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Folks, So I am just going to come out and say this, we are an all-inclusive site, period. Do we have Gay members, YES, do we have straight members YES, do we have transgender members YES and do we have Female members YES. If you do not like a photo or a video or a comment, then you can personally choose not to watch it or view it and can block content from members you do not wish to see.   It really is that simple. If you want to be an banned word .. then leave .. just go, because you are not wanted here. What possible pleasure can you get from disrespectful and abusive behavior huh?   Get a life .. and so you know there is zero tolerance for this, and why?  Because I said so and as I own the site, that is the way it is, period.  If you don't like my explanation, well too bad for you. I do not often get angry but tonight I am pissed, just think about tolerance, think about inclusion and think very, very, hard on what being a 'bigot' means.  Those with such short-sighted minds, well God help you. Enough Said James AND Denis

Hello everybody, I hope you are all well during this crazy time that is upon us all.  Not only are we dealing with this pandemic, but we have a presidential election and of course we are coming up on holiday season.  I have a lot to tell you, and I am pretty excited about it.  Now before I get into it all, I do have to talk about the subject I dread the most, site funding.  Its always a source of embarrassment for me personally, and its something I would much rather avoid.  That said, I have learned the hard way, the longer I put it off, the worse the situation becomes. Previously I have simply pulled out the begging bowl and I do not want to do that anymore, so I am going to try something different.  I have created a new membership group called “Community Supporter”.  Everyone can choose to upgrade to this group by making a one-time payment of a minimum of $25, and that will last for as long as the site does.  You will get a small icon on your profile page together with the text ‘Community Supporter’, this is done automatically. Somethings I want to point out: You can upgrade by clicking on the upgrade button on the menu bar. When you upgrade, the charge will show as Arizoy LLC – the site will not be mentioned on your statement.  This is of course to protect your privacy. I am working on different payment gateways but for now Pay-Pal is the only option.  You do not need a Pay-Pal account though and can simply checkout as guest. If you have made a donation ever to the site of $25 or more, you will be upgraded.  I will do this manually, but it will take a bit of time.  Once I have finished, I will post as such and anyone I missed can then get in touch with me and I will fix it for them. You can choose the minimum of $25, or more, but there is no difference or additional benefits, if you choose to go higher.  I am keeping it simple.  When you think about $25 for life is pretty good value, when some sites charge around that or higher for just one month. It is a onetime payment, there is no reoccurring charge and the options will no longer appear under the upgrade button. I am hoping, this will allow the site to become self-sufficient, as we would only need a percentage of future members to upgrade their memberships in order to do so.  If we need to encourage further, we do have options such as restricting the videos, either by number or minutes to non-supporting members.  This would really be a last resort though, as I seriously want to keep the site free for everybody. With Black Friday and Cyber Monday, coming in the next few months, I would love to see enough upgrades so we can take advantage of the deals, possibly even snagging a server for a year, that would be awesome! Okay, I am so glad that’s over with …. now onto the good stuff! (dang I sounded boring in all of that)! Right you are, we are going for a major upgrade, which is currently in the testing phase on our backup server.  I will be inviting some of you to trial it for me and help identify any bugs etc.  I am funding the upgrade out of my own pocket, but this will be the last time I can do so.  This is by order of hubby whom wields the hairbrush. So here are some highlights: Its going to be faster. It will have a progressive web app, for those using tablets, cell phones etc. Again, with those using mobile devices, you will be able to download a generic app for both Android and Apple, though the respective stores. We will be using HTML 5 for videos. Chat system will be new and improved. Groups are getting a huge overall. You will be able to have password resets by email, but this will be constrained to only password resets. Photos and Albums are being revamped and will be much easier to navigate. You will have a favorite system, where you can mark any items you choose as a ‘favorite’ and then access the all from a new tab page. A few other surprises

Another in our Learning by Doing Series Tips for (New) Tops!* Another in our "Learning by Doing" Series by BigDaddyVegas and RedSpkScott Tip #1 Follow Your Commitment Make Sure You're Compatible Before You Meet If you take the time to talk with somebody and establish a wonderful scene you're going to commit to. If you are hosting, have your place ready to go, when your spankee arrives. spankees, when you come for a Spanking, arrive on time. Do not be super late. spankees, do your best to not let fear slow you down and prevent you from getting the Spankings that you need. Tip #2 Make Sure You're Compatible. Weed out the flakes—a lot of guys only reach out when they're horny—weed out the flakes. Tip #3 Arrive Prepared With Your Bag of Your Spanking Implements You wouldn't show up to a construction site without a toolbox. Baseball types of bags work well, because you can put canes and longer thinner items in there. They're easy and mobile. Tip #4 Test Your Spanking Implements Before You Use Them It's important Tops have a feel for how bad or what a Spanking Tool feels like. Some Spanking Tools can leave you black and blue if you are not paying attention. Learn that first. So, know how to use your implements before you apply them across the seat of a guy you are Spanking. Tip #5 Build and Use Your Spanking Implement Repertoire Practice With The Belt Before You Use The Belt Straps you can usually tell by the weight and the length. Belts and straps can wrap around the hip and ruin a scene. Practice for accuracy. I'm still not perfect, and I use them all the time. First, buy yourself a high quality belt and practice with it. Do not think you can pull a guy's pants down and think you'll be good with a belt right away. It's not going to happen. It's not the way Daddy did it when you were 12 years old and stole a bicycle. Know how to use The Belt before you use it. Paddles can vary greatly. Thicker versus thinner paddles will matter depending on who you are Spanking. For example, a small, thick paddle can be far too much for a new guy.    I recommend using the Jokari paddle in your paddle kit, and now you at least have the Spanking Industry Standard. And folks will know the sound of the Jokari paddle. It's versatile, you can go light with it, and you can break in a new bottom. Or you can really go to town on an experienced guy, but you have just the one paddle. Tip #6 Identify Spankings Locations You don't have to meet at your home. Meet at a public area first—a pub, a Starbucks, etc. It's a good safety precaution. If you don't have a home to go to, try the public Spanking parties or a hotel room. Don't Inadvertently Get SWATted. If you are using paddles in a hotel room, be aware of the noise. If you use a Jokari paddle at full force, it can sound like a .22 gun going off, so be careful, so Aunt Mary next door doesn't call the police saying, "I think I heard shots fired." Avoid being SWATted by an actual SWAT team! Tip #7 Manage Noise  I have a bottom who I have bringing a switch. Those are pretty quiet. Small carpet beaters are really good, because they also do not make a lot of noise. Paddles and bathbrushes will work over jeans, but not bare. You can always turn on the TV, the radio, or turn on the water in the bathroom. If you have to Spank in a hotel room, between 2 to 4 p.m., the hotel is least occupied, so it's primetime to get a Spanking. If you talk to the guys at the registration desk at the hotel, tell them you'll be having a party in your room, and tell them if they could put you away from other guests, that'd be great.    Tell them up front. Tip #8 Develop Good Communication Communicate Well, Then Spank. When you communicate and you are both in sync, then you will always have a better time. So, if you are both into Teacher/student scene, then it'll be great. But if the Top is really into Daddy/son or no roleplaying at all, then it really doesn't work well. Tops need to know, assume that just because you're the Top, your fantasy will be sufficient for the bottom. That's not the case. If you accommodate the bottom, the more in sync the bottom is with you, the more the bottom will relinquish control and be able to play more the way the Top wants to. Do not get super intense—including grabbing, choking, faceslapping, or other "liberties"—without clear, usually verbal permission from the bottom.    [Not doing so] can result in a complete scene killer. Tip #9 Ensure a Great Warm-up Great Spankers will Spank less to begin with, so you can get your boy to have the endorphin rush. That will help extend the scene much longer. Prepare the bottom first. I may use a belt over his jeans first, to warm him up to get the anticipation flowing of what he thinks he'll get. Once you get to know a guy and establish trust, these Rules obviously develop as you progress and familiarize with one another. Tip #10 Use Humiliation Effectively Humiliation Can Work Find Out How! I really encourage humliating guys in public. One way to do this is to use effective Cornertime technique. You can take a bottle cap, credit card, and have your bottom put the object against a wall or The Corner and then put their head [nose] against it [to keep it off the ground and against the wall]. Talk to them as sternly as you want to. You do not have to touch the boy just be complete in his presence. They know you are there. If you want to engage them, Spank them with your hand. That is never the wrong move.    Make the boy keep the bottle cap or credit card against the wall or The Corner with his head/nose—you can even have them put their hands on their head while you stand there. Spank your boy, if he loses his focus or attention with your hand. That'll snap him back into your reality, and you can keep the scene completely in motion even though the Spanking isn't going on in that moment. * Compiled from the December 2017 "DudesSpankingDudes" podcast. "Big Daddy Vegas and Red Spank Scott provided a bunch of "Tips for Tops" about the kinds of things tops, especially less experienced Tops, should plan for when playing with a new dude."       Please comment below or email us with your ideas   aok4otk@aol.com or cornertimeconf@gmail.com ______________________________________ Follow Cornertime Confidential Wherever You Are:   Tumblr  ∙  SouthSpanking ∙  Twitter  ∙  WordPress

I thought I might ask you guys whether you think the following punishment scenarios that I have experienced are FAIR, UNFAIR, TOO MUCH or TOO LITTLE.   Before I list them though let me explain a little about my relationship with Denis, he is my husband but also my dad and takes my discipline quite seriously.   I gave him my consent and accept discipline with the understanding that he has the ultimate authority, decides on punishments and is the final decision maker, he doesn’t expect perfection, but I can and am held to high standards.   All my punishments start with a lecture, dad ensures I am listening and that I understand why I am being punished. He always listens to my thoughts and opinions, and that is important to me because I need to be heard.  It’s also very difficult for me to admit I have been naughty and apologize for it, and take my punishment, but I do anyway.   Scenario one:  I am on the computer, kind of playing around when I hear him call ‘James come here a minute please’ to which I reply ‘in a minute’, well fifteen minutes or so go by (I was busy right?) and my ear is suddenly seized as I am marched into the lounge, where the spanking chair has been pulled out and punished with spanking with the hairbrush for being disobedient.   Scenario two: I was told not too mess around with the pool. Specifically, the chemicals but had a go anyway, it just didn’t look clean enough to me.  I sort of made it bubble and foam, okay quite a lot really. I got three hard spankings, with corner time, one for disobedience, one for messing up the pool and another because its dangerous to mix pool chemicals together.   Scenario three:  Caught speeding and given a ticket, dang traffic school sucks!  I was going a little fast at over 80mph.  I got grounded every weekend for a month, got the strap and brush and evening bedtime spankings, every night for the entire month.   Scenario four:  Took a tantrum because I didn’t want to visit his aunt, okay I did accidently knock over one of those little Xmas ornaments, at least I think it was an accident.  I was Spanked and then made to go anyway and when we got back later that night, I got another spanking and sent to bed early .. I did not like that!

I hope everyone had a nice Xmas and that the new year finds you all in good health.   I will be in Europe in 2024, visiting and sampling the spanking chairs of some wonderful members of this site.  I guess if I behave, I might not get too much spanking, but where is the fun in that?  A boy has to be naughty sometimes, right?   I am also hoping to meet some of our American members either by visiting them or inviting them here to our home in Arizona.   We have a vibrant and wonderful community, with men from all ages and walks of lives.  I never judge anyone by their looks or their age, for me its all about personality and friendship.  I have been over the knees of guys more than twice my age, some that are younger than me, some that are thin and some that are large.   Before anyone shoots me down, there's large, there's thin, there's medium, there's stocky, there's lanky, there’s a million possible things that make up a man’s body type. I have learned over the years that there is no telling who you are going to be attracted to for spanking until you learn that for yourself.  It should be immensely satisfying being spanked by another person, just be happy and stop trying to rationalize every feeling you have. All humans have the innate right to feel attracted to whomsoever and whatsoever they wish, none of it needs any excuses or any justification - we want what we want.   There is always going to be the judgmental crowd and to them I say – take your superiority complex and your omniscience knowledge of other human being’s hearts, souls and sexuality, pick a corner and stand in it, stay there and do all a favor.  We don’t need you telling us about God, science or the genome pool, or how our DNA is corrupt, just chill!    Hugs   James

It is an interesting question and one that does happen from time to time in my life.   I suppose really it does depend on the relationship, in my case it is 24/7 with domestic discipline.  We have rules and if I break them then I am subject to being disciplined, but I agreed to these rules.   We do have a fail safe of course, and that is that the rules and associated punishments can be discussed, altered and even removed, however only on a Sunday during my weekly behaviour review.  This was to ensure I did not use a kind of veto to avoid punishment, and again it is by mutual agreement.   I think one of the wisest statements my partner and dad ever said to me was 'You do NOT live to be spanked, and you are not supposed to either".  That actually makes a lot of sense.   Still there are times when I know I have been a naughty boy, but I just really do not want to be spanked, and I mean that.   The last time, this happened and dad told me 'Get the spanking chair our and put your nose in the corner', well I refused!!   I stomped my foot in frustration and Yelled "No, you are not spanking me and that is final."   Okay, I know what some of you are thinking, yes I was taking a bit of a tantrum, yes I was being disrespectful and yes I was being disobedient - no question about any of that.  I will tell you what happened, but please do feel free to share if you think it was fair (or not) and if you are a dad / top how you would have handled the situation.   I got pulled into a tight hug, and we just stood there together, occasionally dad would pat the seat of my shorts, we huged for quite a few minutes before he led me to the kitchen table and sat me down.   We talked a lot, especially about why I didn't think I deserved to be spanked, I guess at times I even whined but dad said to me (another wisdom statement) "As your dad and partner, it is my role to administer the discipline, you need, not what you WANT and you need to be spanked.  Would you really respect me if I just let you off every time you didn't want to be punished?"   Of course we all know that answer to that.   I was spanked shortly afterwards and had a decent sob over his knees and got it again at bedtime for taking a 'tantrum.'   YET the weird thing is I felt so damned good the next morning, I mean I felt on top of the world, sure my bottom was still a bit red and I was kept bare bottomed until the afternoon, but I didn't even sulk or complain ... its strange what a good spanking can acheive ... makes me wonder if sub-consciously I just needed to be taken in hand that day! :)    

Well, everyone, I figured it is about time that I posted an update on our recent down-time, and our progress in getting things back to normal. The first thing I need to emphasize is, this was NOT an upgrade, even though you may see things showing a little differently, or new features, I can promise you, these are not intentional and more related to getting the site back online. Our main server basically failed, and it was pretty much OS related.  In order to get things back again, the normal restore process I used also failed.  This left us in a pretty bad situation.  After trying various methods, including using the latest release of the script, I was able eventually to get the site back. However, as you will have noticed not everything is displaying properly or working correctly, such as on mobile devices, for example chat and feed.  Sometimes the login box does not work correctly either and a number of other bugs are present. In order to get everything back to normal, will mean further down-time and that is going to be unavoidable.  I am planning to do this, sometime next week, BUT I will be posting at least 24 hours in advance and providing a status page you can all access to see when the site is back online and its progress. Once we get this completed, the site will be back too normal and it will have some additional features, but they will all actually work this time.  Again, please note this will not be a major upgrade. Our main planned upgrade will mean all mobile devices will have 95% access to ALL site features.  This is a work in progress and I am using a test site to facilitate this transition.  I expect this to be implemented at the end of May, and again I will keep you all in the loop on this one. Thanks for everyone’s patience!   James and our Amazing Admin team.

