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Folks, So I am just going to come out and say this, we are an all-inclusive site, period. Do we have Gay members, YES, do we have straight members YES, do we have transgender members YES and do we have Female members YES. If you do not like a photo or a video or a comment, then you can personally choose not to watch it or view it and can block content from members you do not wish to see.   It really is that simple. If you want to be an banned word .. then leave .. just go, because you are not wanted here. What possible pleasure can you get from disrespectful and abusive behavior huh?   Get a life .. and so you know there is zero tolerance for this, and why?  Because I said so and as I own the site, that is the way it is, period.  If you don't like my explanation, well too bad for you. I do not often get angry but tonight I am pissed, just think about tolerance, think about inclusion and think very, very, hard on what being a 'bigot' means.  Those with such short-sighted minds, well God help you. Enough Said James AND Denis

Hello everybody, I hope you are all well during this crazy time that is upon us all.  Not only are we dealing with this pandemic, but we have a presidential election and of course we are coming up on holiday season.  I have a lot to tell you, and I am pretty excited about it.  Now before I get into it all, I do have to talk about the subject I dread the most, site funding.  Its always a source of embarrassment for me personally, and its something I would much rather avoid.  That said, I have learned the hard way, the longer I put it off, the worse the situation becomes. Previously I have simply pulled out the begging bowl and I do not want to do that anymore, so I am going to try something different.  I have created a new membership group called “Community Supporter”.  Everyone can choose to upgrade to this group by making a one-time payment of a minimum of $25, and that will last for as long as the site does.  You will get a small icon on your profile page together with the text ‘Community Supporter’, this is done automatically. Somethings I want to point out: You can upgrade by clicking on the upgrade button on the menu bar. When you upgrade, the charge will show as Arizoy LLC – the site will not be mentioned on your statement.  This is of course to protect your privacy. I am working on different payment gateways but for now Pay-Pal is the only option.  You do not need a Pay-Pal account though and can simply checkout as guest. If you have made a donation ever to the site of $25 or more, you will be upgraded.  I will do this manually, but it will take a bit of time.  Once I have finished, I will post as such and anyone I missed can then get in touch with me and I will fix it for them. You can choose the minimum of $25, or more, but there is no difference or additional benefits, if you choose to go higher.  I am keeping it simple.  When you think about $25 for life is pretty good value, when some sites charge around that or higher for just one month. It is a onetime payment, there is no reoccurring charge and the options will no longer appear under the upgrade button. I am hoping, this will allow the site to become self-sufficient, as we would only need a percentage of future members to upgrade their memberships in order to do so.  If we need to encourage further, we do have options such as restricting the videos, either by number or minutes to non-supporting members.  This would really be a last resort though, as I seriously want to keep the site free for everybody. With Black Friday and Cyber Monday, coming in the next few months, I would love to see enough upgrades so we can take advantage of the deals, possibly even snagging a server for a year, that would be awesome! Okay, I am so glad that’s over with …. now onto the good stuff! (dang I sounded boring in all of that)! Right you are, we are going for a major upgrade, which is currently in the testing phase on our backup server.  I will be inviting some of you to trial it for me and help identify any bugs etc.  I am funding the upgrade out of my own pocket, but this will be the last time I can do so.  This is by order of hubby whom wields the hairbrush. So here are some highlights: Its going to be faster. It will have a progressive web app, for those using tablets, cell phones etc. Again, with those using mobile devices, you will be able to download a generic app for both Android and Apple, though the respective stores. We will be using HTML 5 for videos. Chat system will be new and improved. Groups are getting a huge overall. You will be able to have password resets by email, but this will be constrained to only password resets. Photos and Albums are being revamped and will be much easier to navigate. You will have a favorite system, where you can mark any items you choose as a ‘favorite’ and then access the all from a new tab page. A few other surprises

