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Guys, It has taken me a few days to make this post, mainly because I am still actually working on the site. What we have successfully completed is to fix our server faults and to upgrade to the latest version of our current script with a fresh database. We are not finished and we will be upgrading to social engine. I would like to explain a little about performance.  In the coming days / weeks, I will be focusing on it, so that we get to a point where speed and performance is acceptable, that is as far as it goes.  After that I will be working on the social engine migration. Site performance is determined by a number of factors, these include the hardware, operation system, web server, database driver, cache manager and of course at the application level.  In order to get these perfect, would require some intervention from a seasoned professional, as there are literally hundreds of variables involved.  In our case we have Centos 8 - LiteSpeed WebServer - MariaDB - PHP 7.4 -  Redis - Phpfox (as you can see a lot of possible variables) I can do a lot of it but by no means all of it.  One of the things that really helps with a sites speed and performance is a cache plugin and there are a number of these available for Social Engine and WordPress, however nothing for our script, PhpFox. The Social Engine migration will run along side our current script, and no down time will be required until we are fully tested and ready to move.  That is an important feat, and largely due to what we have achieved recently. When we get that move over to Social Engine, I promise you – performance issues will be a thing of the past and mobile and tablet versions of the site will run exceptionally well.  If we want to attract new members and especially younger ones, we need it all to work. I appreciate your patience, and I know I have not delved into a whole lot in this post, but I am hoping to give you some insight on the direction I am moving.  All I can do is ask for your continued support, understanding and patience.    James

Another in our Learning by Doing Series Tips for (New) Tops!* Another in our "Learning by Doing" Series by BigDaddyVegas and RedSpkScott Tip #1 Follow Your Commitment Make Sure You're Compatible Before You Meet If you take the time to talk with somebody and establish a wonderful scene you're going to commit to. If you are hosting, have your place ready to go, when your spankee arrives. spankees, when you come for a Spanking, arrive on time. Do not be super late. spankees, do your best to not let fear slow you down and prevent you from getting the Spankings that you need. Tip #2 Make Sure You're Compatible. Weed out the flakes—a lot of guys only reach out when they're horny—weed out the flakes. Tip #3 Arrive Prepared With Your Bag of Your Spanking Implements You wouldn't show up to a construction site without a toolbox. Baseball types of bags work well, because you can put canes and longer thinner items in there. They're easy and mobile. Tip #4 Test Your Spanking Implements Before You Use Them It's important Tops have a feel for how bad or what a Spanking Tool feels like. Some Spanking Tools can leave you black and blue if you are not paying attention. Learn that first. So, know how to use your implements before you apply them across the seat of a guy you are Spanking. Tip #5 Build and Use Your Spanking Implement Repertoire Practice With The Belt Before You Use The Belt Straps you can usually tell by the weight and the length. Belts and straps can wrap around the hip and ruin a scene. Practice for accuracy. I'm still not perfect, and I use them all the time. First, buy yourself a high quality belt and practice with it. Do not think you can pull a guy's pants down and think you'll be good with a belt right away. It's not going to happen. It's not the way Daddy did it when you were 12 years old and stole a bicycle. Know how to use The Belt before you use it. Paddles can vary greatly. Thicker versus thinner paddles will matter depending on who you are Spanking. For example, a small, thick paddle can be far too much for a new guy.    I recommend using the Jokari paddle in your paddle kit, and now you at least have the Spanking Industry Standard. And folks will know the sound of the Jokari paddle. It's versatile, you can go light with it, and you can break in a new bottom. Or you can really go to town on an experienced guy, but you have just the one paddle. Tip #6 Identify Spankings Locations You don't have to meet at your home. Meet at a public area first—a pub, a Starbucks, etc. It's a good safety precaution. If you don't have a home to go to, try the public Spanking parties or a hotel room. Don't Inadvertently Get SWATted. If you are using paddles in a hotel room, be aware of the noise. If you use a Jokari paddle at full force, it can sound like a .22 gun going off, so be careful, so Aunt Mary next door doesn't call the police saying, "I think I heard shots fired." Avoid being SWATted by an actual SWAT team! Tip #7 Manage Noise  I have a bottom who I have bringing a switch. Those are pretty quiet. Small carpet beaters are really good, because they also do not make a lot of noise. Paddles and bathbrushes will work over jeans, but not bare. You can always turn on the TV, the radio, or turn on the water in the bathroom. If you have to Spank in a hotel room, between 2 to 4 p.m., the hotel is least occupied, so it's primetime to get a Spanking. If you talk to the guys at the registration desk at the hotel, tell them you'll be having a party in your room, and tell them if they could put you away from other guests, that'd be great.    Tell them up front. Tip #8 Develop Good Communication Communicate Well, Then Spank. When you communicate and you are both in sync, then you will always have a better time. So, if you are both into Teacher/student scene, then it'll be great. But if the Top is really into Daddy/son or no roleplaying at all, then it really doesn't work well. Tops need to know, assume that just because you're the Top, your fantasy will be sufficient for the bottom. That's not the case. If you accommodate the bottom, the more in sync the bottom is with you, the more the bottom will relinquish control and be able to play more the way the Top wants to. Do not get super intense—including grabbing, choking, faceslapping, or other "liberties"—without clear, usually verbal permission from the bottom.    [Not doing so] can result in a complete scene killer. Tip #9 Ensure a Great Warm-up Great Spankers will Spank less to begin with, so you can get your boy to have the endorphin rush. That will help extend the scene much longer. Prepare the bottom first. I may use a belt over his jeans first, to warm him up to get the anticipation flowing of what he thinks he'll get. Once you get to know a guy and establish trust, these Rules obviously develop as you progress and familiarize with one another. Tip #10 Use Humiliation Effectively Humiliation Can Work Find Out How! I really encourage humliating guys in public. One way to do this is to use effective Cornertime technique. You can take a bottle cap, credit card, and have your bottom put the object against a wall or The Corner and then put their head [nose] against it [to keep it off the ground and against the wall]. Talk to them as sternly as you want to. You do not have to touch the boy just be complete in his presence. They know you are there. If you want to engage them, Spank them with your hand. That is never the wrong move.    Make the boy keep the bottle cap or credit card against the wall or The Corner with his head/nose—you can even have them put their hands on their head while you stand there. Spank your boy, if he loses his focus or attention with your hand. That'll snap him back into your reality, and you can keep the scene completely in motion even though the Spanking isn't going on in that moment. * Compiled from the December 2017 "DudesSpankingDudes" podcast. "Big Daddy Vegas and Red Spank Scott provided a bunch of "Tips for Tops" about the kinds of things tops, especially less experienced Tops, should plan for when playing with a new dude."       Please comment below or email us with your ideas   aok4otk@aol.com or cornertimeconf@gmail.com ______________________________________ Follow Cornertime Confidential Wherever You Are:   Tumblr  ∙  SouthSpanking ∙  Twitter  ∙  WordPress

Today I send a old pics, this pics I maker in 2009, is a initial in my hobbie, uniforms, and discipline, in this year I have a little dress, not have a expensive, today I have a great collection of elements uniforms, shirts, shorts, socks, ties and shoes, for my hobbie, I send, in this site a old pics, in my sessions, look please and comment.

Life seems to be getting back on track.  My second Covid vaccination was two weeks ago.  Yesterday, I had my first spanking in eleven months.  And it was a big one! This spanking was actually with the same top I saw last August.  At the time, I was looking for a more limited session and he was really good with consent.  So I came back asking for more! One thing that struck me as the day approached was how much I’ve been looking forward to getting my butt beat again.  Of course, I willingly asked for a hard spanking and travelled to him to receive it.  But it’s good to know I’m still attracted to the physical side of spankings.  Though I think I was also suffering from “forgetting what it feels like” syndrome. We started with his hand.  I like a bit of hand spanking.  At first, I concentrated on the hardness between my stomach and the arm of the sofa.  But the swats on my butt soon took hold of my attention. Next was the leather paddle.  That’s an interesting sensation - thuddy in the middle and stingy on the sides.  The pain quickly began to build up.  This was the point where I started to get concerned about what I was in for. Then the top picked up the plimsoll and told me, “this is going to hurt”.  He wasn’t wrong!  I really felt every swat. After that, I was allowed to get up and do a bit of cornertime.  My butt was already pulsing with heat.  But everything so far was just the warm up. It was soon time to bend over again.  This time for the punishment strap.  I took 50 hard strikes of leather.  That really got some noises out of me!  And then it was straight on to the cane… The following is a personal note from Ageless Al to himself:  I don’t like the cane! I’ve gained more attraction to the fantasy of the cane over the course of the pandemic.  I entered the meet ready to go all-in on a hard punishment.  My resolve was broken after two dozen strokes of the cane.  When the top checked in with me, I paused…  and then still asked him to bring the number up to 33 strokes.  But that was the end. In the aftermath, I’m not quite as keen to jump into a heavy punishment.  But I suppose that’s a natural reaction to a good caning.  The cane certainly isn’t a limit if another top thinks I need it. My arse is still sore a day later.  My walking got very stiff when I’d been sitting down yesterday.  This session was a good reminder that pain hurts.  But I’m already starting to think about arranging my next spanking meet...

Does anyone know how to contact the owner(s) of this site? I have sent a couple of messages to the contact email address (southspank@gmail.com) but have not had a response. I assume the owner(s) have profiles on the site -- does anyone know which they are? Thanks, Firmhanded Dad

