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The chat Bar is now working. You can once again send messages from members profile page. I am working on the videos and backup routines. Once this has been completed I will get the site tidied up, defragmented and making more sense! And .. I dont want a spanking this weekend!  

Okay, so I hope everyone is doing well, especially Onkel Benny after his recent surgery and my ever so naughty friend Max Max Max Boy! And .. Baltic has been spanked lots and lots and lots! Anyway .. to business! CHATBAR The chat bar is well pretty much screwed, it is no longer compatible witrh our script.  The license was purchased from Cometchat, whom have decided that they will not longer provide updates for our version of chat.  Instead they want to sell me a new supported version at $50 every month.  That is $600 every year, so that is not going to happen. The next alternative was Social Chat, another third party chat, that we also have a licence for, and it sucks the big one.  Its very difficult to configure, will not support browsers using a Proxy or VPN and is resource hungry - that has been kicked into touch. The script does come with its own chat system, but it is also cumbersome to install and configure and the layout also sucks.  So that one just like my Dads hairbrush has been shot into little pieces. After some investigation, I have settled on Arrowchat, looks good and is compatible with out script, so I have purchased a licence for it.  I also purchased professional and guranteed installtion to get things moving a little quicker.  It is the weekend, so I expect it will be a few days before this happens.  Once it has been completed I shall be backing up all the configuration and template files, so that if an issue occurs in the futuire, I can simply use these, for example if a server crash occurs. VIDEO UPLOADS A broken dependancy on the usual installation  has kept me from fixing this, but I will have it done soon, hopefully by this Sunday.  Once fixed, I will upload a test file and let you all know. FEED The limited feed lookback has been fixed, and I will be monitoring it. SPEED I have a lot to do, but it will increase significantly, please be patient!   Thanks n hugs and spanks James  

Hello everyone, As you can see the site is back online, however there are some outstanding issues I will be working to resolve. The two major issues are the chatbar is missing and videos will not upload.  I expect to have both of these problems resolved at some  point today. There will be some teething issues, and minor bugs, and I will fix these as we go along. I will update later my evening time with progress. You should find a good  increase in speed. It was a lot of work, and I have suggested to my dad that as a reward I should be given a one week pass from spankings and corner time! hugs James

This is a non-spanking blog that features artistic renderings of the male bottom.  All photos are of me and as many show my face, the blog is private and by invitation only.  Please message me if you would like to become a member.

In Germany, there is a spanking initiation rite in flight schools.  Every flight student is traditionally given a spanking (Hintern-Versohlen) after they completed their first solo flight (Alleinflug or A-Flug) as a kind of initiation rite. Today, the rite is performed after three successful  solo flights which make up the practical "A exam" (A-Prüfung).  Every student, whether male or female, adolescent or adult, is subject to the spanking tradition. The student is often bent over the wing of their airplane for the spanking, or over a table or other suitable item,  and has to look at the horizon during the spanking. Sometimes the seat of their trousers is made wet  so that the spanks are louder[1] (and better felt). The spanking is officially for the purpose of  "sensitizing" the pilot's buttocks, as this body part is important in flight as a "thermal lift meter".  It is not meant as a punishment in any way. it In practice, it is for the fun of all participants,  like a birthday spanking, and is given with the flat hand only on the seat of the trousers.  After the spanking, the student is given a bunch of thistles, which they have to hold firmly in their hand.  This, in a similar way, is to "sensitize" their hand for the delicate steering of an airplane.     Origin : According to one source, the tradition started in the 1920s after a young man, Jan Eilers from Hesse,  got a good spanking from his father when the same discovered in a newspaper article that his son had secretly been flying.  When the story of Jan Eilers's spanking became known, people made fun of him.  Out of solidarity with the boy, the German aviation pioneer Carl Oskar Ursinus then introduced the spanking initiation  rite in flight schools. The tradition originated in glider flight, but spread over also to engine powered flight.

**Note I do not endorse this in any way at all and I plead the 5th to any expereince of this method** For the sake of continuity within this senario, I shall call the naughty boy Max. So Dad you have a naughty Max for the evening and it is your duty to see to his emotional and physical needs, as he has been naughty, this means punishment! How to begin? Start by taking down Max's jeans, all the way to his ankles, and then have him sit on a chair opposite you. Now it is time to discuss Max's naughtiness and get to the bottom of things as it were. Let him talk it all out, and discuss with him how he can do better in the future. After you have done this, explain it is now time for his punishments. Take Max by the ear and place him nose first in a convenient corner, its usually fairy easy to do, and leave him there thinking for about 10 minutes. After those 10 minutes are up, go to his corner and while scolding him on his naughty behaviour spank his brief covered bottom, about 25 good hand spanks should do it. Retire to your chair and tell Max not to move out of the corner until given permission. Enjoy a glass of wine or read your newspaper as Max stands there with his nose to the wall, waiting and waiting and waiting ... At your leisure, go back to Max's corner and slowly take his briefs down until they are at hs knees, his jeans should be at ankles and briefs at his knees. Now hand spank his bare bottom, double it up now and make it 50 good hard ones, all while he stands in the corner. Scold naughty Max, and explain that from now on he is going to spanked regularly and spend lots of time with his nose in the corner. Leave him for another 15 - 20 minutes. Once you are satisifued he has done enough thinking time, go to to his corner, take him by the ear and lead him to the spanking chair. When you put Max over your knees, make sure his head is well down, nose to the floor and his legs free to kick in the air, like the naughty boy he is. Now tan his buns good and hard, ignore pleas and promises, just get down to a good old fashioned, long and hard dad to son bare bottom spanking. Once the tears begin, you will know you are making progress, still its not enough.  Elevate the boy further over you lap, and spank his sit spots, thighs where it will do him the most good.  Contiune spanking until he goes limp over your lap. At this point you can lift Max up and sit him in your lap, and tenderly discuss his behaviour again, together and set some new rules for him. Next back in the corner he goes, nose to the wall and NO RUBBING - if he rubs, put him back over your knees and start all over again. While Max is in the corner, run him a bath, and then finally bathe him - take good care of that ever so hot and red bottom! Dress him in his shorts pajama set for bed .. and then of course spank him again before tucking him in for the night. Tell Max, in the morning he had better be in the corner by 8am, and he is confined to tee shirt only for the whole day! Get the paddle and set in on the spanking chair. Start all over again! So on Friday, start with hand, Saturday Paddle and Sunday Hairbrush :) - A nice weekend of punishment and spanking!          

