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I spent the weekend with my daddy in Charlotte North Carolina. It was just as amazing as I hoped it would be and I'm still reeling a bit from just how great it was.  We shared a hotel room at the same hotel many of our friends were staying at this weekend to attend a specific spanking party. I arrived Friday around 2:30pm and he picked me up and we grabbed some food. From there we checked into the hotel and the spankings began. First five with the frat paddle on my jeans and then I took a shower. After that I was giving a good hand spanking and then a hard short bathbrush spanking which brought me to tears.   Over the course of the weekend I'd be spanked, paddled and strapped many more times. Each one was expertly done by my daddy and quite a few of those spankings would bring me to tears from the emotions I felt just bursting out. I'd get a strapping at the party in front of everyone as well as 500+ licks from the belt when we got back to the hotel. The final day I got multiple spankings including two bathbrush spankings that brought me to tears. I have a special relationship with that brush and dad knows exactly what is going to happen when he applies it on my bare bottom. He's the only person I trust to do it.   It was a very emotional weekend filled with spanking and cuddling and lots of tears. I wouldn't trade it for the world and I love my daddy bear with all my heart even though he's the meanest daddy in the entire world.   Thank you for being my daddy and making me feel loved, safe and cared for.     

Being spanked over the corner of the bed is both erotic and humiliating.  The friction of the corner of the mattress against my dick is arousing and at the same time the position spreads my legs to make it humiliating.   My dick and balls can be safely tucked underneath me to shield them from the lash of the belt, or they can be pulled back between my legs for maximum exposure when using a more controlled implement like a paddle of short strap.  Either way, I know my naked bottom is presented in a way that makes me appear to be begging for a spanking, and that's exactly what I'm going to get!   A low down point of view showing my "boy parts" and hole!   This position provides access from both sides to make sure my bottom gets well spanked and I feel the tip of the belt or strap on each butt cheek.   The corner of the bed makes sure my dick and balls stay back well presented.     A wide leather belt always turns me on!     After being spanked OTK, I can't deny that being positioned naked and fully exposed over the corner of the bed with straps and paddle waiting to be put to use, turns me on in an incredible way!        The corner of the bed presents an inviting target that's just begging for a spanking.   Another advantage to this position is that it provides easy access to the tender sit spots so they can be thoroughly spanked as well.     The corner of the bed spreads my legs wide apart and exposes my "boy parts" for maximum exposure and humiliation.   Perhaps my own belt will taken out of my jeans and be used to spank me with too. 

Anyone can copy this text and post it places as long as it is for non-commercial use and an acknowledgement to the site and author is included.  James.   It is very true that reality is stranger than fiction and more so of fantasy.   It is also true that my Dad has his hand, hairbrush and paddle and I have a bottom to be bared.   And of course, spanking and corner time are not mutually exclusive.       A BOYS BEGINS TO UNDERSTAND CHAPTER 1   Sitting on the hard-wooden chair, in nothing but my tee and socks, my partner and Dad began to explain things to me.  He was smiling, a twinkle in his eye but at the same time I could tell he was also very serious.   ‘The point of punishment James, is to correct you and there is no question about that.  Changes need to be made in how you have done things in the past although controlling your behavior for your future will be much more natural and easier to make effective. It is true that my hand will definitely be the mainstay of punishment when you break any rules or miss your goals.  If needed we will use the hairbrush’   ‘Its intent is, of course, to reach you quickly and get your legs flailing and your yells coming out immediately, but when Dad's done giving it to you, my hand will continue your spanking’   I mean seriously?  The freaking hairbrush! I hate the brush with every fiber in my body.    Oh, and it just got even worse …   ‘Dad’s hand is also far more active in first helping you to adjust your cock and balls so they hang down over his thigh and aren’t squeezed as your bare bottom bounces and wiggles during your spanking and far more effective on your upper and inner thighs and buns as he tans your bare bottom, while you are trying to get words out with promises’   I just can’t believe it …. It’s so unfair! … but he continues as I begin developing a pout!   ‘You have a Dad who understands that your spankings always need to stop way after you hope, plead or beg Dad to stop.’   'Dad can tell by the skin on your bare bottom how things are going and the sobs and tears add to it.  It is not difficult to know when you are pleading whether it's time to continue or lessen up a bit, but stop?  Not going to happen.'   My bottom is now tingling nervously, as I take it all in, darn and he means every word of it!   ‘When you don’t agree or definitely don’t want a spanking, you will go over my knees for one anyway.  All of that is normal.  You can say, “OK, sorry Dad, I’ll go over your knees now” or “No way, Dad!  Unfair and unreasonable.  My bottom’s already sore!” but then you risk the hairbrush or strap.  We both know what you will choose.’   Choose?  Is he kidding? And now I am not only pouting, but my face is flushed deep red!   ‘There will always be a paddle, hairbrush, strap, and spanking chair in our house for your future for correction, punishment, and/or times when you simply are getting a review or reminder’   What the heck is a review or reminder?  My nervousness just soared to new heights while my bare bottom jiggles on the chair, a stark reminder of my current position.   ‘Yes, young men like James are  spanked, stood in the corner, and spanked again, but it can also happen when after you’ve been spanked and  you are told to keep your bottom bare and we enjoy dinner or preparing such or even cuddle on the couch and Dad still decides you need a firmer spanking (or more).  That’s not usual but possible depending on your reactions and especially how cuddly you are with your Dad as he wipes your tears and listens to your response.’   Okay so the cuddly bit sounds really nice, right?  But stood in the corner – now that is just plain mean.  I think he was reading my mind as he continued …  ‘ I’m sure that knowing your shyness, you will come to dislike corner time when you must have your bare bottom showing.  However, in your case, it is especially meaningful as you’ll know what Dad is seeing and pondering regardless as to whether you’ve already been turned over before being stood in that corner’   ‘Your emotions are going to vary significantly, but one thing you will always be able to depend on James, is that when I take your jeans and briefs down for a spanking, you will always get one’   ‘And I see a certain young man, who’s jeans and briefs have already been taken down, waiting for his spanking’   I nearly fainted, as the realization hit me.   He nudged me up from my chair, and took me in his arms, it was a wonderful feeling.  We hugged for a long time, his hand holding my bare bottom.   “OK, now James, what punishment have you brought on your nice bare bottom?’   As I started my reply, he was leading me over to the spanking chair, his hand planted firmly on my very bare buns.   Sitting down in that chair, he looked me straight in the eyes   ‘You’ve always known what you were risking but you did it anyway.  Now Dad will give you what was promised.  Over you go, son.’   I did as I was told and found myself in that classic over the knee spanking position that all naughty boys are familiar with.   He took his time, adjusting my cock and balls over the side of his thigh, then we talked (while his hand was on my bare bottom) about my failure and why Dad has to spank my bare bottom now, and he did.  No amount of promising or begging or tears at all prevented my correction and then some.    Eventually I was sobbing from emotions and the pain of my spanking.  Dad encouraged me to let my emotions out while he continued spanking my now very red bottom.     ‘There is never a need to be stoic and just "take it like a man."  You're a boy at heart James and a boy who responds as a boy when his Dad pulls his briefs down and gives him a good spanking.’   After my spanking, I could feel the tension as I stood in the corner reflecting, or ‘thinking’ time as Dad calls it.   I stood there, resisting the urge to rub my now very red and very hot buns.  If Dad sees my stance in the corner to be less repentant than Dad wants or my hands stray from where they should be, he might pull me out of my corner for a repeat spanking.  I knew I could count on it!  Every boy that messes up their corner time gets one, and I knew there would be no exception for me.   Yes, it did take a long time and I was definitely sore sitting the next day, but I did feel absolutely wonderful!    That following morning, we talked about why I had to be punished.   If it happens again Dad had decided the hairbrush will be used on my bare bottom to the point where I was are sure I can’t take anymore. A good long spanking with the hairbrush will be followed with another trip over Dad’s knees before bedtime, at a minimum.   How do I feel about all this huh?   Dad punishes me as his Son, no matter how much I sob and with choking tears as I am begging him to stop and promising him the world. My Dad will always give me the spanking I have earned and never stop spanking or paddling or giving my bare bottom the hairbrush.  Dad judges what I need period.  I always remember my spanking will at some point end, and I will be hugged and comforted and yes, loved.  I know that I will always have a dad who loves and cares for me.

So I like realistic dad / son spankings. The whole idea of spanking for me is to correct bad behaviour, so roleplay and creativity is really important for me. As is a strong dominant daddy who knows how to control and discipline his errant son. Here's a wee story I came up with that would make an interesting scenario. -------- I stood there at my parents front door, with a guilty conscious, knowing I had messed up. I’m 19 now and that went to live in university halls almost a year ago, and I haven’t visited my parents since. When I’m not hungover I try to send a text or 2 to check in, but never visit or call. I had made plans on several occasions to visit but always came up with excuses to cancel. Either I had something to study for last minute, or I was too hungover from the night before. If procrastination or drinking was a subject I would get distinctions! But when it came to important matters like studying, homework and family, i am severely lacking. Even before I chapped the door to my old family home I could tell my loving mother would be upset and my father… angry. *KNOCK* *KNOCK* The door opened and stood there was my dad. “Hello son, long time no see. I think we have some matters to discuss don’t we?” “Hey dad, I suppose.” I shuffled through the door, head hung and dropped all of my bags in the hall. Dad gave me a long embracing hug and led me by the shoulder to the living room. “It’s good to see you! Mums just went out with some her girlfriends for lunch, while we have a chat. What have you been doing for the past year, where have you been, why haven’t you visited or called?” “I dunno, i’ve been really busy with uni and all that, it’s hard to keep up. I do feel guilty for not visiting though. “Good you should feel guilty. Your mother is very upset with you, how do you think she feels? She raised you for 20 odd years, and you leave and hardly contact us for a year like we are nothing to you.” “I know, i know i’m sorry dad, i’ll make it up to her okay?” “Yes you will, and i’ll make the past years worth of ill-discipline up you as well. Go fetch the spanking chair, you are getting the spanking of your life son.” “What are you talking about dad, i’m in university now, you can’t spank me like you used to. I’m to old for that banned word now.” “Don’t test my patience boy, the spanking chair is in the same place it always is, go and bring it to me NOW, or this will get a hell of a lot worse than it needs to be.” “No i’m not letting you spank me, come on dad this has to be a joke. Lets just grab a beer and watch the football?” “Okay boy, i’m going to make this VERY clear to you. Either you bring me the spanking chair and do as your told NOW or i’ll stop paying for your uni fees. It’s your choice.” “Dad you can’t….” “Yes I can, I work hard to pay for your university education and we get nothing in return. So either you do as your told or that’s it!” “Well I don’t really have a choice do I?” “Good boy” Reluctantly I left the room to fetch the spanking chair. I return and hand it to dad who places it in the middle of the living room. “Come here boy.” Dad pulls me to stand directly in front of him. As with all his spankings when I was younger it starts on my underwear. I know to put my hands on my head and don’t need to be told as dad struggles with my belt and zipper, and pulls down my skinny jeans to my ankles. Still with my hands on my head, he lectures me some more., I can’t help but to think “can we hurry up and just get this over with”, but would never say it out loud. Finally after the verbal embarrassment and scolding was over, he took me over his knees. *spank* *spank* *spank* *spank* *spank* *spank* *spank* *spank* *spank* My dad is smaller than me in height but he has a powerful right hand, and I completely forgot how much a spanking actually hurts. It’s pretty humiliating being over dads knees at this age, but I kept telling myself it was better than losing my university money. Dad continued to spank over my boxers until he pulled them up into a wedgie and started spanking my bare cheeks. Usually dad would do this to check how red by butt was getting before he pulled my boxers down for good. I knew it was coming, but it was always unexpected. There is something about being over the knee bare bottomed that is… humbling. Dad finally stopped as I felt him reach for the waistband of my boxers and pulled them to my ankles. I tried with my arm to keep them on and pleaded with him not to spank me on my bare butt, but to no avail. Dad overpowered me and down they came. I was over his knee being spanked on my bare butt like I was a kid again. I completely forgot how humiliating it is. There is little, to no privacy and dad has complete control over what happens next. Dads big hand keeps pounding down on my ass. I start to struggle but with my jeans and boxers by my ankles I don’t have much ability to move. He scolds me, talks to me, guides me throughout the spanking, but never once shouts. His voice is commanding but he knows not to spank in anger. He's scolding me to teach me a lesson, he's spanking me to reinforce the message, and is humiliating me to make sure i never do it again. It's a triple threat that make sures i'm properly disciplined and punished. Finally after what seems like an eternity dad tells me to stand up. I immediately try to cover my privates but i’m told to put my hands on my head. Slowly i abide. Dads sitting so i’m aware that my privates are pretty much at his eye level. The sense of shame is overwhelming, i'm too old for this, or at least i should be too old for it. Dad starts lecturing me again, which makes it worse. I’m listening but i’m overcome by so many other emotions that it’s difficult to take in. Dad asks me questions and I try to answer the best I can. He tells me to look at him when i'm being talked to but i'm so embarassed i'm looking at my feet a lot. Every time i look at my feet, dad takes a hold of my wrist and gives a short quick spank to my butt and i'm reminded to look at him. It's so embarassing. Dad then tells me to strip, and i know now, not to argue back. I get on with it taking off my boxers, jeans and t-shirt, thoughtlessly flinging them on the floor. Dad is not impressed. He gives me a couple of swats, says he taught me better and to fold my clothes in a neat pile. There is something about being told to do this that just amplifies the fact that i’m no longer the 20 something year old man and that he is the one that is in control. I fold my clothes and go back over to stand in front of him, hands on head. I have lost pretty much all my dignity now standing there naked apart from my socks in front of my dad. What i didn't know was that the spanking had only just begun. Dad took me back over his knee and started with his hand again. He made sure that not even an inch of my bottom and top legs was missed with his hand. Now that my legs were unrestricted by my jeans he often told me to spread them wide so we could spank every inch! He spanked hard, his hand like a leather strap, and my legs flailing around like a bucking horse. But there was no denying who was in control. Dad had me held in position well. Sometimes he would move his spare leg over mine to stop me kicking. He would remind me to stay still, take my hand to prevent me from covering my ass. Every so often he would stop to question me some more, ensure i was learning my lesson and rub my butt cheeks to feel the warmth. Again it was embarassing for dad to do this, but I much preferred it to the pain of the spanking. Finally he stopped and told me to take the slipper off his foot and pass him it. I was still over the knee at this point and so reached over to take it off. It’s so humiliating to concede and have to give dad an implement to spank you with. *SPANK* *SPANK* *SPANK* the slipper came down with a more a sting to it than dads hand. It hurt! I could almost feel my butt radiate warmth and red glow. Dad would change the speed of his spanking regularly, it wasn’t a relentless spanking, dad didn’t like to rush things. He took his time and liked perfection, he was going to ensure I learnt my lesson. Sometimes he would spank fast, I would struggle, squirm and plead. Sometimes it was hard and at a steady speed. Sometimes he put the slipper on my ass as if he was about to spank me then not, so i didn’t clench my butt. You see dad had a lot of experience at disciplining me when I was younger and he knew how to press a boys buttons. Having been thoroughly spanked and promising i’d be a better son, dad took me off his knee and placed me in the corner. I stood their hands on head, feet wide apart. “We’re nowhere near done yet” Dad said, as I heard the bath being but on. I stood there nose against the wall thinking what was coming next. Occasionally dad would come up behind me, rub my ass, comment on how red it was and even give me a couple of swats. Dad knew how to physically discipline me, but he also knew how to emotionally discipline me too. His scolding, lecturing and questioning, really made me feel like a naughty little boy that had done wrong. Dad used various corner time techniques with me growing up. Sometimes i'd be on my knees, sometimes i'd have to hold a coin up against with wall with my nose, othertimes it wasn't cornertime and instead I had to write lines! Finally dad took me by the ear into the bathroom, told me to take off my socks and get in the bath. I done as I was told, i wasn’t going to argue with dad when he was in a mood like this. He mentioned that he was going to ensure I was presentable for mum and that I looked the part. Once in the bath he told me to get into various positions as he washed me clean. He also took the razor and shaved off my pubes and ass hair. I tried to plead that the guys would make fun of me in the locker room, but my pleads fell on death ears. Dad knew that by shaving me he was exerting even more control over me and made me feel and look like a helpless little boy. I'm just glad he didn't give me an enema or washed my mouth out with soap. Dad was known to do this when i was younger too. Getting out the bath, dad again made sure I was dry. I wasn’t allowed to do anything. I was embarrassed, humiliated, but not quite broken and dad knew it but he had a trick up his sleeve. Having dried me again he took me by the ear back to the living room and over his knee naked. But this time he also brought with him the bath brush from the bath and DAMN wa it painful. *WHACK WHACK WHACK* For some reason my freshly shaved and bathed butt was on fire with every swat. Dad didn’t let up, he kept swinging and it kept hitting. I squirmed, wriggled, tried to get away. Kicked, yelled, pleased, threw my arm back, but nothing could stop dad. He was on a mission to make me learn my lesson and I was going to learn it. He kept spanking and kept lecturing me. It was too much too take and I was a really sorry, and naughty boy. Finally the bath brushing ended. Dad picked me up and this time led me to the bedroom. Putting me in the middle of the bed he placed 4 pillows under my butt that elevated it up off the bed. And then I could hear his belt being undone. I had already had enough but this time it was serious. Dad took the belt and fired away. Whack Whack Whack Whack. The belt felt so heavy but it stung like nothing else. He then asked me to count and thank him and ask him for another. “1 thank you daddy, please may i have another”. I heard myself say through sobs, crying and grimacing. Dad had won, and I had learnt my lesson. WHACK down came the 20th spank with the belt and it was over. Dad took me by the ear again and sat me down at a computer desk on a hard wooden chair. He told me to write an apology note to him alongside a list of rules that I will abide by while i'm staying with him for the rest of the week. I done I was told and called dad when i was done. He read it, made suggestions on rules, and changes we could make to it. Dad made me share it to a website called southspanking for all to read for some reason, and also printed it off. He told me to stand up, turned the chair around, sat on it himself. He put the print out on the floor, and took me over the knee again with the print out now facing me on the floor. He told me to read it the note out. After every one of the rules dad gave me a hard spank with the hairbrush. Then once i'd finished reading them all, he gave me one last final flurry of spanks. My legs kicked, i cried and i was a very sorry naughty little boy. Finally it was over,  Dad rubbed soothing cream into my butt. It felt good, once done dad finally took me to my room and put me in some presentable clothes for mother returning home. I will never take so long to visit my parents again that’s for sure. I'm now a shaved, clean, spanked, humiliated, embarassed, disciplined, well-behaved but very sore naughty little boy!

