad on my laptop .. which was driving me nuts, now I can actually type without the mouse flipping up and down lines and screwing up my text. I am in the UK right now and will be here for at least the next 6 months.  So presently in quarantine and Dad has insisted I just wear my PJ’s, as we can’t go out.  Yea that has nothing to do with the fact he can bare my tail easily whenever he feels like it, and the number of excuses he has found to land several swats at a time on my butt have increased a lot! Now I am on holiday, and you would think that my weekly review and punishment sessions would be suspended, right?  Nope, not at all, I had my behind royally tanned yesterday, can you believe it? Oh and it gets worse, I do plan on visiting several Dads/Tops over the course of my visit and my dear old dad Denis is going to ask them to conduct the review session, in the event I am with them on a Sunday!  Now come on, even the sternest of Dads must admit, that is not fair!  And yes, I know I can be naughty, even when on holidays – but that is not the point, hello I am on holidays! Okay rant over for now! and just in-case you are wondering, my Pop has found an empty corner to stand me in, dang that sucks! Hugsssss

Anyone remember this video from the old GuySpank site? Guess that's long gone now. Always looked like an interesting one.

I participated in a spanking workshop today. For two hours, I was the bottom as a Top taught about 30 people all about spanking. He used about 20 different implements on me, ranging from straps and tawses to wooden paddles to canes. He finished by giving me seven hard swats with a big, wooden paddle. I had to count off each stroke, then say, "Thank you, Sir! May I please have another?" He was going to give me only four swats, but got up to seven because I kept asking for more. I'm sore but I feel great! Sadly, no photos or videotaping was allowed.

There are many who prefer the hand as their choice for spanking and I count myself among them. I think that the flesh to flesh contact provides an intimate and special bonding between the participants. The hand is the one implement that is usually most available for applying if only for a quick swat in public.  I believe that the hand has the most variety of applications and can even simulate other implements. Below is a description of the techniques of applying the hand to a deserving lad's bottom. I use all three during a spanking and believe that this variation increases the duration of the session. #1 The flat hand is probably the most common and the firm palm application can resemble a paddle or hairbrush. #2 With this technique, the entire length of the fingers are brought down rapidly and sharply to feel like 4 flesh whips. #3 The cupped hand gives maximum coverage and follows the curvature. The heel of the hand goes into the crevice and the fingers strike the       opposite side. When this is done with quick motion, I refer to the shape of the cupped hand as a striking cobra putting the bite on an errant lad's backside. I hope you find this tutorial helpful and may try one or more of the techniques I have described. 

This is a bit of a follow-up to Journryman_mages' blog. There are a number of things which really p**s me off on sites such as this: here are just a few: I'm 86, only looking for spankees 18-21 Only ever address me as Sir/Master Whingers Topping from the bottom (you have to thrash me till I bleed / you have to f**k me for at least an hour in 15 different positions without going soft) I want to to meet, but you have to tell me exactly what is going to happen Here are my translations/thoughts on each point I'm really only here for a J Arthur You are just a piece of meat for my enjoyment JM has covered this in his blog see 2 above see 1 Anyone got any thoughts on this?

I'll turn 70 soon and feel like I should have long since graduated from spankee to spanker (if not graduated out of the scene altogether). When I've occasionally chatted with younger men on this site. there's an implicit assumption that I would be the disciplinarian. And while I can certainly enjoy giving a spanking, I still far prefer being the one pinned over the knee getting his bottom turned bright red. Today I got a pretty sound hairbrush spanking from someone I met on this site, and I'm still reveling in the afterglow. I look forward to a couple of days being reminded of the spanking every time I sit down and I'm grateful that there are some out there for whom age is not a total deal-breaker when it comes to giving a spanking. I have no idea how the time went by so quickly, and think back on a myriad of missed opportunities when I was young and at least somewhat attractive. I think my first spanking was when I was in my 30's and over the years I've had a variety of experiences from wonderful to not-so-good, from "one night stands" to multiple return visits, but never enough. I still wish I could have experienced a relationship that included domestic discipline--I think the threat of and occasional delivery of a spanking as a consequence for procrastination or being disorganized would have made me more productive. It's too late for that now and I'm happy for the all-too-rare moments where I find myself prone over a lap with briefs at my ankles, waiting for the first application of a hand or paddle. For some of us, once a spankee, always a spankee--the desire to be spanked doesn't seem to wane with age.