What a great time we had the night before. My best buddy, also a Spanking Dad, and I invited two of our favorite spankees over to my place for a evening of disciplinary fun. We started off with a two dad/two brat scenario. We spanked our brats together; we spanked each other's brat; and eventually made them spank each other.  We positioned them OTK, over the arm of the sofa and face down on the bed.  We used hand, hairbrush, belt and a spatula.  Between sessions we broke for pizza and beer.  It was a memorable night.  The brats left about 2 am and my buddy & I crashed naked, exhausted and happy into bed. The following morning I slipped on my robe and headed for the kitchen to make coffee followed by my buddy in his boxer shorts.  While searching for mugs, he came across my hidden stash of 7 unopened letters from the IRS, the last 3 of which were registered and had required my signature. "Why are you getting registered letters from the IRS?" "Don't worry about it.  It's nothing" "The IRS doesn't send registered letters for nothing.  What's going on? and Why are they unopened?" Embarrassingly, I explained that I hadn't filed my federal income tax for a while.  In answer to his next question, I sheepishly admitted "3 years". "Are you crazy?", he barked.  "They could garnish your wages which might cause you to lose your job.  And worst case scenario, you could be arrested." "I know all that. I've been meaning to get around to it." "For all you know, they might have already started proceedings which you won't be aware of unless you open those letters". "I've been a little afraid to open them."' "Are you hoping it will all just go away?" "Something like that, I guess" "Man, talk about someone who needs a damn good spanking!" My hands instinctively reached back to cover my ass.  "Now don't get any ideas". "It may be the best idea I've had in years". At this point in my life, I hadn't been spanked in 12 or 13 years and I had never ever been threatened with a real spanking for real reasons.  Admittedly, the present situation caused a blush in my face and a slight arousal under my robe. I stood there speechless not wanting it to happen and wanting it to happen at the same time. "Well?", he said. What do you want me to say?" "I want you open those letters immediately or so help me I'm going to spank you until you do". Believe it or not, guys, all those spanking clichés are not so cliché after all as I blurted out, "You're not serious?" To prove that he was serious, he walked over to my desk where I kept my instruments and retrieved my hairbrush.  He placed the tip of the brush on the letters.  "Are you going to open them or are you going across my knee?" It was decision time. Do I tell him to mind his own business or do I fulfill a life-long fantasy? I still wasn't sure he would actually go through with it but I had to know. Defiantly, I said "I'll do it when I feel like it". "Okay, you had your chance".  He grabbed me by the wrist and pulled me over to a kitchen chair. He sat down and flung me across his lap.  I started to get up but he pushed me back down.  With one hand on the small of my back, he draped one leg across both of mine. Effectively, he locked me in place. "You can't do this, John.  I've been a Dad now for almost 15 years and Dads don't get spanked". "They do when they act as foolishly and as irresponsibly as you have. And I'd much rather see you spanked  than hauled off to jail." He lifted my robe and exposed my bare ass.  He landed about 25 smacks with the brush across my bottom until I was squirming and howling.  It hurt a lot more than I remembered.  Now I wasn't so sure that I wanted my fantasy fulfilled.  "Please. John, stop." "You have one way only of getting me to stop.  Are you going to open those letters?" My ass was burning and my eyes were wet from the sting. My body was ready to give in but my inner brat kept reminding me that the likelihood of a situation like this arising in my lifetime was next to nil.  I had to know how we would take this.Like the whining brat that I always knew I was, I said "You can't make me do what I don't want to". "We'll see about that". Both John and I knew that I could forcibly put a stop to this any time I chose to. But since I was responding as if I didn't have power to resist, he decided to continue. He dropped the hairbrush, lifted my robe over my head and off, unlocked my legs and dropped the letters on the floor directly in my line of sight. He began using his brawny hands on my rear. I began squirming and kicking my legs and whimpering.  Years before this I had learned a muscle relaxing technique that allowed whatever emotions a body was experiencing to bubble up to the surface and out.  I employed that technique at this point. After about 10 minutes or so of solid hand spanking and scolding, my whimpering got louder and soon began to turn into sobs.  The sobs turned into tears streaming down my cheeks.  That was enough for me.  I picked up the letters and began waving them about.  "Alright, alright.  I give up.  I'll open the letters". "When?" "Right now, I swear it." He kept me across his knee for a few more minutes while I caught my breath and my sobs subsided. The he gently helped me stand on my wobbly legs.  While I was rubbing my bare ass, he pulled out another kitchen chair and said "SIT!" "You know perfectly well I won't be able to sit until at least tomorrow." He moved to my desk and retrieved a pen and then to my sofa for a pillow.  He placed the pillow on the chair and again commanded that I sit. I gently eased my butt onto the pillow. The heat from my ass warmed it immediately.  He put the last received letter in my hand and told me to open it. He was right, of course.  The threats he mentioned were there but there was still time to avoid them. A form was enclosed which he ordered me to fill out requesting an appointment with an IRS agent.  after I signed it, he placed it into the enclosed envelope, sealed it and put it in his pocket. "I'm going to mail this myself to make sure you don't accidentally lose it.  Now, say 'thank you, John for being such a good friend and giving me the spanking I deserved'." "Oh, c'mon, John. I feel embarrassed enough." He didn't say a thing. He just folded his arms across his chest and stared me down. "Okay! Thank you, John, for being such a good friend and giving me the spanking I deserved." "That's better!".  Now, gather up all your tax records because I'm making an appointment with my accountant and we're going together there to get you up to speed and ready for your IRS session.  Now, what do you say?" "Thank you, John. I really do appreciate it". "Even the spanking?" "Yes, even the spanking." Neither of us ever admitted that we both got caught up in a real-life scenario that we just had to see through to the end. or that we both thoroughly enjoyed it. However, being my very best friend, he spent the next hour massaging my ass with Vaseline Intensive Care Lotion which we both could freely admit we enjoyed.rver unreachable

