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Experimenting in LTR with a rule: no Sunday night goes by without a spanking that week. And if one is needed, it goes something like the following. This is somewhat aspirational; trying to institute it as a regular routine. In this procedure, I am the boy. We are switches, but the other way around is more irregular and somewhat shorter. I need it more than he does.  Weekly Maintenance/Punishment Pants-Down Spanking   As described, this is a moderately hard spanking that an experienced bottom should be able to take at least once each week. It could be for “punishment” (fantasy or real), or just because a boy needs to be spanked regularly, which is sufficient reason.   Spanker seated on bed or sofa. Boy’s pants and underwear come down to around knees. Over the knee for a rather hard, steady-rhythm, moderately fast, hand spanking of at least one hundred smacks. Boy’s butt is nicely reddened, but this is the warm up. Warm up is crucial but it doesn’t mean pitty-pat. It means a spanking by hand only, but it’s actually pretty hard right from the start.   A break of about ten full minutes. (The break is important) May or may not involve standing, pants down but not off, facing the wall.   Spanker selects suitable OTK paddle or short strap (or both, in succession). Boy goes back over the knee, or spanker stands and puts him over one knee, or just bends him over and stands alongside. Pants down, but underwear may be up for the first part. Pants may or may not come all the way off for all or part. Spanking is again steady, but only moderately hard. It may go through four or five “periods,” with various brief breaks, or be one continuous go. Spanking should consist of a minimum of four hundred strokes. During periods or throughout, steady, regular rhythm, not too slow, is important. Howling, kicking, crying, etc. are ignored or controlled.   Afterwards, boy is given a few moments to recover, then stands, bends over (same position as one of the options above, or spanker may stand back a little for school-style swats). Spanker then administers between five and fifteen considerably harder but not full-strength swats, about one every three to five seconds, to bare butt or possibly clad only in underwear, For this kind of spanking, counting, or announcing how many he’s going to get, is not necessary. Boy finds out how many swats when it’s over. If the spanking is for something that requires some extra emphasis (in combination with maintenance), or it just feels like there’s a need for it, there could be more swats here, and/or a second round of 400 or so smacks after this phase, followed by another phase of harder swats.    

Some thoughts on spanking technique. As a switch, obviously, I approach spanking from both sides. And of course everyone is different; has different preferences for positions and implements, different fantasies, different levels of pain tolerance. To have a successful spanking encounter, that will likely be repeated, it’s important for the spanker to get and act on some basic information from the boy, because if he gets what he both wants and dreads in his heart of hearts, he’ll be satisfied and want to do it again and again. Assuming he really is “into this” ...there are guys out there who have it in their head they want to get spanked but in reality they have no stomach, or rather, butt, for it. There are some common elements, though, that usually help make it work. For shorthand, written from the top’s perspective. Know what fantasy elements you’re going to do. Most guys like at least a little bit of a context of punishment; it can go all the way from just an attitude to a full on role play scenario. And it’s not always age play, like father/son or teacher pupil. Some guys like to be dominated by a peer or master. You need to find this out. I believe that the best tops are very versatile; it’s the bottoms that have particular needs. Of course, again, everyone’s different, so there are exceptions even to that. Warm up. Start skin to skin, bare hand to bare bottom, hard but not too hard, and spank for a few minutes, then take a break. This gets endorphins flowing. This can be OTK, but it doesn’t have to be. If he prefers standing, bend him over a stool or back of a couch and spank him in that position, but with your hand first. Don’t pitty pat… spank pretty hard; hard enough to get a red bloom on his butt. (Very dark skin doesn’t redden, but the color deepens). Give him a break, to let this sink in, even though you’ve just started. Two or three minutes is enough. Corner time or standing against a wall if it feels right. Then switch to what gets him cranking. Whether it’s a paddle, strap, belt, cane, whip, or whatever, introduce the implements and use them in sessions, not switching back and forth too often. Maintain a steady rhythm when spanking. Rhythm is extremely important, and one of the areas where a lot of spankers fall down on the job. Bursts and interruptions for butt rubbing may be appreciated by some guys, but mostly, in my experience, not. Find a groove. Where there’s enough pain that you’re getting vocal feedback, even a little squirming, but where you can spank and keep on spanking. Only make him count if you know that works for him. Some guys really don’t like it; it’s a distraction. The spanker can count, silently, if it helps. Implements relate to velocity. You can spank fast with hand, paddle, brush, even belt and strap. Slower, more like swats, if standing, with a paddle, cane, switch, birch, flogger, cat or other whip, etc. If you’re spanking OTK, it really helps to spank steadily and not too slow. It doesn’t have to be as hard as you can, because even a fairly moderate level of intensity will build to a rip roaring red ass after 200 or 300 smacks… and that’s not too many. If you don’t do it this way, try it. Even 500 or 600 is quite doable with most guys if they’re real spankos. Rotate to other implements in increasing order of intensity; you might give little or even longer breaks in between, depending on how long and intense a spanking it is. This is really basic, but it’s important: avoid anywhere near the coccyx, distribute your smacks, licks or swats so both cheeks are equally covered (remember that the cheek farther away gets more leverage, so you need to adjust to make sure you aren’t focusing too much on it and not enough on the other one). Spank the sit spot, but not only the sit spot. Spank the upper thighs, but only if you know that works for him; some guys really just don’t like it, and sure, your job is to punish his butt, but in the end we all do this because we want it, and if somebody consistently does something we hate, it’s not conducive to a good spanking relationship. Generally, build. Sometimes ease off a little then pour it on; don’t want to be too predictable, but most times the logical progression is towards a climax, where the ending is very intense, right up to the edge of what he can take, and stay at that edge as long as you can. This may only be a few swats, or it may be half the spanking. It just depends. I always feel that an adult male spanking that doesn’t last a good ten minutes isn’t quite successful. Some can last much, much longer. And last but not least, don't forget Aftercare. A quick hug, some more extended holding or massaging, or even helping him get release... it depends on you (and him), but a little sign that you care about him and his experience is part of it. 