So guys, I have decided with my dad's permission to share some bits and pieces of email exchages we had, before we go together.  Now these are answers to questions that I had posed (the questions are not included), but I think he explains our dad/son relationship in a clearer way that I can and what is involved or how we put it together.  So you know I have never felt I have been 'beaten' or 'abused' and way at all. It is not for everyone, and I have always felt loved, even when I have been very well spanked or punished. Effective discipline does not have to be brutal, just effective and meaningful. There is a lot of good psychology based on not just what you say, but even more importantly based on what you imply.  I do understand.  The time and place when I take down your jeans and briefs is always only up to your Dad.  That's just how it always will be. Dad will have your briefs and your bottom bare at his discretion and you will come to appreciate the feel of Dad’s hand anytime be it for comfort or a nice sharp sting when you need it.  There will be times when you really don’t want it but a true son says, “Yes, Dad” every time regardless.  You’re not used to that! Yes, I think “we” is the issue.  You’re never going to be spanked without my full participation, including emotionally as it is my hand (most of the time) that is causing you to tear up. Yes, the mainstay of your will be frequent and/or sudden and/or scheduled for you to be hugged and talked with, probably with your sitting on my lap with or without your briefs, before you spent significant time over Dad’s knees Boundaries infractions are the most serious in our relationship, especially as you set the various categories up yourself for your own benefit and future.  As such, when you break one, you will have brought punishment upon yourself and it will be punishment as your Dad does not want you to fail any more than absolutely necessary. Dad, will never hesitate to punish you when you error!  After a few, you’ll become the best little James on earth! Exactly, all boys are different (as are all Dads), yet I suspect I know you well enough that a nice quick trip over Dad’s knees (always on your bare bottom) is what you need most and will respond to. A lot of things will be much clearer for a boy once he has found himself in the position of having stood there as Dad lowers his jeans and briefs and pulls him across his knees for his first real spanking on his bare bottom. Dad has promised to give him really good first one and he will keep that promise for two reasons.  First, boys need to understand what live in a relationship involving domestic discipline is really going to be like given my hand will be tending to his bare bottom regularly over the years.  Second, Dad needs to understand his boy’s reactions to his hand, and of course ultimately to his hairbrush.  It’s not a matter of just slapping a boy’s bare bottom.  Each young man is different.  I do think it is the physical experience of laying over my knees and my hand on your bare bottom . . . that experience will be the best and most emotionally meaningful time that you’ve been waiting for. “protests will go un-noticed” with the exception of that fact that a boy who protests too much always finds that the simple spanking of his bare bottom over Dad’s knees that was going to be just with Dad’s hand, often increases and he will then find himself spanked with Dad’s hand and his paddle or hairbrush depending on his reactions. Similarly, walking too slowly to me will also get you into big trouble, Attempting in any way whatsoever to cover your bare bottom to escape my hand or hinder it in any way will be something you will have to learn to avoid.  Sometimes it will happen without your thinking and be completely involuntary, but it makes no difference what causes you to try to hinder or protect your bare bottom when it’s being spanked.  Your hairbrush will always be within reach and I will pin your arm and use the brush to teach you that lesson.  Careful In every real relationship I’ve ever known of, the first time you do this and you will initially do this automatically without thinking, Dad will stop and hold your hand away from your bare bottom you are trying to protect.  You will be warned about trying to avoid your Dad’s spanking and told that the spanking you are then getting will be significantly worse if you keep it up.  Some Dads will immediately give your bare bottom several significantly slaps with the paddle to remind you that a boy’s bare bottom is for dad’s correction and “enjoyment,” never to be covered unless you are told to. Of course, the hairbrush needs to be where you can see it to remember things and for Dad to reach it when he needs to.  Such is the way it is for naughty boys. The hairbrush really hurts quickly.  When your over dad's knees and Dad wants you yelling and kicking right away, the hairbrush will accomplish that goal very quickly if Dad knows how to use it for that purpose rather than just for overall color.

So, having spent some time testing, evaluating and frustrating .. here is some good news.   With a fresh installation, no bells and whistles but with complete functionality, the site will work for mobile based devices, including phone and tablets from an app that can be downloaded via google and apple stores. (Please do NOT download and attempt to connect, just yet).   I want to emphsize that for desktop users everything will be as it is right now, no need for downloading apps ..   We do have a number of modules that will not work with the mobile side of things and would need to be removed, but everything such as videos, photos, posts etc will 100% work on both desktop and mobile devices.   The chat bar will not work on mobile and tablets, but there is a certified one from the script vendor that will work on both desktops and mobiles, it also allows video chat, conferences and more.  If you want to check it out here is the URL:   https://store.phpfox.com/apps/chatplus   It is pricey but with this installed and mobile working properly, it will greatly enhance the site and member experience.   If we strip out all the whistle and bells, simplify things, it will also speed up the site .. so I will do more testing and then update you what is our next move.  To be honest it is looking very positive right now.   Hugs   James    

Okay guys, I have completed the final phase of testing on our test site.   What I have done is essentially replicated the entire script, with the latest version and a fresh database.  At present the data is correct and it functions as expected.   Videos are uploading perfectly and groups are also working.  Also, the videos will now play in full mode as they should from both the feed and the actual menu option.   I am getting ready to do the final import, at sometime today or tomorrow.   We are stripping out a lot of blocks and modules that frankly we just do not need and this will help with overall performance.   I kicked up a fuss with the script author over several modules that we purchased and are no longer compatible, the resolution is that they have given us access to the mobile application that can be downloaded from both Google Play and the Apple Stores.  This will be configured once we export over and the site is up to speed with no problems.  I will post more about this, but essentially it will help a lot for those members that prefer using mobile devices.  Desktop users will not notice and difference.   I have also upgraded our license for our chat bar (not the one presently in use), this will give us full download access to the latest version and both audio and video chat capabilities.  In order to reduce overhead on the server we will be using their push notification service.  The installation will require the chat bar authors technical support and again on completion of the export, I will raise a ticket to get everything installed correctly.  This will be free of charge for us.   We will now be running with two servers and a VPS.  The main server, as well as a backup server which will have replication setup, the backup server will also act as content delivery network or CDN, which will be next on the list for configuration.  The VPS is going to be used for research and development and aid with out move eventually to social engine.   So, hope some of this makes sense, and now of course is the time to put it all together.  I will setup an announcement as soon as I have decided which day and what time.  While the refresh of the main server and data export is taking place, the site will be unavailable for several hours.   Thanking everyone for their continued support and patience.

