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To summarize  The Fitness Challenge Part 1  was another idea I came up with along with my spanking buddy Jordan.  It was his way for me to get some naked public exposure, but mostly creating a good chance of achieving Jordan's ultimate goal, exposing my spanking fetish to someone that knows me letting them find out that I get my bottom spanked like a naughty boy at the same time!   Jordan's dad spanked him well into his early adult years, often in public places, and always buck ass naked, many times in front of his own friends, so Jordan understands spanking humiliation better than anyone I know!  Since I never experienced a spanking myself when I was younger, Jordan has always felt I need and deserve to find out what the humiliation of a naked public spanking is like.  Especially since i would get so aroused watching my friends get spanked, that I would go home after enjoying the show and masturbate thinking about the spankings they got and the humiliation they felt,  imagining what it would be like to get spanked like that myself, right in front of them!  I'm sure that if my friends knew I was getting off on their humiliation, they would have made sure to give me some of those spankings themselves! After I got my first spanking at age 47,  I would post photos and videos of my spankings online.  But those photos and videos hid my face and my identity.  I was too ashamed and worried that friends or acquaintances would find out I actually liked being spanked!  Jordan told me I needed to experience the shame of having others see me spanked in public the way he was.   The way I saw others get spanked!   We both felt that the Fitness Challenge with my naked spankings being streamed on live webcam and recorded and posted on spankingtube without any content edited from them would be the closest thing for me to experience his shame of being spanked naked in public!    When I retired and sold my business, Jordan told me there's no longer any good reason for me to hide my face in my photos and videos any more!  He said all I had to lose is my pride and dignity, which is something a guy getting spanked doesn't deserve!  It was scary, but I knew he was right and with some coaxing from him, I started posting pictures of my spankings with my face showing.  Posting that first naked face picture was a frightening moment, but now I have hundreds of naked photos of myself posted online with my face showing along with a red spanked bottom! In the Fitness Challenge Part 1, weight loss goals are set.  I meet with the spanker weekly to check my progress with a naked weigh-in.  Since I like being spanked to make sure I doin't fail the goals on purpose I get a naked punishment level spanking every week, whether I achieve the goals or fail them.  (After all I do want to get fit and I wouldn't want to fail the goal on purpose just to get a spanking!)  A cameraman is chosen to both wtiness the spanking in person to increase my embarrassment,  and help with camera angle changes and zooming the focal length to get details of the spanking and my humiliation.  That way the spanker and I are not distracted from the real task at hand - the spanking!   The spankings are streamed on live webcam and recorded on regular video and posted on Spankingtube. The penalty for failure, is that the spankings become more humiliating each time I fail the goals.  With the first failure, a glimpse of my face is shown on cam. I imagine as the sessions progress, more and more people will be watching to witness my ultimate shame and exposure!     Spanked for Poor Workout Performance in Various Positions.  Some older photos of me.  Being positioned in ways that expose your dick, balls and hole all add shame to the punishment.   Making the punishment more shameful makes it more effective!    Hanging the tighty whities right there where everyone can see them calls more attention to the fact that I'm completely naked!   And the fact that my dick is hard through the spanking makes it even more embarrassing for me and more amusing for those watching!     As the Fitness Challenge progresses, the 2nd time I fail my goals,  more of my face is shown during the on cam and recorded spanking posted on Spankingtube.   Then like the saying goes, "Three Strikes and You're Out"!   On the fhird failure my face is completely exposed during the entire spanking for everyone to see and enjoy my shame and humiliation.  Just like I used to do when my friends got spanked.   I guess what was good for the goose is good for the gander!  Just like in the photos below, I'll be completely exposed on cam for everyone to see!   Face and all!  Both the live on cam and recorded version that is uploaded on the web.  I will have no control over what anyone does with the videos or any screen capture photos that anyone takes from the live cam session!  Just like those times that Jordan was spanked in front of strangers and his friends!  Jordan demanded that my exposure be out of my control and wanted anyone to be able to download the videos and repost them whereever they wanted to, totally out of my control!   Sceen captures during the live cam portion would also be out of my control!  I've always had trouble losing weight, so this would be good motivation however I know that eventual failure and total exposure and naked humiliation would be inevitable!  And then I'll find out what Jordan felt like when he was spanked naked in public and what my friends felt like when they were spanked bare ass in front of me!  I guess payback is a mother!   As bad as it will be, even I admit I deserve it!  Every bit of it!  Exposed and Humiliated.  One of my older naked exposure pictures showing my face.   This gives those older friends and acquaintances a chance to recognize me from my younger years!  Perhaps during the Fitness Challenge, like in the first photo, I'll experience my biggest fear growing up and get a humiliation boner on cam!    The punishment session could also  have naked workouts included.   Naked Sit Ups  -  Another early naked face picture of myself.    While out of shape back then, I could really use the help of a personal trainer that spanks for motivation now!    I'm sure I would have a perpetually red ass!   The more out of shape I am, the more weeks I have to report and the more spankings I get!    Not only that, but the personal trainer should use some humiliation too by not only spanking me in a public setting but making me work out naked in front of everyone too!     The Bicycle Exercise:   Again all my most private parts are exposed and even my hole can be spanked!   Not only that, but the spanker can increase my shame by making eye contact with me during the spanking.     Naked push ups   Naked Jump Rope:   Everyone laughs as my boner flops up and down!   Spanked for Poor Workout Performance - Getting the Paddle and Getting Turned On Thinking About the Spanking!  So embarrassing letting everyone know that being spanked turns me on!  This would be even more humiliating with my face exposed!  Total exposure equals total humiliation.   I have searched for a local spanker to carry out the Fitness Challenge and have been unsuccessful in finding one, but the search goes on.  It's not necessary for the spanker or cameraman to show their face on cam.  The spanker and cameraman may need to be on cam to help hold me in humiliating positions like "the diaper position", but can wear a mask or hood to hide their identity.  However, it needs to be someone local so we can meet on a weekly basis for the naked weigh-ins and spankings.   I have been able to find someone that's eager to act as the camera man so they can witness my humiliation.  Yes, a couple younger guys have expressed an interest in turning the tables and participating in my spanking in person!   I can only imagine the fun they would have holding my legs in the diaper position so I can be spanked right on my butthole!   The humiliation of a spanking is what turns me on most about it.   For all the times I enjoyed watching my friends get spanked when I was younger, and never having been spanked myself, I think the public nature of this Fitness Challenge along with the spanking and the humiliation I would endure, would be exactly what I deserve.  It would be especially fitting to have a young camera man there to see me get my comeuppance in person!  Perhaps someone that was spanked himself not long ago!   Now after the third failure with the Fitness Challenge,  my humiliation doesn't necessarily stop!   Lots more fun can happen for the spanker, the cameraman, and the audience.   And I can endure many more humiliations! Additional failures can and will result in additional punishments and humiliations just like in any other spanking experienced by naughty boys since the beginning of time.  Just because I'm a grown adult, that doesn't mean those punishments couldn't be effective on me too!   Things like naked corner time where others can see me on display.   Mouthsoaping, enemas, shaving and figging could all be used, each in their own session or combined together.  Perhaps the forth failure I get corner time.  The fifth failure corner time and a mouthsoaping,  the sixth failure, corner time, a mouthsoaping, and an enema.   The combinations are endless.  The cameraman's job would be to make sure the details of my exposure and face are shown during each of the additional punishments as well as the spankings, perhaps using multiple cameras to make sure nothing is missed!  .If the spanker wanted to, the spankings could be done at my own house and be moved outdoors as the failures increase, also increasing the risk of my own neighbors seeing and hearing me getting spanked!   Perhaps sending me out to the yard naked to cut and prepare a switch to be used on me!   The switch will be rather silent - however how much noise I make will be more or less up to me!  The possibilities are endless, so it would be wise for me to work hard to achieve my goals!    I figure Jordan's main goal of the Fitness Challenge will eventually happen and someone that knows me from "vanilla" life will see my spanking profiles, photos and videos, or the ultimate humiliation - see me get spanked in person.  Then they will know I get spanked even at my age!   When they do, I guess I hope they demand I report to them for the regular humiliating spankings I've always deserved from someone I know!   In fact even though I'm sure it will be the most humiliating moment of my life, I even encourage them to do so!  Stripped buck ass naked and bent over their knees like a naughty little boy to make it as embarrassing for me as possible!   So that's the plan for my Fitness Challenge Spanking.   I just need to find a spanker that's as eager to carry it out as I am to endure it! 

The Saddest Day in Spanktown An Icon Passes Away* Vernon Learoy Tice, Jr. September 23, 1944 – August 7, 2023     Gil, the Beloved Father of So Many of Us In July 2023 with Copper. Thank you, Copper for this tribute. *A Big thanks to JockSpank for publishing the original from Copper IN MEMORY OF GIL CONNELLY (1944 – 2023) The Male-male Spanking Community has lost yet another pioneer with the passing of Gil Connelly. For over 30-years Mr. Connelly was the owner of Man’s Hand Films, producing, directing, publishing and innovating in the world of male Corporal Punishment. Gil Connelly was born on September 23, 1944, in rural Pennsylvania. He graduated from Penn State, before accepting an ROTC Appointment in the U.S. Army, where he rose to the rank of Major. Over his career, he was based in Korea, Germany, and finally in San Francsisco, where he opted to stay upon his discharge.    While attending a meeting of the 15 Association, he met St. John Leslie-Stuart (aka: David Stuart) who had filmed a number of Spanking videos with Bob Mizer, the founder of the Athletic Model Guild. Stuart invited Gil to assist him shooting new videos for his company, Man’s Hand Films. Teaching him the tricks of the trade, in 1991, Gil directed his first video (“The Nephew”) just months before Stuart died of emphysema, leaving the company to Connelly.   Over the next 30-years, Gil produced more than 125 spanking videos, in addition to publishing Red Tails Magazine. Starting in June of 1992 as “A Spanking and Corporal Punishment Newsletter,” Red Tails would become the longest-running Male-male Spanking magazine, with over 110 issues that featured stories, advice columns, classified ads and original art by many of the most popular Spanking artists.      In addition to the quarterly magazine, Gil also published a series of Spanking Anthologies, a calendar, several books and t-shirts, all celebrating male CP. In reaction to the AIDS crisis, in 1993, the staff of Man’s Hand Films staged a “spanking booth” at the Folsom Street Fair in San Francisco. Modeled after the traditional “kissing booth” at county fairs, at this unique venue fair-goers could give or get a swat with a paddle for one-dollar. All of the money raised at the booth was donated to the AIDS Emergency Fund of San Francisco, and over the following 14-years, more than $66,000 was raised for the charity.       In 1995, Gil Connelly staged an experimental “spanking camp” known as Camp Red Tails in Northern California. The annual camp expanded from a 3-day weekend into a 6-day event that draws participants from around the world. In 2019, Camp Red Tails celebrated its 25th anniversary, and Gil announced that he would no longer be able to host the event. Three regular campers stepped up and agreed to take-over the operation, so Gil’s vision of a Spanking Camp will continue to be held every July long into the future. Having long-battled early stages of dementia, the following January, Gil announced that he was retiring and ending the Man’s Hand Films run. In operation for 36-years, it was longest-lasting male-spanking video company in history. Gil’s imagination and vision made unsurpassed contributions to our community that inspired other companies and will be enjoyed by our community for many years into the future.     Luckily, upon hearing of Gil’s retirement, one friend offered to purchased the publication rights to Red Tails Magazine. Scanning more than 5,500 pages, every issue of the magazine is now available for free at www.gayspankart.com. And while the videos are no longer being sold by the company, a selection of them are available on the SpankThis site, and the Man’s Hand studio on Clips4Sale remains open for the time being. Gil peacefully passed away in his sleep on August 7th, and while he was 78 years of age, his legacy will go on far longer.   Please comment below or email us with your ideas   aok4otk@aol.com or cornertimeconf@gmail.com ______________________________________ Follow Cornertime Confidential Wherever You Are:   Tumblr  ∙  SouthSpanking ∙  Twitter  ∙  WordPress  

Dear naughty boys and even naughtier dads and tops,   I think we should have a discussion about chairs and there role in spankings and other discipline.   I will repost a picture of the chairs most commonly used as a platform when my dad turns me over his knees to start us off.  So share yourideas and experiences.  I think for me, a chair that leaves my bottom well centered, head and legs not touching the floor are the most effectiveones.   Some Dads and Tops have custom chairs, even made by themselves such as Nor Cal, (don't tell him but I would quite like a tour of his chair while over his knees but shhhhhhh).   They are also used by some really bad and naughty dads to put poor boys in the corner .. and that sucks!   But come on share your chair ideas, what makes your chair so special huh?  

This was my first Hot Seat Retreat. I've been to Bad Ass Weekend, MAL and a few other events. This had a similar vibe to BAW but just in a different setting. I've always loved Palm Springs and CCBC was a great venue. It had a nice big pool, two hot tubs, three dungeon type areas to play in and a a little man made creek with a cute little turtle living in it named Dorkus.I ended up spanking 34 different guys over the course of the weekend, for a total of 40 spankings. Some guys got multiple. My daddy bear arrived on Friday and kept my backside nice and red the rest of the weekend as well, spanking me in public quite a few times as well as in our room. There was a good mix of guys (about 200 registered from what I heard) and there was always someone to spank. They had set up a forum to chat on and plan things and everyone was using Whappz as well (Jayden helps out on the event and also runs that app). Guys ranged in age and size... anywhere from young skinny guys to older guys and chubby guys and everything in between. There were spankings happening everywhere. We spanked each other outside on the benches, there were horses set up around the main area and people were bent over the registration table getting paddled as we fillled out our name tags. If you wanted to spank or get spanked, you had every chance possible to do as much of either as you wanted.    A lot of us knew each other from online or other events but it never felt like a clique. One of my local regulars from Seattle came down and it was his first event. He ended up making a lot of friends and getting spanked a bunch of times and plans to go back next year.    i literally can't think of anything to complain about. Sure, the pizza took a little long to come out for the pizza party but everyone at the restaurant was so nice and we were all having fun hanging out so does that really matter? Not to me. I've organized huge events before and Scott, Jayden and Doug did a great job and everyone at CCBC was amazing.    I plan to go back every year and can't say enough good things about this event (and Bad Ass Weekend too). I've met so many amazing people and there's such a sense of community that I never knew I needed. If you've never been to one of these, go! You won't regret it. My next event is CLAW in Cleveland to hang out with some of the BAW guys for the weekend. Looking forward to that too!      

Yea, sometimes I really get frustrated at some the discipline or punishments my Pop comes up with, so here are some of mine.  Feel free to add to the list!   Being made to fetch the spanking impliment, especially the hairbrush. Cornertime (goes without saying). Being sent for a nap for being grouchy. A bedtime spanking - who the heck came up with that one?  I don't want to be spanked before I climb into bed! Being sent to bed early .. come on seriously! Being denied pants and briefs for a period of time, really sucks if it ends up being all day.  My bare bottom does not have to be on display thank you very much! Being ummm shaved - yea you know where, I hate it, hate it, hate it! Being bathed ... am not gonna comment much on this, though it usually goes hand in hand with shaving. Having to say 'I have been a very naughty boy, Dad and I need to be spanked' or something similar. Writing an esaay on 'What I learned from my punishment' or some other nutty topic! Having to wear a drop seat suit to bed, or silly little Pajama Sets.   Dang it, just stop it will ya!      