Daddy has had to set out new house rules for me because I got a really bad report card this week. Interested to know your thoughts please. Should any new rules / themes be added? Should any be rephrased?  Let me know by commenting beneath.   Theme: Behaviour & The 3 Ds 1. From this point forward, you will refer to me only as DADDY or SIR.  2. Perfect attendance at school is non negotiable.  3. Bad grades and poor performance in extra curricular activity will not be tolerated. You will recieve a minimum grade of B+ in all future exams. 4. No Disrespect. Always remember that daddy is in charge and you live under his care. You will be polite, respectful and properly behaved at all times. 5. No Disobedience. When daddy gives you a direct instruction you will do it. 6. No Dishonesty. Never lie, you should always be truthful, and forthcoming.  Theme: Chores 7. You are to make your bed, and keep your room visibly tidy, neat and in order at all time.  8. Additional chores will be posted on the fridge showing you your daily routine, which will consist of: chores, projects, homework, and studying. The list will be complete daily. Theme: Dress Code 9. Outside the home you will ensure that you are properly and smartly dressed in school uniform. You are not permitted to wear "casual" clothes at any time. Uniform includes school blazer, white shirt, grey shorts, belt, school tie, long grey socks, black leather shoes and white briefs. 10. At home and on weekends you will only be permitted to wear the following; white briefs, white cotton socks and white vest. 11. At bedtime you will wear standard blue pyjama top and bottoms only. Theme: Bedtime 12. You will report to me every night at 8pm to review the day. You will stand in the corner facing the wall, hands on head, until called. 13. You will be given a bath to ensure cleanliness is maintained. On occasion it may be necessary to wash your insides too by washing your mouth out with soap or given an enema. 14. You will be shaved smooth as a helpful reminder to who is in charge and to ensure good hygeine. 15. Bedtime and lights out is at 9pm sharp.  Theme: Privacy 16. Privacy is privilege, you will leave doors open at all times, even if you are using the toilet. 17. Until grades meet expected standard all electronics including phone, laptop and PlayStation are to be confiscated.  18. You are grounded until further notice. 

A reader asked an interesting question recently, and we thought it might be a good time to revisit Punishment Spankings. Over the years, we have covered this topic by bringing in the voices of others living in  DD relationships.  Today we hear again from shilo on how it works in her relaionship. There's so much instructive advice here, we felt you just gotta read it. If you'd like tips on how to be a Top who administers a Punishment Spanking, here's a few blogposts that might be able to help: Punishment Spankings and How to Administer Them Here's an example of how my Daddy administered a Punishment Spanking for a real reason. Here's an idea about what to do AFTER the Punishment Spanking Here's a video of one way to deliver a Punishment Spanking What do you consider a Punishment Spanking to be?   Today’s guest blog post brings Cornertime Confidential readers one person’s viewpoint on how a Punishment Spanking should be administered. I’m not actually in agreement here with all the specifics that our guest blogger, shilo, spells out here. However, what this blogpost brings is a fresh perspective.  While that blog is about married couples implementing Domestic Discipline, I think there are still useful learnings here worth sharing. See what you think. And as always, Cornertime Confidential values your feedback, just click on the “comment” button at the bottom of the post to have your voice heard.   [The following is freely adapted to adult boys and the Men Who Spank them. This is not shilo's original post—nor could it be, given this blog is devoted to M/m Corporal Punishment—and you'll note a particular alteration in the use of pronouns. As a point of further clarification, I have made clarifying remarks throughout and added in a bit where thoughts were not completely fleshed out. In the final section, I have adjusted the content for adult boys entirely.]   __________________________ Punishment Spankings and How to Administer Them by shilo wace* I wanted to talk a bit about giving a Spanking. Not as a person who gives them myself, but one who receives them. Of course, I know there are many ways to administer physical punishment so as I speak about how a solid no-nonsense Spanking should be given, it’s of course through my personal experiences and beliefs on how it should be. In the end, it’s my duty to accept however the Punishment is given, but that does not stop me from having an opinion about it. Let’s start by discussing The Punishment Spanking (as opposed to a Maintenance Spanking or playful Spanking). Punishment Spankings are meant to be unpleasant.   Punishment Spankings are meant to be unpleasant. As the Disciplinarian, you will be punishing a behavior or action. To do that effectively, you’ll want to consider several key elements that will create a memorable experience your boy will not forget.   Selecting the Right Spanking Tool First, a tool should be selected, the disciplinarian needs to know exactly what implement he will be using to administer the Spanking. A Punishment Spanking requires the use of a Spanking Tool, not just your hand. HandSpankings should be reserved for lighter less serious offenses. HandSpankings are also more personal and even considered more loving, this too is not in accordance with a Punishment Spanking.   Select the Right Spanking Tool The disciplinarian should select which implement he will be using and then commit to that implement not deciding to change it just before a Spanking is given. Don't use multiple Spanking Tools. Having the Spanking stop so he can switch to a spoon, or strap, just to stop again switching to a different tool a few minutes later turns the act of correction into some type of game. Personally, I feel this switching up makes the disciplinarian look somewhat unprofessional and unprepared. Like a child in a candy store jumping from one treat to the next.   [Note From Cornertime Confidential: we completely disagree with shilo here. We think if Daddy is in the middle of paddling, and his hand is tired of using The Hairbrush, we don’t see why he can’t just have his boy get off his lap, and send the boy to go get The Spanking Stick or The Wooden Spoon or The Paddle. It gives Daddy a break (and the boy a break!) and helps extend the length of time required to finish punishing.]   "Spankings" require a rigid, hard item which can deliver a stinging blow   When choosing an implement you first must decide what type of physical correction is going to be administered: A Spanking means you’re going to choose a tool such as a wooden paddle, hairbrush, wooden spoon or some type of rigid, hard item which can deliver a stinging blow. A Whipping means you are going to choose something such as a switch, cane, strap, cord or some type of flexible lightweight rod which will deliver a sharp concentrated lash. Once you have chosen a tool you can decide if you will have it ready in the area where you plan to administer the Spanking, or if he will have to retrieve the implement and bring it to you. Either way can be very effective.  Being sent off to get whatever is going to be used on you can be very humbling Being sent off to get whatever is going to be used on you can be very humbling, and on the other hand coming into a room and seeing the tool that will be used can immediately send butterflies into a boy’s tummy and upper throat. Certain tools such as a switch is always better if he is sent out to cut and prepare it himself. This is part of a ritual and is more effective than if it is already trimmed and cleaned.   Now that you have the Spanking Tool selected, and you know how it’s going to be presented, next you need to know how and where you will be administering the Spanking.   The Spanking Ritual I am a big believer in rituals, so having a special location you consistently use I feel is always best. So when you say “okay young man, go to the Punishment Room and wait for me” or “it’s time we take a trip to The Woodhed” he knows exactly what is going to happen without you just blurting out “I’m going to beat your behind.”   “it’s time we take a trip to The Woodshed” [Note: having a set Punishment Spanking ritual should not be a rote memorized experience. You can always vary it based on the circumstances. However, having a central ritual helps establish the tone and helps your boy get in the right headspace.]   