Well, this is a difficult topic, and whatever I say I am going to displease some guys, and that is unavoidable.   If you have a problem with another member or individual, then deal with it.    I am not going to get involved period, unless it breaks this sites rules or is abusive behavior.    I don’t care what has been said on other sites, groups or social media, and I am most certainly not going to waste my time by joining other sites just to see your point of view.    It is a ridiculous expectation, and one I am not prepared to meet, and in any case its none of my business and I don’t want to get involved.   I am the site owner, and I spend a lot of time on its upkeep, I actually like to post and interact with others.   It really is disheartening when I login to these messages, so please do me a favor and let me enjoy the site I created, deal with your own disagreements and grievances as the adults you are supposed to be.     James

I got a very long, intense public spanking at the fair. My spanker used a wide variety of implements, each one chosen to more painful than the one before. He finished with a frat paddle and a metal paddles with holes that make me scream. By the time he was done, my butt was hot and sore. Then he made me walk around the fair with my bare ass showing so everyone could see that I had been spanked. It was quite embarrassing.

Some Spanking encounters end wrong, just wrong. The Spanking could even have been well administered, but there's just something missing. In our experience, it's the post-Spanking warning, lecturing, and talkin'-to that's so critical to sewing things up and puttin' a bow on it.       Often times Daddys (or even just Tops/Domes) don't really know how to get there. This is where the boy can help. Here's a few tips on how to get Daddy "there."    For boys, after you are paddled, don't just stand there. Provoke him to react to your feelings. You may be very sore. You may be very upset or shaken up if he paddled you hard. Say so, "You Spanked way too hard. I didn't do anything!" or "That hurt." or "You didn't need to use the Bathbrush. I was gonna do it anyway."   This ends up being less rhetorical and ends up making Daddy have to respond: "Well, I wouldn't have to Spank so hard if you listened. When I tell you to come here, you come here now." Or "It hurts because you upset Daddy. You basically made me Spank you like that. I think you owe me an apology." Or "You got the Bathbrush across your backside for mouthing off and defying my direct instructions. I don't ever want to hear you do that again. Do you understand me?" It's more a matter of making a bruised boy or a Daddy startled by what it takes out of himself to paddle your bottom feel heard and responded to.     In the .gif above (pronounced Jiff! May the founder of .gif rest in power!), I see myself, sans the flat abs. In the moment, that "Bathbrush Talk" is something you as the boy cannot take your eyes off of. That's the brush that just damaged your backside. That's the brush that got your attention. That's the brush just Spanked the bejesus right outta ya.   Thankfully, when the Daddy is able to put words to use after a Spanking, the moment sears more deeply into the boy's brain, not just his bottom. When the boy is pulling up his briefs--or when Daddy pulls them up (my Daddys often pull up my briefs because I get far too shaken up by a Hairbrush or Bathbrush paddling)--the lecture helps remind him as much as the painful legloops of his 'pants hugging his red, red fanny. Watching the .gif above, can't you just feel the 'pants coming up over your red, sore bottom? I shore can. The feeling is real bad, and it hurts, but remember the human mind has a built in "forgetting" mechanism when it comes to pain. So you'll forget your Spanking sometime soon. But you are much less likely to forget the post-Spanking talkin'-to if Daddy employs it.    And Daddy's "Paddle Talk" doesn't have to be complicated either. It can be as simple as, asking a series of questions. Try a call and response approach: "Am I ever gonna have to do this again to you?"  "Are you sorry for what you did? Are you?"  "Are we done with your mouthing off?"  "What do you have to say for yourself?" "Look at me when you answer me." "Look me straight in the eyes and say that again." Honestly, the variety will help make the moments after The Spanking more memorable, more special, more important.   A quick warning: not all boys are responsive to lecturing, so be sure to plan ahead by texting with your boy or emailing so you know fully that he is responsive. Otherwise, it can feel flat and inauthentic. With that said, give it a whirl! Learn by doing. Don't think about it. Try it out. See what works for you.    

What was your film and/or television series; and why? My favourite film has to be "If ..." for the whole film, but particularly the awesome caning scene in the gym. My favourite television series has to be the BBC TV series "To Serve Them All My Days" which was a wonderful dramatisation of R F Delderfield's book of the same title. There was no corporal punishment in the series; there didn't have to be for it to rekindle happy memories of my old schooldays and impress upon the viewer's mind the ethos and love which prevails in an all-boys' boarding school. One can view both "If ..." and "To Serve Them All My Days" on YouTube if one access them on DVD. Enjoy!