I was 22, fresh out of college and had landed my first real grown-up job.  I realized from the job interview itself that my future boss, a 44 yr old, trim, married man with two college-age daughters was attracted to me.  Hell, guys, at 22 I was 5'9", 145 lbs, with a shock of curly black hair, ebony eyes and a smooth, firm butt.  I was no Rock, Rory or Tab but I had what my boss later described as a certain Greco-Roman appeal. So, yes, I flirted with him to jet the job.  The flirting came easy since all my fantasies from grammar school up to the present time involved being bare-ass spanked across the knee of an older male authority figure.  And he certainly fit the bill. Up to this point that's all they were - just fantasies. I had had some minor sexual experiences in college but was still too embarrassed to bring up the subject of spanking. As soon as he told me I had the job, I decided that if this man wants to get into my pants, he is going to have to take them down and spank me first. He took me under his wing and showed me the ropes of the job.  He hovered over me and managed to put his arm around my shoulder while at my desk - careful to check my work only when the other two members of the office staff were out to lunch, of course. During one of our many private and innuendo-filled conversations, I told him how much he reminded me of my real Dad who was only 3 yrs older than he was,  He was a little put off by the "Dad" comparison until I mentioned how affectionate and loving my Dad was. And how much I admired and respected him - even when he felt the need to spank me. (There, I had finally said the word out loud. There was no stopping me now.) He assumed I meant some mild swats across my 5 or 6 year old ass but I corrected him immediately.  I told him my Dad always put me across his knee and smacked my bare butt when I deserved it; that I had been spanked that way all through high school and even once in my sophomore year of college..  I was making it all up as I went along.  My Dad never laid on hand on me although I fantasized about that a lot. I think he found my high school and college spankings hard to reconcile but the thought of a man's hand on my bare ass certainly aroused him. He smiled and said "Well now I know how to handle you when you screw up at the office". I smiled back.  "You'd have my Dad's blessing, I'm sure." "I'll remember that". Nothing more was said about it for a few weeks and I had given up hope.  But then I finally did screw up at the office Nothing major but a real nuisance.  He called me into his office and explained my mistake to me and showed me how to correct it.  I apologized profusely and promised it would never happen again.   "Okay, you can go now." DAMN! he'd forgotten. "That's a relief", I said.  "I thought maybe you were going to spank me." I think he realized for the first time that our previous conversation was not an idle one - that I would not only accept a bare-ass spanking from him but that I really wanted it. With a little glint in his eye, he said, "That's still a possibility.  I'm considering it and I'll let you know by the end of the end of the day". I could hardly concentrate on my work for the rest of the day.  All I could think about was that IT might finally happen for real. At 5 minutes of 5PM, he came out of his office carrying his briefcase and wearing his coat.  My hopes were dashed once again. But he stopped by my desk and asked if I could possibly come into work on Saturday. he wanted to go over my error again without any other interruptions. I agreed immediately.  He told me to dress casually since we'd be alone. it was only Wednesday and I had to spend the next few days imagining all sorts of outcomes for our Saturday session.  Will he actually just explain my error again?  Will he try to have sexual relations?  Or will he, as I hoped, take down my pants and tight-whites, put me over his knee and give me the sound spanking I'd been dreaming about for the last 15 or so years? I wore a brand new pair of tight-whites and my tightest jeans with a tee on Saturday. I didn't comb my hair too carefully and let some of it fall in front of eyes.  I was sitting on the floor in the hall when he arrived.  He  wore light summer slacks and a short-sleeved pullover. He unlocked the front door of the office and we went in.  I noticed that he locked the door again but I didn't say anything. "Did you want me to get out my ledger book, Sir? "That won't be necessary, son". "Didn't you want to explain my error to me again?" "I've already explained it to you". "Then why are we here, Boss?"  I really wanted the full treatment so I played it naively. "You know perfectly well why we're here -alone". "I think I know but I'm not quite sure." "What do you think you know?" I still wasn't sure whether he meant sex or spanking or possibly both. So I took the lead. "I think you're going to spank me for what I did wrong just like my Dad used to". "Remind me, son! How did your dad do it?" "He would take my pants and underpants down and put me across his lap and smack my bare ass with his hand." "Weren't you embarrassed to be treated like that in college?" "A little, Sir, but it was for my own good and the fact that he still disciplined me showed me that he really cared." "I care too." "I sensed that in your right away." "What happened after the spanking?" "I would hug and kiss him to show that I still loved him, and sometimes he would rub my bare ass to help ease the sting".  I was getting used to saying "ass" instead of butt or bottom.  "Spank" and "ass" were two words that always got me aroused. "I'd be happy to massage your ass." "I'd like that. I'd do my best to show my appreciation." "How?" "Any way you'd like".  If I actually got spanked today I'd be ready for anything. "May I make a suggestion, Sir?  I wouldn't want to wrinkle those nice pants of your by squirming over your lap.  Perhaps, it would be best if you took them off first." "You first, son." I pulled my tee over my head and flung it on a nearby table. I kicked off my shoes and put them aside.  I removed my socks and put them on top of my tee.  I unbuckled my belt and dropped my jeans, stepped out them and kicked them out of the way.  I was now standing in front of a very lustful older man wearing only my brand-new Fruit of the Looms - so thin and tight that you could see my ass right through them.  I was tenting, of course, and I had an appropriate wet spot. "The briefs too, son." I turned around and slowly slid my undies to the floor.  I bent over to pick them up and show him my full ass at the same time. He got up and turned me around and saw my extended cock for the first time.  He leaned in to kiss me but I told him I only kissed my Dad after he spanked me. He undressed in a hurry to reveal striped boxer shorts and his own tent. "I've never spanked anyone before", he said. "Neither did my Dad before me and he learned fast." He had a two-seater vinyl couch in his office and I told him to sit down.  When he did, I walked over to him and draped myself across his knee.  It was the very first time I was ever in that position and I was so revved up that I just blurted out "Spank me, Boss and hard. You won't regret it." Who ever forgets that very first spank?  I know I never will.  The first one was gentle but warm.  "Don't be gentle, Boss. Really smack my ass". He started to spank me slowly and my ass started to squirm.  This was the reality and it was far more exciting than any fantasy I had ever had.  I think the sight of my ass turning pink really excited him too. He began to spank harder and faster. "Am I learning fast?" "You're getting there." Every time he asked me if I'd had enough I said no. I wanted this to go on and on and on till I was sobbing but I was afraid it would turn him off.  When I thought that HE had had enough, I told him to stop. I stood up and rubbed my ass.  Sheeepishly, I thanked him for caring.  And told him I expected a spanking whenever he thought it would do us both some good. Now what happened after that is not a fit subject for this site, So I will leave all of that to your imagination. Suffice it to say that we got together almost every Saturday morning.  The spankings got harder and harder.  Eventually he put up with my squirming and whimpering and promising to do better becausehe knew how affectionate I was after a good hard spanking. And he taught me  a lot about showing my appreciation.  This went on for a little more than two years when I got a better job. I have only one regret.  After about 8 months of this, he mentioned to me that he had told his wife that he had spanked a young man in his office a "few" times and that she would like to meet me.  He invited me to dinner at his home.  I knew nothing about his home life but I guess it was kind of open and kinky. I finally knew the full feeling of embarrassment.  My whole body flushed and I stammered that I didn't think that was a good idea.  So I never met her. I'm sorry now that I never went because I now had a brand-new unfulfilled fantasy - being spanked bare-ass across my boss' lap while his wife watched and encouraged him. Embarrassment was and always will be a major part of a spankee's fantasy.

