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Anyone can copy this text and post it places as long as it is for non-commercial use and an acknowledgement to the site and author is included.  James.   It is very true that reality is stranger than fiction and more so of fantasy.   It is also true that my Dad has his hand, hairbrush and paddle and I have a bottom to be bared.   And of course, spanking and corner time are not mutually exclusive.       A BOYS BEGINS TO UNDERSTAND CHAPTER 1   Sitting on the hard-wooden chair, in nothing but my tee and socks, my partner and Dad began to explain things to me.  He was smiling, a twinkle in his eye but at the same time I could tell he was also very serious.   ‘The point of punishment James, is to correct you and there is no question about that.  Changes need to be made in how you have done things in the past although controlling your behavior for your future will be much more natural and easier to make effective. It is true that my hand will definitely be the mainstay of punishment when you break any rules or miss your goals.  If needed we will use the hairbrush’   ‘Its intent is, of course, to reach you quickly and get your legs flailing and your yells coming out immediately, but when Dad's done giving it to you, my hand will continue your spanking’   I mean seriously?  The freaking hairbrush! I hate the brush with every fiber in my body.    Oh, and it just got even worse …   ‘Dad’s hand is also far more active in first helping you to adjust your cock and balls so they hang down over his thigh and aren’t squeezed as your bare bottom bounces and wiggles during your spanking and far more effective on your upper and inner thighs and buns as he tans your bare bottom, while you are trying to get words out with promises’   I just can’t believe it …. It’s so unfair! … but he continues as I begin developing a pout!   ‘You have a Dad who understands that your spankings always need to stop way after you hope, plead or beg Dad to stop.’   'Dad can tell by the skin on your bare bottom how things are going and the sobs and tears add to it.  It is not difficult to know when you are pleading whether it's time to continue or lessen up a bit, but stop?  Not going to happen.'   My bottom is now tingling nervously, as I take it all in, darn and he means every word of it!   ‘When you don’t agree or definitely don’t want a spanking, you will go over my knees for one anyway.  All of that is normal.  You can say, “OK, sorry Dad, I’ll go over your knees now” or “No way, Dad!  Unfair and unreasonable.  My bottom’s already sore!” but then you risk the hairbrush or strap.  We both know what you will choose.’   Choose?  Is he kidding? And now I am not only pouting, but my face is flushed deep red!   ‘There will always be a paddle, hairbrush, strap, and spanking chair in our house for your future for correction, punishment, and/or times when you simply are getting a review or reminder’   What the heck is a review or reminder?  My nervousness just soared to new heights while my bare bottom jiggles on the chair, a stark reminder of my current position.   ‘Yes, young men like James are  spanked, stood in the corner, and spanked again, but it can also happen when after you’ve been spanked and  you are told to keep your bottom bare and we enjoy dinner or preparing such or even cuddle on the couch and Dad still decides you need a firmer spanking (or more).  That’s not usual but possible depending on your reactions and especially how cuddly you are with your Dad as he wipes your tears and listens to your response.’   Okay so the cuddly bit sounds really nice, right?  But stood in the corner – now that is just plain mean.  I think he was reading my mind as he continued …  ‘ I’m sure that knowing your shyness, you will come to dislike corner time when you must have your bare bottom showing.  However, in your case, it is especially meaningful as you’ll know what Dad is seeing and pondering regardless as to whether you’ve already been turned over before being stood in that corner’   ‘Your emotions are going to vary significantly, but one thing you will always be able to depend on James, is that when I take your jeans and briefs down for a spanking, you will always get one’   ‘And I see a certain young man, who’s jeans and briefs have already been taken down, waiting for his spanking’   I nearly fainted, as the realization hit me.   He nudged me up from my chair, and took me in his arms, it was a wonderful feeling.  We hugged for a long time, his hand holding my bare bottom.   “OK, now James, what punishment have you brought on your nice bare bottom?’   As I started my reply, he was leading me over to the spanking chair, his hand planted firmly on my very bare buns.   Sitting down in that chair, he looked me straight in the eyes   ‘You’ve always known what you were risking but you did it anyway.  Now Dad will give you what was promised.  Over you go, son.’   I did as I was told and found myself in that classic over the knee spanking position that all naughty boys are familiar with.   He took his time, adjusting my cock and balls over the side of his thigh, then we talked (while his hand was on my bare bottom) about my failure and why Dad has to spank my bare bottom now, and he did.  No amount of promising or begging or tears at all prevented my correction and then some.    Eventually I was sobbing from emotions and the pain of my spanking.  Dad encouraged me to let my emotions out while he continued spanking my now very red bottom.     ‘There is never a need to be stoic and just "take it like a man."  You're a boy at heart James and a boy who responds as a boy when his Dad pulls his briefs down and gives him a good spanking.’   After my spanking, I could feel the tension as I stood in the corner reflecting, or ‘thinking’ time as Dad calls it.   I stood there, resisting the urge to rub my now very red and very hot buns.  If Dad sees my stance in the corner to be less repentant than Dad wants or my hands stray from where they should be, he might pull me out of my corner for a repeat spanking.  I knew I could count on it!  Every boy that messes up their corner time gets one, and I knew there would be no exception for me.   Yes, it did take a long time and I was definitely sore sitting the next day, but I did feel absolutely wonderful!    That following morning, we talked about why I had to be punished.   If it happens again Dad had decided the hairbrush will be used on my bare bottom to the point where I was are sure I can’t take anymore. A good long spanking with the hairbrush will be followed with another trip over Dad’s knees before bedtime, at a minimum.   How do I feel about all this huh?   Dad punishes me as his Son, no matter how much I sob and with choking tears as I am begging him to stop and promising him the world. My Dad will always give me the spanking I have earned and never stop spanking or paddling or giving my bare bottom the hairbrush.  Dad judges what I need period.  I always remember my spanking will at some point end, and I will be hugged and comforted and yes, loved.  I know that I will always have a dad who loves and cares for me.

I know there have been some issues with this, and I wanted to delve a little into the firepit that it truly is. There are things we can do in order to make it harder to download videos from this site, but unfortuanelty it is impossible to stop it. I can assure everyone that I have looked into this many times before, but once something is uploaded to the interent, it can then be copied.  Think of it this way, your browser is displaying the content, so its there, even if by using tokens and higher enryption, and even DRM, it can still be downloaded.  There are so many programs and in some cases hardware available, it makes it impossible to stop. What I can do is ask those responsbile not to do it, please.  A lot of the members here do NOT want their videos shared elsewhere and it is morally wrong for you to do so.  As you have been totally selfish, many members will make their videos friends only.  This means YOU cannot see it and neither can many other members, it also means YOU cannot download them.  No one wins from this .. so why bother? I do have a plan that I am working on, that will make it much more difficult, but guys as hard as I can work on it, and as many many hours I can put into it, I do not have a magic wand to stop it from happening.  And to clarifty guys, its the same with all sites, whether youtube or even facebook - you cannot prevent the videos from being downloaded, unless you restrict the privacy settings to friends only and hope that one of your friends is not the cuplprit. Plus I am grumpy today - as I am grounded .. long story! and .. I want to see some Dads and Tops spanked as well.    

First off Guys, I really want to thank you for all your support, the response has been amazing and I am truly humbled. Also I must apologize for not being on the site lately, and if you have not had a personal email from me thanking you for your donation to the site, I will be doing so.  I have been up against the clock, but I can promise you I have been working very hard getting this site to where it needs to be. We had such an awsome fundraiser, that we have bought and paid for a server for a complete year, and we got a massive discount for doing so, again thank you.  It takes a lot of stress away from me.  At the moment I am looking at the plugins and software we need for the new script, but before I get into that ... As you will know the site went down for perhaps 1/2 hour yesterday and around the same today.  This was because the billing cycle for the old server hits tommorow.  So I really had to get it done quickly, and we did.  Usually when changing servers its not a big issue, but this time was a little different, because I took a plunge and changed a lot of things.  So for your techies out there, we are currently using Litespeed with PhP 7.3 and Redis as our cache.  I hit some problems I was not expecting such as permissions and ownership issues, but in the end we got it solved. So that was one project, but I have been working on getting us over to the new script as well and it is going very well .. ooopss before I go any further, my partner and Dad, Denis just got back from Europe, however he took a tumble at the airport and I ended up collecting him in a wheel chair.  He is okay, had him checked out at urgent care, but he is pretty bruised and sore.  You might think him not being able to put me accross his lap is a good thing right?  Yea, that baby got put to bed, he has me bending over the back of the spanking chair and can swing that danged paddle real hard! Anyway the script project, it is likely going to take several more weeks, but I havev solved most problems.  At the moment, I am having issues with video thumbnails and data from groups, but I am getting excellent support from the vendor, I will keep you all updated.  When we get this done, I promise, you will be super amazed :) Okay, so I got to fo make supper for a brusied and cranky Dad ...   hugggsss   James  

Flew to Florida for work and spent the weekend staying with a sweet handsome friend in Tampa who I had met at a couple other events and quickly became pretty good friends with.  Been a rough couple months and this was exactly what I needed.  We hung out a lot and I got spanked on Saturday and Sunday. No roleplay or anything but he cycled through a lot of implements including straps, paddles, brushes and spoons. He is great at what he does and got my endorphins going. I already miss him and can't wait to see him again at BAW. Cried when I left. Like I said...it's been a rough couple months and feeling cared about that much for a weekend was exactly what I needed.     