Guys, It has taken me a few days to make this post, mainly because I am still actually working on the site. What we have successfully completed is to fix our server faults and to upgrade to the latest version of our current script with a fresh database. We are not finished and we will be upgrading to social engine. I would like to explain a little about performance.  In the coming days / weeks, I will be focusing on it, so that we get to a point where speed and performance is acceptable, that is as far as it goes.  After that I will be working on the social engine migration. Site performance is determined by a number of factors, these include the hardware, operation system, web server, database driver, cache manager and of course at the application level.  In order to get these perfect, would require some intervention from a seasoned professional, as there are literally hundreds of variables involved.  In our case we have Centos 8 - LiteSpeed WebServer - MariaDB - PHP 7.4 -  Redis - Phpfox (as you can see a lot of possible variables) I can do a lot of it but by no means all of it.  One of the things that really helps with a sites speed and performance is a cache plugin and there are a number of these available for Social Engine and WordPress, however nothing for our script, PhpFox. The Social Engine migration will run along side our current script, and no down time will be required until we are fully tested and ready to move.  That is an important feat, and largely due to what we have achieved recently. When we get that move over to Social Engine, I promise you – performance issues will be a thing of the past and mobile and tablet versions of the site will run exceptionally well.  If we want to attract new members and especially younger ones, we need it all to work. I appreciate your patience, and I know I have not delved into a whole lot in this post, but I am hoping to give you some insight on the direction I am moving.  All I can do is ask for your continued support, understanding and patience.    James

A warning about pants and briefs at ankles!   Well fellow boys, I have to confess that my dad and hubby always takes down my pants and undies himself, baring my bottom for punishment.  I do actually prefer it that way, and in a crazy sort of way, it makes me feel a little ‘pampered’.  I suppose as he really is my ‘authority’ figure I allow myself to be prepared for the consequences as he sees fit.   So last night, there he was bending down into the bed room closet, and of course instinct took over, there in front mf my very eyes were his bottom stretched nice and tightly and my hand got itchy.  I swung it as hard as I could and it landed with a very satisfying slap.   As my hand landed and I heard that wonderful slap, I knew right away I was in big trouble, but of course there is no going back, the deed had been done.  Normally I am taken to the spanking chair, bottom bared and then over the knee I go but he decided to take down my pants and undies right there and then.  As he took me by my ear to lead me to the chair, I tripped on the pants and undies that were tangled around my ankles and fell pretty hard.   After a lot of fussing, and about ½ hour later when he was satisfied that no damage had been done, I got my bottom tanned and sat in the corner for a while.  Afterwards he told me that from now on, my pants and underwear would be completely removed for all future spankings, and that he would still be stripping me down himself.    It is something to think about, I could have for example tripped and fallen on to the corner of the table hitting my head.  So, beware and be careful if you find yourself in a similar situation.   And to those Dad’s and Tops that are about to say something like ‘Well if you had behaved it would never have happened’ – well for sure you are correct, but I stick my tongue out to you and blow a raspberry!   Hugssssssssssssssssssssssssssssss   James

As an adult boy who gets Spankings, I know this feeling that the boy in the image below has. Sometimes, afterwards—after you got The Spanking—you just need a moment to think, to calm down, to work through the emotional rush, and then to start all over again. Today, we wanted to honor this boy's journey after The Spanking.  𝐖𝐡𝐞𝐧 𝐲𝐨𝐮 𝐬𝐞𝐞 𝐭𝐡𝐢𝐬 𝐩𝐢𝐜𝐭𝐮𝐫𝐞, 𝐰𝐡𝐚𝐭 𝐝𝐨 𝐲𝐨𝐮 𝐭𝐡𝐢𝐧𝐤?  𝐖𝐡𝐚𝐭 𝐝𝐨 𝐲𝐨𝐮 𝐢𝐝𝐞𝐧𝐭𝐢𝐟𝐲 𝐰𝐢𝐭𝐡?  𝐖𝐡𝐚𝐭 𝐝𝐨 𝐲𝐨𝐮 𝐚𝐬 𝐚 𝐃𝐚𝐝𝐝𝐲 𝐨𝐫 𝐃𝐨𝐦 𝐭𝐡𝐢𝐧𝐤 𝐰𝐡𝐞𝐧 𝐲𝐨𝐮 𝐬𝐞𝐞 𝐭𝐡𝐢𝐬 𝐚𝐝𝐮𝐥𝐭 𝐛𝐨𝐲?  Please comment below or DM me with your ideas. ________________________________________  Follow Cornertime Confidential Wherever You Are:   Tumblr ∙ Blogger ∙ WordPress

Daddy has had to set out new house rules for me because I got a really bad report card this week. Interested to know your thoughts please. Should any new rules / themes be added? Should any be rephrased?  Let me know by commenting beneath.   Theme: Behaviour & The 3 Ds 1. From this point forward, you will refer to me only as DADDY or SIR.  2. Perfect attendance at school is non negotiable.  3. Bad grades and poor performance in extra curricular activity will not be tolerated. You will recieve a minimum grade of B+ in all future exams. 4. No Disrespect. Always remember that daddy is in charge and you live under his care. You will be polite, respectful and properly behaved at all times. 5. No Disobedience. When daddy gives you a direct instruction you will do it. 6. No Dishonesty. Never lie, you should always be truthful, and forthcoming.  Theme: Chores 7. You are to make your bed, and keep your room visibly tidy, neat and in order at all time.  8. Additional chores will be posted on the fridge showing you your daily routine, which will consist of: chores, projects, homework, and studying. The list will be complete daily. Theme: Dress Code 9. Outside the home you will ensure that you are properly and smartly dressed in school uniform. You are not permitted to wear "casual" clothes at any time. Uniform includes school blazer, white shirt, grey shorts, belt, school tie, long grey socks, black leather shoes and white briefs. 10. At home and on weekends you will only be permitted to wear the following; white briefs, white cotton socks and white vest. 11. At bedtime you will wear standard blue pyjama top and bottoms only. Theme: Bedtime 12. You will report to me every night at 8pm to review the day. You will stand in the corner facing the wall, hands on head, until called. 13. You will be given a bath to ensure cleanliness is maintained. On occasion it may be necessary to wash your insides too by washing your mouth out with soap or given an enema. 14. You will be shaved smooth as a helpful reminder to who is in charge and to ensure good hygeine. 15. Bedtime and lights out is at 9pm sharp.  Theme: Privacy 16. Privacy is privilege, you will leave doors open at all times, even if you are using the toilet. 17. Until grades meet expected standard all electronics including phone, laptop and PlayStation are to be confiscated.  18. You are grounded until further notice. 

I want to know why you naughty minxy dad's and Tops do the following!   (1).  Our ears are not handles, so why do you insist on marching us boys to the spanking chair or corner by our ears, what the heck is that all about?   (2).  What is the point of corner time, either standing their with our poor red behind on display, or sitting in the corner, what the heck is that all about?   (3).  You do know us boys can take our own jeans and briefs down, we don't need you guys to do it for us, so what the heck is that all about?   (4).  We never lie or fib, we simply mis-remember so why do we get punished for it?  and what the heck is that all about?   (5).  Why do we get spanked for breaking rules or boundaries, because no boy actually ever understands them, so what the heck is that all about?   (6).  Your hand is not soothing when it is applied to our bottoms at high speed, so what the heck is that all about?   (7).  Why do you have to put us over your knees, I mean its really childish, so what the heck is that all about?   (8).  Why can't we spank you when you are naughty, and what the heck is that all about?   (9).  WHY do I have to wear white briefs all the time, and what the heck is that all about?   (10).  Which of you invented the wooden backed hairbrush, and why do you all cherish it so much, AND what the HECK is that all about?   YOU ALL NEED SPANKED!   James