I just want to acknowledge my best friend on SouthSpanking and otherwise. Blackneo and I have been friends since we met here in April 2012. Over the years, we have become the best of friends, trading stories and information and helping each other through our difficult times. Although we have never met because he lives in England and I live in San Francisco, I want to meet him someday in person and just talk and hang out. Friends like Blackneo are hard to find, but we have been lucky enough to meet each other. All the best to you, Blackneo!

Okay, I just can’t help it, but sometimes—believe me, not when I’m spanking or getting spanked—I theorise about spanking. One question that fascinates me is why people have preferences for—and dislikes of—particular types of spanking implements. For me, a general answer like ‘There are as many tastes as there are people’ is not satisfying, because it just doesn’t make sense. I think it’s possible—and interesting—to try and develop, ponder and test some types of ‘light’ categorisation. Before I proceed, let me note that in these reflections I’m not interested in the type or intensity of pain different implements can cause, but in the symbolic meanings people attribute to them—consciously but more often subconsciously.The first type of categorisation I want to suggest relates to the nature-culture distinction—a distinction that should never be made in any strict sense. There are implements that can almost be found as such in nature, such as canes and switches. Then there are implements that can be made of natural materials, such as carpet beaters, birches, wooden paddles etc. The latter still have a feel of ‘naturalness’ to them. But I’m thinking about how to explain why some have a clear dislike of ‘leather stuff’. Is it because it is associated with the ‘leather scene’ (which only partly overlaps with the ‘spanking scene’)? If so, why does that matter? And is this only about black-coloured leather?The second type of categorisation I call teleological: on the one hand, there are implements that are manufactured for purposes other than spanking or punishment, but which can be used for that purpose as well (bath-brushes, wooden spoons, spatulas, carpet-beaters, razor straps etc.); on the other hand, there are implements that are manufactured for punishment purposes (whips, floggers, tawses, paddles). Here I’m thinking about how to explain why some have a preference for the first type of implements. Is it because having implements made for spanking or punishment increases the risk of family/friends finding out about your spanking practice? Is it because buying such implements confronts you with the reality of your spanking fantasies?I’m curious to hear what people think!

Hello,   I have been absent for a very long time and I apologize.   As some of you may know Denis visits the UK every summer, this particular time he contracted COVID and it was pretty bad.  It was so serious that I had to go over there, and spent several months while he thankfully recovered and was able to travel back to the US.   During my time there, I too got infected, but that’s okay, it was bad, but not too serious.   We are both having some side effects, Denis is having a harder time than I am recovering but we are both getting there.   I really had my hands full and other issues like my authenticator app failed for email access and phone access was restricted due to a change in carrier.   Right now, I have started a new job which I was offered before this all happened, thankfully the company I am now working for were very understanding and let me join the training group I am presently enrolled in.   I will be in contact with my dear friends by email and phone over this holiday weekend.   If you are in the US, please have a wonderful holiday and whatever you do, be safe.  If you have a wee drink or two or three, use Uber or any other transport but PLEASE do not drink and drive.   Everyone, else, please have a fantastic weekend, whether you are just chilling, being spanked, or giving a spanking and stay safe.  We have a fantastic community, and it means so much to me and is very dear to my heart.   Botoms upppppp and Hugssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssss   James

I know there have been some issues with this, and I wanted to delve a little into the firepit that it truly is. There are things we can do in order to make it harder to download videos from this site, but unfortuanelty it is impossible to stop it. I can assure everyone that I have looked into this many times before, but once something is uploaded to the interent, it can then be copied.  Think of it this way, your browser is displaying the content, so its there, even if by using tokens and higher enryption, and even DRM, it can still be downloaded.  There are so many programs and in some cases hardware available, it makes it impossible to stop. What I can do is ask those responsbile not to do it, please.  A lot of the members here do NOT want their videos shared elsewhere and it is morally wrong for you to do so.  As you have been totally selfish, many members will make their videos friends only.  This means YOU cannot see it and neither can many other members, it also means YOU cannot download them.  No one wins from this .. so why bother? I do have a plan that I am working on, that will make it much more difficult, but guys as hard as I can work on it, and as many many hours I can put into it, I do not have a magic wand to stop it from happening.  And to clarifty guys, its the same with all sites, whether youtube or even facebook - you cannot prevent the videos from being downloaded, unless you restrict the privacy settings to friends only and hope that one of your friends is not the cuplprit. Plus I am grumpy today - as I am grounded .. long story! and .. I want to see some Dads and Tops spanked as well.    

Well 2017 was something else!  I think I want to start off by remembering those that we have lost in the last year.  It is never easy, whether it is family or close friends.  We can all remember them in our hearts and in our prayers. I want to thank everyone of you for your support and I appreciate all the words of encouragement, particulary over the site failure and its rebirth.  It is important to note that change is never easy and for some members it it will take time.  Even though they might sound negative that's good, all feedback is important as we move forward.  We are a very diversive community and sometimes it is easy to miss cultural differences, what one culture views as normal another may view as rude, when infact its simple furstration.  I ask everyone to please take that into consideration before hitting that send button on a comment. Our moderators do a fantatic job, and the member contributions are amazing.  This community is what keeps the site alive, thank you everyone. I do want to make a special thank you to Isma, who creates some of the most amazing art I have ever seen.  He is a true gentleman, hugs and thanks Isma! This year will bring some major changes, and we will work on them bit by bit until we get it right.  All I can ask is your patience.  I will make some mistakes as I go along, and thats normal but it will all pull together and the site will be better than ever before.  This blog is where I am going to post updates as we progress. I am looking forward to the year ahead, to making new friends, to working with you on the site and to having fun. hugs James