In this guide, I compile some of my personnel ideas (meaning not everyone may agree) on how to be a good spanker that efficiently meets nice spankee and slowly but surely build a network of spanking friends. I am quite sure this is not perfect because it is the first shot, but here we go ! I The starter kit: The very basic things that you need to know and have I.1 Know what you like and what you want The first things that any spanker should know or ask himself is : "What do I like about spanking ?". This is an important question because you will need to know that in order to set up your profile, and it will determine whether or not it might be a match with people that you could meet. There are many reasons why you may want to be a spanker. This includes: It is a deep rooted kink and you see yourself on the giving end. You have been on the receiving end and want to switch sides. You have a thing for the ritualistic aspect of spanking and punishment. You replay somekind of scene from your past that includes spanking. You have a spanking kink and enjoy being the one that turns other guys spanking fantasies into reality. You genuinly see yourself as a coach or mentor that can apply some strict discipline to errand lads in need of your assistance. You enjoy spanking as a sex foreplay, or as part of a broader BDSM scene, etc. There are many more, all valid reasons, which you can even combine. Having a good knowledge of which types of spanking scenes you like, and also don't like, will be useful to set up your profile and describe what kind of spanking sessions you can propose. I.2 Time and location are of the essence Let's start with location as this is perhaps the most basic requirement for a spanking meeting : it needs to happen somewhere. As such, living in a big cities and close to public transportations will be a great advantage compared to living in more remote areas. If you are in the latter case, you will need to be ready to move around a bit, or accept to welcome people into your home for longer periods of time (more about this later). Regarding the accomodation itself, while this is not mandatory, it is usually the spanker that should host any spanking meeting. Hosting a spanking at your place will always be more comfortable and will give you a psychological ascendant that is always a bonus in a spanker-spankee relationship. Your house should be clean and welcoming. An exception to this, is when you are travelling to another city far from your home. Then, using your hotel room, a B&B, or visiting your spankee at his place is perfectly acceptable. Does that mean that you can't be a good spanker if you can't host spanking at your place ? Not quite, but it is a problem if you can never host. The alternatives have been discussed already: Taking a hotel room. If you do so, avoid the cheapest ones that can really set up a creepy atmosphere. And you should also know, that to some spankees, hotel rooms and love hotels will be a turn off, and a deal breaker. Go spank your spankee at their place if they can host (which is not always the case). Besides from the loose of psychological power and the fact that you may quickly get bored when you put them in the corner, there is no real downside to it. Let's talk time now. Obviously you will need to find the time to meet people, whether it is to invite them at your place, or to travel to them. If you are only available on the 6th of each month between 1pm and 2pm, then between 5:30pm and 6pm, and only on full moon days, you will never meet anyone. You don't need to be available all the time, but you need to have a somewhat stable schedule and to know about it at least a few days in advance. Another thing that you need to know about time and availability is that not all spankings can be scheduled X weeks/monts in advance. For some spankees, the spanking need is a pulsion that comes and go. And when it comes, it needs to be dealt with quickly (as in within the next 2-3 days maximum). So don't plan on scheduling too long in advance with these guys. For others that are always in need of a good spanking, or like to build anticipation, as well as for coaching relationships, scheduling a long time in advance is easier. A last comment about time and location. As a rule of thumb, neither you nor your spankee should spend more time traveling to a session than the lenght of the session itself: You can be a great spanker, if your spankee needs to spend 3h in a train for a 30min session, he will stop coming at some point. Do not spend 4h and a ton of money in a plane/train travel in the hope of meeting a single spankee in a far away city. If you travel specifically for spanking purposes, you should book as many guys as you can because most of them will flake. Even better, if you can, do not travel just for spanking activities: it is better to travel for work, or to meet family and friend, and if some spanking meetings can happen, well it is a bonus ! I.3 Basics of spanking The last thing you need in your starter kit is to know how to spank in a safe and sane setting. This includes: Some basic butt anatomic knowledge to know where to spank and where not to spank. But also some basic sense of body language reading to know where your spankee is in term of mindspace and pain scale. Having a knowledge of BDSM elements such as SSC (safe sane and consensual) and RACK (risk aware consensual kink) is -in my opinion- mandatory. You should also know what "aftercare" is, and learn how to do it properly. This can make the difference between you being a spanker/dad/dom versus being a violent assh0le. Know how to use your hand, and have some of the basic implements that can be found at very low price and present little risks for beginners. The first part about where to spank should be relatively easy. Watch videos, see what other spanker do, and follow this schematic if you are still lost: The second part about reading body langage and knowing where your spankee is in his mindset requires more experience. And I am not going to lie : guys that have been spanked are going to be a lot better at it than any beginner spanker that has never been spanked before. Indeed, beyond the pain that might be inflicted by hand or using implements, spanking is a lot in the head and includes many elements such as humiliation, frustration, regression and abandonment that are quite difficult to understand and to read when one has never experienced them. Regarding the implements. I know for a fact that many beginner doms are overwhelmed and impressed when they see other spankers having tables fully covered with various implements that all look stingy and expensive when you look them up in the internet. I have two things to say about this One, in most cases at least 80% of these implements are crap that is rarely or never used. And two, if you want to be any good at spanking, your hand is your best weapon of choice ! The first spankings you give as a spanker should be mostly hand spankings: your spankee's butt should hurt more than your hand, and this requires training ! At first you might get some blisters and even bleedings. Slow down, keep training and it will improve with time. But you should know that your hand's skin will become less soft ! If you must invest in implements, aim for cheap but safe ones first: Brushes are inexpensive and can be found in any store. Don't buy online, go to the store and feel the wood ! Ping-pong paddles, flip-flops, wood rulers, slippers. If your country has a "national spanking implement", you may want to consider buying one : canes in the UK as well as in many commonwealth countries, a tawse in Scotland, a paddle in the USA and Canada, or a martinet in France. A word of caution on belts: While they are a common implement that is easy to find and can be found in a wide range of prices, it is not a beginner friendly implement ! If you want to use one, the buckle should ALWAYS be in your hand and never used to whip, start with very slow blows and a belt folded one or two times. Lashes shouldn't land anywhere else than the meaty part of the butt. And never apply a hard belting -especially if you don't know what you are doing- on a spankee that moves a lot ! II Setting up a profile that attracts people I am aware that there are many websites and apps to meet potential spankee and where you can set up a profile. This section aims at being generic, but you may need to adapt depending on the website you use most to meet people. II.1 Introducing yourself Your profile is often going to be the first contact that a potential spankee will have with you (and maybe the only one). Therefore, it needs to be as complete and attractive as possible. Furthermore, keep in mind that there are usually more spankers than spankees in a given place, so you will need to have a profile as good if not better than the other guys profiles. The key element of any profile that we will discuss in this section is your profile description, which is usually a few lines long (depending on the website), and is the best place to introduce yourself. If it is empty (or mostly empty), or if it isn't attractive, chances are you will struggle to meet anyone. The basic information that any profile description should contain (if they are not already displayed in other fields): Your location Who you are : your age, a basic physical description (height, weight, body type), and your experience if possible A description of what you like and what you are looking for (see I.1) Who you are looking for : age range, body type, are you straight friendly or not, etc. Any hard limits that you have (if there is space left): e.g. not into scenarios, no blood, no sex, etc. A few pitfalls to avoid in your profile description: Having a description that is very specific about what you want to do to your potential spankees, but says nothing about you or who you want to meet. It will mostly attract wankers, but you will never meet them. Example: "I will pull your pants down and spank you very hard on your bare bottom like a little boy. Then, you will go to the corner with your red butt for everyone to see, and you will wait for me to come trash your ass with my very large leather belt !" Having a description that makes you sound like a dead German philosopher. This is cool if you want to meet only people with at least 5 years of higher education, but everyone else will flee in terror. Example: "Spanking is a wonderful voyage where physical pain meets the spiritual extasy of endorphins and shame, all colliding together until your body and mind submit to the punishment, and at last you will know peace." Having a description that says nothing. Example: "Hello, I am Patrick, I am a 38yo writter. I like all sorts of boys. So, I want to meet like-minded guys that share my spanking interest and are staying nearby." Copy-pasting the description of another spanker of switch (partly or everything). You don't want people to believe that you have no personnality, or worst that you are a catfish. Eventually, depending on who contacts you and your success rate, you will figure out what is wrong with your description. Does it give too many details ? Not enough ? Is it missing something ? It will all come together. II.2 Posting pictures on your profile Whenever it is possible, it is usually a good thing to have pictures on your profile as it is a good way to show others what you like, and what you do. Your profile picture is perhaps the only picture that you will have to decide on nearly all applications and meeting websites. So pick wisely. It can be a face picture, a picture of your hand, a picture of an implement, one of your spanking picture, a drawing, or a spanking picture you like. My advice on profile picture would be that it is important to have one. Anything with even a few information about you is better than nothing. Then, you have the other pictures (think pictures albums in spankthishookups, or the pictures you share here on southspanking). These pictures are very important because they will tell A LOT about what you like, sometimes even more than your description ! If you post a lot of corner time pictures, it will emplies that you enjoy doing it. Lots of pictures with canes, you are a cane user ! Mostly badly bruised asses, then you like to give it hard ! Spanked asses with a zoom on butt holes, you might not be "straight guy friendly" ! You get the idea. And this is true even if the pictures you use are not your own. This leads us to two other points : What to do if you have very few or no pictures of your own ? And how to carefully choosing the captions with your pictures. If you don't have your own spanking pictures (or if they are not great), there is always the possibility of having pictures of implements that you like. A picture of your hand, or your knees. A shot of your chair with a belt carefully placed on the side. Use your imagination, and with the right captions, you can probably make pictures that will reflect on what you like. Alternatively, you can also use pictures from studios or from other spankos, but don't forget to credit them ! You may also put them in an album called "My method from web pictures", or "things I like". The worst thing that you can do when using others pictures, is not crediting and claiming them as your own, and their is a bonus if you add a dumb caption below explaining how YOU spanked this guy so hard. Since we are on the topic of captions, it is one of these rare case where no caption is better than a bad caption. A picture alone is relatively open to interpretation depending on whom sees it. On the other hand, if you add a caption, then the picture becomes what you say it is. "I spanked this little slut until he begged, and only then i let him suck my dick" is a good example of a bad caption that ruins the mood with this picture. Remember that you will attract people that can identify with what you post. And alternatively, you will repell people for which what you post is beyond their limits or not to their taste. And it will happen even before you can exchange a single message ! My advice is: unless you are almost exclusively into practices that you know are non-consensual or divisive : try to stay neutral and consensual with the pictures you post and their captions. III Getting in touch with spankees III.1 Contacting first or letting them contact you ? This is a difficult question and it will depend on how well you are established, and the number of potential spankees around you. That being said, no matter your experience, it costs you nothing to send a message to a new comer or a spankee you are interested in. The rules to do so are simple: read his profile, and if you don't see anything obvious that suggests that you may not be a match, send a message. The message should be polite, and if you are not inspired, it can be an extended version of your profile description with the needed adaptations to what the lad you are interested in seems to be into. You may also add to your message some potential availability and a more specific location than in your profile. As you may not get a second chance, take your time to write it and proof-read it. If you are established enough (you already have a good reputation -even as a spankee-, a pool of spankees, and a profile that works), you can wait for people to message you. But you should know that you will get less hits and not necessarily the ones you are the most interested in. Waiting is also a good option if you have only little availability. III.2 Know when to stop messaging It can be frustrating to send messages and get no answer at all. And even more to exchange a few messages and then no more answers without any warning, or even : the guy blocks you for no obvious reason. Even if it can seem quite rude to you, there are probably reasons behind it: With a new comer that is in his 20s: it is likely that every single spanker in the area sent him a message at the same time as you did. That's a lot of messages. Yours didn't make it. Try again in a week or two if you sees that his profile is still active. He is part of these guys with a beginner profile since 5 years: It's not you, they never answer any messages. There is no profile picture, the age in the description is 2 years behind the profile age. No need to try to reach them again, it is a waste of time. You exchanged a few messages. He asked you how you wanted to spank him. You explained with many details. And then he stops answering. Most likely he had a great time in front of his screen reading about your spanking scenario, he jerked off and doesn't need you anymore. It is nothing personnal, he wasn't ready. Try again in a few months. In any case, unless it is with a regular, if a guy doesn't answer you after 2-3 messages while his account seems to be active or if you know that he did receive your messages; it means that he is not interested. So, stop messaging. You don't want to be that sticky guy that sends messages every days. IV Improve your skills and grow your network IV.1 Invest and improve your skills With time and if all goes well, you should get at least one, or a few regular spankees. Having regular is a good opportunity to improve your skills both with implements, but also on the psychological side of spanking. As they learn to trust you, your regulars will be more open about what they like or not during their sessions with you. Take the time to listen and learn ! Remember that -unlike what some morons think- spanking as any BDSM activities is mostly about what the sub/spankee needs and enjoy. Your spankees will also open up more about their deeper spanking desires, and most likely will be willing or even asking for harder sessions. Use this to progress with your skills and explore new things with them. Speaking of harder sessions, if you did not already, you should learn how to do a proper aftercare. Basically, you don't make a guy cry or push him beyond his limits and push him out of your flat in 5min right after the spanking is over. The more you push, the more you should spend time soothing them and taking care of them after the spanking is over. Soothing cream, warm blankets, hugs, massages, hot cocoa and cookies might prove useful. It is also curtuous to ask if everything is well 24 to 48h after the session: mental breakdowns can happen even after they have left your place. And knowing if the eventual bruises are healing well is an important information. Keep in mind that in your learning process you will make mistakes, and not everything will work for both parties. But this is a good thing, because you will know what not to do next time to make your sessions better. As time passes and you meet more people, you can also surely but surely invest into new spanking implements. I usually suggest not to invest into anything expensive unless you have lots of requests for it from locals spankees, or if the request comes from a regular. I also suggest to put the price rather than buying a crappy toy that makes a lot of noise, doesn't hurt much, and will be destroyed after only a few slaps. For my good toys, I personally like https://www.cane-iac.com/ , but I know they can be expensive! IV.2 Respect the limits: your spankees' limits, but also yours I mentionned a few times the importance of safe, sane and consensual meetings when it comes to spanking, as well as the need to be careful when searching for profiles that match your needs. Nevertheless I will insist that one of the key to becoming a successful spanker is to respect the limits of the people you will meet ! A spanker or dom that consider that he does what he wants to a sub/spankee is a bad dom/spanker, this is wrong, can lead to pursuit, and at least will give you a very bad reputation. I will push things further by saying that a good spanker/dom should insist that his potential spankee/sub gives him some hard limits. A spankee/sub that doesn't know or doesn't have any limits is a disaster waiting to happen and you should avoid meeting him. Limits to ask for include: Sex or no sex. This one should always be discussed before any meeting. And yes, a surprise finger in the butt counts as sex, and can be very much unwanted even if your spankee is gay ! Severity of the bruises, especially if the guy tells you he is partnered. And it is your role to know how to handle your implements, and to stop (or abort the session early) before crossing any fixed limit Pain : do we remain soft, do we push you to your pain limit ? a bit beyond your limit ? do we turn you into a crying mess ? A word of advice : don't cross their pain limit if you are not great with aftercare. Nudity and physical contact: some straight lads are very strict about this. Drawing blood: Sanitize your implements well if you do it. (you should sanitize them anyway, but even more carefully if you draw blood). There is no such thing as a spankee with too many limits. If he has too many limits to your taste, then don't meet him. And finally, you may ask for some limits to be pushed -slowly-, but it is best to do it only with spankees you already know, and if they say no, then you should respect their refusal. We have discuss a lot the limits of potential people you will meet, but you should also consider yours. A common issue of beginner to mid-experienced spanker is that they tend to accept any spankee so long as he is young and has a very cute butt, even though said good-looking spankees are asking for something very far from the spanker interests. It is sometimes difficult, but you should no to refuse a cute spankee if what he asks doesn't match with what you are looking for. If you still meet regardless of the poorly matching profile, either or both of you may end up being dissapointed with the session. Please note that the same can happen when you get lots of demands: follow your guts and refuse meeting that yhou know deep down will not work. Less meetings is better than lots of bad ones. IV.3 Networking and reputation As they will gain momentum, your network and your reputation will be your main tools to meet new lads, some of which might not have accepted to meet you before. A spankeed satisfied with your session is your best ambassador ! Do not hesitate to ask your regulars if it is okay to use them as references for guys that are hesitant to meet you. Treat them with respect, and always ask their permission to post their pictures or videos on your profile : it is their butt that is going to be on the internet for tghe world to see, not yours ! Their spanked ass will be your visit card, so you must be grateful to them, and respect their wishes if they want some picture or caption to be changed or removed at any point. Treating your network well is part of growing your reputation, and it takes only a few disgrunted spankees to ruin years of hard work building your reputation. So be extra cautious and on your toes about this. What about other spankers in your areas ? Well, you should also try your best to maintain neutral to good relation with them ! First, it takes several spankees and spankers to organize spanking parties.  Other spankers are also a good source of information to know which lads are flakes, who is a wanker, and even to share information about what works or not about spankees you have in common (with their consent, always). Furthermore, as we mentionned in section I, everyone has different tastes and availability. In other words, you can send them spankees that are not a match for you, and you may expect them to do the same. Petty jealousy with another spanker "because he gets all the spankees", or "because he spanked X last week so now he can't meet with me", or "because he has a more intimate/different relationship with Y" is generally a bad idea. Very few spankees are exclusive, so their is a good chance that you will have your turn if you are a good match too. Asking a spankee to choose between 2 spankers he likes is also a bad idea because even if he chooses you, your relationship will be damaged. In the same vein, a bit of teasing between spankers is okay, but blattant and free provocation between spankers should be avoided: any spankees involved will notice and it won't look good. It is even worst if other members of the community notice, and too much teasing will make you the bad guy, which can also damage your reputation. Lastly, slandering or speaking ill of another spanker should be avoided: at some point someone will notice that it was a lie, most likely his network of spankos will speak out, and it won't do you any good. The only situations where it is acceptable to warn other members of the community about a spanker and to give him a bad reputation include: You know for a fact that he doesn't respect consent and has broken hard limits about sex, bruises or drawing blood. in other words, he is violent and or dangerous. Even in this case, you should rather push spankees that were the victims to speak out first. Minors are involved.

What is everyone's thoughts on the first ever spanking themed horror movie ? Bad boys would be hunted by Switchman who would deliver a thorough lashing with a branch from his head. He would suddenly appear when the boy least expected and believed that he had escaped punishment for a misdeed. We would see the suspense building as Switchman tracked the boy. Or in a dark bedroom when the boy was sound asleep, he would slowly awaken to the shock of seeing Switchman standing in the room.

Okay guys, I have completed the final phase of testing on our test site.   What I have done is essentially replicated the entire script, with the latest version and a fresh database.  At present the data is correct and it functions as expected.   Videos are uploading perfectly and groups are also working.  Also, the videos will now play in full mode as they should from both the feed and the actual menu option.   I am getting ready to do the final import, at sometime today or tomorrow.   We are stripping out a lot of blocks and modules that frankly we just do not need and this will help with overall performance.   I kicked up a fuss with the script author over several modules that we purchased and are no longer compatible, the resolution is that they have given us access to the mobile application that can be downloaded from both Google Play and the Apple Stores.  This will be configured once we export over and the site is up to speed with no problems.  I will post more about this, but essentially it will help a lot for those members that prefer using mobile devices.  Desktop users will not notice and difference.   I have also upgraded our license for our chat bar (not the one presently in use), this will give us full download access to the latest version and both audio and video chat capabilities.  In order to reduce overhead on the server we will be using their push notification service.  The installation will require the chat bar authors technical support and again on completion of the export, I will raise a ticket to get everything installed correctly.  This will be free of charge for us.   We will now be running with two servers and a VPS.  The main server, as well as a backup server which will have replication setup, the backup server will also act as content delivery network or CDN, which will be next on the list for configuration.  The VPS is going to be used for research and development and aid with out move eventually to social engine.   So, hope some of this makes sense, and now of course is the time to put it all together.  I will setup an announcement as soon as I have decided which day and what time.  While the refresh of the main server and data export is taking place, the site will be unavailable for several hours.   Thanking everyone for their continued support and patience.