The room you choose should already be prepared beforehand with whatever Spanking Chairs or Tools you need—unless you intend for your boy to retrieve that Spanking Tool as mentioned above. The room/area should be clean and free of clutter and not full of toys or stuff more professional than playful. I completely understand that you cannot be prepared for all situations and ready to go.  There will be times that certain behaviors may require immediate correction and other times you may be traveling far from the Domestic Discipline environment you have set up.      However you should be prepared for both these events and have a plan if such actions are necessary. [note: you should have a plan between you for what is acceptable resolution for bad behavior while travelling or in public: administering hotel spankings, pulling over on the side of the road, having a signal for a time out when in a group setting that requires he stop and meet you outside for a talkin’-to, etc.]   Go To Your Room   When in the Domestic Discipline home, preparing a room beforehand is still the best policy, and postponing punishment until everything is in place is worth the time. You can certainly have him stand in The Corner or take a bath as you prepare. Having him prepare for a Spanking is part of a good punishment ritual is well. Having a special punishment outfit, boyish underpants, athletic shorts, pajamas, etc., he would have to put on before going to the designated room, or the knowledge that once in the room he has to remove all of his clothing and put them away neatly and out of sight will certainly get him ready both physically and mentally.   Now that you’re both in the room, and he is standing before you in his embarrassing punishment dress or as naked as a newborn, this is the time you need to have a serious and controlled discussion with him about the behavior for which he is being corrected. He needs to be told that this is not for play or his pleasure, but this is a serious punishment to take him down a peg or two.   Scolding Do not go easy on him. Scold him: Identify the Misbehavior. Explain in detail how his behavior has earned him this punishment. Identify what’s required of him to fix things. Explain what is expected out of him in the future what to do to avoid further punishment.  This is very important, disciplinarians that do not scold properly or just assume he knows exactly why he’s being punished are making a communications mistake.   Avoid Making a making a Communications Mistake.   A good scolding should have your boy remorseful or even in tears before the first swat ever lands. If you are unsure how to scold properly, take the time to do some research.   [Note From Cornertime Confidential: we find scolding technique is particularly well done by Magic Spanking Factory’s Daddy and SpankingCentral.com’s Clifton Meador. These are good places to start looking for tone, attitude, and delivery of the talkin’-to].   You can certainly have him stand in The Corner or take a bath as you prepare.   Scolding is not yelling, and not belittling. It is explaining exactly how he disappointed you. And for most adult boy’s disappointing someone they care about can be more punishment than any Spanking. Do not rush the scolding, take your time, and let each word sink in. This is not the time for him to argue with you or give his side of the story. He is only to listen and to answer any of your questions with yes or no or what many Daddys require, “Yes, Sir” or “No, Sir.” The time for his side of the story past as soon as he was ordered to get ready for punishment. As a disciplinarian if you allow him to continue to argue with you, backtalk you, or give you attitude and you have lost control of the situation.  You need to regain it quickly. It is not a game to punish adult boys, and he should not disrespect you. Managing Misbehaviour During The Spanking  Once everything that needed to be said had been said then it’s time to move to the penalty phase of the punishment, which in this case is to administer the Spanking or the Whipping. You should have him move into position quickly such as over your knee, across your lap, bending over a chair, touching his toes, etc. Telling him to touch his toes does not mean putting his hands on his knees or grabbing his ankles, it means putting his fingertips to his toes, or placing his fingers underneath his toes. If he is not physically capable of actually bending forward to touch his toes, then the directions should be something along the lines of “Place your hands on your knees.”  "...trying to block his bottom with his hands is not only disrespectful and shows lack of obedience, but also it can be dangerous." It is a form of disrespect if he only bends far enough to put his hands on his knees when you instructed him to touch his toes. Don’t let him get by with that. Once you have him in the proper position you can give him any further instructions necessary, even if he’s heard them before, such as “Keep still! No kicking! No rubbing  your bottom!” Reminding him that his only job is to stay in place and not to try to prevent his Spanking in any way helps to establish who is actually in charge here. Excessive moving, or trying to block his bottom with his hands is not only disrespectful and shows lack of obedience, but also it can be dangerous. His cooperation is for his own good, so say so clearly and distinctly. Yelping, crying, and screaming should be expected, but there is no reason for him to talk or ask or beg for anything. He should not say any words at all. Begging or pleading is an attempt to reduce his punishment and should be treated the same way as if he was trying to block your access to his bottom with his hands or move out of the way. Excessive noise should also be addressed as you see fit. Excessive noise should also be addressed as you see fit.   The first swat should come quickly and hard. It should sting quite a bit and make him yelp out in both shock and pain. He is being punished and there is no such thing as a warm up Spanking for adult boys who are being punished. The only reason you might want to use a warm up Spanking is to lower his sensitivity and make the Spanking last longer. That again should be up to you, and you should consider this in the larger scope of what you are trying to achieve here. If it’s behavior improvement, then you might want to apply just a short sharp shock. If, however, you want something out of this too, you will want to find ways of prolonging this severe discipline by varying the intensity, so you aren’t wasting your time.   The Spanking should continue had a hard steady pace and go for quite some time. A disciplinarian needs to remember that he has chosen to participate in this relationship, and he should not be timid about delivering a sound Spanking. Spank him with enough force to ensure a very sore, fairly bruised bottom. He is not made out of glass. You’re not punishing him to break him, but you are disciplining him to keep him in line. That cannot be achieved with an adult boy by a gentle warning.   There is no need to set the amount of strokes or a set time, either. This is your free time to discipline as you see fit, so naturally, you certainly can do this if you wish. It’s best to remember that your boy is being punished, and it may be better to continue the punishment until the disciplinarian feels that he has reached the level of remorse he is looking for. This could vary on any given day, so there’s no reason that the spontaneity you have in your regular Domestic Discipline relationship cannot be secured during different Punishment Spankings.   "...it’s the bond you create with your words and your deeds during these high-impact emotional and physical moments."    Aftercare and Reinforcement of the Message Even though this is a Punishment Spanking, it’s always okay to be tender and forgiving. He has taken his punishment, and  whatever his misdeed, it has been paid for. You can hold him as he cries or whimpers or stamps his feet, and/or let him know that it’s over. It will not be discussed again, so long as his behavior aligns with your expectations that you set down during the scolding and now after the Punishment Spanking. It helps to reinforce the message behind the Spanking, for example, “I don’t want to see you do that again. Look me in the eye, and tell me you heard what I just said.”  If he was good and remained still for his Spanking, you might consider praising him for his obedience. Adult boys are the most submissive right after a Punishment Spanking. Showing him tenderness and love is what he needs most at this point and will ensure his continued obedience to you. Yes, he’ll screw up again, and yes, you’ll have to administer future Punishment Spankings. But ultimately, it’s the bond you create with your words and your deeds during these high-impact emotional and physical moments that will bond you most effectively to one another as Daddy and boy.   __________________________ *From August 2015 Please comment below or email us with your ideas aok4otk@aol.com or cornertimeconf@gmail.com ______________________________________ Follow Cornertime Confidential Wherever You Are: Tumblr  ∙  SouthSpanking ∙   WordPress  ∙  Twitter  