About two months ago, Daddy told me to write him about why I want to be spanked to tears. I wrote this and it really helped him understand. I translated it from hebrew in case anyone would find it useful.   Dear Daddy, I have been fantasizing about spanking for a very long time. Way before my sexual awakening I would fantasize about being regressed. When other kids in kindergarten played house, I would always avoid it out of fear the other kids would be able to tell that I am not normal. Sometimes I would participate but very quickly end the game because I would get filled with emotions I did not know how to handle.  As years went by my sexual development started and I began to understand that my innocent daydreams about being a little boy and being punished weren’t innocent at all. It started by dreaming about diapers and humiliations and when I learned English it continued with spanking videos and then pictures and comics. Eventually I found the stories. I was sure these were just fantasies and that I would never be able to fulfil it. I felt like I was the only person in the world turned on by these things. By reading those stories and reading blogs I learned exactly what my fantasy is. My fantasy is that someone (daddy, uncle, brother or even mommy, I will proceed to call this person daddy) takes me under his hand and puts me into some kind of structure where to everyone it is absolutely clear I have the role of a little boy. I even fantasize about it being forced, not really against my will but because Daddy understands this is what I really want, and in fact, who I really am, and since he is stronger and smarter, he knows better than I do what is good for me and so he decides this is what’s going to happen from now on. A crucial part of this new situation I’m in is that I get spanked. A lot. All the time. Sometimes spankings are a punishment for misbehavior, then I really get a lot. It’s an ordered, ritualistic and lengthy situation where I am spanked to tears and then some. Punishments happen regardless of my consent. It happens as a part of me being a boy in this structure of being controlled by daddy. It’s a powerful experience that is also contains other forms of punishments and lectures and talking to’s. Another aspect of this structure is that I have a lot of things in my life that suppose to remind me of my new status in life. For example, I am not allowed to wear boxer as those aren’t age appropriate for me. Because I am a little boy, I am to wear little boy’s underwear. I also have other age-appropriate attire such as traditional schoolboy uniforms (from other countries, Israel doesn’t have such traditions), diapers, pajamas, being allowed certain garments in the house and many more.  In addition to what I wear there are also rules and norms I must follow related to my age. There are things I am not allowed to do or to watch. There are things I am supposed to report about. There are things I must ask permission for. I must talk to daddy, or anyone involved with a certain respect. I must obey and not argue too much. There are also good things that I get from being a little boy. I get many hugs, and pets and tender love. Daddy reads me stories and takes me places. He takes care of me and looks after me like I need as a little boy. He holds strictly to the rules and takes by a firm hand but not out of sadism but out of love.  He knows what’s good for me and so he educates me and discipline me. He does not enjoy punishing me, he doesn’t even necessarily like the rules. He does this for me even though it’s hard for him. Regardless of how he feels about this, there is no way in the world I am getting away from this. He is as firm as a brick wall. If he sets a rule, he enforces it. If he punishes me, he doesn’t give me any mercy and does not give into any of my attempts to get out of it. He is reliable, self-assured and as steady as a rock. He gives me so much security. Of course, this is just fantasy. IRL I’m a responsible and functioning adult. I stand on my feet financially and even doing pretty well with most of what I do. So yeah, there are things I still need to work on (like keeping my flat tidy) but overall, I have a place to live which I pay for by myself and there’s a lot more to me as person than just this fantasy of mine. I don’t want to be this controlled boy in any moment of my life. I certainly am not willing to give up other parts of my life for it. I am more than just this fantasy. On the other hand, this is not just another fantasy. This is the center of my sexuality. When I am touching myself, I think about this. I am obsessively thinking about this. I read stories like this all the time. In fact, I think that most of my English which is kinda decent comes from obsessively reading spanking stories from such a young age. Today I understand that this is where my sexuality stems from. I don’t think I will ever stop having this fantasy. This is as much a part of me as being gay, as being nonbinary, as loving math, as liking to talk about stuff. This is just who I am, and I cannot change it even if I wanted to. When I get a spanking which goes all the way I feel inside my body more then in any other situation. I am there, in the moment. I feel alive. The intrusive thoughts I sometimes have just stop, and everything becomes so much simpler. Here I am. I am in pain. I feel this. I want this to stop. I am getting what I deserve. I am in the right place. I exist. I am me and this is fine. I am where I am supposed to be. I belong. I am so so me. I also get a sense of security from daddy when I am punished. Being a grownup is fun and exciting and I get along with this but it’s also stressful. It demands from me to be connected to myself and to what I want in life, to make plans, to commit to stuff, and overall to just be responsible for my actions and choices. I don’t want to give up being a grownup. But when I am punished, I get a chance to let go of this stress for a moment because I have a daddy that sets up boundaries to what I may or may not do. Daddy is smart and big and he “knows better that me what’s good for me”. In setting these rules and enforcing them he allows me to feel free of this stress. In these times life is simple. It’s all only up to me – the only thing expected of me is to do my best to follow my rules. If I will be a good boy I will get a reward, if I will be bad, I will get punished and return to be Daddy’s good boy. Of course, it’s not real. It’s roleplaying (it’s not even this simple for real kids, kids also have complicated lives). However, the roleplaying gives me this feeling which is a lot. It even stays with me after. for days. weeks. Besides the feeling of security and this feeling of being inside my body I also get a sense of catharsis from crying while being spanked. It gives me a place to release feelings of guilt and uncertainty and allows me to meet these feelings playfully. It gives me space to be childlike. It releases my tensions like nothing other does. I don’t want to idealize daddy too much here. A part of my fantasy is that I can also be mad at him. And even resentful. Daddy needs to be fair, to give warnings before punishing and be very reliable, but I also need the space to feel he is mean and only then to understand he was right and knows better. To really get in this headspace I need to go through some process. This needs to actually be an experience of education. Of submission. Of surrender. I get that this is asking you for a lot, and probably most people wouldn’t want to do this. Even in my fantasy daddy doesn’t want to do this. I don’t expect anyone to do this to me if they don’t want to. A real noncompromising spanking is the most fulfilling experience I can have with a partner. After this I am filled with bliss and euphoria. It’s the deepest answer to the hardest things in my heart. It is the foundation to my sexual identity. It is a need I have had since forever, and it took me a lot of time to understand it and longer to figure out how I can actually get this need met.   Let me know what you think and if you found this interesting... If people will like this I might consider writing more.

Despite the retaking of Twitter by Elon, Twitter has developed into a lively community of adult boys and Daddys who are sharing ideas, swapping stories, conducting polls, providing Daddys advice on how to handle adult boys, and more. In today's post we wanted to share a few of the folks doing yeoman's work revitalising the community there and making it a leading space for the M/m Corporal Punishment Community on the internet.  Before we dive in, we do wanna emphasize the invaluable benefit SouthSpanking.com provides and not take away anything from their great work, and at the same time just provide y'all more resources so you have the 411, the intel to engage with folks with like minds. First, let us introduce @OurFamilyRules which is a Twitter handle dedicated to providing advice to Daddys and celebrating adult boys both red-rumped and otherwise. This @handle features Ace Daddy who covers a variety of key thrills that a wide array of boys and Daddys might find appealing. He covers the idea of withholding a boy's boxershorts and regressing him back into briefs if they misbehave. Basically, his message is, if a boy is going to act like a boy, then you as the Daddy should make him live as a boy. He likes to Spank boys in groups of two (or more). He does a great job with video, showing how this can be done. He scolds at length. For those Daddys out there who could use some tips and tricks on how to do this effectively, be sure to listen to Ace Daddy on the videos he tweets out.  Second, let's look at the words of Daddy-hood from @AmtrakDaddy. He posts random tweets of kindness, affection, warnings to boys, and advice on how to avoid getting into trouble. He tucks littles in with some of his words, he warms other boys' bottoms with other words of wisdom, and he always leaves the adult boys who read his @handle with a sense that there really are Daddys out there who will care for you, even when you do naughty things. Great advice.   Third, there's 'zander. Now we've covered @AlexanderZeeGreat in posts previously, but his @handle has been on fire this fall. 🔥🚒🧯Once Cornertime Confidential got booted from Twitter last summer, it was 'zander's posts that helped us reconnect. His drumbeat about being an adult boy fully embodies our boy ethos. He has been sharing more about his life as a boy who also gets Spankings too. So he's broadened what he covers and will appeal to Daddys worldwide.    There's a ton of other great tweeters out there, so begin your search for those you most connect with! Just wanted to provide you a peek at some of the most active tweeters and those with the deepest content in our space. Even if it's just online for now, connect with your CP Community    Please comment below or email us with your ideas aok4otk@aol.com or cornertimeconf@gmail.com ______________________________________ Follow Cornertime Confidential Wherever You Are:   Tumblr  ∙  SouthSpanking ∙  Twitter  ∙  WordPress

Hi Everyone, A quick update, I am currently abroad so not been on site much, still managed to get myself spanked though - bet you are suprised lol? There was a mistake made on the site with regards to a members account being deleted, and I want to apologize for that. Everyone regardless of gender is welcome here without exception. I would like to ask for your understanding on this matter and not turn it into an argument or point fingers, we all make mistakes. Ultimately this is my site, so I take full responsobility and this has never happened before, so please do accept it for what it was - a mistake. I appreciate your understanding and support and again I apologize.   huggsss   James    

My First Punishment Type Spanking I had been getting spankings for about 8 years, but I always felt something was missing. Those spankings started out with a hand spanking warmup and then progressed to leather implements and then sometimes to wooden paddles. They lacked the serious intent like the spankings I watched my friends get growing up. My friend's spankings never had a warmup and they never started over clothes.  They got their pants and underwear pulled down and they got spanked hard and fast, on a bare ass, right from the start.  This was one of my first few spankings at Bill's Basement.  Bill usually gave a much less intense spanking, but I told Bill that I wanted this spanking to be a real punishment type spanking. I told him I needed to be spanked the way a strict dad of the 1950's would punish his teenage son. I said I wanted to be spanked hard and fast right from the start. I also mentioned that I heard a hairbrush was a horrible implement to be spanked with, so I said I wanted my spanking with a brush! Yes I couldn't believe I was actually asking for a hairbrush spanking after all I heard about one.  I asked Bill to strip me naked, bend me over his knees and spank me hard and fast with that brush like a naughty boy!   That's exactly what he did. I had previously always been very stoic during a spanking, hardly uttering a sound. Those hand spanking warmups always got the endorphins flowing and "numbed up" my butt before any serious spanking started. This spanking was entirely different. I never felt my bottom burn so much! I was yelping and gasping for breath in no time. In fact I thought I was going to hyperventilate. I stayed in position for the most part, but to give you an idea of how much my bottom stung, I pushed the bench that Bill was sitting on right out of the view of his camera with just my toes pushing against the floor! Luckily I had my own video camera running too with a wider angle of view that captured the spanking.  My change in reaction must have worried Bill because he stopped the spanking a bit too soon, but I got my first taste of what I'd call a real spanking!              Here's a link to a video of the spanking: https://drive.google.com/file/d/0B0svmfWrnjyPQ0FMQnFkQWY4amc/view?usp=share_link&resourcekey=0-Mujj-c0csbOE9jaSYDiRVA  

  Preparing myself mentally for the week I’m going to spend with my Daddy Bear next month in New York. I rarely sub/bottom and he’s one of the few people I do it with… otherwise I’m pretty much a spanker all the time.     Gonna be a full week of being in the boy headspace and getting spanked multiple times per day… among other punishments. The only real break will be when we go to the spanking party in New Jersey. I’ll definitely be spanking some guys there. We have a pretty special relationship and talk every day. He’s been my daddy bear since I was in my early twenties and now I’m 40 years old.         I love him dearly and he’ll bring me to tears many, many times that week. It’ll be a great release. His name on most sites is Redbearspanker. If you’re been on any spanking sites in the last 20 years you have definitely seen his handiwork. There are some videos of him spanking me on my spankingtube too.    