Another in our Learning by Doing Series Tips for (New) Tops!* Another in our "Learning by Doing" Series by BigDaddyVegas and RedSpkScott Tip #1 Follow Your Commitment Make Sure You're Compatible Before You Meet If you take the time to talk with somebody and establish a wonderful scene you're going to commit to. If you are hosting, have your place ready to go, when your spankee arrives. spankees, when you come for a Spanking, arrive on time. Do not be super late. spankees, do your best to not let fear slow you down and prevent you from getting the Spankings that you need. Tip #2 Make Sure You're Compatible. Weed out the flakes—a lot of guys only reach out when they're horny—weed out the flakes. Tip #3 Arrive Prepared With Your Bag of Your Spanking Implements You wouldn't show up to a construction site without a toolbox. Baseball types of bags work well, because you can put canes and longer thinner items in there. They're easy and mobile. Tip #4 Test Your Spanking Implements Before You Use Them It's important Tops have a feel for how bad or what a Spanking Tool feels like. Some Spanking Tools can leave you black and blue if you are not paying attention. Learn that first. So, know how to use your implements before you apply them across the seat of a guy you are Spanking. Tip #5 Build and Use Your Spanking Implement Repertoire Practice With The Belt Before You Use The Belt Straps you can usually tell by the weight and the length. Belts and straps can wrap around the hip and ruin a scene. Practice for accuracy. I'm still not perfect, and I use them all the time. First, buy yourself a high quality belt and practice with it. Do not think you can pull a guy's pants down and think you'll be good with a belt right away. It's not going to happen. It's not the way Daddy did it when you were 12 years old and stole a bicycle. Know how to use The Belt before you use it. Paddles can vary greatly. Thicker versus thinner paddles will matter depending on who you are Spanking. For example, a small, thick paddle can be far too much for a new guy.    I recommend using the Jokari paddle in your paddle kit, and now you at least have the Spanking Industry Standard. And folks will know the sound of the Jokari paddle. It's versatile, you can go light with it, and you can break in a new bottom. Or you can really go to town on an experienced guy, but you have just the one paddle. Tip #6 Identify Spankings Locations You don't have to meet at your home. Meet at a public area first—a pub, a Starbucks, etc. It's a good safety precaution. If you don't have a home to go to, try the public Spanking parties or a hotel room. Don't Inadvertently Get SWATted. If you are using paddles in a hotel room, be aware of the noise. If you use a Jokari paddle at full force, it can sound like a .22 gun going off, so be careful, so Aunt Mary next door doesn't call the police saying, "I think I heard shots fired." Avoid being SWATted by an actual SWAT team! Tip #7 Manage Noise  I have a bottom who I have bringing a switch. Those are pretty quiet. Small carpet beaters are really good, because they also do not make a lot of noise. Paddles and bathbrushes will work over jeans, but not bare. You can always turn on the TV, the radio, or turn on the water in the bathroom. If you have to Spank in a hotel room, between 2 to 4 p.m., the hotel is least occupied, so it's primetime to get a Spanking. If you talk to the guys at the registration desk at the hotel, tell them you'll be having a party in your room, and tell them if they could put you away from other guests, that'd be great.    Tell them up front. Tip #8 Develop Good Communication Communicate Well, Then Spank. When you communicate and you are both in sync, then you will always have a better time. So, if you are both into Teacher/student scene, then it'll be great. But if the Top is really into Daddy/son or no roleplaying at all, then it really doesn't work well. Tops need to know, assume that just because you're the Top, your fantasy will be sufficient for the bottom. That's not the case. If you accommodate the bottom, the more in sync the bottom is with you, the more the bottom will relinquish control and be able to play more the way the Top wants to. Do not get super intense—including grabbing, choking, faceslapping, or other "liberties"—without clear, usually verbal permission from the bottom.    [Not doing so] can result in a complete scene killer. Tip #9 Ensure a Great Warm-up Great Spankers will Spank less to begin with, so you can get your boy to have the endorphin rush. That will help extend the scene much longer. Prepare the bottom first. I may use a belt over his jeans first, to warm him up to get the anticipation flowing of what he thinks he'll get. Once you get to know a guy and establish trust, these Rules obviously develop as you progress and familiarize with one another. Tip #10 Use Humiliation Effectively Humiliation Can Work Find Out How! I really encourage humliating guys in public. One way to do this is to use effective Cornertime technique. You can take a bottle cap, credit card, and have your bottom put the object against a wall or The Corner and then put their head [nose] against it [to keep it off the ground and against the wall]. Talk to them as sternly as you want to. You do not have to touch the boy just be complete in his presence. They know you are there. If you want to engage them, Spank them with your hand. That is never the wrong move.    Make the boy keep the bottle cap or credit card against the wall or The Corner with his head/nose—you can even have them put their hands on their head while you stand there. Spank your boy, if he loses his focus or attention with your hand. That'll snap him back into your reality, and you can keep the scene completely in motion even though the Spanking isn't going on in that moment. * Compiled from the December 2017 "DudesSpankingDudes" podcast. "Big Daddy Vegas and Red Spank Scott provided a bunch of "Tips for Tops" about the kinds of things tops, especially less experienced Tops, should plan for when playing with a new dude."       Please comment below or email us with your ideas   aok4otk@aol.com or cornertimeconf@gmail.com ______________________________________ Follow Cornertime Confidential Wherever You Are:   Tumblr  ∙  SouthSpanking ∙  Twitter  ∙  WordPress

I thought I might ask you guys whether you think the following punishment scenarios that I have experienced are FAIR, UNFAIR, TOO MUCH or TOO LITTLE.   Before I list them though let me explain a little about my relationship with Denis, he is my husband but also my dad and takes my discipline quite seriously.   I gave him my consent and accept discipline with the understanding that he has the ultimate authority, decides on punishments and is the final decision maker, he doesn’t expect perfection, but I can and am held to high standards.   All my punishments start with a lecture, dad ensures I am listening and that I understand why I am being punished. He always listens to my thoughts and opinions, and that is important to me because I need to be heard.  It’s also very difficult for me to admit I have been naughty and apologize for it, and take my punishment, but I do anyway.   Scenario one:  I am on the computer, kind of playing around when I hear him call ‘James come here a minute please’ to which I reply ‘in a minute’, well fifteen minutes or so go by (I was busy right?) and my ear is suddenly seized as I am marched into the lounge, where the spanking chair has been pulled out and punished with spanking with the hairbrush for being disobedient.   Scenario two: I was told not too mess around with the pool. Specifically, the chemicals but had a go anyway, it just didn’t look clean enough to me.  I sort of made it bubble and foam, okay quite a lot really. I got three hard spankings, with corner time, one for disobedience, one for messing up the pool and another because its dangerous to mix pool chemicals together.   Scenario three:  Caught speeding and given a ticket, dang traffic school sucks!  I was going a little fast at over 80mph.  I got grounded every weekend for a month, got the strap and brush and evening bedtime spankings, every night for the entire month.   Scenario four:  Took a tantrum because I didn’t want to visit his aunt, okay I did accidently knock over one of those little Xmas ornaments, at least I think it was an accident.  I was Spanked and then made to go anyway and when we got back later that night, I got another spanking and sent to bed early .. I did not like that!