Today I send a old pics, this pics I maker in 2009, is a initial in my hobbie, uniforms, and discipline, in this year I have a little dress, not have a expensive, today I have a great collection of elements uniforms, shirts, shorts, socks, ties and shoes, for my hobbie, I send, in this site a old pics, in my sessions, look please and comment.

I was a full twenty-one years of age when I accidently found out that I was not the only guy in the universe who became aroused at the thought of being hauled across the knee of an older gentleman and bare-ass spanked to tears. These were still the pre-internet days and, being a timid soul back then, I was still a virgin.  There was simply no one with whom I could discuss my "aberration". Having reached legality, I screwed up enough courage to enter an adult book store for the first time in my sheltered life and stumbled across a revolving rack of M/M spanking paperbacks - the covers of which graphically illustrating the fantasies that had consumed me since early childhood: spanked by Dad for sassing mom; by my teacher for disrupting class; by my neighbor for skinny-dipping in his pool; by a cop for speeding; by a college classmate for a prank gone awry; by the forest ranger for tossing a lit cigarette into the woods; etc, etc, etc. I was reeling.  How could this be? Who had peered into my deepest, darkest secrets and written them all down? I purchased 4 of the novels and devoured them that same night.  I came to understand that my "aberration" was not an aberration at all but a sexual fetish that I shared with thousands and thousands of others.  I was also greatly relieved that my mind was not as warped as I had always imagined it to be. From that night on, the next milestone in my life was predetermined. However, it was a full year later that I reached it and finally turned fantasy into reality.  But that's another blog.