Hello everyone,   I have been wading through our logs, figuring out the recent crash and I have other inportant information to update you with.  Firstly there was no security breech, it was a database crash.   Secondly our backup routine had failed, resulting in the loss of a few months of videos.   Also very importantly, our two year commitment contract with our hosting provider will expire on 28th October.Normally about this time, I look at finding a better spec server for a similar or lower price, however its not going to happen this time around.  Our prices will increase, but if I do another two year commitment before our contract expires, its only going up  by $20 a month, but that is still $240 per year.   I analyzed our traffic logs, we actually do not have to upgrade the server at all, we are consistantly below 350 Mpbs, actually usually way below that, given that our port speed can handle 500 Mpbs (incoming and out going), I see no need to upgrade  To put that into perspective the server can process 62.5 Megabytes of data every second.  That is more than enough for our site, and very likely will last us at least the next two years and probably longer.    Instead of looking at server upgrades, I am looking into upgrading our caching service, at the moment we use an open and free version of the software which has some restrictions and does impede performance.  I am looking at a license that will eliminate those restrictions, but as always there is a cost, which is currently $17 per month or $204 annually.  If we do that, our annual costs (including the server price increase) will increase by a total of $444 (an unusual number for sure).   It is substantial.   I do need to take this all into consideration when making my final decision on the best way forward.  The initial server work I am planning will involve the following:   Refresh the server. Refresh the database. Install the most recent version of the software script. Install a reliable opensource backup software with a GUI. Complete a security audit. Configure email server and reverse dns. Setup email registration. Allow password resets by email.   I will provide updates as I go along, and let you know my decisons.   James                

  The groove spanking is a very effective spanking method.   It's a spanking right in a naughty boy's butt crack - his groove!   The area between the cheeks is very tender indeed.   The inner cheeks that form the sides of the butt crack, the area between a guy's balls and hole and the bullseye!   The butt hole itself.  While extreme caution has to be used not to do any damage in this area, a light spanking here can be horribly painful.    The best way to position a boy for a groove spanking is in the diaper position, laying on his back with his legs pulled back over his head and spread wide.  It's best to tie the legs in this position so the spanker doesn't have to hold them, or even more embarrassing letting others who are there to witness the spanking hold them for you.   As an alternative, making the boy participate in his own punishment, you can make him spread and hold his own butt cheeks wide apart for the spanking.   It will take quite a bit of self control to keep the cheeks spread wide apart during the groove spanking!   As I mentioned in previous posts, the diaper position is very humiliating because eye contact can be made between the person being spanked and the spanker and audience.   It's also very embarrassing because his butt hole is a guy's most private and vulnerable area and to have it exposed for punishment is downright humiliating!    One of my first experiences with a groove spanking was when I was in my mid 50's and a young 23 year old college student named Freddie spanked me.  What made this spanking especially embarrassing is that Freddie spanked me in his campus apartment.  The building was full of college students that had to hear me getting paddled and belted!   They probably knew from personal experience exactly what that sound was.   Freddie just loved to spread my butt cheeks wide apart and hand spank, paddle and belt me right in my groove!  The paddle is harder to use in this area, but a narrow belt is a perfect implement for a groove spanking.    I swear Freddie was aiming the tip of his belt right for the bullseye - my butt hole!  A spanking right on the hole stings something horrible!   Especially the lash of a thin belt!    Freddie exposing and checking out the target!   It was truly embarrassing feeling his hands grasp my butt cheeks, pulling them wide apart, exposing my most private place, knowing he was going to spank it!  ​ Freddie using one hand to spread my crack open as he uses the edge of a paddle to spank the outer edges of my groove.  The groove spanking is humiliating because you know how exposed you are. You know the spanker is looking right at your butt hole and it's painful too because this area is very tender. Freddie checking things out and finding my groove is starting to turn red. The next day there were some bruises where the tip of Freddie's belt landed in the center of my wide spread groove!   Some other Groove Spankings I got:        There's no doubt about it.   A groove spanking makes for a very embarrassing and very memorable spanking.   It's best to have the miscreant buck ass naked for a groove spanking.  Ideally the groove spanking should be given in front of an audience.   Embarrassment and humiliation are  key elements of any spanking.  They are as important a part of a spanking as the spanking itself!  A groove spanking accomplishes all of this!   Link to my last blog post about Mouthsoaping: https://southspanking.com/groups/adblog/853/mouthsoaping-just-turns-me-on/   Link to all my blog posts: https://southspanking.com/groups/need2botk/adblog/

Locked in the Pillory: A totally naked spanking completely restrained and out of my control!  I looked at it in the distance, so ominous and yet at the same time it turned me on! The pillory waiting to hold my neck, wrists and ankles, completely immobilizing me, for the punishment spanking that awaited me!    Also pulled out was a spanking bench that the spanker designed from a piece of spanking artwork by Copper.   (Part 1 of this episode can be found here:) https://southspanking.com/groups/adblog/862/a-shaving-spanking-in-bondage-part-1-losing-my-man-hair/ It was both exciting and terrifying thinking about being restrained for a spanking, completely at the mercy of the spanker, unable to get up or move my bottom out of the way of his paddle or strap!   There's just something incredibly arousing, knowing i'm going to be spanked and I will be completely helpless to avoid any part of the spanking I have coming.   The pillory I was about to be locked down in, totally naked with my crotch and bottom shaved bald to complete my shame and humiliation.  It was ominously standing there waiting for my naked ass!  The spanking bench designed from the Copper drawing on the left had pillory like ankle and wrist restraints and leather straps to bind the thighs and back to the bench to prevent any movement or squirming.  Like the pillory, once restrained on the bench you were at the complete mercy of the spanker.   A drawing of a young man being switched at the end of the cart's tail.   In colonial times a young man was sometimes punished naked at the end of the cart's tail and strapped or switched as the cart was slowly drawn through the streets of the town for everyone to see!   Tied to the cart and spanked on the bare bottom like a naughty little boy front of everyone for maximum humiliation!  Public humiliation and naked display was a major part of the punishment in days gone by. Me getting spanked now in the pillory was a similar humiliation.  True there was only one other guy there, but it was still humiliating being spanked in front of someone else.   I had been spanked once before along with this spanker but this was the first time I was spanked in bondage, and there was someone else was there to see it happen!  Considering all the times I enjoyed watching my friends get spanked, I definitely deserved to have someone else watch me get this spanking!  And not just watch it but enjoy it!   I had always been turned on by the idea of naked public spanking and the pillory made me think about punishments in colonial times where a person was locked in stocks or a pillory for public ridicule and punishment.   While I read that usually a man or woman was usually restrained with their shirt off for a whipping on their back, I also read that young adults could be secured naked to a pillory for a public spanking!   Yes a young adult could be spanked like a naughty little boy, just to humiliate him,  and it could happen in public! Similarly I read that a young man could also be tied naked to end of the "cart's tail" and slowly pulled through town being spanked with a strap or switch being made a spectacle of for the entire town's amusement!   Stories like that always made my dick hard just thinking about the total humiliation of being publicly spanked in front of your friends, neighbors and even your enemies.   All of them thoroughly enjoying your humiliation!  I always enjoyed visitng colonial towns and seeing the pillories standing in the town square.  I would imagine what it might be like to be locked in a pillory naked, completely exposed and then spanked for everyone in town to see!   I often imagined myself in such a situation and here I was!  Totally naked and about to be secured into a pillory myself for a spanking!    I didn't get to daydream too long before the wrist and ankle restraints were being separated and I was ordered to step into them.   It felt very weird!   Scary but exciting at the same time.   After I got locked into the pillory, the other guy was restrained to the spanking bench.  At first it was just my wrists and ankles put into the restraints and then the spanking started.   The feeling of helplessness was pretty incredible.  I was more willing to be restrained for the spanking knowing the other guy was there getting spanked too, but I didn't know he was also going to be restrained at the same time and would be unable to help me if things went wrong!   But it was too late, we were both naked, in bondage and at the complete mercy of this spanker! With my head not locked down, I was able to look at my freshly shaved crotch and realized how much the spanker must have enjoyed the fact that he personally removed all my "man hair" making a grown adult look like a hairless little boy for his spanking.   I thought about the view he had of my baby smooth bottom too, and how easily it was going to turn bright red before his eyes without the forest of hairs obscuring his view!  A couple of times I felt my dick starting to get hard thinking about the situation I was in!  It's truly humiliating when your dick is shaved bald!    Everyone's attention is drawn to your hairless crotch - especially when the rest of you is so hairy!   It's more than obvious that my "man hair" was removed as part of my punishment.   You act like a boy - you get made to look like a boy - and you get spanked like a boy!   Even if no one else was thinking that, it didn't matter.   I thought they did and it put me in the mindset of being punished like a naughty boy! Me in the pillory, the other guy on the spanking bench.   We could see each other's faces and he could see my shaved crotch but we couldn't see how red each other's bottoms were getting. That changed though a little later,  as he got released and got to spank me himself!    It's always embarrassing when a spanker slaps, grabs, squeezes and feels your bare bottom with his hand during a spanking.   The wrist section of the pillory was opened up again and I was instructed to put my neck in the large opening.    It was closed up again causing me to bend over a bit more.    What would have really made his pillory a lot more effective is if the wrist and neck boards could be height adjusted for different body heights to make a shorter person like me bend at the waist more and make my bottom stick out more for the spanking.   Likewise a wider leg stance would have made it more exposing.   The odd part about the whole thing is that he didn't even conceal the pillory.  It was in plain view in his business.   He was involved with a municipal Halloween event and they used the pillory as a photo op for the event.  He probably made it and stored it so no one in town thought twice about it.  When customers or business associates asked about it I'm sure that's what he told them and they never thought anything more about it!   Little did they know men like me were being restrained in it naked and were being spanked right there under everyone's noses!    My neck also restrained in the pillory.  Now I'm even helpless to look behind me.  While restrained like this I couldn't help but think about my fantasy/nightmare of being given a public spanking in a pillory in a town square!   Naked, completely exposed and totally helpless!   Everyone having a clear view of my shaved crotch, my face and my red spanked bottom.  Everyone laughing as my bottom was lit on fire with a paddle or strap and encouraging whoever was punishing me to spank me longer and harder!   In a public setting, after the spanking I would be left on display like this for everyone to walk up and touch and tease me and give my sore red bottom some additional smacks.   Just like in my fantasies of the townspeople being able to come up and spank me, the other guy that was being spanked, was released from the spanking bench and is allowed to spank me himself!  There was absolutely nothing that I could have done to stop him.   I was naked and helpless!    Continued in Part 3:   Let Out of the Pillory & Given an Over the Knee Birthday Spanking https://southspanking.com/groups/adblog/864/a-shaving-and-spanking-in-bondage-part-3-after-the-pillory-i-get-an-otk-bir/ See all my blogs here: https://southspanking.com/groups/need2botk/adblog/