Some thoughts on spanking technique. As a switch, obviously, I approach spanking from both sides. And of course everyone is different; has different preferences for positions and implements, different fantasies, different levels of pain tolerance. To have a successful spanking encounter, that will likely be repeated, it’s important for the spanker to get and act on some basic information from the boy, because if he gets what he both wants and dreads in his heart of hearts, he’ll be satisfied and want to do it again and again. Assuming he really is “into this” ...there are guys out there who have it in their head they want to get spanked but in reality they have no stomach, or rather, butt, for it. There are some common elements, though, that usually help make it work. For shorthand, written from the top’s perspective. Know what fantasy elements you’re going to do. Most guys like at least a little bit of a context of punishment; it can go all the way from just an attitude to a full on role play scenario. And it’s not always age play, like father/son or teacher pupil. Some guys like to be dominated by a peer or master. You need to find this out. I believe that the best tops are very versatile; it’s the bottoms that have particular needs. Of course, again, everyone’s different, so there are exceptions even to that. Warm up. Start skin to skin, bare hand to bare bottom, hard but not too hard, and spank for a few minutes, then take a break. This gets endorphins flowing. This can be OTK, but it doesn’t have to be. If he prefers standing, bend him over a stool or back of a couch and spank him in that position, but with your hand first. Don’t pitty pat… spank pretty hard; hard enough to get a red bloom on his butt. (Very dark skin doesn’t redden, but the color deepens). Give him a break, to let this sink in, even though you’ve just started. Two or three minutes is enough. Corner time or standing against a wall if it feels right. Then switch to what gets him cranking. Whether it’s a paddle, strap, belt, cane, whip, or whatever, introduce the implements and use them in sessions, not switching back and forth too often. Maintain a steady rhythm when spanking. Rhythm is extremely important, and one of the areas where a lot of spankers fall down on the job. Bursts and interruptions for butt rubbing may be appreciated by some guys, but mostly, in my experience, not. Find a groove. Where there’s enough pain that you’re getting vocal feedback, even a little squirming, but where you can spank and keep on spanking. Only make him count if you know that works for him. Some guys really don’t like it; it’s a distraction. The spanker can count, silently, if it helps. Implements relate to velocity. You can spank fast with hand, paddle, brush, even belt and strap. Slower, more like swats, if standing, with a paddle, cane, switch, birch, flogger, cat or other whip, etc. If you’re spanking OTK, it really helps to spank steadily and not too slow. It doesn’t have to be as hard as you can, because even a fairly moderate level of intensity will build to a rip roaring red ass after 200 or 300 smacks… and that’s not too many. If you don’t do it this way, try it. Even 500 or 600 is quite doable with most guys if they’re real spankos. Rotate to other implements in increasing order of intensity; you might give little or even longer breaks in between, depending on how long and intense a spanking it is. This is really basic, but it’s important: avoid anywhere near the coccyx, distribute your smacks, licks or swats so both cheeks are equally covered (remember that the cheek farther away gets more leverage, so you need to adjust to make sure you aren’t focusing too much on it and not enough on the other one). Spank the sit spot, but not only the sit spot. Spank the upper thighs, but only if you know that works for him; some guys really just don’t like it, and sure, your job is to punish his butt, but in the end we all do this because we want it, and if somebody consistently does something we hate, it’s not conducive to a good spanking relationship. Generally, build. Sometimes ease off a little then pour it on; don’t want to be too predictable, but most times the logical progression is towards a climax, where the ending is very intense, right up to the edge of what he can take, and stay at that edge as long as you can. This may only be a few swats, or it may be half the spanking. It just depends. I always feel that an adult male spanking that doesn’t last a good ten minutes isn’t quite successful. Some can last much, much longer. And last but not least, don't forget Aftercare. A quick hug, some more extended holding or massaging, or even helping him get release... it depends on you (and him), but a little sign that you care about him and his experience is part of it. 

A spanking is much more effective if the person being spanked is embarrassed and humiliated during the spanking.   My spanking friend Jordan once told me that the pain of a spanking is temporary but the shame of a spanking lasts forever.   Jordan's dad knew this and so did the teachers where I went to high school.   The embarrassment and humiliation of a spanking lasts long after the sting of the spanking fades away.   That's why Jordan's dad spanked him naked in the living room in front of his younger brothers and even his own friends, and that's why the teachers in school paddled a guy in front of the entire class.   In fact the gym teachers often waited to paddle a guy until he was buck ass naked in the showers.   Jordan told me how embarrassed he was when he got a boner before his spanking and it ended up pulled back between his legs for his brothers or friends to see as he bucked and squirmed over his dad's knees.   As he kicked and squirmed, even his butt hole was on display.   Likewise when a guy in school had to bend over, grab his ankles, and spread his legs wide apart for a paddling in the locker room, his dick, balls and his hole were in full view of the entire class.   Those teachers always made a show out of paddling a guy's ass.     The photo above from the web shows the way a guy had to "assume the position" for a paddling in the high school locker room if he got paddled in the showers!    There were four classes of 25 students taking gym and showering at the same time, everyone naked, all watching the show the teacher was putting on spanking the guy!   You could see his dick and balls dangling down between his legs, his face looking back and even his butt hole exposed!   Everyone watching was excited.  The paddled guy's humiliation was a major part of his punishment!   Then he had to go back and finish his shower with his red paddled ass on display for everyone to tease him about!   Yes it was all about public humiliation!     The spanking chair helps expose a "boy" being spanked, making a show out of his spanking, adding to his shame and humiliation. That in turn makes him remember the spanking long after the pain of the spanking goes away.   The shame of the spanking will be remembered every time he sees his friends or siblings knowing they saw him spanked in such a humiliating way.  Every time they see him, a smirk will spead across their faces and they will think about his red spanked bottom, and how exposed he was.   That image of him will be burned into their minds forever, and they'll always remember how he was stripped naked and spanked.  He'll remember just how humiliating it was and they'll remember just how hilarious it was!     A guy can be spanked in the spanking chair, or it can be used to completely expose him during corner time.        Here I am kneeling on the spanking chair prior to a spanking.  I'm totally aware my bottom is sticking out just begging to be spanked.      ​   Another humiliating use of the Spanking Chair is to have me spread my cheeks  for a "groove spanking"!   A wooden spoon or a thin lightweight belt would be an effective implement for a spanking in this most tender area!   Any audience will be highly entertained listening to me howl and watching me squirm as I'm warned not to let go and keep my cheeks spread wide apart. Making me participate in my own punishment and humiliation makes the spanking that much more effective for me and makes it that much more amusing for anyone watching!   If I fail to keep myself fully exposed, the "groove spanking" will start over again!  You can also make me stand on the Spanking Chair calling even more attention to my humiliating predicament.  This puts my exposure right at an audience's eye level.   If my friend's were there they would never let me forget the view they had of my dangling balls and my butt hole!   ​  ​​ Kneeling on the spanking chair with a red bottom knowing the spanking is far from over. What I really deserve is to be buck ass naked on the Spanking Chair in front of several of my own friends who are grinning from ear to ear and  enjoying the show.   From that day on they'll know exactly how I GET SPANKED!  I haven't spent time on the "Spanking Chair" in front of a grinning and smirking audience yet, but perhaps someday I will.   For all the times in my youth, I enjoyed watching my friends get spanked  knowing my own bottom was relatively safe from a spanking, It would be poetic justice to find out exactly what that humiliation feels like!   I certainly deserve to spend some quality time, kneeling and standing on the Spanking Chair!   Buck ass naked and totally exposed for everyone to see! Check out my other blog entries here: https://southspanking.com/groups/need2botk/adblog/

When it comes to spanking sessions, we all have some great memories, some not so great, and sometimes horrible ones. In this blog, I will discuss what to do as a spankee after a spanking session that did not really go as you expected. We will review several possible issues ranging from lack of communication, casting errors, improvised session, unexperienced spanker, flat of nightmare, to down right abuse and rape. There is a gradation in the ways a spanking session could unfold in a way that you didn’t like. Sometimes simple communication with your spanker will solve the problem and your next spankings will be better and better : Like with sex, the first time with a new partner is rarely the best and it takes some time to adjust. Other cases are going to be a bit more complicated : you may have incompatible expectations, he may not be very experienced, or perhaps you did not discuss enough before the meeting. In this case, you may be able to find some common ground if your communication is good, but you may also consider that he isn’t and will never be your type of spanker. And finally, the last case: red flags such as abuse, breach of consent, disrespect for your limits, etc. In this case, flee this spanker and you should consider at least discussing your misadventure with other community members to avoid other going through the same situation, and even sometimes taking your case in front of a court of law. Below is a list of things in the 3 categories mentioned and that are in no particular order of gradation. Things that should be easy to fix if you discuss with your spanker before your next meeting The punishment did not include scenaristic elements or implements that you enjoy The spanking was too light/fast/short The spanking was a bit too hard, but there were no unwanted bruises. He went for an unrealistic roleplay that was not to your liking He did not talk much/enough, and you prefer a verbal spanker He used certain positions, side punishments or instruments that you don’t particularly enjoy He has bad breath and keeps talking very close to your face. He was too nosy about your private life. He faced slapped you without discussing it before Things that may or may not be fixed : He went off course with the scenario you agreed upon. He was insisting on having more than a spanking with you, despite you having clearly said no. You like sex with your spanking, he does not. He clearly did not know what he was doing / he had no experience: implements used too high and/or with weird intensities. The punishment made no sense at all. He kept you butt naked (or naked) way too long before/after/during your punishment and you were very uncomfortable with it. (e.g.: butt naked tea in the middle of your spanking, or a 2h break while talking about the current state of the world). It is not a fit when it comes to body stature. Him or his place were quite dirty and it grossed you out You had way more bruises than what you discussed Other people were here and he did not tell you before hand He lied on his age and/or physical shape. Things that you shouldn’t accept : don’t go back, and report him at least to other community members He filmed you without your consent or with a hidden camera (see my blog on taking pictures for other things that you shouldn’t accept). He got naked and it was clearly not part of what you agreed on. He touched you in ways you explicitly told him that you didn’t want. He ignored the safe word you agreed on, or when you did not consent. The spanking was bloody and it was not at all what you agreed on (and we are not talking about a scratched/ruptured pimple … this can happen) He was clearly drunk or under use when you came to his place He forced you to drink or to use any kind of drug before/during your session : if this happened and any of the other points in this category came up too, then you should consider legal action. He raped you : you must consider legal action. While this blog seems to focus on what the spanker can do wrong, please remember that communicating his desires anf limits is something that only the spankee can do. It would be unfair to blame a spanker for doing something wrong in points from categories 1 and 2 if you failed to communicate properly. With MM spanking falling in the grey area of "consented violence" between adults, communication before and after a meeting is extremely important to reduce de risk of misunderstanding and low quality to bad experience : You need to be two to have a conversation and communicate.

Hello,   I have been absent for a very long time and I apologize.   As some of you may know Denis visits the UK every summer, this particular time he contracted COVID and it was pretty bad.  It was so serious that I had to go over there, and spent several months while he thankfully recovered and was able to travel back to the US.   During my time there, I too got infected, but that’s okay, it was bad, but not too serious.   We are both having some side effects, Denis is having a harder time than I am recovering but we are both getting there.   I really had my hands full and other issues like my authenticator app failed for email access and phone access was restricted due to a change in carrier.   Right now, I have started a new job which I was offered before this all happened, thankfully the company I am now working for were very understanding and let me join the training group I am presently enrolled in.   I will be in contact with my dear friends by email and phone over this holiday weekend.   If you are in the US, please have a wonderful holiday and whatever you do, be safe.  If you have a wee drink or two or three, use Uber or any other transport but PLEASE do not drink and drive.   Everyone, else, please have a fantastic weekend, whether you are just chilling, being spanked, or giving a spanking and stay safe.  We have a fantastic community, and it means so much to me and is very dear to my heart.   Botoms upppppp and Hugssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssss   James

So I have not worked out all the details yet to make this real fun, but here are the basics:   You get a group of dads and a group of boys.   Each boy picks a color coded card, for example white, grey, red and blue.   The boys then change into briefs of the corosponding color they picked from the card, but out of sight of the dads.   The dads then choose a single card each with the same colors as the briefs the boys are now wearing.   So we could just have each boy gets spanked by the dad with the same color as the briefs they are wearing , but we want more fun than that, right?   Maybe a certain color is an ACE card, or trump card?   What else could we do to make it more interesting? come on thinking caps on!   Hmmm different color of cushions on the spanking chairs .... think think think!        

Hello everyone, I know there are still some issues, since the crash.  I will be free in a couple of days from now, to begin work, getting things back functioning correctly. Part of that work will be refreshing the server, updating the OS and setting up email verification and email password resets. There will be some downtime, but I think we can all agree it will be worth it. My thanks to everyone for their pateince, especially our admins, helping out at a very difficult time for me. I will update you when there will be downtime in advance and setup a seperate status page. Also do remember naughty boys get spanked .. especailly Jonny!   hugs   James  

MAL 2024 recap: This was my third time coming to MAL and my first time coming solo (not sharing a room). I always have fun here and this time was no different. Of the large leather/fetish events (MAL, IML, CLAW, Leather Getaway), this is my favorite one. If both my guys show up tomorrow my final count will be 38 spankings given. 16 of those were at the Green Lantern party. People always say that party is too crowded to play but I don’t have any issues. Always spank around 16-17 guys at that one. I’ll have filmed nine new spanking videos by the time I leave tomorrow. All of them were with people I have never filmed with before except one. Thats always fun. I got to spend a lot of time with bottomman1 which was a treat because I only normally see him at Bad Ass Weekend. I also met (and spanked) a bear from New York I have had a crush on for years and he’s absolutely gorgeous in person and a total sweetheart.    I got to have my yearly strapping and brunch with Uncle Larry who I absolutely adore and have a bond with because of our fondness for Randy/Redbearspanker. I had a weird emotional moment where I had to go into the bathroom at the Green Lantern and cry because when I got done spanking a bear up on the stage he leaned over and said “You spank just like Daddy Randy” and it hit me right in the heart. Also got to see a lot of the regular BAW crew who are always super nice and welcoming. If you’re a spanko and have ever wanted to go to a leather decent like this, I can’t recommend MAL more. I’m sure there’s more but it all goes so fast that it’s kind of a blur. Going home from this one isn’t as hard as Bad Ass or Hot Seat but it’s definitely not easy either.