In this guide, I compile some of my personnel ideas (meaning not everyone may agree) on how to be a good spanker that efficiently meets nice spankee and slowly but surely build a network of spanking friends. I am quite sure this is not perfect because it is the first shot, but here we go ! I The starter kit: The very basic things that you need to know and have I.1 Know what you like and what you want The first things that any spanker should know or ask himself is : "What do I like about spanking ?". This is an important question because you will need to know that in order to set up your profile, and it will determine whether or not it might be a match with people that you could meet. There are many reasons why you may want to be a spanker. This includes: It is a deep rooted kink and you see yourself on the giving end. You have been on the receiving end and want to switch sides. You have a thing for the ritualistic aspect of spanking and punishment. You replay somekind of scene from your past that includes spanking. You have a spanking kink and enjoy being the one that turns other guys spanking fantasies into reality. You genuinly see yourself as a coach or mentor that can apply some strict discipline to errand lads in need of your assistance. You enjoy spanking as a sex foreplay, or as part of a broader BDSM scene, etc. There are many more, all valid reasons, which you can even combine. Having a good knowledge of which types of spanking scenes you like, and also don't like, will be useful to set up your profile and describe what kind of spanking sessions you can propose. I.2 Time and location are of the essence Let's start with location as this is perhaps the most basic requirement for a spanking meeting : it needs to happen somewhere. As such, living in a big cities and close to public transportations will be a great advantage compared to living in more remote areas. If you are in the latter case, you will need to be ready to move around a bit, or accept to welcome people into your home for longer periods of time (more about this later). Regarding the accomodation itself, while this is not mandatory, it is usually the spanker that should host any spanking meeting. Hosting a spanking at your place will always be more comfortable and will give you a psychological ascendant that is always a bonus in a spanker-spankee relationship. Your house should be clean and welcoming. An exception to this, is when you are travelling to another city far from your home. Then, using your hotel room, a B&B, or visiting your spankee at his place is perfectly acceptable. Does that mean that you can't be a good spanker if you can't host spanking at your place ? Not quite, but it is a problem if you can never host. The alternatives have been discussed already: Taking a hotel room. If you do so, avoid the cheapest ones that can really set up a creepy atmosphere. And you should also know, that to some spankees, hotel rooms and love hotels will be a turn off, and a deal breaker. Go spank your spankee at their place if they can host (which is not always the case). Besides from the loose of psychological power and the fact that you may quickly get bored when you put them in the corner, there is no real downside to it. Let's talk time now. Obviously you will need to find the time to meet people, whether it is to invite them at your place, or to travel to them. If you are only available on the 6th of each month between 1pm and 2pm, then between 5:30pm and 6pm, and only on full moon days, you will never meet anyone. You don't need to be available all the time, but you need to have a somewhat stable schedule and to know about it at least a few days in advance. Another thing that you need to know about time and availability is that not all spankings can be scheduled X weeks/monts in advance. For some spankees, the spanking need is a pulsion that comes and go. And when it comes, it needs to be dealt with quickly (as in within the next 2-3 days maximum). So don't plan on scheduling too long in advance with these guys. For others that are always in need of a good spanking, or like to build anticipation, as well as for coaching relationships, scheduling a long time in advance is easier. A last comment about time and location. As a rule of thumb, neither you nor your spankee should spend more time traveling to a session than the lenght of the session itself: You can be a great spanker, if your spankee needs to spend 3h in a train for a 30min session, he will stop coming at some point. Do not spend 4h and a ton of money in a plane/train travel in the hope of meeting a single spankee in a far away city. If you travel specifically for spanking purposes, you should book as many guys as you can because most of them will flake. Even better, if you can, do not travel just for spanking activities: it is better to travel for work, or to meet family and friend, and if some spanking meetings can happen, well it is a bonus ! I.3 Basics of spanking The last thing you need in your starter kit is to know how to spank in a safe and sane setting. This includes: Some basic butt anatomic knowledge to know where to spank and where not to spank. But also some basic sense of body language reading to know where your spankee is in term of mindspace and pain scale. Having a knowledge of BDSM elements such as SSC (safe sane and consensual) and RACK (risk aware consensual kink) is -in my opinion- mandatory. You should also know what "aftercare" is, and learn how to do it properly. This can make the difference between you being a spanker/dad/dom versus being a violent assh0le. Know how to use your hand, and have some of the basic implements that can be found at very low price and present little risks for beginners. The first part about where to spank should be relatively easy. Watch videos, see what other spanker do, and follow this schematic if you are still lost: The second part about reading body langage and knowing where your spankee is in his mindset requires more experience. And I am not going to lie : guys that have been spanked are going to be a lot better at it than any beginner spanker that has never been spanked before. Indeed, beyond the pain that might be inflicted by hand or using implements, spanking is a lot in the head and includes many elements such as humiliation, frustration, regression and abandonment that are quite difficult to understand and to read when one has never experienced them. Regarding the implements. I know for a fact that many beginner doms are overwhelmed and impressed when they see other spankers having tables fully covered with various implements that all look stingy and expensive when you look them up in the internet. I have two things to say about this One, in most cases at least 80% of these implements are crap that is rarely or never used. And two, if you want to be any good at spanking, your hand is your best weapon of choice ! The first spankings you give as a spanker should be mostly hand spankings: your spankee's butt should hurt more than your hand, and this requires training ! At first you might get some blisters and even bleedings. Slow down, keep training and it will improve with time. But you should know that your hand's skin will become less soft ! If you must invest in implements, aim for cheap but safe ones first: Brushes are inexpensive and can be found in any store. Don't buy online, go to the store and feel the wood ! Ping-pong paddles, flip-flops, wood rulers, slippers. If your country has a "national spanking implement", you may want to consider buying one : canes in the UK as well as in many commonwealth countries, a tawse in Scotland, a paddle in the USA and Canada, or a martinet in France. A word of caution on belts: While they are a common implement that is easy to find and can