What would have made this more humiliating is if my own friends spanked me or watched! Why I Deserve to Get Spanked By A Regular Friend! If you've read my other posts you'll know that I've always felt that the ultimate spanking humiliation would be to get spanked in front of, or by ordinary friends from "vanilla" life!  I'm starting to think that  spanking is a pretty common fetish and have even suspected that some of those "vanilla" friends are into spanking too. In fact I think most guys would enjoy seeing a buddy get stripped and spanked. Part of the fun of spanking a buddy was foricbly stripping him.  Exposing him bare to everyone!    I was always to shy to bring to bring spanking up in conversations, and I guess,  my friends were too. It was just a topic you didn't talk about.  I've been spanked many times in front of other guys that I met at a "spanking connection", but it's not the same, humiliation wise, as being spanked in front of regular friends: People that I know and have to face everyday. The shame would be intense to have them see me, a grown adult,  get stripped naked, bent over someone's knees and get spanked like a little kid!  Or if they ran across my blog or spanking profiles online, and found out I get off on getting my bare bottom spanked and could look at the naked spanking photos and videos of me that I've posted, over and over again!  If I played the dominant role and gave someone else a spanking, it wouldn't be nearly as embarrassing. But it would be totally humiliating to have my friends find out I'm the submissive one and get sexually turned on getting a spanking!   A photo of me around age 18, desparately in need of a good ass spanking!  At least that's what all my friends thought and wanted to make happen!     A more recent naked picture of me.   Perhaps I'm posting face pictures of myself actually hoping that a regular friend will see them, recognize me and insist on stripping me naked and giving me the humiliating spanking I've always deserved.    As a teen, I certainly enjoyed watching my friends get spanked.  I didn't hide that enjoyment either, which only added to their shame.   I always had a smirk on my face when I watched them get spanked!   They all knew I never got a spanking and really wanted to see me get one, but somehow I always managed to avoid the bare bottom punishment that I often deserved. My friends even wanted to strip me and spank me themselves, but I managed to escape that humiliation too!  I came close to getting a spanking a few times but somehow I always managed to weasel my way out being spanked!  My biggest fear in getting a spanking, was anything to do with spanking always made my dick hard and I was terrified my friends would see my boner and realize I was sexually turned on by spanking!  How could I be aroused by getting my ass spanked?  I probably would have gone through life with the nicknames "boner" and "spanky" if they found out!       Everyone would have laughed so hard, teasing me until eternity!     I always wondered how humiliated my friends were when they saw me smirking when I watched them get a spanking. In fact their humiliation was a major part of what turned me on so much about their spankings!  They never got the chance to see me get spanked but I think it's about high time I was on the receiving end of a humiliating public spanking!   A buck ass naked, bottom blistering spanking, from a regular friend!  Even a spanking in front of other friends! A photo of me over another man's knees getting a naked paddling. Any movement I make causes my genitals to rub against the man's bare leg making the spanking even more humiliating for me as my arousal becomes evident!  Only a boy that deserves to be spanked even harder would get aroused from getting a spanking!   Before I started my blog here, I was always very careful not to show my face in any of my red bottomed photos.   However when I sold my business my "spanking" friend Jordan who has this amazing knack to get me to do risky naked exposure and spanking related things, told me now there's no longer any reason that my face can't be seen in my photos!   I agreed to post a face picture in my spanking profile after the closing,  but I was thinking a fully clothed headshot type picture like a lot of guys post in their profiles.    But Jordan had other ideas.   He tells me "Oh, no.   It has to be a buck ass naked full body shot with your face showing!"    I knew it was useless to try to persuade Jordan to the contrary, so I eventually gave in and found an original picture that I had previously blocked my face out of and updated it with my face showing.   Jordan can get me to do anything even somewhat reasonable, so before I knew it,  I had 5 face pictures posted on my spanking profile!   Who was I to tell Jordan, who got the most humiliating public spankings, that I couldn't post a face picture in my spanking profile!  Once I did that,  the chances were better that someone from "regular life" would recognize me.   Those odds have increased even more since I've posted dozens and maybe hundreds of face pictures in my blog posts from my teens up to the current time.  So my childhood friends that I enjoyed seeing spanked growing up can recognize the older pictures of me.   And the more recent ones would expose my spanking fetish to hundreds of thousands of customers and employees that I did business with before I retired!   There were certainly a few of those college age guys that I worked with that were familiar with spankings at home and wanted to personally give me, the boss a good hard bare bottom spanking themselves.    I've often fantasized about them spanking me and even posted a few of their pictures in the stories in my blog posts!  Perhaps hoping that they might see themselves or me and insist on spanking me!  Like I mentioned in a couple of the stories in my posts, in my younger years, there were a few times a couple of friends started to spank me.  I didn't resist and just ignored them.   It was like when I was a kid and my parents would tell me to ignore someone that was teasing me, saying they will stop.    That never worked when someone was teasing me as a kid, but unfortunately it did work when a buddy was starting to spank me!    I guess he was looking for me to try to resist, or at least was trying to get a reaction out of me, perhaps challenging his dominance!     I was too shy to react, actually hoping he'd get more into it and give me the real spanking I deserved, but to my disappointment he stopped!   So if someone recognizes my photos, I want to make sure they aren't shy about following through and spanking me.  They need to know I deserve a spanking.  They need to know I need a spanking.  And yes they need to know I want the most humiliating bare naked spanking of my life!  A spanking from someone I know! So if you're reading this and happen to recognize me, this next series of posts will describe exactly what you should do to me if you recognize me in my blog photos.  This will be more or less a spanking tutorial so that if you know me and find my blog, there will be no doubt in your mind what you should do to me!  I want to make sure you know it's okay to give me the spanking you've probably always thought I deserved!      Don't be shy, I deserve a most humiliating naked spanking from someone I know, like you!  Someone I have to face on a regular basis.   If you recognize me in these photos and think you would personally enjoy making me endure that ultimate bare bottom humiliation that I seemed to avoid all my life, then don't be shy.   Just call or text me and tell me that my luck has just run out and it's time to pay the piper!  We will both know exactly what that means.  That I'm about to get a very real and very humiliating, bare naked spanking from someone I know! Bring a few other friends with to enjoy the show, adding to my naked shame! You can all take turns spanking my naked ass!  And the next time we see each other we will all think about me getting stripped and spanked and I'll know you can decide to strip me and spank me again whenever you want to!  Getting into position buck ass naked, over the knees of a man half my age!   He loved turning the tables - spanking an older man and making me endure the humiiation of a role reversal spanking!  For him it was pure satisfaction.  To be honest, as humiliating as it was, I loved it too!   Even though I was twice his age, I knew that getting spanked over his knees was right where I belonged!  ​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​ In the posts that follow I'll describe some ways to make my punishment as embarrassing as possible for me.   I deserve every bit of the shame a good spanking can bring, but feel free to use any other ways you may know of from personal experience to make my spanking even more humiliating. I firmly believe that there's much more to an effective spanking than just a red sore bottom!    It's the shame of the spanking that is remembered far longer than the sting of a paddle or belt.   Making a spanking humiliating for me is even more important than the spanking itself.   It's that shame that my friends experienced in front of me, that made my dick rock throbbing hard as I watched and grinned and fantasized about being in their place. It's their naked humiliation that I thought about while masturbating after seeing a buddy get spanked!   The shame of a naked public spanking is exactly what I deserve to experience myself!   It's the stripping, positioning and naked public display  that I will remember best!  The biggest factor that curbed my behavior when I was young, was the fear of getting a spanking in front of all my friends. The kind of spankings I so thoroughly enjoyed watching them get!  It's not too late for the tables to be turned and for my naked shame to be the subject of other people's amusement and enjoyment!  So if you recognize me don't be shy!   Tell me it's time for my spanking and be sure to enjoy giving it to me!