I hope everyone had a nice Xmas and that the new year finds you all in good health.   I will be in Europe in 2024, visiting and sampling the spanking chairs of some wonderful members of this site.  I guess if I behave, I might not get too much spanking, but where is the fun in that?  A boy has to be naughty sometimes, right?   I am also hoping to meet some of our American members either by visiting them or inviting them here to our home in Arizona.   We have a vibrant and wonderful community, with men from all ages and walks of lives.  I never judge anyone by their looks or their age, for me its all about personality and friendship.  I have been over the knees of guys more than twice my age, some that are younger than me, some that are thin and some that are large.   Before anyone shoots me down, there's large, there's thin, there's medium, there's stocky, there's lanky, there’s a million possible things that make up a man’s body type. I have learned over the years that there is no telling who you are going to be attracted to for spanking until you learn that for yourself.  It should be immensely satisfying being spanked by another person, just be happy and stop trying to rationalize every feeling you have. All humans have the innate right to feel attracted to whomsoever and whatsoever they wish, none of it needs any excuses or any justification - we want what we want.   There is always going to be the judgmental crowd and to them I say – take your superiority complex and your omniscience knowledge of other human being’s hearts, souls and sexuality, pick a corner and stand in it, stay there and do all a favor.  We don’t need you telling us about God, science or the genome pool, or how our DNA is corrupt, just chill!    Hugs   James

It is an interesting question and one that does happen from time to time in my life.   I suppose really it does depend on the relationship, in my case it is 24/7 with domestic discipline.  We have rules and if I break them then I am subject to being disciplined, but I agreed to these rules.   We do have a fail safe of course, and that is that the rules and associated punishments can be discussed, altered and even removed, however only on a Sunday during my weekly behaviour review.  This was to ensure I did not use a kind of veto to avoid punishment, and again it is by mutual agreement.   I think one of the wisest statements my partner and dad ever said to me was 'You do NOT live to be spanked, and you are not supposed to either".  That actually makes a lot of sense.   Still there are times when I know I have been a naughty boy, but I just really do not want to be spanked, and I mean that.   The last time, this happened and dad told me 'Get the spanking chair our and put your nose in the corner', well I refused!!   I stomped my foot in frustration and Yelled "No, you are not spanking me and that is final."   Okay, I know what some of you are thinking, yes I was taking a bit of a tantrum, yes I was being disrespectful and yes I was being disobedient - no question about any of that.  I will tell you what happened, but please do feel free to share if you think it was fair (or not) and if you are a dad / top how you would have handled the situation.   I got pulled into a tight hug, and we just stood there together, occasionally dad would pat the seat of my shorts, we huged for quite a few minutes before he led me to the kitchen table and sat me down.   We talked a lot, especially about why I didn't think I deserved to be spanked, I guess at times I even whined but dad said to me (another wisdom statement) "As your dad and partner, it is my role to administer the discipline, you need, not what you WANT and you need to be spanked.  Would you really respect me if I just let you off every time you didn't want to be punished?"   Of course we all know that answer to that.   I was spanked shortly afterwards and had a decent sob over his knees and got it again at bedtime for taking a 'tantrum.'   YET the weird thing is I felt so damned good the next morning, I mean I felt on top of the world, sure my bottom was still a bit red and I was kept bare bottomed until the afternoon, but I didn't even sulk or complain ... its strange what a good spanking can acheive ... makes me wonder if sub-consciously I just needed to be taken in hand that day! :)    

Well, everyone, I figured it is about time that I posted an update on our recent down-time, and our progress in getting things back to normal. The first thing I need to emphasize is, this was NOT an upgrade, even though you may see things showing a little differently, or new features, I can promise you, these are not intentional and more related to getting the site back online. Our main server basically failed, and it was pretty much OS related.  In order to get things back again, the normal restore process I used also failed.  This left us in a pretty bad situation.  After trying various methods, including using the latest release of the script, I was able eventually to get the site back. However, as you will have noticed not everything is displaying properly or working correctly, such as on mobile devices, for example chat and feed.  Sometimes the login box does not work correctly either and a number of other bugs are present. In order to get everything back to normal, will mean further down-time and that is going to be unavoidable.  I am planning to do this, sometime next week, BUT I will be posting at least 24 hours in advance and providing a status page you can all access to see when the site is back online and its progress. Once we get this completed, the site will be back too normal and it will have some additional features, but they will all actually work this time.  Again, please note this will not be a major upgrade. Our main planned upgrade will mean all mobile devices will have 95% access to ALL site features.  This is a work in progress and I am using a test site to facilitate this transition.  I expect this to be implemented at the end of May, and again I will keep you all in the loop on this one. Thanks for everyone’s patience!   James and our Amazing Admin team.