I know boys feared the old fashioned razor strop growing up but but after getting spanked with one for the first time as an adult, it wasn't as brutal as I always thought.  Sure it stung and did it's job, but it wasn't as heavy as other straps I'd been spanked with. I guess I'd describe it as effective but not brutal.  I do have to admit though, that it did make my dick hard whenever I went to the barber shop and saw them hanging there on the barber's chairs. Both as a kid and as an adult seeing that leather strap hanging from the chair just made me think about the barber giving me a spanking right there in front of all the other customers!   I'd envision what it must have been like growing up in the days of old where the razor strop prominently hung in every home. They were probably used as much for disciplinary purposes as they were for sharpening a razor.   Here's some photos from my first taste of the razor strop.  It had a canvas strap attached to the leather one, which added to the crack sound as it connected with my bare bottom.      Growing up my cousins would get spanked with a short length of rubber hose.  The hose was always hanging by the back door to remind us kids to behave when we went out to play.   I returned to visit my aunt and uncle in my mid thirties and the first thing I did when entering the house was look and see if the rubber hose was still there.   It was gone!   But there was a razor strop hanging there instead!  Now the only reason for there to be a razor strop hanging by the back door was for spanking!   Either the new razor strop was for the grandkids or my aunt and uncle were spankos and they spanked each other with it!    When I was shopping for a house out here in Tennessee about 5 years ago I was looking at larger properties with barns on them.   In the back of my mind I was thinking "The South" and "Southern Discipline".  I got a major boner when I was walking through one of the barns and found an old razor strop hanging on the bars of a window in a horse stall!   Now I can't think of any reason for a razor strop to be hanging in a horse barn except for whoopin' ass!   The red circle showing the razor strop hanging from the bars of the window!   Most likely some young man was brought out to that barn to get his ass whooped!   And it was most likely done on a regular basis since that razor strop was kept out there!   I can only imagine what he told his friends when they asked what it was for, or perhaps they all knew exactly what it was for, from personal experience!   I'd love for a spanker to make me take a naked walk of shame out to the barn on my property and take a strap or belt to my ass some day!   I get a boner every time I think about it. I imagine being stripped naked in the house and being marched bare across the pasture out to the barn with strap or belt in hand!   Perhaps the spanker would march me grabbing me by the ear to make sure I don't walk too fast prolonging my shame and humiliation!   Or perhaps he'd hold the strap or belt lashing my bare bottom along the way!    I'd certainly be wondering if any of the neighbors were watching!   The barn on my property.   I'd love to be made to take a naked walk of shame to the barn for a spanking!  The inside of my barn.   Lots of places to secure me for a good hard ass strapping! Here's a link to a short video clip of this razor strapping. https://southspanking.com/groups/video/play/12571/strapped-on-the-bed-with-a-razor-strop/

(Link to Part 2)   After pulling down  my underwear and taking them off of me, leaving me buck ass naked, Matthew told me to lay down on the bed.   He knelt on the bed next to me, pulled me up over his knees, picked up a hairbrush and started spanking me with it. Matthew was not shy.  He boldly grabbed my dick and started stroking it as he spanked me with the hairbrush.  He also spread my butt cheeks apart to spank the tender areas between the cheeks!   I probably didn't realize I was doing it, but I started humping his lap as he spanked me!  But he must have noticed it because after awhile he told me to get up and he sat on the bed. He was naked too so he put a folded up towel over his lap and pulled me over his knees again.   He knew I jerked off humping pillows and decided he was going to have me hump his lap as he spanked me, telling me he wasn't going to stop until I ejaculated!  I can't even tell you how embarrassed I was thrusting my butt up and down as he spanked me with that brush.  Every time my butt thrust up in the air he smacked it with the hairbrush.   The only other time I masturbated in front of another guy was after the first spanking he gave me.   It was so humiliating doing such a private, embarrassing and shameful thing in front of someone else!  Especially someone his age!   It felt so strange humping his lap feeling his firm thighs under me. Every guy jerks off but no one wants to admit it to their friends!  And what makes it even more embarrassing is that most people don't do it like this!   Here I was over his knees shamelessly humping a folded up towel trying to c.u.m.!   And even more shameful is that he knew I jerked off to the thought of being spanked.   Well it was another perfect punishment for someone like me.   Someone who jerks off thinking about being spanked, deserves to get spanked while he jerks off!    Next Matthew made me get up and bring him a bathbrush.   Well it was actually a bbq brush.  The brush was solid oak and heavy and he was spanking me hard with it!  He knew exactly what I needed! I can only imagine how satisfying it must have been for the kid to have me naked over his lap and feel my squirm as he lit my ass on fire with that long handled brush!   I kept thrusting my ass up in the air rubbing my boner against his lap trying to get off from the spanking he was giving me.  I was really trying to get off, but I was also distracted!   Having this young man know I was so horny from having him spank me and having him witness such a degrading thing for someone my age to be doing in front of him!   But I didn't care.   I was naked and over his knees and he was spanking my bottom like a naughty little boy and it couldn't get too much more humiliating than that!  I was made to get up again and get him a paddle and hand it to him.   It's really a turn-on going to get the implement he's going to spank me with, to look at it, hold it, feel it and then actually hand it to him, knowing he's going to blister my bare naked bottom with it!   He made me get up and walk far across the room and bring him each of the implements he used to spank me with.   It felt so weird walking naked across the room and then seeing the smirk on his face as I walked back!  Matthew loved running the edge of the paddle through my butt crack.  I loved it too.  It made me feel so exposed when I felt the smooth varnished wood slide against my butt hole!  Matthew was obviously getting boned up too from turning the tables and putting this old man right where he belonged  Over his knees for an embarrassing naked spanking!  And I gladly submitted to his authority!   I too, knew it was exactly where I belonged!  Video clips to follow. 

Last month we revived an older post from The Dirty Daddy blog. We are big advocates of the advice, guidance, and strength of character he provides to new boys and Daddys.  This week we wanted to elevate his 4 steps on how to be a Good boy. Below you'll find his advice for boys living in Daddy/boy relationships. Again, this post was explicitly about sexual relations with Daddy, and this link provides you direct assess to that post of his. We hope you find they help you start your Daddy/boy relationship or they help you rekindle the fire in your existing relationships that may have become a bit too vanilla.   "Daddy, what can I do to be a not just a good boy but the very best boy for you?"     4 Key Steps to Becoming a Good boy (A/K/A "Pleasing Daddy" or "Being Not Just a Good boy, but Becoming Daddy's Best boy". This post mostly includes content from The Dirty Daddy himself with comments by jake, author, of Cornertime Confidential, providing his personal experience to round out the advice provided.)   This post provides basic pointers for a person who wants to be a Good boy when dealing with Daddy.   Step 1: Seek Out Daddy's Approval, Don't Need it. The first and most important thing for a Good boy is to want—not need—Daddy’s approval. And an important part of that want is to want Daddy's pleasure and for the boy to find ways to show that he wants Daddy's pleasure does. As the boy, your desire to please and pleasure your Daddy is a key tool in achieving that very goal. His touch is one way he can show his pleasure, and approval, to you and it’s a prefect opportunity to respond in kind. Gently holding the side of your face, the back of your neck, putting his hand in the small of your back, or anywhere he wants to touch.    These moments are your chance to respond with or without words.    Smile, press your face into the hand, nuzzle the hand that’s touching you, show genuine appreciation for your Daddy at times like that especially. He is reaching out to touch you for a reason. Accept and enjoy that fact. Your pleasure in what you are doing can become a very powerful tool to make him even happier. Some Daddys respond very strongly to sounds, like whimpers, moans, groans, and sighs. Even things like giggling and laughter can bring pleasure to your Daddy. Ultimately, only you will get to know your Daddy, and that takes time.    [CC: Some Daddys like mine do not like his boy to make a ton of noises. He finds them artificial. Check in with your Daddy to ensure this pleases him. Only make authentic noises that you feel in your boy heart, and then share with your Daddy, so he appreciates them. It takes time as The DIrty Daddy says here, so build up to a full mutual sharing in this area].   Step 2: Develop and Maintain Good boy Behaviors   A Good boy has many responsibilities including being on his best behavior at all times.  (1) When Daddy asks a question or decides to instruct, reply ‘Yes, Daddy’ and do your best to do as he has instructed.  (2) If you are having trouble doing something Daddy has instructed, be honest with Daddy—especially when he asks you why you haven't done something expressly asked for by Daddy.    [a note from CC: it's hard for anyone to always be on their best behaviour at all times, but being authentic and open are essential. If you find that doing so is a turn off, then you need to tell Daddy. Most Daddys will assume your headspace is in being a good boy. If that is just not your thing, then say so. You can still have a good Daddy/boy relationship, but you'll adjust it for the reality you feel inside.]   “Thank you Daddy”  Thanking Daddy is a Good boy behaviour to remember as appreciation, respect, and consideration are important features of a Good boy. When he gives a direct instruction, follow as promptly and accurately as possible. It may not always be easy, but that could also be his effort to see how dedicated you are to what you are doing.  [a note from CC: When you do not feel this way towards your Daddy it could be for a real reason—like you feel he doesn't deserve your thanks for the things he does. It's important to run with that feeling. If he's a bad match, identify that early and exit the relationship]    Ask for Help From Daddy Try hard to do as Daddy asks. When you need to, ask him for help. That simple "Good behaviour" can take the form of his hands guiding your head, holding your hips or hands, or anything else so he needs to do to teach you exactly how to do that which he asks you to do.    Check in With Daddy Ask if you are doing correctly what Daddy's asked for. Doing a Good job on the tasks that Daddy's asked you to do helps define who is the boy in the relationship. I recommend fairly regular check-ins where you ask respectfully and with all your heart, "Am I being a Good boy, Daddy?" Your ability to earnestly seek his approval is a key element that will ensure a better Daddy/boy relationship. Your honest, authentic approach is the difference. [a note from CC:  I have been a boy to my Daddy since 2016 and living together since 2019 and I want to concur strongly with DIrty Daddy here. When we check in with one another with all our heart, we are a better partner—Daddy to me and me to Daddy.]   Step 3: Familiarize Yourself With Basic Intimacy Skills   Seek to possess a strong knowledge of Daddy's anatomy, his sexual response, and your pleasure thresholds, and methods of responding to those factors. By reading this post, you are already on your way to gaining these key intimacy skills.  How does Daddy want to give you pleasure? And do you enjoy that? Do you to respond authentically and enthusiastically to how he wants to give you pleasure? How do you give the pleasure that Daddy seeks? And do you enjoy that?   In the end analysis, don't force it. If you don't feel authentically attracted to Daddy, then find a Daddy to whom you truly are attracted. Some boys just love the "idea" of Daddy, not the reality of Daddy.    Addressing Long Term Daddy/boy Relationship Doldrums In relationships that have been going on for a long time, many M/m couples become bored with one another. (This is so very true for M/f relationships too, of course), but Using a Daddy-centric approach and rekindling the fire that originally drove you to be attracted to Daddy can be helpful. For Daddys, do your best to seek out the answers to why you got involved with your boy. What did you enjoy about him originally, and lean into that. If it feels forced, don't do it. But if you can recall with joy in your heart, tap into that.       For the boys, start by asking yourself three Basic Intimacy Skills signals:    Sexual Reponsiveness An erection is only one way to tell if your Daddy is enjoying what you are doing. You both will need more than that to sustain an interest as a Daddy/boy team. The difference between a random cocksucker and truly being Daddy's boy is that you belong where you are, where he has placed you, and shown he trusts you to be that boy for him.   Obedience It’s not simply a matter of obedience, as previous discussed, it is that you choose and want to be there. It makes you truly happy that he enjoys what you do, and that he loves and trusts you enough to let you do it. [a note from CC: Obedience sounds like an old-fashioned, false notion. But as we discussed in this blogpost, it can be crucial to an effective and satisfying Daddy/boy relationship. And better obedience can help sustain a relationship, particularly between a Daddy and his boy, a boy and his Daddy.]   Following Instructions The Dirty Daddy blog provides detailed instructions on how to not only make your Daddy desire you, but also how to show him pleasure he may never have experienced with anyone before. Following these instructions can help move you from a "good boy" to Daddy's “Best Boy,” a coveted place for a boy. Getting to this place will require that you know what Daddy can make you feel, and your desire to bring that out of him too. Lean in to your determination to reach for that goal.     After you think about these 3 signals, consider sharing your responses to them with Daddy. If you find it difficult to face the truth behind the questions, then you may need to reconsider your relationship.    If, however, you or Daddy has just become lazy over time in addressing Basic Intimacy Skills, consider these three signals as a way to kickstart things.    Step 4: Develop Self Control.  While this is a basic skill and a behavior set it deserves its own Step for all Good boys. Self-control for a boy is reflected in to key abilities:    1. the boy's ability to hold off the desire to pleasure himself (This is why some people use chastity devices to deny that urge entirely.) and  2. a boy's ability to take instructions from Daddy.    Depending on the age and experience of your Daddy, he may have had many more years at this and more hours than you, so his guidance and instruction should be followed so long as it is informed by real life experience.  Be sure to ask questions at the right times.     There are some positions that are not easy to master for a boy, because they can cause extreme stimulation. When a boy is given instructions that are counter to his immediate gratification he should obey them. There are good reasons for them. And having to stop and explain everything to a boy can ruin a mood.    Be sure to ask questions, yes. But only at the right time.    Being able to control yourself, your desire, and your curiosity for a time are crucial skills. If you ask questions constantly, you may do more than just ruin a mood. Worse, you might miss swallowing that load you worked so hard for. Keep your mind on your task and your eyes on the prize.    The 4 Key Steps here can be a great starting point for any Daddy and boy to integrate as they begin or try to restart a relationship.    [a note from CC: I re-read the Dirty Daddy blog every now and again so that I can remember my role and get my head into my boy heart and boy place.    Work and life and friends can easily take you away from your preferred role in your Daddy/boy relationship making it a roommates with benefits experience. But is that really what you signed up for? Is that what you really wanted when you began your Daddy/boy relationship?]   What you want can come to you, especially if you are a Good boy, follow Daddy's lead, and develop in sync with one another. Daddy still decides how and when. But that’s his job because its what you want him to do. You need him to want to give you pleasure, and these 4 basic steps bring you one step closer to that goal.     Please comment below or email us with your ideas   aok4otk@aol.com or cornertimeconf@gmail.com ______________________________________ Follow Cornertime Confidential Wherever You Are: Tumblr  ∙  SouthSpanking ∙  Twitter  ∙  WordPress 

I know there have been some issues with this, and I wanted to delve a little into the firepit that it truly is. There are things we can do in order to make it harder to download videos from this site, but unfortuanelty it is impossible to stop it. I can assure everyone that I have looked into this many times before, but once something is uploaded to the interent, it can then be copied.  Think of it this way, your browser is displaying the content, so its there, even if by using tokens and higher enryption, and even DRM, it can still be downloaded.  There are so many programs and in some cases hardware available, it makes it impossible to stop. What I can do is ask those responsbile not to do it, please.  A lot of the members here do NOT want their videos shared elsewhere and it is morally wrong for you to do so.  As you have been totally selfish, many members will make their videos friends only.  This means YOU cannot see it and neither can many other members, it also means YOU cannot download them.  No one wins from this .. so why bother? I do have a plan that I am working on, that will make it much more difficult, but guys as hard as I can work on it, and as many many hours I can put into it, I do not have a magic wand to stop it from happening.  And to clarifty guys, its the same with all sites, whether youtube or even facebook - you cannot prevent the videos from being downloaded, unless you restrict the privacy settings to friends only and hope that one of your friends is not the cuplprit. Plus I am grumpy today - as I am grounded .. long story! and .. I want to see some Dads and Tops spanked as well.    