be found in a wide range of prices, it is not a beginner friendly implement ! If you want to use one, the buckle should ALWAYS be in your hand and never used to whip, start with very slow blows and a belt folded one or two times. Lashes shouldn't land anywhere else than the meaty part of the butt. And never apply a hard belting -especially if you don't know what you are doing- on a spankee that moves a lot ! II Setting up a profile that attracts people I am aware that there are many websites and apps to meet potential spankee and where you can set up a profile. This section aims at being generic, but you may need to adapt depending on the website you use most to meet people. II.1 Introducing yourself Your profile is often going to be the first contact that a potential spankee will have with you (and maybe the only one). Therefore, it needs to be as complete and attractive as possible. Furthermore, keep in mind that there are usually more spankers than spankees in a given place, so you will need to have a profile as good if not better than the other guys profiles. The key element of any profile that we will discuss in this section is your profile description, which is usually a few lines long (depending on the website), and is the best place to introduce yourself. If it is empty (or mostly empty), or if it isn't attractive, chances are you will struggle to meet anyone. The basic information that any profile description should contain (if they are not already displayed in other fields): Your location Who you are : your age, a basic physical description (height, weight, body type), and your experience if possible A description of what you like and what you are looking for (see I.1) Who you are looking for : age range, body type, are you straight friendly or not, etc. Any hard limits that you have (if there is space left): e.g. not into scenarios, no blood, no sex, etc. A few pitfalls to avoid in your profile description: Having a description that is very specific about what you want to do to your potential spankees, but says nothing about you or who you want to meet. It will mostly attract wankers, but you will never meet them. Example: "I will pull your pants down and spank you very hard on your bare bottom like a little boy. Then, you will go to the corner with your red butt for everyone to see, and you will wait for me to come trash your ass with my very large leather belt !" Having a description that makes you sound like a dead German philosopher. This is cool if you want to meet only people with at least 5 years of higher education, but everyone else will flee in terror. Example: "Spanking is a wonderful voyage where physical pain meets the spiritual extasy of endorphins and shame, all colliding together until your body and mind submit to the punishment, and at last you will know peace." Having a description that says nothing. Example: "Hello, I am Patrick, I am a 38yo writter. I like all sorts of boys. So, I want to meet like-minded guys that share my spanking interest and are staying nearby." Copy-pasting the description of another spanker of switch (partly or everything). You don't want people to believe that you have no personnality, or worst that you are a catfish. Eventually, depending on who contacts you and your success rate, you will figure out what is wrong with your description. Does it give too many details ? Not enough ? Is it missing something ? It will all come together. II.2 Posting pictures on your profile Whenever it is possible, it is usually a good thing to have pictures on your profile as it is a good way to show others what you like, and what you do. Your profile picture is perhaps the only picture that you will have to decide on nearly all applications and meeting websites. So pick wisely. It can be a face picture, a picture of your hand, a picture of an implement, one of your spanking picture, a drawing, or a spanking picture you like. My advice on profile picture would be that it is important to have one. Anything with even a few information about you is better than nothing. Then, you have the other pictures (think pictures albums in spankthishookups, or the pictures you share here on southspanking). These pictures are very important because they will tell A LOT about what you like, sometimes even more than your description ! If you post a lot of corner time pictures, it will emplies that you enjoy doing it. Lots of pictures with canes, you are a cane user ! Mostly badly bruised asses, then you like to give it hard ! Spanked asses with a zoom on butt holes, you might not be "straight guy friendly" ! You get the idea. And this is true even if the pictures you use are not your own. This leads us to two other points : What to do if you have very few or no pictures of your own ? And how to carefully choosing the captions with your pictures. If you don't have your own spanking pictures (or if they are not great), there is always the possibility of having pictures of implements that you like. A picture of your hand, or your knees. A shot of your chair with a belt carefully placed on the side. Use your imagination, and with the right captions, you can probably make pictures that will reflect on what you like. Alternatively, you can also use pictures from studios or from other spankos, but don't forget to credit them ! You may also put them in an album called "My method from web pictures", or "things I like". The worst thing that you can do when using others pictures, is not crediting and claiming them as your own, and their is a bonus if you add a dumb caption below explaining how YOU spanked this guy so hard. Since we are on the topic of captions, it is one of these rare case where no caption is better than a bad caption. A picture alone is relatively open to interpretation depending on whom sees it. On the other hand, if you add a caption, then the picture becomes what you say it is. "I spanked this little slut until he begged, and only then i let him suck my dick" is a good example of a bad caption that ruins the mood with this picture. Remember that you will attract people that can identify with what you post. And alternatively, you will repell people for which what you post is beyond their limits or not to their taste. And it will happen even before you can exchange a single message ! My advice is: unless you are almost exclusively into practices that you know are non-consensual or divisive : try to stay neutral and consensual with the pictures you post and their captions. III Getting in touch with spankees III.1 Contacting first or letting them contact you ? This is a difficult question and it will depend on how well you are established, and the number of potential spankees around you. That being said, no matter your experience, it costs you nothing to send a message to a new comer or a spankee you are interested in. The rules to do so are simple: read his profile, and if you don't see anything obvious that suggests that you may not be a match, send a message. The message should be polite, and if you are not inspired, it can be an extended version of your profile description with the needed adaptations to what the lad you are interested in seems to be into. You may also add to your message some potential availability and a more specific location than in your profile. As you may not get a second chance, take your time to write it and proof-read it. If you are established enough (you already have a good reputation -even as a spankee-, a pool of spankees, and a profile that works), you can wait for people to message you. But you should know that you will get less hits and not necessarily the ones you are the most interested in. Waiting is also a good option if you have only little availability. III.2 Know when to stop messaging It can be frustrating to send messages and get no answer at all. And even more to exchange a few messages and then no more answers without any warning, or even : the guy blocks you for no obvious reason. Even if it can seem quite rude to you, there are probably reasons behind it: With a new comer that is in his 20s: it is likely that every single spanker in the area sent him a message at the same time as you did. That's a lot of messages. Yours didn't make it. Try again in a week or two if you sees that his profile is still active. He is part of these guys with a beginner profile since 5 years: It's not you, they never answer any messages. There is no profile picture, the age in the description is 2 years behind the profile age. No need to try to reach them again, it is a waste of time. You exchanged a few messages. He