Some thoughts on spanking technique. As a switch, obviously, I approach spanking from both sides. And of course everyone is different; has different preferences for positions and implements, different fantasies, different levels of pain tolerance. To have a successful spanking encounter, that will likely be repeated, it’s important for the spanker to get and act on some basic information from the boy, because if he gets what he both wants and dreads in his heart of hearts, he’ll be satisfied and want to do it again and again. Assuming he really is “into this” ...there are guys out there who have it in their head they want to get spanked but in reality they have no stomach, or rather, butt, for it. There are some common elements, though, that usually help make it work. For shorthand, written from the top’s perspective. Know what fantasy elements you’re going to do. Most guys like at least a little bit of a context of punishment; it can go all the way from just an attitude to a full on role play scenario. And it’s not always age play, like father/son or teacher pupil. Some guys like to be dominated by a peer or master. You need to find this out. I believe that the best tops are very versatile; it’s the bottoms that have particular needs. Of course, again, everyone’s different, so there are exceptions even to that. Warm up. Start skin to skin, bare hand to bare bottom, hard but not too hard, and spank for a few minutes, then take a break. This gets endorphins flowing. This can be OTK, but it doesn’t have to be. If he prefers standing, bend him over a stool or back of a couch and spank him in that position, but with your hand first. Don’t pitty pat… spank pretty hard; hard enough to get a red bloom on his butt. (Very dark skin doesn’t redden, but the color deepens). Give him a break, to let this sink in, even though you’ve just started. Two or three minutes is enough. Corner time or standing against a wall if it feels right. Then switch to what gets him cranking. Whether it’s a paddle, strap, belt, cane, whip, or whatever, introduce the implements and use them in sessions, not switching back and forth too often. Maintain a steady rhythm when spanking. Rhythm is extremely important, and one of the areas where a lot of spankers fall down on the job. Bursts and interruptions for butt rubbing may be appreciated by some guys, but mostly, in my experience, not. Find a groove. Where there’s enough pain that you’re getting vocal feedback, even a little squirming, but where you can spank and keep on spanking. Only make him count if you know that works for him. Some guys really don’t like it; it’s a distraction. The spanker can count, silently, if it helps. Implements relate to velocity. You can spank fast with hand, paddle, brush, even belt and strap. Slower, more like swats, if standing, with a paddle, cane, switch, birch, flogger, cat or other whip, etc. If you’re spanking OTK, it really helps to spank steadily and not too slow. It doesn’t have to be as hard as you can, because even a fairly moderate level of intensity will build to a rip roaring red ass after 200 or 300 smacks… and that’s not too many. If you don’t do it this way, try it. Even 500 or 600 is quite doable with most guys if they’re real spankos. Rotate to other implements in increasing order of intensity; you might give little or even longer breaks in between, depending on how long and intense a spanking it is. This is really basic, but it’s important: avoid anywhere near the coccyx, distribute your smacks, licks or swats so both cheeks are equally covered (remember that the cheek farther away gets more leverage, so you need to adjust to make sure you aren’t focusing too much on it and not enough on the other one). Spank the sit spot, but not only the sit spot. Spank the upper thighs, but only if you know that works for him; some guys really just don’t like it, and sure, your job is to punish his butt, but in the end we all do this because we want it, and if somebody consistently does something we hate, it’s not conducive to a good spanking relationship. Generally, build. Sometimes ease off a little then pour it on; don’t want to be too predictable, but most times the logical progression is towards a climax, where the ending is very intense, right up to the edge of what he can take, and stay at that edge as long as you can. This may only be a few swats, or it may be half the spanking. It just depends. I always feel that an adult male spanking that doesn’t last a good ten minutes isn’t quite successful. Some can last much, much longer. And last but not least, don't forget Aftercare. A quick hug, some more extended holding or massaging, or even helping him get release... it depends on you (and him), but a little sign that you care about him and his experience is part of it. 