First off Guys, I really want to thank you for all your support, the response has been amazing and I am truly humbled. Also I must apologize for not being on the site lately, and if you have not had a personal email from me thanking you for your donation to the site, I will be doing so.  I have been up against the clock, but I can promise you I have been working very hard getting this site to where it needs to be. We had such an awsome fundraiser, that we have bought and paid for a server for a complete year, and we got a massive discount for doing so, again thank you.  It takes a lot of stress away from me.  At the moment I am looking at the plugins and software we need for the new script, but before I get into that ... As you will know the site went down for perhaps 1/2 hour yesterday and around the same today.  This was because the billing cycle for the old server hits tommorow.  So I really had to get it done quickly, and we did.  Usually when changing servers its not a big issue, but this time was a little different, because I took a plunge and changed a lot of things.  So for your techies out there, we are currently using Litespeed with PhP 7.3 and Redis as our cache.  I hit some problems I was not expecting such as permissions and ownership issues, but in the end we got it solved. So that was one project, but I have been working on getting us over to the new script as well and it is going very well .. ooopss before I go any further, my partner and Dad, Denis just got back from Europe, however he took a tumble at the airport and I ended up collecting him in a wheel chair.  He is okay, had him checked out at urgent care, but he is pretty bruised and sore.  You might think him not being able to put me accross his lap is a good thing right?  Yea, that baby got put to bed, he has me bending over the back of the spanking chair and can swing that danged paddle real hard! Anyway the script project, it is likely going to take several more weeks, but I havev solved most problems.  At the moment, I am having issues with video thumbnails and data from groups, but I am getting excellent support from the vendor, I will keep you all updated.  When we get this done, I promise, you will be super amazed :) Okay, so I got to fo make supper for a brusied and cranky Dad ...   hugggsss   James  

Flew to Florida for work and spent the weekend staying with a sweet handsome friend in Tampa who I had met at a couple other events and quickly became pretty good friends with.  Been a rough couple months and this was exactly what I needed.  We hung out a lot and I got spanked on Saturday and Sunday. No roleplay or anything but he cycled through a lot of implements including straps, paddles, brushes and spoons. He is great at what he does and got my endorphins going. I already miss him and can't wait to see him again at BAW. Cried when I left. Like I said...it's been a rough couple months and feeling cared about that much for a weekend was exactly what I needed.     

Hello everyone,   I have been wading through our logs, figuring out the recent crash and I have other inportant information to update you with.  Firstly there was no security breech, it was a database crash.   Secondly our backup routine had failed, resulting in the loss of a few months of videos.   Also very importantly, our two year commitment contract with our hosting provider will expire on 28th October.Normally about this time, I look at finding a better spec server for a similar or lower price, however its not going to happen this time around.  Our prices will increase, but if I do another two year commitment before our contract expires, its only going up  by $20 a month, but that is still $240 per year.   I analyzed our traffic logs, we actually do not have to upgrade the server at all, we are consistantly below 350 Mpbs, actually usually way below that, given that our port speed can handle 500 Mpbs (incoming and out going), I see no need to upgrade  To put that into perspective the server can process 62.5 Megabytes of data every second.  That is more than enough for our site, and very likely will last us at least the next two years and probably longer.    Instead of looking at server upgrades, I am looking into upgrading our caching service, at the moment we use an open and free version of the software which has some restrictions and does impede performance.  I am looking at a license that will eliminate those restrictions, but as always there is a cost, which is currently $17 per month or $204 annually.  If we do that, our annual costs (including the server price increase) will increase by a total of $444 (an unusual number for sure).   It is substantial.   I do need to take this all into consideration when making my final decision on the best way forward.  The initial server work I am planning will involve the following:   Refresh the server. Refresh the database. Install the most recent version of the software script. Install a reliable opensource backup software with a GUI. Complete a security audit. Configure email server and reverse dns. Setup email registration. Allow password resets by email.   I will provide updates as I go along, and let you know my decisons.   James                

  The groove spanking is a very effective spanking method.   It's a spanking right in a naughty boy's butt crack - his groove!   The area between the cheeks is very tender indeed.   The inner cheeks that form the sides of the butt crack, the area between a guy's balls and hole and the bullseye!   The butt hole itself.  While extreme caution has to be used not to do any damage in this area, a light spanking here can be horribly painful.    The best way to position a boy for a groove spanking is in the diaper position, laying on his back with his legs pulled back over his head and spread wide.  It's best to tie the legs in this position so the spanker doesn't have to hold them, or even more embarrassing letting others who are there to witness the spanking hold them for you.   As an alternative, making the boy participate in his own punishment, you can make him spread and hold his own butt cheeks wide apart for the spanking.   It will take quite a bit of self control to keep the cheeks spread wide apart during the groove spanking!   As I mentioned in previous posts, the diaper position is very humiliating because eye contact can be made between the person being spanked and the spanker and audience.   It's also very embarrassing because his butt hole is a guy's most private and vulnerable area and to have it exposed for punishment is downright humiliating!    One of my first experiences with a groove spanking was when I was in my mid 50's and a young 23 year old college student named Freddie spanked me.  What made this spanking especially embarrassing is that Freddie spanked me in his campus apartment.  The building was full of college students that had to hear me getting paddled and belted!   They probably knew from personal experience exactly what that sound was.   Freddie just loved to spread my butt cheeks wide apart and hand spank, paddle and belt me right in my groove!  The paddle is harder to use in this area, but a narrow belt is a perfect implement for a groove spanking.    I swear Freddie was aiming the tip of his belt right for the bullseye - my butt hole!  A spanking right on the hole stings something horrible!   Especially the lash of a thin belt!    Freddie exposing and checking out the target!   It was truly embarrassing feeling his hands grasp my butt cheeks, pulling them wide apart, exposing my most private place, knowing he was going to spank it!  ​ Freddie using one hand to spread my crack open as he uses the edge of a paddle to spank the outer edges of my groove.  The groove spanking is humiliating because you know how exposed you are. You know the spanker is looking right at your butt hole and it's painful too because this area is very tender. Freddie checking things out and finding my groove is starting to turn red. The next day there were some bruises where the tip of Freddie's belt landed in the center of my wide spread groove!   Some other Groove Spankings I got:        There's no doubt about it.   A groove spanking makes for a very embarrassing and very memorable spanking.   It's best to have the miscreant buck ass naked for a groove spanking.  Ideally the groove spanking should be given in front of an audience.   Embarrassment and humiliation are  key elements of any spanking.  They are as important a part of a spanking as the spanking itself!  A groove spanking accomplishes all of this!   Link to my last blog post about Mouthsoaping: https://southspanking.com/groups/adblog/853/mouthsoaping-just-turns-me-on/   Link to all my blog posts: https://southspanking.com/groups/need2botk/adblog/

Locked in the Pillory: A totally naked spanking completely restrained and out of my control!  I looked at it in the distance, so ominous and yet at the same time it turned me on! The pillory waiting to hold my neck, wrists and ankles, completely immobilizing me, for the punishment spanking that awaited me!    Also pulled out was a spanking bench that the spanker designed from a piece of spanking artwork by Copper.   (Part 1 of this episode can be found here:) https://southspanking.com/groups/adblog/862/a-shaving-spanking-in-bondage-part-1-losing-my-man-hair/ It was both exciting and terrifying thinking about being restrained for a spanking, completely at the mercy of the spanker, unable to get up or move my bottom out of the way of his paddle or strap!   There's just something incredibly arousing, knowing i'm going to be spanked and I will be completely helpless to avoid any part of the spanking I have coming.   The pillory I was about to be locked down in, totally naked with my crotch and bottom shaved bald to complete my shame and humiliation.  It was ominously standing there waiting for my naked ass!  The spanking bench designed from the Copper drawing on the left had pillory like ankle and wrist restraints and leather straps to bind the thighs and back to the bench to prevent any movement or squirming.  Like the pillory, once restrained on the bench you were at the complete mercy of the spanker.   A drawing of a young man being switched at the end of the cart's tail.   In colonial times a young man was sometimes punished naked at the end of the cart's tail and strapped or switched as the cart was slowly drawn through the streets of the town for everyone to see!   Tied to the cart and spanked on the bare bottom like a naughty little boy front of everyone for maximum humiliation!  Public humiliation and naked display was a major part of the punishment in days gone by. Me getting spanked now in the pillory was a similar humiliation.  True there was only one other guy there, but it was still humiliating being spanked in front of someone else.   I had been spanked once before along with this spanker but this was the first time I was spanked in bondage, and there was someone else was there to see it happen!  Considering all the times I enjoyed watching my friends get spanked, I definitely deserved to have someone else watch me get this spanking!  And not just watch it but enjoy it!   I had always been turned on by the idea of naked public spanking and the pillory made me think about punishments in colonial times where a person was locked in stocks or a pillory for public ridicule and punishment.   While I read that usually a man or woman was usually restrained with their shirt off for a whipping on their back, I also read that young adults could be secured naked to a pillory for a public spanking!   Yes a young adult could be spanked like a naughty little boy, just to humiliate him,  and it could happen in public! Similarly I read that a young man could also be tied naked to end of the "cart's tail" and slowly pulled through town being spanked with a strap or switch being made a spectacle of for the entire town's amusement!   Stories like that always made my dick hard just thinking about the total humiliation of being publicly spanked in front of your friends, neighbors and even your enemies.   All of them thoroughly enjoying your humiliation!  I always enjoyed visitng colonial towns and seeing the pillories standing in the town square.  I would imagine what it might be like to be locked in a pillory naked, completely exposed and then spanked for everyone in town to see!   I often imagined myself in such a situation and here I was!  Totally naked and about to be secured into a pillory myself for a spanking!    I didn't get to daydream too long before the wrist and ankle restraints were being separated and I was ordered to step into them.   It felt very weird!   Scary but exciting at the same time.   After I got locked into the pillory, the other guy was restrained to the spanking bench.  At first it was just my wrists and ankles put into the restraints and then the spanking started.   The feeling of helplessness was pretty incredible.  I was more willing to be restrained for the spanking knowing the other guy was there getting spanked too, but I didn't know he was also going to be restrained at the same time and would be unable to help me if things went wrong!   But it was too late, we were both naked, in bondage and at the complete mercy of this spanker! With my head not locked down, I was able to look at my freshly shaved crotch and realized how much the spanker must have enjoyed the fact that he personally removed all my "man hair" making a grown adult look like a hairless little boy for his spanking.   I thought about the view he had of my baby smooth bottom too, and how easily it was going to turn bright red before his eyes without the forest of hairs obscuring his view!  A couple of times I felt my dick starting to get hard thinking about the situation I was in!  It's truly humiliating when your dick is shaved bald!    Everyone's attention is drawn to your hairless crotch - especially when the rest of you is so hairy!   It's more than obvious that my "man hair" was removed as part of my punishment.   You act like a boy - you get made to look like a boy - and you get spanked like a boy!   Even if no one else was thinking that, it didn't matter.   I thought they did and it put me in the mindset of being punished like a naughty boy! Me in the pillory, the other guy on the spanking bench.   We could see each other's faces and he could see my shaved crotch but we couldn't see how red each other's bottoms were getting. That changed though a little later,  as he got released and got to spank me himself!    It's always embarrassing when a spanker slaps, grabs, squeezes and feels your bare bottom with his hand during a spanking.   The wrist section of the pillory was opened up again and I was instructed to put my neck in the large opening.    It was closed up again causing me to bend over a bit more.    What would have really made his pillory a lot more effective is if the wrist and neck boards could be height adjusted for different body heights to make a shorter person like me bend at the waist more and make my bottom stick out more for the spanking.   Likewise a wider leg stance would have made it more exposing.   The odd part about the whole thing is that he didn't even conceal the pillory.  It was in plain view in his business.   He was involved with a municipal Halloween event and they used the pillory as a photo op for the event.  He probably made it and stored it so no one in town thought twice about it.  When customers or business associates asked about it I'm sure that's what he told them and they never thought anything more about it!   Little did they know men like me were being restrained in it naked and were being spanked right there under everyone's noses!    My neck also restrained in the pillory.  Now I'm even helpless to look behind me.  While restrained like this I couldn't help but think about my fantasy/nightmare of being given a public spanking in a pillory in a town square!   Naked, completely exposed and totally helpless!   Everyone having a clear view of my shaved crotch, my face and my red spanked bottom.  Everyone laughing as my bottom was lit on fire with a paddle or strap and encouraging whoever was punishing me to spank me longer and harder!   In a public setting, after the spanking I would be left on display like this for everyone to walk up and touch and tease me and give my sore red bottom some additional smacks.   Just like in my fantasies of the townspeople being able to come up and spank me, the other guy that was being spanked, was released from the spanking bench and is allowed to spank me himself!  There was absolutely nothing that I could have done to stop him.   I was naked and helpless!    Continued in Part 3:   Let Out of the Pillory & Given an Over the Knee Birthday Spanking https://southspanking.com/groups/adblog/864/a-shaving-and-spanking-in-bondage-part-3-after-the-pillory-i-get-an-otk-bir/ See all my blogs here: https://southspanking.com/groups/need2botk/adblog/