A reader asked an interesting question recently, and we thought it might be a good time to revisit Punishment Spankings. Over the years, we have covered this topic by bringing in the voices of others living in  DD relationships.  Today we hear again from shilo on how it works in her relaionship. There's so much instructive advice here, we felt you just gotta read it. If you'd like tips on how to be a Top who administers a Punishment Spanking, here's a few blogposts that might be able to help: Punishment Spankings and How to Administer Them Here's an example of how my Daddy administered a Punishment Spanking for a real reason. Here's an idea about what to do AFTER the Punishment Spanking Here's a video of one way to deliver a Punishment Spanking What do you consider a Punishment Spanking to be?   Today’s guest blog post brings Cornertime Confidential readers one person’s viewpoint on how a Punishment Spanking should be administered. I’m not actually in agreement here with all the specifics that our guest blogger, shilo, spells out here. However, what this blogpost brings is a fresh perspective.  While that blog is about married couples implementing Domestic Discipline, I think there are still useful learnings here worth sharing. See what you think. And as always, Cornertime Confidential values your feedback, just click on the “comment” button at the bottom of the post to have your voice heard.   [The following is freely adapted to adult boys and the Men Who Spank them. This is not shilo's original post—nor could it be, given this blog is devoted to M/m Corporal Punishment—and you'll note a particular alteration in the use of pronouns. As a point of further clarification, I have made clarifying remarks throughout and added in a bit where thoughts were not completely fleshed out. In the final section, I have adjusted the content for adult boys entirely.]   __________________________ Punishment Spankings and How to Administer Them by shilo wace* I wanted to talk a bit about giving a Spanking. Not as a person who gives them myself, but one who receives them. Of course, I know there are many ways to administer physical punishment so as I speak about how a solid no-nonsense Spanking should be given, it’s of course through my personal experiences and beliefs on how it should be. In the end, it’s my duty to accept however the Punishment is given, but that does not stop me from having an opinion about it. Let’s start by discussing The Punishment Spanking (as opposed to a Maintenance Spanking or playful Spanking). Punishment Spankings are meant to be unpleasant.   Punishment Spankings are meant to be unpleasant. As the Disciplinarian, you will be punishing a behavior or action. To do that effectively, you’ll want to consider several key elements that will create a memorable experience your boy will not forget.   Selecting the Right Spanking Tool First, a tool should be selected, the disciplinarian needs to know exactly what implement he will be using to administer the Spanking. A Punishment Spanking requires the use of a Spanking Tool, not just your hand. HandSpankings should be reserved for lighter less serious offenses. HandSpankings are also more personal and even considered more loving, this too is not in accordance with a Punishment Spanking.   Select the Right Spanking Tool The disciplinarian should select which implement he will be using and then commit to that implement not deciding to change it just before a Spanking is given. Don't use multiple Spanking Tools. Having the Spanking stop so he can switch to a spoon, or strap, just to stop again switching to a different tool a few minutes later turns the act of correction into some type of game. Personally, I feel this switching up makes the disciplinarian look somewhat unprofessional and unprepared. Like a child in a candy store jumping from one treat to the next.   [Note From Cornertime Confidential: we completely disagree with shilo here. We think if Daddy is in the middle of paddling, and his hand is tired of using The Hairbrush, we don’t see why he can’t just have his boy get off his lap, and send the boy to go get The Spanking Stick or The Wooden Spoon or The Paddle. It gives Daddy a break (and the boy a break!) and helps extend the length of time required to finish punishing.]   "Spankings" require a rigid, hard item which can deliver a stinging blow   When choosing an implement you first must decide what type of physical correction is going to be administered: A Spanking means you’re going to choose a tool such as a wooden paddle, hairbrush, wooden spoon or some type of rigid, hard item which can deliver a stinging blow. A Whipping means you are going to choose something such as a switch, cane, strap, cord or some type of flexible lightweight rod which will deliver a sharp concentrated lash. Once you have chosen a tool you can decide if you will have it ready in the area where you plan to administer the Spanking, or if he will have to retrieve the implement and bring it to you. Either way can be very effective.  Being sent off to get whatever is going to be used on you can be very humbling Being sent off to get whatever is going to be used on you can be very humbling, and on the other hand coming into a room and seeing the tool that will be used can immediately send butterflies into a boy’s tummy and upper throat. Certain tools such as a switch is always better if he is sent out to cut and prepare it himself. This is part of a ritual and is more effective than if it is already trimmed and cleaned.   Now that you have the Spanking Tool selected, and you know how it’s going to be presented, next you need to know how and where you will be administering the Spanking.   The Spanking Ritual I am a big believer in rituals, so having a special location you consistently use I feel is always best. So when you say “okay young man, go to the Punishment Room and wait for me” or “it’s time we take a trip to The Woodhed” he knows exactly what is going to happen without you just blurting out “I’m going to beat your behind.”   “it’s time we take a trip to The Woodshed” [Note: having a set Punishment Spanking ritual should not be a rote memorized experience. You can always vary it based on the circumstances. However, having a central ritual helps establish the tone and helps your boy get in the right headspace.]   The room you choose should already be prepared beforehand with whatever Spanking Chairs or Tools you need—unless you intend for your boy to retrieve that Spanking Tool as mentioned above. The room/area should be clean and free of clutter and not full of toys or stuff more professional than playful. I completely understand that you cannot be prepared for all situations and ready to go.  There will be times that certain behaviors may require immediate correction and other times you may be traveling far from the Domestic Discipline environment you have set up.      However you should be prepared for both these events and have a plan if such actions are necessary. [note: you should have a plan between you for what is acceptable resolution for bad behavior while travelling or in public: administering hotel spankings, pulling over on the side of the road, having a signal for a time out when in a group setting that requires he stop and meet you outside for a talkin’-to, etc.]   Go To Your Room   When in the Domestic Discipline home, preparing a room beforehand is still the best policy, and postponing punishment until everything is in place is worth the time. You can certainly have him stand in The Corner or take a bath as you prepare. Having him prepare for a Spanking is part of a good punishment ritual is well. Having a special punishment outfit, boyish underpants, athletic shorts, pajamas, etc., he would have to put on before going to the designated room, or the knowledge that once in the room he has to remove all of his clothing and put them away neatly and out of sight will certainly get him ready both physically and mentally.   Now that you’re both in the room, and he is standing before you in his embarrassing punishment dress or as naked as a newborn, this is the time you need to have a serious and controlled discussion with him about the behavior for which he is being corrected. He needs to be told that this is not for play or his pleasure, but this is a serious punishment to take him down a peg or two.   Scolding Do not go easy on him. Scold him: Identify the Misbehavior. Explain in detail how his behavior has earned him this punishment. Identify what’s required of him to fix things. Explain what is expected out of him in the future what to do to avoid further punishment.  This is very important, disciplinarians that do not scold properly or just assume he knows exactly why he’s being punished are making a communications mistake.   Avoid Making a making a Communications Mistake.   A good scolding should have your boy remorseful or even in tears before the first swat ever lands. If you are unsure how to scold properly, take the time to do some research.   [Note From Cornertime Confidential: we find scolding technique is particularly well done by Magic Spanking Factory’s Daddy and SpankingCentral.com’s Clifton Meador. These are good places to start looking for tone, attitude, and delivery of the talkin’-to].   You can certainly have him stand in The Corner or take a bath as you prepare.   Scolding is not yelling, and not belittling. It is explaining exactly how he disappointed you. And for most adult boy’s disappointing someone they care about can be more punishment than any Spanking. Do not rush the scolding, take your time, and let each word sink in. This is not the time for him to argue with you or give his side of the story. He is only to listen and to answer any of your questions with yes or no or what many Daddys require, “Yes, Sir” or “No, Sir.” The time for his side of the story past as soon as he was ordered to get ready for punishment. As a disciplinarian if you allow him to continue to argue with you, backtalk you, or give you attitude and you have lost control of the situation.  You need to regain it quickly. It is not a game to punish adult boys, and he should not disrespect you. Managing Misbehaviour During The Spanking  Once everything that needed to be said had been said then it’s time to move to the penalty phase of the punishment, which in this case is to administer the Spanking or the Whipping. You should have him move into position quickly such as over your knee, across your lap, bending over a chair, touching his toes, etc. Telling him to touch his toes does not mean putting his hands on his knees or grabbing his ankles, it means putting his fingertips to his toes, or placing his fingers underneath his toes. If he is not physically capable of actually bending forward to touch his toes, then the directions should be something along the lines of “Place your hands on your knees.”  "...trying to block his bottom with his hands is not only disrespectful and shows lack of obedience, but also it can be dangerous." It is a form of disrespect if he only bends far enough to put his hands on his knees when you instructed him to touch his toes. Don’t let him get by with that. Once you have him in the proper position you can give him any further instructions necessary, even if he’s heard them before, such as “Keep still! No kicking! No rubbing  your bottom!” Reminding him that his only job is to stay in place and not to try to prevent his Spanking in any way helps to establish who is actually in charge here. Excessive moving, or trying to block his bottom with his hands is not only disrespectful and shows lack of obedience, but also it can be dangerous. His cooperation is for his own good, so say so clearly and distinctly. Yelping, crying, and screaming should be expected, but there is no reason for him to talk or ask or beg for anything. He should not say any words at all. Begging or pleading is an attempt to reduce his punishment and should be treated the same way as if he was trying to block your access to his bottom with his hands or move out of the way. Excessive noise should also be addressed as you see fit. Excessive noise should also be addressed as you see fit.   The first swat should come quickly and hard. It should sting quite a bit and make him yelp out in both shock and pain. He is being punished and there is no such thing as a warm up Spanking for adult boys who are being punished. The only reason you might want to use a warm up Spanking is to lower his sensitivity and make the Spanking last longer. That again should be up to you, and you should consider this in the larger scope of what you are trying to achieve here. If it’s behavior improvement, then you might want to apply just a short sharp shock. If, however, you want something out of this too, you will want to find ways of prolonging this severe discipline by varying the intensity, so you aren’t wasting your time.   The Spanking should continue had a hard steady pace and go for quite some time. A disciplinarian needs to remember that he has chosen to participate in this relationship, and he should not be timid about delivering a sound Spanking. Spank him with enough force to ensure a very sore, fairly bruised bottom. He is not made out of glass. You’re not punishing him to break him, but you are disciplining him to keep him in line. That cannot be achieved with an adult boy by a gentle warning.   There is no need to set the amount of strokes or a set time, either. This is your free time to discipline as you see fit, so naturally, you certainly can do this if you wish. It’s best to remember that your boy is being punished, and it may be better to continue the punishment until the disciplinarian feels that he has reached the level of remorse he is looking for. This could vary on any given day, so there’s no reason that the spontaneity you have in your regular Domestic Discipline relationship cannot be secured during different Punishment Spankings.   "...it’s the bond you create with your words and your deeds during these high-impact emotional and physical moments."    Aftercare and Reinforcement of the Message Even though this is a Punishment Spanking, it’s always okay to be tender and forgiving. He has taken his punishment, and  whatever his misdeed, it has been paid for. You can hold him as he cries or whimpers or stamps his feet, and/or let him know that it’s over. It will not be discussed again, so long as his behavior aligns with your expectations that you set down during the scolding and now after the Punishment Spanking. It helps to reinforce the message behind the Spanking, for example, “I don’t want to see you do that again. Look me in the eye, and tell me you heard what I just said.”  If he was good and remained still for his Spanking, you might consider praising him for his obedience. Adult boys are the most submissive right after a Punishment Spanking. Showing him tenderness and love is what he needs most at this point and will ensure his continued obedience to you. Yes, he’ll screw up again, and yes, you’ll have to administer future Punishment Spankings. But ultimately, it’s the bond you create with your words and your deeds during these high-impact emotional and physical moments that will bond you most effectively to one another as Daddy and boy.   __________________________ *From August 2015 Please comment below or email us with your ideas aok4otk@aol.com or cornertimeconf@gmail.com ______________________________________ Follow Cornertime Confidential Wherever You Are: Tumblr  ∙  SouthSpanking ∙   WordPress  ∙  Twitter  

Year end wrap up: Attended MAL in January. The green lantern party is amazing and the BAW parties were a blast. Got pretty close with a couple guys there and made some new friends. Hot Seat in March was a blast and I spanked a ton of guys and spent a lot of quality time with Redbearspanker. He spanked me 15 times and I gave about 60 spankings at this event Claw in April was fun. Got to play with a couple people I never thought I’d get to play with and had a very long session with a friend I’d never gotten to meet in real life. Gave about 45 spankings at this one and got two. Went to visit my long time (17 years) Daddybear Redbearspanker in July and had an amazing time but then he had a stroke the day I left. Pretty traumatizing. He’s still alive and in rehab now but this definitely altered the rest of my year in a very specific way.  Went to Florida for work in August and got to spend a weekend with one of the BAW organizers. Gave me an amazing spanking and helped me deal with a lot of stuff just by being a good friend and taking my mind off of everything. Started chatting heavily with Mike Smith on here… pretty much every day and made plans for him to beat my ass at BAW. Also got spanked very severely twice by a close friend until I was bleeding and absolutely crying my eyes out. Easily the hardest spankings I’ve ever gotten in 22 years of doing this. Cried like a baby due to the emotions around Redbear building up. BAW was amazing and got two amazing spankings from Mike (both were two of the most emotional spankings I’ve ever gotten) and we got very very close (love you!) and I also got two great public strappings from Hhoncho who I’ve always wanted to meet. Also spanked my boy Junior to tears five times and gave about fifty spankings including a bathbrush demo and being part of the authors panel. Went to Los Angeles for Leather Getaway and gave some good spankings and attended the spanking party there. Pretty tame event compared to MAL and CLAW but that’s ok. Still fun. Spent a lot of time being kinky with my actual husband which is always a treat. I’ve also spanked 3-4 guys every weekend I’ve been home. If I had to guess, I gave close to 400 spankings this year. Very busy. Very fun. Looking forward to doing it again starting with MAL in just a couple weeks. Merry Xmas and Happy New Year, spankos. Be good!

(Video Link At End) Here's the story behind some photoshop artwork pictures of me that have been floating around the web,  and the real ass strapping I got in the quest to make the pictures. It wasn't in a woodshed but it was as close as I ever got to a woodshed type strapping. This story goes off in a couple different directions, but bear with me because it's all related. I'm sure you've seen a couple of these pictures before, but probably never realized that real spankings were what motivated the artwork. This was another spanking I got at Bill's Basement in Hammond, IN. Bill usually gives a much less intense spanking but I was trying to find out what a real punishment spanking was like. I was never spanked as a kid and didn't get my first real spanking until I was 47 years old. My spankings had always been more of the erotic kind and they always left me feeling like something was missing. I finally realized my spankings were not like the ones I got to watch in my younger years. Those spankings never started with a "warmup" over jeans or briefs or with a hand spanking. They got spanked bare, hard and fast, right from the start with a paddle or belt. So I asked Bill to give me an authentic punishment spanking, staying within the limits of doing no damage. Above is a photo manipulation I made.  Yes that's my naked red spanked ass hanging out of the car window.   I added in the guy with the belt.   I've always been fascinated with belt spankings.   Most of my friends got spanked with a belt, so the belt always intrigued me.    Before I got my first real spanking, I paddled myself just to see what a spanking might feel like but I couldn't effectively spank myself with a belt, so the belt always remained elusive and fearful to me.  When I heard the crack of a belt on bare ass, it just sounded so wicked!  I got a small taste of a belt spanking a couple times, but I have yet to get a serious belt whipping.  It's on my list of things to experience!   This "woodshed strapping" all started with a discussion I had with a spankthishookups friend named Jeff from Florida. He does photoshop artwork where he takes a photo of someone and adds in a spanking background to the photo. Both of us are interested in Woodshed strappings. Or should I say we're both fascinated with woodshed strappings! We both like all the nuances related to a strapping like that. The naked walk of shame being marched from the house, outside to the shed, the dreaded sawhorse sitting out in the shed or barn taking front stage reminding a boy what's in store for him if he misbehaves, the old worn strap hanging over the sawhorse, and on a farm or ranch, the ranch-hands or farmhands standing out in the yard smirking as you're being marched bare out to the shed - knowing from personal experience what's about to happen to your naked ass. Yeah all those elements make a woodshed strapping very hot for both of us. We are also both also intrigued with judicial spankings. One where a court might order a grown man or young adult to get spanked in public as punishment for some offense. Both of these spanking scenarios I described have the element of public exposure and humiliation!   Well my friend Jeff offered to make a few of these photos, with me in them and that required some naked pictures of myself for him to start with. We began with the judicial spanking scene. Let me back up a minute and tell you about a dare that my online friend Jordan had me do. I've mentioned Jordan in some of my other blog posts and he has this amazing ability to get me to do all kinds of spanking related things that I should have better sense not to do! Jordan dared me about 10 years prior, to spank my own ass and then go outside wearing only a t-shirt and gym shoes and take a few photos of myself. Yeah I did that dare. That first dare I did at 3am so there weren't many people around. But it was so exhilarating to get naked in a public place where someone might catch me. You might say that's not so daring, but the thing is I lived at my job so I did the dares at work!  Well about 10 years had gone by and Jordan had forgotten about the dare until I posted the photos, recently on my spanking profile. These pictures made him ask me if I'd been spanked lately. I hadn't been so he challenged me to the second dare. This time he challenged me to spank my ass inside my residence again and then walk 1500 feet away wearing only a sweater and boots. It was December in Chicago. I had family staying with me at the time so I couldn't spank myself at home, but I still wanted to do Jordan's dare. I thought for a while asking myself where I could do this and decided to just do all the spanking outside. Not only that, but I decided to strip naked before I started the walk, go further than the 1500 feet and do it in broad daylight!  I was actually outside at work, buck ass naked with a red spanked ass for almost an hour and walked around the business property about a mile in distance. I'll share the details of Jordan's dares in some future blog posts.    Above is a photo of me doing Jordan's naked self spanking dare at work!  Completely exposed for almost an hour wearing only a pair of boots, carrying a Jokari paddle, and a sign around my neck saying to give me the real spanking I deserve so there would be no doubt in anyone's mind what they should do to me if they caught me!   But back to my friend Jeff's Photoshop pictures and the real ass strapping I got in the making of those pictures.   Well this judicial punishment scenario my photoshop friend was doing, was a scenario that we pretended was a court ordered public spanking if I had been caught doing the naked self spanking dare that Jordan challenged me to do. (No I didn't actually get caught doing that dare, but I probably was seen by passing cars!) But this was a what if I got caught scenario and a court decided to give me a suitable punishment for spanking myself naked outside by ordering a naked spanking in the town square. We talked about a scenario where an offender was marched naked or driven naked being spanked along the way to a stage set up in the town square. Once there, he's brought up on stage and paddled and strapped for the amusement of everyone there. The spanking would be well announced ahead of time in the media so the offenders' friends and enemies could come by to watch. The public nature of such a punishment is similar to the public corporal punishment law breakers received in days gone by to maximize their humiliation!  The first photoshop artwork he did, depicted me naked on a platform on the back of a tractor being spanked and slowly driven through town as the spanking was announced on a speaker, calling members of the public, to meet us at the town square to watch and help spank my ass.  Above is the artwork my friend Jeff created from a photo I took of me standing naked on the back of a tractor.   He used Photoshop to add in the background of the town, the guy standing next to me giving me the spanking, and all the people in the street with belts, paddles and straps following us to the town square to watch and help give me my public spanking. Below a close up of me on the tractor. A little side story, one of the other pictures we took involved handcuffing myself in one of the equipment buildings at work. I remember Jeff warning me to be careful. The building has a gravel floor and I cuffed myself naked, with my hands in front of me. I left the key in the cuffs and unknown to me it fell out somewhere while I was setting things up for the photos. So there I was buck ass naked in a building at work with my hands in handcuffs and I couldn't find where I dropped the key in the loose gravel floor!   It was like looking for a needle in a haystack! At first panic set in, then I remembered years ago getting the cuffs open with a paperclip and pliers. I looked all over for both items. I found a pair of pliers but I couldn't find a paperclip. Hey it was a workshop not an office! I did find some thin wire, but it was too soft and it bent when I tried using it. Then after about 30 minutes of walking around naked with my hands cuffed in front of me, I found a paperclip. It was much harder to reach things holding the paperclip in one hand and the pliers in the other, while in cuffs and bend it to use as a key. I finally managed to get out of the cuffs and get the photos Jeff needed. I was so glad one of my college age employees didn't come in and find me like that helpless to resist, with my ass spanked red and paddles laying around!  They certainly could have had some fun with their boss's naked ass making it a lot redder!  The next day we took the pictures for the woodshed strapping scene. I was self spanking as we were doing all of this to make it more fun. I knew Jeff could add the red to my ass very easily with Photoshop but I decided to spank myself to make it more realistic. We had to retake several of the photos to get the pose just right. My ass was raw red by the time we finished as I had to redo the photos and also the spankings several times to get the pose right. Sometimes I think Jeff had me do it over just so I'd paddle myself again! Below is a picture depicting a naked walk of shame out to a woodshed for a strapping.  Both of us are really turned on by this type of spanking scenario.  Like I mentioned before, it has all the essential elements that make that walk of shame so embarrassing!   The big strong disciplinarian with strap in hand,  the naked spankee feeling so small and helpless, the observers standing in the background about to enjoy the show!  It would be so humiliating for the one about to get spanked!  Jeff decided to make a picture of me taking a naked walk of shame out to the barn for an ass strapping.  I was instructed to send him some naked pictures of myself,  walking away from the camera with my head down in shame and my hands behind my back.   The photo below is the end result of Jeff's artwork.  Jeff used a photo of me walking with my head down in shame and my hands behind my back and added in the background of the porch and barn/shed in the background, representing me taking the naked walk of shame out to the shed for my "woodshed strapping".  I love the way he added in all the little details like my briefs hanging prominently by the door letting everyone else in the house know someone is out in the shed getting an ass whoopin’  and the reflection of me in the mirror letting people in other rooms  get a glimpse of me walking out to the barn. The next couple photos Jeff made of me were pictures depicting me the boss, getting a strapping in front of my college age employees at work.   Those guys often made comments to me during some spanking conversations we had insinuating that they would have enjoyed spanking my ass themselves. I've always been turned on by role reversal spankings where someone like me that's usually in charge gets spanked by someone I'm usually in charge of.  The added humiliation just makes the spanking so much more effective!    I often fantasized about them doing just that. Spanking me.   Or getting to watch me get spanked.   For the next photo, Jeff instructed me to take a photo of myself with a boner, and my head hung down in shame again with my hands behind my back to prevent me from covering my boner in front of the young farmhands.   A boner I have because my ass is about to get strapped, adding even more to my humiliation.   The young hot shirtless "farmhands" represented my college age workers who would have loved to see the boss get stripped naked for a spanking.    We were working on the final picture for him to use of me bent over the sawhorse actually getting strapped and we couldn't get the pose just right. That's when I had the idea of calling Bill and asking him to give me a real strapping and my plan was to use stills from the video as the photos for Jeff to work with. I told Bill I wanted him to tie me down to a sawhorse, buck ass naked, and strap my ass good and hard. I said I wanted him to strap me the way a strict farm dad of the 1950's would have strapped his deliberately disobedient 18 year old son out in the barn or woodshed. While I set limits of no broken skin and no major bruising, I did want a realistic punishment strapping. At least harder than I've had so far. It was all set up and I called Bill to say I was on the way. He caught me by surprise when he said, "We're waiting for you!" Who was the we? Who else was going to be there when I got strapped? I was tense the rest of the 75 minute drive. I do enjoy the added humiliation of getting spanked in front of others, but I had no idea who was there, and this was going to be a serious ass spanking for me. When I arrived he introduced me to his friend John. I always worry that I'm going to run into someone I know from "vanilla life" at Bills. Someone that doesn't realize I'm into getting my ass spanked! It turns out his friend John used to live only 5 minutes away from me! We both kept looking at each other like we knew one another, but we couldn't place where! I set up my video cameras then stripped, and bent over the sawhorse and the two of them took some rope and bound my hands and feet to the legs of the horse. The feeling of being tied down to the sawhorse, totally helpless, naked with my ass sticking out, about to get the ass strapping of my life was pretty incredible! Then the strapping began. They took turns, at first one lashing my ass ten or so times and then the other. Then one guy gave me one lash and then the other gave me one. One right after the other, from each side. The lashes were hard and kept getting harder. I was yelling out, and gasping for air. My ass cheeks were just quivering from the sting! Eventually Bill stopped and came next to my ear and said, "You wanted it hard didn't you" I said I thought that was hard, but Bill laid into my naked ass again, even harder than before. I think he used every strap he had on my ass. When he untied me, and I looked at my ass in the mirror, my ass had a bluish tint to it. I thought for sure it was going to turn into a mass of bruises, but it didn't. It was sore for 4 days though. I got my first taste of what I would consider a serious ass strapping. This was the third session in my recent quest for a realistic punishment spanking. Above is the actual screencap photo from the video that Jeff used for his artwork photo.   The picture below is the artwork Jeff created.   The final artwork photo that I “took” the real strapping for.  The image of myself taken from the photo above and a background added with bystanders.  My arms and legs bound to the horse so I can’t get away.  The hot shirtless young guys grinning from ear to ear, eager to see me, their boss,  buck ass naked getting his ass strapped!  I'm not spanked in private, but publicly positioned outside in the yard in front of my subordinates, forced to face them and make eye contact.  My naked ass strapping is their entertainment for the day!   Every time we see each other in the days to come, that grin will spread across their faces again, reminding me just how much they enjoyed watching me get spanked!  Yes, we’ll both remember in vivid detail,  just how much I bucked, squirmed and yelled out as the punishment strap lit my bottom on fire!  There’s the  big heavy strap and big burly strapper that can really put some muscle into an ass strapping.  His artwork is very much like a Norman Rockwell drawing with all the nuances and details carefully chosen to tell the complete story.  Below is  a link to a video of that ass strapping! Bill posted the video on spankingtube and a few other places, but this is the hi resolution version of it. This was my first attempt at using two video cameras for two angles of view. Hope you enjoy it. https://drive.google.com/file/d/0B0svmfWrnjyPZWoxLXdQemNMRms/view?usp=share_link&resourcekey=0-IuC9MprSUcvRrDApsOPBbA