asked you how you wanted to spank him. You explained with many details. And then he stops answering. Most likely he had a great time in front of his screen reading about your spanking scenario, he jerked off and doesn't need you anymore. It is nothing personnal, he wasn't ready. Try again in a few months. In any case, unless it is with a regular, if a guy doesn't answer you after 2-3 messages while his account seems to be active or if you know that he did receive your messages; it means that he is not interested. So, stop messaging. You don't want to be that sticky guy that sends messages every days. IV Improve your skills and grow your network IV.1 Invest and improve your skills With time and if all goes well, you should get at least one, or a few regular spankees. Having regular is a good opportunity to improve your skills both with implements, but also on the psychological side of spanking. As they learn to trust you, your regulars will be more open about what they like or not during their sessions with you. Take the time to listen and learn ! Remember that -unlike what some morons think- spanking as any BDSM activities is mostly about what the sub/spankee needs and enjoy. Your spankees will also open up more about their deeper spanking desires, and most likely will be willing or even asking for harder sessions. Use this to progress with your skills and explore new things with them. Speaking of harder sessions, if you did not already, you should learn how to do a proper aftercare. Basically, you don't make a guy cry or push him beyond his limits and push him out of your flat in 5min right after the spanking is over. The more you push, the more you should spend time soothing them and taking care of them after the spanking is over. Soothing cream, warm blankets, hugs, massages, hot cocoa and cookies might prove useful. It is also curtuous to ask if everything is well 24 to 48h after the session: mental breakdowns can happen even after they have left your place. And knowing if the eventual bruises are healing well is an important information. Keep in mind that in your learning process you will make mistakes, and not everything will work for both parties. But this is a good thing, because you will know what not to do next time to make your sessions better. As time passes and you meet more people, you can also surely but surely invest into new spanking implements. I usually suggest not to invest into anything expensive unless you have lots of requests for it from locals spankees, or if the request comes from a regular. I also suggest to put the price rather than buying a crappy toy that makes a lot of noise, doesn't hurt much, and will be destroyed after only a few slaps. For my good toys, I personally like https://www.cane-iac.com/ , but I know they can be expensive! IV.2 Respect the limits: your spankees' limits, but also yours I mentionned a few times the importance of safe, sane and consensual meetings when it comes to spanking, as well as the need to be careful when searching for profiles that match your needs. Nevertheless I will insist that one of the key to becoming a successful spanker is to respect the limits of the people you will meet ! A spanker or dom that consider that he does what he wants to a sub/spankee is a bad dom/spanker, this is wrong, can lead to pursuit, and at least will give you a very bad reputation. I will push things further by saying that a good spanker/dom should insist that his potential spankee/sub gives him some hard limits. A spankee/sub that doesn't know or doesn't have any limits is a disaster waiting to happen and you should avoid meeting him. Limits to ask for include: Sex or no sex. This one should always be discussed before any meeting. And yes, a surprise finger in the butt counts as sex, and can be very much unwanted even if your spankee is gay ! Severity of the bruises, especially if the guy tells you he is partnered. And it is your role to know how to handle your implements, and to stop (or abort the session early) before crossing any fixed limit Pain : do we remain soft, do we push you to your pain limit ? a bit beyond your limit ? do we turn you into a crying mess ? A word of advice : don't cross their pain limit if you are not great with aftercare. Nudity and physical contact: some straight lads are very strict about this. Drawing blood: Sanitize your implements well if you do it. (you should sanitize them anyway, but even more carefully if you draw blood). There is no such thing as a spankee with too many limits. If he has too many limits to your taste, then don't meet him. And finally, you may ask for some limits to be pushed -slowly-, but it is best to do it only with spankees you already know, and if they say no, then you should respect their refusal. We have discuss a lot the limits of potential people you will meet, but you should also consider yours. A common issue of beginner to mid-experienced spanker is that they tend to accept any spankee so long as he is young and has a very cute butt, even though said good-looking spankees are asking for something very far from the spanker interests. It is sometimes difficult, but you should no to refuse a cute spankee if what he asks doesn't match with what you are looking for. If you still meet regardless of the poorly matching profile, either or both of you may end up being dissapointed with the session. Please note that the same can happen when you get lots of demands: follow your guts and refuse meeting that yhou know deep down will not work. Less meetings is better than lots of bad ones. IV.3 Networking and reputation As they will gain momentum, your network and your reputation will be your main tools to meet new lads, some of which might not have accepted to meet you before. A spankeed satisfied with your session is your best ambassador ! Do not hesitate to ask your regulars if it is okay to use them as references for guys that are hesitant to meet you. Treat them with respect, and always ask their permission to post their pictures or videos on your profile : it is their butt that is going to be on the internet for tghe world to see, not yours ! Their spanked ass will be your visit card, so you must be grateful to them, and respect their wishes if they want some picture or caption to be changed or removed at any point. Treating your network well is part of growing your reputation, and it takes only a few disgrunted spankees to ruin years of hard work building your reputation. So be extra cautious and on your toes about this. What about other spankers in your areas ? Well, you should also try your best to maintain neutral to good relation with them ! First, it takes several spankees and spankers to organize spanking parties.  Other spankers are also a good source of information to know which lads are flakes, who is a wanker, and even to share information about what works or not about spankees you have in common (with their consent, always). Furthermore, as we mentionned in section I, everyone has different tastes and availability. In other words, you can send them spankees that are not a match for you, and you may expect them to do the same. Petty jealousy with another spanker "because he gets all the spankees", or "because he spanked X last week so now he can't meet with me", or "because he has a more intimate/different relationship with Y" is generally a bad idea. Very few spankees are exclusive, so their is a good chance that you will have your turn if you are a good match too. Asking a spankee to choose between 2 spankers he likes is also a bad idea because even if he chooses you, your relationship will be damaged. In the same vein, a bit of teasing between spankers is okay, but blattant and free provocation between spankers should be avoided: any spankees involved will notice and it won't look good. It is even worst if other members of the community notice, and too much teasing will make you the bad guy, which can also damage your reputation. Lastly, slandering or speaking ill of another spanker should be avoided: at some point someone will notice that it was a lie, most likely his network of spankos will speak out, and it won't do you any good. The only situations where it is acceptable to warn other members of the community about a spanker and to give him a bad reputation include: You know for a fact that he doesn't respect consent and has broken hard limits about sex, bruises or drawing blood. in other words, he is violent and or dangerous. Even in this case, you should rather push spankees that were the victims to speak out first. Minors are involved.