What a great time we had the night before. My best buddy, also a Spanking Dad, and I invited two of our favorite spankees over to my place for a evening of disciplinary fun. We started off with a two dad/two brat scenario. We spanked our brats together; we spanked each other's brat; and eventually made them spank each other.  We positioned them OTK, over the arm of the sofa and face down on the bed.  We used hand, hairbrush, belt and a spatula.  Between sessions we broke for pizza and beer.  It was a memorable night.  The brats left about 2 am and my buddy & I crashed naked, exhausted and happy into bed. The following morning I slipped on my robe and headed for the kitchen to make coffee followed by my buddy in his boxer shorts.  While searching for mugs, he came across my hidden stash of 7 unopened letters from the IRS, the last 3 of which were registered and had required my signature. "Why are you getting registered letters from the IRS?" "Don't worry about it.  It's nothing" "The IRS doesn't send registered letters for nothing.  What's going on? and Why are they unopened?" Embarrassingly, I explained that I hadn't filed my federal income tax for a while.  In answer to his next question, I sheepishly admitted "3 years". "Are you crazy?", he barked.  "They could garnish your wages which might cause you to lose your job.  And worst case scenario, you could be arrested." "I know all that. I've been meaning to get around to it." "For all you know, they might have already started proceedings which you won't be aware of unless you open those letters". "I've been a little afraid to open them."' "Are you hoping it will all just go away?" "Something like that, I guess" "Man, talk about someone who needs a damn good spanking!" My hands instinctively reached back to cover my ass.  "Now don't get any ideas". "It may be the best idea I've had in years". At this point in my life, I hadn't been spanked in 12 or 13 years and I had never ever been threatened with a real spanking for real reasons.  Admittedly, the present situation caused a blush in my face and a slight arousal under my robe. I stood there speechless not wanting it to happen and wanting it to happen at the same time. "Well?", he said. What do you want me to say?" "I want you open those letters immediately or so help me I'm going to spank you until you do". Believe it or not, guys, all those spanking clichés are not so cliché after all as I blurted out, "You're not serious?" To prove that he was serious, he walked over to my desk where I kept my instruments and retrieved my hairbrush.  He placed the tip of the brush on the letters.  "Are you going to open them or are you going across my knee?" It was decision time. Do I tell him to mind his own business or do I fulfill a life-long fantasy? I still wasn't sure he would actually go through with it but I had to know. Defiantly, I said "I'll do it when I feel like it". "Okay, you had your chance".  He grabbed me by the wrist and pulled me over to a kitchen chair. He sat down and flung me across his lap.  I started to get up but he pushed me back down.  With one hand on the small of my back, he draped one leg across both of mine. Effectively, he locked me in place. "You can't do this, John.  I've been a Dad now for almost 15 years and Dads don't get spanked". "They do when they act as foolishly and as irresponsibly as you have. And I'd much rather see you spanked  than hauled off to jail." He lifted my robe and exposed my bare ass.  He landed about 25 smacks with the brush across my bottom until I was squirming and howling.  It hurt a lot more than I remembered.  Now I wasn't so sure that I wanted my fantasy fulfilled.  "Please. John, stop." "You have one way only of getting me to stop.  Are you going to open those letters?" My ass was burning and my eyes were wet from the sting. My body was ready to give in but my inner brat kept reminding me that the likelihood of a situation like this arising in my lifetime was next to nil.  I had to know how we would take this.Like the whining brat that I always knew I was, I said "You can't make me do what I don't want to". "We'll see about that". Both John and I knew that I could forcibly put a stop to this any time I chose to. But since I was responding as if I didn't have power to resist, he decided to continue. He dropped the hairbrush, lifted my robe over my head and off, unlocked my legs and dropped the letters on the floor directly in my line of sight. He began using his brawny hands on my rear. I began squirming and kicking my legs and whimpering.  Years before this I had learned a muscle relaxing technique that allowed whatever emotions a body was experiencing to bubble up to the surface and out.  I employed that technique at this point. After about 10 minutes or so of solid hand spanking and scolding, my whimpering got louder and soon began to turn into sobs.  The sobs turned into tears streaming down my cheeks.  That was enough for me.  I picked up the letters and began waving them about.  "Alright, alright.  I give up.  I'll open the letters". "When?" "Right now, I swear it." He kept me across his knee for a few more minutes while I caught my breath and my sobs subsided. The he gently helped me stand on my wobbly legs.  While I was rubbing my bare ass, he pulled out another kitchen chair and said "SIT!" "You know perfectly well I won't be able to sit until at least tomorrow." He moved to my desk and retrieved a pen and then to my sofa for a pillow.  He placed the pillow on the chair and again commanded that I sit. I gently eased my butt onto the pillow. The heat from my ass warmed it immediately.  He put the last received letter in my hand and told me to open it. He was right, of course.  The threats he mentioned were there but there was still time to avoid them. A form was enclosed which he ordered me to fill out requesting an appointment with an IRS agent.  after I signed it, he placed it into the enclosed envelope, sealed it and put it in his pocket. "I'm going to mail this myself to make sure you don't accidentally lose it.  Now, say 'thank you, John for being such a good friend and giving me the spanking I deserved'." "Oh, c'mon, John. I feel embarrassed enough." He didn't say a thing. He just folded his arms across his chest and stared me down. "Okay! Thank you, John, for being such a good friend and giving me the spanking I deserved." "That's better!".  Now, gather up all your tax records because I'm making an appointment with my accountant and we're going together there to get you up to speed and ready for your IRS session.  Now, what do you say?" "Thank you, John. I really do appreciate it". "Even the spanking?" "Yes, even the spanking." Neither of us ever admitted that we both got caught up in a real-life scenario that we just had to see through to the end. or that we both thoroughly enjoyed it. However, being my very best friend, he spent the next hour massaging my ass with Vaseline Intensive Care Lotion which we both could freely admit we enjoyed.rver unreachable