What would have made this more humiliating is if my own friends spanked me or watched! Why I Deserve to Get Spanked By A Regular Friend! If you've read my other posts you'll know that I've always felt that the ultimate spanking humiliation would be to get spanked in front of, or by ordinary friends from "vanilla" life!  I'm starting to think that  spanking is a pretty common fetish and have even suspected that some of those "vanilla" friends are into spanking too. In fact I think most guys would enjoy seeing a buddy get stripped and spanked. Part of the fun of spanking a buddy was foricbly stripping him.  Exposing him bare to everyone!    I was always to shy to bring to bring spanking up in conversations, and I guess,  my friends were too. It was just a topic you didn't talk about.  I've been spanked many times in front of other guys that I met at a "spanking connection", but it's not the same, humiliation wise, as being spanked in front of regular friends: People that I know and have to face everyday. The shame would be intense to have them see me, a grown adult,  get stripped naked, bent over someone's knees and get spanked like a little kid!  Or if they ran across my blog or spanking profiles online, and found out I get off on getting my bare bottom spanked and could look at the naked spanking photos and videos of me that I've posted, over and over again!  If I played the dominant role and gave someone else a spanking, it wouldn't be nearly as embarrassing. But it would be totally humiliating to have my friends find out I'm the submissive one and get sexually turned on getting a spanking!   A photo of me around age 18, desparately in need of a good ass spanking!  At least that's what all my friends thought and wanted to make happen!     A more recent naked picture of me.   Perhaps I'm posting face pictures of myself actually hoping that a regular friend will see them, recognize me and insist on stripping me naked and giving me the humiliating spanking I've always deserved.    As a teen, I certainly enjoyed watching my friends get spanked.  I didn't hide that enjoyment either, which only added to their shame.   I always had a smirk on my face when I watched them get spanked!   They all knew I never got a spanking and really wanted to see me get one, but somehow I always managed to avoid the bare bottom punishment that I often deserved. My friends even wanted to strip me and spank me themselves, but I managed to escape that humiliation too!  I came close to getting a spanking a few times but somehow I always managed to weasel my way out being spanked!  My biggest fear in getting a spanking, was anything to do with spanking always made my dick hard and I was terrified my friends would see my boner and realize I was sexually turned on by spanking!  How could I be aroused by getting my ass spanked?  I probably would have gone through life with the nicknames "boner" and "spanky" if they found out!       Everyone would have laughed so hard, teasing me until eternity!     I always wondered how humiliated my friends were when they saw me smirking when I watched them get a spanking. In fact their humiliation was a major part of what turned me on so much about their spankings!  They never got the chance to see me get spanked but I think it's about high time I was on the receiving end of a humiliating public spanking!   A buck ass naked, bottom blistering spanking, from a regular friend!  Even a spanking in front of other friends! A photo of me over another man's knees getting a naked paddling. Any movement I make causes my genitals to rub against the man's bare leg making the spanking even more humiliating for me as my arousal becomes evident!  Only a boy that deserves to be spanked even harder would get aroused from getting a spanking!   Before I started my blog here, I was always very careful not to show my face in any of my red bottomed photos.   However when I sold my business my "spanking" friend Jordan who has this amazing knack to get me to do risky naked exposure and spanking related things, told me now there's no longer any reason that my face can't be seen in my photos!   I agreed to post a face picture in my spanking profile after the closing,  but I was thinking a fully clothed headshot type picture like a lot of guys post in their profiles.    But Jordan had other ideas.   He tells me "Oh, no.   It has to be a buck ass naked full body shot with your face showing!"    I knew it was useless to try to persuade Jordan to the contrary, so I eventually gave in and found an original picture that I had previously blocked my face out of and updated it with my face showing.   Jordan can get me to do anything even somewhat reasonable, so before I knew it,  I had 5 face pictures posted on my spanking profile!   Who was I to tell Jordan, who got the most humiliating public spankings, that I couldn't post a face picture in my spanking profile!  Once I did that,  the chances were better that someone from "regular life" would recognize me.   Those odds have increased even more since I've posted dozens and maybe hundreds of face pictures in my blog posts from my teens up to the current time.  So my childhood friends that I enjoyed seeing spanked growing up can recognize the older pictures of me.   And the more recent ones would expose my spanking fetish to hundreds of thousands of customers and employees that I did business with before I retired!   There were certainly a few of those college age guys that I worked with that were familiar with spankings at home and wanted to personally give me, the boss a good hard bare bottom spanking themselves.    I've often fantasized about them spanking me and even posted a few of their pictures in the stories in my blog posts!  Perhaps hoping that they might see themselves or me and insist on spanking me!  Like I mentioned in a couple of the stories in my posts, in my younger years, there were a few times a couple of friends started to spank me.  I didn't resist and just ignored them.   It was like when I was a kid and my parents would tell me to ignore someone that was teasing me, saying they will stop.    That never worked when someone was teasing me as a kid, but unfortunately it did work when a buddy was starting to spank me!    I guess he was looking for me to try to resist, or at least was trying to get a reaction out of me, perhaps challenging his dominance!     I was too shy to react, actually hoping he'd get more into it and give me the real spanking I deserved, but to my disappointment he stopped!   So if someone recognizes my photos, I want to make sure they aren't shy about following through and spanking me.  They need to know I deserve a spanking.  They need to know I need a spanking.  And yes they need to know I want the most humiliating bare naked spanking of my life!  A spanking from someone I know! So if you're reading this and happen to recognize me, this next series of posts will describe exactly what you should do to me if you recognize me in my blog photos.  This will be more or less a spanking tutorial so that if you know me and find my blog, there will be no doubt in your mind what you should do to me!  I want to make sure you know it's okay to give me the spanking you've probably always thought I deserved!      Don't be shy, I deserve a most humiliating naked spanking from someone I know, like you!  Someone I have to face on a regular basis.   If you recognize me in these photos and think you would personally enjoy making me endure that ultimate bare bottom humiliation that I seemed to avoid all my life, then don't be shy.   Just call or text me and tell me that my luck has just run out and it's time to pay the piper!  We will both know exactly what that means.  That I'm about to get a very real and very humiliating, bare naked spanking from someone I know! Bring a few other friends with to enjoy the show, adding to my naked shame! You can all take turns spanking my naked ass!  And the next time we see each other we will all think about me getting stripped and spanked and I'll know you can decide to strip me and spank me again whenever you want to!  Getting into position buck ass naked, over the knees of a man half my age!   He loved turning the tables - spanking an older man and making me endure the humiiation of a role reversal spanking!  For him it was pure satisfaction.  To be honest, as humiliating as it was, I loved it too!   Even though I was twice his age, I knew that getting spanked over his knees was right where I belonged!  ​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​ In the posts that follow I'll describe some ways to make my punishment as embarrassing as possible for me.   I deserve every bit of the shame a good spanking can bring, but feel free to use any other ways you may know of from personal experience to make my spanking even more humiliating. I firmly believe that there's much more to an effective spanking than just a red sore bottom!    It's the shame of the spanking that is remembered far longer than the sting of a paddle or belt.   Making a spanking humiliating for me is even more important than the spanking itself.   It's that shame that my friends experienced in front of me, that made my dick rock throbbing hard as I watched and grinned and fantasized about being in their place. It's their naked humiliation that I thought about while masturbating after seeing a buddy get spanked!   The shame of a naked public spanking is exactly what I deserve to experience myself!   It's the stripping, positioning and naked public display  that I will remember best!  The biggest factor that curbed my behavior when I was young, was the fear of getting a spanking in front of all my friends. The kind of spankings I so thoroughly enjoyed watching them get!  It's not too late for the tables to be turned and for my naked shame to be the subject of other people's amusement and enjoyment!  So if you recognize me don't be shy!   Tell me it's time for my spanking and be sure to enjoy giving it to me!

Now before I begin this discussion on the ‘hairbrush’ there is something I would like to expand a little on.  We all have different personalities, needs and ideals.  We also have differing expectations and often express ourselves very uniquely.   I have had comments from guys that say I get spanked too much, others say not enough and some are even concerned that I often end up in tears.  I have never felt abused when I am being punished, and the reality is I could stop my spanking any time I choose.  I have never done so, and suspect I never will.  Please do understand that the tears are a culmination of several components, including the feeling of security, cleansing and most importantly the emotional release I simply need.  In our house, discipline is very real and is administered with Trust, Truth and Love.   I can fully admit that I am immature, and I am not going to apologize for it, this immaturity is part of whom I am.  I can be naughty, sometimes very naughty and when my dad thinks my naughtiness merits correction on my bare bottom, I get spanked.   Right now, that is out of the way, lets talk about the hairbrush.   What makes the hairbrush so effective?   First of all, it is an anonymous object, sure you know its primary use is for spanking bad boy bottom, but unless someone was in the know, it’s a perfectly normal day to day object.  It travels easy without arising suspicion and a spare one can be kept in the glovebox of the car for those longer trips where it may be needed.  It can also be used to communicate to the boy he is getting punished shortly, the number of times I have seen it suddenly appear, on the coffee table, counter top or even on the spanking chair itself are too many to count.  I get that shivery feeling when I see it set out, especially first thing in the morning during breakfast.   That sends a powerful signal, face cheeks flush and bottom cheeks clench every time I look at it.  I know real soon, and way too soon, it will be connecting with my butt, while I lay over the knee in the classic naughty boy spanking position.   It is very different from a paddle; the smaller head allows for greater precision on a bare bottom.  It can be applied much more easily to the same spot or evenly spread out.  My Dad starts right in the middle of my bottom, before warming the top of it and then of course the ‘howling boy part’ when it meets the lower bottom and sit spots.   If a dad really wants to add to the tension, all he has to do is send his boy to fetch the hairbrush.  Lower his pants and briefs down, baring his buns and send him off witch a ‘Right young man, you just march that fanny of yours over there and get me your hairbrush, your getting a good tanning’

What a great time we had the night before. My best buddy, also a Spanking Dad, and I invited two of our favorite spankees over to my place for a evening of disciplinary fun. We started off with a two dad/two brat scenario. We spanked our brats together; we spanked each other's brat; and eventually made them spank each other.  We positioned them OTK, over the arm of the sofa and face down on the bed.  We used hand, hairbrush, belt and a spatula.  Between sessions we broke for pizza and beer.  It was a memorable night.  The brats left about 2 am and my buddy & I crashed naked, exhausted and happy into bed. The following morning I slipped on my robe and headed for the kitchen to make coffee followed by my buddy in his boxer shorts.  While searching for mugs, he came across my hidden stash of 7 unopened letters from the IRS, the last 3 of which were registered and had required my signature. "Why are you getting registered letters from the IRS?" "Don't worry about it.  It's nothing" "The IRS doesn't send registered letters for nothing.  What's going on? and Why are they unopened?" Embarrassingly, I explained that I hadn't filed my federal income tax for a while.  In answer to his next question, I sheepishly admitted "3 years". "Are you crazy?", he barked.  "They could garnish your wages which might cause you to lose your job.  And worst case scenario, you could be arrested." "I know all that. I've been meaning to get around to it." "For all you know, they might have already started proceedings which you won't be aware of unless you open those letters". "I've been a little afraid to open them."' "Are you hoping it will all just go away?" "Something like that, I guess" "Man, talk about someone who needs a damn good spanking!" My hands instinctively reached back to cover my ass.  "Now don't get any ideas". "It may be the best idea I've had in years". At this point in my life, I hadn't been spanked in 12 or 13 years and I had never ever been threatened with a real spanking for real reasons.  Admittedly, the present situation caused a blush in my face and a slight arousal under my robe. I stood there speechless not wanting it to happen and wanting it to happen at the same time. "Well?", he said. What do you want me to say?" "I want you open those letters immediately or so help me I'm going to spank you until you do". Believe it or not, guys, all those spanking clichés are not so cliché after all as I blurted out, "You're not serious?" To prove that he was serious, he walked over to my desk where I kept my instruments and retrieved my hairbrush.  He placed the tip of the brush on the letters.  "Are you going to open them or are you going across my knee?" It was decision time. Do I tell him to mind his own business or do I fulfill a life-long fantasy? I still wasn't sure he would actually go through with it but I had to know. Defiantly, I said "I'll do it when I feel like it". "Okay, you had your chance".  He grabbed me by the wrist and pulled me over to a kitchen chair. He sat down and flung me across his lap.  I started to get up but he pushed me back down.  With one hand on the small of my back, he draped one leg across both of mine. Effectively, he locked me in place. "You can't do this, John.  I've been a Dad now for almost 15 years and Dads don't get spanked". "They do when they act as foolishly and as irresponsibly as you have. And I'd much rather see you spanked  than hauled off to jail." He lifted my robe and exposed my bare ass.  He landed about 25 smacks with the brush across my bottom until I was squirming and howling.  It hurt a lot more than I remembered.  Now I wasn't so sure that I wanted my fantasy fulfilled.  "Please. John, stop." "You have one way only of getting me to stop.  Are you going to open those letters?" My ass was burning and my eyes were wet from the sting. My body was ready to give in but my inner brat kept reminding me that the likelihood of a situation like this arising in my lifetime was next to nil.  I had to know how we would take this.Like the whining brat that I always knew I was, I said "You can't make me do what I don't want to". "We'll see about that". Both John and I knew that I could forcibly put a stop to this any time I chose to. But since I was responding as if I didn't have power to resist, he decided to continue. He dropped the hairbrush, lifted my robe over my head and off, unlocked my legs and dropped the letters on the floor directly in my line of sight. He began using his brawny hands on my rear. I began squirming and kicking my legs and whimpering.  Years before this I had learned a muscle relaxing technique that allowed whatever emotions a body was experiencing to bubble up to the surface and out.  I employed that technique at this point. After about 10 minutes or so of solid hand spanking and scolding, my whimpering got louder and soon began to turn into sobs.  The sobs turned into tears streaming down my cheeks.  That was enough for me.  I picked up the letters and began waving them about.  "Alright, alright.  I give up.  I'll open the letters". "When?" "Right now, I swear it." He kept me across his knee for a few more minutes while I caught my breath and my sobs subsided. The he gently helped me stand on my wobbly legs.  While I was rubbing my bare ass, he pulled out another kitchen chair and said "SIT!" "You know perfectly well I won't be able to sit until at least tomorrow." He moved to my desk and retrieved a pen and then to my sofa for a pillow.  He placed the pillow on the chair and again commanded that I sit. I gently eased my butt onto the pillow. The heat from my ass warmed it immediately.  He put the last received letter in my hand and told me to open it. He was right, of course.  The threats he mentioned were there but there was still time to avoid them. A form was enclosed which he ordered me to fill out requesting an appointment with an IRS agent.  after I signed it, he placed it into the enclosed envelope, sealed it and put it in his pocket. "I'm going to mail this myself to make sure you don't accidentally lose it.  Now, say 'thank you, John for being such a good friend and giving me the spanking I deserved'." "Oh, c'mon, John. I feel embarrassed enough." He didn't say a thing. He just folded his arms across his chest and stared me down. "Okay! Thank you, John, for being such a good friend and giving me the spanking I deserved." "That's better!".  Now, gather up all your tax records because I'm making an appointment with my accountant and we're going together there to get you up to speed and ready for your IRS session.  Now, what do you say?" "Thank you, John. I really do appreciate it". "Even the spanking?" "Yes, even the spanking." Neither of us ever admitted that we both got caught up in a real-life scenario that we just had to see through to the end. or that we both thoroughly enjoyed it. However, being my very best friend, he spent the next hour massaging my ass with Vaseline Intensive Care Lotion which we both could freely admit we enjoyed.rver unreachable