Some Spanking encounters end wrong, just wrong. The Spanking could even have been well administered, but there's just something missing. In our experience, it's the post-Spanking warning, lecturing, and talkin'-to that's so critical to sewing things up and puttin' a bow on it.     Often times Daddys (or even just Tops/Doms) don't really know how to get there. This is where the boy can help.    Here's a few tips on how to get Daddy "there."  For boys, after you are paddled, don't just stand there. Provoke him to react to your feelings. You may be very sore. You may be very upset or shaken up if he paddled you hard. Say so, "You Spanked way too hard. I didn't do anything!" or "That hurt." or "You didn't need to use the Bathbrush. I was gonna do it anyway."   I'm Listening Now, Sir.       This ends up being less rhetorical and ends up making Daddy have to respond: "Well, I wouldn't have to Spank so hard if you listened. When I tell you to come here, you come here now." Or "It hurts because you upset Daddy. You basically made me Spank you like that. I think you owe me an apology." Or "You got the Bathbrush across your backside for mouthing off and defying my direct instructions. I don't ever want to hear you do that again. Do you understand me?" It's more a matter of making a bruised boy or a Daddy startled by what it takes out of himself to paddle your bottom feel heard and responded to.     In the .gif above (pronounced Jiff! May the founder of .gif rest in power!), I see myself, sans the flat abs. In the moment, that "Bathbrush Talk" is something you as the boy cannot take your eyes off of. That's the brush that just damaged your backside. That's the brush that got your attention. That's the brush just Spanked the bejesus right outta ya.   Thankfully, when the Daddy is able to put words to use after a Spanking, the moment sears more deeply into the boy's brain, not just his bottom. When the boy is pulling up his briefs--or when Daddy pulls them up (my Daddys often pull up my briefs because I get far too shaken up by a Hairbrush or Bathbrush paddling)--the lecture helps remind him as much as the painful legloops of his 'pants hugging his red, red fanny. Watching the .gif above, can't you just feel the 'pants coming up over your red, sore bottom? I shore can. The feeling is real bad, and it hurts, but remember the human mind has a built in "forgetting" mechanism when it comes to pain. So you'll forget your Spanking sometime soon. But you are much less likely to forget the post-Spanking talkin'-to if Daddy employs it.    And Daddy's "Paddle Talk" doesn't have to be complicated either. It can be as simple as, asking a series of questions. Try a call and response approach: "Am I ever gonna have to do this again to you?"  "Are you sorry for what you did? Are you?"  "Are we done with your mouthing off?"  "What do you have to say for yourself?" "Look at me when you answer me." "Look me straight in the eyes and say that again." Honestly, the variety will help make the moments after The Spanking more memorable, more special, more important.     A quick warning: not all boys are responsive to lecturing, so be sure to plan ahead by texting with your boy or emailing so you know fully that he is responsive. Otherwise, it can feel flat and inauthentic. With that said, give it a whirl! Learn by doing. Don't think about it. Try it out. See what works for you.   Please comment below or email us with your ideas. ______________________________________ Follow Cornertime Confidential Wherever You Are:   Tumblr  ∙  SouthSpanking ∙  Blogger  ∙  WordPress  

You Should  Spank Me Over Your Knees Like a Naughty Little Boy! If you didn't see Part 2 that I posted earlier this week:  Link for Part 2 - Strip Me Naked One of the most humiliating ways to spank a grown man in to bend him over your knees, buck ass naked, and spank him like a naughty little boy!  Since the humiliation of a spanking is what I crave most, that's the way I should be spanked!   While there are several humiliating ways to spank me, this is the way a naughty boy gets spanked and spanking a grown man in this juvenile way is certainly embarrassing.   There's a feeling of helplessness as I'm dangling over a man's knees.  It's easy to control me if I try resisting, merely by pinning my arm behind my back.   My legs can also be pinned and splayed wide apart exposing my most private parts adding more to my shame!    My big bare bottom thrust up high in the air, a perfect target for you to spank, and if you're tall my feet and hands won't even be able to touch the floor making me feel even more childish! (As I post face pictures, it's likely that someone who knows me will recognize me in the photos I upload.   If someone recognizes me, I think I'm actually hoping they will insist on giving me the naked public spankings I've always deserved! If that happens, I want to make sure they aren't shy and that they know I deserve to have them strip me and spank me in the most humiliating way and they should even nvite some other friends to participate to add to my shame!  The photos in these posts, unless noted in the captions are naked photos of me.)    Here I am being spanked over the knees of a much younger man.  I'm completely naked and feel foolish and like a naughty little boy!  Not only that, but it looks like I'm getting "excited" by being spanked. I'm sure the young man can feel my boner pressing against his leg and he'll be determined to use that paddle on my bottom until he feels it go away!   He's instructed me to spread my legs wide apart so I'm completely exposed during my spanking!    That adds even more to my humiliation, especially if there's an audience there!  He was 24 years old and I was 48.  It's very humiliating for a grown man to be spanked by someone half his age. But it just proves that you're never too old for a spanking!    The young spanker has me march naked across the room to bring him the next paddle he's going to spank me with.    It's humiliating knowing he's enjoying the sight of my red bottom wiggling as I walk across the room and that I'm obediently retrieving the next implement he's going to use to spank me with!   For me it adds to my embarrassment having to fetch the paddle naked and hand it to you.  You might also make me ask to be spanked every time you change implements. Making me tell you how much I deserve a long hard spanking with it!  I'm sure you'd enjoy hearing me admit out loud how even I think I should be given a spanking. It becomes especially embarrassing for me if other people I know are standing there listening to me beg for the spanking!    When you spank me, you might turn the paddle the other way to make sure every inch of my bottom is spanked good and red. This is especially effective for spanking the inner cheeks.  The area inside my butt crack.  Spread them apart and make them just as red as the rest of my bottom!  Or even run the edge of the paddle through my butt crack .   It reminds me just how exposed I am when I feel the paddle run through my crack and over my hole!   This young spanker knows from the personal experience of being on the receiving end of a spanking just what an erogenous zone the butt hole is!    He's rubbing the paddle back and forth over my hole and getting great satisfaction as he feels my dick get hard and begin to throb against his leg!   He knows I'm getting closer and closer to the edge and that I'm hoping I don't ejaculate just from the spanking I'm getting!  Especially if there's an audience watching!   That would be the ultimate shame for me - to  c.u.m  just from getting a spanking in front of my friends!  He's probably hoping to make me endure that shame and then the rest of the spanking will hurt ten times worse!   A spanking always hurts more after you c.u.m.   This young man is developing quite the boner himself, having an older guy like me naked over his knees for an embarrassing spanking!  It always turns me on knowing the spanker is turned on making my bottom red and sore!   Don't be shy about fondling and groping me during the spanking.  It will add even more to my humiliation if you're bold enough to reach between my legs and grab onto my "boy parts" and pull them back between my legs so everyone has a good view of them as you spank me!   Don't hesitate to grab and squeeze my bottom as you're spanking me!    Or even pull my cheeks apart so my most private place is exposed!   My butt hole!       The spanker below surprises me by reaching between my wide spread legs and grabbing and pulling on my dick!    I have no choice but to allow him to grope and fondle me as my spanking progresses.     Notice my positioning so my feet don't touch the floor making me feel like a helpless child as my legs flail around during my spanking.      Here he grabs and tugs on my balls between spanking me! It's all very humiliating!     To my horror, all this fondling starts to give me a boner!  I've always been afraid to have someone realize that getting a spanking makes my dick hard!   So you should do whatever you can to make me endure the shame of getting a boner while you spank me!  And when I do, be sure to tell everyone watching that my dick is getting hard and make sure everyone teases me about it! This spanker is fondling my balls as I'm obviously getting aroused over his knees!  And yes, there were a few other men there watching me get spanked and it added to my humiliation knowing they all saw that getting a spanking made my dick hard!    Feel free to grab and squeeze my bare red bottom during the spanking and spread my cheeks apart to expose my butt hole.  It adds to my shame and my punishment when I know everyone is looking right there and enjoying my total exposure!  A boy getting spanked doesn't deserve any modesty. Expose me and humiliate me!    If I'm tied down I can't even do anything if you rub your fingers through my crack and probe my hole! The humiliation is part of my punishment!  As an older teen, I sure enjoyed when a guy had to bend over and grab his ankles for the paddle, naked in the locker room.    His dick, balls and hole were exposed to everyone in the locker room when he had to spread his legs wide apart!   I often wondered what he felt like being exposed that way.  I always avoided that humiliation back then, but now it's my turn to be on the receiving end of that humiliating exposure!     In this photo the spanker is actually fingering my butt hole!   And yes there are other men there watching!  Embarrassment and humiliation are part of the punishment!    Don't be afraid to pull my cheeks apart and spank me right on my hole.   A hole spanking is both humiliating and painful!   Every part of my butt should be spanked bright red and that includes my crack and butt hole!     Yes, naked exposure is a key element in making a spanking effective for someone like me, so don't be shy.   Position me in ways that expose me in a most blatant way!  Especially if you brought a few buddies along to enjoy my shame!  Here are a few more pictures of me during an over the knee spanking with my face showing to increase the chances of someone recognizing me!  Getting naked yourself can also add to my humiliation.     Here I am naked over the young spanker's knees while he's also naked.   Our bare crotches are pressing against each other.  I can feel his arousal as he gets boned from spanking me and he feels my own boner pressing into his own lap!   It's not nearly as embarrassing for him to be aroused dishing out a spanking as it is for me to have a boner getting a spanking!  It's also turning me on even more knowing it's exciting him making my ass red with the paddle!     Another photo showing just how aroused the young man gets, taking a paddle to an old man's  ass and turning it good and red!  It definitely excites me too, knowing this young man is enjoying giving me a spanking!   The view the other men watching had of my face and buck ass naked shame as I got the spanking of my life over another man's knees at age 57!   No, a guy like me is never too old for a spanking!  I did manage to look up briefly, a couple of times, and some guys had looks of awe on their faces seeing me getting spanked so hard, and others has smug grins of satisfaction knowing I was finally getting the punishment I always deserved!   Having other see not only my red bottom  but also see my face and shame is key to an effective punishment spanking.    I posted this photo recently, but here it is again because it's essential that I have to endure the shame of facing the spanker and any audience.  Completely exposed and have to say out loud that I deserve a spanking!   It's that humiliation that I'm going to remember long after the sting of the spanking fades away!  Here I am standing in front of an audience with a bald dick the spanker just shaved in front of everyone as part of my punishment, being lectured like a naughty little boy as I'm nervously waiting to be bent over this man's knees to get my bare bottom truly blistered with that lexan paddle!  The lecture, suspense and dread are all part of the punishment and the so is the anticipation of the audience eager to see me get my comeuppance!         I have no choice but to do as I'm told as I'm ordered to stand on display as everyone admires the spanker's handiwork! He warned me before the spanking started that I wasn't going to get my clothes back until he was good and ready. He made good on his promise!   I had to stay totally naked in front of everyone with my bright red bottom on display for over an hour, while they all enjoyed my naked humiliation!  Naked exposure and humiliation are an essential part of any spanking!     If you recognize me in my posts, contact me and tell me that it's time for my spanking, order me to report to you and invite some other friends we know to join in on your fun.  The audience will make it more humiliating for me.   Strip me buck ass naked and make me endure that ultimate spanking humiliation. A spanking in front of people I know and have to face on a regular basis!  I'm sure you've often thought I deserved an embarrassing spanking so see to it that I finally get that humiliating spanking that you always wanted to give me and we both know I deserve. My face will burn with shame when you contact me, but what will really burn is my bottom when you and each and every one of you spank me!  Every time we see each other I will remember the shame of being spanked and put on display.  And all of you will remember the excitement and satisfaction of having me naked, at your mercy and under your control!  Yes, none of us will ever forget the day you stripped me buck ass naked, bent me over your knees and spanked me like a naughty little boy! Link to Part 4 - What Got Me Into Mouthsoaping: The Young Guy At Work    

After I got my first punishment spanking I knew that was the kind of spanking I needed from that day on.  Hard and fast right from the start without a warmup.   Like the spankings I enjoyed seeing my friends get growing up.   This spanking was also courtesy of Bill's Basement in Hammond, Indiana.  It started out like the first punishment spanking.  I was stripped BUCK ASS NAKED and bent over Bill's knees and spanked like a naughty boy! Only this time Bill arranged for a couple other guys to be there to watch and help spank me.   As that brush did it's work, I was yelping and gasping for breath in no time, not only looking like a naughty boy over Bill's knees, but sounding and feeling like one too!  The two guys watching were enjoying the sights and sounds as the spanking progressed.   Bill had me stand up, stick my butt out and put my hands on my knees.   He handed them the hairbrush and a belt and told them they could spank me themselves!  The guy in the leather vest seemed new at giving spankings.   He wasn't sure how hard to hit me.  But the other guy had spanked me before and spanked much harder.    The diaper position has got to be the most humiliating position to be spanked in - especially for someone my age!    I mean, not only does it give the spanker the opportunity to make eye contact with me and see my facial expressions as I'm being spanked, but it lets me see just how much he's enjoying giving me the spanking!   Yeah, I can see the smirk of satisfaction on his face as he turns my ass bright red and makes me howl!  And with the two guys grabbing and holding my legs back and wide apart, everything is in view.   My face, my dick, my balls, and even my butt hole!  How humiliating!  Below, you can see how I even get spanked right on my heinie hole!   The most sensitive place on a bottom to get spanked!  And the guys are definitely enjoying exposing my hole and spanking me right on the bullseye!     For this next part of the spanking I'm tied down to a spanking bench and completely immobilized for a hand spanking, strapping and paddling. While the hand spanking isn't that painful, it is certainly humiliating, having another guy slap, squeeze  and fondle your bare backside, knowing you're helpless to do anything to avoid it!  It also gives him the opportunity to spread apart my butt cheeks and expose my heinie hole adding even more to the shame of my punishment!  I didn't realize it at the time but these pictures show my exposed boy hole!  They also show just how turned on I became being bound and helpless as I got the spanking I deserved.   My dick was leaking precum from knowing my dick and balls were pulled back between my legs and exposed to everyone's view as my bottom got spanked red hot!   I'm not sure why, but being tied down to the spanking bench like that, always makes my dick leak like that!   I guess it just shows how much I deserve to be spanked!    While I was on the spanking bench the other two guys got in a little spanking play of their own, but when they were done, one of them wanted me over his knees for another hand spanking.  He pulled my dick and balls back and let them rub against his bare thigh as he spanked my bottom red again.   It's definitely embarrassing for a grown man to be naked and bent over another man's knees getting spanked like a naughty little boy!        Then Bill gave both of us one final spanking.   You can see my bottom ended up much redder than his. It's also more embarrassing being the only one buck ass naked! Watch two videos of me getting that spanking: 2nd Punishment Spanking Part 1 OTK and Belt 2nd Punishment Spanking Part 2 Diaper Position and Spanking Bench   See my previous blog entries here: https://southspanking.com/groups/need2botk/adblog/      

The events I plan to attend this year are MAL in January in DC. Hot Seat in Palm Springs in March. Bad Ass Weekend in Georgia in October and Leather Getaway in LA in November. If you’d like a spanking at any of these events, message me here or on Whappz.   If you come to Seattle this year let me know and maybe I can spank ya here. All depends on timing.