What do all you spankees think about during a spanking? Do you think about anything? Do you think about the pain and wonder when it will be over? Are you so overwhelmed by the pain that you can't think about anything? Do you get lost in the pain? Are you thinking about anything else to escape the pain? Personally, I wonder when the spanking will end in the beginning. But as my spanking gets more intense, I just get lost in the continual pain and just float on the waves of pain. Eventually, I feel calm as my endorphins kick in. Please give me honest, candid answers! I'm curious whether others feel the same things that I do.

When it comes to spanking sessions, we all have some great memories, some not so great, and sometimes horrible ones. In this blog, I will discuss what to do as a spankee after a spanking session that did not really go as you expected. We will review several possible issues ranging from lack of communication, casting errors, improvised session, unexperienced spanker, flat of nightmare, to down right abuse and rape. There is a gradation in the ways a spanking session could unfold in a way that you didn’t like. Sometimes simple communication with your spanker will solve the problem and your next spankings will be better and better : Like with sex, the first time with a new partner is rarely the best and it takes some time to adjust. Other cases are going to be a bit more complicated : you may have incompatible expectations, he may not be very experienced, or perhaps you did not discuss enough before the meeting. In this case, you may be able to find some common ground if your communication is good, but you may also consider that he isn’t and will never be your type of spanker. And finally, the last case: red flags such as abuse, breach of consent, disrespect for your limits, etc. In this case, flee this spanker and you should consider at least discussing your misadventure with other community members to avoid other going through the same situation, and even sometimes taking your case in front of a court of law. Below is a list of things in the 3 categories mentioned and that are in no particular order of gradation. Things that should be easy to fix if you discuss with your spanker before your next meeting The punishment did not include scenaristic elements or implements that you enjoy The spanking was too light/fast/short The spanking was a bit too hard, but there were no unwanted bruises. He went for an unrealistic roleplay that was not to your liking He did not talk much/enough, and you prefer a verbal spanker He used certain positions, side punishments or instruments that you don’t particularly enjoy He has bad breath and keeps talking very close to your face. He was too nosy about your private life. He faced slapped you without discussing it before Things that may or may not be fixed : He went off course with the scenario you agreed upon. He was insisting on having more than a spanking with you, despite you having clearly said no. You like sex with your spanking, he does not. He clearly did not know what he was doing / he had no experience: implements used too high and/or with weird intensities. The punishment made no sense at all. He kept you butt naked (or naked) way too long before/after/during your punishment and you were very uncomfortable with it. (e.g.: butt naked tea in the middle of your spanking, or a 2h break while talking about the current state of the world). It is not a fit when it comes to body stature. Him or his place were quite dirty and it grossed you out You had way more bruises than what you discussed Other people were here and he did not tell you before hand He lied on his age and/or physical shape. Things that you shouldn’t accept : don’t go back, and report him at least to other community members He filmed you without your consent or with a hidden camera (see my blog on taking pictures for other things that you shouldn’t accept). He got naked and it was clearly not part of what you agreed on. He touched you in ways you explicitly told him that you didn’t want. He ignored the safe word you agreed on, or when you did not consent. The spanking was bloody and it was not at all what you agreed on (and we are not talking about a scratched/ruptured pimple … this can happen) He was clearly drunk or under use when you came to his place He forced you to drink or to use any kind of drug before/during your session : if this happened and any of the other points in this category came up too, then you should consider legal action. He raped you : you must consider legal action. While this blog seems to focus on what the spanker can do wrong, please remember that communicating his desires anf limits is something that only the spankee can do. It would be unfair to blame a spanker for doing something wrong in points from categories 1 and 2 if you failed to communicate properly. With MM spanking falling in the grey area of "consented violence" between adults, communication before and after a meeting is extremely important to reduce de risk of misunderstanding and low quality to bad experience : You need to be two to have a conversation and communicate.

Some years ago one of my early and formative spanking experiences was when I went to a spanking party. I had been chatting online to this “daddy” and role playing his naughty little boy, but he lived 60 miles away and we had not met in person. He invited me to a spanking party his friend was hosting, so I decided to make the drive. I was the last to arrive at the house, but nothing had started yet. All the men were sitting in a big circle, all still fully dressed. They asked for a spankee to go first and I volunteered. My daddy sat on a chair in the middle of the circle and stood me in front of him. He made me strip to my tighty whitie underpants in front of everyone, and told me what a naughty boy I was, and that he was going to have to give me a good spanking for being so naughty. Then pulled me over his lap and spanked me on my underpants, as I wriggled and kicked my legs and fussed. He held me in a tight grip! After a few minutes he stood me back up and said “now you are going to get it on your bare bottom young man" he pulled my undies down to my knees in front of the whole room, revealing my bare butt and my fully erect penis! Then he pulled me back over his lap and spanked me on my bare bottom hard. He stopped periodically to caress my bottom gently and check that I was OK, then it was back to hard slaps on my ass cheeks, stinging badly and causing me to Yelp with pain. I soon lost my erection and my penis shank embarrassingly. After that I was passed round the room naked and several guys spanked me over their laps and in other positions. Finally some of the other guys started to get spankings too, I got to watch other guys get spanked and I got spanked side by side with a couple of them. At the end my daddy cuddled me and told me I was a good boy and rubbed my sore red bottom. I got hard once again when he did that so then he sat me on his lap on the sofa and caressed me and I shot a huge load of banned word all over myself! Then I got dressed and went home with a very red and very sore bottom and a very sticky crotch and belly! It was a extremely humiliating and hot experience.