Hello Everyone, Just a wee note to let you know, I am scheduling some maintenance that will result in a few hours downtime.  This is necessary to resolve a number of site issues since our crash a few weeks ago. There will be an announcement as well as a new status page that will be hosted on a separate server and the link to that page will also be published. It should take no more than a few hours. I will be prepping tomorrow and I am planning on implementing either Sunday or Monday, I will include a number of time zones. Thanks for your patience and as always Heads all the way down, bottoms up up up and SPANK those naughty cheeks! Hugsss   James

So guys, I have decided with my dad's permission to share some bits and pieces of email exchages we had, before we go together.  Now these are answers to questions that I had posed (the questions are not included), but I think he explains our dad/son relationship in a clearer way that I can and what is involved or how we put it together.  So you know I have never felt I have been 'beaten' or 'abused' and way at all. It is not for everyone, and I have always felt loved, even when I have been very well spanked or punished. Effective discipline does not have to be brutal, just effective and meaningful. There is a lot of good psychology based on not just what you say, but even more importantly based on what you imply.  I do understand.  The time and place when I take down your jeans and briefs is always only up to your Dad.  That's just how it always will be. Dad will have your briefs and your bottom bare at his discretion and you will come to appreciate the feel of Dad’s hand anytime be it for comfort or a nice sharp sting when you need it.  There will be times when you really don’t want it but a true son says, “Yes, Dad” every time regardless.  You’re not used to that! Yes, I think “we” is the issue.  You’re never going to be spanked without my full participation, including emotionally as it is my hand (most of the time) that is causing you to tear up. Yes, the mainstay of your will be frequent and/or sudden and/or scheduled for you to be hugged and talked with, probably with your sitting on my lap with or without your briefs, before you spent significant time over Dad’s knees Boundaries infractions are the most serious in our relationship, especially as you set the various categories up yourself for your own benefit and future.  As such, when you break one, you will have brought punishment upon yourself and it will be punishment as your Dad does not want you to fail any more than absolutely necessary. Dad, will never hesitate to punish you when you error!  After a few, you’ll become the best little James on earth! Exactly, all boys are different (as are all Dads), yet I suspect I know you well enough that a nice quick trip over Dad’s knees (always on your bare bottom) is what you need most and will respond to. A lot of things will be much clearer for a boy once he has found himself in the position of having stood there as Dad lowers his jeans and briefs and pulls him across his knees for his first real spanking on his bare bottom. Dad has promised to give him really good first one and he will keep that promise for two reasons.  First, boys need to understand what live in a relationship involving domestic discipline is really going to be like given my hand will be tending to his bare bottom regularly over the years.  Second, Dad needs to understand his boy’s reactions to his hand, and of course ultimately to his hairbrush.  It’s not a matter of just slapping a boy’s bare bottom.  Each young man is different.  I do think it is the physical experience of laying over my knees and my hand on your bare bottom . . . that experience will be the best and most emotionally meaningful time that you’ve been waiting for. “protests will go un-noticed” with the exception of that fact that a boy who protests too much always finds that the simple spanking of his bare bottom over Dad’s knees that was going to be just with Dad’s hand, often increases and he will then find himself spanked with Dad’s hand and his paddle or hairbrush depending on his reactions. Similarly, walking too slowly to me will also get you into big trouble, Attempting in any way whatsoever to cover your bare bottom to escape my hand or hinder it in any way will be something you will have to learn to avoid.  Sometimes it will happen without your thinking and be completely involuntary, but it makes no difference what causes you to try to hinder or protect your bare bottom when it’s being spanked.  Your hairbrush will always be within reach and I will pin your arm and use the brush to teach you that lesson.  Careful In every real relationship I’ve ever known of, the first time you do this and you will initially do this automatically without thinking, Dad will stop and hold your hand away from your bare bottom you are trying to protect.  You will be warned about trying to avoid your Dad’s spanking and told that the spanking you are then getting will be significantly worse if you keep it up.  Some Dads will immediately give your bare bottom several significantly slaps with the paddle to remind you that a boy’s bare bottom is for dad’s correction and “enjoyment,” never to be covered unless you are told to. Of course, the hairbrush needs to be where you can see it to remember things and for Dad to reach it when he needs to.  Such is the way it is for naughty boys. The hairbrush really hurts quickly.  When your over dad's knees and Dad wants you yelling and kicking right away, the hairbrush will accomplish that goal very quickly if Dad knows how to use it for that purpose rather than just for overall color.

There are many who prefer the hand as their choice for spanking and I count myself among them. I think that the flesh to flesh contact provides an intimate and special bonding between the participants. The hand is the one implement that is usually most available for applying if only for a quick swat in public.  I believe that the hand has the most variety of applications and can even simulate other implements. Below is a description of the techniques of applying the hand to a deserving lad's bottom. I use all three during a spanking and believe that this variation increases the duration of the session. #1 The flat hand is probably the most common and the firm palm application can resemble a paddle or hairbrush. #2 With this technique, the entire length of the fingers are brought down rapidly and sharply to feel like 4 flesh whips. #3 The cupped hand gives maximum coverage and follows the curvature. The heel of the hand goes into the crevice and the fingers strike the       opposite side. When this is done with quick motion, I refer to the shape of the cupped hand as a striking cobra putting the bite on an errant lad's backside. I hope you find this tutorial helpful and may try one or more of the techniques I have described. 

A number of you have asked me about so called 'corner' time, so here are my thoughts on it! When we talk about corner time, it is really a method of time out.  True corner time involves a naughty boy, standing at the inside joining of where two walls connect, usually with his nose either touching or almost touching said wall.  Now its not necessary to use walls, equally effective can be bent over the back of a sofa, standing in front of a wall, or even sitting on a stool and if Dad wants to be really creative how about laying over the seat of the spanking chair?  There are for sure many possibilities. The purpose though is actually surprisingly powerful, they boy is supposed to think about why he just got punished or why he is about to be punished or even understand he is getting close to a punishment.  There are many variations and yet with these variations comes the certainty that over time the consistency of corner time as punishment will definitely make him consider his behavior and what got him stood in the corner.  The first few times he may very refuse to think about his behavior, either because he chooses to day dream or perhaps has decided to be rebellious, it matters not, inevitably he will succumb to reflection, it simply takes time and that is something he has plenty of while in the corner. Now we will look at five of the variations: As a warning he is getting close to a spanking You may be surprised but a boy that is pushing the envelope when sent to the corner will come to realize he is coming very close to a spanking.  It works, and if it does not, then he only has himself to blame when he finds his jeans and briefs coming down, before dad arranges him over his lap for a good long spanking session.  After his spanking and much to his horror, he will then find himself right back where he started – in the corner. Pre Spanking A naughty boy, sent to the corner before his spanking conjures up apprehension, excitement and humility.  Dad’s that are skilled in this, can certainly ensure variety and uncertainty in order to peak their boy’s emotional senses.  Consider having him in the corner in just his briefs or holding a hairbrush or belt while he waits.  You can have him dressed, semi dressed or even nude, some dads even have special shorts or pants for pre spanking corner time.  If he is bent over the spanking chair, place the brush or slipper or paddle etc. on his back while he waits .. and ultimately thinks!  If he is over the back of the sofa, have him lay there with his pants and underwear down, bare bottom up!  Or how about sitting on a ‘naughty stool’ – bare bottom?  Just in briefs?  Will he be holding the hairbrush or strap?  As you can see there are limitless possibilities! Post Spanking This is always completed with the boys red and just spanked bare bottom on display.  After punishment comes reflection!  In this stage the boy must either be in a true corner or made to sit on a stool facing the wall or simply standing facing the wall.  He is forbidden to rub his just spanked buns.  If he does try and rub, then a few hard spanks with the hairbrush will get him compliant, a good idea is to have him place his hands on his head.  After this phase bring him back to the fold with some hugs and nice pats.  Some Dads though will view this as phase 1 of post spanking corner time.  Phase 2 is usually used if the young man has been very naughty, it still involves his bottom being bare, and he must now sit and write an essay ‘one what I learned from my punishment’ I can assure you it is very effective. Have him sit his spanked buns on a nice hard chair, preferably at a table and facing away from any distractions such as the television.  Give him a set amount of words, for example 500 or 1000.  Once he is finished have a discussion, and ensure he knows what’s in store for him if the punishment has to be repeated!  At this point most Dads will deny him his briefs for a few hours, and confine him to just his tee shirt. Break Time Alright Dad, so your boy is over your knees having his bare bottom tanned, but you want to take a break and turn up the heat as it were?  You can do that, let him up, tell him to have some water or soda, go to the bathroom if he needs to.  Once he comes back, send him to fetch the hairbrush or paddle or strap, then have him stand in the corner.  Take your time, relax a bit, have a drink or some chips, and then when you are good and ready and only then, take your boy back to the spanking chair, my dad usually does this by taking me by my ear.  You have no idea how much tension this brings to the proceedings! Review and Punishment Sessions I personally have a love hate relationship with review and punishment sessions.  These are conducted at a set time and day every week and they include both pre and post spanking corner time.  I will basically describe my own sessions, as an example.  On the set date and time after showering, I change into my ‘review’ clothes, nothing elaborate, sports shorts, white briefs, socks and tee and report to the assigned corner.  I just stand there thinking of my behavior over the week and wait, sometimes its only a few minutes but I have known it to last 30 minutes or longer.  When my Dad is ready, he takes me by the arm (or ear) over to his spanking chair, my shorts and briefs are lowered and we then talk about my behavior.  I am expected to confess everything that warrants punishment, even if I never got found out.  The gamble is omitting something he actually does know about will result in a much longer and harder spanking, so I tend to be honest.  After my spanking, its back to the corner, again it might be a few minutes or longer, it depends on how my Dad feels.  The only time this changes is if I have omitted something he knows about, in that case I will be spending a lot of time in the corner, and denied my shorts and briefs for the rest of the day.  Its like being grounded essentially, and the only way of getting my shorts and briefs back is to apologize for the omission and ask for a second spanking! --- yup sucks to be me on those days!

What a turbulent 2019! I want to thank everyone for staying with the site, it has not been easy this year but I believe we have made quite some headway in terms of problem solving. I really want to send a huge thanks and hugs to our moderators, for doing such a great job, without them, I could simply not run this site. The site is much more responsive as a lot of bugs have been ironed out.  I am aware there are a few others I need to take care of (such as viewing album photos) and they too will be resolved, just as soon as possible! I have also just updated the comments box, so it’s a little slicker In 2020 there will be a number of improvements, including the ability to conference other members into private chats, so you might have a 3 way or 4-way chat going on, or whatever! Our main template will be updated, meaning less load time, and a few nice wee tweaks to boot! And a few surprises along the way … you will need to wait and see, We have a new donations page setup, it still uses Pay-Pal but you do not need a Pay-Pal account to make a donation, you can do so as a guest.  Thank you to everyone whom has made a donation the last few weeks, it helps a lot and I know around holiday times money is tight for us all, so again thank you and hugs! I hope early in the new year to have an alternative to Pay-Pal, it is something I am working on. Have a very merry Xmas everyone! Hugs James