Have a Zach, a naughty boy that is always up to mischief?  Need some help, well here it is:   Has there been or could there be a time where Zach needs a trip over daddy's knee, but Daddy has been too busy to spank and corner time him properly? If the answer is yes then Daddy needs Naughty Zach Punishment briefs. With Zach dressed in a pair of snow white Punishment briefs, Daddy can simply deliver a spank to his boys bare bottom at the touch of a button.   Naughty Zach Punishment briefs consist of a Daddy Control Unit (DCU) about the size of a TV remote control that is carried by Daddy. The second and most important part of the package are the punishment briefs themselves.   These are made from Ultra Stretchy Lycra and are available in a large range of sizes to insure they closely fit the contours of Zachs little bottom.     The secret of these briefs are the miniature electrodes sewn into the lining at strategic locations. Each pare of electrodes can impart a smarting sting to that area of the Zach's bottom. In tests these sensations have been likened to a daddys hand spank (or at the higher setting, a carefully applied spank with the hairbrush)   Spanks are issued from the DCU by selecting HAND or HAIRBRUSH and pushing the button that relates to the area of the bottom you wish to smack.i.e. ...... Left Cheek, Right Cheek, Sit Spot, Crack. The briefs will then fire two random electrodes in the chosen area, insuring an even distribution.   When a longer spanking is required, then daddy can set the severity and the number of spanks, press the Spank button, sit back and watch the show.   The Punishment briefs also include 2 sensors situated over each buttock that when activated from the DCU can impart a spank when they are patted by a hand. This can allow semi automated spankings that can be administered over the knee, by daddy if he is feeling ill and feels he does not have enough stregnth by himself to give Zach the meaningful spanking he needs.   The DCU also has a warning button that when pressed creates an aprehensive tingling feeling in Zachs's bottom. This can be used to warn Zach that continuation of current behavior will result in a spanking.   Benefits of Zach Punishment briefs:   A spanking can be given at any time, without Zach having to be within reach   A spanking can be given in any position, sitting, standing or other   Although there is no need for Zach to be over daddy's knee, this position can add to embarrassment and submission, and no matter how much wiggling goes on, every spank will land with exact force.  

For me, spanking ranks at the top of a fairly long list of off-the-beaten-track interests. I’ve been fascinated by spanking since pre-teen years. I grew up at a time when spanking kids was commonplace and accepted. Unfortunately (or maybe fortunately), I had “progressive” parents who didn’t believe in spanking—our discipline was apt to be the withholding of dessert or the denial of a bedtime story. But, we saw our friends get swatted as their parents pulled them into their homes for some misbehavior and occasionally, with open windows in summer, we could hear the unmistakable sound of a hand slapping a bare butt and the cries of protest as one of our friends got a serious spanking. The closest I came to experiencing a spanking for myself was at age fourteen, when some adolescent back talk pushed my father beyond his no-spanking limits. He dragged me across his knee and started to give me a spanking I richly deserved. If spanking had been the routine in my household, I probably would have accepted it as a consequence of my behavior, but fourteen is a little late for a father to establish his right to spank his son, so I struggled and he pretty much gave up—his heart wasn’t really in it. Now I wish that I had just yielded to his authority so that I could have a memory of a childhood spanking. Through the rest of high school, college and grad school, I had to settle for self-administered spankings. If I was alone at my parents’ house, I would spank myself with a ping pong paddle in the basement; I tried belts and wooden spoons and even cut switches in a family orchard. I loved the feeling of my palm turning my butt so red that it emanated heat. But something was missing. When you spank yourself, you can stop anytime; you can say to yourself that it hurts too much. It hardly qualifies as a real spanking if the one being spanked determines the duration. What I craved more than anything was being in the control of another man who would pull me over his knee or bend me over the arm of a couch and spank me until he decided I had been punished enough, and until he stopped, I would have no idea of how much more I would have to endure. I thought I might never have that experience, but after moving to Chicago and for the first time ever living by myself, I started to subscribe to some spanking magazines that had personal ads. There were lots that I wanted to answer, but many were for people far away and I was still reluctant to expose this side of myself. Finally, I saw one from someone in Illinois that ended with a phrase like “if you want a real spanking, I’m your man”. I wrote and rewrote a letter (this was in the age we had to rely on the postal service) explaining my need to graduate from fantasy to reality. Against all my better judgment, I dropped the letter in a mailbox and immediately had nightmares about being blackmailed. But a week later, I got a reply expressing interest and describing spanking scenarios that had my heart racing. He asked for some more information about me, especially what I looked like. He also said that he liked to take charge of a scene. I so wanted to get a real spanking that I responded by sending photos, one of my face, one in tight jeans and one in a yellow speedo where I was bent over a couch with my butt begging for punishment. The pictures didn’t turn him off, and we made arrangements for him to come to my apartment. When the day came, I was as nervous as I ever get. I couldn’t focus on anything else through the morning. At last the time arrived and I met him as he got off the elevator at my floor. He was about my height and nice looking. I got him a beer and we spent a few minutes getting to know each other, but it wasn’t long before he did take charge and ordered me to stand by his side as he sat on the couch. He took me by the arm and pulled me across his knees. I was wearing tight levis and for a moment he rested his hand on my butt. That sensation alone would have made the afternoon worth it for me, but then he lifted his arm and brought his hand down with a hard slap—I was finally getting what I had wanted and needed for so long. He picked up the pace so that slaps were coming quickly and I could feel the beginning of a glow in my butt. It was after about 10 minutes of steady spanking that he had me stand up again. I was afraid that he had already had enough or wasn’t getting what he needed from it, but instead he ordered me to drop my jeans. I unbuttoned them and as I slid them to my ankles he pulled me over his knees again. I had on a pair of tight white briefs and suddenly felt really vulnerable. My butt was warm from the spanking on my jeans, but denim provides a fair amount of protection. Not so for cotton briefs, and as his hand came down now, I realized things had escalated to a new level. Now there was real pain, and as I lay there, pinned tightly across his lap, I thought of all of the things that made me deserve a spanking like this. I started to lose track of the time, but came back when he slipped his hand under the elastic leg openings and yanked the briefs up, wedging them between my cheeks, exposing my bare butt. With no fabric for protection, the pain was even more intense. Part of me wanted to yell “Please Stop!”, but another side needed to see this through. Eventually my briefs joined my jeans at my ankles and the spanking continued. Finally, with one last powerful slap, he stopped and rested his hand on my well punished bare bottom. We stayed that way for a few minutes before he ordered me to get up and go look at myself in the mirror. My butt looked like the embers of a campfire—no spanking I had ever given myself had come close to producing a result like this. When I went back, we sat and talked for a bit. He drank another beer and allowed me to have one as well. I almost wished that I could pour it over my butt to cool it down. I assumed that the spanking was over, but soon found that he had other ideas. He told me to go put on the speedo from the picture I had sent. It took me a couple of minutes to find it in my bedroom. I pulled it on and went back to the living room. Next he told me to go to the bathroom and bring him something he had left there. It was a small wooden paddle. As I picked it up, I knew this was going to be a spanking I would not forget. I handed him the paddle and soon was back over his knee. I think I have pretty good pain tolerance, but my ass was still on fire from the earlier spanking, and compounding that with a hard paddling came close to pushing me to child-like tears. He must have sensed that it was time to quit, and finally put the paddle down. My first spanking was finally over. Over the years, I’ve had a few (not enough) additional spanking encounters. Some have been great, but none has reached the intensity of that first experience which is as vivid today as it was when I was pinned securely across his knee. Had there been the luxury of the internet when I was young, I might have found someone with whom I could have built a relationship around spanking and domestic discipline. Although that chance has long since passed, I still fantasize about a partner whose disapproving gaze at a dinner party or in a shopping mall signals the spanking I can expect when we get home.

As an adult boy who gets Spankings, I know this feeling that the boy in the image below has. Sometimes, afterwards—after you got The Spanking—you just need a moment to think, to calm down, to work through the emotional rush, and then to start all over again. Today, we wanted to honor this boy's journey after The Spanking.  𝐖𝐡𝐞𝐧 𝐲𝐨𝐮 𝐬𝐞𝐞 𝐭𝐡𝐢𝐬 𝐩𝐢𝐜𝐭𝐮𝐫𝐞, 𝐰𝐡𝐚𝐭 𝐝𝐨 𝐲𝐨𝐮 𝐭𝐡𝐢𝐧𝐤?  𝐖𝐡𝐚𝐭 𝐝𝐨 𝐲𝐨𝐮 𝐢𝐝𝐞𝐧𝐭𝐢𝐟𝐲 𝐰𝐢𝐭𝐡?  𝐖𝐡𝐚𝐭 𝐝𝐨 𝐲𝐨𝐮 𝐚𝐬 𝐚 𝐃𝐚𝐝𝐝𝐲 𝐨𝐫 𝐃𝐨𝐦 𝐭𝐡𝐢𝐧𝐤 𝐰𝐡𝐞𝐧 𝐲𝐨𝐮 𝐬𝐞𝐞 𝐭𝐡𝐢𝐬 𝐚𝐝𝐮𝐥𝐭 𝐛𝐨𝐲?  Please comment below or DM me with your ideas. ________________________________________  Follow Cornertime Confidential Wherever You Are:   Tumblr ∙ Blogger ∙ WordPress