Several years went by since my online buddy Jordan had challenged me to do that first self spanking dare outdoors at work and he had pretty much forgotten all about it. That was until he was looking at my spanking profile pictures and saw the photos from that first dare. I was chatting with someone and had recently posted them in my profile! Link to Blog Story About Jordan's First Self Spanking Dare at Work The wheels started spinning in Jordan's devious mind and he came up with a new dare to challenge me to.  He asked again if I'd been spanked recently and since I hadn't he figured he'd try again to help me out, or more likely,  to get me caught naked outdoors at work with a red spanked ass!   Now keep in mind Jordan knows if the challenge is even the least bit reasonable, that I won't be able to resist doing what he tells me to do   Jordan really enjoys the fact that he's 25 years younger than me and he easily gets me to obey whatever he tells me to do!   I also think he knows that someday I am going to get caught naked in public with a spanked ass and it turns him on thinking about me enduring that shame and humiliation. Especially at my age!  I'm sure it turns him on even more knowing he put me in that situation!   Perhaps I blindly obey Jordan and do what he tells me to do because I know he's experienced the spanking humiliation that I crave, or perhaps it's because I love the thrill of the risk of getting caught.  Or maybe I'm actually secretly hoping to get caught and actually want to experience the humiliation Jordan experienced first hand during the actual naked public spankings he endured!   It was a few days before New Year's Eve and he called it the NUDE Years Dare! Here's what Jordan wanted me to do. I was instructed to paddle my own ass beet red. Then he wanted me to dress in just a sweater and boots of some type. I was to walk 1500 feet from my residence - I was to remove the sweater and take two photos of myself, one full frontal and one rear view. He wanted the full frontal one showing my boner if I had one, and told me I could hold a sign that said "Happy Nude Year" in front of my face to hide my identity, but he wanted these photos posted on my profile!   And he wanted a rear view showing my red butt. Now I had family visiting me at the time and I wouldn't be able to spank myself at home, so I'm not sure if it was the craziness in me or the exhibitionist in me that made me make this dare even wilder than the last dare, but I decided to just do the entire spanking outdoors! I scoped things out ahead of time and came up with a plan. A very elaborate plan that involved setting up video cameras along my planned route to capture my naked adventure as I walked naked into different areas!  There were also a lot more customers here than the last time, but I decided to push things even further than last time and did the dare at 8 am in broad daylight. Yes I decided to spank my own naked ass outdoors at work at 8am where anyone could clearly see me!  My adrenaline was really rushing this time! It was close to New Years in Chicago and although we just had a warm spell with 50 degree lows at night, the outside temperature was back down to 25 degrees farenheit that morning. I figured that soon enough the heat from the paddle smacking my bare bottom would create enough heat to keep me warm!    I found a spot that was somewhat secluded by a building and had some fencing to offer a smidgeon of privacy for that first of several spankings. I was so nervous!   I mean, I was almost naked outside at work at 8 am in broad daylight and there were people around!   I could hear cars just 100 feet away on the other side of the fence!  There were sometimes people jogging down the side of road too!  Before long though, I wouldn't be afforded that privacy as I planned to take off the thermal undershirt I had on and walk naked through an open field and spank myself at several other places along the way.    I also set up 4 video cameras earlier along the way so my adventure would be recorded to share with Jordan and my other spanking buddies! (I did worry a lot about someone coming by and taking the cameras after I went by them with video footage of me naked carrying a paddle with a red spanked ass on the memory card of the camera!  It would be perfect blackmail material to make me submit to regular spankings!)   I set out a small two step ladder to bend over for the first spanking and before I left home I made up a sign to hang around my neck.  One side of the sign said Happy Nude Year for Jordan's photo, and the other side said "Please Give Me the Real Naked Spanking I Deserve.  Paddle My Ass Long and Hard".  I guess I wasn't really hoping I would get caught, but if I did, I wanted to make sure that whoever found me walking naked in public like that knew that even I agreed that I deserved a real bare naked spanking!    That way if someone did catch me, there would be absolutely no doubt in their mind, what they should do to me!    Yeah, I wanted them to know that even I agreed that if they caught me, they should spank me right there where i was, in public and buck ass naked!     I truly believe that being spanked outdoors is incredibly humiliating.   Anyone could walk up and watch me being spanked and even if no one did wander by, I would be thinking there were dozens of people watching me get spanked bare and completely exposed! Yeah a public spanking is exactly the kind of shame I always fantasized about   It's exactly the kind of spanking humiliation I deserve!   The small 2-step ladder I bent over for the first spanking, along with the sign I made and the Jokari paddle I carried with me throughout the naked adventure.   I guess I was secretly hoping someone would catch me and use that paddle on me for real!   I started out the dare wearing Jeans and a sweatshirt.  I didn't have a sweater so I wore a thermal undershirt, and as I always did for a spanking I wore a pair of Fruit of the Loom tighty whities.  Oh and those damn boots Jordan wanted me to wear.  They were such a pain to lace and unlace as I was stripping for the beginning of the spanking dare.   I had to take them off to get my jeans off, but soon enough they'd be on for the rest of the dare!    Jordan had a reason for me to wear those boots, only I didn't know what it was yet.  Take That Sweatshirt off!   And Now the Boots     Take Those Jeans Off!   Nice Tighty Whities!  I really like these Fruit of the Loom tighty whities for a spanking.   They are too small on me and what I like best is that FTL briefs are practically see though.  I can only imagine how much the spanker looks forward to turning my bottom bright red as he looks at the "target" in those tight white briefs.     Not Just Down, All the Way Off!        Undies Too!   Spankings Are Bare Bottom!      All the Way Down and Off!     Now Put Those Boots Back On! Jordan had a reason for me to have those boots on.  I just didn't know what it was.  But I would find out later!   Continued in Part 2  - The Spanking

As I get older I've found it harder and harder to lose weight.  I've recently fantasized about having a personal trainer that I report  to weekly for weight loss goals and get spanked each week.  I would get a spanking every week no matter what to keep me from failing on purpose just to get a spanking. Yes, I might just fail on purpose just to get a spanking!  If I met the goals, it would just be a harsh punishment type spanking.  If I failed the goals each week the spanking would get more and more humiliating to keep me on track.  My Canadian friend Jordan that challenged me to do the Naked Dares at Work I posted about,  helped me come up with the "Fitness Challenge".   More about it after a few photos.  These photos are real photos of me.  Spanked for Poor Workout Performance - Cuffed to the Exercise Equipment   Spanked in bondage in handcuffs bending over in the workout room.  My dick, balls and butthole exposed adding to my humiliation!   Well spanked for poor workout performance.     Handcuffed to the exercise equipment and spanked.  Dick pulled back between my wide spread legs for added exposure and humiliation.     Spanked in a position that leaves my butthole and balls exposed for everyone's amusement!   I shamelessly rub myself against the greased up bench because spanking turns me on so much!   In doing so I arch my back and thrust out my red spanked bottom making it an even more enticing target to get spanked even harder, encouraging the spanker to make it even redder and sorer!   The Fitness Challenge Jordan and I came up with would be broadcast on live webcam for anyone to watch. There would be no editing!   I would be completely naked and totally exposed for everyone to see - strangers and friends!   I would need a third person there to run the cameras so the spanker and I would not be interrupted changing camera angles and could concentrate on the spanking.   The spanking would be on both live cam and recorded and posted on spankingtube so anyone could watch and download it.  I wouldn't be allowed to edit the recorded version either except to remove "dead time" that wasn't showing any spanking or humiliation!   Observers could also take screen captures from the live feed any time they felt like it so my exposure would be completely out of my control!  Jordan says I need the images and videos of my spankings out of my control where anyone watching can record, or repost my humiliation just the way the public spankings he got from his dad were completely out of his control and anyone there could watch him get spanked naked in the most embarrassing ways!   Like Jordan, I would be stripped buck ass naked for the entire spanking.   If I met the goal my face would remain concealed, at least for the most part.   But if I failed the goal for the week, the first time a glimpse of my face would be shown on cam.   The weekly sessions would be announced ahead of time so followers could plan to watch. I imagine as the challenge went on, more and more people would be watching!  Especially after an annoucement is made that my face will be shown when I fail my goals!   As my weight loss progresses, the goals would need to be adjusted so they are difficult, yet achievable, but we all know that weight loss in the beginning of a program is easy and as you lose more and more weight, it becomes much more difficult!    So it's inevitable that my humiliation will ultimately be complete, and my face will be exposed during the naked spankings on cam no matter how hard I try!    The more times I fail, the more exposure I will endure and the more humiliating the spankings and the subsequent other punishments will be!    Just the thought of the Fitness Challenge makes my dick hard!  More details about the challenge and more photos of me naked doing workouts in Part 2.   https://southspanking.com/groups/adblog/890/todays-theme-a-personal-trainer-that-motivates-with-spanking-part-2/

  ​​Whether you call it wall time, corner time or something else, it's still humiliating to be naked, on display and getting a spanking!   There are many opportunities for corner time. Corner time can be served, before, during and after a  spanking.  In this series these are all actual photos of me naked in various forms of the punishment to show different variations of corner time and how corner time can be used to enhance a spanking.     Pre Spanking Corner Time (left photo):  Buck ass naked, nose in the corner, hands behind my head, feet spread apart.   Physically I'm a grown adult, but mentally I feel like a naughty little boy.  My lily-white bottom is just waiting to be spanked! Some say this is time for me to reflect on the behavior that got me here in the first place, but all I can do is anticipate.   Anticipate how that lily-white bottom of mine is going to be spanked flaming red!  And time for me to wonder if I'll be able to maintain any semblance of dignity during the spanking or if I'll end up bawling like a baby.  But it is also a time for me to hope!   Hope that I get through the spanking and humiliating corner time before someone else stops by to see me like this!    Having me stand buck ass naked in the corner also allows the spanker to get a good look at my bottom and do some anticipating himself.   He will anticipate how my bottom is a blank canvas for him to paint.  Paint with his paddles, belts, straps and perhaps even a switch.   It gives him time to anticipate how he's going to turn my bare bottom into a red inferno and make me buck, squirm and howl in the process. No, corner time is time well spent.  It's not wasted time at all!   Mid spanking corner time (Right Photo):  This spanking is far from done!   But being put back in the corner, just the way I was before gives me a few moments for renewed hope!  Hope that this spanking is over quickly before someone stops by to see me in this humiliating position with my bright red spanked bottom prominently on display.  Hey a boy can hope, but I know deep down that the spanking and my humiliation are far from over!  It also gives the spanker a few moments to decide which spanking implement he's going to send me to get next!  Bare and with my red bottom wiggling along the way! Corner time isn't going to make me think about what I did to earn this spanking.   Having my bottom throb and sting from the spanking I'll be getting is the only thing that's going to make me think twice about repeating the behavior that got me here.    Exposure and humiliation are a key elements of any spanking. Here I am being sent naked to fetch the paddle that's going to be used to spank me. What makes it even more humiliating is that I have a boner as I bring the paddle back. I can't help it - spanking just makes me hard!    Corner time should always be done buck ass naked.  It feels much more exposing and more embarrassing, standing there totally bare!  There's no shirt to pull down to quickly cover yourself, and no briefs to pull up if someone un-expectantly drops by.  You know you're naked and there for anyone to see until your spanking and punishment are over!  Corner time doesn't need to be in a corner. It's just as effective up against a plain wall or a closet door. What matters is that I'm naked, on display and everyone can see my heinie has been spanked even at my age!   Once again, I don't think the bare bottom boy in the corner is thinking about what he did to get himself into this situation at all.  I personally think that he's only hoping that the spanking and his humiliating corner time are over before someone stops by and sees him like this!   It might be his siblings, or a neighbor, or the disciplinarian's friends, but the thing he dreads most, is if his own friends stop by while he's buck ass naked in the corner with a well spanked bottom!   One thing is certain though, the punishment will continue regardless of who stops by!     Now my own thoughts about corner time.   To me, the entire point of corner time isn't to give someone "time to reflect".  The purpose of corner time is to embarrass and humiliate the person being spanked!    I don't see much point in standing in the corner alone. The most effective corner time is corner time served in front of an audience!  Having others see that I'm buck ass naked with a red spanked bottom and I'm on display for everyone to see is what really brings on the red faced shame!   And that makes the spanking remembered long after the sting has faded away. Standing in the corner naked reinforces the fact that even a grown adult can be reduced to the state of a naughty little boy for an embarrassing spanking!  It reminds me I'm never too old for a spanking!    There are many variations on corner time. This has been the most basic form. Naked, hands on head, legs spread, and nose in the corner.   Other variations are even more humiliating and make the spanking even more effective.    We'll get into some of the variations on corner time in the next few posts. Link to Part 2 Variations on Corner Time

Some Spanking encounters end wrong, just wrong. The Spanking could even have been well administered, but there's just something missing. In our experience, it's the post-Spanking warning, lecturing, and talkin'-to that's so critical to sewing things up and puttin' a bow on it.       Often times Daddys (or even just Tops/Domes) don't really know how to get there. This is where the boy can help. Here's a few tips on how to get Daddy "there."    For boys, after you are paddled, don't just stand there. Provoke him to react to your feelings. You may be very sore. You may be very upset or shaken up if he paddled you hard. Say so, "You Spanked way too hard. I didn't do anything!" or "That hurt." or "You didn't need to use the Bathbrush. I was gonna do it anyway."   This ends up being less rhetorical and ends up making Daddy have to respond: "Well, I wouldn't have to Spank so hard if you listened. When I tell you to come here, you come here now." Or "It hurts because you upset Daddy. You basically made me Spank you like that. I think you owe me an apology." Or "You got the Bathbrush across your backside for mouthing off and defying my direct instructions. I don't ever want to hear you do that again. Do you understand me?" It's more a matter of making a bruised boy or a Daddy startled by what it takes out of himself to paddle your bottom feel heard and responded to.     In the .gif above (pronounced Jiff! May the founder of .gif rest in power!), I see myself, sans the flat abs. In the moment, that "Bathbrush Talk" is something you as the boy cannot take your eyes off of. That's the brush that just damaged your backside. That's the brush that got your attention. That's the brush just Spanked the bejesus right outta ya.   Thankfully, when the Daddy is able to put words to use after a Spanking, the moment sears more deeply into the boy's brain, not just his bottom. When the boy is pulling up his briefs--or when Daddy pulls them up (my Daddys often pull up my briefs because I get far too shaken up by a Hairbrush or Bathbrush paddling)--the lecture helps remind him as much as the painful legloops of his 'pants hugging his red, red fanny. Watching the .gif above, can't you just feel the 'pants coming up over your red, sore bottom? I shore can. The feeling is real bad, and it hurts, but remember the human mind has a built in "forgetting" mechanism when it comes to pain. So you'll forget your Spanking sometime soon. But you are much less likely to forget the post-Spanking talkin'-to if Daddy employs it.    And Daddy's "Paddle Talk" doesn't have to be complicated either. It can be as simple as, asking a series of questions. Try a call and response approach: "Am I ever gonna have to do this again to you?"  "Are you sorry for what you did? Are you?"  "Are we done with your mouthing off?"  "What do you have to say for yourself?" "Look at me when you answer me." "Look me straight in the eyes and say that again." Honestly, the variety will help make the moments after The Spanking more memorable, more special, more important.   A quick warning: not all boys are responsive to lecturing, so be sure to plan ahead by texting with your boy or emailing so you know fully that he is responsive. Otherwise, it can feel flat and inauthentic. With that said, give it a whirl! Learn by doing. Don't think about it. Try it out. See what works for you.    

