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I have wondered why corner time is so common in the U.K. and parts of Europe. Spankers: Why do you chose to have your spankee stand facing a wall or corner for varying times and forbid rubbing their bottoms? Corner time is rarely used in the United States, although it was used in the 1940s and 1950s. Also, how much corner time is enough and how much is too long?

Hello everybody, I hope you are all well during this crazy time that is upon us all.  Not only are we dealing with this pandemic, but we have a presidential election and of course we are coming up on holiday season.  I have a lot to tell you, and I am pretty excited about it.  Now before I get into it all, I do have to talk about the subject I dread the most, site funding.  Its always a source of embarrassment for me personally, and its something I would much rather avoid.  That said, I have learned the hard way, the longer I put it off, the worse the situation becomes. Previously I have simply pulled out the begging bowl and I do not want to do that anymore, so I am going to try something different.  I have created a new membership group called “Community Supporter”.  Everyone can choose to upgrade to this group by making a one-time payment of a minimum of $25, and that will last for as long as the site does.  You will get a small icon on your profile page together with the text ‘Community Supporter’, this is done automatically. Somethings I want to point out: You can upgrade by clicking on the upgrade button on the menu bar. When you upgrade, the charge will show as Arizoy LLC – the site will not be mentioned on your statement.  This is of course to protect your privacy. I am working on different payment gateways but for now Pay-Pal is the only option.  You do not need a Pay-Pal account though and can simply checkout as guest. If you have made a donation ever to the site of $25 or more, you will be upgraded.  I will do this manually, but it will take a bit of time.  Once I have finished, I will post as such and anyone I missed can then get in touch with me and I will fix it for them. You can choose the minimum of $25, or more, but there is no difference or additional benefits, if you choose to go higher.  I am keeping it simple.  When you think about $25 for life is pretty good value, when some sites charge around that or higher for just one month. It is a onetime payment, there is no reoccurring charge and the options will no longer appear under the upgrade button. I am hoping, this will allow the site to become self-sufficient, as we would only need a percentage of future members to upgrade their memberships in order to do so.  If we need to encourage further, we do have options such as restricting the videos, either by number or minutes to non-supporting members.  This would really be a last resort though, as I seriously want to keep the site free for everybody. With Black Friday and Cyber Monday, coming in the next few months, I would love to see enough upgrades so we can take advantage of the deals, possibly even snagging a server for a year, that would be awesome! Okay, I am so glad that’s over with …. now onto the good stuff! (dang I sounded boring in all of that)! Right you are, we are going for a major upgrade, which is currently in the testing phase on our backup server.  I will be inviting some of you to trial it for me and help identify any bugs etc.  I am funding the upgrade out of my own pocket, but this will be the last time I can do so.  This is by order of hubby whom wields the hairbrush. So here are some highlights: Its going to be faster. It will have a progressive web app, for those using tablets, cell phones etc. Again, with those using mobile devices, you will be able to download a generic app for both Android and Apple, though the respective stores. We will be using HTML 5 for videos. Chat system will be new and improved. Groups are getting a huge overall. You will be able to have password resets by email, but this will be constrained to only password resets. Photos and Albums are being revamped and will be much easier to navigate. You will have a favorite system, where you can mark any items you choose as a ‘favorite’ and then access the all from a new tab page. A few other surprises

What do all you spankees think about during a spanking? Do you think about anything? Do you think about the pain and wonder when it will be over? Are you so overwhelmed by the pain that you can't think about anything? Do you get lost in the pain? Are you thinking about anything else to escape the pain? Personally, I wonder when the spanking will end in the beginning. But as my spanking gets more intense, I just get lost in the continual pain and just float on the waves of pain. Eventually, I feel calm as my endorphins kick in. Please give me honest, candid answers! I'm curious whether others feel the same things that I do.

Hi, in this new blog I send here a tipicals pics of schoolboys in Spain, a old dress used,and punishment

Folks, So I am just going to come out and say this, we are an all-inclusive site, period. Do we have Gay members, YES, do we have straight members YES, do we have transgender members YES and do we have Female members YES. If you do not like a photo or a video or a comment, then you can personally choose not to watch it or view it and can block content from members you do not wish to see.   It really is that simple. If you want to be an banned word .. then leave .. just go, because you are not wanted here. What possible pleasure can you get from disrespectful and abusive behavior huh?   Get a life .. and so you know there is zero tolerance for this, and why?  Because I said so and as I own the site, that is the way it is, period.  If you don't like my explanation, well too bad for you. I do not often get angry but tonight I am pissed, just think about tolerance, think about inclusion and think very, very, hard on what being a 'bigot' means.  Those with such short-sighted minds, well God help you. Enough Said James AND Denis

Well guys, as much as I hate doing it and I try very hard not to, it is time for a fundraiser for the site. Now please, only donate if you can afford to do so, I mean that.  Right now, with the pandemic everyone is in a difference place, financially, Healthwise and Career Wise.  It is important to concentrate on what matters the most and this site should not be a top priority. If you want to donate, please click on the donate button, or if you have not sone so already consider updating your membership.   Hugs and many thanks   James