Last month we revived an older post from The Dirty Daddy blog. We are big advocates of the advice, guidance, and strength of character he provides to new boys and Daddys.  This week we wanted to elevate his 4 steps on how to be a Good boy. Below you'll find his advice for boys living in Daddy/boy relationships. Again, this post was explicitly about sexual relations with Daddy, and this link provides you direct assess to that post of his. We hope you find they help you start your Daddy/boy relationship or they help you rekindle the fire in your existing relationships that may have become a bit too vanilla.   "Daddy, what can I do to be a not just a good boy but the very best boy for you?"     4 Key Steps to Becoming a Good boy (A/K/A "Pleasing Daddy" or "Being Not Just a Good boy, but Becoming Daddy's Best boy". This post mostly includes content from The Dirty Daddy himself with comments by jake, author, of Cornertime Confidential, providing his personal experience to round out the advice provided.)   This post provides basic pointers for a person who wants to be a Good boy when dealing with Daddy.   Step 1: Seek Out Daddy's Approval, Don't Need it. The first and most important thing for a Good boy is to want—not need—Daddy’s approval. And an important part of that want is to want Daddy's pleasure and for the boy to find ways to show that he wants Daddy's pleasure does. As the boy, your desire to please and pleasure your Daddy is a key tool in achieving that very goal. His touch is one way he can show his pleasure, and approval, to you and it’s a prefect opportunity to respond in kind. Gently holding the side of your face, the back of your neck, putting his hand in the small of your back, or anywhere he wants to touch.    These moments are your chance to respond with or without words.    Smile, press your face into the hand, nuzzle the hand that’s touching you, show genuine appreciation for your Daddy at times like that especially. He is reaching out to touch you for a reason. Accept and enjoy that fact. Your pleasure in what you are doing can become a very powerful tool to make him even happier. Some Daddys respond very strongly to sounds, like whimpers, moans, groans, and sighs. Even things like giggling and laughter can bring pleasure to your Daddy. Ultimately, only you will get to know your Daddy, and that takes time.    [CC: Some Daddys like mine do not like his boy to make a ton of noises. He finds them artificial. Check in with your Daddy to ensure this pleases him. Only make authentic noises that you feel in your boy heart, and then share with your Daddy, so he appreciates them. It takes time as The DIrty Daddy says here, so build up to a full mutual sharing in this area].   Step 2: Develop and Maintain Good boy Behaviors   A Good boy has many responsibilities including being on his best behavior at all times.  (1) When Daddy asks a question or decides to instruct, reply ‘Yes, Daddy’ and do your best to do as he has instructed.  (2) If you are having trouble doing something Daddy has instructed, be honest with Daddy—especially when he asks you why you haven't done something expressly asked for by Daddy.    [a note from CC: it's hard for anyone to always be on their best behaviour at all times, but being authentic and open are essential. If you find that doing so is a turn off, then you need to tell Daddy. Most Daddys will assume your headspace is in being a good boy. If that is just not your thing, then say so. You can still have a good Daddy/boy relationship, but you'll adjust it for the reality you feel inside.]   “Thank you Daddy”  Thanking Daddy is a Good boy behaviour to remember as appreciation, respect, and consideration are important features of a Good boy. When he gives a direct instruction, follow as promptly and accurately as possible. It may not always be easy, but that could also be his effort to see how dedicated you are to what you are doing.  [a note from CC: When you do not feel this way towards your Daddy it could be for a real reason—like you feel he doesn't deserve your thanks for the things he does. It's important to run with that feeling. If he's a bad match, identify that early and exit the relationship]    Ask for Help From Daddy Try hard to do as Daddy asks. When you need to, ask him for help. That simple "Good behaviour" can take the form of his hands guiding your head, holding your hips or hands, or anything else so he needs to do to teach you exactly how to do that which he asks you to do.    Check in With Daddy Ask if you are doing correctly what Daddy's asked for. Doing a Good job on the tasks that Daddy's asked you to do helps define who is the boy in the relationship. I recommend fairly regular check-ins where you ask respectfully and with all your heart, "Am I being a Good boy, Daddy?" Your ability to earnestly seek his approval is a key element that will ensure a better Daddy/boy relationship. Your honest, authentic approach is the difference. [a note from CC:  I have been a boy to my Daddy since 2016 and living together since 2019 and I want to concur strongly with DIrty Daddy here. When we check in with one another with all our heart, we are a better partner—Daddy to me and me to Daddy.]   Step 3: Familiarize Yourself With Basic Intimacy Skills   Seek to possess a strong knowledge of Daddy's anatomy, his sexual response, and your pleasure thresholds, and methods of responding to those factors. By reading this post, you are already on your way to gaining these key intimacy skills.  How does Daddy want to give you pleasure? And do you enjoy that? Do you to respond authentically and enthusiastically to how he wants to give you pleasure? How do you give the pleasure that Daddy seeks? And do you enjoy that?   In the end analysis, don't force it. If you don't feel authentically attracted to Daddy, then find a Daddy to whom you truly are attracted. Some boys just love the "idea" of Daddy, not the reality of Daddy.    Addressing Long Term Daddy/boy Relationship Doldrums In relationships that have been going on for a long time, many M/m couples become bored with one another. (This is so very true for M/f relationships too, of course), but Using a Daddy-centric approach and rekindling the fire that originally drove you to be attracted to Daddy can be helpful. For Daddys, do your best to seek out the answers to why you got involved with your boy. What did you enjoy about him originally, and lean into that. If it feels forced, don't do it. But if you can recall with joy in your heart, tap into that.       For the boys, start by asking yourself three Basic Intimacy Skills signals:    Sexual Reponsiveness An erection is only one way to tell if your Daddy is enjoying what you are doing. You both will need more than that to sustain an interest as a Daddy/boy team. The difference between a random cocksucker and truly being Daddy's boy is that you belong where you are, where he has placed you, and shown he trusts you to be that boy for him.   Obedience It’s not simply a matter of obedience, as previous discussed, it is that you choose and want to be there. It makes you truly happy that he enjoys what you do, and that he loves and trusts you enough to let you do it. [a note from CC: Obedience sounds like an old-fashioned, false notion. But as we discussed in this blogpost, it can be crucial to an effective and satisfying Daddy/boy relationship. And better obedience can help sustain a relationship, particularly between a Daddy and his boy, a boy and his Daddy.]   Following Instructions The Dirty Daddy blog provides detailed instructions on how to not only make your Daddy desire you, but also how to show him pleasure he may never have experienced with anyone before. Following these instructions can help move you from a "good boy" to Daddy's “Best Boy,” a coveted place for a boy. Getting to this place will require that you know what Daddy can make you feel, and your desire to bring that out of him too. Lean in to your determination to reach for that goal.     After you think about these 3 signals, consider sharing your responses to them with Daddy. If you find it difficult to face the truth behind the questions, then you may need to reconsider your relationship.    If, however, you or Daddy has just become lazy over time in addressing Basic Intimacy Skills, consider these three signals as a way to kickstart things.    Step 4: Develop Self Control.  While this is a basic skill and a behavior set it deserves its own Step for all Good boys. Self-control for a boy is reflected in to key abilities:    1. the boy's ability to hold off the desire to pleasure himself (This is why some people use chastity devices to deny that urge entirely.) and  2. a boy's ability to take instructions from Daddy.    Depending on the age and experience of your Daddy, he may have had many more years at this and more hours than you, so his guidance and instruction should be followed so long as it is informed by real life experience.  Be sure to ask questions at the right times.     There are some positions that are not easy to master for a boy, because they can cause extreme stimulation. When a boy is given instructions that are counter to his immediate gratification he should obey them. There are good reasons for them. And having to stop and explain everything to a boy can ruin a mood.    Be sure to ask questions, yes. But only at the right time.    Being able to control yourself, your desire, and your curiosity for a time are crucial skills. If you ask questions constantly, you may do more than just ruin a mood. Worse, you might miss swallowing that load you worked so hard for. Keep your mind on your task and your eyes on the prize.    The 4 Key Steps here can be a great starting point for any Daddy and boy to integrate as they begin or try to restart a relationship.    [a note from CC: I re-read the Dirty Daddy blog every now and again so that I can remember my role and get my head into my boy heart and boy place.    Work and life and friends can easily take you away from your preferred role in your Daddy/boy relationship making it a roommates with benefits experience. But is that really what you signed up for? Is that what you really wanted when you began your Daddy/boy relationship?]   What you want can come to you, especially if you are a Good boy, follow Daddy's lead, and develop in sync with one another. Daddy still decides how and when. But that’s his job because its what you want him to do. You need him to want to give you pleasure, and these 4 basic steps bring you one step closer to that goal.     Please comment below or email us with your ideas   aok4otk@aol.com or cornertimeconf@gmail.com ______________________________________ Follow Cornertime Confidential Wherever You Are: Tumblr  ∙  SouthSpanking ∙  Twitter  ∙  WordPress 

A Letter From a Reader In a recent letter, bobby asked Cornertime Confidential a few questions and posed a few concerns we thought we'd cover today. There's a lot of variables for you to know about before you embark on a Domestic Discipline (DD) relationship. I write about this a lot and every 2nd week of December in my blog is the "Domestic Discipline Celebrations Week" which has a week's worth of different posts about various elements of how to make it manifest in your relationships I am intrigued by Domestic Discipline. How do you feel about it? I think for me it's a preferred relationship style. I do not currently have a DD relationship as we did before the pandemic, so I'm talking about what it was like up until March 2020. But many of the things that Domestic Discipline taught us as a couple is to be better partners to one another. It seems intriguing but I don’t know how I would feel about giving up control on a long term basis.  I only give up control on a short term basis. We have to spend most of our lives living as equals or else our friends and family and neighbors would freak out. How do you make sure it doesn’t become abuse?  I think that's the same for any impact play or other non-vanilla play. Boundaries, limits, communication. Checking in all the time as the Dom. Knowing that you have times set aside to approach Daddy appropriately to discuss if a Punishment was too intense or unfair or out of bounds. Some of the stuff on your site talks about Spanking in front of others, which doesn’t seem great unless that was totally agreed to beforehand.  I agree completely. If you do not discuss beforehand and the boy isn't aware of what those boundaries are and isn't a part of establishing what is acceptable and what is not, then it's not truly a DD relationship. It's just an unfair one. I argue for boys to be empowered, fight back, don't just passively get punished. Make DD vibrant and alive, but be prepared for the consequences when you do. That means if you're in public (and you and Daddy have established these as acceptable) a public Spanking may get doled out. Most 99.99%) of Daddys are as conscious of public Spanking as you are. They do not want to caught Spanking an adult male in public because it could reflect badly on them too! But if a boy does act out in public, there's NOTHING to prevent Daddy saying, "We'll address this when we get home." Sometimes the anticipation of a Spanking is worse than the actual Spanking itself. Please comment below or email us with your ideas. ________________________________________ Follow Cornertime Confidential Wherever You Are: Tumblr  ∙  Twitter  ∙  Blogger  ∙  WordPress

My least favorite sayings pop uses:   'Because I said so'   'Your bottom looks cute in red'   'Now go decorate the corner with your red tushy'   'What a nice V shape you make when over my lap'   'If you disciplined yourself, I wouldn't have to'   'Your being spanked because it has to be done, whether you like it or not'   'This is going to hurt me more than you'   'You don't get a vote son'   'Over my lap, come on, all the way over'   'If you dont't want to be spanked then you shouldn't have been naughty, should you'?   'You respond so well when having your bottom smacked'   'Does Mr Hand need a chat with your backside?'   'When we get to the hotel, pick a corner and stay there'            

Okay, I just can’t help it, but sometimes—believe me, not when I’m spanking or getting spanked—I theorise about spanking. One question that fascinates me is why people have preferences for—and dislikes of—particular types of spanking implements. For me, a general answer like ‘There are as many tastes as there are people’ is not satisfying, because it just doesn’t make sense. I think it’s possible—and interesting—to try and develop, ponder and test some types of ‘light’ categorisation. Before I proceed, let me note that in these reflections I’m not interested in the type or intensity of pain different implements can cause, but in the symbolic meanings people attribute to them—consciously but more often subconsciously.The first type of categorisation I want to suggest relates to the nature-culture distinction—a distinction that should never be made in any strict sense. There are implements that can almost be found as such in nature, such as canes and switches. Then there are implements that can be made of natural materials, such as carpet beaters, birches, wooden paddles etc. The latter still have a feel of ‘naturalness’ to them. But I’m thinking about how to explain why some have a clear dislike of ‘leather stuff’. Is it because it is associated with the ‘leather scene’ (which only partly overlaps with the ‘spanking scene’)? If so, why does that matter? And is this only about black-coloured leather?The second type of categorisation I call teleological: on the one hand, there are implements that are manufactured for purposes other than spanking or punishment, but which can be used for that purpose as well (bath-brushes, wooden spoons, spatulas, carpet-beaters, razor straps etc.); on the other hand, there are implements that are manufactured for punishment purposes (whips, floggers, tawses, paddles). Here I’m thinking about how to explain why some have a preference for the first type of implements. Is it because having implements made for spanking or punishment increases the risk of family/friends finding out about your spanking practice? Is it because buying such implements confronts you with the reality of your spanking fantasies?I’m curious to hear what people think!