(*A special thank you to Jake Tenneby for preserving this blog for me.  This is my original writing, which was reposted with permission on Cornertime Confidential, and was lost when my profile got deleted  I did not have this saved anywhere, so thank you for preserving it) Many everyd­ay dads that spank their boys have one main implement that they usually use on their boy's bottoms. It might be:     A paddle han­ging on the wall,     A belt that is worn day to day,     The hairbrush safely kept on the nightstand, or     It may just be his own hand. And although Doms in the spanking community typically have large collections of imple­ments with apprecia­tion for all the nua­nces of each, most guys favor one implement or type of implement over the rest. This essay is to explore what th­at choice says about the spanker (if any­thing). Please comment or sh­are your own observa­tions! HAND Hand spankers are warm and caring. They are the type to call and ask how you are doing, and what you are doing. They will talk to you as a friend would, and will take an interest in your life. A spanking from them will usually be long and drawn out. They will tell you they are disappoin­ted with you, and me­an it. Hand spanke­rs spank almost excl­usively OTK. They may spank you on the bare bottom, but will also spank your un­derpants a lot of tim­es, and sometimes wi­ll spank the seat of your pants. Because of this your butt is never safe from a reprimanding smack or proud pat. Just like they like getting in your business, they will land their fingers in the crea­se of your butt and on your bum hole dur­ing a spanking witho­ut apology.  When they are finished spanking you they may want a hug or for you to sit on their lap. THE HAIRBRUSH Old fashioned hairbrush spankers are the strict cousins of hand spankers. They are caring but much st­ricter than hand spa­nkers. They are us­ually detail oriented and meticulous. Like hand spankers, hairbrush spankers al­most always spank OT­K, however hairbrush spankers almost alw­ays spank on the bare bottom. Although some may warm your underpants-clad bottom with their hand, on­ce the hairbrush com­es out, your butt will be bared, and the hairbrush spanker will be the one to bare it. These spankers want to be in full contr­ol of every aspect; they want to see eve­ry smack, see your butt's reaction, and carefully plan their next smack. They will also cl­osely monitor you for signs of emotional or physical resistance, and will not end a span­king until they are completely gone. Ha­irbrush spankers rar­ely spank anywhere outside of the buttoc­ks, because it would not be proper; which means you will nev­er have marks on your thighs, but your bottom will likely ha­ve blisters and brui­ses. Expect cornertime and an evaluati­on of how well you learned your lesson afterward. BELT Belt spankers are generally "avera­ge guys" who just wa­nt to get the job do­ne. They care enou­gh to spank, but don­’t want it to be too intimate. This is why belt spankers alm­ost always spank you either laying on the bed or bent over. You will usually be asked to lower your own pants and unde­rpants for a belt spa­nking, and are usual­ly treated much more like an adult. Wh­en the spanking star­ts,the belt will la­nd where it may, it may be lopsided, hit­ting one buttock more than the other, or it may lash your te­nder bumhole or thig­hs, but that is all your problem for scr­ewing up. Belt spank­ers may tell you to take it like a man, meaning they don't want you to break down on them. After yo­ur lashes, life goes back to normal, and you're expected to get on with life as if they had not just seen and whipped yo­ur bare butt.   PADDLE Paddle spank­ers like showmanship and are competitive. Their spanking im­plement is a work of art, worthy of disp­lay, whether for the message engraved or painted on it, or for the beauty and craftsmanship of the paddle itself. If they have an older more worn paddle, that too is a badge of hon­or for the number of spankings it has de­livered. They will talk openly of spank­ing you, without any hesitation, and will also not hesitate to spank you in front of someone, when it's warranted. Pad­dles can easily pene­trate pants, so there is a chance you wi­ll be clothed for pa­rt or all of a paddl­ing. Paddlings are almost always done be­nding over, and are very "on the spot" type of punishments. Because of the show­manship of paddlers, you will almost alw­ays get extra swats if you fail to keep your position or fol­low any of the other rules that are set for you. Paddle span­kers get a very smug satisfaction out of spanking you, and enjoy watching you struggle to maintain. Tears are seen as an accomplishment, and are usually not di­scouraged. After the spanking, you may be put in the corner to display your red bottom if there’s time, but otherwise seeing you nursing yo­ur sore bottom is satisfying enough. SLIPPER Slipper spa­nkers see the value of spanking boys, but see it as a dirty job. The sole of a shoe is well suited to the task, having to tread the dirt and gravel of life. Slipperings are given OTK or bent over most often, and are usually given bare bo­ttomed but sometimes in pajamas or under­pants. Slipper spank­ers have a lot in co­mmon with belt spank­ers, in that they are more interested in the ends rather than the means. The sl­ipper will land most­ly on your bottom, but if needed it will also land on your thighs. Slipper span­kers are more likely to send you to bed after a spanking or otherwise disrupt your life as part of the punishment. They may also soap your mouth or use other punitive measures in addition to the span­king. SWITCH / SPOON Spanke­rs that favor switch­es or spoons usually have deep religious convictions about spanking. They may li­ke to have long talk­s, hand on shoulder style. They will li­kely have you fetch the spoon or pick yo­ur own switch to make you willingly subm­it to the punishment. When it’s time to carry out the disci­pline, they will oft­en lecture you for your offense and make it seem much worse than you think it was. You will almost always be bare bott­omed, but the spanks will often spread to your thighs with the switch, or bum-ho­le and tender sit-sp­ots with the spoon.  You may be pla­ced in the degrading diaper position with spoon or switch spankers.  Otherwise, they usually like you bending over or placed over the kn­ee. Switch and spoon spankers are usual­ly relentless, and are on a mission to whip the naughtiness out of you, so expect a very painful spa­nking with welts in the case of the swit­ch, or blisters in the case of the spoon. After the spankin­g, expect more lectu­ring while you are still bared, and expe­ct to be questioned about plans to impro­ve. The good news is, you will likely es­cape corner time or any other punishment once you are dismis­sed. RAZOR STRAP / CANE St­rap or cane Spankers are strong male aut­hority figures that command respect. They take discipline seriously, and belie­ve spanking is an im­portant part of inst­illing it into boys. You will likely be stripped naked for a strap or cane puni­shment, or at least naked from the waist down. You will oft­en have to fold your clothes, and stand in front of them for a lecture. The humi­liation level is usu­ally high to match the pain level you are about to feel. You will then be told to bend over, most of the time over an object as the intense pain makes grabbing knees impractical. There wi­ll usually be a set number of lashes del­ivered, the cane com­ing in multiples of 6 and the strap in multiples of 5. The lashes will be well placed and deliberat­e, and there will be no mercy. You will take as many as you earned, but usually have the small mercy of knowing how many you­’re getting. You may have to count the lashes out loud and/or thank the spanker for them. Like padd­lings, there are lik­ely to be consequenc­es for failing to st­ay in position with the addition of havi­ng to keep count. You will likely be put on display in the co­rner for an excruciatingly long period of time after your puni­shment and not be al­lowed to even touch your bottom. You are likely to have your behavior reviewed before you are allowed your clothes back, and also be given a stern warning about future misbehaviors.

Hi Everyone, A quick update, I am currently abroad so not been on site much, still managed to get myself spanked though - bet you are suprised lol? There was a mistake made on the site with regards to a members account being deleted, and I want to apologize for that. Everyone regardless of gender is welcome here without exception. I would like to ask for your understanding on this matter and not turn it into an argument or point fingers, we all make mistakes. Ultimately this is my site, so I take full responsobility and this has never happened before, so please do accept it for what it was - a mistake. I appreciate your understanding and support and again I apologize.   huggsss   James    

Okay, so for the remainder od this month, lets have a video competion.   The rules are simple, it has to be home made, so no commercial or defunct studio clips.   The last day of May is the end date for submissions.   The top 6 videos, with the most likes go to a poll vote.   The 4 video clips that get the most votes win a prize.   Prizes are awarded by picks, no the winnrer with the most votes gets to pick first, second place chooses next and so on.   The prizes are:   4 VHS redboard spanking tapes, which will include digital copies for you (DVD or MP4).   3 DVD's - 3 Bad Boys, Fallen Angels and Spank me man.   2 Magazines, a Spankography from Control T and a MHF Red Tails.   1 Very rare book, entitiled 'The guide to the correction of young gentlemen' - this is an AKS book, and basically F/M but it is very interesting.

A short diversion before I get to Part 2 of my 2nd Naked Dare at Work story.   In the Franco Friday photo above that AC posted showing a guy masturbating while watching a buddy get spanked, I commented about being too shy to do something like that myself either as a teen or as an adult.  Here's what I said in the comment:   Ever since I was a teen, I always wanted to masturbate when a buddy got spanked but was too ashamed to let anyone know that I got sexually turned on watching them get spanked, or worse yet thinking about someone spanking me. And besides no one admitted that they masturbated, although we all knew everyone did! So I waited until I got home, then stripped naked and jerked off thinking about being in their place! Even as an adult I am too shy to masturbate when getting spanked in a group. Perhaps someday I'll have to throw caution to the wind. It will be the perfect excuse for someone to punish me for my indiscretion! I'll post a few photos of myself in a similar situation shortly. where I wasn't allowed to touch myself while watching someone else get spanked and I was waiting my turn for a bottom blistering punishment spanking in front of an audience! Here's the time I mentioned where I didn't dare touch myself while I watched another man get spanked knowing I was going to be spanked next! I'll tell the whole story someday but here's a brief part of it.   There were seven other men standing there watching too which made it extra humiliating for me.  After all, they saw me stripped, scolded and lectured for real misbehavior.  This was actually the first time I got spanked for something I really did!  Having never been spanked growing up, I was never lectured like that knowing my bare ass was about to pay for what I did.  The feeling was quite incredible!  Not only that, but by this time, the spanker already shaved my pubes and ass right in front of them to make me look and feel like the little boy he was going to spank me like. I hate being shaved down there, but I was being punished for real misbehavior and I had no say so in how I got punished!   After all, what boy does?   Now I'm watching him spank someone else so I can get an idea of what is going to happen to me - only he's told me I'm going to get it much worse!    In this picture I turn and look at the other men that are watching the three of us and I see all of them smirking. I have a slight smirk on my own face from watching the other guy getting spanked.   Yeah, I can't help but grin when I see someone else get spanked.  It's hilarious!   It always has been ever since I was a kid!   But at the same time I feel humiliated standing there buck ass naked, with a bald dick seeing all those men smirking back at me, knowing they can hardly wait to see me get the punishment spanking everyone knows I deserve and the spanker promised them I was going to get! Right in front of them while THEY watch!    But it's going to get a lot more humiliating for me!   Before I get paddled, the spanker is going to make me stand there while HE masturbates me, right in front of everyone!   You see a spanking hurts a lot more after a guy c. u. m. s. !!!    He wants me to ejaculate before I get spanked, so I don't get any sexual pleasure from the spanking and it becomes pure punishment for me! No Sir!   I've been jacked off before a few other spankings and let me tell you, even a guy like me that likes being spanked, doesn't want a spanking at all anymore after he ejaculates!   It's a horrible torture!   But for me it was more than the extra pain.   I was totally humiliated as he stood in front of me and lubed up my dick and started stroking me.   It was such a personal thing to do and something someone else has rarely done to me.   In fact it's only been done by someone else, explicitly for this purpose, to make a spanking hurt more!   It's even more embarrassing to post the photos and tell the story of it here, but spanking humiliation is exactly what I deserve!   My humiliation didn't stop there.   It wasn't happening with him stroking me, so I had to finish the task myself!    I can't even describe how embarrassing it was to stroke myself right in front of everyone, knowing I was going to be spanked as soon as I was done and how much more that spanking was going to hurt after I did.   I couldn't even look at those other men staring at me while I did the deed!   More very personal and very humiliating photos:     Finally I get cleaned up and go over his knees naked and get my bottom blistered just like the naughty little boy I acted like!  Right in front of everyone!  And to my utter humiliation, that lexan paddle he used made me howl and carry on like a 5 year old for all those other men's amusement.   I glanced up a couple times while I was trying to catch my breath to see the expressions on the other men's faces.  Some were grinning with delight just I like used to do as a teen when I watched a buddy get spanked.  Others were looking in awe that I was getting spanked so hard!  But I have to admit, I deserved every exactly what I got! It was a spanking I will always remember - on many levels. Also these more recent photos of me showing my face are very exciting and humiliating to post.    They are frightening too because if a regular friend from vanilla life sees them they will know I get my bare naked bottom spanked like a naughty little boy at my age!    But on the bright side perhaps they will insist onn spanking themselves, again and again whenever they want to!   Maybe I'm actually hoping that will happen!

What Matthew had in mind for this dirty old man was to sit bare on the edge of the bed, lay a towel in his lap and order me to hump his lap.   He told me he was going to spank me until I ejaculated!    That right, the young spanker was going to spank the c.u.m. right out of this old man!   And was going to keep spanking me until I shot my load!   As humiliating as it was, I climbed up over his lap.   We were both naked, and the towel was the only thing between us.   I had only masturbated once in front of someone before.  It was Matthew after he gave me my first spanking a few months before.  It was so humiliating to masturbate at my age in front of this young man, and even more humiliating to do it in this manner by laying over his knees and humping his lap!  That first time it was after the spanking was over and he asked if I needed to get off.   This was more embarrassing because he was going to spank me while I masturbated!   But I did as I was told!   I shamelessly humped his lap this time.  Only it was much  worse to do it over his lap as he wailed on my bare naked heinie with that evil hairbrush giving me the spanking I deserved!   The sting of the brush was distracting me from the "task at hand".   He even spread my butt cheeks apart and spanked the tender areas between my cheeks.   Yes it was going to be a long, long spanking!  Now he was definitely enjoying this and had developed a boner of his own from spanking and humiliating me. It had to be quite satisfying having control over a much older guy like me!   Since the video upload functions aren't working yet I thought I'd try to share the videos clips from the Role Reversal Spanking through Google Drive.     https://drive.google.com/file/d/1el6PaAgz6pGx1vj3ZlN7GhOvJaNFOA0R/view?usp=sharing            