I am starting a new private blog.  https://spankingideasnew.blogspot.com/?m=1 There is a contact form on the home page of the blog to request membership

*Permission is granted to repost this on other sites.  If you do, please credit me as "Ageless Al"* When people think of ageplay, they’re more likely to think about the Littles – The adults who play as babies and toddlers.  But if you look, you can find plenty of Middles around, playing as boys above the age of toilet training.  This is true even on sites that focus on diapers.  There’s certainly plenty of us here in the spanking community! Being an older boy has its perks.  We can have a little more maturity than the babies.   We can talk with the grammar and vocabulary of an adult (though some words are still off limits).  Our toys and cartoons are designed for more developed minds.  But we’re still at an age where we crave affection and guidance from our Dads and Onkels. There’s greater freedom but we still have restrictions.  We may even have chores!  Some of us will try to push the boundaries, only to be met with strict punishments.  I summarise my personal approach to ageplay as “old enough that I should be able to use the toilet but certainly not too old for a smack bottom.” While avoiding more babyish outfits, clothing can still display childishness.  We can often dress ourselves.  We like t-shirts and briefs with bright colours and cartoon characters.  Some of us have to wear a school uniform with smart shorts.  And some of us do suffer the embarrassment of having our big boy undies taken away and being put back into diapers. Not all Middles wear diapers but they still have their place.  Maybe it’s “forced” on us as a punishment or by a mean big bro.  Maybe the man in charge wants to make sure his bedsheets are protected.  Some boys still struggle with the occasional daytime accident in their big boy pants.  Whatever the reason, we know in our hearts that wearing our diapers is juvenile, precisely because we identify in an older role!  

First off Guys, I really want to thank you for all your support, the response has been amazing and I am truly humbled. Also I must apologize for not being on the site lately, and if you have not had a personal email from me thanking you for your donation to the site, I will be doing so.  I have been up against the clock, but I can promise you I have been working very hard getting this site to where it needs to be. We had such an awsome fundraiser, that we have bought and paid for a server for a complete year, and we got a massive discount for doing so, again thank you.  It takes a lot of stress away from me.  At the moment I am looking at the plugins and software we need for the new script, but before I get into that ... As you will know the site went down for perhaps 1/2 hour yesterday and around the same today.  This was because the billing cycle for the old server hits tommorow.  So I really had to get it done quickly, and we did.  Usually when changing servers its not a big issue, but this time was a little different, because I took a plunge and changed a lot of things.  So for your techies out there, we are currently using Litespeed with PhP 7.3 and Redis as our cache.  I hit some problems I was not expecting such as permissions and ownership issues, but in the end we got it solved. So that was one project, but I have been working on getting us over to the new script as well and it is going very well .. ooopss before I go any further, my partner and Dad, Denis just got back from Europe, however he took a tumble at the airport and I ended up collecting him in a wheel chair.  He is okay, had him checked out at urgent care, but he is pretty bruised and sore.  You might think him not being able to put me accross his lap is a good thing right?  Yea, that baby got put to bed, he has me bending over the back of the spanking chair and can swing that danged paddle real hard! Anyway the script project, it is likely going to take several more weeks, but I havev solved most problems.  At the moment, I am having issues with video thumbnails and data from groups, but I am getting excellent support from the vendor, I will keep you all updated.  When we get this done, I promise, you will be super amazed :) Okay, so I got to fo make supper for a brusied and cranky Dad ...   hugggsss   James  

Guys, It has taken me a few days to make this post, mainly because I am still actually working on the site. What we have successfully completed is to fix our server faults and to upgrade to the latest version of our current script with a fresh database. We are not finished and we will be upgrading to social engine. I would like to explain a little about performance.  In the coming days / weeks, I will be focusing on it, so that we get to a point where speed and performance is acceptable, that is as far as it goes.  After that I will be working on the social engine migration. Site performance is determined by a number of factors, these include the hardware, operation system, web server, database driver, cache manager and of course at the application level.  In order to get these perfect, would require some intervention from a seasoned professional, as there are literally hundreds of variables involved.  In our case we have Centos 8 - LiteSpeed WebServer - MariaDB - PHP 7.4 -  Redis - Phpfox (as you can see a lot of possible variables) I can do a lot of it but by no means all of it.  One of the things that really helps with a sites speed and performance is a cache plugin and there are a number of these available for Social Engine and WordPress, however nothing for our script, PhpFox. The Social Engine migration will run along side our current script, and no down time will be required until we are fully tested and ready to move.  That is an important feat, and largely due to what we have achieved recently. When we get that move over to Social Engine, I promise you – performance issues will be a thing of the past and mobile and tablet versions of the site will run exceptionally well.  If we want to attract new members and especially younger ones, we need it all to work. I appreciate your patience, and I know I have not delved into a whole lot in this post, but I am hoping to give you some insight on the direction I am moving.  All I can do is ask for your continued support, understanding and patience.    James