Now before I begin this discussion on the ‘hairbrush’ there is something I would like to expand a little on.  We all have different personalities, needs and ideals.  We also have differing expectations and often express ourselves very uniquely.   I have had comments from guys that say I get spanked too much, others say not enough and some are even concerned that I often end up in tears.  I have never felt abused when I am being punished, and the reality is I could stop my spanking any time I choose.  I have never done so, and suspect I never will.  Please do understand that the tears are a culmination of several components, including the feeling of security, cleansing and most importantly the emotional release I simply need.  In our house, discipline is very real and is administered with Trust, Truth and Love.   I can fully admit that I am immature, and I am not going to apologize for it, this immaturity is part of whom I am.  I can be naughty, sometimes very naughty and when my dad thinks my naughtiness merits correction on my bare bottom, I get spanked.   Right now, that is out of the way, lets talk about the hairbrush.   What makes the hairbrush so effective?   First of all, it is an anonymous object, sure you know its primary use is for spanking bad boy bottom, but unless someone was in the know, it’s a perfectly normal day to day object.  It travels easy without arising suspicion and a spare one can be kept in the glovebox of the car for those longer trips where it may be needed.  It can also be used to communicate to the boy he is getting punished shortly, the number of times I have seen it suddenly appear, on the coffee table, counter top or even on the spanking chair itself are too many to count.  I get that shivery feeling when I see it set out, especially first thing in the morning during breakfast.   That sends a powerful signal, face cheeks flush and bottom cheeks clench every time I look at it.  I know real soon, and way too soon, it will be connecting with my butt, while I lay over the knee in the classic naughty boy spanking position.   It is very different from a paddle; the smaller head allows for greater precision on a bare bottom.  It can be applied much more easily to the same spot or evenly spread out.  My Dad starts right in the middle of my bottom, before warming the top of it and then of course the ‘howling boy part’ when it meets the lower bottom and sit spots.   If a dad really wants to add to the tension, all he has to do is send his boy to fetch the hairbrush.  Lower his pants and briefs down, baring his buns and send him off witch a ‘Right young man, you just march that fanny of yours over there and get me your hairbrush, your getting a good tanning’

What a great time we had the night before. My best buddy, also a Spanking Dad, and I invited two of our favorite spankees over to my place for a evening of disciplinary fun. We started off with a two dad/two brat scenario. We spanked our brats together; we spanked each other's brat; and eventually made them spank each other.  We positioned them OTK, over the arm of the sofa and face down on the bed.  We used hand, hairbrush, belt and a spatula.  Between sessions we broke for pizza and beer.  It was a memorable night.  The brats left about 2 am and my buddy & I crashed naked, exhausted and happy into bed. The following morning I slipped on my robe and headed for the kitchen to make coffee followed by my buddy in his boxer shorts.  While searching for mugs, he came across my hidden stash of 7 unopened letters from the IRS, the last 3 of which were registered and had required my signature. "Why are you getting registered letters from the IRS?" "Don't worry about it.  It's nothing" "The IRS doesn't send registered letters for nothing.  What's going on? and Why are they unopened?" Embarrassingly, I explained that I hadn't filed my federal income tax for a while.  In answer to his next question, I sheepishly admitted "3 years". "Are you crazy?", he barked.  "They could garnish your wages which might cause you to lose your job.  And worst case scenario, you could be arrested." "I know all that. I've been meaning to get around to it." "For all you know, they might have already started proceedings which you won't be aware of unless you open those letters". "I've been a little afraid to open them."' "Are you hoping it will all just go away?" "Something like that, I guess" "Man, talk about someone who needs a damn good spanking!" My hands instinctively reached back to cover my ass.  "Now don't get any ideas". "It may be the best idea I've had in years". At this point in my life, I hadn't been spanked in 12 or 13 years and I had never ever been threatened with a real spanking for real reasons.  Admittedly, the present situation caused a blush in my face and a slight arousal under my robe. I stood there speechless not wanting it to happen and wanting it to happen at the same time. "Well?", he said. What do you want me to say?" "I want you open those letters immediately or so help me I'm going to spank you until you do". Believe it or not, guys, all those spanking clichés are not so cliché after all as I blurted out, "You're not serious?" To prove that he was serious, he walked over to my desk where I kept my instruments and retrieved my hairbrush.  He placed the tip of the brush on the letters.  "Are you going to open them or are you going across my knee?" It was decision time. Do I tell him to mind his own business or do I fulfill a life-long fantasy? I still wasn't sure he would actually go through with it but I had to know. Defiantly, I said "I'll do it when I feel like it". "Okay, you had your chance".  He grabbed me by the wrist and pulled me over to a kitchen chair. He sat down and flung me across his lap.  I started to get up but he pushed me back down.  With one hand on the small of my back, he draped one leg across both of mine. Effectively, he locked me in place. "You can't do this, John.  I've been a Dad now for almost 15 years and Dads don't get spanked". "They do when they act as foolishly and as irresponsibly as you have. And I'd much rather see you spanked  than hauled off to jail." He lifted my robe and exposed my bare ass.  He landed about 25 smacks with the brush across my bottom until I was squirming and howling.  It hurt a lot more than I remembered.  Now I wasn't so sure that I wanted my fantasy fulfilled.  "Please. John, stop." "You have one way only of getting me to stop.  Are you going to open those letters?" My ass was burning and my eyes were wet from the sting. My body was ready to give in but my inner brat kept reminding me that the likelihood of a situation like this arising in my lifetime was next to nil.  I had to know how we would take this.Like the whining brat that I always knew I was, I said "You can't make me do what I don't want to". "We'll see about that". Both John and I knew that I could forcibly put a stop to this any time I chose to. But since I was responding as if I didn't have power to resist, he decided to continue. He dropped the hairbrush, lifted my robe over my head and off, unlocked my legs and dropped the letters on the floor directly in my line of sight. He began using his brawny hands on my rear. I began squirming and kicking my legs and whimpering.  Years before this I had learned a muscle relaxing technique that allowed whatever emotions a body was experiencing to bubble up to the surface and out.  I employed that technique at this point. After about 10 minutes or so of solid hand spanking and scolding, my whimpering got louder and soon began to turn into sobs.  The sobs turned into tears streaming down my cheeks.  That was enough for me.  I picked up the letters and began waving them about.  "Alright, alright.  I give up.  I'll open the letters". "When?" "Right now, I swear it." He kept me across his knee for a few more minutes while I caught my breath and my sobs subsided. The he gently helped me stand on my wobbly legs.  While I was rubbing my bare ass, he pulled out another kitchen chair and said "SIT!" "You know perfectly well I won't be able to sit until at least tomorrow." He moved to my desk and retrieved a pen and then to my sofa for a pillow.  He placed the pillow on the chair and again commanded that I sit. I gently eased my butt onto the pillow. The heat from my ass warmed it immediately.  He put the last received letter in my hand and told me to open it. He was right, of course.  The threats he mentioned were there but there was still time to avoid them. A form was enclosed which he ordered me to fill out requesting an appointment with an IRS agent.  after I signed it, he placed it into the enclosed envelope, sealed it and put it in his pocket. "I'm going to mail this myself to make sure you don't accidentally lose it.  Now, say 'thank you, John for being such a good friend and giving me the spanking I deserved'." "Oh, c'mon, John. I feel embarrassed enough." He didn't say a thing. He just folded his arms across his chest and stared me down. "Okay! Thank you, John, for being such a good friend and giving me the spanking I deserved." "That's better!".  Now, gather up all your tax records because I'm making an appointment with my accountant and we're going together there to get you up to speed and ready for your IRS session.  Now, what do you say?" "Thank you, John. I really do appreciate it". "Even the spanking?" "Yes, even the spanking." Neither of us ever admitted that we both got caught up in a real-life scenario that we just had to see through to the end. or that we both thoroughly enjoyed it. However, being my very best friend, he spent the next hour massaging my ass with Vaseline Intensive Care Lotion which we both could freely admit we enjoyed.rver unreachable

Hello Everyone, Just a wee note to let you know, I am scheduling some maintenance that will result in a few hours downtime.  This is necessary to resolve a number of site issues since our crash a few weeks ago. There will be an announcement as well as a new status page that will be hosted on a separate server and the link to that page will also be published. It should take no more than a few hours. I will be prepping tomorrow and I am planning on implementing either Sunday or Monday, I will include a number of time zones. Thanks for your patience and as always Heads all the way down, bottoms up up up and SPANK those naughty cheeks! Hugsss   James