The last 12 months have been more than challanging with the necessity of the script upgrade, which led to a number of issues and down time. I know we were all used to the old version, but it was no longer supported by the developers.  It meant the old version of the script would break on something as simple as a browser update, for example by microsoft or mozilla. We have successfully got the the point where things are coming together, and it will take many more months until everything is they way it needs to be.  I promise you, I am dedciated to this community and I will make it happen. One of the primary issues we experienced is resource variables.  With what we have run in the past, this was fairly easy, simply setting up PHP and MYSQL limits and the execution mode.  With the site now consuming more resources, this opened up a whole lot more than I was prepared for.  As an example we use Maria DB in conjunction with Apache, and PHP - all of these have their own resource limits and processes and require tuning.  There are dozens of variables and getting one wrong can either slow the site to a crawl or cause it to go off-line.  This was a major learning curve for me, and I have learned a lot as a result.  It may sound silly but increasing one resource can actually degrade the site speed, it is an art of ballance and each componont has a relationship with the other - this leads to many many potentiol combinations.  Our ideal setup is using Nginx and PhP-FPM or Apache and Nginx as a reverse proxy.  I simply do not understand Nginx enough to make it work with the script.  I will though learn, I will use our backup server and figure it out, it will take time, but with patience and practice I shall succeed. Before I continue, the social network did change name but southspanking.com will be back.  Southspanking,com will be the main portal and will have many other features, hotbottoms.net will remain the social network and will be accessible from southspanking.com.  Some of you might remember my mentioning a virtual world specifically for the male to male spanking community, that will become a reality and again accessible from southspanking.com.  Think of southspanking.com as being the parent and all other aspects being sub processess. You will be surpised I am sure, as we make further progress. Over the next few months, below are our primary goals, and today we introuduced a side bar view on videos and photos, allowing you to comment straight from a photo or image. Fix the chat bar (Sunday 15th July) Move to the last server hardware (expected to last for the next 2 - 3 yrs) Thursday 18th July.  This includes doubling our current bandwidth and a lot more besides. In August Fix genders so that options are Spanker, Spankee, Switch and Curious.  Also setup a memorial group for our sadly deceased members. September, will be theme and menu time, where we actually make the menus with drop down boxes and fix the phrases and remove the icons that we never use, such as social media. October - Nothing, I will be in Europe and I am hoping I shall not spend too much time in Onkels or Amsterdams corners or over their knees, but rather in bars with Max and Baltic! November - Meetups and events will be available and will work very well .. we will also create some reward groups - that will be fun! December - Dynamic Languages will be available, including French, Italian, Russian, German and more - you will simply be able to click a button and change language. Thats all for now and I shall update our 2019 objectives towards the end of the rear, I mean year! Hugs and everyone tell Onkel and Amsterdad I am a very good boy, and that I need hugs and not spankings and corner time, especially in October!              

Experimenting in LTR with a rule: no Sunday night goes by without a spanking that week. And if one is needed, it goes something like the following. This is somewhat aspirational; trying to institute it as a regular routine. In this procedure, I am the boy. We are switches, but the other way around is more irregular and somewhat shorter. I need it more than he does.  Weekly Maintenance/Punishment Pants-Down Spanking   As described, this is a moderately hard spanking that an experienced bottom should be able to take at least once each week. It could be for “punishment” (fantasy or real), or just because a boy needs to be spanked regularly, which is sufficient reason.   Spanker seated on bed or sofa. Boy’s pants and underwear come down to around knees. Over the knee for a rather hard, steady-rhythm, moderately fast, hand spanking of at least one hundred smacks. Boy’s butt is nicely reddened, but this is the warm up. Warm up is crucial but it doesn’t mean pitty-pat. It means a spanking by hand only, but it’s actually pretty hard right from the start.   A break of about ten full minutes. (The break is important) May or may not involve standing, pants down but not off, facing the wall.   Spanker selects suitable OTK paddle or short strap (or both, in succession). Boy goes back over the knee, or spanker stands and puts him over one knee, or just bends him over and stands alongside. Pants down, but underwear may be up for the first part. Pants may or may not come all the way off for all or part. Spanking is again steady, but only moderately hard. It may go through four or five “periods,” with various brief breaks, or be one continuous go. Spanking should consist of a minimum of four hundred strokes. During periods or throughout, steady, regular rhythm, not too slow, is important. Howling, kicking, crying, etc. are ignored or controlled.   Afterwards, boy is given a few moments to recover, then stands, bends over (same position as one of the options above, or spanker may stand back a little for school-style swats). Spanker then administers between five and fifteen considerably harder but not full-strength swats, about one every three to five seconds, to bare butt or possibly clad only in underwear, For this kind of spanking, counting, or announcing how many he’s going to get, is not necessary. Boy finds out how many swats when it’s over. If the spanking is for something that requires some extra emphasis (in combination with maintenance), or it just feels like there’s a need for it, there could be more swats here, and/or a second round of 400 or so smacks after this phase, followed by another phase of harder swats.    