Hello everyone,   I have been wading through our logs, figuring out the recent crash and I have other inportant information to update you with.  Firstly there was no security breech, it was a database crash.   Secondly our backup routine had failed, resulting in the loss of a few months of videos.   Also very importantly, our two year commitment contract with our hosting provider will expire on 28th October.Normally about this time, I look at finding a better spec server for a similar or lower price, however its not going to happen this time around.  Our prices will increase, but if I do another two year commitment before our contract expires, its only going up  by $20 a month, but that is still $240 per year.   I analyzed our traffic logs, we actually do not have to upgrade the server at all, we are consistantly below 350 Mpbs, actually usually way below that, given that our port speed can handle 500 Mpbs (incoming and out going), I see no need to upgrade  To put that into perspective the server can process 62.5 Megabytes of data every second.  That is more than enough for our site, and very likely will last us at least the next two years and probably longer.    Instead of looking at server upgrades, I am looking into upgrading our caching service, at the moment we use an open and free version of the software which has some restrictions and does impede performance.  I am looking at a license that will eliminate those restrictions, but as always there is a cost, which is currently $17 per month or $204 annually.  If we do that, our annual costs (including the server price increase) will increase by a total of $444 (an unusual number for sure).   It is substantial.   I do need to take this all into consideration when making my final decision on the best way forward.  The initial server work I am planning will involve the following:   Refresh the server. Refresh the database. Install the most recent version of the software script. Install a reliable opensource backup software with a GUI. Complete a security audit. Configure email server and reverse dns. Setup email registration. Allow password resets by email.   I will provide updates as I go along, and let you know my decisons.   James                

It is an interesting question and one that does happen from time to time in my life.   I suppose really it does depend on the relationship, in my case it is 24/7 with domestic discipline.  We have rules and if I break them then I am subject to being disciplined, but I agreed to these rules.   We do have a fail safe of course, and that is that the rules and associated punishments can be discussed, altered and even removed, however only on a Sunday during my weekly behaviour review.  This was to ensure I did not use a kind of veto to avoid punishment, and again it is by mutual agreement.   I think one of the wisest statements my partner and dad ever said to me was 'You do NOT live to be spanked, and you are not supposed to either".  That actually makes a lot of sense.   Still there are times when I know I have been a naughty boy, but I just really do not want to be spanked, and I mean that.   The last time, this happened and dad told me 'Get the spanking chair our and put your nose in the corner', well I refused!!   I stomped my foot in frustration and Yelled "No, you are not spanking me and that is final."   Okay, I know what some of you are thinking, yes I was taking a bit of a tantrum, yes I was being disrespectful and yes I was being disobedient - no question about any of that.  I will tell you what happened, but please do feel free to share if you think it was fair (or not) and if you are a dad / top how you would have handled the situation.   I got pulled into a tight hug, and we just stood there together, occasionally dad would pat the seat of my shorts, we huged for quite a few minutes before he led me to the kitchen table and sat me down.   We talked a lot, especially about why I didn't think I deserved to be spanked, I guess at times I even whined but dad said to me (another wisdom statement) "As your dad and partner, it is my role to administer the discipline, you need, not what you WANT and you need to be spanked.  Would you really respect me if I just let you off every time you didn't want to be punished?"   Of course we all know that answer to that.   I was spanked shortly afterwards and had a decent sob over his knees and got it again at bedtime for taking a 'tantrum.'   YET the weird thing is I felt so damned good the next morning, I mean I felt on top of the world, sure my bottom was still a bit red and I was kept bare bottomed until the afternoon, but I didn't even sulk or complain ... its strange what a good spanking can acheive ... makes me wonder if sub-consciously I just needed to be taken in hand that day! :)    

Dear naughty boys and even naughtier dads and tops,   I think we should have a discussion about chairs and there role in spankings and other discipline.   I will repost a picture of the chairs most commonly used as a platform when my dad turns me over his knees to start us off.  So share yourideas and experiences.  I think for me, a chair that leaves my bottom well centered, head and legs not touching the floor are the most effectiveones.   Some Dads and Tops have custom chairs, even made by themselves such as Nor Cal, (don't tell him but I would quite like a tour of his chair while over his knees but shhhhhhh).   They are also used by some really bad and naughty dads to put poor boys in the corner .. and that sucks!   But come on share your chair ideas, what makes your chair so special huh?  