My least favorite sayings pop uses:   'Because I said so'   'Your bottom looks cute in red'   'Now go decorate the corner with your red tushy'   'What a nice V shape you make when over my lap'   'If you disciplined yourself, I wouldn't have to'   'Your being spanked because it has to be done, whether you like it or not'   'This is going to hurt me more than you'   'You don't get a vote son'   'Over my lap, come on, all the way over'   'If you dont't want to be spanked then you shouldn't have been naughty, should you'?   'You respond so well when having your bottom smacked'   'Does Mr Hand need a chat with your backside?'   'When we get to the hotel, pick a corner and stay there'            

Okay, so I was asked to post this by my Dad.  So for privavcy reasons, I have removed all personal information and changed the names of those involved.     Dear Ryan,   I am very pleased to hear you have finally decided to take Billy in hand, from what you have told me, he is need of some good old-fashioned discipline.  You asked me how I discipline Jamie, well hopefully my answer may prove useful to you as you begin this new stage of your relationship.   The fact of the matter is there are many boys out there, that have missed out on discipline and will respond well to it. Never hesitate to prove that tough love and clear direction will provide him with the security, dependability and reassurance he needs.   Jamie and Billy are both naughty boys, and as such they must be treated and disciplined as naughty boys and that means SPANKINGS!    When you decide to spank Billy, there should be an objective in mind. The best objective is to spank him hard enough and long enough to produce, begging and pleading for the discontinuance of the punishment. Depending on the boy there may very well be real tears present.   Let us assume, Billy is now standing in front of you, as you sit on your spanking chair.  Scold him and let him know how disappointed you are with his behaviour and tell him he is going to be punished.   Now bare his bottom yourself for punishment, take his pants and briefs down and put him across your own lap.   With Billy over your lap, you should take the opportunity to lecture him, constantly pointing out the reasons for the punishment and the fact that the punishment is well deserved. Allow him to speak freely and openly over your lap, but no matter what he confesses to or how sincere his promises are, the spanking will take place anyway   During this lecture period, his bare bottom should be rubbed and patted frequently with your hand.   Once his spanking begins, do not be moved by his actions and responses during his spanking. No matter what he says simply continue to spank him, he is after all being punished.   Using just your hand start to slap his bare bottom softly and sensually, enjoy watching it bounce and his movements as he tries to avoid the stinging.   Pick up the pace now as rosy red marks begin to appear, spank him slowly, building up, but longer, harder and deeper watching as his bare bottom squirms and wriggles.    Now spank those more tender areas at the bottom of his cheeks and the upper parts of his inner thighs. Stop frequently but briefly as you again lecture and scold him,    Only stop spanking him, when a solid promise has been made from him. which will satisfy you and also be grounds for future spankings of a similar type should the promise be broken.   After his spanking, leave him dangling over your knees, for some length of time to meditate upon his punishment. Review the reason for his spanking, and the promise he made while being spanked. Rub and pat his bare bottom and assure him that if he does it again, he will be spanked again only harder and longer.   Once you have finished, he will need time with his bottom nicely on display as he stands in the corner. Stand him there with his pants and briefs down around his ankles, his freshly spanked and very red bottom on display.   Your next responsibility is to provide aftercare and assurances that he is just fine.  Take a lot of time here, with hugs and pats … you will figure that out yourself as with each dad and Boy it is very personal and incredibly bonding.   So that is pretty much how I punish Jamie’s bare bottom, these days and it simply works!    Oh, and yes, I have agreed that Jamie can visit Europe by himself, visiting a German uncle and Dutch dad that he knows.    Am I worried about that?   Not at all, I know these gentlemen will do a fine job of keeping my boy in line and provide discipline when he needs it.  I have told him that when he staying with them, he is to obey their rules and they have my blessing to administer punishment as they see fit.   PS – Surprise!  I am going to ask both of them to administer his weekly review and punishment sessions in my absence!  He maybe on vacation, but I don’t want him slipping into bad habits!    Do you think they will agree?     Take care and all my very best wishes to both you and Billy.     Daddy D.  

Hello everyone, Before I begin, I will respond to messages and IM's shortly.  As some of you are aware, I have been suffering some health issues, so my absence from the site will take place from time to time.  I appreciate all communication, well wishes and hope every single one of you take good care of yourselves. These last weeks and those going forward, possibly for months are going to be challanging, from a health and economic perspective. We watch the news, social media and we can see just how bad the current pandemic is becoming. I am no health professional, but what I can say is take care of yourselves and others when you can.  You are the best person to know if you are ill, or are becoming ill and ultimately the majority of decisions regarding your health are down to you and no one else.  I am erring on the side of caution and that is my choice. If you have relatives or loved ones afftected by this virus, remember and give them a call, or message them or text them.  A simple greeting and asking how they are doing can make a big difference.  Those that need to isolate themselves, are not only going to suffer the physical symptoms, there can be mental health issues, so a little communication can help a great deal. I guess no one really knows how bad this will ultimately become, still I will personally say a prayer each night for everyone.  This is a strong community of amazing people, talented, loving and caring.  Finally if you have underlying health issues or/and are a senior please be especially careful. I really cannot thing of anything else to say. So have a hug and again stay safe. James  

Hello everyone, I hope you are all safe, during these uncertain and unprecedented times.  Next week, probably on Wednesday afternoon, the site is moving to a new server.  Nothing is changing, it will still be southspanking.com The new server is less expensive, the estimated savings are around $500 per year.  It is also faster, more secure and utilizes more modern technology. I have over the course of the last few weeks been testing and configuring and I am now satisfied we can go ahead.  The majority of the data will be copied over before Wednesday, and I will of course give a couple of hours warning ahead of the move. The site will be off-line for only a short period of time, probably less than 1 hour. If after an hour, you are still not getting access, please remember to press F5 on your keyboard to refresh your browser. I want to thank those of you that have made a donation to the site, it really helps, and it allowed me to make this cost saving reduction, especially at this stressful time. We do need donations going forward, but rather than getting out the begging drum, I have also listed a number of items on e-bay from my collection.  So, if you want to help the site, and get yourself a DVD, book or magazine at the same time, have a look at what we are selling.  Unfortunately, eBay restricts adult goods to within the US only, so I can only sell to those within the US. Our eBay store can be found at:  https://www.ebay.com/str/arizoy Thank you everyone, and again please stay safe and well. Hugs James

The Coach's voice sounded already angry! "Well, let's start with a spontanous check of your cleanliness...!" The bloke already knew what would expect him. It was not the first time the Coach did such a control, which often ended in a corporal punishment. The guy stripped completely and then placed himself in front of his Coach. He sticked his hands towards his Coach. First the palms, then the back of his hands. "Fine..." complimented the Coach while checking the clean hands. "Now your ears, boy!" The boy moved his head and dad looked in his ears, first the left ear, then the right ear. "Clean as well! Good boy!" The boy was relieved but he rejoyed too soon... "All right, now your bottom! Turn around and bend down!" The 22 year old boy crinched and the back side of his muscular body got a goose-skin. The coach took a paper tissue out of his trousers and gave it to the boy. "Clean your butt cheeks with the tissue...! And go deeply inside.." The boy took the paper tissue, bent down further, spread his cheeks and scrubbed between his wide-spread bum-cleft. "hmm, my dear boy..." the coach mumbled. "I don't think you want to affirm that you cleaned your bum well after the last bowel-movement?" There was a highly visible brown stripe on the white paper tissue. The guy turned red: "Please, no enema...!" The coach looked at his football player with a very serious face: "You know that uncleanliness doesn't only mean that you'll get an enema - it means as well that you will get a hard punishment. So, you will come down to the punishment room in 10 minutes! Got it? The boy nodded, he felt bummed out. But there wouldn't be an alternative as disobedience would mean to be excluded from the football team.

If you own more than 5 hairbrushes that have never been used on your hair... ...you might be a spanko. If you have more than one drawer in your dresser devoted to underwear... ...you might be a spanko. If someone offers you the wooden spoon from making cookies and you can't lick it because you wonder who's butt it's been used on... ...you might be a spanko. If you reflexively start to bend over when someone takes their belt off... ...you might be a spanko. If you reflexively clench your butt when you hear someone yelling at their offspring... ...you might be a spanko. If TSA winks and pats their butt after x-raying your carry on... ...you might be a spanko. If you didn't know razor strops were used to sharpen razors... ...you might be a spanko. If trying on jeans includes checking your butt out in the mirror and smacking it... ...you might be a spanko. If your idea of wood categories are 'stingy' or 'thuddy'... ...you might be a spanko. If someone tells you it's their birthday and your first thought is when and if they will be getting spanked... ...you might be a spanko. If you have a few tubes of Arnica in your bathroom... ...you might be a spanko. If you are familiar with the film "wayfairers and toilers"... ...you might be a spanko. If someone mentions the Board of Education and you think of a paddle.. ...you might be a spanko.   Feel free to add yours below:

Well guys, as much as I hate doing it and I try very hard not to, it is time for a fundraiser for the site. Now please, only donate if you can afford to do so, I mean that.  Right now, with the pandemic everyone is in a difference place, financially, Healthwise and Career Wise.  It is important to concentrate on what matters the most and this site should not be a top priority. If you want to donate, please click on the donate button, or if you have not sone so already consider updating your membership.   Hugs and many thanks   James

Obedience vs. Equality in Relationships  Finding the Happy Balance    Ya know, maybe our grandparents were right after all, maybe it is all about "to love, honor....and obey!" One of the big challenges in my DD relationship is finding the happy balance between equality and obedience. I mean really, can you really be "obedient" to your partner in a mature, adult, equal relationship? Well, maybe we modern folk have forgotten what it means to love, honor, and obey. I’m not so sure we have to misconstrue the word too far before we hit upon the matter: relationships suffer when both partners do not also obey one another. And I should know. I lost my relationship of 15 years because I couldn’t obey my long term partner very much at all. Relationships are indeed about pushing boundaries and finding where you can both coordinate, cohabitate, and collaborate. But sometimes when one partner is a much stronger of a personality than the other, the beta personality, even if he's the top, may disengage out of emotional necessity. (Well, that was a big part of it. There were, of course, other things as well.)  However, upon reflection, one of the big problems was my dis-obedience in life, in friendships, and in bed. It was mostly me as an individual in an equal relationship with him as an individual. Under this arrangement, obedience was nearly impossible. So as I re-entered the relationship dating pool, I decided obedience had to be a part of any new relationship equation, so I didn’t disrespect and disobey my new partner’s wishes the way I had done with my first partner. I did this by coming out to my partner last Easter as an adult boy, and that if we were going to continue, some things would need to be added to our relationship to make survive. By saying, "I need a partner to believe in and join me in a discipline-based relationship," I was drawing a line in the sand. I would not have a relationship end in a state of disrespect, disobedience, and the inevitable unhappiness. The reason I needed a good man to agree to this relationship was two-fold, specifically: As the dominant personality in the relationship, I knew I would have to speak up be the one who addressed problems head on as they arose, and at the same time, I needed the discipline option for my new Daddy as a way to help equalize the fact that, verbally at least, I was the dominant partner.   Now, having said that, Daddy is the dominant partner in very important other ways. And by equipping him with The Switch, we avoided turning this into a lop-sided mess. He could be in charge without having to prove, justify, of talk over me. The Switch gives him room to allow the normal behaviors to express themselves, and there is no need to change who we are, but now, after an unacceptable behavior or attitude or other broken rule surfaces, he can rectify it without having to talk it out which he is not in favor of doing in the first place. Many men do not really love to have long knock-down, drag-out verbal fights. It will surprise few readers that The Switch has solved this predicament for us. Respect can now be enforced with The Switch, since he had already earned that respect over the many years we've been partners. I just have a tendency not to follow those rules of respect and politeness, etc. in my day-to-day existence.  As hard as it will be for my readers to believe, I do not wanna get a Spanking. At heart, I’m just a very unruly, undisciplined, disobedient little 8- to 12-year-old boy who doesn’t like obeying even the most basic rules of politeness after initially getting to know people. I get sarcastic almost immediately. I have a very fast (not always smart, just fast) mind which is both a blessing and a curse). But in a relationship, that’s not helpful. And without consequences including discipline specifically, that tough personality can really wreck a relationship.  And as you readers probably already know, I’m on a mission from god to have a full time relationship, come hell or high water! Having been in an "equal" relationship for 15 years from the middle of my college years, I know the pitfalls that my personality can wreck on a more gentle personality. And as luck would have it, and maybe not surprisingly, I have ended up in a second relationship with yet another gentle giant! This is great on the one hand, and then on the other, I just stomp all over him unless we have ground rules, reprimands, expectations of obedience, and when necessary, corporal punishment. Now with The Switch (i.e., The Hairbrush, The Stick, The Paddle), and the other important Discipline Tools we have throughout the house and nonSpanking Tools (i.e., Cornertime, writing lines, mouthsoaping) throughout our relationship, Daddy has what he needs to keep our relationship together as “the Dom.” There’s no need for Daddy to discuss with me, "Uh, I feel like you treated me badly." We now have very clear lines around what constitutes broken House Rules, and what Daddy's boy is and is not allowed to do, say, and act like. After 18 months, it’s just a matter of getting him to use them more frequently as the need arises, and not blow things off that are bothering him. He needs to want to administer discipline, even when he’s not in the mood to. But that’ll take time, I think. Like a real Dad, sometimes he just doesn’t want to be bothered with dealing with his boy’s shenanigans. He just wants to watch TV. But just as in a real Daddy/boy relationship, it’s pretty pivotal to address misbehavior in the moment as much as possible. Only time will tell how he gets comfortable in his still fairly new role as not just “the Dom” in our relationship, but now “the Daddy” in our relationship! Please comment below or email me: aok4otk@aol.com or cornertimeconfidential@gmail.com ______________________________________ Follow Cornertime Confidential Wherever You Are:   Tumblr  ∙  SouthSpanking ∙  Blogger  ∙  WordPress

A Letter From a Reader In a recent letter, bobby asked Cornertime Confidential a few questions and posed a few concerns we thought we'd cover today. There's a lot of variables for you to know about before you embark on a Domestic Discipline (DD) relationship. I write about this a lot and every 2nd week of December in my blog is the "Domestic Discipline Celebrations Week" which has a week's worth of different posts about various elements of how to make it manifest in your relationships I am intrigued by Domestic Discipline. How do you feel about it? I think for me it's a preferred relationship style. I do not currently have a DD relationship as we did before the pandemic, so I'm talking about what it was like up until March 2020. But many of the things that Domestic Discipline taught us as a couple is to be better partners to one another. It seems intriguing but I don’t know how I would feel about giving up control on a long term basis.  I only give up control on a short term basis. We have to spend most of our lives living as equals or else our friends and family and neighbors would freak out. How do you make sure it doesn’t become abuse?  I think that's the same for any impact play or other non-vanilla play. Boundaries, limits, communication. Checking in all the time as the Dom. Knowing that you have times set aside to approach Daddy appropriately to discuss if a Punishment was too intense or unfair or out of bounds. Some of the stuff on your site talks about Spanking in front of others, which doesn’t seem great unless that was totally agreed to beforehand.  I agree completely. If you do not discuss beforehand and the boy isn't aware of what those boundaries are and isn't a part of establishing what is acceptable and what is not, then it's not truly a DD relationship. It's just an unfair one. I argue for boys to be empowered, fight back, don't just passively get punished. Make DD vibrant and alive, but be prepared for the consequences when you do. That means if you're in public (and you and Daddy have established these as acceptable) a public Spanking may get doled out. Most 99.99%) of Daddys are as conscious of public Spanking as you are. They do not want to caught Spanking an adult male in public because it could reflect badly on them too! But if a boy does act out in public, there's NOTHING to prevent Daddy saying, "We'll address this when we get home." Sometimes the anticipation of a Spanking is worse than the actual Spanking itself. Please comment below or email us with your ideas. ________________________________________ Follow Cornertime Confidential Wherever You Are: Tumblr  ∙  Twitter  ∙  Blogger  ∙  WordPress

Dear users, as you might have seen, we are currently experiencing issues with the feeds (main and individuals) as well as with the videos. We do not know yet what caused the problem nor if it can easily be fixed. With James being unavailable due to personnal circumstances, I am the Administrator with the highest level of access. However, I don't have as much access as James does, nor his in depth knowledge of the website. I will try my best to figure out what is going on with the other administrators, and hopefully fix the problem. However, you should know that there is a risk that we may not be able to fix things, and that the videos might be lost.   Here is what we know so far : - All feeds other than feeds that include direct references to other users seems to have disappeared - Only 22 videos seem to have survived the crash : the ones that were posted in groups. - pictures and photos albums are still here, they can be seen on profiles, but have disappeared from the feeds. - Blogs are still here - Groups are still here - We don't seem to have any back-up to restore lost content, and even if the videos are still here somewhere, manually relinking them is not an option. - The problem might come from the video uploading module which is currently not responding, but it is not clear how or why it may have crashed all feeds.   What can you do :  - You may keep posting blogs, pictures, albums, and refurnishing the feed. What you can't/shouldn't do :  - Don't try to post any new videos. [we have blocked it]  - Do not repost all your pictures just to make new links in your feed.   I will keep you posted if we make any progress.