I like to get spanked. Quite hard, although not with brutality. By men, exclusively. I also like to spank men, but this isn’t about that; I’m (somewhat) predominantly a bottom, although sometimes have the urge to be a top. I’ll post something about that another time. The very idea of getting spanked or spanking a woman is out of the question for me. I am not bi, sexually, or with this kink. It is exclusively male/male for me.   I am married (to a man), which includes this kink on a pretty regular basis (I get spanked about three to four times a month or so; the other way around much less often but not never). Our relationship is essentially monogamous, but we do "play" with other guys, usually together but occasionally, usually just because of logistics, separately. Most of these encounters involve us as tops, just because it's easier when you're older (I'm 65 now) to find younger guys who want to get spanked than who want to spank you. I’m skipping the description; you can look at my profile. I’m an older guy, in reasonable shape, and decently boyish butt for my age. Someone looking for young men to spank would pass me by, of course. I have no illusions. But I know there are guys, some somewhat younger than me, some my age or a little older, who would click with me and enjoy doing “our thing.” I’m not looking for a relationship, or deep emotional involvement, although I have become good friends with a few guys whom I’ve done this with, over the years.   So anyway, I like to get spanked, on the bare butt, and often enough that I sometimes seek it outside the couple relationship, with honesty and disclosure. Spanking is arousing. It’s sexual, at least for me. Peace with all those who insist they’re only in it for “discipline.” I find that hard to believe or understand, but to each his own. Discipline takes care of itself, and it is part of this thing we share, but spanking, as fantasy and as practice, is a huge part of what turns me on, makes me tick erotically. But for me, spanking outside my relationship is just spanking. Maybe a little body contact, and j/o, but no sex sex, and it isn’t a prelude to a romantic involvement. That doesn't mean it isn't "real," or doesn't involve any emotional contact, just that it's casual, whereas my marriage is a lifetime commitment. Someone primarily looking for a long term relationship would not be interested.    Here’s what works for me. I’m not really into pain, per se. I don’t like to be flogged or whipped on the back, and beyond a few stray smacks, I don’t go for being spanked or whipped on the legs or thighs either. Spanking is on the butt. (The French call it fesser, which also means the butt, for a reason). I’m not especially turned on by shared fantasy and role play, such as naughty student getting paddled, or whatever. I can be flexible, and have a fair amount of experience with this kind of acting out, but that’s not the focus, for me, and scenes where it’s mostly drama and only pretend action, without honest to goodness butt whacking don’t work for me at all.   I can and do take a very long and hard spanking, but I really need to have a warm-up, usually in the form of a quite hard, relatively long, spanking with bare hand, with my pants down (not necessarily off), on bare butt, with me OTK. I can usually take almost any level of hand-spanking, fast and hard, right out of the box (with occasoinal exceptions; there are men who can spank so hard with their bare hands that I need a warm up before getting even to that; but that's not usual). Anyway I can’t and don’t enjoy going straight to strapping or paddling hard without a warm-up. This can be scene-killer for me. I think I understand the reasons for this pretty well (after over 35 years of experience, you get to know yourself and find out a thing or two about how it works). Most guys know this, anyway: spanking, beyond a certain level of intensity, and varying from guy to guy, causes the release of endorphins, which enable you to experience the stimulus and other aspects, and plenty of the pain, but not so much that you just want to get the hell out of there. After getting spanked, pretty hard, by hand, for five or ten minutes or more; it’s time for a break.  I like it preferably fairly continuously and steadily; I’m not jazzed by a spank, feel, feel, feel, feel, spank rhythm. Spanking should be spanking, and it should be pretty hard and pretty fast… taking into account that if you’re going to do it for a long time, you have to keep it to a certain level, to have room for it to get harder at the end. Mainly there should be some fairly steady rhythm to it. Not everyone agrees, but for me this is actually very important. After getting spanked OTK by hand like this, a break is essential. Corner time is totally boring to me, but if that’s a guy’s thing, I have done it, and it does serve the purpose. For some guys it's very important, so you try to be accommodating. But what’s important is a break.  At least ten minutes. To let the feeling sink in and the body do its magical thing. With some guys, a hug or being held is nice at this point, but that depends on chemistry.   Then the spanking can resume, and get much more intense. I like OTK positions best, or better, kind of angled OTK, spanker seated on couch or bed. Or, it can also be really hot to have a standing OTK, but that requires a good deal of balance. Or top standing, with arm around torso and spanker bent over (this is not “touch your toes;” it’s more intimate). I like to be spanked with a paddle. Not given a series of school swats. A little of that is OK, but what really gets me going is continuous, moderate intensity spanking, with bursts of speed and intensity; punctuated by short breaks, at the discretion of the spanker. Not too much dialogue; not an elaborate punishment scenario with lots of lecturing and feedback. (Look, I deserve it, I need it, so why do we have to talk about it?). No counting swats. I just don’t like it. Some guys do, I don’t. No promising to be a good boy. (OK, a little of any of these, but not too much). I also like to be spanked with a short strap. I have a handled rubber strap that’s worse than most wooden paddles. I will also get into to being spanked with a hairbrush. A folded belt is OK, but actually less effective. Not keen on sticks, canes, switches, or whjps. We all have our preferences. Some strapping, with a longer strap such as a razor strop or handled prison-type strap, while prone on a bed, or up on pillows, or bent over the edge of a bed or desk, although it’s not my favorite implement or positioning. Whipping with a strap or belt does work better with the bottom positioned lying on his stomach. Some disagree with this, but I've found it to be true.   All of these implements have to be controlled… the goal is to spank thoroughly and long, leaving a very, very red butt, but not to break the skin. Again, a little of that is OK, but not huge weeping sores. I’ve been there and done that, and, frankly, it’s too inconvenient to be worth it. Very young or inexperienced guys will get weepy sores from even a moderately hard spanking, and to some extent that's the initiation they just have to go through before their butts toughen up to where they can "take" a hard spanking without damage (which invariably happens). A skillful spanker can spank the crap out of an experienced bottome for a long time, again, hard but not brutal, without doing that kind of damage. Here's a newsflash (for some): spanking hurts. I squirm. I cry a little (not tears, but involuntary crying, or low howling (not screaming). I am more verbal than some. And there are times during my spanking when I really, really wish it was over. But that, in fact, is what I want, to really get it, lose the control and have to take it. In fact, although some guys my age have definitely slowed down, or switched to being exclusively tops, if I don’t get a good hard spanking at least once a week, I start to get antsy.        