I hope everyone had a nice Xmas and that the new year finds you all in good health.   I will be in Europe in 2024, visiting and sampling the spanking chairs of some wonderful members of this site.  I guess if I behave, I might not get too much spanking, but where is the fun in that?  A boy has to be naughty sometimes, right?   I am also hoping to meet some of our American members either by visiting them or inviting them here to our home in Arizona.   We have a vibrant and wonderful community, with men from all ages and walks of lives.  I never judge anyone by their looks or their age, for me its all about personality and friendship.  I have been over the knees of guys more than twice my age, some that are younger than me, some that are thin and some that are large.   Before anyone shoots me down, there's large, there's thin, there's medium, there's stocky, there's lanky, there’s a million possible things that make up a man’s body type. I have learned over the years that there is no telling who you are going to be attracted to for spanking until you learn that for yourself.  It should be immensely satisfying being spanked by another person, just be happy and stop trying to rationalize every feeling you have. All humans have the innate right to feel attracted to whomsoever and whatsoever they wish, none of it needs any excuses or any justification - we want what we want.   There is always going to be the judgmental crowd and to them I say – take your superiority complex and your omniscience knowledge of other human being’s hearts, souls and sexuality, pick a corner and stand in it, stay there and do all a favor.  We don’t need you telling us about God, science or the genome pool, or how our DNA is corrupt, just chill!    Hugs   James

Happy New Year Everybody! I have not been on the site much over the holidays, because I have been working.  I did not get home until after midnight new years eve.  So if you have sent me messages, please be patient, I will get to them, but it is likley to be tommorow - I am darned tired! Anyway, here is a work around for viewing the entire contents of photo albums.  I will be working on a pernament fix over the next few weeks. Click on the name of the album you want to view the contents of Next click on any photo in that album Click the next icon (you must click this to get it to work) When that image loads you will see on the bottom of the picture (right) a circile with 3 dots in it.  If you hover over it, it says 'more actions' Click on it and then select 'view detail page' Once you do this, the album will now load and you can navigate using left and right icons You will also see a strip on the bottom of the screen that loads all the albums photos in a mini format You can use this strip as a preview and also select a photo to view and also navigate the entire album James,

The vital need to be spanked, described by a punished boy. By Pascal CRANLE Why have I always been a need to be spanked? A spanking-punishment very severe,bare bottom, leaving me panting on the knees of my disciplinarian, I do not know why,but Iknow I havean absolute need. As far as I can remember, spanking is a necessity in my life,and I am blessed at twentynine years of being spanked continuously for fifteen years. I writed under my name in MMSA how at fourteen years I had the good fortune to meet with the greatest chance (but it seems he does things)a spanker who liked to spank,and who knew very well spank. Today I am spanked twice a week by two differents spankers,but in their own way, spank thouroughly the bad boy I am,the first since three years and a half,every Friday,and now since three months on Tuesday by an Eurasian spanker,who knows what mean spanking. The wait is always wonderful, made of fear, of pain of punishment,the desire to receive,and shall be the mos tsevere possible. It always starts with the ritual of pantsing,a special moment,the unwinding of the belt,the descent of the pants or shorts,then switching on the lap of the corrector. The first tens of slaps full force,then the fingers that fit into the elastic of brief and slowly declining, which raises the spankee to let the brief pass the erected sex barrier,then the arrival in the mid-thigh. The freshness of the air on buttocks already hot,the goose bumps on bare skin,the humiliation that the teacher sees all my privacy, make me sigh with shame and immense enjoyment. Finally the real spanking begins, hard, humiliating, slaps from one buttock to the other, then twenty by buttock to guarantee a terrible heat, the punished that I am starting to wiggle the legs,but the educator intends to punish with all his forces. The hand, the whip, strap, the English cane, switch,and the worst,the wooden hairbrush,are among the instruments that punish me regularly, and I dream at night. Only the brush manages to make me cry, after at least five minutes without interruption,it is the instument that I fear most is some spanker have realized this and use it,a little to ofrequently in my taste. But when I look back later, it was superhorny so many terrible burn administered on bare buttocks. I love brands that leave some instrument like the cane or the switch,these welts that last two or three days,or longer depending on severity, which are the guys I meet know I'm one punished. When I come back home after a good session,I still feel this fabulous well- being spanked knows everything, happiness is undivided heat gluteal, and feeling of having been fully punished. I live at home permanently naked below the waist, poloshirt, sweater, doc's black with white socks, nothing else. If I open the door to anyone, I put a short shorts, but if it's a friend I do not put anything. I love to go cruising in the woods in all weathers, winter and summer, in shorts supershort, that reveals traces of a recent spanking, it's humiliating, provocative, and a horny max. The look of the guys on my bare thighs, the lower of my ass, still streaked with red welts or bruises of the cane, the night before, is an extraordinarily strong feeling. It is true that a spankee is necessarily exibh, when his trousers down, bare buttocks on the lap of the man who will punish him, it is superexcited, not only of the punishment that follows, but also the position, of nudity below the waist, which is a great humiliation. Sometimes when I had moments without spankers, I felt a terrible lack, I tried to compensate by selfspanking, but you can never be too severe as a spanker who believes in the benefit of the thorough spanking administered with the utmost rigor and severity required. Being spanked is more than a need, it is an absolute necessity in my life. What do you think? Feel free to tell me if you share my lifestyle ,or just my opinion.