                       Discipline:  Foundation of the Father-Son Relationship                       [By: Strapman02]         [Disclaimer:  I wrote this essay [below, in 1991] , when I was just starting graduate school.  I [was] in my late 20's [when I added to, and edited, this together for this posting], do not now have children, nor have I ever had children.  I am just exercising my First Amendment rights here -- so do not try to draw the wrong conclusions by reading into this what you want to read into it, rather than what I wrote in it.  I welcome all responses to the essay, both here and in private email.]        Over the years, much has been said about the nature of the father-son  relationship, and of the proper role of the father in the rearing of his son.  The father wears many hats in his relationship with his son:  he is authoritative (and authoritarian) on certain matters; he provides his son with a role model-- himself--on how to act as a man; he is an advisor on certain issues, such as those of a sexual nature vis a vis the opposite (or, in more and more cases,  the same) sex; he is also the disciplinarian of the son.         The Bible offers its own advice for the father-son relationship:       "He who heeds discipline shows the way to life, but whoever ignores  correction leads others astray."--Proverbs 10:17.       "Whoever loves discipline loves knowledge, but he who hates correction is stupid."--Proverbs 12:1       "He who ignores discipline comes to poverty and shame, but whoever heeds correction is honored."--Proverbs 13:18       "He who spares the rod hates his son, but he who loves him is careful to discipline him."--Proverbs 13:24       "He who ignores discipline despises himself, but whoever heeds correction gains understanding."--Proverbs 15:32   `     It is this that which we will be discussing in this treatise.          The father has the legal authority and obligation to discipline his son.  To accomplish this goal, different fathers use different means, such as reasoning,  withholding of privileges (e.g. grounding, no car this week, etc.), cutting  allowances, and last, and in my view, most importantly--for blatant and  significant violations of house rules that could endanger himself or others  in the family or society--corporal methods.        The father is the one that takes the son into a private room, such as a  bedroom, bathroom, or other room; tells the son that he has been bad because  he has engaged in some objectionable behavior; tells the son that he is going  to be paddled, spanked, strapped, or whipped, or whatever verb you prefer; orders his son to, and if need be, he himself proceeds to, pull down the son's  pants and underpants; bends him over the back of a chair, across his lap, face down lengthwise on the bed, or on the side of a bed; and administers a paddle, a strap, or other device,  such as a razor strop, across his son's bare buttocks in a meticulous, repetitive, and severe fashion, until the son understands, under no uncertain terms, that what he did was WRONG, and, should this particular activity be repeated at any time in the future, similar, though even more  severe, consequences will befall his son.        Friends, I never had my father around to perform this most important,  necessary function.  I only wonder how I might be different than the way I am today had my father been around to spank me soundly when I deserved it.   Would that have made me a stronger person?  Perhaps.  Would that have instilled violent tendencies in my own personal behavior toward other people?  Perhaps, though unlikely in my view. Would I have a more clearly defined sense of right and wrong?  Most definitely.

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I am amazed to find us already in 2020 - the beginning of a new decade! I wish everyone a very prosperous new year, and remember when things don’t go your way, it just means it’s a bad day – not a bad life 😊 I want to share the funniest thing I have heard so far this year – if Twitter, Face-book and YouTube became one company you would have ‘You Twit Face’ – Priceless! I don’t and never have really considered myself to be the ‘site owner’ – I think of myself as an administrator, because without you, the members there is no site.  So please accept my thanks and hugs to all of you for being part of this site and community. There are so many of you I want to thank personally, but the list would be never ending!  That said there are a few of you I do want to say a special thanks to (not in any order). Isma – Your work is amazing and we all truly appreciate your efforts, you make us smile, and not just as an artist, you have an awesome personality. Tinj – You share some fantastic videos and again we all appreciate you for doing so, thank you so much! Mr Olly – A true gentleman, the pictures you share with us and your comments are wonderful, we really appreciate you. NorCal – Thank you for your insights and observations, I am truly grateful.  Also, you have a great sense of humor! OnkelChen – For being warm hearted, a good listener, not believing in review sessions and only spanking when there is a full moon. AC – I mean what amazing images to wake up to, I love my good mooning pictures – and for being such a fan of the site. Max Hause – Well for being just you Max, a wee scamp that needs a lot of spankings! Amsterdad – A true top and Dad, one of the very few that quickly put me in my place, but one with a lot of emotional intelligence. Baltic – Your wit and genuine opinions shine. There are so very many more - Sussex Peter, FL Bully, Wailer, Toronto Dad, Charles ,Adam, Fletcher Bengel … and I apologize if you are not listed, I could never finish if I tried to! And also, Studio’s - Thank you for sharing your preview clips and for supporting this site, a special thanks goes to John from CP4men. I will be updating everyone on what’s happening and new with the site throughout the year. Hugs – spanks – and more spanks James

Some years ago one of my early and formative spanking experiences was when I went to a spanking party. I had been chatting online to this “daddy” and role playing his naughty little boy, but he lived 60 miles away and we had not met in person. He invited me to a spanking party his friend was hosting, so I decided to make the drive. I was the last to arrive at the house, but nothing had started yet. All the men were sitting in a big circle, all still fully dressed. They asked for a spankee to go first and I volunteered. My daddy sat on a chair in the middle of the circle and stood me in front of him. He made me strip to my tighty whitie underpants in front of everyone, and told me what a naughty boy I was, and that he was going to have to give me a good spanking for being so naughty. Then pulled me over his lap and spanked me on my underpants, as I wriggled and kicked my legs and fussed. He held me in a tight grip! After a few minutes he stood me back up and said “now you are going to get it on your bare bottom young man" he pulled my undies down to my knees in front of the whole room, revealing my bare butt and my fully erect penis! Then he pulled me back over his lap and spanked me on my bare bottom hard. He stopped periodically to caress my bottom gently and check that I was OK, then it was back to hard slaps on my ass cheeks, stinging badly and causing me to Yelp with pain. I soon lost my erection and my penis shank embarrassingly. After that I was passed round the room naked and several guys spanked me over their laps and in other positions. Finally some of the other guys started to get spankings too, I got to watch other guys get spanked and I got spanked side by side with a couple of them. At the end my daddy cuddled me and told me I was a good boy and rubbed my sore red bottom. I got hard once again when he did that so then he sat me on his lap on the sofa and caressed me and I shot a huge load of banned word all over myself! Then I got dressed and went home with a very red and very sore bottom and a very sticky crotch and belly! It was a extremely humiliating and hot experience.

Just some wee thoughts!   I think I can be honest when I state that I do much better with consistent discipline, rules and boundaries.  They keep me focused, attentive and have helped me immensely in both my personal and professional life.   It is also true that I respond well to corporal punishment.   I can also say with my heart, there are many times I have tried to avoid punishment, or tried to talk my way out of punishment and yet if I was being honest with myself, I know I need punishment.  I think that if my dad gave into my pleas and promises about being ‘good’ or ‘promising not to it again’, there would be a loss of dependability and reliability, which would result in confusion.   I suppose I prefer having crystal clear boundaries, rules and consequences.   When I think about discipline, it encompasses three main areas attitude (such as respect and obedience), House rules (completing chores, cleaning up after myself) and boundaries (not procrastinating, no traffic violations etc.).   The area where punishment is more intense is a boundary infraction, since they I created myself.   There is one other rule which is as a boy, I am expected to extended every courtesy and be respectful to other Dads.  If a dad is visiting here and I misbehave or show him disrespect, he will be invited to administer punishment.  If I am visiting another dad, them I must obey his rules, and accept punishment when I need it.  Now just so you know any dad that either visits here or I visit, I will have gotten to know very well and there will already be a trust relationship in place.  I am not talking about random strangers I know nothing about tanning my butt.   That is how discipline works in our house, and obviously any breeches have consequences and that means punishment.   Punishments are not limited to spanking, though 90% of the time I do end up staring at the carpet with my bare bottom up in the air.  Other punishments included time out (corner time), grounding, early bed times and denial of pants and/or briefs.   I am not going into these punishments in any great detail but what I can say is that if you have a dad as creative as mine all these punishments, while juvenile in nature can easily be extended to an adult boy.  As an example, being grounded for a week, simply means that as soon as I get home from work, back from shopping or whatever else, my pants and briefs come down for the rest of the day / evening.  That is effectively me being grounded, since I can hardly go anywhere in just my tee and socks!   If I am getting close to a spanking, I may be put in timeout, to give me a chance to reflect on my behavior before it escalates and a spanking becomes necessary.    Being sent to bed early is pretty much self-explanatory but it also means computer powered down and my cell phone in the charger in the lounge.  It also means a good dozen swats to my bare bottom, and while not quite a punishment spanking, I end up in bed with a glowing hot bottom.   As you can imagine none of these punishments are exclusive and can include more than one of them, or a combination, depending on how ‘naughty’ I have been.

Does The Wooden Spoon Really Work?*     Now Cornertime Confidential doesn't usually tell stories out of school, but... This is the story of richie Z when I was about 5 or 6 (Kindergarten and 1st Grade) when he and I were playmates. Mrs. Z, his Mom was a well-known lady in the neighborhood with a nice house, and I was invited over to come play. She was a raven-haired red head and I suspect, on reflection, this may explain some of the rest of this story! So, I rang the doorbell and my Mom wanted to meet Mrs. Z (I assume she must have been "somebody" important or something), and while we waited for Mrs. Z to come outside, richie and I began goofing around. We were having a good time, and then Mrs. Z and my Mom began to talk. When it came for my Mom to leave, we arranged for a pick up time and my Mom left. richie and I began to ride his Big Wheel his Big Wheel up and down the driveway that they had which was a cool driveway. And we played with his trucks which were really neat. I had Tonka trucks too. Then about maybe no more than 15 minutes in, Mrs. Z came out into the side yard between her house and the neighbors while we were playing on the grass and said: "You didn't clean up your room, and you knew you couldn't invite jake over until your room was cleaned up."   "But..."   "richie, go inside and get me The Wooden Spoon." Looking at me he was crazy embarrassed. He turned to his Mom and began to tear up, "Mom...."   "Now get inside. You cannot play with jake until you to get me The Spoon. Then when you're done cleaning up your room, you boys can play. jake wait out here." I could only listen and imagine as Richie went inside as he began to cry to go get The Wooden Spoon for god only knows what! I knew what Wooden Spoons were used for in my house, but could it be true that Mrs. Z used them for the same thing? Well, The Spanking he got musta been really bad because it took a while. And I had to humour myself until he was done cleaning his bedroom up. So it took waaaaaay too long for a boy my age. I was a clever boy though, and I knew how to busy myself when I had toys and was alone.  Then finally, richie came out to the back yard, and we tried to play. As I say, I had to wait outside until all this transpired. But the play date wasn't the same after that.  richie couldn't look me in the eye and just play no matter how much I tried to engage with him. And I said something like, "You Mom's mean."  And richie didn't know how to handle that at all. I don't recall ever playing with richie except on the playground at school. I never got invited over to that cool house again.   But as luck would have it, years later a girl from school told me (as a groan up) that richie went on to be a competitive surfer in Southern California, so maybe the Wooden Spoon worked! He ended up having a good career and a family of his own.  But I bet in his home, there's no mean, Wooden Spoons. *Not a ton of folks saw this when I posted it online, so I'm reposting here.  Please comment below or email us with your ideas aok4otk@aol.com or cornertimeconf@gmail.com ______________________________________ Follow Cornertime Confidential Wherever You Are: Tumblr  ∙  SouthSpanking ∙  Twitter  ∙  WordPress