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These aren’t intended as prescriptions or rigid rules, just the way my husband (partner in our 21st year together) and I work out a long term relationship where our primary erotic bond is spanking. Thought it might be interesting, and just possibly of some use, to some guys trying to make a partnership work or just wondering what might work in the future.   Both of us have been “into it” since early youth. We’re now 64 and 53 respectively, in pretty good shape, but it just shows that spanking is not limited to young men or only for older + younger. It can work as a lifelong practice. It’s just there. Primary turn-on. What makes our dicks hard. We don’t have a “domestic discipline” relationship, although there are sometimes elements of that. When we first started out, more than 20 years ago, I was actually more of the top (I’m 11 years older), but fairly early on it emerged in the dynamic between us that I am mostly bottom, and he’s mostly top. Ranging from 75/25 to 90/10. But we are switches, which is a minority within a minority within a minority. But it suits us, so that’s it. I like and need to get spanked regularly, and so does he, but less often, and he likes to spank even more than I do. When we play with others, which we’ve started doing again after a long time of spanking as well as sexual monogamy, we’re usually both spankers, and we both know how to give a good, long hard bare bottom spanking that is sensitive to the needs of the spankee. Neither of us has ever been much for “sensual” or “erotic” spanking, which we sometimes deride as “pitty pat.” Spanking for us is real. It’s pretty hard to very hard, and it hurts. Paddling and strapping hurts a lot. We accommodate (of course) the limits of others, but the guys we really like to play with like it somewhere between hard and very hard. No blood or injury, but seriously sore butt. Crying and squirming. Occasionally even mild restraint if needed and wanted.   Sometimes we’ve gone weeks without spanking, but when things are in synch, it’s maybe once a week to every two weeks. Currently experimenting with not letting a Sunday night go by without at least a quick otk spanking on bare before bed if there hasn’t been a spanking already that week. (Which means like 200 hard slaps; an actual discipline spanking in the real world is usually much less than that, but you make adjustments if you’re into this… a long session might take an hour and a half and involve three or four rounds of paddling, each with 50 or more swats with a paddle on bare; or similar duration of strapping).   So what are the “rules”?   Consensual always. This goes without saying, or should. Sometimes a spanking involves crying, squirming, real pain. And the spankee really wants it to be over, but he doesn’t try to stop it and wants the experience of being spanked for real, which means it really, really hurts and sometimes you’re not sure you can take it. You have to work these things out, and make sure you know what’s OK and what isn’t. Which leads to… Communicate. Talk about it, before and after. Understand what your partner likes and needs, and try to give it to him. This works both ways. It’s not just what the spankee needs, but what the spanker needs too. Get in the mood. Everyone is different. For me, as an older man, what works is stimulation through spanking related porn, especially videos. But edge, don’t come. Get it up, fantasize about spanking, get the juices flowing, but don’t let yourself come, even for a few days, until after the spanking. OK, this may not be everyone’s experience, but it’s definitely mine. I can be ready for a spanking pretty reliably if I do a little stimulus the day before, but avoid orgasm till afterwards. To guys who say spanking is only discipline for them, not erotic, OK, ignore this. Live your life the way you see fit. But for us, this is how it is. Do what you talk about. Role play, what implements, how long, how hard, positions, whether punishment for something or just because you need it, whatever. Have a plan, because you don’t really want to talk about this stuff too much during the spanking. Spanking works best when it’s “in the groove.” These things are important, but everybody’s different. You have to find what works for you two, which inevitably involves some compromise, no matter how similar your tastes are. If your tastes are too different, you may just be incompatible, but there’s lots of room to adjust and do some give and take. Warm up. Find a good intensity, serious, fairly hard, probably only with hand, that can get you going but not be so hard you lose the excitement. 200 slaps is about right, gradually intensifying. This is real spanking, just not extremely hard yet. We almost always do this OTK, on bare from the very start, but you have to find what works for you. Rhythm is important. Not everyone agrees, but for me this is vital. Spanking should have a steady, even relentless rhythm to it. Not too slow, and not insanely fast either. You take breaks, but when you’re spanking, spank. Don’t smack, smackety, rub, rub, smack. Spank like you mean it. Connect. Even if it’s not that hard, make a strong and complete connection with the butt and hand or implement. Spanking should exude masculine energy, which means steady and connected strokes, regardless of how hard it is. After warmup, take a break. It can be just 5-10 min. Corner time is good if you like that (we kinda don’t), but a break is important. Gets the endorphins flowing. After this break, the spanking can become more intense, and last much, much longer. Several rounds, with breaks, is the usual way of it, especially if you want it to be long and memorable. Don’t change implements too often. If you use more than one paddle or strap, there should be a reason, like you have a graduated increase in size and weight, or something. Each round is best done with a single implement. If you like to do brush, paddle, strap, cane (we don’t like canes), do them in sequence by rounds, not switching back and forth arbitrarily. This is more important to the overall experience than you might think. An exception is you can put a paddle or whatever down and finish off a round with really hard hand spanking. Somehow that’s always welcome. Know your partner. Ideally, safe words should not be necessary. You should try to develop the ability to read even guys you’re playing with you don’t know well to sense when it’s too hard or not hard enough, or when they need a break. It’s not perfect, and sometimes you need to just “use your words,” especially as a bottom. Just say it if it needs saying. It won’t “break the scene.” If it does, the scene is too fragile anyway. Push yourself a little. Even after years with a partner, spanking can sometimes slip into routine, and it’s good to push it to a higher level now and then. Have a really long, hard session that leaves you really sore.  