So I was chatting to a lovely person on the site last night and I told him a story about a lovely “Uncle” figure I met in Prague in the early 90’s.   He told me that if I didn’t write it up and post it on South Spanking then he would spank me next time I was in his home city. I think he might have slightly misunderstood my inner workings, however I’m writing it up in the hope that when I do see him he will slipper me for my bad spelling.   In the 90’s I lived in Prague, I was young and worked in TV news, I was based in Prague but covered all of Eastern Europe. It was my day off and I was travelling on the Metro, I can’t remember where I was going, anyway I didn’t get there.   As I was exiting the Metro station an older gentleman asked me in German where the Kinského zahrada was. I apologised for my terrible German and tried to explain it to him. When I was not getting anywhere I fell back to “Sprachen ze English?”. He said very slowly and carefully “Yes I do, is your English better than your German?” I replied that yes my English was not bad considering although my teachers at my prep and public schools did not consider it so.   I explained that he had to go to the Tram Stop and get a number 18 (I think, I knew at the time but don’t use this story for public transport guidance) Tram in the direction Andel, but that on his map it was still marked as Moscova. I told him I was going to Smichov and I would show him what tram to get on and travel with him part of the way. Which I confess was very patronising of me, but he did not seem to mind.   We had to wait for the tram and we got to talking, he was an engineer from Berlin and I told him what I was doing in Prague. Then he said “You said you went to a Public school, tell me about it.”   I told him about it, how I had not really enjoyed it and how I had “Run away and joined the circus” at age 16 to get away from it.   He asked me if I had ever got the cane as a punishment, I was a little embarrassed and I sort of mumbled that yes I had. He said “But there is no shame in it surely”. I told him that I hated it because of the shame and because we were made to feel that we were being whacked because we had done an awful thing that was shameful. When we got to his stop I said I would walk to the park with him if he wanted. He said he would enjoy it very much.   As we were walking he asked me again about being caned at school, I was starting to detect that he was not just curious but that it was “Special” to him. I told him about the canings we got in the fourth and fifth year, how the housemaster would come in the last five minutes of prep and ask you to go and get changed into pyjamas and meet him in the showers. Then he would ask you to face the sinks and bend over. Then he would whack you with a cane he had hidden somewhere.   By this time we were sitting on a bench in the park and I was looking straight ahead and not looking at him. I decided to tell him, I thought he was either interested in spanking or an actual spanking enthusiast, I decided that if he cried out “You pervert” or was obviously offended, I could always run faster than he could, after all he would leave the city in a few days and it was not as if I would have to avoid him.   I told him that what I really wanted to do was to be slippered or caned on the bare behind. When he said “that is quite normal, do you like to be treated as a small boy?”   I sort of exploded, yes I like to be treated as if I’m 8 years old and with a very strict uncle who does not really tell me off but slippers me on the bare behind, always in private but for little things like messy eating.   He said “Well I would like to be that Uncle”. Then he took my hand and we walked across the park together ..   Now of course it might have been more complex than that, I might have been more stuttery and not so cool about it, however the outcome was the same.   We came to an ice cream stall and he told me to sit down on a bench, he went and bought two ice creams. When he came back to me he told me to hold the icecreams while he tucked a napkin under my chin. It was the most amazing experience I had ever felt, he was actually treating me like an 8 year old ..   I left it a minute or so, then I pulled out the napkin then some of the ice cream spilt on my shirt.   “Jason I’m sorry but I’m going to have to slipper you for that.”   I pretended to be downcast and said “Shall we go back to your hotel Uncle?” (we had already decided we could not go to mine as I shared with someone else)   “Not at all Jason, we will deal with that later .. We have lots of things to see today.”   So he dragged me round the city like a bored 8 year old, we had dinner in a small pizza restaurant and he put a napkin in my collar again, this time I was “Good”.   Eventually we went to the Forum, it was slightly embaressing because in those days before mobile phones I had to call in to the office and I had to add the Forum and room number to the list of my “Emergency numbers” I told them my uncle was visiting and we would be sitting up late chatting.   Uncle then said “Well young man it’s time for our little talk, I have put a pair of pyjamas and a towel in the bathroom, please have a shower and then put on the pyjamas and stand in the corner HERE.” and he pointed to the ground in the corner by the window.   I got undressed, used the toilet (sitting down of course) and then quickly showered and put on his pyjamas and ran to the corner like a frightened rabbit.   All I can say is that it’s lucky he had brought his slippers with him on holiday, I’m not sure I would have done .. he called me over and while he sat on the corner of the bed put me over his knee .. with the pyjamas still up .. He whacked me six times on the bottom with the slipper and then told me to go back to the corner. Five minutes later he called me back and as I stood in front of him he pulled down my pyjamas .. then he gave me my first pants down slippering of my life .. Then another one .. then one bent over a chair (6 of the best, it hurt a lot).   Then he told me to go to bed, and I went to get in the double bed .. No I was to go home and go to bed .. and come back tomorrow morning at 8am and we would go out for the day .. if I was a minute late he would slipper me again.   I went home and came back exactly as he told me to, except that of course I was EXACTLY one minute late. He walloped me again and then we went out for our day out. It was the same as the day before, just perfect he was the perfect uncle to an 8 year old .. Even one with a sore bottom .. he did ask me how it was a few times.   When we got back to the Forum the concierge intercepted us as we arrived, there was a message for me to call the office immediately. I had to drive to Romania that evening, I scribbled my phone number on a piece of paper and gave it to uncle, apologised, ran out of the hotel and never saw him again.   Such a lovely man, such a lovely experience.  

Okay guys, I have completed the final phase of testing on our test site.   What I have done is essentially replicated the entire script, with the latest version and a fresh database.  At present the data is correct and it functions as expected.   Videos are uploading perfectly and groups are also working.  Also, the videos will now play in full mode as they should from both the feed and the actual menu option.   I am getting ready to do the final import, at sometime today or tomorrow.   We are stripping out a lot of blocks and modules that frankly we just do not need and this will help with overall performance.   I kicked up a fuss with the script author over several modules that we purchased and are no longer compatible, the resolution is that they have given us access to the mobile application that can be downloaded from both Google Play and the Apple Stores.  This will be configured once we export over and the site is up to speed with no problems.  I will post more about this, but essentially it will help a lot for those members that prefer using mobile devices.  Desktop users will not notice and difference.   I have also upgraded our license for our chat bar (not the one presently in use), this will give us full download access to the latest version and both audio and video chat capabilities.  In order to reduce overhead on the server we will be using their push notification service.  The installation will require the chat bar authors technical support and again on completion of the export, I will raise a ticket to get everything installed correctly.  This will be free of charge for us.   We will now be running with two servers and a VPS.  The main server, as well as a backup server which will have replication setup, the backup server will also act as content delivery network or CDN, which will be next on the list for configuration.  The VPS is going to be used for research and development and aid with out move eventually to social engine.   So, hope some of this makes sense, and now of course is the time to put it all together.  I will setup an announcement as soon as I have decided which day and what time.  While the refresh of the main server and data export is taking place, the site will be unavailable for several hours.   Thanking everyone for their continued support and patience.