**Note I do not endorse this in any way at all and I plead the 5th to any expereince of this method** For the sake of continuity within this senario, I shall call the naughty boy Max. So Dad you have a naughty Max for the evening and it is your duty to see to his emotional and physical needs, as he has been naughty, this means punishment! How to begin? Start by taking down Max's jeans, all the way to his ankles, and then have him sit on a chair opposite you. Now it is time to discuss Max's naughtiness and get to the bottom of things as it were. Let him talk it all out, and discuss with him how he can do better in the future. After you have done this, explain it is now time for his punishments. Take Max by the ear and place him nose first in a convenient corner, its usually fairy easy to do, and leave him there thinking for about 10 minutes. After those 10 minutes are up, go to his corner and while scolding him on his naughty behaviour spank his brief covered bottom, about 25 good hand spanks should do it. Retire to your chair and tell Max not to move out of the corner until given permission. Enjoy a glass of wine or read your newspaper as Max stands there with his nose to the wall, waiting and waiting and waiting ... At your leisure, go back to Max's corner and slowly take his briefs down until they are at hs knees, his jeans should be at ankles and briefs at his knees. Now hand spank his bare bottom, double it up now and make it 50 good hard ones, all while he stands in the corner. Scold naughty Max, and explain that from now on he is going to spanked regularly and spend lots of time with his nose in the corner. Leave him for another 15 - 20 minutes. Once you are satisifued he has done enough thinking time, go to to his corner, take him by the ear and lead him to the spanking chair. When you put Max over your knees, make sure his head is well down, nose to the floor and his legs free to kick in the air, like the naughty boy he is. Now tan his buns good and hard, ignore pleas and promises, just get down to a good old fashioned, long and hard dad to son bare bottom spanking. Once the tears begin, you will know you are making progress, still its not enough.  Elevate the boy further over you lap, and spank his sit spots, thighs where it will do him the most good.  Contiune spanking until he goes limp over your lap. At this point you can lift Max up and sit him in your lap, and tenderly discuss his behaviour again, together and set some new rules for him. Next back in the corner he goes, nose to the wall and NO RUBBING - if he rubs, put him back over your knees and start all over again. While Max is in the corner, run him a bath, and then finally bathe him - take good care of that ever so hot and red bottom! Dress him in his shorts pajama set for bed .. and then of course spank him again before tucking him in for the night. Tell Max, in the morning he had better be in the corner by 8am, and he is confined to tee shirt only for the whole day! Get the paddle and set in on the spanking chair. Start all over again! So on Friday, start with hand, Saturday Paddle and Sunday Hairbrush :) - A nice weekend of punishment and spanking!          

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There are many who prefer the hand as their choice for spanking and I count myself among them. I think that the flesh to flesh contact provides an intimate and special bonding between the participants. The hand is the one implement that is usually most available for applying if only for a quick swat in public.  I believe that the hand has the most variety of applications and can even simulate other implements. Below is a description of the techniques of applying the hand to a deserving lad's bottom. I use all three during a spanking and believe that this variation increases the duration of the session. #1 The flat hand is probably the most common and the firm palm application can resemble a paddle or hairbrush. #2 With this technique, the entire length of the fingers are brought down rapidly and sharply to feel like 4 flesh whips. #3 The cupped hand gives maximum coverage and follows the curvature. The heel of the hand goes into the crevice and the fingers strike the       opposite side. When this is done with quick motion, I refer to the shape of the cupped hand as a striking cobra putting the bite on an errant lad's backside. I hope you find this tutorial helpful and may try one or more of the techniques I have described. 

Okay, so I was asked to post this by my Dad.  So for privavcy reasons, I have removed all personal information and changed the names of those involved.     Dear Ryan,   I am very pleased to hear you have finally decided to take Billy in hand, from what you have told me, he is need of some good old-fashioned discipline.  You asked me how I discipline Jamie, well hopefully my answer may prove useful to you as you begin this new stage of your relationship.   The fact of the matter is there are many boys out there, that have missed out on discipline and will respond well to it. Never hesitate to prove that tough love and clear direction will provide him with the security, dependability and reassurance he needs.   Jamie and Billy are both naughty boys, and as such they must be treated and disciplined as naughty boys and that means SPANKINGS!    When you decide to spank Billy, there should be an objective in mind. The best objective is to spank him hard enough and long enough to produce, begging and pleading for the discontinuance of the punishment. Depending on the boy there may very well be real tears present.   Let us assume, Billy is now standing in front of you, as you sit on your spanking chair.  Scold him and let him know how disappointed you are with his behaviour and tell him he is going to be punished.   Now bare his bottom yourself for punishment, take his pants and briefs down and put him across your own lap.   With Billy over your lap, you should take the opportunity to lecture him, constantly pointing out the reasons for the punishment and the fact that the punishment is well deserved. Allow him to speak freely and openly over your lap, but no matter what he confesses to or how sincere his promises are, the spanking will take place anyway   During this lecture period, his bare bottom should be rubbed and patted frequently with your hand.   Once his spanking begins, do not be moved by his actions and responses during his spanking. No matter what he says simply continue to spank him, he is after all being punished.   Using just your hand start to slap his bare bottom softly and sensually, enjoy watching it bounce and his movements as he tries to avoid the stinging.   Pick up the pace now as rosy red marks begin to appear, spank him slowly, building up, but longer, harder and deeper watching as his bare bottom squirms and wriggles.    Now spank those more tender areas at the bottom of his cheeks and the upper parts of his inner thighs. Stop frequently but briefly as you again lecture and scold him,    Only stop spanking him, when a solid promise has been made from him. which will satisfy you and also be grounds for future spankings of a similar type should the promise be broken.   After his spanking, leave him dangling over your knees, for some length of time to meditate upon his punishment. Review the reason for his spanking, and the promise he made while being spanked. Rub and pat his bare bottom and assure him that if he does it again, he will be spanked again only harder and longer.   Once you have finished, he will need time with his bottom nicely on display as he stands in the corner. Stand him there with his pants and briefs down around his ankles, his freshly spanked and very red bottom on display.   Your next responsibility is to provide aftercare and assurances that he is just fine.  Take a lot of time here, with hugs and pats … you will figure that out yourself as with each dad and Boy it is very personal and incredibly bonding.   So that is pretty much how I punish Jamie’s bare bottom, these days and it simply works!    Oh, and yes, I have agreed that Jamie can visit Europe by himself, visiting a German uncle and Dutch dad that he knows.    Am I worried about that?   Not at all, I know these gentlemen will do a fine job of keeping my boy in line and provide discipline when he needs it.  I have told him that when he staying with them, he is to obey their rules and they have my blessing to administer punishment as they see fit.   PS – Surprise!  I am going to ask both of them to administer his weekly review and punishment sessions in my absence!  He maybe on vacation, but I don’t want him slipping into bad habits!    Do you think they will agree?     Take care and all my very best wishes to both you and Billy.     Daddy D.