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Well 2017 was something else!  I think I want to start off by remembering those that we have lost in the last year.  It is never easy, whether it is family or close friends.  We can all remember them in our hearts and in our prayers. I want to thank everyone of you for your support and I appreciate all the words of encouragement, particulary over the site failure and its rebirth.  It is important to note that change is never easy and for some members it it will take time.  Even though they might sound negative that's good, all feedback is important as we move forward.  We are a very diversive community and sometimes it is easy to miss cultural differences, what one culture views as normal another may view as rude, when infact its simple furstration.  I ask everyone to please take that into consideration before hitting that send button on a comment. Our moderators do a fantatic job, and the member contributions are amazing.  This community is what keeps the site alive, thank you everyone. I do want to make a special thank you to Isma, who creates some of the most amazing art I have ever seen.  He is a true gentleman, hugs and thanks Isma! This year will bring some major changes, and we will work on them bit by bit until we get it right.  All I can ask is your patience.  I will make some mistakes as I go along, and thats normal but it will all pull together and the site will be better than ever before.  This blog is where I am going to post updates as we progress. I am looking forward to the year ahead, to making new friends, to working with you on the site and to having fun. hugs James

Kind of old, but a good ice-breaker:There was a young boy who'd been badAnd deserved to be spanked by his dadHis mom said "Your dad'lltan you with a paddle"And Sonny said "Frankly, I'm glad"

MY LIFE ACCORDING TO: Pet Shop Boys BY: Clansmanchris Using only song names from ONE ARTIST or ONE GROUP, cleverly answer these questions. Pass it on to fifteen people you like and include me; even if you don’t like me! But I hope you do! You can’t use the artist or the group I used. Try not to repeat a song title. It’s a lot harder than you think! Repost as “my life according to (your chosen artist or group)”. Pick your Artist or Group: Pet Shop Boys Are you a male or a female: New York City Boy Describe yourself: Young Offender Describe where you currently live: Suburbia If you could go anywhere, where would you go: Where The Streets Have No Name Your favourite form of transportation: I Get Along You and your best friends are: So Hard Favourite time of day: It's A Sin If your life was a television show, what would it be called: I Wouldn't Normally Do This Type of Thing What is life to you: What Have I Done To Deserve This? Your relationship: Rent Your fear: West End Girls What is the best advice you have to give: Go West Thought for the day: Always On My Mind How I would like to die: Left To My Own Devices My soul’s present condition: A Red Letter Day

As I explained in one of my previous posts, I’ve created a spanking profile on gay/SMS dating app PlanetRomeo. It was already after midnight when a twenty-something-year-old boy started a chat. He told me he was excited about my profile and was lying ‘ass up face down’ on his bed, wearing only briefs, imagining I could enter anytime to give him a spanking. I narrated how I would do that and after each message he was getting more excited. After several messages he responded: Please come. Are you serious about this, I asked him. He confirmed. Realising that it would take 25 minutes to get to his place, that it was already 2.00am, and that you never know for sure whether or not you’re chatting with a faker, I hesitated. But he really wanted me to come over and spank him like a little boy. Then—for reasons I cannot fully explain—I decided to take a leap of faith and come his way. He gave me his address and told me he would leave the door to his studio apartment unlocked. When I arrived at the building and rang his door bell, he automatically opened the main door. I went upstairs and arrived at his apartment. Still uncertain what to expect, I opened his door. I entered the room, which was almost fully dark, but the corridor light enlightened the silhouette of a slim boy lying on his bed wearing only black briefs. I stepped into the story he and I had started to write half an hour ago. I closed the door behind me, took off my jacket and shoes, and walked up to the bed. I could hear him breathe. I gently touched his legs and moved my hands up towards his lovely round butts. After pausing for a while, my hands moved up to his back and neck. I moved my head towards his ears and whispered: Are you just lying here naked wearing only briefs? Yeah, he said. Are you being naughty? Yes daddy, he responded. His voice trembled a little. I moved my hands down, lifted up his hips and slowly tried to pull his briefs down. But his briefs got stuck on something. I moved my hands below his hips and identified the obstacle. Are you having a hard-on, I asked? Yes, dad, I’m sorry. In one fast move I took off his briefs, sat down next to him on the bed and gave him two slaps on both of his cheeks. He wiggled and squirmed a little. I will teach you a good lesson, I said, and I continued spanking him. Because I didn’t know how much he could take and because I couldn’t see his face, I spanked him gently. But the whole setting—dark room, midnight, first encounter—made it very exciting. Having spanked him for a while, I turned him around on his back, gently grabbed his face and said: have you learned your lesson yet? Yes daddy, he whispered. Then I gently kissed and caressed him in ways I can’t describe.