So guys, I have decided with my dad's permission to share some bits and pieces of email exchages we had, before we go together.  Now these are answers to questions that I had posed (the questions are not included), but I think he explains our dad/son relationship in a clearer way that I can and what is involved or how we put it together.  So you know I have never felt I have been 'beaten' or 'abused' and way at all. It is not for everyone, and I have always felt loved, even when I have been very well spanked or punished. Effective discipline does not have to be brutal, just effective and meaningful. There is a lot of good psychology based on not just what you say, but even more importantly based on what you imply.  I do understand.  The time and place when I take down your jeans and briefs is always only up to your Dad.  That's just how it always will be. Dad will have your briefs and your bottom bare at his discretion and you will come to appreciate the feel of Dad’s hand anytime be it for comfort or a nice sharp sting when you need it.  There will be times when you really don’t want it but a true son says, “Yes, Dad” every time regardless.  You’re not used to that! Yes, I think “we” is the issue.  You’re never going to be spanked without my full participation, including emotionally as it is my hand (most of the time) that is causing you to tear up. Yes, the mainstay of your will be frequent and/or sudden and/or scheduled for you to be hugged and talked with, probably with your sitting on my lap with or without your briefs, before you spent significant time over Dad’s knees Boundaries infractions are the most serious in our relationship, especially as you set the various categories up yourself for your own benefit and future.  As such, when you break one, you will have brought punishment upon yourself and it will be punishment as your Dad does not want you to fail any more than absolutely necessary. Dad, will never hesitate to punish you when you error!  After a few, you’ll become the best little James on earth! Exactly, all boys are different (as are all Dads), yet I suspect I know you well enough that a nice quick trip over Dad’s knees (always on your bare bottom) is what you need most and will respond to. A lot of things will be much clearer for a boy once he has found himself in the position of having stood there as Dad lowers his jeans and briefs and pulls him across his knees for his first real spanking on his bare bottom. Dad has promised to give him really good first one and he will keep that promise for two reasons.  First, boys need to understand what live in a relationship involving domestic discipline is really going to be like given my hand will be tending to his bare bottom regularly over the years.  Second, Dad needs to understand his boy’s reactions to his hand, and of course ultimately to his hairbrush.  It’s not a matter of just slapping a boy’s bare bottom.  Each young man is different.  I do think it is the physical experience of laying over my knees and my hand on your bare bottom . . . that experience will be the best and most emotionally meaningful time that you’ve been waiting for. “protests will go un-noticed” with the exception of that fact that a boy who protests too much always finds that the simple spanking of his bare bottom over Dad’s knees that was going to be just with Dad’s hand, often increases and he will then find himself spanked with Dad’s hand and his paddle or hairbrush depending on his reactions. Similarly, walking too slowly to me will also get you into big trouble, Attempting in any way whatsoever to cover your bare bottom to escape my hand or hinder it in any way will be something you will have to learn to avoid.  Sometimes it will happen without your thinking and be completely involuntary, but it makes no difference what causes you to try to hinder or protect your bare bottom when it’s being spanked.  Your hairbrush will always be within reach and I will pin your arm and use the brush to teach you that lesson.  Careful In every real relationship I’ve ever known of, the first time you do this and you will initially do this automatically without thinking, Dad will stop and hold your hand away from your bare bottom you are trying to protect.  You will be warned about trying to avoid your Dad’s spanking and told that the spanking you are then getting will be significantly worse if you keep it up.  Some Dads will immediately give your bare bottom several significantly slaps with the paddle to remind you that a boy’s bare bottom is for dad’s correction and “enjoyment,” never to be covered unless you are told to. Of course, the hairbrush needs to be where you can see it to remember things and for Dad to reach it when he needs to.  Such is the way it is for naughty boys. The hairbrush really hurts quickly.  When your over dad's knees and Dad wants you yelling and kicking right away, the hairbrush will accomplish that goal very quickly if Dad knows how to use it for that purpose rather than just for overall color.

There are many who prefer the hand as their choice for spanking and I count myself among them. I think that the flesh to flesh contact provides an intimate and special bonding between the participants. The hand is the one implement that is usually most available for applying if only for a quick swat in public.  I believe that the hand has the most variety of applications and can even simulate other implements. Below is a description of the techniques of applying the hand to a deserving lad's bottom. I use all three during a spanking and believe that this variation increases the duration of the session. #1 The flat hand is probably the most common and the firm palm application can resemble a paddle or hairbrush. #2 With this technique, the entire length of the fingers are brought down rapidly and sharply to feel like 4 flesh whips. #3 The cupped hand gives maximum coverage and follows the curvature. The heel of the hand goes into the crevice and the fingers strike the       opposite side. When this is done with quick motion, I refer to the shape of the cupped hand as a striking cobra putting the bite on an errant lad's backside. I hope you find this tutorial helpful and may try one or more of the techniques I have described. 

A number of you have asked me about so called 'corner' time, so here are my thoughts on it! When we talk about corner time, it is really a method of time out.  True corner time involves a naughty boy, standing at the inside joining of where two walls connect, usually with his nose either touching or almost touching said wall.  Now its not necessary to use walls, equally effective can be bent over the back of a sofa, standing in front of a wall, or even sitting on a stool and if Dad wants to be really creative how about laying over the seat of the spanking chair?  There are for sure many possibilities. The purpose though is actually surprisingly powerful, they boy is supposed to think about why he just got punished or why he is about to be punished or even understand he is getting close to a punishment.  There are many variations and yet with these variations comes the certainty that over time the consistency of corner time as punishment will definitely make him consider his behavior and what got him stood in the corner.  The first few times he may very refuse to think about his behavior, either because he chooses to day dream or perhaps has decided to be rebellious, it matters not, inevitably he will succumb to reflection, it simply takes time and that is something he has plenty of while in the corner. Now we will look at five of the variations: As a warning he is getting close to a spanking You may be surprised but a boy that is pushing the envelope when sent to the corner will come to realize he is coming very close to a spanking.  It works, and if it does not, then he only has himself to blame when he finds his jeans and briefs coming down, before dad arranges him over his lap for a good long spanking session.  After his spanking and much to his horror, he will then find himself right back where he started – in the corner. Pre Spanking A naughty boy, sent to the corner before his spanking conjures up apprehension, excitement and humility.  Dad’s that are skilled in this, can certainly ensure variety and uncertainty in order to peak their boy’s emotional senses.  Consider having him in the corner in just his briefs or holding a hairbrush or belt while he waits.  You can have him dressed, semi dressed or even nude, some dads even have special shorts or pants for pre spanking corner time.  If he is bent over the spanking chair, place the brush or slipper or paddle etc. on his back while he waits .. and ultimately thinks!  If he is over the back of the sofa, have him lay there with his pants and underwear down, bare bottom up!  Or how about sitting on a ‘naughty stool’ – bare bottom?  Just in briefs?  Will he be holding the hairbrush or strap?  As you can see there are limitless possibilities! Post Spanking This is always completed with the boys red and just spanked bare bottom on display.  After punishment comes reflection!  In this stage the boy must either be in a true corner or made to sit on a stool facing the wall or simply standing facing the wall.  He is forbidden to rub his just spanked buns.  If he does try and rub, then a few hard spanks with the hairbrush will get him compliant, a good idea is to have him place his hands on his head.  After this phase bring him back to the fold with some hugs and nice pats.  Some Dads though will view this as phase 1 of post spanking corner time.  Phase 2 is usually used if the young man has been very naughty, it still involves his bottom being bare, and he must now sit and write an essay ‘one what I learned from my punishment’ I can assure you it is very effective. Have him sit his spanked buns on a nice hard chair, preferably at a table and facing away from any distractions such as the television.  Give him a set amount of words, for example 500 or 1000.  Once he is finished have a discussion, and ensure he knows what’s in store for him if the punishment has to be repeated!  At this point most Dads will deny him his briefs for a few hours, and confine him to just his tee shirt. Break Time Alright Dad, so your boy is over your knees having his bare bottom tanned, but you want to take a break and turn up the heat as it were?  You can do that, let him up, tell him to have some water or soda, go to the bathroom if he needs to.  Once he comes back, send him to fetch the hairbrush or paddle or strap, then have him stand in the corner.  Take your time, relax a bit, have a drink or some chips, and then when you are good and ready and only then, take your boy back to the spanking chair, my dad usually does this by taking me by my ear.  You have no idea how much tension this brings to the proceedings! Review and Punishment Sessions I personally have a love hate relationship with review and punishment sessions.  These are conducted at a set time and day every week and they include both pre and post spanking corner time.  I will basically describe my own sessions, as an example.  On the set date and time after showering, I change into my ‘review’ clothes, nothing elaborate, sports shorts, white briefs, socks and tee and report to the assigned corner.  I just stand there thinking of my behavior over the week and wait, sometimes its only a few minutes but I have known it to last 30 minutes or longer.  When my Dad is ready, he takes me by the arm (or ear) over to his spanking chair, my shorts and briefs are lowered and we then talk about my behavior.  I am expected to confess everything that warrants punishment, even if I never got found out.  The gamble is omitting something he actually does know about will result in a much longer and harder spanking, so I tend to be honest.  After my spanking, its back to the corner, again it might be a few minutes or longer, it depends on how my Dad feels.  The only time this changes is if I have omitted something he knows about, in that case I will be spending a lot of time in the corner, and denied my shorts and briefs for the rest of the day.  Its like being grounded essentially, and the only way of getting my shorts and briefs back is to apologize for the omission and ask for a second spanking! --- yup sucks to be me on those days!