©2023 Need2botk It was a very memorable day, the day I got my ass spanked for the very first time and I have to admit it, that spanking was more than 30 years overdue.  Although I was threatened with spankings all the time growing up, I never actually got one!  However, I was fascinated with spanking as long as I can remember.  I loved watching my buddies get spanked when I was a teen.   In fact I've been jerking off to the thought of getting spanked, or thinking about the spankings I’ve witnessed since I was 11 years old.  The one thing that has really turned me on is is thinking about the added shame of a much younger guy spanking me! Then one day I got an online message that said "I'm young and I spank!"  It was from a 23 year old guy that we'll call Matthew and he was offering to give me the real spanking I'd been fantasizing about for so many years!   He was really excited about the prospect of stripping a 47 year old man buck ass naked and putting him just where he belonged, ass up over his knees, for a good sound bare bottom spanking.  He said he likes spanking older men, with nice meaty butts, and from the pictures I sent him, he said I had the “perfect target“.   We missed several attempts at meeting but finally connected that Thursday afternoon.  I was extremely nervous about being spanked,  but Matthew tried to make me feel comfortable.  At least as comfortable as possible for my first time, but to be blunt, I was scared shitless!  This was the first time someone was going to strip me!  Yep, I was going to get spanked naked!  I had no idea what to expect.  I had spanked my own ass many times before, just to see what a spanking might feel like, but this was different.  This was the real thing. I wasn't in control this time.  I was worried he was going to whack my ass a few times and I would change my mind. I didn't want to look like a wimp and was hoping I'd be able to take a hard enough spanking to satisfy this young man.   I figured I had to do this, and since I told him previously that this might be a good day to meet, I just got in my truck and headed toward Matthew's house, figuring I'd call him in route.  I got to his house and was still unable to contact him by phone.  I couldn't believe this!  I had actually worked up the courage to meet up with a guy to give me my first real spanking and he wasn’t home!   I had chatted with a lot of guys that wanted to spank me but I never followed through and actually scheduled a time to meet before.   I wanted to get spanked so bad!  I needed a spanking!  I deserved to have my ass spanked red hot!  After a couple more attempts to call him,  I headed to a store, about 15 minutes from his house to waste some time.  My dick was semi hard the entire time I was in the store and my balls ached just thinking about the spanking I might be in for.  I aimlessly roamed around the store for an hour, the excitement in my crotch and balls, building as I waited.  I tried calling again, my stomach churning and my dick throbbing at the prospect of him answering the phone.  Still no answer!     I wanted to be stripped naked and bent over his knees and spanked so bad!  I had left the store and was headed back toward his house when he finally answered the phone.  I told him I was nearby and asked if he still wanted to to this.  It was like music to my ears when I heard him say "definitely!"  He had previously sent me some photos of himself, but I figured they were pictures of someone else because he looked like a model.  He looked so hot I figured he couldn't possibly be interested in spanking an older guy like me, but when I saw him standing in the driveway waiting for me I realized the pictures he sent were real!  I couldn’t believe my eyes.  I found out later he actually was a model and had done some spanking porn before!  I grabbed the bag out of the truck with my paddles, a video camera and the butt plug he told me to bring with. As soon as we got inside, he got right down to the task at hand and said lets go upstairs.  He just came home from work and was dressed in black dress pants and a white long sleeve shirt.  He took off his shoes and rolled up his shirtsleeves as I set up the video camera to record my first ass spanking. Unlike me - he was so calm and knew exactly what he was doing.  He had me stand in front of him as he pulled my shirt out of my jeans shorts and then up over my head, setting it down on the dresser.  Then I felt his fingertips starting to unfasten my belt buckle, unbutton my shorts and lower the zipper.  Before I knew it, I was stepping out of my jeans shorts, and they were put on the dresser with my shirt.   I was starting to get hard, just like I hoped I would.  Matthew sat down on the bed and me pulled over one knee.  He rubbed my brief clad butt and started to hand spank me.  They were easy smacks, but I think he spent more time feeling the shape and curves of my butt cheeks through my tighty whities.  I wanted to just start humping his leg, but modesty got the best of me and I restrained myself and just laid there submissively.  My legs were shaking uncontrollably and I remember him telling me to relax that I was in good hands. How could I possibly relax?  I just let a guy I never met before strip me down to my briefs,  and I was bent over his knees getting a spanking.  I had never let anyone strip me before and I had never been spanked before.  There was no way I could relax!   The slow soft hand spanks turned into harder faster spanks.  I can remember how nervous I was but at the same time it felt so good laying over this young man's knees, letting him give me that spanking I only dreamed about before. After about 50 hand spanks on my tighty whities, he told me to get up again.  As I obediently stood before him,  I felt his fingertips slip under the elastic waistband of my briefs.  It felt so weird as I sensed his fingertips slide down my flanks as he lowered my briefs and told me to step out of them.   Except for the socks which I forgot about, I was buck ass naked!  Totally bare!   Completely exposed!  There was no being modest anymore, I was naked and under the control of a guy half my age. And I was getting spanked!   He didn’t bother to turn me around to look at how red my ass was.  Nope.  Matthew just pulled me back over his knee, buck ass naked for another spanking.   As humiliating as it was, I wanted to be right where Matthew had me, my naked butt sticking up just begging to be spanked.   I had dreamed of this day so many times, I couldn‘t believe it was actually happening!   The whole thing was so surreal. He hand smacked my bare butt about another 50 times and then I felt him reach underneath me to fondle my dick and balls.  No one had ever touched my dick or balls before!   Usually I am rock hard when it comes to spanking but I was so nervous meeting someone in person to give me my very first real spanking my dick had gone limp with fear.  Between my thoughts of how great this feels,  I wondered if he’d be some sort of nut case.  I wondered if I was going to be safe.   I wondered a lot of things, but most of all I kept wondering if I'd be able to take the kind of spanking I deserved.  A spanking that would leave my butt sore for days.  A real spanking.  He picked up my first paddle, a small pine board drilled with smaller holes.  It was one of the first paddles I made.  I thought back to the time I was in my wood shop, as stood naked, cutting, shaping and sanding that paddle, testing it out on my own backside as it progressed.  I was thinking about how hard my dick was as I carefully drilled each and every hole in that pine board hoping they would help that paddle sizzle my ass. Matthew gave me a couple swats with that pine paddle and rubbed my ball sac again with his hand.  He did what I often do when spanking myself and he rubbed the edge of the paddle through my butt crack.  I must have shuddered and my legs were shaking cause he told me again,  to "just relax"  and pulled both my legs up onto his lap.  I was now laying over both knees with my feet and head on the bed.   God, the feeling was incredible, here I was at last, just like I fantasized about, bare ass naked, over a young mans knees, my naughty butt sticking up in the air just begging him to spank me harder.  Begging him to spank me more, armed with a wooden paddle I personally made for someone like him to blister my ass with.  I kept thinking back to how he told me his own dad used to paddle his ass when he was a kid, and here I was, buck naked, over his knees with my ass just begging for a spanking.  I wondered how he felt having my ass over his lap, turning red, turning hot.  I wondered how he felt having me under his complete control, having a guy old enough to be his own dad laying submissively over his knees so that he could spank me like a naughty little boy.   I gently humped his leg sticking my ass up offering it to him to discipline.  I needed to be spanked, I deserved to be spanked,  I wanted to be spanked.  I hope he got some additional satisfaction knowing he was giving me what I craved. Knowing he was the first one to ever spank my ass! Fifty-four bare ass paddle swats later he switched to another one of my homemade paddles. I made several paddles hoping that a guy like him would put them to use spanking my butt.   A narrow maple paddle without holes.  Some of the paddle companies call it a ruler paddle.  This paddle tends to bruise my butt since it's relatively heavy and it concentrates the sting in a narrow band.  Matthew was using it on my butt, practically  right from the start.  I knew I was going to be sore.  After the first few swats I said how much that paddle stung.  Watching the video afterwards, I noticed he started to set the paddle down, but I knew I needed it, and said "that’s okay - keep going".  He eagerly picked the paddle back up and re-applied it to my heinie.  Some rapid fire, hard swats ensued as he clenched his arm firmly around my waist and held on tight.  He gave me 56 swats with that narrow maple paddle.  God did he ever know how to spank!   I was ordered to stand up again and lean against the bed bent at the waist.  He grabbed my legs and spread them, making my cock and balls visible as he proceeded to give me forty three good hard swats with a cherry frat style paddle drilled with holes.   He was swinging that paddle so hard and fast, I could hear the air whistling through it as the swats approached that target - my naked butt. Each swat set my butt cheeks jiggling making him want to spank me even more.  I can only imagine the incredible view he had as the paddle flattened my cheeks on impact,  and made them bounce back into shape for another swat.  I can only imagine how good he felt knowing he was burning my butt, making it redder and hotter with each swat of the paddle.  Giving me the spanking I needed.  Giving me the spanking I deserved.  I'm sure that seeing my butt bounce like that, knowing it had never been spanked before, seeing my it turn red like that, and hearing my grunts and groans made him want to paddle me even more, paddle me harder, paddle me faster.  He continued to rub my bottom with his hand, feeling the heat, feeling the burn.  Once again I felt the edge of that paddle slide between my red hot butt cheeks, right through my crack.  I stuck my butt out to open up my crack for him, making myself feel so vulnerable as he slid that paddle over my boy hole, but I needed to feel the humiliation of being so exposed.  He must have known from personal experience just what that felt like. The feelings were so incredible, as he alternated between rubbing my butt cheeks with his hand, rubbing my crack with the edge of the paddle, fondling my dangling balls and still limp dick and of course spanking me.  This was the first time I was ever touched there by another guy.  The physical contact forced me to think about just how exposed I was and what a sight I must have been standing there bent over, naked with my butt thrust out, just begging for that spanking! Matthew stopped spanking me for a moment.  Just long enough to unbutton his own shirt and slip it off.   I had to get a look since the sight of another guy's abs and pecs turns me on almost as much as looking at his butt.   He went back to hand spanking me in that same position, bent over the bed.   He stopped spanking me again and walked in front of me so I could see him pulling his belt out of the belt loops on his pants.   I got butterflies in my stomach thinking he was going to give me an old fashioned belt licking, just like my dad often threatened to give me when I was a kid, but he put the belt down as he had other ideas in mind.  He slipped down those black dress pants to reveal a pair of light blue bikini briefs.    The briefs fit him nicely, clinging to his own backside, accentuating the firmness of his own youthful posterior.  The thin material stretched deep into his crack, and the pouch in front was filled out nicely.  It was exciting watching him.  I was buck ass naked getting spanked and my spanker was stripping down too.  He walked back over to where I was leaning against the bed and told me to lay on the bed on my back.  I noticed a darker wet spot on the front of his briefs. The boy was leaking precum!   Paddling my ass was really turning him on!  I was worried he wasn't having a good time since I was just laying there not saying much.  I wanted to squirm and howl, but I didn't want to fake it.  I wanted my responses to be real, and I knew that soon enough he'd be spanking me faster and harder and real reactions would come out.  He looked so hot standing there in his briefs, wet with precum.   He stood there for about a minute letting me size him up, before he slipped down those briefs and took them off, leaving himself bare too.   His backside was small and firm, just the way I like,  and his cock bigger than mine, hanging down with a hefty set of balls beneath it.  I was intrigued, to say the least, as I looked at that perfect specimen of a backside, and thought about his descriptions of how his dad paddled his bare bottom when he misbehaved.     I had never been bare with another guy where I was able to openly stare at his nakedness.  The only time I’d been naked with another guy was in a locker room situation where a quick glance was all that was acceptable.  I was really enjoying the view in front of me.  I would have liked to see it spanked red, but it wasn’t his bottom that was getting spanked.  It was mine.  I didn't get to stare too long as he got up on the bed next to me, facing my feet and swung one leg over my torso.  This was awesome! I was staring right at that sweet butt of his!   I had told him in my emails, that one time when I was in college, a friend of mine who still got spanked by his dad, was changing to go swimming with me.  This guy had the most spankable little butt I ever saw, and when he bent over to slip on his swimsuit, his butt crack must have spread open and I caught a whiff of his ripe little heinie!  When I got home that night, I took a kleenex and wiped my own butt crack with it so I could sniff it while I jerked off imagining that sweet butt of his getting spanked.  I thought about how the aroma of his crack might fill the air as he was over his dad's knees, with his legs spread wide and a paddle fanning his musky little butt hole.  Ever since that day, I would sniff my own dirty briefs or something I wiped through my own butt crack as I jerked off thinking about spankings I've witnessed.  God how I loved the smell of butt crack!  That sweet aroma always made me think of naked butts, and naked butts always made me think about spanking.  A few times when I was camping with this guy, I'd wait until he left the tent to shower, and I'd find his dirty briefs or boxers.  They always smelled so incredible, so ripe and musky.  I'd jerk off humping my pillows imagining him coming back into the tent, catching me naked, playing with myself, sniffing his dirty undies and then punish me with a good hard spanking.  He knew I never got spanked before, and often made comments about how he’d like to whip my ass. He'd say things like "Keep it up mister, and you're gonna get it", or "Just wait until we get home", or "Don't make me beat your ass in front of all these people". He really wanted to spank me so bad!    These must have been things his own dad had said to him before.  I'd think about him saying this stuff to me as I laid naked in the tent, masturbating with the scent of his butt crack filling my senses. I told Matthew how I fantasized about being punished for rummaging through my friend’s dirty laundry and sniffing their ripe briefs and boxers. I told him an appropriate punishment would be to have him straddle my torso, pull my legs up into the diaper position and have him rub his bare naked butt crack up and down my nose, telling me that since I like the smell of butt crack so much, he's going to make me sniff his while he spanks me.   I couldn’t believe he was actually acting out this fantasy.   I felt like I was in heaven!  I got a glimpse of his cock and balls hanging down before I felt them on my stomach and chest as he slid that awesome backside of his closer to my face.  I was loving every second of this.  I noticed his ball sac again as he got closer to me but most of all I noticed his ass crack was spread wide open and I had a clear view of his sweet pucker!  His butt was relatively smooth but he had a light coating of man hair in his crack.  I saw the wrinkles of his rosebud as he pressed it up against my nose and he ground it into my face!   God, that boy's ass smelled good! My first real sniff of another guy's butt crack and it was just like I always imagined it would be.  Not a dirty shitty smell but just the ripe, sweaty,  musky smell of pure athletic male backside.  It's hard to describe, but anyone else turned on by that aroma would know exactly what I'm talking about, and his butt crack was a prime specimen!  He picked up my legs and hooked them under his arms just like I described in my email, so my own crack and hole were completely exposed too!  He picked up the small oak paddle drilled with 5/8" holes and started to paddle my ass as he ground his ripe juicy crack up and down my face, rubbing his butt juice all over me, marking me with the scent of his ass!  As he swatted my bad boy ass, he rubbed the paddle around my cheeks and ran his hand up and down my crack over my hole.  I felt my own dick start to harden as Matthew’s musky hole was grinding up and down my nose and I was eagerly sniffing it, savoring the sweet aroma.  I couldn’t help but think about the view he had of my butt, upended, spanked bright red and offered to him, to touch and spank however he wanted.       Then he said it would be a good time to take out that butt plug that I brought with!  I had never had another guy insert a butt plug or anything else up my ass but I wanted to experience as much humiliation as possible.   Hell, another guy had never even seen my butt hole before!  He kept rubbing my crack and hole with his hand as his own pelvis rocked back and forth over my face.  He hand spanked me as he humped my face with his boy hole.  He slapped my ass and said it was time for my hole to get plugged up.  When he got off of me his own dick was rock hard and sticking straight out!  He loved sticking his ass in my face as much as I loved having it there!  He returned to the bed with my butt plug and a tube of KY jelly. I submissively pulled my legs overhead to offer my most private place, my hole, for him to plug.  He lubed up my hole and then the plug, and it didn't take long for my sphincter to suck the plug up and clamp down tight on it. He straddled my chest again with his sweet bare ass in my face so I could savor more of his ass scent as he spanked me some more with that short oak paddle.   He then got off of me and stood along side of me pulling my legs back closer to my face. putting me in the traditional diaper changing position,  upending my butt even more so he could paddle me another 20 times even harder. Before long I was back over Matthew's knees for 85 more swats with my homemade oak frat paddle drilled with holes.   This time he was naked too!   My limp dick tried to get hard a couple of times, barely long enough for him to notice it, but it didn't stay that way for long with the pain from the paddling.  My dick was pressing right up against his bare leg, and he teased me for a while wiggling and twisting the butt plug and fondling my cock and balls.  Then he grabbed the walnut frat paddle drilled with large holes and he paddled my butt some more, and fondled me as he wished.  I let go of my inhibitions and slowly humped his lap sticking my backside up, offering it to him to spank even more, my crack opening up as I stuck my butt up in the air for him to paddle. I knew I needed a good hard spanking and I wanted him to spank me with that paddle.   He grabbed me tight around the waist again and paddled my ass with hard rapid fire swats until I was gasping for air.  It was really hot watching the video afterwards, hearing the paddle echo off my bare bottom with a resounding smack, and watching my butt cheeks giggle as the paddle impacted. He grabbed me tight one more time, squeezing my backside so it stuck up even more and gave me a fast and furious volley of swats with the frat paddle.   I could feel his hard cock throbbing against my stomach letting me know he thoroughly enjoyed paddling my naked boy butt!  Every time he lit into my bare ass with a hard fast volley of paddle swats, his own dick was sticking straight out hard as a rock.  I was really glad that taking the paddle to my ass excited him so much. Still over his knees he picked up the Jokari paddle, a real butt burner,  and gave me another 75 swats.   Some were slow steady swats and others were fast and furious swats.  I  asked him how my butt was and he eagerly replied "nice and hot!"   Then I was ordered to kneel on the bed with my naked butt in the air, my knees spread wide and my face down on the blanket for another 20 swats with a real fraternity souvenir paddle followed by more hand spanks. He enjoyed twisting and wiggling my butt plug and stroking my limp dick trying to make it hard.   I guess I got a little hard, but not nearly as hard as I would have liked to have been. I was definitely enjoying my spanking, even though my ass was red hot and really sore.  I don't know why my dick stayed limp cause whenever I spank myself it's throbbing hard.  I guess it was just the fact that this was a first time experience and I didn't know what to expect.  No, it was because I was still scared shitless!  I still kept wondering if I would be able to take the spanking Matthew wanted to give me! Plus I was still on edge meeting someone for a spanking for the first time, but I couldn't ask for a better spanker!  He was patient and understanding and I think he really liked having me naked and at his mercy! Still kneeling on the bed, I got another 42 hard fast swats with the holey walnut frat paddle.  He stroked his own hard cock as he spanked me and rubbed my hanging ball sack with the paddle.    These swats were so hard, I could hear the air whistle through the holes in the paddle each time he swung it.  Each hard swat flattened my butt cheeks and made them giggle again as they bounced back into shape.  I was gasping and grunting out in pain as he increased the speed and intensity of the paddling. Once again those rapid fire swats that made me grunt and groan, made my disciplinarian's own dick stand at attention again.  He stroked his own boner as he rubbed my butt cheeks feeling the fire he burned into my boy bottom. Next I was ordered to assume the position with my legs spread wide and my hands on my knees while a paddleball paddle I recently found was used to spank my butt.  The butt plug was still up my ass and he sometimes paddled me right on the plug. He reached around my waist and pulled me up tight to himself, grabbing my cock from the front, and I could feel the firm tone of his own naked body up against me.  I was still bent over with my hands on my knees and I wasn't going anywhere!  He leaned into me whacking my deserving red hot butt with the hardest and fastest set of paddle swats yet.  I was grunting out "oh's and aw's" as he whacked my ass ruthlessly with the big paddle an additional 45 times He noticed some abrasions on my butt that were starting to draw blood so he stopped the spanking.  It wasn't anything serious just abrasions from the hole drilled paddles giving my deserving ass the punishment it needed.  I wanted to be spanked more, but knew it was better if I waited until another time. That spanking occurred on a Thursday and my butt was burning Sunday afternoon. Every time I sat down or leaned my butt against something I was reminded what happens to naughty boys.  They get their butts spanked and spanked hard.  I thought for sure, that I would have black and blue marks all over my butt but Matthew was an expert paddler, and knew exactly how to spank a boy's butt.  I was just really sore for 4 days, but there was no bruising or serious damage. After the spanking we both jerked off.  That was the first time I jerked off in front of anyone and also the first time I saw someone else jerk off in person..  Ever since grade school, I jerked off by humping pillows while envisioning the paddlings I'd witnessed that day in school and thinking about someone spanking me like that. So here I was about to jerk off like that in front of the younger guy that just gave me my first real ass paddling.  It was so embarrassing, but I shamelessly grabbed my clothes, wadded them up into a ball and humped them for all I was worth. He stood over me stroking his own hard cock, while he watched my cherry red butt, that he just spanked that way,  hump up and down.  It was so humiliating having him watch my red ass thrust up and down in a feverish rhythm with that plug still up my hole.  I only wish his sweet boy crack was right there in front of my face so I could sniff it some more as I masturbated.  I did scrunch the area between my lip and nostrils up so I could smell the butt juice he marked my face with while he was paddling me earlier. I'm sure he enjoyed making me sniff his ass as he was definitely boned while he ground his ripe stinky butt hole up and down my nose! This spanking was filled with many first time experiences for me.  It was the first time my butt was spanked for real. It was also the first time anyone put a butt plug up my ass.  The first time I was stripped by someone else and the first time I laid over another man's knees for a spanking. This was the first time someone else saw or touched my butt hole, or ran his fingers through my ass crack.  It was the first time anyone grabbed my cock and stroked it or grabbed my ball sack and it was the first time I got to sniff another guy’s butt crack.   Yes like I said, this was a very memorable day indeed! 