Firstly thank you and hugs to everyone whom has made a donation, I know its a difficult time financially for everyone.   As I said in my last video message, I have listed a number of items on eBay, all money raised will go straight to funding our software delveopment on the the site, I am determined this is the year, we bring it all together.   There are no spanking items for sale, though I will be listing some later on that does not violate eBay's TOS regarding adult content.   My Alienware R7 Gaming Desktop is up for grabs, I have listed it at an over the top price.  The reason for this is to see if anyone here wants to buy it, of course at a deeply discounted price.  I will also throw in Office 2021 and a rather large collection of spanking videos on the hard drive.   I can for obvious reasons only ship within the US, my apologies about that, but its just too expensive to ship abroad.   Our eBay store can be fouind here:    https://www.ebay.com/sch/i.html?item=334759773027&rt=nc&_trksid=p2047675.m3561.l2562&_ssn=usjame-slaqiw        

I rarely watched Wagon Train until yesterday when I saw the spanking scene I posted about.   It was funny that it was mentioned that Denny Miller (Duke) spanked character Charlie in a later episode because as soon as I saw Duke walk out onto the set yesterday I couldn't help but think about him spanking me!  Or wonder if he got spanked.  Denny Miller also played Tarzan in the 1959 film.   First I've always been turned on by role reversal spankings where I'm spanked by a much younger guy and he just seemed like he had that attitude of a guy that might spank me.   Second, next to a firm little butt, the thing that turns me on most about a guy is a defined set of pecs and abs.   Dukes lanky appearance just made me think he had these features.  At the end of the spanking scene, the camera faded into Duke and Bill sitting with Duke shirtless.   Duke certainly had those features along with a thick leather belt around his waist that turned me on even more!   The V-shaped waist defined pecs and that wide leather belt around Dukes waist along with a firm little butt caused a stiring in my groin!   Then when I saw him sitting on this rock I couldn't help but think about him stripping me naked and pulling me over his knees like Bill did to Charlie.  Those arms holding me down tight as I bucked and squirmed from the spanking he gave me.   My boner rubbing against those firm thin thighs of his!   I'm sure he'd take off that belt and whip me with it when he was done spanking me too!  Some More Pictures of Denny Miller "Duke" Shirtless In That Same Episode of Wagon Train Yeah thinking about Duke spanking me definitely gave me a boner!

Please feel free to comment or add to this discussion.  Also, obviously corner time does not appeal to all dads/top’s boys/subs, it is very subjective.  I personally do not enjoy it, but then I am not supposed to either as it is a punishment for me.   Discipline:   It is a method of discipline that can be used with a spanking or on its own merit.     The humbling Effect   It makes a naughty boy feel very humbled.     More Spanking   It can be used simply as a break for the boy and his dad before back over the knee he goes.     Forcing to reflect   It can be a time for the naughty boy to reflect on his behavior.     Checking the spanking redness   It can be a time for dad to study his handy-work as it were.

Link for Part 2 Here's the last part of the 2nd Naked Dare at Work story.   Keep in mind this dare was not really about self spanking as that just doesn't do much for me after I've been spanked by someone else.  This dare was much more about being naked outside at work and the risk of getting caught bare and the total humiliation that would come along with it!  And not just being caught naked, but being caught naked with a spanking paddle in hand, my bottom spanked bright red, and that sign around my neck saying to give me the real spanking I deserved!   That would not only make my humiliation so much more intense if someone did catch me, but it would also expose my spanking fetish to them. Yes whoever caught me woulld find out I liked getting spanked like a naughty little boy!  I think that's exactly what my buddy Jordan was hoping would happen and perhaps I was hoping so too!  And if I did get caught, I wanted whoever caught me to spank me!  Right there in public like I always fantasized about!    While the area I chose to do the dare was somewhat safe, I was still naked outdoors at work, and there were several customers on the property.   My college age employees were now scheduled to start work in less than 30 minutes and the chances of them catching the boss naked outside with a red spanked ass were getting greater by the minute!  They believed in spanking and had even made a couple comments about wanting to spank me so this would have given them the perfect opportunity do to just that!  Yes, there was a major risk involved and my adrenaline was rushing!   I also didn't know if anyone was already out there when I started the dare.   The neighbor let hunters use the adjacent property and it was during deer hunting season. The sound of the paddle would have surely attracted the attention of hunters, and now I was headed right for that area where they would be!  In fact sometimes the local teenagers even trespassed on this property and tried hunting or trapping in the wooded area I was headed for.  Plus,  it was winter break and they were all off of school so that made it even more likely for someone to be out there that morning!    Just think of the fun a group of teenagers could have with my naked red ass and the paddle I was carrying!  There was also the possibility that if someone caught me they could easily blackmail me into reporting to them to be stripped and spanked on a regular basis.   While that has always been a theme in many of my fantasies, and the thought of that truly excites me, the reality of it frightened me and made the dare that much more intense!   I had already given my cold naked bottom100 swats with the Jokari paddle, and my path now took me out of the open field and into the shelter of some woods, shielding me from view of the road at times. While I was out there I thought I was fairly well hidden by the brush, but it was a false sense of secuirty because in reality,  I was completely visible. The leafless brush did little to conceal me from view of passing cars on the road and the movement of a naked guy walking through the woods would have attracted anyone's attention from the road.   Some parts of my path took me within 5 feet of an open field adjacent to the highway which was not far off in the distance.   View of the woods from the county highway. The path I was walking on shown by the green arrows.  I thought the brush and trees shielded me from view but looking at that area after the dare was over from the highway, I was clearly visible to anyone driving down the road.  And my movement through the trees would have only attrracted more attention to me, a buck ass naked guy with an ass as red as Rudolph's nose for the holidays!     Getting ready to spank myself again right in the area the hunters would be in.   This would be the third location I spanked myself in that morning!  I had a camera set up on a tripod ahead of time, but I'm setting up the GoPro to take extra video of me just in case someone walks off with the regular camcorder when I go onto the next spot.  Yes I left the camera with the incriminating naked self spanking footage of me on it behind, until I finished the dare!  The possibility of someone taking the camera, and then blackmailing me into submitting to regular spankings was a real possibilty and on my mind throughout the dare!    As I'm smacking my ass, I keep looking around to see if anyone is standing there watching me!   What a sight it would have been for someone to catch me.  Especailly a group of guys together like some hunting buddies!  I'm sure they wouldn't be able to resist spanking me for real, seeing me bent over with my red ass thrust out and my dick and balls dangling between my legs,  just begging for a real spanking.   I really deserved to be caught by a group of guys and spanked by each one of them just the way I was - buck ass naked!       Now heading naked and with a bright red bottom to the 4th spot. This was a very large, fallen tree I found ahead of time.  I carefully scoped out the area the previous several days and went out there earlier that morning and put a sheet of plastic over the log in case there was poison ivy on the tree.  I didn't want to get poison ivy on my crotch.   I used clear plastic so that way, I wouldn't have anything usable to cover myself with just in case someone caught me!  Yes, I planned this ahead of time, so that if I was caught, I would be naked and exposed and unable to cover myself!  If I got caught, I wanted to be as humiliated as possible!   I took the GoPro camera off my forehead again, and clamped it to a tree branch right next to me. I straddled the fallen log which was about 4 feet in diameter, right along the property line, next to a bluff that overlooked the neighbor's property below me.  This property is vacant, but as I said, the neighbor often lets hunters use it. The sound of the paddle echoing in the still morning air would definitely catch the attention and keen eye of a hunter if he looked up to see where the sounds were coming from.  Above is the view from fallen tree I was straddling.  Arrows showing how close the county highway was.  The little valley area below is the neighbor's property where the hunters usually are.  When I finished the dare and went back to get the video camera I saw blaze orange along the road just to the right of the photo.  I panicked and got a sick feeling in the pit of my stomach, thinking it was a hunter, but it was even worse.   There was a survey crew out on the road that morning.  They had to see me straddling the log and hear the paddle smacking my ass!  I'm sure they got a good laugh using their surveying equipment  to get a close up view of me spanking myself that moring.  They might have even taken some photos or video of my naked red ass to show their buddies when they got back that afternoon!    View from the county highway.   The arrow showing the fallen log I was spanking myself on. When I started the dare I thought I was pretty well hidden by the brush, but as you can see, that survey crew and anyone hunting on the land below or walking along the highway had a perfectly clear view of me!   Plus the movement of a naked guy walking in those woods would have attracted attention!  The sound of the paddle smacking my ass would have told them where to look for me!    If they saw me, they probably would have wanted to give me a real spanking themselves!   It's certainly what I deserved for walking around in the woods, buck ass naked, spanking myself with a paddle!  By putting that sign around my neck I was subconsciously hoping someone would have caught me and spanked me that day!  A naked outdoor spanking has always turned me on in the most incredible way.  It would be so humiliating but it would be exactly what I deserved!   This is the fourth location I'm going to spank myself at.  It's now less than 20 minutes before my college age employees are scheduled to arrive at work!   The same guys that got spanked themselves at home and truly believe spankings work!  Think of all the fun they could have spanking me for all the times I made them work late when they wanted to go out and party with their friends on a Friday night!   Or think how much fun it would be blistering my ass for all the crap jobs I made them do!  Yes, they certainly would have enjoyed turning the tables on the boss by giving me a humiliating naked spanking!   This is the view from the GoPro clamped on a branch behind me.   The same view the hunters would have on the neighbor's land below me!    I'm in view of the highway ahead and the other highway to the side.     My big bottom climbing up on the log, just begging for a spanking.  One highway is visible in front of me.  The neighbor's land is behind me and the survery crew (which I didn't know at the time) are on the other road to my side.   What a view that survery crew had of me that morning.   My red spanked ass and ball sack exposed between my wide spread legs!   I deserved to be caught and spanked in the most humiliating way!   Sprawled out over the log.  Naked and totally exposed.   Imagine how humiliating it would be if whoever caught me, made me keep spanking myself as they watched and laughed for a while and then took the paddle from me and gave me the real spanking I deserved.     A white van drove down the road in front of me.  I felt so naked and exposed.  The driver could probably see me moving or at least I thought he could.  I crouched down out of instinct trying not to be spotted naked in the woods that morning!  While hiding from the road in front of me I was giving anyone behind me a good view of my red thrust out bottom!     Another photo with my face showing so if some people that know me see them, they can contact me and tell me it's time for some real humiliation and a real spanking!  When friends see these, I'll also endure some very real small penis humiliation!  As I get older my penis seems to be shrinking making small penis humiliation another fetish and also an embarrassing reality for me!     That's 150 paddle swats to my cold naked bottom now.  That paddle stung so bad with my skin being as cold as it was!   Now it's on to another fallen log, this time a smaller diameter one that I could bend over.   I walked within 5 feet of the open field, not realizing at the time, how little the leafless trees shielded me from the highway. A naked guy's movement would easily attract the attention of a passing car.  Two green lines showing county highways busy with cars from the morning commute.   I was very close to the edge of the field and easily spotted from the road.  From in the woods, it was if I had a false sense of security.  I thought I was shielded from view.  But in actuality, from the road, it was almost as if I was walking totally exposed, right in the field!   I went to another fallen tree that I also put plastic over, and bent over it with my red ass sticking up in the air and paddled myself another 25 times.This would make 175 paddle swats total since the dare began. I've always liked spanking positions that leave my butt sticking up in the air.  I've also often thought about being tied down over a fallen log like this, spread eagle, bound and helpless to resist a spanking.   Here I am imagining being caught by my employees and being told, "Assume the position Bossman!  We're going to have some fun with your naked red ass all morning!  It's going to be a lot redder before we're done with it!"    I've often fantasized about being bent over a fallen log out in the woods for a spanking.   Perhaps even being tied down to the stakes in the ground spread eagle.  So many possibilites for a spanking out in the woods!    Another embarrassing view spectators would have had of me that morning.  "Stick that bottom out!  Arch that back!  Whack that ass hard!"     A GIF of that spanking over the fallen log.    One final stop before leaving the woods, putting the GoPro camera back on my forehead and then I had to make the return trip back through the open field to pick my shirt up where I dropped it in the grass.  I could swear I made eye contact with a passenger in a car driving down the road that looked toward me through a break in the trees!      Getting the camera reattached to the head strap and a view of my little shrivelled dicklete! . More embarrassing exposure and small penis humiliation for me.  Now I decided to end the dare by jerking off right where I was outside at work.  I don't jerk off the traditional way, but always hump pillows to get off, thinking about being over a strict man's knees being spanked.   So right there in the grass I tried getting off by humping the only thing there, that shirt I left laying on the grass when I started the dare.  I paddled my ass again since I always get off thinking about being spanked, bringing the total number of paddle swats on the dare to about 200.   Here I am laying on the wet cold grass humping the wadded up shirt trying to masturbate right out in the open at work  The Jokari paddle is next to me and the sign saying to spank me is laying on the grass next to me.   It's now about 10 minutes before my college age employees are scheduled to start work!    The frost on the grass was starting to melt from the sun, and I got all wet since I was laying down in the damp grass trying to jerk off.   I couldn't get off because I was really cold now that I got all wet.   It was still below freezing outside and I'd been naked out there for almost an hour. It was now less than 10 minutes before my college age employees were scheduled to start work!  They certainly would have had fun finding the boss buck naked with a red spanked ass outside!     I walked back toward the first spanking spot where I left my clothes hanging on that post. Yes they were still there!   I really was worried about someone coming by while I was gone and taking all my clothes with them!  The power company meter reader was due by any day.   It would have been really awkward walking all the way home naked!  Especially with my coworkers arriving to work!  I would have had to walk naked right down the drive they came in on.   Walking back to the maintenace area, with the paddle in my hand and my shriveled up little dicklete exposed.   It could have been totally humiliating if my young employees were waiting there for me when I got back!   Or just imagine if they were holding all my clothes!   By the end, I had given myself about 200 paddle swats and had been walking around outside, buck ass naked, and spanked bright red, for about 50 minutes carrying only a spanking paddle and that sign. And I had walked naked at work for about a mile (1.6 km)  in distance.    I was shivering now because the frost that was on the grass from previous night had started to melt and I got all wet. When I got back to my clothes, I discovered Jordan's cruel plan of having me wear the boots. As I went to get dressed, I realized that even if I got caught near where I left my clothes, it would have been quite the comical spectacle, watching me stumble and fall, quickly trying to put my pants on over the boots and when that failed, trying to get the boots off before I could put my briefs and pants on again. All while someone was watching and laughing their ass off!  Or spanking me while I was trying to do it!   There was no easy way to get my pants back on without going through the time consuming process of unlacing the boots.   It would have given a spectator quite the show of my bent over red ass!   I was shivering at that time, and could barely stand up as I tried to unlace the boots and get them off before I could re-dress.  Jordan admitted that it was the reason for having me wear the boots and he hoped that someone did catch me out there. I'm sure if someone did, they would have taken that paddle out of my hands and put it to very good use. Especially after reading the sign!  You will hear how close the traffic is when you watch the video and I didn't realize just how visible I was from the county highway when I was out in the leafless woods that day until I drove by the area afterwards. I finished up just a few minutes before my young employees that got spanked themselves at home were scheduled to arrive to work. I'm sure several of them would have loved to put that paddle to good use on their boss's naked ass.   They certainly would have accepted the offer I made on the sign around my neck!    Am I'm sure it wouldn't have been the last time they spanked me either!  After I dressed,  I went back to get the cameras (hopefully they were still there). Those cameras would have made excellent blackmail material). I can only imagine how blistered my ass would have been if I actually ran into someone out there in those woods that morning with that sign around my neck saying that even I admitted I needed a proper spanking! When I went into town later that morning I was expecting someone to say that saw me out there. One of my biggest fantasies is to get spanked for real outdoors. I have to admit that being naked outside at work for almost an hour, spanking my own ass, was one of the most exhilarating things I've even done! It would have been humiliating enough getting caught naked, but it would have been really humiliating if someone caught me spanking my own ass out there! I wonder how long they would have sat in the distance and watched before they confronted me and spanked me themselves?  I do hope to get a real spanking outdoors in the woods someday!   Look for a video of the entire dare.  