Having the spanked boy do corner time on his hands and knees is another way to call attention to his spanked bottom and add to his shame. Corner time is all about exposure and humiliation.  Kneeling on the floor with knees spread wide focuses attention on my red spanked bottom and dangling balls. No you can't see much else of me than my bare red butt and balls so it's an excellent position for corner time!         Making me put my face flat on the floor thrusts my spanked bottom up into the air even more. If I'm made to spread my knees wide enough, not only are my dick and balls visible, but my hole will be too! It's as if I'm begging people to take notice of my glowing red bottom and dangling boy parts.    In keeping with the theme of exposure and humiliation, this blog post is another series of photos of me in naked corner time. Including more buck ass naked, full length frontal face pictures of me with a boner!   I shamefully admit, a boner I have because I'm being spanked!   The kind of picture that my spanking buddy Jordan thinks I should post a lot more of, hoping that someone I know sees them, recognizes me and realizes that I get turned on being stripped naked and spanked by other men. Jordan has actually told me that he truly hopes that someone that I know will see the photos and insist on giving me the totally humiliating naked spankings I deserve.  Yes if they see the posts they will be able to insist on spanking me whenever they want!   I think deep down I'm hoping for the same thing!  Yes, deep down, I'm hoping that my spanking fetish will be discovered and I'll get stripped buck ass naked and get frequently spanked by a regular friend. Then I can re-live the humiliation and shame of that spanking every time we see each other!  And my friend can re-live the satisfaction of knowing he finally gave me the spanking he's always wanted to give me!  I've always said, that it's just going to be a matter of time before this happens.   And when it happens, I just hope that my friend will order me to strip and bend over his knees for the humiliating and very personal spanking that we both know I need and deserve.  And I hope that some very humiliating naked corner time will be part of my punishment to drive the shame home!   Kneeling on the Spanking Chair is another extremely humiliating way to do corner time.    Any wide chair with flat arms will do but wider arms are better as it's more comfortable for me and the discomfort won't distract me from the shame and embarrassment of knowing I'm naked, spanked and on display.  Plus being elevated off the floor puts my bottom more at eye level drawing even more attention to the fact that I'm naked and I've been spanked! Similar to the Spanking Chair, the naked boy can be made to sit on the Spanking Stool.  The Spanking Stool exposes a boy in the most ludicrous way!   Raised up high, with his back arched and his hands behind his head, his bottom is thrust out for everyone to see and his dick and balls are pulled back and kept there exposed by the edge of the stool.  Even his butt hole is exposed in this position and the exposure is likely to maintain him in an aroused state for the amusement of an audience!  One of the most humiliating forms of corner time is what I call "Center of the Room Time"   Facing my spanker and anyone else that is there to witness my punishment!  It's so embarrassing to make eye contact with the audience knowing I'm naked.  Whether it's before a spanking knowing everyone is anticipating my punishment or after the spanking and seeing the smirks of satisfaction spread across their faces telling me they enjoyed watching me get spanked!  It's so humiliating having to face my spanker and anyone witnessing my spanking.   Especially if they laugh when they see the boner I have because I'm being spanked!     I have to admit, it turns me on posting exposing naked face pcitures of myself online.  Perhaps I should be spanked just for that!  It makes me hard thinking about the humiliation I'll endure when someone I know sees them and realizes I still get spanked at my age, and have to do corner time naked and exposed for everyone to see!    Personally I think "Center of the Room Time" is the most humiliating form of corner time.   Yes standing buck ass naked, with my hands behind my head, in the center of a room full of other people.  For me, what's most embarrassing about a spanking is the humiliation of having others see that I get spanked and that I get a boner when I think about spanking.   So having me face the audience so they can make eye contact with me just drives the shame home!   There is no way to hide my boner or cover my face with my hands behind my head.  And any attempt to do so will result in another spanking right in front of them.  The "audience" can feel free to walk right up to me, observe me from any side, touch me, tease me, feel the heat radiating from my spanked bottom and let me see the smirks of satisfaction on their faces close up.  Absolutely no part of me is shielded from view.  I'm totally exposed!   That shame will be remembered long after the sting of the spanking has faded away!   Especially if that "audience" is made up of people I know and have to face everyday and they tease me about still getting spanked at my age, every time they see me.   Corner time can also be brought outdoors.  Just like a spanking outdoors, there's more risk of being seen by others and that makes the corner time more dreaded and even more humiliating. Any of the same positions we talked about before can me utilitzed in a outdoor setting.   An older photo of me standing on display naked in the woods.   Any form of corner time can be brought outdoors to make things even more interesting.   Whenever I'm naked outside I'm constantly thinking someone is there watching, either close by or in the distance.   I'm always looking around to see who might be looking, so being ordered to keep looking straight ahead will make it even worse.   Even if no one is there, I will think there are others watching my naked exposure!   Whether it be corner time or getting spanked!   A recent photo of me doing corner time during naked chores in the yard outside!  Outdoor cornertime is the most humiliating cornertime of all!  If a boy is not doing his outdoor chores properly, you can stop the chores, make him do corner time right where he is outside, and then spank him outside, right where anyone can watch, before having him finish the chores with a red spanked bottom.  Yes cornertime can add to the effectiveness of any spanking.  Use it often!  And remember - cornertime is best served in front of an audience!

Okay you naughty boys and ever so strict dads n tops!  So I have just managed to disable the freaking touchpad on my laptop .. which was driving me nuts, now I can actually type without the mouse flipping up and down lines and screwing up my text. I am in the UK right now and will be here for at least the next 6 months.  So presently in quarantine and Dad has insisted I just wear my PJ’s, as we can’t go out.  Yea that has nothing to do with the fact he can bare my tail easily whenever he feels like it, and the number of excuses he has found to land several swats at a time on my butt have increased a lot! Now I am on holiday, and you would think that my weekly review and punishment sessions would be suspended, right?  Nope, not at all, I had my behind royally tanned yesterday, can you believe it? Oh and it gets worse, I do plan on visiting several Dads/Tops over the course of my visit and my dear old dad Denis is going to ask them to conduct the review session, in the event I am with them on a Sunday!  Now come on, even the sternest of Dads must admit, that is not fair!  And yes, I know I can be naughty, even when on holidays – but that is not the point, hello I am on holidays! Okay rant over for now! and just in-case you are wondering, my Pop has found an empty corner to stand me in, dang that sucks! Hugsssss

Essential these are some of the reponses to email my Dad sent, when we were intially getting to know one another.  I figured some of you might enjoy them and of course it gives some insight into the Dad/Son relationship we have.   ‘You won’t need to be anyone other than yourself and who you really are knowing that times you'd be hugged and cuddled in bed as you fall asleep in my arms would also be matched by time when I'd know you need to be over my knees.  It would be a normal partnership to all outside eyes, but you would be well aware that in our house we have a paddle.’     ‘Yep, I saw no potential incompatibility areas as we look at things and we ponder what is best for both of us.  Your dreams as to boundaries corrections, punishments, reviews, and "just when you need them" trips over my knees (each different) will all take place with your bottom bare and you are encouraged to share your hopes and desires both positive and negative ones as you wish. ‘     ‘Impressive as your investigatory skills are, I suspect that at this point in our discussion, were you here where you belong, your briefs, if you still had any on at this time Sunday evening, would be coming down slowly, for a nice “excessive computer time” infraction spanking!  I’m sure after a half hour or so of wiggling over my knees, your ouch yells and please yells too would maybe be able to convince me to stop spanking you and let you cuddle in my arms in front of the TV instead?  Might Dad kindly and oh, so ever gently, invite you to look at the yellow highlight at the bottom of this message?’     ‘But I suspect you would not want anyone, not just your mother, to notice your red eyes and ask that question?  Certainly this “red eyes” factor is crucial to your happy life, as a son, so we must solve your problem.  The only solution is a practical experiment whereby Dad spanks his loving son several times until his tears leave him with red eyes and then you, the boy, times how long your eyes remain with tell-tale redness giving your situation away to Mom and outsiders.  I recommend twenty times and we simply take the average of the times it takes for the redness to disappear?  That way Junior will know exactly how early prior to a visit, you will know you need to behave.  Yep, I know you will want to know this important factor in life’     ‘Yes, the certainty of this will make things very clear, but if you break a rule, you can explain yourself as I pull down your briefs and spank you anyway.   Might be hard to sob and speak your piece but you are welcome to try.’     ‘It is true as your dad, I will take a certain amount of pride in bringing you up in the time-honoured tradition of baring your bottom and pulling you across my knees where you will most easily respond to lessons.  It depends on how quickly you learn but you’ve been holding back emotionally on lots of things.  A nice little talk, Dad to Son, is, unfortunately, way overdue’     ‘That is correct!  The time dad spends with you as your bottom is bared or all your clothes are removed and/or you're in the corner, is very important.  Dad never rushes but when Dad does put you over his knees, you will always know that you are going to be in that position for a very long time.  That is simply the way your own Dad gives them to you.’     ‘I suspect you're right about this.  How you say something might give you some concern on some topics, but being yourself, accepting the consequences, and having a great life are yours for the taking.  The tenderness is what you've missed the most.  And yes, that tenderness will also be there when you're a bit red you know where.  Life will come together.’     ‘I’m sure that knowing your shyness, you will come to dislike corner time when you must have your bare bottom showing.  However, in your case, it is especially meaningful as you’ll know what Dad is seeing and pondering regardless as to whether you’ve already been turned over before being stood in that corner.’     ‘It’s your dad’s role to insure you are always on your best behaviour, with a good positive attitude, and moving forward.  When your paddle sits out where it’s always visible, I’m sure you’ll stay on your toes and never forget what is expected of you.’     ‘In domestic relationships that are real, going over my knees before bed as I’m sitting on the end of the bed looking at you is not unusual at all.  I though you knew that? How would you like them to happen?  Your night-time kiss and embrace with a red face and red bottom will make you feel complete and much better, don’t you think?’     ‘Dad will always give you the spanking you have earned and never stop spanking or paddling or giving your bare bottom the hairbrush Dad judges you need period.  Always remember your spanking will at some point end and you’ll be hugged and comforted and yes, loved until you know you will always have a dad who loves and cares for you, even if I have to do it several times a day just to get through to you.’     ‘Unfortunately, the hairbrush was designed to be used on a young man’s bare bottom.  The paddle or strap might be used on a boy’s briefs or jeans at least initially in his punishments, but not the hairbrush’.       ‘Yes, and your very sincere replies while my hand is pausing on your sore bare bottom will make it really obvious that your word choices are always important as a pause is a pause and it's definitely not over!’     ‘Yes, our focus in everything is on the future for, as the old Scottish saying goes, "boys learn, as bottoms burn."  You can blame it on your ancestors who obviously foretold of your coming.  "Predestined" as the Scottish Presbyterians blame on everything.  Possibly that will provide some comfort when I can't hear you pleading me to put down the _____?’      ‘I am not the type of Dad (or man) to ask you to do many things very often, or at all, but your focus will have to quickly become on little things and more likely miss a normal voiced “come here a minute,” or “let’s go.”  On those occasions I expect you do that and obey immediately.  If you miss it, you might very well hear me say, “OK, we’re late but pull your jeans and briefs down and get over the back of the couch to get a few.”  It only takes a couple of swats with your paddle on your bare bottom to get some red and watery eyes before you hear, “OK, pull them up, we’re leaving now.”  James will learn obedience quickly.’

So an update on what has been going on. I did a server rebuild and moved us over to a better web server, Litespeed as opposed to Apache.  This had to be done for several reasons, speed being an obvious one but also because the server had some faults, including its networking.  It takes a long time to do this, because I have to move the data from the server to a backup VPS and then back again.  When we do the copy back to the server, given the large amount of data, it is a six-hour process.  That said, this will be the last build for the next 18 months, unless the hardware fails. On the networking, it proved to be extremely frustrating and I am pissed about it.  We used Enom as our domain host, because the interface is easy to use and because propagation is virtually instant.  Enom sold out to Hover and I have never seen a more useless control panel in my life.  I was unable to edit name servers or glue records with it constantly giving me ‘auth’ errors.  I did create a ticket and I am still waiting and that was over 24 hours ago.  Part of the networking issue was that guys could not get to the site from some locations, there was a problem with DNS. Given that Hover screwed me right up the middle, I signed up for a month’s trial with a DNS hosting provider, which seems to be going well.  At the very least it gives me a month to move to another domain registrar, because hover can go f*** themselves.  Do let me know if you are experiencing problems, but I will have our own private nameservers back up again soon. I had hoped to run upgrades and fix some other issues, but again I struck out of luck as the script installer and upgrade routine constantly failed.  To that end, I have duplicated the site on the same server and will work on refreshing the database from scratch.  What that means in practice, is I install the script fresh with no data.  I then using a copy of our database strip all the extra modules out and all the core components and export to a file.  On the fresh database, I simply drop all the tables that are populated on our live database, and then merge the two together.  It is time consuming, but I will get it done. So you guys now we are still moving away from the scrip to social engine, I just need to figure a lot of bits and pieces on that.  It’s a totally different can of worms, but again I will get it done.  As I have said before once we get over onto social engine, everything will run smoother and nicer, including progressive web apps. So that’s it from me, and I am considering having a large southern comfort.   Hugs   James

My First Punishment Type Spanking I had been getting spankings for about 8 years, but I always felt something was missing. Those spankings started out with a hand spanking warmup and then progressed to leather implements and then sometimes to wooden paddles. They lacked the serious intent like the spankings I watched my friends get growing up. My friend's spankings never had a warmup and they never started over clothes.  They got their pants and underwear pulled down and they got spanked hard and fast, on a bare ass, right from the start.  This was one of my first few spankings at Bill's Basement.  Bill usually gave a much less intense spanking, but I told Bill that I wanted this spanking to be a real punishment type spanking. I told him I needed to be spanked the way a strict dad of the 1950's would punish his teenage son. I said I wanted to be spanked hard and fast right from the start. I also mentioned that I heard a hairbrush was a horrible implement to be spanked with, so I said I wanted my spanking with a brush! Yes I couldn't believe I was actually asking for a hairbrush spanking after all I heard about one.  I asked Bill to strip me naked, bend me over his knees and spank me hard and fast with that brush like a naughty boy!   That's exactly what he did. I had previously always been very stoic during a spanking, hardly uttering a sound. Those hand spanking warmups always got the endorphins flowing and "numbed up" my butt before any serious spanking started. This spanking was entirely different. I never felt my bottom burn so much! I was yelping and gasping for breath in no time. In fact I thought I was going to hyperventilate. I stayed in position for the most part, but to give you an idea of how much my bottom stung, I pushed the bench that Bill was sitting on right out of the view of his camera with just my toes pushing against the floor! Luckily I had my own video camera running too with a wider angle of view that captured the spanking.  My change in reaction must have worried Bill because he stopped the spanking a bit too soon, but I got my first taste of what I'd call a real spanking!              Here's a link to a video of the spanking: https://drive.google.com/file/d/0B0svmfWrnjyPQ0FMQnFkQWY4amc/view?usp=share_link&resourcekey=0-Mujj-c0csbOE9jaSYDiRVA