The Dad Conference Chapter One   It is often said that truth is or can be stranger than fiction, somethings or events, can be far more shall we say 'unbelievable' than we can possibly imagine.  Life is remarkable, we make connections, friendships and relationships that truly are exciting and wonderful. Fiction too, is also remarkable, it is a bit like a bubble that is outside of reality.  Within that bubble however, lives creativity, it is a place to wish, express feelings and desires. Well, enough of my wanderings on reality and fiction, and let us get down to the 'nitty gritty', as it were. How many readers would actually believe that there exists a group of men, that meet on a bi-annual basis whom firmly believe in discipline, structure and guidance for young men? Would you believe that these men are Dad's to their adult partners? That these Dad's proactively discuss discipline techniques and punishments, with a specific focus on long and hard bare bottomed spankings? Perhaps you may find, the fact strange, that some of these Dads are new, seeking guidance, help and even a mentor from older more experienced Dads? You are of course within your right to disbelieve such a group could never exist, and indeed if they did exist, an invitation would most certainly be required in order to attend, (at the very least). You could hardly hold such a conference, at a public venue, such as in a hotel, now could you? There would of course be a facilitator, or organizer (head dad), that structures the conference and decides from a plethora of topics to be included in the conference.  Typically, the conferences begin on a Friday morning, ending early afternoon on Sundays. If such a conference did take place, I would suspect it would have a structure similar to below, let’s call it Day one: 0900 - 1000   Meet and Greet. 1000 - 1100   Selecting the right spanking chair. 1200 - 1300   How to give an over the lap spanking. 1300 - 1400    Lunch. 1400 - 1500    Dads word is final, making your boy understand. 1500 - 1600    Hand spanking him over your lap, rapid fire or slow and deliberate. 1600 - 1700    Corner time, for how long and should he be naked or allowed some modesty. I bet a lot of boys, would just love to be a fly on the wall during these discussions, well if you are one of those boys, I'll share a little of what was actually discussed (allegedly, of course). The meet and greet is just that, there are some new Dads in attendance, so a lot of introducing and small talk takes place.  Naturally the new Dads are a little nervous and excited, but become more confident and at ease in a very short space of time.  They are welcomed and reassured by the more experienced Dads.  There are of course ample snacks available as well as hot and cold beverages. The first topic up for discussion is as we know is 'selecting the right spanking chair' You would think this is a simple subject and would not take up much time, yet it turns out to be a hot topic.  The head dad explains, that the right chair should elevate and present a boy’s bottom perfectly for spanking, regardless of the position.  There is a brief discussion about using a chair for the naughty boy to sit in pre-spanking for a lecture or scolding. The new dads are surprised to learn that the more experienced Dads actually have more than one spanking chair.  Dad Denis explains: 'Your first chair Dads, is the one you will sit in, to put your son right over your lap.  I would suggest starting off with a modern chair, you can get a cheap one from most big box retailers.  Once you have it, put your boy over your lap, get a sense of how it feels, and the most important feature is that his toes must at least be off the ground a little bit.  I personally prefer my Sons legs to be able to kick freely in the air, just like a naughty boy should.  Shift him further over your lap. and check for access and presentation, ideally you want to be able to tan his sit spots for him and have a very clear view of where you are educating him.  Do remember that presentation, really does matter, for sure you are spanking him for his own good, but you as his Dad have a right to enjoy his spanking and there is nothing wrong with that.  I personally love the feeling of my son’s bare bottom, as I caress and spank his cute little buns.  Take your time and enjoy tanning his bottom, feel the heat radiate through your hand and admire the view as his fanny turns from pink to red.  Take your time and make sure every inch of his bare bottom, including sit spots are well attended to.  If you are going to spank, make it count and make it meaningful.’ Some of the new Dads were actually taking notes, and nodding their heads in agreement. Dad Denis continued: 'If the chair does not work out, for example it’s not high enough to get your boys feet kicking, then simply return it and get one with a higher seat.  Repeat the same procedure, back over your lap he goes, makes sure his legs are up and able to kick and of course presentation and access is suitable.  It’s an ideal way of experimenting with how far you want your son over your lap for his spankings.  It is important of course that you are comfortable and so is your boy, after all he may be across your lap for some time, depending on how naughty he has been' Dad Denis chuckled and smiled before continuing: 'Now that you have your chair, take its measurement, from the floor to the seat, and be accurate.  Your first spanking chair, will do its job and get your son accustomed to bare bottomed over the knee spanking, traditional style!  Soon though you will want that more symbolic and sturdier wooden straight-backed chair, do not be in a rush, take your time.  Visit thrift stores or/and antique stores and take your measuring tape with you.  When you find the perfect chair, you will know, buy it on the spot and ask the store to keep it until you collect it.  As soon as possible, and as soon as your boy has been naughty, take him with you to collect it.  He is going to know exactly why you bought it, without any need for an explanation.  Have him place it its new home and christen his new spanking chair immediately.  Take your time with this first spanking in his new chair, and administer a sound and very thorough spanking.' There was a round of chuckles and some whispers as the Dads listened avidly.  Dad Denis waited a few moments before he said: 'Now I know, a lot of you Dads will want to comfort your son, before sending him to the corner to think, however at least on this first occasion, consider having him sit in his very own spanking chair.  Have him sit there bare bottomed, tee and socks only on his very red and sore behind.  Next give him a lecture on what caused him to be spanked, and how he can avoid it in the future.  When you have finished, then send him to the corner for thinking time' 'In my house my sons spanking chair features very prominently in his young life.  He is given a pre spanking lecture while sitting in his chair, briefs socks and tee only before I take him by the ear to put him over my lap, (leading boys to your lap, including by his ear is a scheduled topic for tomorrow), after he has been spanked, a post lecture and conversation takes place with his bare buns firmly seated on the nice hard wood.  It’s actually quite amusing to see him squirm and move his bottom around on his spanking chair, as I lecture him.  Then its corner time, nose to the wall.  Please remember Dads after punishment comes soothing and forgiveness, the slate is wiped clean.  Take your time, dry his eyes and praise him for taking his spanking so well, there is no time limit, take as long as is needed' ‘You can be very creative with the spanking chair, for example have him sit on it bare bottomed, and brush his own hair with the very hairbrush you are going to spank him with.  Or perhaps have him bend over the back of the chair for some waiting time, his eyes fixed on the paddle laying on the seat he knows will shortly be paddling his own bare buns.  Better still how about having his name stenciled on the back in large letters?  Or have him kneel down and lay over the seat, then place paddle or brush on his back, that one I promise will really get him going, bringing forth the inevitable sniffles naughty boys make when faced with the inevitable.  There are endless opportunities men, and a little humiliation will do your son no harm at all, I suspect you will find the opposite, it will heighten his anxiety as it should, ensuring his punishment is much more memorable.’ 'Does anyone have any questions?' I shall not bore you with the questions, they were mainly around the type of wood chairs are made of, and a few about having a boy bent over the spanking chair before punishment for thinking time. 'Okay Dads, I am now going to have over to Dad Freddy, whom will be discussing how to give your sons an over the lap spanking, thanks for letting me talk with you today' There was a hearty round of applause for Dad Denis, as Dad Freddy stood up to begin his presentation. ‘Thank you, Dad Denis, alright Dad’s I am going to discuss how to give an over the lap spanking, and please do feel free to contribute or ask any questions you might have. The first thing you want to do, is get him over both your thighs, that in reality is what an over the lap (some times called over the knee) spanking is.  Your boy’s lower tummy should be in contact with your thighs.  This is very important as it will elevate and lift his cute bottom for your attention, in all its round, bare and plump glory.  Your son will feel his vulnerability, as well as reach an emotional peak, he will have sensations of humility and intimacy and you have not even started his spanking yet.  Remember you are in no rush, take it easy and slow and let your boy get accustomed to his position and forthcoming spanking.  You can build up the atmosphere even more, by simply rubbing and pinching his cheeks, the odd pat here, or finger running down his crack. You are in charge, and you can and should build on his emotions.  The over the lap position is unique, it is bonding and nurturing and should be included in all discipline sessions.’ ‘When your son is over your lap, it does allow him to be firmly held, this closeness cannot be underestimated, while in practice it makes spanking him easier, it also provides a sense of security for him.  In addition, it gives access to the back of his thighs, should additional encouragement be required to get tears flowing.  Also note that with his hips bent, and thighs spread it is difficult for him to tighten his little bare fanny, ultimately this means lighter spanks may be employed and therefore punishment may be extended if need be.’ ‘Another important point is that when he is over your lap, you can easily monitor the coloring of his bottom.  You will see it go from different shades of pink to red, this is especially useful if a harder spanking than normal is necessary as you can move to a different part of his bottom once the required shade of red has been achieved.  Simply even out the redness all over his fanny, and you should avoid any bruising.’ Dad Freddy looked at his audience raised an eyebrow and asked ‘Does anyone have any questions so far?’ One of the younger Dads asked ‘What about erections?’ ‘Excellent question’ Dad Freddy said. “There a re a couple of things we need to discuss.  When your son is first put over your lap. His penis will be quite active, especially if it is pressing into your thigh, where shall we say it has space to grow?  Not every boy will react the same way.’ A few chuckles sounded throughout the room. ‘Remember guys, spanking has a massive erotic component and dealing with erections is going to depend on your relationship and probably the punishment as well.  While he is being spanked, the friction he feels will most definitely cause heightened excitement.  If It is pure punishment, I would simply ignore it, because soon enough he will have other things on his mind, and by that, I mean a very hot and sore bottom.  As soon as he really starts to feel his spanking, you will find in most cases, Mr. Penis sure quietens down fast.  There will be times though, that your son gets very excited and ultimately cannot control the outcome (forgive the pun).  In these situations, or where your boy always gets so excited, you may wish to make sure you are wearing old jeans or pants or place a towel over your own lap.’ ‘Once his excitement has been satisfied, let him lay there for a couple of minutes until he has composed himself, pat that nice bare bottom a few times and then tan him but good.  You will now find his reactions are more with what you had in mind, a boy being well punished and one that is really feeling his much needed and well deserved spanking.  Ignore his pleas and really get down to the spanking, get those tears rolling and ultimately do not stop when they do.  He is being punished, not played with’ ‘Any other questions?’ asked Dad Freddy When no one said anything, the Dads all broke for lunch.  Most of them went in pairs or small groups to nearby café’s and restaurants where they continued building friendships with one another. After lunch they were introduced to Dad Benny, he was an older, smaller Dad, full beard with twinkling eyes and a mischievous grin.  You could tell that in his younger years Dad Benny had almost certainly been over a few laps himself and probably quite deservedly so. His presentation was on ‘Dads word is final, making your boy understand’ ‘Right guys, all those blogs you have read discussing, domestic discipline, put them right out of your mind.  Your son is unique.   You need to build on his goals and aspirations and please remember, your relationship always comes first’ ‘As head of the household and you do have the final say, when it comes to domestic issues.  Do not think for a second that gives you carte blanche within your relationship, it most certainly does not.  Like any couple, important decisions will always be discussed and agreed upon between you both, but you as dad, do have the final say in matters of domestic harmony, and that includes discipline’   To Be Contimued

This is a bit of a follow-up to Journryman_mages' blog. There are a number of things which really p**s me off on sites such as this: here are just a few: I'm 86, only looking for spankees 18-21 Only ever address me as Sir/Master Whingers Topping from the bottom (you have to thrash me till I bleed / you have to f**k me for at least an hour in 15 different positions without going soft) I want to to meet, but you have to tell me exactly what is going to happen Here are my translations/thoughts on each point I'm really only here for a J Arthur You are just a piece of meat for my enjoyment JM has covered this in his blog see 2 above see 1 Anyone got any thoughts on this?