When someone expresses unhappiness, with the site, I always try to put myself in their shoes.  I will never get defensive or brush anyone off as simply being ‘wrong.’ Instead, I try to focus my energy on listening to their point of view.  I can’t promise to always find a solution but I will always try my best to explain the reasons why a post was deleted or a video not approved or anything else that is perceived as negative. I would like to point out to everyone, that the admin’s on the site are simply enforcing the rules that I created, so really the buck does stop with me.    To that end allow me to explain a few things and I am going to start by addressing the fact that we don’t allow linking to anything that contains underage material, such as the M/M Spanking Story archive.  Depending where you live, free speech is available to you and accessing or linking to that particular site is not an issue.  That is not necessarily true in other places and with the current world polarization, rules and change are extremely fast paced.  It is not these days beyond the realm of possibility that someone could end up being charged with a crime because they accessed a site that links there.  I prefer to err on the side of caution which I honestly think is sensible.   Moving on to images and pictures, I very am much aware there has been an issue and disagreement regarding full frontal images.  It is very true we are all adults, and of course ‘penis’ shots are always going to be present at some point, for example a guy naked over another guy’s lap, it’s going to dangle at least, but do we need full frontal images with erections?  The site is called southspanking, the name sort of gives it away that we are a spanking site.  I am asking for a little understanding here; how far do we go?  Do we end up as a full porn site where everything is on the table for posting?  Or do we stay a spanking site?   And then there is politics, in an ideal world adults should be able to debate responsibly, however there is so much hatred and polarization that its best if we keep politics out of the site and I would ask everyone not to post anything political, even satire, again this is a spanking site.   Well I am prepared to be shot at dawn as I am sure, what I am saying will not be popular with some of you and for that I truly apologize.

I thought I would share about this aspect of my life, but obviously it is not for everyone, we are all different and have our own ideas on what we want, need or expereince in all relationships. The first think I want to talk about here is Boundaries, these are not rules. I think there is a lot of speculation or supposition that those in Domestic Discipline relationships are controlled completely and this is not true, well not form my point of view anyway. The cotrol element from my partner is focused on discipline, punishment and obviously my bare bottom and I can promise you all my spankings are very real. Anyway back to boundaries, I created my own, these are to help me focus, deal with habits and progress my career. My partner and I are more like Dad/Son, he is older than me and he insisted that I made my own boundaries complete with a proposal for punishment which is now always enforced. In a way, I have only myself to blame when I end up punished for breaking them. We do have some rules, and number one is obedience and listening (these are not boundaries), but shouldnt be mistaken for total control, obedience is similar to him asking me to be home at a certain time, or pick up the dry cleaning. It is possible for me to be both disobidenet and break one of my own boundaries. Anyway this is just a quick post on this blog and I will update it once a week with more thoughts, views and expereinces. PS - If you are interested in my boundaries and the punishments you can see them right here: www.southspanking.com/boundaries James

Today I send a old pics, this pics I maker in 2009, is a initial in my hobbie, uniforms, and discipline, in this year I have a little dress, not have a expensive, today I have a great collection of elements uniforms, shirts, shorts, socks, ties and shoes, for my hobbie, I send, in this site a old pics, in my sessions, look please and comment.

If you have fantasized about being spanked with a hairbrush, let me tell you now, be very careful what you wish for it is not a joke or novelty and the sting it delivers is unique.  Every smack resonates, it is an insistent sound contrasting with the rapidly reddening of my bare fanny that is being thoroughly tanned as I lay over my dads’ knees, jeans and briefs around my ankles.   After the first swat I feel a burning sting that grows into a continuous warmth that never stops, it just heats up more and more, searing my bare bottom.  It hurts but the pain and heat are only the beginning.   The first spank creates a gentle pink, that very quickly turns very red as my spanking continues. The color and temperature of my bottom will last for hours and I do mean hours afterwards.    A hairbrush spanking needs trust, communication, and even love and fulfillment. The hairbrush has a unique way of stripping away pride, or selfishness and getting to the bottom of a naughty boys’ problems.   While not all hairbrushes are the same, the most effective ones are where the head is relatively small compared to its weight.  The smaller surface can focus on the same spot with ease and without heavy wielding, the result is one of shock and stinging that is hard to describe but one that is particularly meaningful when the spanking is for punishment.  Although the intense heat and sting elicits promises of good behavior in a very short time, it does no real harm and my bottom heals quickly.   If your dad or top uses a paddle style hairbrush, believe you me you are getting off lightly, just wait until you get it with one of the smaller headed ones, you will soon know the difference.  The hairbrush is such a formidable tool it commands authority and respect. When that brush makes contact with my bared fanny, it serves as a reminder that rules are meant to be followed – no ifs, ands or buts about it.   Most of all though, unlike some implements cush as a paddle, which can be become predictable, that can never be said about the hairbrush.  It can reach parts and emotions like nothing else can.   How often do I get the brush, honestly about four or five times a year and there are always plenty of tears while it’s happening and when my nose is put in the corner to reflect on my behavior afterwards!

FL BULLY, who seems surprisingly shy about some things, wants me to ask about some of the features of the site such as:How is Match supposed to work?What does it means for someone to be Verified?What establishes someone's Rating?James, Athro: Can you provide explanations/descriptions for these. I think some other members might like to know as well.