When it comes to spanking sessions, we all have some great memories, some not so great, and sometimes horrible ones. In this blog, I will discuss what to do as a spankee after a spanking session that did not really go as you expected. We will review several possible issues ranging from lack of communication, casting errors, improvised session, unexperienced spanker, flat of nightmare, to down right abuse and rape. There is a gradation in the ways a spanking session could unfold in a way that you didn’t like. Sometimes simple communication with your spanker will solve the problem and your next spankings will be better and better : Like with sex, the first time with a new partner is rarely the best and it takes some time to adjust. Other cases are going to be a bit more complicated : you may have incompatible expectations, he may not be very experienced, or perhaps you did not discuss enough before the meeting. In this case, you may be able to find some common ground if your communication is good, but you may also consider that he isn’t and will never be your type of spanker. And finally, the last case: red flags such as abuse, breach of consent, disrespect for your limits, etc. In this case, flee this spanker and you should consider at least discussing your misadventure with other community members to avoid other going through the same situation, and even sometimes taking your case in front of a court of law. Below is a list of things in the 3 categories mentioned and that are in no particular order of gradation. Things that should be easy to fix if you discuss with your spanker before your next meeting The punishment did not include scenaristic elements or implements that you enjoy The spanking was too light/fast/short The spanking was a bit too hard, but there were no unwanted bruises. He went for an unrealistic roleplay that was not to your liking He did not talk much/enough, and you prefer a verbal spanker He used certain positions, side punishments or instruments that you don’t particularly enjoy He has bad breath and keeps talking very close to your face. He was too nosy about your private life. He faced slapped you without discussing it before Things that may or may not be fixed : He went off course with the scenario you agreed upon. He was insisting on having more than a spanking with you, despite you having clearly said no. You like sex with your spanking, he does not. He clearly did not know what he was doing / he had no experience: implements used too high and/or with weird intensities. The punishment made no sense at all. He kept you butt naked (or naked) way too long before/after/during your punishment and you were very uncomfortable with it. (e.g.: butt naked tea in the middle of your spanking, or a 2h break while talking about the current state of the world). It is not a fit when it comes to body stature. Him or his place were quite dirty and it grossed you out You had way more bruises than what you discussed Other people were here and he did not tell you before hand He lied on his age and/or physical shape. Things that you shouldn’t accept : don’t go back, and report him at least to other community members He filmed you without your consent or with a hidden camera (see my blog on taking pictures for other things that you shouldn’t accept). He got naked and it was clearly not part of what you agreed on. He touched you in ways you explicitly told him that you didn’t want. He ignored the safe word you agreed on, or when you did not consent. The spanking was bloody and it was not at all what you agreed on (and we are not talking about a scratched/ruptured pimple … this can happen) He was clearly drunk or under use when you came to his place He forced you to drink or to use any kind of drug before/during your session : if this happened and any of the other points in this category came up too, then you should consider legal action. He raped you : you must consider legal action. While this blog seems to focus on what the spanker can do wrong, please remember that communicating his desires anf limits is something that only the spankee can do. It would be unfair to blame a spanker for doing something wrong in points from categories 1 and 2 if you failed to communicate properly. With MM spanking falling in the grey area of "consented violence" between adults, communication before and after a meeting is extremely important to reduce de risk of misunderstanding and low quality to bad experience : You need to be two to have a conversation and communicate.

Hello,   I have been absent for a very long time and I apologize.   As some of you may know Denis visits the UK every summer, this particular time he contracted COVID and it was pretty bad.  It was so serious that I had to go over there, and spent several months while he thankfully recovered and was able to travel back to the US.   During my time there, I too got infected, but that’s okay, it was bad, but not too serious.   We are both having some side effects, Denis is having a harder time than I am recovering but we are both getting there.   I really had my hands full and other issues like my authenticator app failed for email access and phone access was restricted due to a change in carrier.   Right now, I have started a new job which I was offered before this all happened, thankfully the company I am now working for were very understanding and let me join the training group I am presently enrolled in.   I will be in contact with my dear friends by email and phone over this holiday weekend.   If you are in the US, please have a wonderful holiday and whatever you do, be safe.  If you have a wee drink or two or three, use Uber or any other transport but PLEASE do not drink and drive.   Everyone, else, please have a fantastic weekend, whether you are just chilling, being spanked, or giving a spanking and stay safe.  We have a fantastic community, and it means so much to me and is very dear to my heart.   Botoms upppppp and Hugssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssss   James