Big thanks to Pup Amp for bringing this article to our attention. Cornertime Confidential completely agrees. I think the biggest problem with being an adult boy who gets Spankings is that tourists (people who are not part of our scene) come to our events and bring cameras and make videos that are uninvited because they feel our kink is wrong. @PupAmp said: Even if "kink shaming is your kink", doing it without consent still makes you a jerk. Even as a joke, it can cause divides, misconceptions or internalized stigma. Consider how your A great article by @BannonRace Leather: That's a shame - Live and Ket kink by Race Bannon Within the radical sex and relationships communities in which I navigate, there are few things that spark my anger more than shaming. Whether it's coming from within the leather, kink, polyamory or gay men's sex cultures, or from external sources, shaming is far too prevalent. I'm sure shaming comes from within and without women's sex cultures too, but I don't pretend to understand that fully enough to comment. Still, this likely applies across the gender and orientation spectrums. Shame as a noun describes a feeling of guilt, embarrassment, humiliation or disgrace due to awareness of a misstep or impropriety. The thing is, virtually none of the things kinksters and other sex and relationship adventurers are accused of is something for which they should feel any negative emotions at all. Shaming as a verb is to engage in actions that try to instill a sense of shame in someone else, and this is where the greatest problems lie in our communities. Misguided people consider shaming a viable way of trying to modify someone else's behaviors or views. Some inappropriately use shaming to express disagreement with another's choices or actions. While you can only feel a true sense of shame upon perceiving that others' disapproval is valid, when you already play on the edge of societal norms and might be struggling with self-acceptance you can fall prey to accepting shaming regardless of the validity of the source. This is why shaming marginalized people like kinksters and other erotic rebels can be particularly damaging. Instances of shaming are sadly plentiful. Just last week at Mid-Atlantic Leather Weekend, a friend overheard two leather-clad men in the lobby of the host hotel shaming a young guy who wasn't dressed in what they considered "appropriate" gear. That happens a lot. A young guy might walk into a bar on a leather/gear night wearing nothing but the harness he excitedly scraped together every disposable cent to buy only to hear a snide comment from someone else in the bar about his attire. During Folsom Street Fair I observed a BDSM scene taking place in one of the designated play areas. A fetish-clad kinkster made a comment about how that kink "went too far." What was taking place was a moderate flogging, an activity countless people do all the time and it brings them joy and fulfillment. Body shaming is common. It happens within the leather world for sure, but interestingly I think in many ways we deal with this a bit better than some mainstream folks. However, within what I refer to as gay sex culture, I've seen it happen often. One non-sexual illustration of the prevalence of body shaming is how some people (gay men mostly) comment that if the nude guys walking around the Castro were hotter, they'd be more comfortable with it. If that's not overt body shaming, I don't know what is. Orientation-shaming happens. Bisexuals are still too often besieged by comments that they should make up their mind one way or the other. I could point to mountains of data that attraction orientation resides on a spectrum and these folks would likely ignore it all and remain resolute in their misguided bias. Polyamorous people are often shamed for the evils of promoting non-monogamy or being a bad example amid the LGBTQ set that's decided only parroting the heteronormative two-person monogamous relationship is acceptable. It doesn't matter to the deriders that the people in these relationships might be supremely happy. Their 'one size fits all' mindset fails to see the joys of the diversity of experience. Entire leather events have been shamed because of a real or imagined misstep of some sort. Shamers rarely approach such situations as an opportunity for correction, refinement or dialogue. They would rather trash the entire event outright. Highly sexual people are shamed by those who perceive their own level of sexual activity and the way they do it as the only correct or proper way. Anyone who deviates from that is a slut, a banned word, or a spreader of disease. Bottom-shaming happens frequently. If I had a dollar for every time I've heard "Oh, he's a bottom," said in a dismissive or elitist tone, I'd be a rich man. None of this is helpful. None of this is productive. None of this makes life better for anyone. Shaming takes place in all venues, but social media of course provides an easy-access megaphone to blast the shaming out to the world to be amplified by those who like to shame too. In a Psychology Today article, 'Why Shaming Doesn't Work,' psychology professor Krystine I. Batcho, Ph.D. points out some of the damage shaming can do. Since I contend that kinksters, the polyamorous and sexual adventurers are engaging in what feels genuine about themselves, I think this applies since it points out the stress and depression shaming can elicit. "Shaming someone for what they cannot change places them in an impossible situation that can yield nothing beneficial. The absurdity and futility of such interactions are clear when a parent admonishes a young child to grow up. "For people who are able to conceal a stigmatized identity, shaming can increase the 'divide' between public and private dimensions of their self-concept. Research has shown such separation to be associated with greater social stress and depression." Please don't shame. Please gently point out shaming when you see or hear others do it. Let them know why it's not helpful. Much of shaming is sadly built into our competitive and sometimes screwed up culture, but that doesn't mean we should tolerate it. Race Bannon is an author, blogger, and activist. www.bannon.com          

Last summer, I was recovering from the pandemic mindset of working way too hard. My way of dealing with not being able to go anywhere or meet anyone was killing myself with schoolwork. It made me finish my MA early which is great, but it wasn’t the best choice for my mental health. When things started opening, I decided to make the leap and move to Tel Aviv. I was hungry to meet people and connect with others (also I was horny and spanking hungry and wanted so bad to find a daddy already). I joined the local gay BDSM munch in Tel-Aviv (the core of my sexuality is spanko but I have a varied taste and I love other forms of BDSM as well). It’s a cool small community of like-minded people and I decided to give it a try. I came there a few times, and I met daddy there. I was sitting on the bar with my friend when he came in and he quickly found me and came straight to me. He is a little taller than me and was twice my age. He approached and asked politely for my name. I corrected he’s gendered language (in Hebrew first person language is also gendered) which he was very cool about. I was really flattered from the directness he was hitting on me. We had a few drinks and later in the discussion session we clicked. I jabbed him that he’s flirting with everyone and then he was like “am I?” and I said “yeah but I think you are only hitting on me” which people found funny. I felt I was really on my prime. He was also self-possessed, and I found the confidence he had about pursuing someone way younger than himself incredibly hot. In short – he gave me a full daddy vibe and I was having it. The end of that evening I came to him with a note with my phone number (which is still in the kitchen drawer). THE NEXT MORNING, I wake up at like 9 am and I find a text message from him which he sent in 7 am asking me out on a date. That was such a good vibe. I was so relieved that we didn’t have to go through all the silly game of “not looking too interested”. It also resonated with the mutual fondness of being unabashedly direct we were delighting in the previous night. I texted right away, and we set up a date at his place the next day (I know, dangerous but he was friends with the munch organizer which is someone I really trust so I felt good about that). I guessed that coming over to him meant we will have sex or a session. As I said I was extremely thirsty for both sex and spanking and I didn’t mind having either with him (to say the least). I wasn’t sure at all I wanted to date this man, though. As I said he was literally twice my age, and in a way better place financially than me (even though I also wasn’t in a bad place for my age). It seemed complicated. We had a wonderful evening in his flat. He happened to live 5 minutes away from me in the same neighborhood. We drank wine (which he makes as a hobby) and again I felt this cool connection to him just like in the munch. We have a lot in common. We both are very much about being direct and brutally honest. We also both are very much into pride as a way of navigating as queer people. Daddy came out at 15 in Israel in the 80’s which is kind of unheard of. Then I make a move on him putting my hand on his thigh and he is going on with this. Then he’s like “I just want to tell you that I don’t have any sort of sexual activity with people until the third date, as a rule”. This was very surprising (in a good way) especially in my circles in the gay community. I also really appreciated him setting up clear boundaries. It made me believe mine would be respected as well. So we talked about our fetishes and I learned we are compatible and I was in this stage extremely turned on (and really tried to show this in the strongest way I could without disrespecting his boundaries). We continued our lovely evening and in the end he walked with me home and we said good night. Fast forward one year we are in a domestic discipline dynamic and I am moving in with him officially this summer (after not sleeping in my own flat for like 4 months).

GAME RULES. You will need: the game board two dice (different colors) (choose one of them as a marker of number of spanks) and the tools that appear in the game or similars. The game is to move around the board from box 1 to the finish (63). Assuming the consequences of each box. throw the two dice, the number indicated advances BOX / s no spanking zone: box unpunished, as the name suggests. question mark (?):is the letter of fate and destiny is in your hands . You decide to do, spanks, additional punishment, truth or dare question chosen by the other player. It is a free box. Tools: receiving spanks with the instrument (number indicating the punishment given) Stars: Go to the next box star. Box of ass: Indicating as you should be (with pants, in undies or bare ass) Special boxes: - Caught by Dad: from 6 to 12 or vice versa. - Classroom (box 19): Receive the sum of the two dice in spanks and write 10 lines "I'll be a good boy" - The passage of the Pyramid: Go to box 28 to 53 or vice versa. - Box 31: CORNER TIME: stay in the corner the minutes that the two dice add up. - Box 42: Caught by the ear, go to the corner 31 time box. - Jail: box 52: Throw the two dice and receive the spanks indicating the tool and select another player to "pay" a penalty choose another player. - Death: box 58, returns to box 1. The player who first reaches the box 63 (target) with exact number of dice number, if not exact, get to 63 and keep counting backwards. - You can adapt the rules to players convenience or playing conditions the winner will throw the dice and the spanks to indicate to other players, and so in order of arrival: 1st to 2nd, 3rd, 4th ... 2nd to 3º.4º ... 3rd to 4th ... etc fun

So so bored of the pandemic! aren't we all.  but today i'm pondering - do you have a spanking bucket list?  Mine changes occasionally, but right now at the top seems to be a good old fashioned switching. Maybe made to cut and peel my own.  Then switched to ribbons by a determined dad who doesnt really care how or where it lands.  Its gonna be a hard day when it finally happens! 

Okay, so I hope everyone is doing well, especially Onkel Benny after his recent surgery and my ever so naughty friend Max Max Max Boy! And .. Baltic has been spanked lots and lots and lots! Anyway .. to business! CHATBAR The chat bar is well pretty much screwed, it is no longer compatible witrh our script.  The license was purchased from Cometchat, whom have decided that they will not longer provide updates for our version of chat.  Instead they want to sell me a new supported version at $50 every month.  That is $600 every year, so that is not going to happen. The next alternative was Social Chat, another third party chat, that we also have a licence for, and it sucks the big one.  Its very difficult to configure, will not support browsers using a Proxy or VPN and is resource hungry - that has been kicked into touch. The script does come with its own chat system, but it is also cumbersome to install and configure and the layout also sucks.  So that one just like my Dads hairbrush has been shot into little pieces. After some investigation, I have settled on Arrowchat, looks good and is compatible with out script, so I have purchased a licence for it.  I also purchased professional and guranteed installtion to get things moving a little quicker.  It is the weekend, so I expect it will be a few days before this happens.  Once it has been completed I shall be backing up all the configuration and template files, so that if an issue occurs in the futuire, I can simply use these, for example if a server crash occurs. VIDEO UPLOADS A broken dependancy on the usual installation  has kept me from fixing this, but I will have it done soon, hopefully by this Sunday.  Once fixed, I will upload a test file and let you all know. FEED The limited feed lookback has been fixed, and I will be monitoring it. SPEED I have a lot to do, but it will increase significantly, please be patient!   Thanks n hugs and spanks James  

Hello everyone, I hope you are all safe, during these uncertain and unprecedented times.  Next week, probably on Wednesday afternoon, the site is moving to a new server.  Nothing is changing, it will still be southspanking.com The new server is less expensive, the estimated savings are around $500 per year.  It is also faster, more secure and utilizes more modern technology. I have over the course of the last few weeks been testing and configuring and I am now satisfied we can go ahead.  The majority of the data will be copied over before Wednesday, and I will of course give a couple of hours warning ahead of the move. The site will be off-line for only a short period of time, probably less than 1 hour. If after an hour, you are still not getting access, please remember to press F5 on your keyboard to refresh your browser. I want to thank those of you that have made a donation to the site, it really helps, and it allowed me to make this cost saving reduction, especially at this stressful time. We do need donations going forward, but rather than getting out the begging drum, I have also listed a number of items on e-bay from my collection.  So, if you want to help the site, and get yourself a DVD, book or magazine at the same time, have a look at what we are selling.  Unfortunately, eBay restricts adult goods to within the US only, so I can only sell to those within the US. Our eBay store can be found at:  https://www.ebay.com/str/arizoy Thank you everyone, and again please stay safe and well. Hugs James

I've been spanked since 2005 by many of the best spankers in San Francisco and Palm Springs. I was nervous the first time, but I loved it and went back for three straight weeks. I've been spanked in my home, at other guys' homes, at private parties and in public at street fairs. I can take quite a lot so I'm always asked to volunteer for spanking demos. If I'm free, I'll gladly say, yes!