What a turbulent 2019! I want to thank everyone for staying with the site, it has not been easy this year but I believe we have made quite some headway in terms of problem solving. I really want to send a huge thanks and hugs to our moderators, for doing such a great job, without them, I could simply not run this site. The site is much more responsive as a lot of bugs have been ironed out.  I am aware there are a few others I need to take care of (such as viewing album photos) and they too will be resolved, just as soon as possible! I have also just updated the comments box, so it’s a little slicker In 2020 there will be a number of improvements, including the ability to conference other members into private chats, so you might have a 3 way or 4-way chat going on, or whatever! Our main template will be updated, meaning less load time, and a few nice wee tweaks to boot! And a few surprises along the way … you will need to wait and see, We have a new donations page setup, it still uses Pay-Pal but you do not need a Pay-Pal account to make a donation, you can do so as a guest.  Thank you to everyone whom has made a donation the last few weeks, it helps a lot and I know around holiday times money is tight for us all, so again thank you and hugs! I hope early in the new year to have an alternative to Pay-Pal, it is something I am working on. Have a very merry Xmas everyone! Hugs James

Hi Everyone, A quick update, I am currently abroad so not been on site much, still managed to get myself spanked though - bet you are suprised lol? There was a mistake made on the site with regards to a members account being deleted, and I want to apologize for that. Everyone regardless of gender is welcome here without exception. I would like to ask for your understanding on this matter and not turn it into an argument or point fingers, we all make mistakes. Ultimately this is my site, so I take full responsobility and this has never happened before, so please do accept it for what it was - a mistake. I appreciate your understanding and support and again I apologize.   huggsss   James    

Okay, so for the remainder od this month, lets have a video competion.   The rules are simple, it has to be home made, so no commercial or defunct studio clips.   The last day of May is the end date for submissions.   The top 6 videos, with the most likes go to a poll vote.   The 4 video clips that get the most votes win a prize.   Prizes are awarded by picks, no the winnrer with the most votes gets to pick first, second place chooses next and so on.   The prizes are:   4 VHS redboard spanking tapes, which will include digital copies for you (DVD or MP4).   3 DVD's - 3 Bad Boys, Fallen Angels and Spank me man.   2 Magazines, a Spankography from Control T and a MHF Red Tails.   1 Very rare book, entitiled 'The guide to the correction of young gentlemen' - this is an AKS book, and basically F/M but it is very interesting.

A short diversion before I get to Part 2 of my 2nd Naked Dare at Work story.   In the Franco Friday photo above that AC posted showing a guy masturbating while watching a buddy get spanked, I commented about being too shy to do something like that myself either as a teen or as an adult.  Here's what I said in the comment:   Ever since I was a teen, I always wanted to masturbate when a buddy got spanked but was too ashamed to let anyone know that I got sexually turned on watching them get spanked, or worse yet thinking about someone spanking me. And besides no one admitted that they masturbated, although we all knew everyone did! So I waited until I got home, then stripped naked and jerked off thinking about being in their place! Even as an adult I am too shy to masturbate when getting spanked in a group. Perhaps someday I'll have to throw caution to the wind. It will be the perfect excuse for someone to punish me for my indiscretion! I'll post a few photos of myself in a similar situation shortly. where I wasn't allowed to touch myself while watching someone else get spanked and I was waiting my turn for a bottom blistering punishment spanking in front of an audience! Here's the time I mentioned where I didn't dare touch myself while I watched another man get spanked knowing I was going to be spanked next! I'll tell the whole story someday but here's a brief part of it.   There were seven other men standing there watching too which made it extra humiliating for me.  After all, they saw me stripped, scolded and lectured for real misbehavior.  This was actually the first time I got spanked for something I really did!  Having never been spanked growing up, I was never lectured like that knowing my bare ass was about to pay for what I did.  The feeling was quite incredible!  Not only that, but by this time, the spanker already shaved my pubes and ass right in front of them to make me look and feel like the little boy he was going to spank me like. I hate being shaved down there, but I was being punished for real misbehavior and I had no say so in how I got punished!   After all, what boy does?   Now I'm watching him spank someone else so I can get an idea of what is going to happen to me - only he's told me I'm going to get it much worse!    In this picture I turn and look at the other men that are watching the three of us and I see all of them smirking. I have a slight smirk on my own face from watching the other guy getting spanked.   Yeah, I can't help but grin when I see someone else get spanked.  It's hilarious!   It always has been ever since I was a kid!   But at the same time I feel humiliated standing there buck ass naked, with a bald dick seeing all those men smirking back at me, knowing they can hardly wait to see me get the punishment spanking everyone knows I deserve and the spanker promised them I was going to get! Right in front of them while THEY watch!    But it's going to get a lot more humiliating for me!   Before I get paddled, the spanker is going to make me stand there while HE masturbates me, right in front of everyone!   You see a spanking hurts a lot more after a guy c. u. m. s. !!!    He wants me to ejaculate before I get spanked, so I don't get any sexual pleasure from the spanking and it becomes pure punishment for me! No Sir!   I've been jacked off before a few other spankings and let me tell you, even a guy like me that likes being spanked, doesn't want a spanking at all anymore after he ejaculates!   It's a horrible torture!   But for me it was more than the extra pain.   I was totally humiliated as he stood in front of me and lubed up my dick and started stroking me.   It was such a personal thing to do and something someone else has rarely done to me.   In fact it's only been done by someone else, explicitly for this purpose, to make a spanking hurt more!   It's even more embarrassing to post the photos and tell the story of it here, but spanking humiliation is exactly what I deserve!   My humiliation didn't stop there.   It wasn't happening with him stroking me, so I had to finish the task myself!    I can't even describe how embarrassing it was to stroke myself right in front of everyone, knowing I was going to be spanked as soon as I was done and how much more that spanking was going to hurt after I did.   I couldn't even look at those other men staring at me while I did the deed!   More very personal and very humiliating photos:     Finally I get cleaned up and go over his knees naked and get my bottom blistered just like the naughty little boy I acted like!  Right in front of everyone!  And to my utter humiliation, that lexan paddle he used made me howl and carry on like a 5 year old for all those other men's amusement.   I glanced up a couple times while I was trying to catch my breath to see the expressions on the other men's faces.  Some were grinning with delight just I like used to do as a teen when I watched a buddy get spanked.  Others were looking in awe that I was getting spanked so hard!  But I have to admit, I deserved every exactly what I got! It was a spanking I will always remember - on many levels. Also these more recent photos of me showing my face are very exciting and humiliating to post.    They are frightening too because if a regular friend from vanilla life sees them they will know I get my bare naked bottom spanked like a naughty little boy at my age!    But on the bright side perhaps they will insist onn spanking themselves, again and again whenever they want to!   Maybe I'm actually hoping that will happen!

What Matthew had in mind for this dirty old man was to sit bare on the edge of the bed, lay a towel in his lap and order me to hump his lap.   He told me he was going to spank me until I ejaculated!    That right, the young spanker was going to spank the c.u.m. right out of this old man!   And was going to keep spanking me until I shot my load!   As humiliating as it was, I climbed up over his lap.   We were both naked, and the towel was the only thing between us.   I had only masturbated once in front of someone before.  It was Matthew after he gave me my first spanking a few months before.  It was so humiliating to masturbate at my age in front of this young man, and even more humiliating to do it in this manner by laying over his knees and humping his lap!  That first time it was after the spanking was over and he asked if I needed to get off.   This was more embarrassing because he was going to spank me while I masturbated!   But I did as I was told!   I shamelessly humped his lap this time.  Only it was much  worse to do it over his lap as he wailed on my bare naked heinie with that evil hairbrush giving me the spanking I deserved!   The sting of the brush was distracting me from the "task at hand".   He even spread my butt cheeks apart and spanked the tender areas between my cheeks.   Yes it was going to be a long, long spanking!  Now he was definitely enjoying this and had developed a boner of his own from spanking and humiliating me. It had to be quite satisfying having control over a much older guy like me!   Since the video upload functions aren't working yet I thought I'd try to share the videos clips from the Role Reversal Spanking through Google Drive.     https://drive.google.com/file/d/1el6PaAgz6pGx1vj3ZlN7GhOvJaNFOA0R/view?usp=sharing            