Link to Part 1  Simple changes in position can make corner time a little more interesting for any audience watching and likewise more embarrassing for the one being spanked and standing in the corner.   As I mentioned in the first part of this series, basic corner time is spent standing in a inner corner where two walls of the room meet. One variation on corner time that increases the humiliation of the person being spanked is to have him stand against an outer corner of the room. Now the corner itself will not shield any part of him from exposure.   ​​Merely changing the location of corner time to an outer corner (as shown on the left) or the wall alongside of it (as shown in the right), greatly increases my exposure and humiliation during corner time!   Now not only is my red bottom in plain view, but so are my face, dick and balls. Anyone there witnessing my punishment can see the shame in my face and I can see how much they are enjoying my humiliation! And in the right photo and and the photos below, to my mortification I have a boner too! Yes everyone will know that I get sexually aroused by being stripped naked, soundly spanked, and put on display for everyone to see! A boy like me only deserves to be spanked harder, longer and in a more embarrassing way! The left and center photos above will be shown later in their entirety in Part 3 - the right photo is the cover photo for this blog exposing my face too for my maximum shame!  It is so humiliating to be standing naked and on display during a spanking with my dick rock throbbing hard telling everyone I get sexually aroused getting my ass spanked!   My boner also makes an excellent handle to lead me to where the spanking will take place!  It's certainly amusing for everyone else but horribly embarrassing for me! Growing up my friends never got an erection during a spanking but I got one every time I watched them get spanked.  I can't' even begin to tell you how humiliating it was!  I crave that shame now as an adult when I get stripped naked, get spanked and am put on display for others to see! ​ I firmly believe the purpose of corner time is to increase humiliation during a spanking and the more humiliating a spanking is - the more effective it is.  I did some research online to see what other people thought about corner time and many said that the purpose is to give the person being spanked, time to reflect on their behavior. However, when I'm in the corner during a spanking, I'm only thinking about how I'm naked and on display for the amusement of others!   Someone in one of the forums I visited today, summed it up perfectly.   Here's what he said, although I changed the gender of the person being punished to male like myself.   Corner time goes hand and hand with a spanking and ... can occur in the absence of a spanking. Whether corner time is universally applied I don’t know; however, its widespread use, at least as anecdotally reported, is testament to its importance. Allowing the miscreant to stand in the corner allows him to reflect on his misdeeds and is a form of rehabilitation. But this is a small part of the story. He can reflect quietly, by himself, in his room. Corner time of this nature is public display. Public display of a bare bottom that has been punished. Others occupying the house are free to lower their gaze and look at the bottom that has been chastised. The bottom may be pink or even crimson. Marks of a strap or other instrument of correction may be visible on the flesh. In some cases, as commented, non family members who visit may also view the results of the thrashing and some may, in their mind’s eye, imagine the ordeal the boy experienced as the strokes were applied–how did his body contort, how did his bottom clench and then relax only to clench again, what sounds issued from his mouth. Most importantly, the person whose bare bottom is so shamelessly displayed knows this, and whenever he encounters the visitor again, will almost always come to the correct conclusion that the former visitor will imagine him in his former state, his punished bare bottom displayed. They may lock eyes or the boy may avert his gaze out of shame, but the encounter will affect both persons. Another method of making corner time more humiliating for the boy being spanked is merely to have him thrust out his bare naked bottom.  When I'm in one of these positions, I know it's calling even more attention to the fact that my bottom has been spanked hot and red, and I'm sticking it out there for everyone to see.     Here I am ordered to spread my own butt cheeks wide apart to expose my own crack and hole to everyone there! Being forced to participate in my own humiliation will remind me of my exposure and make the corner time both more shameful and more effective of a punishment for me!  My naked body and the exposure of it are not something under my control during corner time!   I simply do as I'm told or my bottom gets spanked harder!  ​ Below my exposure and shame have been heightened even more. Since I acted like a naughty little boy and needed to be spanked like a naughty little boy, my spanker felt I should also look like a naughty little boy. So my "man hair" was shaved right off, in front of everyone! My hairless bottom and crotch look even more obvious against the rest of my hairy body.  I don't know about everyone else, but when I look at this next picture, the first thing I look at is my dangling ball sack and red butt cheeks.  But within moments my attention is repeatedly drawn right back to my hairless butt hole!     Yes, doing corner time like this, I know everyone is staring right at my boy hole, my most private place, blatently exposed!  And they are laughing about my exposure and enjoying the view. Just compare this picture to the previous one and notice how much more exposed I look with a shaved bottom!   From my own point of view, not only am I am being spanked like a little boy, but  I look and feel like one too! My shaved front side is also equally exposed during cornertime making it humiliating for me as others witness my punishment.  After all what's the point in shaving me if no one else sees me like that?   Corner time doesn't have to be facing the corner.  It can also be facing the room to make it even more shameful!   In this older photo of me above, I have to make eye contact with the audience after my crotch has been shaved and they see that now that I look like a little boy, I'm going to be spanked like a little boy bent over someone's knees!     They can all walk up to me and inspect me and I have to keep my hands behind my head.   It's fun for them and humiliating for me.   It's also more embarrassing because I can see the grins on their faces and know how much they're enjoying my naked shame!   It was much less embarrassing when my nose was in the corner and I couldn't see how much everyone was enjoying my humiliation!   Another older face picture of me around age 40, doing naked corner time with shaved pubes and a boner in front of a mirror!   Yes it drives the humiliation home making me look at myself naked, hairless and exposed.  Corner time doesn't need to be in a corner.  The point is that I'm naked and on display for both my humiliation and the enjoyment of others!   .  Yes corner time is meant to be shameful and humiliating.  Therefore it's best served in front of an audience.  The embarrassment, humiliation and shame of being spanked naked and being put blatantly on display for everyone to enjoy,  is a punishment in itself!   I have yet to experience the true shame and humiliation of being spanked and made to serve naked corner time in front of ordinary friends.  I know it will be embarrassing beyond anything I can comprehend and something I truly fear,  but it is also something that I both crave and deserve. Just thinking about the shame of a public spanking gives me a raging boner! Considering all the times in my youth that I enjoyed watching my friends get punished bare, it's something I truly deserve to experience myself, even now!  Perhaps someday that shame and humiliation will become a reality!   Currently my own experience with public spanking have been in front of other guys that were also into spanking.  I have yet to experience the total shame that the person spoke about in the forum entry that I quoted above.   Those last couple sentences of that quote are the most powerful of all.  If a regular friend witnesses my naked spanking and corner time, they will picture me that way every time they see me, just like I did (and still do)  when I saw my friends spanked. They will picture my exposed dick and balls, the bright red color of my bottom and any strap or paddle marks. And if my dick gets hard, they will forever picture my boner too, which I am certain I will be teased about for years!   They will recall the sounds I made as I am being spanked, and any pleading I make for the spanking to stop.   They will remember the naked spanking dance I do with my dick and balls flopping around as my bottom explodes in pain! But most of all they will remember the shame in my face and I will remember the excitement in theirs as they watch my naked punishment! Yes every time we see each other we will both remember!   And we will both remember it forever! While it's exciting to post naked face pictures of myself, its also scary.   I know that eventually, someone that knows me from ordinary life will see them and recognize me.  Perhaps that's exactly what I'm hoping for! When they do, they certainly should order me to report to them for the buck ass naked spanking I derserve.   Hopefully in front of a group of other people I know!  And they should use the spanking techniques I've posted about in my blog to make the spanking as humiliating as possible for me! 

You Should Strip Me Buck Ass Naked Link for Part 1 As I post more face pictures, I think I'm actually hoping a regular friend sees them, recognizes me, and wants to give me the naked spanking I deserve! The posts in this series are ideas for what someone should do to me to make my naked punishment as humiliating as possible in addition to the shame of getting a spanking!  The spanking itself is just part of the punishment.   Naked humiliation in front of others makes the punishment complete!   If someone recognizes me, I want to make sure they aren't shy and that they know I deserve to have them strip me and spank me in the most humiliating ways! They should even invite some other friends to participate to add to my shame! The photos in the posts, unless noted in the captions are actual photos of me, so enjoy my naked exposure!    When we meet, strip me totally bare.  Don't leave me with even a stitch of clothing on!   I mean not even my watch or socks left on.  I should be punished buck ass naked so I'm completely exposed in front of everyone.  Exposure and humiliation are an important part of any spanking.   If I'm being spanked, I deserve absolutely no modesty and any audience there will enjoy seeing me completely exposed, so spank me naked!   One option is to strip me yourself .   It's embarrassing for me, a grown adult to stand there like a little boy while you undress me letting me know I have absolutely no control over what's going to happen to me. It's also downright humiliating when I'm being spanked by a young man half my age, like in the photo below and he's undressing me himself!  Yes, I'm getting spanked, I'm going to be buck ass naked, and I have no control over how it all happens!     Don't hesitate to feel my bottom, spread my butt cheeks apart  or run your fingers through my crack and over my hole while you're undressing me.  It lets me know exactly how exposed and vulnerable I am, and reminds me that I'm not in control of my own body!   It will add even more to my shame!       I'll want my humiliation to be over as quickly as possible, but take your sweet time, undress me slowly and prolong my agony!     Let me see the smirk on your face as you undress me!   Tell me how much you're going to enjoy spanking my bare naked bottom raw red!       Don't even let me kick my briefs off.   Bend down and instruct me to lift my feet off the ground so you can personally remove my underwear.   I'll be embarrassed having your face almost touching me, knowing you're looking right at my exposed "boy parts"!   How humiliating to have the young spanker's face right in front of my boner as he removes my underpants.   The other option is that you could make me undress myself while you enjoy the show, instructing me to slowly remove my clothes, one piece at a time.  You could have me put my hands behind my head and slowly turn around so everyone can get a good look at me.   Some say it's equally embarrassing for me to participate in my own punishment, exposing myself because you ordered me to strip!   The series of photos below are of me being ordered to strip for a real punishment spanking. Adding to my shame there were eight men there watching my punishment and hearing me confess what I did as a teen and how I got away with it. Until that day! The other men were all eager to see me get the spanking I should have got when I was a teen!  In the first picture below, I'm sitting on a stool in only a pair of tighty whities confessing what I did and telling everyone how my dad should have spanked me for it 40 years ago.  It was quite the incredible feeling knowing those briefs were going to come right off and I was going to get spanked bare, right in front of everyone!  That was the first time I experienced that feeling of impending doom knowing my bare ass was going to pay for my actions with a spanking!  Something I knew should have happened to me many times in my youth but never did!   Something I enjoyed watching happen to my friends but never experienced myself!  Sitting there in my tighty whities getting scolded for my behavior knowing those briefs are about to come off leaving me completely bare in front of everyone for the punishment spanking they are all eager to see me get!   A grown adult spanked like a naughty little boy right in front of all of them!   It's certainly something I deserved many times before but always avoided.  I won't be avoiding it this time!  Imagine my shame as you order me to stand up and strip!   I hesitate as I hook my thumbs in the waistband of my briefs and start pulling them down, exposing myself as ordered for my spanking.  Knowing every set of eyes in the room are right on me, waiting for me to expose myself for their enjoyment!  Just the way I used to enjoy my friend's exposure when they got spanked!  Now the tables are finally turned! How embarrassing, it even looks like I have wet precum stains on my briefs.  I must be excited about the entire ritual of being lectured, stripped and the thought of the spanking I have coming!    First, my big bare bottom comes into view - the target of my punishment.  But everyone is also eager to see my penis pop into view, snagged in the waistband of my briefs.   Guys like me that only have an average or smaller size penis, are shy to have everyone see it.   But I'm going to be spanked naked and every part of me is going to be exposed during my punishment!  Total exposure is essential to an effective spanking.    Don't just have me pull my briefs down, have me take them completely off.   Spankings should be given buck ass naked.   That way my legs can be spread wide apart during the spanking exposing my crack and butt hole too.       Have me hand over those undies and put them with the rest of my clothes where I can't get to them.   Tell me I won't be needing any clothing for quite some time because I'm going to be bare naked for the duration of my punishment.   Boys like me that are being punished don't have any need for clothing no matter who drops by.  The more people that see me being punished bare, the more I'll remember to behave in the future!     You might just have me stand there exposed and bare while you describe what my punishment might entail.    I'll feel awkward,  full of nervousness,  unsure of what to do with my hands as I accept my fate.   I might even toy with my dick or balls out of nervousness.   But don't let me hide them! Out of nervousness I clench my penis and balls as I sit exposed in front of everyone hearing how I'm going to lose my pubic hair!   Or perhaps I'm subconsciously "playing" with myself right in front of everyone thinking about the shame!     Then have me stand bare in the center of the room with my hands behind my head and tell me how much you're going to truly enjoy turning my big bare bottom good and red!   Expose me front and back!   It's essential that the shame in my face is exposed too!   How humiliating that I have a boner because I'm going to get a spanking!  Someone like me that gets "excited" by spanking, deserves to be spanked good and hard in the most humiliating ways, and that's exactly what I'm going to get!  You're going to make sure of it!       Take a good long look at me from all sides and let me see the smirk of satisfaction spread across your face knowing you're about to make me endure the ultimate spanking humiliation and that you're really looking forward to it!  I'll remember that smirk every time we see each other in the future!   So many times I got off on thinking about guys like you getting spanked, knowing my own butt was safe from that kind of bare bottom discipline.  Now it's your turn to get off on personally seeing to it that I'm on the receiving end of what I thought was so fun to watch.   Now it's time for my spanking to begin.    Bend me over your knees and give me the most humiliating spanking of my life!   In Part 3 we'll discuss how to give an old fashioned over the knee spanking with a paddle or brush!    It will put an older boy like me firmly in my place! Link for Part 3 - Spank Me Over Your Knees Like A Naughty Boy

Many folks hit me up on hotbottoms.net, STH, SpankingTube, and other sites asking for more details about Daddy and me. They want to know how our relationship works day-to-day, and how CP is incorporated and still remains a healthy relationship. This afternoon I'm sitting on my sore, red fanny, and thinking about reaching out to those folks and letting them know what happened when we got back from our trip to Charlottesville. Here're goes.. Last weekend Daddy came into the living room while I was on the computer, and he turned off the music I was listening to. I was all, "Why'dya do that? I was listening to that." He had been pretty quiet all morning and had been thinking about our trip to Charlottesville we'd been on. He said "Really? You were? Well you're not now. Get to your room. March." OK, honestly, the specific words and instructions are a bit of a blur now, but that is more or less what he said. He ordered me to my room and told me to wait for him. In the past, I've argued and said, "Why? Why do I have to go to my room?" But after those discussions ending as a sign of disobedience and resulting in more intensive punishments, I've learned to do as I'm told when Daddy decides it's time to talk about something I've done. Turns out I was in trouble for making him (and us—he pointed out during the Spanking) look bad when we walked into a restaurant in rural Virginia when I demanded they serve us dinner at 9 p.m., but the kitchen had just closed. Here's what happened: We had been driving home and he pulled over in a hail storm and we ran inside. OK, I ran inside, but he just trailed behind. When they refused to serve us dinner, I apparently made a scene, which I do now kinda remember. Apparently, I said "These people won't f***ing serve us, and it's only 9 p.m. We might as well get out of here. These f***ing people." Daddy noted at the time that the people behind the counter were mortified, and there was a table of two parents with a 4-year-old girl sitting there finishing up right by where I'd mouthed off. But apparently I was more or less yelling, and it was supremely embarrassing for Daddy and the parents and everyone else was very uncomfortable. I'll be honest at the time, I really didn't notice. On reflection, writing to you now, Daddy has impressed upon me with The Stick and The Belt a lot of the detail that I'd forgotten. At the time, Daddy didn't say much. We just got back in the car and drove home. Later, he punished me when we got home—that's where this blogpost comes in... I was lying face down on my bed and just waiting after being sent to my room. Daddy tends to take his sweet time when it's Spanking Time, and so I was getting antsy. The Spanking Chair we have used for the last 5 years broke recently—or more or less became unstable from all the squirming and use (2 people aren't supposed to be on 1 chair that often, apparently). And so Daddy opened the door off the bedroom to the outside and grabbed a deck chair which has no side arms. He positioned it in the center of the foot of the bed and stood over by it looking down on my back, lying face down on the bed. I didn't look up. When Daddy looks me in the eyes, I avert my eyes a lot, so looking down makes getting in trouble a lot easier to deal with. Daddy sat down on The Spanking Chair. That's when I got real nervous, thinking I hope this discussion doesn't end up happening while I'm staring at the carpet. He spoke really slowly and firmly, "Get up, and get over here." In the past years I have often resisted getting a Spanking, because ultimately, I don't like getting Spankings, and I don't like cooperating at the best of times. Even though I love Daddy, I hate that he bosses me around during Spanking Time. Anyway, I got up and walked over, saying, "I still don't know why you had to turn off my music. I was listening to that and..." "What the hel...what did you just say? Again? More of this? We have something serious to talk about." He hauled me across his knee and instead of keeping my shorts and briefs up, he yanked them right down, tight,below my rumpus and began with a full force handSpanking on my bare bottom. He Spanked and Spanked and Spanked building up to a fast hand-driven paddling. I was more or less moaning and crying, but not squirming as much because that broke Daddy's last Spanking Chair, so.... I was careful to obey his Rules that he's set down during Spankings and not squirm so much. But it's hard to do when he really wallops my fanny like he was doing. After a sound Spanking, I was sent to The Corner which he has set aside in the bedroom for Cornertime. I stood there all shaken up, but knowing that if I'd just not mentioned him turning off the radio and staying focused on what he wanted to talk about, then I wouldn't be standing there all upset. Then after about 5 minutes or more, he came back in the room.  He began discussing my behaviour at the restaurant. And he addressed my cursing in front of a child, as being unacceptable and putting him and me in a bad light in a rural town. Daddy doesn't allow me to exhibit this kind of thuggish adult behaviour, and I guess not doing this is gonna now be more or less now a new Rule that I have to follow. No embarrassing us in public; no cursing in front of others where they can hear. I mean, I get it now, but at the time it seemed that I wasn't getting what I wanted at the restaurant, and I wanted Daddy's support, but he was NOT interested. They were not going to serve us (he pointed out they'd probably sent home the cooks) anyways. At any rate, after about 10 minutes in The Corner, he came back in the room and marched me over to the side of the bed with my shorts and briefs still below my red red heiney. He told me to pull out the bag where the Spanking Sticks are kept.  I didn't cooperate.  I think I even said, "No, Daddy, please. Please don't make me do that." He hates when I disobey during Spanking Time. I'm really not allowed to, so it results in what happened next. Daddy reached for the first thing he could find which was the Shoe Horn, a gift I'd brought him back from a trip I'd take to Europe. I didn't think he'd really use it as a Spanking Tool, though. But it was what was there. So, he didn't even move me back over his knee on The Chair, he just paddled my bottom right there, repeatedly, for what seemed like ages. I was hollering something awful, and he said a couple of times, "We have neighbors. You need to obey. You need to keep your voice down." But it was no use. I collapsed on the bed, to try to protect my heiney, and I just screamed into the comforter. But he doesn't allow me to collapse and get away from The Stick during Spankings, and so he stopped and waited until I stood myself back up next to the bed and put my rumpus out as he's made me do so many times in the past.  He didn't say a thing. After the many Spankings he'd administered, he doesn't have to anymore. I know what I'm required to do, especially if he is positioned over me with The Stick. But I couldn't help flinching from the Spanking Stick swats. At some point, he then decided to pull me off the bed and march me to the foot of the bed and had me bend over at a 90 degree angle. He told me to wait there bent over.  The wait is interminable when he does that. I hate how much time I have to wait. It makes me fill up with anticipation of the awfulness that's gonna come next. When he came in, I didn't see what he had in his hand, but afterwards I sure did. When it's Punishment Time he prefers not to use things that I prefer, he will use other things that I don't like. And The Belt is one of them. I knew he was upset about my behaviour and I knew that I had earned The Belt, but he never gets out The Belt, but he did this time. Maybe it's because it was in his closet, and I'd refused to open up the Spanking Tools bag that he keeps under the bed. I wonder if that's why I got The Belt. I hadn't considered that before...anyways... I tend not to look back because I know a Spanking from Daddy is gonna hurt real bad, and I don't like to think he'd use The Belt. But there was he standing there, apparently, with The Belt in his hand. And he began to tan my fanny for a good long time. I was just hollering with my open mouth yelling into the comforter, just hollering and hollering for a long time. My face was beat red by the end of it. My bottom was bruised, and sore and beet red, and at some point, Daddy stopped and told me to get back in The Corner.  He left again for a good long while while I sobbed into The Corner. I was shaking and when I turned round to look at my red fanny, I noticed the blinds to the window across the room were open and I had my back turned with my red fanny out, facing the shared back yard that was empty. Anyone from the condo could have seen if they went out back. The fence to the backyard was partially open too; it's not been closing properly lately. Anyone from the neighborhood who was walking down the alley in the back of the house would have seen a very odd sight. He had me standing there with my pants down for at least 10-15 more minutes. When he came back in, he said, "Come here right now." I left The Corner dreading what might come next, he was looking me square in the eyes but had no Stick in his hand. I just ran to him, through my arms around his shoulders and hugged him tightly—half hoping it might help me avoid any more Spanking. I was so upset. He made me apologize and promise not to do that again while we're out. Then he said, "Pull up your 'pants. Put that Chair back outside. Put away The Stick and The Belt. And come into the living room and get back to work." I struggled for a bit. I was still shaken, and my rump was super duper sore. I wandered around the room in my underpants and my head was spinning. I could see in the mirror how red my rumpus was. Just beet, beat red. I tried to get dressed again; I was slow at getting started again. Then I heard Daddy throwing sheets in the wash, and asked if I could throw my whites in. He let me. And I ran up to him, and I gave him a big kiss saying, "I'm sorry you had to Spank me today." He told me he was sorry he had to Spank me as well. Then he sent me back to my computer to get my work done, and he went back to his tablet to keep reading. Then a little later, he sent me on a chore to go to the Farmers Market to recycle our compost. You asked for a real life example of it, and so there it is, an example of how Domestic Discipline works in real time in our relationship. I hope you found it helpful and as real as I could tell it. I realize it doesn't seem very real, almost fictionalized, but it's not. It's just what happens in our DD relationship.   Don't want to bore folks and get too personal, but that's how it works in a Daddy/boy relationship like ours. Let me know your thoughts and if you have questions, concerns, input, or anything else I should know.  