It's with great sadness that Cornertime Confidential shares a passing of note. Marco was not even 40 when he let these blessed shores for some place better. We are truly disheartened. We have had other great Men leave the community: Eddie Knapps Eastbourne Daddy Daddy Howard Ron from Fresno, and others,  Some taken waaaaaay too soon. We're afraid that Marco too was taken too soon. Here's a simple, loving tribute to him from the filmmakers at Sting. Goodbye to a Dear Friend June 24, 2023 In Memorium • Marco  It is with great sadness that we have to release the news that Marco has died. He passed away after a sudden and very much unexpected serious illness. We all at Sting Pictures are of course shocked and mourning the loss of a great friend and colleague. He was only 37 years old.   Cornertime Confidential will remember you for years to come. Swift flight, Marco. Be well forever now.     Please comment below or email us with your ideas aok4otk@aol.com or cornertimeconf@gmail.com ______________________________________ Follow Cornertime Confidential Wherever You Are: Tumblr  ∙  SouthSpanking ∙  Twitter  ∙  WordPress

One of my biggest turn-ons is a role reversal spanking where a person that's usually in charge and usually would be doing the spanking ends up on the receiving end of the spanking.   The typical role reversal scenarios are things like employee spanks boss, son spanks dad, student spanks teacher, younger spanks older.    I told the story previously about my first spanking at age 47 from a young dominant 23 year old guy.   I had posted a message online looking to endure the humiliation of being spanked by a much younger guy. A young spanker replied to me and said he lived nearby.   He titled his message, "I'm young and I spank!"   Matthew, that young 23 year old spanker got off on spanking older men like me as much as I got off on being spanked by someone half my age.   He told me of other older men like me he put in their place with a humiliating over the knee spanking!   Matthew had plenty of experience with spanking.   He told me how his own dad paddled his bare bottom so he had  experience being on the receiving end of parental spankings, and he was actually a spanking porn model and made spanking videos for a porn studio.   Matthew was a perfect spanker for a beginner like me.   He knew just when to lay it on hard and when to back off so I didn't get scared away.    Here's some photo from one of the first few spankings I ever got.  It's from the third spanking he gave me.    24 year old Matthew is pulling down my pants so he can give me another long overdue spanking.   I was 48 years old this time.   I'm looking down at his firm but slender legs remembering what it's going to be like being a grown man at 48 years old being spanked over his knees like a naughty little boy.   I stand submissively in front of this young spanker as he takes my shirt off too.  Although this spanking will start over my tighty whities, I will end up buck ass naked for maximum shame and humiliation. Notice the contrast of his young, in shape, slender physique compared to my overweight out of shape body, making it even more embarrassing as he strips me. Humiliation is an important part of any spanking and Matthew is going to make sure I'm thoroughly embarrassed!      He doesn't waste a moment before he grabs me firmly by the arm and pulls me right where I belong, bent over his knees for a long overdue spanking.  I look down in embarrassment knowing he's going to feel my boner pressing against those slim hard thighs of his.   I can only imagine how satisfying it is for him to look at my brief clad bottom knowing he's going to turn it red with a hand spanking before he uses a paddle on me and gives me a real spanking!    His hand rubs my bottom as he slaps it, feeling the shape and contours, and the firmness of "the target" as he calls it.    I'm old enough to be his dad, and I wonder if he is pretending that he's getting even with someone like his dad for all the spankings he got growing up.  Out of curiosity, I asked my younger spanking friend Jordan, about his desire to spank his own dad.   He's mentioned several times how much he'd like to give his dad a spanking.   Jordan told me  "I think I'd like giving my dad a spanking because it would be so humiliating for him. To see him go red faced when he embarrassed the hell out of me as a teen would be so satisfying." That's exactly the way I see it from my point of view and why I like being spanked by younger guys so much.    It's the humiliation aspect of a spanking that turns me on so much.   For a grown adult to get stripped naked and spanked like a naughty boy is so humiliating.  Especially if it's a much younger guy spanking me.   And like Jordan said, I can't help but think about how satisfying it would be for them to be doing it!   I think about all the times I may have bossed a younger guy around and made him do work he didn't want to do, and think about how satisfying it would be for them to spank me.  Having total control over me, exposing me, turning my bottom bright red and getting their revenge!   Yes a role reversal spanking is satisfying for them to be dishing out and equally humiliating for me to be receiving!  Just like a spanking is meant to be! Link to Part 2

The paddle in the photo above is like one my friend Bill had hanging on his bedroom wall.  I remember being so fascinated by that paddle, and even more fascinated that his parents made him keep it in plain sight where all his friends could see it and ask him about it!   That paddle certainly wasn't just for show as I was there a couple times when it got used on his bare butt!    My dick would get so hard thinking about the humiliation Bill endured knowing all his friends looked at that paddle every time they came into his room and knew he got spanked with it!  Not just spanked, but spanked bare!    I felt bad for him but at the same time, it turned me on in a most incredible way!  Bill's paddle had the words spelled differently.  It said Cute Little Dear instead of Deer and Bare Behind instead of Bear Behind.   It still had the graphics of the deer and the bear on it.   Plus it was a regular spanking paddle not a thin one like the one in the photo.   Perhpas it was because it was made in the 1960's or maybe Bill's dad made it himself.   Memories of that paddle came back to me last month when I was in a local antique - arts/crafts store and saw a paddle hanging on the wall in that shop for sale.   It brought back those memories of when I was a kid. Both the catchy slogan and the fact it was hanging on the wall in plain sight just like the paddle in Bill's bedroom! When I was a boy, we'd go on family vacations in Wisconsin and there was a chain gas station/restaurant/gift shop in the Midwest called Stuckey's.  I guess they were also in the South.    We'd stop for gas, a bathroom break and grab some food before heading back out on the road again, but what I remember most is looking through the gift/souvenir shop.   As a young teenage boy what caught my eye were the spanking paddles that were for sale with the catchy sloagans on them.  Like "For the Cute Little Dear with the Bare Behind" similar to the one in Bill's bedroom.    Or "Attitude Adjuster" like the one above.   Or "Heat for the Seat". Parents would think they were funny and buy the paddles to use on their kids but they would scare the hell out of me!!!   Yet at the same time, just looking at those paddles would give me a boner!    Yes I was fascinated with them and I would constantly walk by the tables with the paddles on them trying not to be too obvious so that my parents didn't get any goofy ideas and buy one of them and ruin my vacation!  But seeing those paddles and thinking about them getting used on me made my dick so hard!  They probably weren't too effective, but I didn't know that at the time.  Looking back at it now I think they were made from a lightweight cedar wood (how appropriate to be made from cedar to be used to spank a boy's seater), but the wide color variation of red cedar,  when stained made for an attractive looking paddle!   Stuckey's restaurants were all over the place when I was a boy.  It was a mainstay of travel for both tourists and truckers to stop and get decent food.   They had all the essentials.  Gas, bathrooms, food and souvenirs.  The marketing theme was a good one because while you were waiting for your food, you could wander around the store and shop for gifts.   I loved looking at those spanking paddles!    I was truly worried that my parents would see them and get a crazy idea of buying one to use on me.   I always wondered what one of those paddles would feel like if it got used on my heinie!   But I was too chicken to actually find out!    I'm sure there were many adults and almost all of my friends that would have eagerly volunteered to try one out!  In the 1960's spanking boy's bottoms was a common thing.  I was the exception in that I never actually got spanked.   Above is a photo of the inside of one of the few more recent Stuckey's stores that are left.   When I was a kid it was more of a restuarant with regular seating with waited tables.  The restaurant took up at least half of the floor space with seating.  Unlike the photo above with a few self serve/dine in tables. Back in the day, it was more like a Cracker Barrel or Bob Evan's type restaurant.  The gift area were rows of flat tables with the merchandise laid out on the tables. It was easy for your parents to look over and see what you were looking at, (and make sure you were behaving)  so I had to slowly walk by the paddles and not stop and stare too long!  But I got a glimpse of those paddles as often as I could and wondered what it would be like to get spanked with one!  