The Naughty Boy (For Blackneo, who inspired me to write this story) Generally, Dominic was a good teenage boy. He studied hard and got good grades and wasn’t any trouble at all. But every now and then, Dominic would run around with other boys who were not as good as him. Dominic was easily influenced by them. As his father, I warned him against hanging around with these boys. But he liked them, had lots of fun running around with them and so he ignored my warnings. One day, the boys got mischievous and stole two dozen eggs from a supermarket. Then they went out by the highway and starting throwing the raw eggs at passing cars. Some eggs missed their target, but most of them splattered on the sides or hoods of passing cars. Sometimes, the driver would pull over and the boys scattered into hiding places. The driver would see there was no real damage and drive away. Then, the boys would come out of hiding and throw more eggs until they were all gone. The boys ran off laughing, thinking they had gotten away with something. What they didn’t know is that there were spotted by a neighbor who called the local police. The police said they had gotten complaints and asked if the neighbor could identify any of the boys. The neighbor told them more than that – he recognized two of the boys. One of them was Dominic. When I came home from work, a patrol car pulled up and an officer told me that Dominic had been identified as having thrown eggs. Six drivers left complaints, saying the egg had corroded the paint and the cars would need to be repainted. I told the officer that I would pay for all the damage using my homeowner’s insurance and was told to expect claims. I was calm when the officer was there, but furious after he left. Dominic was nowhere around but I knew that I would punish him good and proper when he came home. Dominic strolled into the house about an hour later as if nothing was wrong. He went to the bathroom to take a shower before dinner. I waited patiently until I could tell the shower was no longer running. Then I went to his room. Dominic was going to be punished severely! I had to control my anger so I didn’t really hurt my boy. But I was determined to teach him a lesson that he would not forget for a long time. As soon as he came out of the shower, I called him to his room. He could tell from the tone of my voice that he was in trouble. He came in still wet but with a towel wrapped around his waist. I immediately confronted him and told him that he would be punished. He knew that meant a spanking and tried to talk his way out of it. He looked really scared. But I told him to throw off the towel and get ready for a very hard spanking. He begged for forgiveness, but I told him that it was too late for that. Seeing he was trapped, he removed the towel so he as completely naked before me. I sat on the bed and called him over. Once he was close enough, I yanked him over my lap. “Oh, no! Please no, Daddy!” he begged. I ignored his pleas and began spanking his bare bum with my hand. I didn’t start easy. I spanked him so hard that my own hand burned. “Oww! Please stop!” he cried as he tried to wiggle away. But I held him on place with my other arm and continued. “This is what you get for being naughty!” I told him sternly. “Oww! Oww! Please, no more!” he cried. “We’re just getting started,” I replied and spanked him even harder. I spanked Dominic until his bum turned reddish-purple and felt very warm to my touch. He was yelling and screaming at every blow. But I wasn’t finished yet. I took off my belt and wrapped it so I could spank him at close range. Then I started again. “You have been a very naughty boy and this is what happens to naughty boys!” I roared. Dominic was really squirming and screaming now, trying desperately to get away for the pain. But I was stronger than he was and held him in place. Finally, he gave up fighting me and just let me whup him. His bum turned a dark purplish color. A few minutes later, he started crying, then just sobbing. “I’m sorry, Daddy! I won’t ever do it again!” he murmured between yells. I hated to punish Dominic this severely because I loved my son. But I thought he really needed to be taught a lesson. I did not want him to grow up to be a hoodlum. By the time I was finished, his bum was covered with angry-looking welts. I stood up while he lay on the bed on his side, sobbing. I let him feel the pain of his punishment and hoped that it had the effect I wanted. Then I told him to stand up and face me. I put my hands on his shoulders. “Son, I’m sorry that I had to do that,” I told him. “But it was for your own good. Do you understand?” He wiped the tears from his face and softly said, “Yes, Daddy. I understand.” I hugged him and left his room. I didn’t hear a peep from him. I went to the kitchen and prepared dinner and we ate in silence. I noticed him wince when he sat at the dinner table. I knew he would feel the pain for a couple of days. Dominic stayed out of trouble for a very long time, so I knew that my spanking had sunk into my naughty boy.

What was your film and/or television series; and why? My favourite film has to be "If ..." for the whole film, but particularly the awesome caning scene in the gym. My favourite television series has to be the BBC TV series "To Serve Them All My Days" which was a wonderful dramatisation of R F Delderfield's book of the same title. There was no corporal punishment in the series; there didn't have to be for it to rekindle happy memories of my old schooldays and impress upon the viewer's mind the ethos and love which prevails in an all-boys' boarding school. One can view both "If ..." and "To Serve Them All My Days" on YouTube if one access them on DVD. Enjoy!

Please feel free to comment or add to this discussion.  Also, obviously corner time does not appeal to all dads/top’s boys/subs, it is very subjective.  I personally do not enjoy it, but then I am not supposed to either as it is a punishment for me.   Discipline:   It is a method of discipline that can be used with a spanking or on its own merit.     The humbling Effect   It makes a naughty boy feel very humbled.     More Spanking   It can be used simply as a break for the boy and his dad before back over the knee he goes.     Forcing to reflect   It can be a time for the naughty boy to reflect on his behavior.     Checking the spanking redness   It can be a time for dad to study his handy-work as it were.

Well, everyone, I figured it is about time that I posted an update on our recent down-time, and our progress in getting things back to normal. The first thing I need to emphasize is, this was NOT an upgrade, even though you may see things showing a little differently, or new features, I can promise you, these are not intentional and more related to getting the site back online. Our main server basically failed, and it was pretty much OS related.  In order to get things back again, the normal restore process I used also failed.  This left us in a pretty bad situation.  After trying various methods, including using the latest release of the script, I was able eventually to get the site back. However, as you will have noticed not everything is displaying properly or working correctly, such as on mobile devices, for example chat and feed.  Sometimes the login box does not work correctly either and a number of other bugs are present. In order to get everything back to normal, will mean further down-time and that is going to be unavoidable.  I am planning to do this, sometime next week, BUT I will be posting at least 24 hours in advance and providing a status page you can all access to see when the site is back online and its progress. Once we get this completed, the site will be back too normal and it will have some additional features, but they will all actually work this time.  Again, please note this will not be a major upgrade. Our main planned upgrade will mean all mobile devices will have 95% access to ALL site features.  This is a work in progress and I am using a test site to facilitate this transition.  I expect this to be implemented at the end of May, and again I will keep you all in the loop on this one. Thanks for everyone’s patience!   James and our Amazing Admin team.

In Germany, there is a spanking initiation rite in flight schools.  Every flight student is traditionally given a spanking (Hintern-Versohlen) after they completed their first solo flight (Alleinflug or A-Flug) as a kind of initiation rite. Today, the rite is performed after three successful  solo flights which make up the practical "A exam" (A-Prüfung).  Every student, whether male or female, adolescent or adult, is subject to the spanking tradition. The student is often bent over the wing of their airplane for the spanking, or over a table or other suitable item,  and has to look at the horizon during the spanking. Sometimes the seat of their trousers is made wet  so that the spanks are louder[1] (and better felt). The spanking is officially for the purpose of  "sensitizing" the pilot's buttocks, as this body part is important in flight as a "thermal lift meter".  It is not meant as a punishment in any way. it In practice, it is for the fun of all participants,  like a birthday spanking, and is given with the flat hand only on the seat of the trousers.  After the spanking, the student is given a bunch of thistles, which they have to hold firmly in their hand.  This, in a similar way, is to "sensitize" their hand for the delicate steering of an airplane.     Origin : According to one source, the tradition started in the 1920s after a young man, Jan Eilers from Hesse,  got a good spanking from his father when the same discovered in a newspaper article that his son had secretly been flying.  When the story of Jan Eilers's spanking became known, people made fun of him.  Out of solidarity with the boy, the German aviation pioneer Carl Oskar Ursinus then introduced the spanking initiation  rite in flight schools. The tradition originated in glider flight, but spread over also to engine powered flight.

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Okay you naughty boys and ever so strict dads n tops!  So I have just managed to disable the freaking touchpad on my laptop .. which was driving me nuts, now I can actually type without the mouse flipping up and down lines and screwing up my text. I am in the UK right now and will be here for at least the next 6 months.  So presently in quarantine and Dad has insisted I just wear my PJ’s, as we can’t go out.  Yea that has nothing to do with the fact he can bare my tail easily whenever he feels like it, and the number of excuses he has found to land several swats at a time on my butt have increased a lot! Now I am on holiday, and you would think that my weekly review and punishment sessions would be suspended, right?  Nope, not at all, I had my behind royally tanned yesterday, can you believe it? Oh and it gets worse, I do plan on visiting several Dads/Tops over the course of my visit and my dear old dad Denis is going to ask them to conduct the review session, in the event I am with them on a Sunday!  Now come on, even the sternest of Dads must admit, that is not fair!  And yes, I know I can be naughty, even when on holidays – but that is not the point, hello I am on holidays! Okay rant over for now! and just in-case you are wondering, my Pop has found an empty corner to stand me in, dang that sucks! Hugsssss

There must be many more guys who like to get spanked than only those in my area that are on this website (some of whom I know well). These guys' spanking desires might yet be inarticulate. So I recently created a spanking profile on gay/MSM dating app PlanetRomeo (which is popular in Europe, less in the US). This has resulted in numerous chats and two encounters so far.The first was with a 28-year-old (bisexual) guy who's mainly a top, but who wanted to be dominated for once. If that's what you want, that's what you get! So we agreed he would come to my place, but at the set time he didn't show up. After 45 minutes he messaged me with excuses - he had been in the company of friends and hadn't been able to escape. He wanted to meet the next day and I finally agreed to give him a second chance. The next day, an hour before he would arrive, he sent me a message: 'I'm a bad boy. I went AWOL yesterday. You should discipline me harder now.' 'I will,' I responded. And so he came, this typical top guy who looked even more handsome than on his picture. In his all too dominant mood, he walked up to me saying: 'So what do you wanna do?' I said: 'I want you to strip to your underwear.' And so he did, looking at me with an assertive, slightly arrogant look. Then I sat down on a chair and ordered him to bend over my knee. 'This is so awkward,' he said, but he obeyed. And then he got spanked, for the first time in his life. I didn't spank him hard, but I did spank him for quite a while. It was charming to see how, step by step, he started to submit to it. After I had spanked him, some other things happened (which are none of your business!:-p) Getting spanked over the knee was a once-but-never-again experience for him, but I'm proud and honoured he had taken the challenge. Too bad he didn't allow me to take a picture of his red bum...