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Last summer, I was recovering from the pandemic mindset of working way too hard. My way of dealing with not being able to go anywhere or meet anyone was killing myself with schoolwork. It made me finish my MA early which is great, but it wasn’t the best choice for my mental health. When things started opening, I decided to make the leap and move to Tel Aviv. I was hungry to meet people and connect with others (also I was horny and spanking hungry and wanted so bad to find a daddy already). I joined the local gay BDSM munch in Tel-Aviv (the core of my sexuality is spanko but I have a varied taste and I love other forms of BDSM as well). It’s a cool small community of like-minded people and I decided to give it a try. I came there a few times, and I met daddy there. I was sitting on the bar with my friend when he came in and he quickly found me and came straight to me. He is a little taller than me and was twice my age. He approached and asked politely for my name. I corrected he’s gendered language (in Hebrew first person language is also gendered) which he was very cool about. I was really flattered from the directness he was hitting on me. We had a few drinks and later in the discussion session we clicked. I jabbed him that he’s flirting with everyone and then he was like “am I?” and I said “yeah but I think you are only hitting on me” which people found funny. I felt I was really on my prime. He was also self-possessed, and I found the confidence he had about pursuing someone way younger than himself incredibly hot. In short – he gave me a full daddy vibe and I was having it. The end of that evening I came to him with a note with my phone number (which is still in the kitchen drawer). THE NEXT MORNING, I wake up at like 9 am and I find a text message from him which he sent in 7 am asking me out on a date. That was such a good vibe. I was so relieved that we didn’t have to go through all the silly game of “not looking too interested”. It also resonated with the mutual fondness of being unabashedly direct we were delighting in the previous night. I texted right away, and we set up a date at his place the next day (I know, dangerous but he was friends with the munch organizer which is someone I really trust so I felt good about that). I guessed that coming over to him meant we will have sex or a session. As I said I was extremely thirsty for both sex and spanking and I didn’t mind having either with him (to say the least). I wasn’t sure at all I wanted to date this man, though. As I said he was literally twice my age, and in a way better place financially than me (even though I also wasn’t in a bad place for my age). It seemed complicated. We had a wonderful evening in his flat. He happened to live 5 minutes away from me in the same neighborhood. We drank wine (which he makes as a hobby) and again I felt this cool connection to him just like in the munch. We have a lot in common. We both are very much about being direct and brutally honest. We also both are very much into pride as a way of navigating as queer people. Daddy came out at 15 in Israel in the 80’s which is kind of unheard of. Then I make a move on him putting my hand on his thigh and he is going on with this. Then he’s like “I just want to tell you that I don’t have any sort of sexual activity with people until the third date, as a rule”. This was very surprising (in a good way) especially in my circles in the gay community. I also really appreciated him setting up clear boundaries. It made me believe mine would be respected as well. So we talked about our fetishes and I learned we are compatible and I was in this stage extremely turned on (and really tried to show this in the strongest way I could without disrespecting his boundaries). We continued our lovely evening and in the end he walked with me home and we said good night. Fast forward one year we are in a domestic discipline dynamic and I am moving in with him officially this summer (after not sleeping in my own flat for like 4 months).

This was the 2nd time I'd met with this spanker and one of the few spankings I got that wasn't video recorded.   I'd always been intrigued with the idea of being spanked in bondage, helpless to resist what I had coming, but without knowing this spanker very well, I was a litte afraid to get tied up and worked out this scenario that I thought would be the next best thing.    On arrival, the spanker held a cardboard box in front of me and ordered me to strip and place all of my clothes in the box.    Everything went into the box, even my car keys!   He took the box into another room closing the door behind him, leaving me where I was, buck ass naked.   I had no idea where he put the box, but one thing was certain.   I was naked and I was staying that way until my spanking was over and he decided to give me my clothes back!   While I guess that I was free to leave at any time, I'd have to do so naked, with a red spanked ass!   We were in a small rural community with a population of 1500 people and were in the back room of his business.  It was on a U.S. Highway that was on the main street going through town!   There was no way I was going to leave naked and let everyone in that little town see that me a grown man, had been spanked like a bad little boy!   If I left, I'd have to walk down the main street of that town,  bare, with my bright red, freshly spanked bottom exposed and I was 20 miles from home!   In that small town, I couldn't help but think if the police picked me up, that they would either bring me back there and watch him spank me some more or bring me to the police station and keep me naked and give me another spanking themselves!  Or if someone else picked me up my fate could be even worse than what awaited me here!   So while I wasn't actually in bondage, it was just the same, I knew I'd have to take whatever spanking he decided to give me or suffer the humiliation of leaving naked and face the consequences that might be in store for me!   He laid a piece of countertop across two sawhorses, and the spanking started with me laying over a rolled up blanket with a towel over it.  He told me to masturbate right there in front of him and said he was going spank me with a belt until I came. That way there wouldn't be any sexual arousal for me during the rest of the spanking and it would be pure punishment for me.   I masturbate in a very humiliating way by humping pilows thinking about being ass up over a strict man's knees being spanked.   So I began the embarrassing task of humping the rolled up blanket, right in front of him, as he took the belt to my upthrust ass! It probably wouldn't have been so humiliating if I masturbated the traditional way.    My dick was pulled back between my legs so he could see when I ejaculated.  As my ass thrust up and down his belt came down over and over again!  My bucking, squirming bottom must have made an inticing target for him and his belt!  Once I ejaculated, I had the rest of my spanking waiting for me!  A spanking always hurts more after you c. u. m. !     Now the real spanking was about to start.  But first he let me lay there for a while as he went up front to take care of real business.  I started to wonder what I got myself into.  I looked around the room looking for a way out in case I had to escape. There was an overhead door that must have gone to an alley and the door didn't close all the way to the floor. There was about a 6 inch gap on the bottom.   That in itself was making me even more nervous as I kept thinking that someone walking down the alley would hear my spanking and watch through the gap under the door! There was also a walk door but I didn't know if it was locked or open.  There were also a few windows, that were up high, that I figured I could climb out of if I had to.  But who was I kidding, I had no clothes and my ass was spanked red!  I wasn't going anywhere!     He came back in and eagerly started spanking me a lot harder with the belt.  I had just shot my load  so I didn't want a spanking anymore, but I was getting spanked anyway!   Spanked until he was satisfied! . Yes I was free to leave at any time, but if I did, I'd have to do so naked, and suffer the humiliation of letting everyone in that little town know I'd been spanked at my age! Each time he came back in he'd take some photographs of me and my red ass! After several minutes he walked up front again, leaving me there to think about my situation again.    I heard the UPS truck pull up and he was talking to the driver.  I wondered if the driver knew I was in the back room naked, getting a spanking.   I wondered if they'd both walk through the door so the driver could see me naked and watch me get spanked.  There was also a guy mowing some grass right outside the overhead door.  I could swear he could hear me getting spanked!    My thoughts were interrupted when he came back in and spanked me again.  This time with a paddle.   I couldn't help but think how the overhead door wasn't closed all the way and while I knew the guy mowing couldn't really  hear over the noise of the mower,  I couldn't help think that somehow he knew I was in there getting a spanking!   After spanking me for a while he walked out again, leaving me laying there naked, with a bright red, throbbing hot bottom.   Or what if someone was walking down that alley and heard the paddle smacking my ass and looked under the door?   I looked around the room again wondering if I'd ever get my clothes back.   At this point the spanking was getting intense and I started to think what a bad Idea it was to be in this situation.  Yeah I was naked and pretty much at the mercy of this spanker!   If my clothes were there in the room with me, I could get dressed and leave, but I was naked and had no way of getting dressed.   And he had my car keys too.   All the time I spent alone, thoughts went through my mind wondering what was going to happen to me.  It was as bad as the spanking itself!   After leaving me there for another 10 minutes thinking the worst,  he came back in and took the belt to my ass again.   He was belting me hard!   He stopped just as I thought I couldn't take any more and he walked out again. Then about 15 minutes later he came back and spanked me again.    I wondered how much longer this was going to go on.  My butt was really sore.   That's when he told me he'd be back to give me the OTHER HALF of my spanking, and walked out again!   He came back in again carrying the box of my clothes and told me I could have them back after one more spanking.    I was definitely sore when he finished that last spanking, and after I got dressed we both went up front.  I found out the front door to the business was unlocked and anyone could have walked in while he was spanking me!  I couldn't believe he didn't even lock the front door!  It was pretty intense.  I'd have to say it was the closest thing to being tied down for a spanking without actually being in bondage.  While I could have left at any time, if I did, I would have totally humiliated myself!   I always kept my identity a secret when I met with spankers.  But I found out when I went back out to my car, that one of those times he left me alone in the back room,  that he must have taken my car keys out of my pocket and went through my car and found where I put my driver's license.  He knew who I was now and where I lived!    My driver's license was sticking out from where I had hid it in the car!  He never did or said anything about it.   He actually had more to lose than I did  with public exposure.   He was involved in politics in that little town.    He did actually put me in real bondage and spank me during a later meeting, but that's another story.      

I described the photo manipulations my buddy Jeff in Florida made depicting my fantasies of court ordered judicial spankings in my last blog post.   https://southspanking.com/groups/adblog/852/a-woodshed-style-strapping/ The Woodshed Style Strapping video I posted of the real ass strapping I took to get the photo Jeff used to make one of those photos, could be looked at like a judicial kind of strapping. It had many of the elements of a judical punishment.  I was bound and helpless to resist the spanking.  I was naked. The strapping was fairly hard.  It went on until the spanker thought I had learned my lesson!   The only thing missing was the audience.  The public element!    I did have the spanker's friend there to watch and help strap me but it wasn't truly a "public" audience.  I've always fantasized about the judicial system giving the option of a humiliating public spanking in lieu of jail time or a fine for minor offences such as traffic violations or minor thefts.   In my fantasies, the offender is stripped naked either right there in court or at a designated time in the town square and spanked in public for everyone to see.  The festivities might be televised on the local cable station so those that can't watch in person can still view the spankings and perhaps there might even be an online archive of the spankings available to memorialize the spankee's shame!  The local newpaper would send a photograper there to capture the event for a newspaper story too!    Yes a judicial spanking would be a big event especially in a smaller community!   Except for a few of us, the public humiliation would most likely curtail future crime. Once a few people are spanked in public other's might not be so eager to break the law  While I'm not sure I would opt for such a humiliating punishment unless the circumstances were right, the thought of it is quite intriguing!  Perhaps something like the risk of a repeat traffic violation on my driving record that could result in the loss of a drivers license or an increase in insurance rates, might motivate me to choose being spanked rather than have the ticket go on my record.  Even for a spanko like me, if the punishment is public enough and humiliating enough it could discourage me from future inappropriate behavior.  But if the alternative penalty is harsh enough and involves more than just money, it could make me opt for a humiliating public spanking rather than simply paying the fine.  My fantasies about this topic were peaked again when I was watching an old episode of "The Practice" on Amazon Prime last week.  While not quite a judicial spanking, it was close!   In this episode of the old courtroom drama, a defendant was a building superintendant and got caught hiding a video recorder in a bathroom air vent in a tenant's apartment.  He posted the naked videos he took of her online.   The judge, recently having sensitive photos of herself posted online, told him he just got the wrong judge and ordered him to stand up and drop his pants and underwear to his ankles right there in court!   Then the judge tells him he hasn't got much to show up front, so he should turn around and let everyone in the gallery see what little he has to show down there!   To exacerbate his humiliation, she orders a continuance and when he starts to pull up his pants she tells him to leave them right where they are - around his ankles - and tells the bailiff to escort him out of the courtroom bare ass, right through the gallery and out into the hallway and back to jail bare!    The only thing that would have been better in my eyes, was if the bailiff was ordered to spank him and then walked him out of the courtroom with an exposed red blistered bottom!    My friend that did the photoshop pictures of me in the Woodshed Style Strapping blog post made another series of judicial spanking photos.  Those scenes depicted an actual courtroom spanking.  He's also interested in judicial corporal punishment themes.   The guys in these photoshop artwork pictures are stripped naked in court and had to wait for the previous defendant to get strapped or birched while they watched and waited their turn.  In my case, I would have got a humilation boner standing there watching!  I'm sure sentences like that would invoke a lot of public involvement in the court procedings, and the humiliation of the scenario might curtail a lot of crime.  It's certainly not manly for a grown adult to get spanked like a naughty little boy in public!  Here's a couple of the Photoshop artwork pieces my friend created.  Yes the theme of public spankings really does turn me on so I created a couple of my own photo manipulations with some pictures of me getting some court ordered discipline.  I'm not nearly as good at it as my friend Jeff but Jeff stopped creating these photos and I had to make some of my own.   One is a rear view and one is a full frontal view.  I'm fully exposed in both.   This first one "artwork" photo is of me given a public enema prior to a court ordered spanking in the town square. I started out with a photo of me bent over the hood of my car and added in the background and the other people. The first photo below is the original picture of me that I started with.  Yes, I got naked outside at home, in my driveway with a red spanked ass, where some neighbors could have seen me!  The second one is the resulting photo manipulation.  In this scenario, the streets around the town square are blocked off for the big event so the offender (me) is bent over the hood of my car in the middle of the street. A young citizen that I know is chosen to give me the enema to make it even more humiliating.  This is especially effective for older offenders like me. The young shirtless guys were chosen by the court, and could be subordinates from my workplace to witness my naked humiliation up close and personal and really drive the shame home!    That would make the punishment worse and make me reluctant to repeat the offense.   There's nothing more satisfying, for the college age guys that work for me, than to see their boss naked and give him an enema and a humiliating spanking! The newspaper photographer is there taking pictures of the punishment as well as the local cable station filming it for those that want to watch at home!   I've always believed that the humiliation of a spanking is as important as the spanking itself.  Things that expose the person being spanked to the view of others and increase his shame make the spanking remembered long after the sting fades away.  For instance, with something like corner time, there's no reason to put someone in a corner if no one is going to see him there!   Anything that adds additional embarrassment to a spanking makes it more effective.  For me, being given an enema during a spanking would be a horribly humiliating experience. Not only is there the anal penetration of the enema nozzle, but even worse is expelling the solution in front of someone!     I'm very shy about going to the bathroom where others are around to hear the sounds and smell the odors!  I'm even shy about using a urinal in public!   I can only imagine the horror of being given an enema and being told to hold it while being spanked, knowing the inevitable release is going to happen.  The spanker knows it's coming too and prolongs the spanking so I can't help but make a public spectacle of such a personal and private moment!  The humiliation and shame will be part of my punishment and my humiliation.  The next photo manipulation is another one I made of myself being inspected prior to being locked in a pillory for a public strapping in the town square.  It's one of those photos I spoke about similar to the ones that my friend Jordan wanted me to post online.  A recent fully exposed picture, naked head to toe with my face showing!   I'll be posting a lot of face pictures in my blog.   It's both scary and exciting.  Perhaps I'm hoping someone I know from vanilla life will see them and recognize me.  If they do I hope they will insist on giving me the humiliating naked spankings I deserve!  Being spanked by someone I know and have to face on a daily basis would be the ultimate spanking humiliation!  If some friends saw my photos and approached me I wouldn't resist and would strip and accept any spankings they wanted to give me!   In this fantasy picture, I'm in the town square and a pillory is set up to carry out the punishment.   But before the belt whipping starts, my genitals are fondled to induce an embarrassing erection!   Kind of like pre game entertainment! The local cable station is filming again and the shirtless guys were chosen again from my place of employment.   They are more than willing to take their belts to their boss's bare ass!     Any attempt at retaliation will result in another public belt spanking at work, right in fornt of all my coworkers.   The young employees are encouraged to take photos and video and tease me when we get back to work. I'm sure they will post it on social media too!  My naked humiliation is a big part of my punishment.   After I've get a good hard boner for everyone to see, I'll be secured in the pillory and all four men will take turns blistering my bottom with their belts. By the time they start the crowds will have gathered and the town square will be filled with spectators to watch my spanking and cheer on the men wielding the belts..   A public spanking is definitely what I deserve.   I often saw others get spanked bare or naked in a public setting and thoroughly ENJOYED their shame and humiliation!      I would get rock throbbing hard watching my buddies asses turn bright red and I always had an ear to ear smirk on my face watching them get spanked.   I felt bad for them, but at the same time, I enjoyed their shame and humiliation. It was that humiliation of being spanked right in front of my smirking face that turned me on the most!   They wanted to see me endure the same fate, but never got the chance to see it. I always wondered how they felt being exposed and spanked right in front of me!    It's that shame and humiliation of a public naked spanking that I have always craved the most.   To this day, it's the  humiliation of being stripped, exposed and reduced to the state of a naughty boy getting a spanking, at my age that still turns me on the most!   For all the times I watched others endure that shame and then went home and jerked off thinking about it, I deserve to be on the receiving end of  a very humiliating public spanking myself.      View my other blog stories here: https://southspanking.com/groups/need2botk/adblog/