Having the spanked boy do corner time on his hands and knees is another way to call attention to his spanked bottom and add to his shame. Corner time is all about exposure and humiliation.  Kneeling on the floor with knees spread wide focuses attention on my red spanked bottom and dangling balls. No you can't see much else of me than my bare red butt and balls so it's an excellent position for corner time!         Making me put my face flat on the floor thrusts my spanked bottom up into the air even more. If I'm made to spread my knees wide enough, not only are my dick and balls visible, but my hole will be too! It's as if I'm begging people to take notice of my glowing red bottom and dangling boy parts.    In keeping with the theme of exposure and humiliation, this blog post is another series of photos of me in naked corner time. Including more buck ass naked, full length frontal face pictures of me with a boner!   I shamefully admit, a boner I have because I'm being spanked!   The kind of picture that my spanking buddy Jordan thinks I should post a lot more of, hoping that someone I know sees them, recognizes me and realizes that I get turned on being stripped naked and spanked by other men. Jordan has actually told me that he truly hopes that someone that I know will see the photos and insist on giving me the totally humiliating naked spankings I deserve.  Yes if they see the posts they will be able to insist on spanking me whenever they want!   I think deep down I'm hoping for the same thing!  Yes, deep down, I'm hoping that my spanking fetish will be discovered and I'll get stripped buck ass naked and get frequently spanked by a regular friend. Then I can re-live the humiliation and shame of that spanking every time we see each other!  And my friend can re-live the satisfaction of knowing he finally gave me the spanking he's always wanted to give me!  I've always said, that it's just going to be a matter of time before this happens.   And when it happens, I just hope that my friend will order me to strip and bend over his knees for the humiliating and very personal spanking that we both know I need and deserve.  And I hope that some very humiliating naked corner time will be part of my punishment to drive the shame home!   Kneeling on the Spanking Chair is another extremely humiliating way to do corner time.    Any wide chair with flat arms will do but wider arms are better as it's more comfortable for me and the discomfort won't distract me from the shame and embarrassment of knowing I'm naked, spanked and on display.  Plus being elevated off the floor puts my bottom more at eye level drawing even more attention to the fact that I'm naked and I've been spanked! Similar to the Spanking Chair, the naked boy can be made to sit on the Spanking Stool.  The Spanking Stool exposes a boy in the most ludicrous way!   Raised up high, with his back arched and his hands behind his head, his bottom is thrust out for everyone to see and his dick and balls are pulled back and kept there exposed by the edge of the stool.  Even his butt hole is exposed in this position and the exposure is likely to maintain him in an aroused state for the amusement of an audience!  One of the most humiliating forms of corner time is what I call "Center of the Room Time"   Facing my spanker and anyone else that is there to witness my punishment!  It's so embarrassing to make eye contact with the audience knowing I'm naked.  Whether it's before a spanking knowing everyone is anticipating my punishment or after the spanking and seeing the smirks of satisfaction spread across their faces telling me they enjoyed watching me get spanked!  It's so humiliating having to face my spanker and anyone witnessing my spanking.   Especially if they laugh when they see the boner I have because I'm being spanked!     I have to admit, it turns me on posting exposing naked face pcitures of myself online.  Perhaps I should be spanked just for that!  It makes me hard thinking about the humiliation I'll endure when someone I know sees them and realizes I still get spanked at my age, and have to do corner time naked and exposed for everyone to see!    Personally I think "Center of the Room Time" is the most humiliating form of corner time.   Yes standing buck ass naked, with my hands behind my head, in the center of a room full of other people.  For me, what's most embarrassing about a spanking is the humiliation of having others see that I get spanked and that I get a boner when I think about spanking.   So having me face the audience so they can make eye contact with me just drives the shame home!   There is no way to hide my boner or cover my face with my hands behind my head.  And any attempt to do so will result in another spanking right in front of them.  The "audience" can feel free to walk right up to me, observe me from any side, touch me, tease me, feel the heat radiating from my spanked bottom and let me see the smirks of satisfaction on their faces close up.  Absolutely no part of me is shielded from view.  I'm totally exposed!   That shame will be remembered long after the sting of the spanking has faded away!   Especially if that "audience" is made up of people I know and have to face everyday and they tease me about still getting spanked at my age, every time they see me.   Corner time can also be brought outdoors.  Just like a spanking outdoors, there's more risk of being seen by others and that makes the corner time more dreaded and even more humiliating. Any of the same positions we talked about before can me utilitzed in a outdoor setting.   An older photo of me standing on display naked in the woods.   Any form of corner time can be brought outdoors to make things even more interesting.   Whenever I'm naked outside I'm constantly thinking someone is there watching, either close by or in the distance.   I'm always looking around to see who might be looking, so being ordered to keep looking straight ahead will make it even worse.   Even if no one is there, I will think there are others watching my naked exposure!   Whether it be corner time or getting spanked!   A recent photo of me doing corner time during naked chores in the yard outside!  Outdoor cornertime is the most humiliating cornertime of all!  If a boy is not doing his outdoor chores properly, you can stop the chores, make him do corner time right where he is outside, and then spank him outside, right where anyone can watch, before having him finish the chores with a red spanked bottom.  Yes cornertime can add to the effectiveness of any spanking.  Use it often!  And remember - cornertime is best served in front of an audience!

Okay you naughty boys and ever so strict dads n tops!  So I have just managed to disable the freaking touchpad on my laptop .. which was driving me nuts, now I can actually type without the mouse flipping up and down lines and screwing up my text. I am in the UK right now and will be here for at least the next 6 months.  So presently in quarantine and Dad has insisted I just wear my PJ’s, as we can’t go out.  Yea that has nothing to do with the fact he can bare my tail easily whenever he feels like it, and the number of excuses he has found to land several swats at a time on my butt have increased a lot! Now I am on holiday, and you would think that my weekly review and punishment sessions would be suspended, right?  Nope, not at all, I had my behind royally tanned yesterday, can you believe it? Oh and it gets worse, I do plan on visiting several Dads/Tops over the course of my visit and my dear old dad Denis is going to ask them to conduct the review session, in the event I am with them on a Sunday!  Now come on, even the sternest of Dads must admit, that is not fair!  And yes, I know I can be naughty, even when on holidays – but that is not the point, hello I am on holidays! Okay rant over for now! and just in-case you are wondering, my Pop has found an empty corner to stand me in, dang that sucks! Hugsssss

Essential these are some of the reponses to email my Dad sent, when we were intially getting to know one another.  I figured some of you might enjoy them and of course it gives some insight into the Dad/Son relationship we have.   ‘You won’t need to be anyone other than yourself and who you really are knowing that times you'd be hugged and cuddled in bed as you fall asleep in my arms would also be matched by time when I'd know you need to be over my knees.  It would be a normal partnership to all outside eyes, but you would be well aware that in our house we have a paddle.’     ‘Yep, I saw no potential incompatibility areas as we look at things and we ponder what is best for both of us.  Your dreams as to boundaries corrections, punishments, reviews, and "just when you need them" trips over my knees (each different) will all take place with your bottom bare and you are encouraged to share your hopes and desires both positive and negative ones as you wish. ‘     ‘Impressive as your investigatory skills are, I suspect that at this point in our discussion, were you here where you belong, your briefs, if you still had any on at this time Sunday evening, would be coming down slowly, for a nice “excessive computer time” infraction spanking!  I’m sure after a half hour or so of wiggling over my knees, your ouch yells and please yells too would maybe be able to convince me to stop spanking you and let you cuddle in my arms in front of the TV instead?  Might Dad kindly and oh, so ever gently, invite you to look at the yellow highlight at the bottom of this message?’     ‘But I suspect you would not want anyone, not just your mother, to notice your red eyes and ask that question?  Certainly this “red eyes” factor is crucial to your happy life, as a son, so we must solve your problem.  The only solution is a practical experiment whereby Dad spanks his loving son several times until his tears leave him with red eyes and then you, the boy, times how long your eyes remain with tell-tale redness giving your situation away to Mom and outsiders.  I recommend twenty times and we simply take the average of the times it takes for the redness to disappear?  That way Junior will know exactly how early prior to a visit, you will know you need to behave.  Yep, I know you will want to know this important factor in life’     ‘Yes, the certainty of this will make things very clear, but if you break a rule, you can explain yourself as I pull down your briefs and spank you anyway.   Might be hard to sob and speak your piece but you are welcome to try.’     ‘It is true as your dad, I will take a certain amount of pride in bringing you up in the time-honoured tradition of baring your bottom and pulling you across my knees where you will most easily respond to lessons.  It depends on how quickly you learn but you’ve been holding back emotionally on lots of things.  A nice little talk, Dad to Son, is, unfortunately, way overdue’     ‘That is correct!  The time dad spends with you as your bottom is bared or all your clothes are removed and/or you're in the corner, is very important.  Dad never rushes but when Dad does put you over his knees, you will always know that you are going to be in that position for a very long time.  That is simply the way your own Dad gives them to you.’     ‘I suspect you're right about this.  How you say something might give you some concern on some topics, but being yourself, accepting the consequences, and having a great life are yours for the taking.  The tenderness is what you've missed the most.  And yes, that tenderness will also be there when you're a bit red you know where.  Life will come together.’     ‘I’m sure that knowing your shyness, you will come to dislike corner time when you must have your bare bottom showing.  However, in your case, it is especially meaningful as you’ll know what Dad is seeing and pondering regardless as to whether you’ve already been turned over before being stood in that corner.’     ‘It’s your dad’s role to insure you are always on your best behaviour, with a good positive attitude, and moving forward.  When your paddle sits out where it’s always visible, I’m sure you’ll stay on your toes and never forget what is expected of you.’     ‘In domestic relationships that are real, going over my knees before bed as I’m sitting on the end of the bed looking at you is not unusual at all.  I though you knew that? How would you like them to happen?  Your night-time kiss and embrace with a red face and red bottom will make you feel complete and much better, don’t you think?’     ‘Dad will always give you the spanking you have earned and never stop spanking or paddling or giving your bare bottom the hairbrush Dad judges you need period.  Always remember your spanking will at some point end and you’ll be hugged and comforted and yes, loved until you know you will always have a dad who loves and cares for you, even if I have to do it several times a day just to get through to you.’     ‘Unfortunately, the hairbrush was designed to be used on a young man’s bare bottom.  The paddle or strap might be used on a boy’s briefs or jeans at least initially in his punishments, but not the hairbrush’.       ‘Yes, and your very sincere replies while my hand is pausing on your sore bare bottom will make it really obvious that your word choices are always important as a pause is a pause and it's definitely not over!’     ‘Yes, our focus in everything is on the future for, as the old Scottish saying goes, "boys learn, as bottoms burn."  You can blame it on your ancestors who obviously foretold of your coming.  "Predestined" as the Scottish Presbyterians blame on everything.  Possibly that will provide some comfort when I can't hear you pleading me to put down the _____?’      ‘I am not the type of Dad (or man) to ask you to do many things very often, or at all, but your focus will have to quickly become on little things and more likely miss a normal voiced “come here a minute,” or “let’s go.”  On those occasions I expect you do that and obey immediately.  If you miss it, you might very well hear me say, “OK, we’re late but pull your jeans and briefs down and get over the back of the couch to get a few.”  It only takes a couple of swats with your paddle on your bare bottom to get some red and watery eyes before you hear, “OK, pull them up, we’re leaving now.”  James will learn obedience quickly.’