A spanking is much more effective if the person being spanked is embarrassed and humiliated during the spanking.   My spanking friend Jordan once told me that the pain of a spanking is temporary but the shame of a spanking lasts forever.   Jordan's dad knew this and so did the teachers where I went to high school.   The embarrassment and humiliation of a spanking lasts long after the sting of the spanking fades away.   That's why Jordan's dad spanked him naked in the living room in front of his younger brothers and even his own friends, and that's why the teachers in school paddled a guy in front of the entire class.   In fact the gym teachers often waited to paddle a guy until he was buck ass naked in the showers.   Jordan told me how embarrassed he was when he got a boner before his spanking and it ended up pulled back between his legs for his brothers or friends to see as he bucked and squirmed over his dad's knees.   As he kicked and squirmed, even his butt hole was on display.   Likewise when a guy in school had to bend over, grab his ankles, and spread his legs wide apart for a paddling in the locker room, his dick, balls and his hole were in full view of the entire class.   Those teachers always made a show out of paddling a guy's ass.     The photo above from the web shows the way a guy had to "assume the position" for a paddling in the high school locker room if he got paddled in the showers!    There were four classes of 25 students taking gym and showering at the same time, everyone naked, all watching the show the teacher was putting on spanking the guy!   You could see his dick and balls dangling down between his legs, his face looking back and even his butt hole exposed!   Everyone watching was excited.  The paddled guy's humiliation was a major part of his punishment!   Then he had to go back and finish his shower with his red paddled ass on display for everyone to tease him about!   Yes it was all about public humiliation!     The spanking chair helps expose a "boy" being spanked, making a show out of his spanking, adding to his shame and humiliation. That in turn makes him remember the spanking long after the pain of the spanking goes away.   The shame of the spanking will be remembered every time he sees his friends or siblings knowing they saw him spanked in such a humiliating way.  Every time they see him, a smirk will spead across their faces and they will think about his red spanked bottom, and how exposed he was.   That image of him will be burned into their minds forever, and they'll always remember how he was stripped naked and spanked.  He'll remember just how humiliating it was and they'll remember just how hilarious it was!     A guy can be spanked in the spanking chair, or it can be used to completely expose him during corner time.        Here I am kneeling on the spanking chair prior to a spanking.  I'm totally aware my bottom is sticking out just begging to be spanked.      ​   Another humiliating use of the Spanking Chair is to have me spread my cheeks  for a "groove spanking"!   A wooden spoon or a thin lightweight belt would be an effective implement for a spanking in this most tender area!   Any audience will be highly entertained listening to me howl and watching me squirm as I'm warned not to let go and keep my cheeks spread wide apart. Making me participate in my own punishment and humiliation makes the spanking that much more effective for me and makes it that much more amusing for anyone watching!   If I fail to keep myself fully exposed, the "groove spanking" will start over again!  You can also make me stand on the Spanking Chair calling even more attention to my humiliating predicament.  This puts my exposure right at an audience's eye level.   If my friend's were there they would never let me forget the view they had of my dangling balls and my butt hole!   ​  ​​ Kneeling on the spanking chair with a red bottom knowing the spanking is far from over. What I really deserve is to be buck ass naked on the Spanking Chair in front of several of my own friends who are grinning from ear to ear and  enjoying the show.   From that day on they'll know exactly how I GET SPANKED!  I haven't spent time on the "Spanking Chair" in front of a grinning and smirking audience yet, but perhaps someday I will.   For all the times in my youth, I enjoyed watching my friends get spanked  knowing my own bottom was relatively safe from a spanking, It would be poetic justice to find out exactly what that humiliation feels like!   I certainly deserve to spend some quality time, kneeling and standing on the Spanking Chair!   Buck ass naked and totally exposed for everyone to see! Check out my other blog entries here: https://southspanking.com/groups/need2botk/adblog/

So I have not worked out all the details yet to make this real fun, but here are the basics:   You get a group of dads and a group of boys.   Each boy picks a color coded card, for example white, grey, red and blue.   The boys then change into briefs of the corosponding color they picked from the card, but out of sight of the dads.   The dads then choose a single card each with the same colors as the briefs the boys are now wearing.   So we could just have each boy gets spanked by the dad with the same color as the briefs they are wearing , but we want more fun than that, right?   Maybe a certain color is an ACE card, or trump card?   What else could we do to make it more interesting? come on thinking caps on!   Hmmm different color of cushions on the spanking chairs .... think think think!