  As we shared last week, the CP Community has experience a great, but inevitable loss this month. Vernon Learoy Tice Jr., age 78, of North Hollywood, California passed away on Monday, August 7, 2023. Founder of Camp Red Tails in Lake County, California, Vern was an (inter)national treasure who repeatedly, year-after-year made a difference in Men and adult boys' lives with his remarkable Camp Red Tails, Mans Hand Film, The Folsom Street Fair Spanking Booth, and much more. In today's post, CP folks far and wide tell the (red) tail as they knew him. We hope you'll share your memories too in the comments or reach out to us by email (link below), so we can add your recollections.  First, let's hear from the current organizers of Camp Red Tails, Danny (writing for the whole CRT crew). "On Vern Tice" From Danny, Camp Red Tails, (Saratoga Springs, California) In the night between August 6th and August 7th, 2023, Vern Tice – founder of Camp Red Tails and beloved friend to those who attend it – passed out of this world and into a state I prefer to call “exploring the What-Comes-Next”. Much as the true substance of a sentence are its words and not the period at its end, I would rather focus on the man Vern was – what he meant to those who knew him and the legacy he built for those kindred spirits like him – and not belabor his departure from this mortal coil.  Having known him for over half of my 52 years, I will forever regard Vern Tice as one of the most generous and kind souls that has ever been, and yet those terms – “generous” and “kind” – don’t feel like they’re doing justice to describing just how much Vern not only embodied these concepts, but also lived by them and carried them out.  Serving Our Community, Our Nation After serving in our country’s military during the Vietnam War, Vern spent countless hours and energy in the ensuing years battling to create a safe and thriving environment for his communities – the gay community and the kink-community, often at the same time.  One of Vern’s most publicly recognized endeavors was the running of the Man’s Hand Spanking Booth at the annual Folsom Street Fair. For over fifteen years, Vern created a Hands-On experience for both novices and the experienced “Old Guard” to “dip a toe” in the kink scene and community, all while raising thousands upon thousands of dollars for the AIDS Emergency Fund, so those experiencing HIV could receive financial aid for much needed medical treatments, housing, and services.  It was at the second such Spanking Booth that I met Vern Tice. At a time when I was new to not only the kink community but expressing myself as a gay man, Vern’s friendship and mentoring gave me the confidence and guidance to begin navigating the ensuing years. Vern’s friendship also brought me into the company of other kind-hearted and kink-hearted men such as himself, forging a community of mutual support and friendship.  Creating Community: Camp Vern’s passion was Camp Red Tails. He envisioned and then created a safe, immersive event where kinky-minded, spanking-enthusiast people could walk the walk and be as we truly are. An oasis of fun and friendship within the remainder of the mundane and vanilla year. Everyone at Camp Red Tails was greeted by Vern’s enormous smile and hearty hug. Vern’s annual year-long preparations made Camp Red Tails a place many call “home”. And each year, Vern’s sole endeavor for Camp was to ensure those attending were having a good time, putting his own enjoyment as secondary. He was happy as long as we were all happy, regardless of how much or how little he played himself. Camp Red Tails is able to continue and thrive primarily due to the blueprint than Vern created, and it will continue on thusly. As, over the subsequent 12 years, my first significant relationship quickly turned parasitic and abusive, Vern made sure there was always a place for me at Camp Red Tails -- an escape from my woes to regroup and regenerate my energy and my sanity. Vern never gave up on me at any point over those twelve years, time and again giving me his ear, his shoulder, his support, and his enormous heart until eventually I learned the courage to make the right decisions for myself and leave the bad situation. So for me, Vern and Camp Red Tails were literally life-altering, possibly even life-saving. And mine is no doubt just one story in a library of lives affected and improved by Vern. And for this, Vern has achieved the status of Saint in my eyes.   Radically Progressive It could also be said that Vern was generous to a fault. Once you knew Vern, he would bend over backwards to make sure you were doing well. Many, many of us were afforded free entry to camp at times when we perceived our financial situation would not permit it – even in the years when Vern had to dip into his own accounts to finance Camp as a whole. This also extended into his home life, agreeing to foster, feed, and care for countless homeless dogs in his own residence, thereby saving them from euthanization. I am forever in astounded awe at just how selfless time and again Vern was in actual practice.  When you analyze it, you come to realize how radically progressive Vern was.  The First Rule of Camp Red Tails The First Rule of Camp Red Tails, from its very start in 1995, was “Don’t do anything you don’t want to do”. This has, several decades later, become reflected in the #metoo movement’s sentiment “No Means No”.  Unashamedly Himself Vern was also unashamedly and contentedly himself at all times. He was an avid lover of books – novels and stories in leather-bound type – particularly in the Science Fiction Genre. At a time when I kept my true “nerdist” tendencies deeper in the closet than my kink-sexuality, Vern would carry on lengthy and exuberant conversations with me about how the latest episodes of Star Trek or Battlestar Galactica reflected the themes of the works of Jules Vern, Isaac Asimov, and Mary Shelley (the true founder of the Sci-Fi Genre, thank you very much), permitting and encouraging me to expend whatever volume of oxygen on each particular topic or point of discourse as I saw fit, without any hint of shame or changing of the subject.  Vern would seek out new Science Fiction Literature at annual Science Fiction Conventions throughout Southern California and the entire West Coast with his longtime friend Dennis. Vern also maintained his love for the game Dungeons and Dragons. And though I gave up the game in my teen years, I maintained a passion for dragons, unicorns, and all the magical beasties populating the game – a passion Vern encouraged and fostered. And though the wells of pop culture (i.e. the television show “The Big Bang Theory” and so-called “hot” Dungeons and Dragons-playing super celebrities such as Joe Manganiello and Henry Cavil) have mainstreamed “nerd” culture, Vern Tice was decades ahead simply by being unapologetically and unabashedly himself.  A Man Ahead of His Time I feel that to call Vern Tice “ahead of his time” is a disservice; the phrase makes it seem Vern was some passive and hapless time traveler. Change comes when brave people have the strength to hold to and espouse their beliefs and affinities and engender a shift in perception. And whether the context is the aisles of a Science Fiction Library or the playspace at Moonburn, Vern Tice was one such person. And this fellow Jean-Luc Picard quoting, dragon-loving, dog-hugging, power exchanging, spanking-craving self-identifying “nerd” will be forever grateful for predecessors and mentors such as Vern Tice.  Our Job Now: Live Whole-Heartedly These sentences, haphazardly typed onto the page, cannot possibly account for all that Vern Tice’s life encompassed or all that he meant to those whose lives he touched and shaped. But I do know for certain that we can all honor his life and work by following in his very large footsteps and continue to live our own lives as truly and as whole-heartedly as he did.  And to you Vern, wherever you may be exploring now, Camp Red Tails will always be the embodiment of your playful spirit. Please stop in anytime and see how we’re doing.  Sincerely, Dan  ______________________________________ And now some remembrances from Vern's friends, admirers, and fans.   From Strictop (North California, US)   I've known Vern for over 25 years.  I first met him at the 2001 Camp Redtails when I thought there was something important in being a 100% spanking top. He and his cohorts (Long Beach Glen, Copper, the Johns, and Dan, to name a few) perpetuated a unique space in Northern California where men could come together and express their shared fascination with spanking and where people like me could explore new ways of being kinky in a totally safe and supportive environment.   Vern had a unique ability to create and/or maintain ongoing events (Man's Hand Films, REDTAILS magazine, Moonburn spanking party, Folsom Street Fair spanking booth, etc.).  He provided an organizational locus where people wanted to gather and play. The mailing list and personals section for REDTAILS were essential means of national and international connectivity throughout the latter part of the 20th Century for men who spank men.  I knew him to be strong-willed, deeply ethical, and committed to creating – and most importantly maintaining – the best play spaces that he could.   Vern was a sweet, kind man who truly cared about his community. It was my great pleasure and privilege to have known and played with him over the course of three decades.   From Daddy Mark (Georgia, US)  Vern was truly a great guy and a trailblazer in his own right. I'll genuinely miss my friend and the unique world of filmmaking he brought to life for us all. On Friday, Aug. 18, we'll share an extra post written by Daddy Mark which will bring more "color" to Vern's film and video work and his CP celluloid legacy. We'll be sure to share that with you all through our social channels as well.  From Ross, (North Carolina, US) My most fond memory of Vern does come from Camp Red Tails.  Each year he would greet the campers with a speech at dinner on the first night.  EVERY year, he would tear up when talking about Camp and how special it was to him, and those who have attended.  They were heartfelt, sincere tears of joy, and remembrance of the amazing people and times that had come before.   He was a true pioneer in our community and a dear friend to many.  From Copper (Los Angeles, Calif) If you haven't already, read Copper's great post about Vern's passing the day he passed away. You can find that here: "In Memory of Gil Connelly" From Tommy (South Carolina, US) Dan's tribute (see above) on the Camp Red Tails site is masterful...and thematically similar to mine.   I know you are not looking for an analysis but for little kernels of memory.  Vern (Gil) was not so much spawner of fantastic stories. Most remember him for his convictions, vision, and warmth... On Thursday, we'll share much more from tommy! Be sure to tune in for that. See you on Thursday for his deep dive into the life and times of Vern Tice. From John & John (New York, US) Vern was the creative genius behind Camp Red Tails as well as Man’s Hand Films and The Man’s Hand Spanking Booth at Folsom Street Fair.   We are all the beneficiaries of Vern’s hard work on Camp Red Tails which he looked at as labor of love, as well as the vision and integrity he used to run it. We were honored when Vern entrusted Camp to the three of us (including Dan, see Dan's post above). We are committed to keeping his legacy and vision alive. It was by Vern’s doing that Camp Red Tails became the “magical” place it is today.  Vern's spirit will always be in our hearts and a part of Camp Red Tails.   A big spank you (errrr...thank you!) to all who contributed to today's and the posts on this coming Wednesday, Thursday, and Friday.   Please comment below or email us with your ideas aok4otk@aol.com or cornertimeconf@gmail.com ______________________________________ Follow Cornertime Confidential Wherever You Are: Tumblr  ∙  SouthSpanking ∙  Twitter  ∙  WordPress  

Well guys, as you know the upgrade caused us downtime of several days, something I wanted to avoid.  I could have restored from our backup and got us back on-line much sooner, however we would not have achieved our goal.    This upgrade was 100% necessary and I am happy to say will be the very last one using this script.   Do you notice anything different?   I hope not!  You are not supposed to!   The purpose of the upgrade was simply to get the database and file structure updated while identifying blocks and modules that were no longer compatible and of course removing them.   We did this because we want to move away from this script PHPFOX to SOCIAL ENGINE.  Having everything updated makes it easier for support requests with the new script and the database importer.   The script we use at present was developed and created by an amazing guy called Raymond Benc, he had an awesome team of developers and support personnel.  The script was in high demand and new Apps and modules were being heavily developed by 3rd party vendors.   Raymond was forced to sell the script to a company called Younet a number of years ago.  Now they have their fingers in many pies and their business model is to raise as much money as they can from existing script owners.  They have done this by introducing a new product tier and if you want the updated Apps such as mobile, you need to pay a premium of 300% of your original purchase price to get your product updated.  Not only that you then have to pay on-going annual fees.   Okay, this may have been sustainable and of course had to be considered.  Even if I had gone this route, no one is really developing anything new for PHPFOX, basically it’s really only YOUNET themselves.  In contrast Social Engine has a healthy and vibrant 3rd party community   They just screwed me again, by removing support for our chat bar, so I am forced to use one we bought some time ago, its slower but will do the trick meantime.  They did this because, they have developed their own system, with a price tag of almost 1K – now aren’t they just clever?   Now that this upgrade has been achieved, we can start work on a move to SOCIAL ENGINE.  The best part about this is, that it will be developed alongside our existing script.  This means no downtime until we are ready to go live and even then, it will be minimum.   When we achieve this move, which I will begin working on today, we will have an awesome site that is quick, full of the features we want and fully compatible with mobile devices.  That is where we need to be.   I will be posting more on this later, and if you have any questions, please go ahead and reach out.   James

So, having spent some time testing, evaluating and frustrating .. here is some good news.   With a fresh installation, no bells and whistles but with complete functionality, the site will work for mobile based devices, including phone and tablets from an app that can be downloaded via google and apple stores. (Please do NOT download and attempt to connect, just yet).   I want to emphsize that for desktop users everything will be as it is right now, no need for downloading apps ..   We do have a number of modules that will not work with the mobile side of things and would need to be removed, but everything such as videos, photos, posts etc will 100% work on both desktop and mobile devices.   The chat bar will not work on mobile and tablets, but there is a certified one from the script vendor that will work on both desktops and mobiles, it also allows video chat, conferences and more.  If you want to check it out here is the URL:   https://store.phpfox.com/apps/chatplus   It is pricey but with this installed and mobile working properly, it will greatly enhance the site and member experience.   If we strip out all the whistle and bells, simplify things, it will also speed up the site .. so I will do more testing and then update you what is our next move.  To be honest it is looking very positive right now.   Hugs   James    

The best weekend of my life As all great things, there is a beginning an an end.  And our great time together came to an end.  But our sadness on parting is somewhat muffled by the promisie of more meetings to come (but not enough to prevent us both from openly weeping that final day before the airport). But thinking back on it, the greatest weekend of my life, a particular time came to my mind, a time in bed whie I watched you sleep. CODA I dare you Mike, look at your sleeping son, red bottom and tears still on his cheeks, but with contented expression, fast asleep with his head on your shoulder.  I dare you to look and not have tears yourself.  But cry quietly, so as to not wake your sleeping son, who you love so much. We share this feeling. this bond.  When I hold you, my crying son in my arms and telling you all is forgiven, and everything is going to be alright.  It's the best feeling in the world.  Son, maybe you know others that would make better dads than I.  And still you chose me somehow.    But you are the Only one I know that actually gets this; that understands this feeling and shared bond.  And that's not even counting the fact that I do love you dearly, like a dad loves his son.  I am the luckiest dad in the world.