(*A special thank you to Jake Tenneby for preserving this blog for me.  This is my original writing, which was reposted with permission on Cornertime Confidential, and was lost when my profile got deleted  I did not have this saved anywhere, so thank you for preserving it) Many everyd­ay dads that spank their boys have one main implement that they usually use on their boy's bottoms. It might be:     A paddle han­ging on the wall,     A belt that is worn day to day,     The hairbrush safely kept on the nightstand, or     It may just be his own hand. And although Doms in the spanking community typically have large collections of imple­ments with apprecia­tion for all the nua­nces of each, most guys favor one implement or type of implement over the rest. This essay is to explore what th­at choice says about the spanker (if any­thing). Please comment or sh­are your own observa­tions! HAND Hand spankers are warm and caring. They are the type to call and ask how you are doing, and what you are doing. They will talk to you as a friend would, and will take an interest in your life. A spanking from them will usually be long and drawn out. They will tell you they are disappoin­ted with you, and me­an it. Hand spanke­rs spank almost excl­usively OTK. They may spank you on the bare bottom, but will also spank your un­derpants a lot of tim­es, and sometimes wi­ll spank the seat of your pants. Because of this your butt is never safe from a reprimanding smack or proud pat. Just like they like getting in your business, they will land their fingers in the crea­se of your butt and on your bum hole dur­ing a spanking witho­ut apology.  When they are finished spanking you they may want a hug or for you to sit on their lap. THE HAIRBRUSH Old fashioned hairbrush spankers are the strict cousins of hand spankers. They are caring but much st­ricter than hand spa­nkers. They are us­ually detail oriented and meticulous. Like hand spankers, hairbrush spankers al­most always spank OT­K, however hairbrush spankers almost alw­ays spank on the bare bottom. Although some may warm your underpants-clad bottom with their hand, on­ce the hairbrush com­es out, your butt will be bared, and the hairbrush spanker will be the one to bare it. These spankers want to be in full contr­ol of every aspect; they want to see eve­ry smack, see your butt's reaction, and carefully plan their next smack. They will also cl­osely monitor you for signs of emotional or physical resistance, and will not end a span­king until they are completely gone. Ha­irbrush spankers rar­ely spank anywhere outside of the buttoc­ks, because it would not be proper; which means you will nev­er have marks on your thighs, but your bottom will likely ha­ve blisters and brui­ses. Expect cornertime and an evaluati­on of how well you learned your lesson afterward. BELT Belt spankers are generally "avera­ge guys" who just wa­nt to get the job do­ne. They care enou­gh to spank, but don­’t want it to be too intimate. This is why belt spankers alm­ost always spank you either laying on the bed or bent over. You will usually be asked to lower your own pants and unde­rpants for a belt spa­nking, and are usual­ly treated much more like an adult. Wh­en the spanking star­ts,the belt will la­nd where it may, it may be lopsided, hit­ting one buttock more than the other, or it may lash your te­nder bumhole or thig­hs, but that is all your problem for scr­ewing up. Belt spank­ers may tell you to take it like a man, meaning they don't want you to break down on them. After yo­ur lashes, life goes back to normal, and you're expected to get on with life as if they had not just seen and whipped yo­ur bare butt.   PADDLE Paddle spank­ers like showmanship and are competitive. Their spanking im­plement is a work of art, worthy of disp­lay, whether for the message engraved or painted on it, or for the beauty and craftsmanship of the paddle itself. If they have an older more worn paddle, that too is a badge of hon­or for the number of spankings it has de­livered. They will talk openly of spank­ing you, without any hesitation, and will also not hesitate to spank you in front of someone, when it's warranted. Pad­dles can easily pene­trate pants, so there is a chance you wi­ll be clothed for pa­rt or all of a paddl­ing. Paddlings are almost always done be­nding over, and are very "on the spot" type of punishments. Because of the show­manship of paddlers, you will almost alw­ays get extra swats if you fail to keep your position or fol­low any of the other rules that are set for you. Paddle span­kers get a very smug satisfaction out of spanking you, and enjoy watching you struggle to maintain. Tears are seen as an accomplishment, and are usually not di­scouraged. After the spanking, you may be put in the corner to display your red bottom if there’s time, but otherwise seeing you nursing yo­ur sore bottom is satisfying enough. SLIPPER Slipper spa­nkers see the value of spanking boys, but see it as a dirty job. The sole of a shoe is well suited to the task, having to tread the dirt and gravel of life. Slipperings are given OTK or bent over most often, and are usually given bare bo­ttomed but sometimes in pajamas or under­pants. Slipper spank­ers have a lot in co­mmon with belt spank­ers, in that they are more interested in the ends rather than the means. The sl­ipper will land most­ly on your bottom, but if needed it will also land on your thighs. Slipper span­kers are more likely to send you to bed after a spanking or otherwise disrupt your life as part of the punishment. They may also soap your mouth or use other punitive measures in addition to the span­king. SWITCH / SPOON Spanke­rs that favor switch­es or spoons usually have deep religious convictions about spanking. They may li­ke to have long talk­s, hand on shoulder style. They will li­kely have you fetch the spoon or pick yo­ur own switch to make you willingly subm­it to the punishment. When it’s time to carry out the disci­pline, they will oft­en lecture you for your offense and make it seem much worse than you think it was. You will almost always be bare bott­omed, but the spanks will often spread to your thighs with the switch, or bum-ho­le and tender sit-sp­ots with the spoon.  You may be pla­ced in the degrading diaper position with spoon or switch spankers.  Otherwise, they usually like you bending over or placed over the kn­ee. Switch and spoon spankers are usual­ly relentless, and are on a mission to whip the naughtiness out of you, so expect a very painful spa­nking with welts in the case of the swit­ch, or blisters in the case of the spoon. After the spankin­g, expect more lectu­ring while you are still bared, and expe­ct to be questioned about plans to impro­ve. The good news is, you will likely es­cape corner time or any other punishment once you are dismis­sed. RAZOR STRAP / CANE St­rap or cane Spankers are strong male aut­hority figures that command respect. They take discipline seriously, and belie­ve spanking is an im­portant part of inst­illing it into boys. You will likely be stripped naked for a strap or cane puni­shment, or at least naked from the waist down. You will oft­en have to fold your clothes, and stand in front of them for a lecture. The humi­liation level is usu­ally high to match the pain level you are about to feel. You will then be told to bend over, most of the time over an object as the intense pain makes grabbing knees impractical. There wi­ll usually be a set number of lashes del­ivered, the cane com­ing in multiples of 6 and the strap in multiples of 5. The lashes will be well placed and deliberat­e, and there will be no mercy. You will take as many as you earned, but usually have the small mercy of knowing how many you­’re getting. You may have to count the lashes out loud and/or thank the spanker for them. Like padd­lings, there are lik­ely to be consequenc­es for failing to st­ay in position with the addition of havi­ng to keep count. You will likely be put on display in the co­rner for an excruciatingly long period of time after your puni­shment and not be al­lowed to even touch your bottom. You are likely to have your behavior reviewed before you are allowed your clothes back, and also be given a stern warning about future misbehaviors.

So an update on what has been going on. I did a server rebuild and moved us over to a better web server, Litespeed as opposed to Apache.  This had to be done for several reasons, speed being an obvious one but also because the server had some faults, including its networking.  It takes a long time to do this, because I have to move the data from the server to a backup VPS and then back again.  When we do the copy back to the server, given the large amount of data, it is a six-hour process.  That said, this will be the last build for the next 18 months, unless the hardware fails. On the networking, it proved to be extremely frustrating and I am pissed about it.  We used Enom as our domain host, because the interface is easy to use and because propagation is virtually instant.  Enom sold out to Hover and I have never seen a more useless control panel in my life.  I was unable to edit name servers or glue records with it constantly giving me ‘auth’ errors.  I did create a ticket and I am still waiting and that was over 24 hours ago.  Part of the networking issue was that guys could not get to the site from some locations, there was a problem with DNS. Given that Hover screwed me right up the middle, I signed up for a month’s trial with a DNS hosting provider, which seems to be going well.  At the very least it gives me a month to move to another domain registrar, because hover can go f*** themselves.  Do let me know if you are experiencing problems, but I will have our own private nameservers back up again soon. I had hoped to run upgrades and fix some other issues, but again I struck out of luck as the script installer and upgrade routine constantly failed.  To that end, I have duplicated the site on the same server and will work on refreshing the database from scratch.  What that means in practice, is I install the script fresh with no data.  I then using a copy of our database strip all the extra modules out and all the core components and export to a file.  On the fresh database, I simply drop all the tables that are populated on our live database, and then merge the two together.  It is time consuming, but I will get it done. So you guys now we are still moving away from the scrip to social engine, I just need to figure a lot of bits and pieces on that.  It’s a totally different can of worms, but again I will get it done.  As I have said before once we get over onto social engine, everything will run smoother and nicer, including progressive web apps. So that’s it from me, and I am considering having a large southern comfort.   Hugs   James