I never played strip poker with my friends but if I did the photo above (not a picture of me) would be how it would end up for me.   I wasn't  a very good poker player, so I would end up buck ass naked and my friends would still have all their clothes on!    Once naked, they would make me continue to play with spankings as the penatly for losing!   The strip poker games I remember being mentioned, the loser got spanked by EACH of the other players each time he lost after all his clothes were gone, until everyone but one guy was naked!   My friends would really enjoy that since they knew I never got spanked at home and I enjoyed watching them get spanked so much.   The smirks on the faces of the guys in the photo would be like the smirks my friends would have, enjoying my naked humiliation! @Shadow posted a GIF photo of a guy playing strip poker with a couple friends.  The guy was pulling off his briefs, and covering his crotch as he did, out of embarrassment.  Probably because he was the first one in the game to be totally naked. Or maybe he had a boner like I would have had!   I'm sure his buddies are soon going to have him stand there with his hands on his head so he's fully exposed in front of them for their enjoyment!    I rarely post photos in my blog that aren't pictures of me and this is another one of them, butI don't have any pictures of myself playing strip poker and it shows what it would be like for me if I played strip poker with my friends.   I would end up naked and they would be fully clothed!   And being naked in front of others gives me a boner which I'm sure they would find very amusing and would make sure I never heard the end of it!   Once I was bare I'm sure they would have other activities planned for my naked ass. I wonder if there's a group of friends just watching that they made him kneel like that with his knees wide apart so his hole and balls are on display?   But humiliation is part of the game!    I was even more shy than the guy in the photo Shadow posted.   That photo reminded me of a time when I was in my late teens I played a game of strip poker with my younger brother and a family friend who was between our ages.   I lost and refused to take off my briefs leaving myself totally naked in front of them, saying I'd do it later.   Just the thought of being exposed naked in front of them gave me a boner and I couldn't face them, having them know I was sexually turned on by being forced to be naked!    So I told them I'd strip in front of them later.  Our parents came home before my boner went away.   They should have ganged up on me, forcibly stripped and spanked me for trying to renege - right then and there.   I'm sure that's what would have happened if it was a group of my friends I played with and I might have even been thrown outside naked too!   Once I was naked, I'm sure the game would have continued until there was only one person left with clothes on, and spankings would have been the penalty for losing if we were naked already.  I really missed out on an opportunity to get some of those early spankings I craved from my friends but that boner of mine just made it too embarrassing!  If I could only go back in time and do things differently! I did play "strip poker" with my friends but at a much younger age.   We would also just get naked together.   I remember them commenting that even at a young age how I always had a boner!   That was before any of us knew what a boner meant so it wasn't a big deal.   We would play strip card games (we didn't know how to play poker at that age) and run down the streets naked and not even think twice about being naked in front of each other.  Then that age came and everyone became self conscious about nudity and all the fun stopped.  Especially me, once I knew having a boner meant I was sexually aroused!  All that naked fun was never brought up again.   I remember one time sleeping over at a friend's house around age 10 or 11, and we were naked in bed together.  We weren't doing anything sexual, we just liked getting naked.   My friend's bully older brother Bobby came in and yanked the covers off him, exposing him naked and laughed at him.   Then he looked at me and asked if I was naked too.   I was terrified because I was.    I lied to him and said I was half naked.   He must have figured out the truth because he laughed and walked away calling us fags.   Bobby was the one the two of us heard get belt whipped by his dad one day when he was 18.  Although we didn't actually see the whipping, it was very satisfying hearing Bobby yelping and begging his dad to stop spanking him  and hearing the belt crack down on his bare ass after having him torment us so much over the years.  Not only that, but Bobby was a preppy kid that wore tight white jeans that his hot little butt filled out just right and that turned me on a lot!  Even back then!  Maybe it's because I knew his little butt got spanked a lot!  I looked through my hard drive and found some old photos of strip poker that turned me on enough to save them. Again, none of these are photos of me.   When I played strip poker there weren't digital cameras!  I noticed one guy still has his briefs on and the other guy doesn't.   Did they get to choose which piece of clothing got taken off or did the winner of the hand choose?   Or did they roll a dice or have some other item of chance make the choice?   Perhaps the guy sitting bare ass likes to show off his dick and ass to his buddies!  My dick would be hard so I would want to wait until the last possible moment!  But my buddies would want my boner exposed as soon as possible!   I notice they aren't sitting at a table to hide their genitals from each other.   If I were playing I'd have a boner and my friends would all be laughing and teasing me about it!   The guy in back is looking at the camera so I wonder in the camera man in playing too or if he's fully clothed and just enjoying the show?   The naked guy is sitting in a way that fully exposes himself!   His choice or his friend's?    I wonder what the stakes are for the naked guy if he loses this hand?   Maybe a spanking!  This photo was titled "Lost Playing Paddle Poker".    I like the way the naked guy is made to sit there with his hands behind his head fully exposing himself.  I'm thinking it's from some real event since everyones faces are blocked out.   I'm not sure what the logo is at the bottom but the photo below has the same logo and It was titled "Strip Poker Losers Forced to Walk Home Naked"   Yeah it looks like two naked college boys were forced to walk home bare after losing at strip poker.   I'm sure their buddies called some people to make sure they were spotted when they got close to the dorms!   Imagine loosing a strip game of chance in a public place and being forced to stay naked the rest of the night!   It looks like they may have been spanked too! I wonder if they'll get their clothes back before they're sent home?  A naked loser could be forced to keep playing with spankings or other consequences at risk for another loss.  Like losing his pubes and ass hair, or having to masturbate in frront of his buddies and eat it! Or anything else they might come up with!   The more clothes they have on the worse it will be for him!   I've always been turned on by games of strip/spank poker or any spanking games of chance.  They would be fun to play even now with a group of firends.   Even if I'm not really a willing participant!   Maybe someone will see my blog and insist that I play!   

One of the things that makes any punishment more effective is making it public by allowing others to witness the offender's comeuppance.  Especially if that punishment is a spanking! It's even more embarrassing for a grown adult to be punished this way!   Yes, if you act like a boy you get treated like a boy - it doesn't matter how old you are!   Yes, It's utterly humiliating for a grown man to be stripped buck ass naked, and bent over another man's knees so his bare bottom can be spanked like a naughty little boy!  The humiliation is driven home, as the witnesses make eye contact with him, seeing the level of pain build as the spanking progresses.  And the "boy" being spanked can see how much the audience is enjoying the show he's putting on.      Not just spanked like a little boy, but my pubes and bottom were shaved right in front of those other men so I would look and feel like a boy too!   And I got lectured like a little kid for everyone to hear!  I felt childish in more ways than one!   Here I am at 57 years old, a grown adult, bent naked over another man's knees for a well deserved punishment spanking in front of eight other men!   I was certainly reduced to the state of a naughty little boy as a lexan paddle lit my bare bottom on fire!.    The other men thoroughly enjoyed hearing the crack of the paddle and my cries of pain!   Oh I tried to remain stoic, but with that lexan paddle being used, in a matter of a few seconds I quickly learned that it was a futile effort!   Before I knew it I was gasping for air and carrying on like a 5 year old.     This was a real punishment spanking for something I did way back in high school and got away without getting any discipline for. That is until this man found out about it and decided to give me the bare bottom spanking my own dad should have given me forty years earlier!   I also managed to escape being paddled in school for it, so he spanked me again, telling me that was the paddling the principal should have given me in school when I returned to class!  This spanking was bare naked and delivered hard and fast, right from the start, for maximum effect.     My face contorting in pain as the paddle made rapid fire contact with my bare naked bottom. Oh what an amusing sight it must have been for those other men watching.   After they heard me confess what I did, I'm sure they all felt that a harsh spanking was exactly what I deserved, and they were looking forward to seeing me get it!  I looked up at them a few times as I got that spanking.  Some of them were in awe that I was being spanked so hard.  Others had a smug smirk of satisfaction on their faces knowing I was getting exactly what I had coming to me!  A long overdue authentic punishment spanking!    My fingers barely touching the ground and my legs kicking as that lexan paddle lights an inferno on my bottom!   After the spanking was over, I realized just how ridiculous I looked, a grown man getting a childish over the knee spanking with everyone watching!  However while I was getting spanked, all I could think about was how much it hurt and I could only hope the spanking was going to end soon, but it felt like it went on for an eternity!         Not only did I get spanked with the paddle that day, but I also got my first taste of a cane!   Before the spanking started my crotch and butt were shaved, to reduce me to the state of a hairless little boy!  I felt completely exposed as I stood to get spanked with the cane.  My bald boy parts were flopping around for amusement of those watching as I did the spank dance as the cane sliced into my already red and sore bottom!    You can see me raising myself up on my toes as the sting of the cane builds.       My well spanked bottom after getting the punishment spanking I deserved since high school.  It was forty years overdue but it was well delivered!   There were a few angry red cane lines when the spanking was finished and I felt it when I sat down for days.  Both the intensity of the spanking and the audience seeing my face of pain and shame made my punishment complete.  I have to admit that I truly got a long overdue punishment!   When I created this post in my original spanking blog, I debated for weeks, whether or not to publish it,  This was the first time I posted naked close up photos of myself with my face so clearly exposed while getting a spanking!  It was exciting being exposed like that online for everyone to see yet it was also frightening that someone from "vanilla life" might see these pictures, recognize me and realize that as an adult, I get my bottom spanked like a naughty little boy!  Perhaps I secretly want that to happen.  I couldn't help but think about the real consequences that might be in store for me if that happened, and the reality of that got me even more excited!   I decided that in my next few posts, I should write details explaining exactly what those "vanilla" friends should do to me if they were to find blog, so nothing would be left to chance!  After all I wouldn't want them to have second thoughts about confronting me  and giving me the humiliating spanking I've been craving!   They should certainly spank me in the most humiliating ways, to make my shame complete!  These next few posts will serve as a "spanking tutorial" so that if someone recognizes me, they will know exactly what to do!  I want them to know exactly what I need and deserve!   I don't want there to be any doubt in their mind they should give me a humiliating public spanking!    Naked and fully exposed for everyone to see!  Face and all!       

Well guys, I have been spanked, it was a long session that brought a few tears with it.  I deserved it though and I am grateful to my Dad Denis, for taking his time to administer the spanking I know was both needed and deserved.    I know all boys have different pain thresholds when they get spanked, and while its true I do get my fair share of spankings, you may besurprised to learn that I get a good ‘warming’ by hand before the actual punishment begins.  Once I am over and in just the right position, hestarts with gentle swats, he uses his hand to slap both cheeks at the same time, over and over.  The slaps get harder as the minutes pass, untilI am yelping a bit and squirming, the reason for the ‘warming’ is to prepare my bare bottom for the punishment he has in mind.   After the ‘warming’ the slaps are much harder, his hand is always straight, never cupped and he always rests his hand after each spank on whatever part of my bottom his hand lands on, for a couple of seconds.  Then the next punishment spank is delivered and the process continues until I am begging him to stop and as all boys do making my promises to be good.   Today though I also got the brush, so after the punishment hand spanking was completed, I was sent to the corner to reflect on my behavior,for five minutes.  As I feared when he released me from corner time he had the little wooden brush in his hand, I felt like a condemned manwalking over to his lap.  It hurts guys, the brush really does sting, I mean even with a hand warming, dang did I feel well punished when hestopped.  And it wasn’t over, dad always begins my spankings by hand and always finishes them by hand, and when he had finally decided Ihad enough I was given post spanking corner time.   I am still being punished, while I completed the pre spanking and post spanking corner time, I am in the  wooden naughty chair for a fewhours.  Its probably not what you think, the chair is used in lieu of lengthy corner time, essentially, I am confined to a tee and socks only andmust take the chair with me, wherever I go.  If I want to watch TV, I have to sit on it, not the comfy sofa, if I want to sit in the backyard, again Ihave to take it with me, and even now at my computer I am sitting on it with a very red and sore bottom.   I am going to post my thoughts as a series, I think it will be interesting to hear views and opinions which I believe may differ greatly and honestly that is just fine, that is as it should be.   Spankings for some, are a learning experience and a defined punishment and for others they simply want to feel the heat and pain.  Whatever the reason for a boys spanking be it punishment, fun or possibly a couple of guys playing and switching roles, I say great!  Nothing wrong withany of it.   Another point gentlemen, is to be careful for what you wish for, and I am serious.  I often hear other guys comment how lucky I am to be in a 24/7 discipline relationship, well trust me its not as simple as you think and not as much fun either.  It is safe to say that couples that do use discipline and spanking in their relationships are not all equal, different standards and reasons for punishment exist. Most importantly while it is a foundation block of their relationships, their entire lives do not revolve around punishment.   That said it is a wonderful relationship and has many advantages and they key is dependability and reliability.  There is very little point in a boy deciding when or when he does not deserve or need a spanking, choosing to either accept or reject his discipline as it suits him, will simply not work.  Once rules have been agreed upon, expectations, goals and acceptable behavior decided upon, its his dad that decides when, why and how punishment happens.  It must be dependable.  Trust me there are way way many times when I have tried to talk my way out of being spanked, and really would rather have been anywhere else in the world, than with my pants and briefs down being scolded by dad.   It never matters, once my bottom has been bared, I know I am going over his knees, no exceptions and regardless of my promises or pleading for leniency.  As far as Dad is concerned, I have been naughty and its time for my punishment, a good spanking over his knees.   Our rules have changed over the years, but essentially, they revolve around well being and health, obedience and manners as well as more defined ones such as chores etc.  In a dad/son relationship obedience is really important, because as a boy you need to be mindful, respectful and accept your dad’s authority.   I also believe the relationship does depend a lot on a boy’s acceptance of being a boy, his nature and personality.  I am good natured, love a joke and fun but I also accept the fact that in someways at least I am immature and submissive to a dad’s authority.  There are many dad’s on this site and quite a few tops that I respect and without mentioning names, if one of them told me to come stand between their legs, I would do so and submissively put my hands on my head.  I wouldn’t just anyone spank me, it’s a sort of radar or ‘boydar’ if you will.  Although Denis my Dad is the one that tends to my discipline on a regular basis, I have been spanked by other dads from time to time with Denis’s full knowledge and approval.   So share your thoughts?

Guys, It has taken me a few days to make this post, mainly because I am still actually working on the site. What we have successfully completed is to fix our server faults and to upgrade to the latest version of our current script with a fresh database. We are not finished and we will be upgrading to social engine. I would like to explain a little about performance.  In the coming days / weeks, I will be focusing on it, so that we get to a point where speed and performance is acceptable, that is as far as it goes.  After that I will be working on the social engine migration. Site performance is determined by a number of factors, these include the hardware, operation system, web server, database driver, cache manager and of course at the application level.  In order to get these perfect, would require some intervention from a seasoned professional, as there are literally hundreds of variables involved.  In our case we have Centos 8 - LiteSpeed WebServer - MariaDB - PHP 7.4 -  Redis - Phpfox (as you can see a lot of possible variables) I can do a lot of it but by no means all of it.  One of the things that really helps with a sites speed and performance is a cache plugin and there are a number of these available for Social Engine and WordPress, however nothing for our script, PhpFox. The Social Engine migration will run along side our current script, and no down time will be required until we are fully tested and ready to move.  That is an important feat, and largely due to what we have achieved recently. When we get that move over to Social Engine, I promise you – performance issues will be a thing of the past and mobile and tablet versions of the site will run exceptionally well.  If we want to attract new members and especially younger ones, we need it all to work. I appreciate your patience, and I know I have not delved into a whole lot in this post, but I am hoping to give you some insight on the direction I am moving.  All I can do is ask for your continued support, understanding and patience.    James